Christian attachment parenting: Upholding the biblical tradition

Many parents today use authoritative parenting in raising their children. Typically, authoritative parenting is applied in a punitive manner, usually with time-out and the occasional disciplinary spanking. This has become the norm in American parenting. Most American parents use authoritative methods to control children. The fact of the matter is that true American parenting is attachment-based in nature, meaning Christian attachment parenting.

God cast a dominion over all of America, but only a few will heed the warning. America is a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian family values. The Bible is a founding document of this country, even above the Constitution itself. Nowhere in the Bible does it legitimately say to strike a child. Where a rod is mentioned, the reference is to the 40 minus 1 lashes for adult sons who were charged with a capital offense, as a final chance at life before being put to death. Whipping minor children was forbidden under the Law of Moses. The Early Christians never practiced corporal or capital punishment of any kind. The Bible defines our culture, and sets up our norms, Hence, attachment parenting is a part of our culture.

Christian attachment parenting is best understood using the Christian doctrine of mutual suhmission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That is may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the Ephesian church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to, in the Hebraic context, modeling Christian discipline to children. The standard of Christian discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, and thus grateful for absolutely everything, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian discipline was something the parents worked on in themselves, and children followed in theit footsteps. When children emulated the disciplined example of parents, fathers praised and encouraged children lavishly in their self-improvement. Sometimes, children needed direct instruction, and that usually took the form of redirection. Children were only directly instructed by parents when they were directly endangering themselves, spiritually or otherwise. A key example of redirection was when children were sexually active, in which case children were redirected towards masturbation. Direct instruction was known then as righteous warning, and was denoted in the Bible by the Greek root word νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia). Most of the time, children were left to their own devices, as parents then intuitively knew that most childish and immature behavior was normal given their age and developmental level.

Children are in the providing custody of their parents, primarily of their mothers, and secondarily of their fathers. Mothers formed a secure attachment, and did so by providing for children nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comfort. During the first 6 years of a child's life, they were in constant closeness to mothers, never leaving her side, being wrapped up next to her bosom in swaddling blankets when mothers were out and about, perhaps being offered to suckle her teat if milk-hungry. After around age 6, children started playing outside together, exploring the terrain more, venturing further and further from home. But, when children were tired of the real world, they retreated to the closeness of mothers, with mothers serving as home base for chuldren. Children grew securely attached to fathers through their mothers, learning to relate to their fathers by how they dealt with their mothers, making themselves at home by way of masturbatory fantasy about his children.

The Bible is a founding document of this country, above even the Constitution itself. The Founding Fathers wanted a Christian society that followed the Bible, weighed by a secular government. Thus, instead of a religious state imposing on the populace, they wanted a religious society imposing on the state. The framers left room for improvement, but only based on the Bible. Attachment parenting is now known as a biblical Truth, whereas it wasn't before. Thus, it is a tradition of this nation, based on the Bible itself. In time, attachment parenting should become popular, and then it will be enshrined into the secular law. In the mean time, God's Law is above the law of the land, and thus attachment parenting is the unwritten law of the land.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Whining: Why whining is not bad behavior

Many parents hate it. Whining offends a lot of parents. Most American parents hate it when their child whines. For some reason, it grates on their senses. For me, when a child whines, I coo. Whining is often thought of as bad behavior. The fact of the matter is that whining is not bad behavior in a child, but js normal behavior given their age and development.

Dealing with whining requires background knowledge surrouunding the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely ans securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slaves. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

Whining is a common behavior for older children. Young children cry, scream, and throw tantrums, and in biblical times, they didn't do this because they were in constant closeness to their mothers. Children simply cried passively when they needed something like breastmilk or solid foods (if they previously pushed away the teat of mothers). Whining is a sign of maturity in children, but also a sign that they need to come to you for closeness. Hold even school-age children in skin-on-skin closeness and comfort with you when they whine, and reassure them with the phrase "this too will pass". This is what biblical mothers did to reassure their older children that whined.

Mothers in biblical times formed a secure attachment to their children, and did so by way of nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comfort. During the first 6 years of a child's life, they were in constant closeness to their mothers, never leaving her side, being wrapped up next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, perhaps suckling her teat if milk-hungry. When children aged around age 6, they became more mobile, venturing further and further away from home, playing outside and exploring the terrain. Every once in a while, however, children needed mom, and mothers could tell - the older children were whining.

Skin-on-skin closeness is what is called for when a child whines. When at home or in a public restroom, simply tuck the upset child under your shirt. Then, expect quiet tears from your child, and then they are all good. This should also be comforting for you as a mother, as it should immediately make you aware of your maternal instincts that were buried by living in a punitive parenting society. In order to humble yourself to this level, know that you are a depraved and decadent sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing from your child, and thus should be grateful for all the joy that child brings you. Keep with that self-talk until you can bring yourself to hold your whining child in skin-on-skin format. A parent of either sex should never be angry with their child, as this anger is unnatural in our nature as adults in relation to children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

Discipline and limit setting in Christian homes: How to set limits without spanking or punishment

Many parents want to set limits with their children, and teach them discipline. This is a common desire for American parents. Most American parents want to set limits with their children, and teach them discipline. Most think the only way to do this is punitive measures such as spanking, time-out, or other forms of punishment.

Discipline and limit setting is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the Ephesian church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child with his writings.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to, in this context, modeling Christian discipline to children. The standard of Christian discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, and is grateful for absolutely everything, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Parents were expected to become disciplined and chastened up, with children following in their footsteps. When children started to absorb the example of their parents and emulate that example, they were lavishly praised and encouraged by fathers in their path towards self-improvement. Sometimes, children needed direct instruction, such as if they were behaving in a way that endangered themselves or others, spiritually or otherwise, usually in the form of a redirection. A notable example of redirection was when children were sexually active. Mothers would walk in intentionally on the children having sexual relations outside of marriage, and redirect them to masturbation instead. Sometimes, children had to be physically removed from a dangerous situation, such as when a venomous snake or scorpion was approaching an unsuspecting child, or when a child was approaching it. This redirection and removal is known as righteous warning, and is denoted by the Greek root word translated "admonition", which is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia). Righteous warning was seldom used by Christian parents in the 1st Centuty, as most childish and immature behaviors were overlooked and seen as normal for children. When righteous warning was used, children were always reassured with the phrase "this too will pass" when the redirection or removal led to tears or crying in a child.

Most childhood behaviors in the Early Church were ignored. There is a reason why biblical mothers did not intervene easily when their children misbehaved. That reason is that they knew intuitively that most childish and immature behaviors exhibited by children that would be seen as "naughty" by modern standards are actually developmentally appropriate behavior given their age and developmental level. Most things that children learn they learn by example, not direct instruction. Children naturally grow out of most childish and immature behaviors in due time. Patience in parenting means waiting for the child to mature. Children usually grow towards the example of their parents. Simply take an undeserving attitude towards life, and your children will follow. 

Children are in the providing custody of their parents, primarly that of their mother, and secondarily that of their father. Mothers formed a secure attachment to their children, and did so by providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comfort. During the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, never leaving her side, being wrapped up next to her bosom in swaddling clothing, perhaps being allowed to suckle her teat if milk-hungry. When around the age of 6, children started exploring the terrain more, venturing further and further from home (checking in with mom first, of course). But, when children had enough of the real world, they retreated to the closeness of mothers, with mothers serving as home base for their children, until children were ready to venture on their own. Children became securely attached to fathers through mothers, learning how to relate to their father through their mother, with the father making himself at home through masturbatory fantasy about the child. Fathers encouraged the religious vocation of children, and served as a playmate for children to play with. Fathers only interacted with the children with the express permission of mothers.

The abovementioned context details how to win over your child to being disciplined. Discipline isn't about imposing limits on children all the time, and backing them up with punishment. It is about having a disciplined example for children to follow, and backing that example up with a secure attachment. Then, when chidren follow example in front of you, catch that child being good, and praise and encourage their efforts to be good. Children are more likely to heed your example if they have a secure attachment to you. The growth will be slow, but it will be sure, with children eventually emulating your disciplined example as a parent. 

Righteous encouragement was a large part of Christian parenting in the 1st Century. Boys were praised with statements such as "Good work withstanding all odds!" or even just "I am proud of you". Girls were praised with physical affection from fathers, with the permission of mothers of course. Encouragement was seen as a way to accelerate the absorption of the Christian example of parents.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

The benefits of holding your baby/child (as opposed to strollers/cribs/etc.)

Many people have children that run around the place when out in public. Most people think that children running around is healthy. It isn't. It is a sign that you didn't hold your baby enough. Most babies are isolated in cribs and strollers, instead of constantly held like they should be. In ancient times, mothers held their babies, and they held them continuously, many times in swaddling blankets. 

Holding your child is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. The child surrenders to the loving arms of parents, namely mothers. It is the natural thing to do to hold your baby. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

Most children in America are mobile, and very much so. They run around the house. They run around the store or restaurant if you let them. But, all this running around doesn't have to be. Children can be conditioned to being held. How do you condition a child to being held? You hold them constantly when they are a baby. Mothers in the Early Christian churches either held children in their arms or in swaddling blankets. Either way, children were constantly held, and never put in cribs or cradles, especially not cribs and cradles to sleep in.

Mothers in biblical times formed a secure attachment to their children. They did so by providing for their children nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin closeness. For the first 6 years of a child's life, they were in constant closeness to mothers, never leaving her side, being held close to her bosom in swaddling blankets, possibly suckling her teat if milk-hungry. Around the age of 6, children started exploring the terrain, venturing further and further from home (checking in with mom first, of course). However, when children had enough of the day, they rushed to the closeness of mothers for comfort and to recharge, with mothers serving as home base.

Mothers in biblical times almost always held their baby. This conditions infants to want to be held as young children. By default, children ranged next to mothers, being interested in every chore she was doing, such as cooking and cleaning. When children had nervous moments, they cried, and then mothers picked them up, and from there, everything was fine. Children were worn in swaddling blankets so that children were safe and not in any danger. Around age 6 was the time when they shook off this closeness except as an occasional treat, with children exploring the terrain on their own two feet.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

POSITION STATEMENT: Shooting in a Christian school in Nashville, Tennessee

Many of my left-wing colleagues will continue to blame guns. I don't. I blame Audrey Hale, the shooter and murderer of CHILDREN. May her name be in infamy for all time. We hear the excuse for her from the left who wants to ban guns instead of pond scum like her - "she had a religious trauma". Then Hale shouldn't have dealt with her religious trauma in an encouraging way if she knew it would make her prone to violence.

Gun control just won't work. There are too many guns to control using the law. Banning even assault weapons could land them into the wrong hands, in which case it could contribute to gun crime of another sort. It is unfortunate that we have so many guns on the market, including the black market, but the genie is out of the bottle. We can't defeat guns, so lets focus on the gunman - and how to prevent one from being raised by entitled parents.

Most mass shootings are trauma-related, at least at some level, in the perpetrator. That is because most people have trauma, usually parent trauma like I have. Sometimes, the trauma comes from a church or religious school. But, you better be sure that religious trauma does not turn into a grudge. 

What would change things would be easing out punitive parenting and effecting a ban on all punitive patrenting. That sort of parenting models the sort of entitlement that breeds a school shooter. 

But, once you have that trauma, it is YOUR responsibility to take care of that trauma instead of seeth in anger over that trauma. I wasted years of my life engulfed in anger about my lawfully abusive upbringing. It made me defiant in my attitude. Now, I have put my trauma to bed. When your trauma leads you to shoot up a school, YOU alone are responsible.

This is a personal case of a mass shooting to my platform because children - the group of people I represent - were unfairly and unjustly targeted by an adult shooter, and had no way of defending themselves. May the name Aubrey Hale be in infamy forevermore.

Obvious sexual abuse: Why your child might be being molested right under your nose

Many people these days think of child sexual abuse as a hidden thing. It usually is a hidden thing, meaning most of the time, the abuser operates by way of "shut up" tactics, and that is how victims remain silent. Sometimes, the abuse does not happen in secret, but instead out in the open. This is a new abuser trend known as obvious sexual abuse. I myself am the perpetrator of obvious sexual abuse. I never shut up my victims, and I abused them openly and loudly, without knowing the repercussions of my behavior. 

An obvious abuser is a zig-zag groomer. A zig-zag groomer usually tries to get around the parents in some way. An obvious abuser is a vulnerability abuser most times. What I did was ask children personal questions regarding where they lived, with the hope of one day having the chance to crash-land at their house. When confronted by the parents, I would use my autistic vulnerability as an excuse for abuse, hoping the parents would feel sorry for me. This was a method that I came up with on my own.

One notable case that I perpetrated that came to the attention of the authorities was involving one of my victims, who remains anonymous for her own protection. I rationalized that, because she was in the same classroom as me, that she was my age or around my age. She wasn't. She was four years younger than me. I went to her house after riding the city bus to her area, and then heard the sound of a 9-1-1 operator. I was taken away without charges being pressed. Back then, I was suffering from bipolar mania, and on the track to becoming a pedophile.

Even when medicated for my bipolar disorder, I pursued young girls, and as I grew up, they did not. In one case, I went up to a young girl and asked her for her number. I aged her around age 12. She declined to give me the information, saying "that is confidential". I later found out she was 9. I was 16 at the time. I would follow this girl around the pool deck at the community pool where I met her, and then get high off of waving to her. I was using her for a romantic relationship that wasn't there and shouldn't be there, meaning a one-sided "love" affair. I was becoming a "love" addict, slipping away into obsessive bliss about young girls.

I had a change of heart when my first crush from the pool was standing near the concession stand. I was smiling at her, and she said in a shaky voice "What do you want with me?". It was then that my stomach dropped. I went to the fence of the property, planning to possibly surrender myself to the police. I barely could voice my apologies, I was that scared. From there, I vowed never to interact with children ever again, unless they wanted the interaction, with the presumption that they don't.

Eventually, I had a full change of heart, and became the Christian I was predestined to becoming. I became aware of the teaching to obey the higher authorities in Christianity. I found out I was using the secular law itself as false religion. I derived my morality as an atheist then from the law itself, and with my "love" addiction, I looked to skirt the law. 

My current Christian beliefs forbid me from even approaching a young girl for sexual or flirtatious reasons. Approaching a young girl in any way, including through flirting, is the moral crime of adult sexual entitlement. Once the child perceives the entitlement, it is the moral crime of adult fornication. I also have amendments to my theology, such as never interacting with a child except with the permission of her mother. I am not allowed to even speak to a child unless her mother approves. I am not allowed to speak in public, lest my voice carry, and budgeting my words gives me a sense of discipline so I do not waste those words on a child in the form of sexual entitlement as an adult. Every act I did as a child is something I did as an adult to a child victim.

I am still burned up by how adults deal with abusers like me. Most people blame the victim with obvious sexual abuse. Obvious abusers usually have autism, and usually use it as a vulnerability tactic, and usually, it works. They usually get to abuse freely and openly, bragging about their crushes on children wherever they go in the form of sexual slander. Usually, they only flirt, but we are a Christian nation founded on Judeo-Christian norms, and those norms prohibit flirting with minor children. Leftist, disability rights political correctness allows for obvious abusers to fester, when they should be caged.

I am a depraved and decadent sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing in relation to children. I am deserving of nothing but DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing as the adult that I am. I am grateful for the forgiveness and grace coming from my victims, as I am deserving of absolutely none of it.

Teaching children manners: How to teach children good Christian manners - without spanking or punishment

Many parents want to teach their children manners. This is a common desire amongst American parents. Most American parents want to teach their children manners. Most American parents think that pootr manners are deserving of reprimand. The fact of the matter is that YOU as the parent need to have good manners, and a secure attachment with your child, in order to teach your child good Christian manners.

Manners are a natural show of gratitude in a person, and come from a conditioning based on Christian discipline. Christian discipline is gratitude-based, meaning it is deserving of absolutely nothing, thereby grateful for absolutely everything. Good discipline leads to good manners. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργιζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the Ephesian church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here to modeling discipline to your child. Christian discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, and grateful for absolutely everything, to the point of a grateful and chastened up example for children to follow. Gratitude is the basis for all our Christian manners as a society. We say "please" and "thank you" to show gratitude when asking for something politely. When children absorb the doctrine of Christian discipline in parents to the degree that they need to in order to thrive in today's society, they automatically pick up on important skills in manners that they learn.

Children will not learn manners overnight. But, if you have good Christian manners, and the discipline to motivate it, children will learn how to have manners as well. Most childhood behaviors that most parents would consider "naughty" are actually developmentally appropriate behaviors given their age and developmental level. This includes omissions of manners. They don't have manners simply because they are still at a point of development where they cannot absorb the doctrine of Christian manners, otherwise they would have and would be using manners. There is no reason to instruct a child for not using manners. Let them demand things from you, as they are only little once. 

Children in the Early Church were in the providing custody of their parents, primarily to their mothers, and secondarily to their fathers. Mothers in the Early Church formed a secure attachment with their children, and did so by providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely using attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comfort. During the first 6 years of a child's life, they were in constant closeness with mothers, never leaving her side, being wrapped up next to her bosom in swaddling blankets when out and about. Around age 6, children started exploring the terrain more, venturing further and further from home (checking in with mom first). But, when children were tired or exhausted from all that playing and exploring, they returned to the closeness of mothers. This cycle repeated until children were fully grown up at age 13 and were baptized into the church as adult believers. Then, children completely shook off the closeness of parents, and did everything on their own, reaching maturity. This sort of secure attachment is what made a parent's example of Christian discipline and manners credible to children.

Discipline, in the Christian faith, is based on gratitude. The key to teaching manners and gratitude is showing gratitude yourself, which requires the proper discipline to back it up. Parents are to be convicted of the fact that they are a depraved and decadent sinner deserving of absolutely nothing, thus should be grateful for absolutely everything. When children see you do the mental work to effect that attitude adjustment, they will do the work as well. Christian discipline is defined as deserving of absolutely nothing, and grateful for absolutely everything. When you deprive yourself of everything you have by way of an undeserving attitude, you become grateful for everything you already have.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Respect: Why parents need to earn respect in parenting

Many, if not most, parents want their children to respect them. This is a common desire amongst American parents. Most American parents demand respect from their children, in an entitled and demanding way. The fact of the matter, however, is that respect is earned in life, and that includes in parenting. Respect is not handed out for free, but is earned by parents providing for their children.

Gaining respect from children can be done using the framework of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. Parents give respect, and then children give it back in return. But, what is Christian respect for parents, as understood in context? See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children as they would to God, ecpectimg absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Paretns are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceiived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibitng all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishmemt was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul,contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

Respect for parents was a concept in biblical times, but referred not to fear of pumishment, but to closeness to, and fondness of, parents. A child simply was to be close to parents, with that closneness facilitated by parents early on in life, meaning during the child's formative years. This was done using attachment parenting. Children were never punished for talking back, and, in fact, talking back was seen as a sign of respect, as children then respected parents - in the eye of the parent then - enough to be completely honest with them about their emotions.

Children were in the providing custody of their parents, primarily of their mother, and secondarily of their father. Children, during the first 6 years of their life, were in constant closeness to their mothers, never leaving her side, being wrapped up next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, perhaps suckling her teat if milk-hungry. Around the age of 6, children started to explore the terrain, playing with other children, venturing further and further from home. But, when children needed rest, they returned to mothers in order to rechatge, with mothers serving as home base. Children became securely attached to fathers through their mothers, learning how to be attached to a father figure through how they related to their mother. Fathers made themselves at home through masturbatory fantasy about their children, with this pro-social fantasy enhancing the friendship between father and child, with fathers then being physically affectionate in a gentle, warm way, not a rough and tumble way. This sort of cloreness was seen as a respectful parent-child relationship in biblical times.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inheirt the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Teen mental health and social media: Why to blame parents (not social media)

Many parents today are concerned about their children's social media usage. In Utah yesterday, a bill was passed and signed into law that severely limited the free speech rights of children on social media, by involving parental supervision and legislating curfew hours for social media usage. It is only a matter of time before these draconian laws make it across the nation. The fact of the matter is that most teen suicides are due to cyberbullying, and bullies have parents that are bullies, meaning parents who are abusers to their children.

The main cause of cyberbullying on social media is not social media itself, but entitlement modeled to children. The Greek root word denoting entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defimed as, officially speaking, want, to the point of imposition. When this entitlement is imposed on children, it is parental entitlement. Most entitlement comes from a deserving place, where you take up the attitude that you deserve things in life. The key to non-entitlement is having an attitude adjustment, where you come to the conviction that you are a depraved and decadent sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing. When you take an undeserving attitude toward life, you demand less, and less demands mean less emtitlement. Your chid is watching your every move. If you are ever entitled towards them or around them, this teaches them to use entitlement to get their way.

Christian non-entitlement is a good example to model to children. But, every good example needs to be backed up by something. Punitive parenting only drives children away from the Truth, and alienates children away from their upbringing. Attachment parenting is the only way, and is time-honored and time-tested. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from emtitlement. Thiis commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demesnor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punsihing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment in his writings.

Children, in biblical times, were under the providing custody of their parents, primarily of ther mothers, and secondarily of their fathers. Mothers in biblical times formed a secure attachment to their children, and did so by providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comfort. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children remained in constant closeness to their mothers, never leaving her side, being wrapped up next to her bosom in swaddling blankets. Sometime around age 6, children started to explore more, playing outside with peers. Children insisted on doing things on their own. But, when children had enough of the real world, they retreated to the closeness of mothers, with mothers being home base for children to recharge in. Children formed a secure attachment to their fathers through their mothers, with fathers making themselves at home by indulging in masturbatory fantasy about their children, in which case the pro-social fantasy improved the relationship between father and child. Fathers were physically affectionate in a gentle, loving way, usually by snuggling or cuddling with daughters in particular, but only with the permission of mothers. Attachment parenting is the only way to teach children not to become cyberbullies.

Most of the issues with social media relate to cyberbullying. Cyberbullying comes from parents being bullies, and modeling that behavior to their children. More apply, it comes from the punishment of children. Punishment of children is bully behavior, and when children experience bully behavior like that, they emulate that bully example towards other children in the schoolyard. Social media is simply the new schoolyard, and it is here to stay. Don't blame social media. Blame the parents modeling the bully behavior on social media. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is rhe second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Change of heart: How to cause a change of heart in your child - without spanking or punishment

Most all parents want it in children, whether you are left or right in terms of social leaning. This is a common want for parents on behalf of their children. A change of heart generally means, to most parents, growing up. Sometimes, children have specific mental health issues that require individual children to need self-improvement.

Change of heart can only take place within the confines of a mutual submission relationship between parent and child. This is denoted in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with a promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating their child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to, in this context, modeling Christian discipline to children. Christian discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, and grateful for absolutely everything, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. When fathers noticed that their children were absorbing lessons of Christian discipline, they lavishly praised and encouraged Christian discipline in children. Christian parents first took seriously their own commitment to change of heart, and then modeled their change of heart to their child, and because there was a secure attachment, children wanted to take up self-improvement and discipline just like their parents. Sometimes, children need direct instruction, usually in the form of redirection, but only rarely. Redirection and instruction are denoted by the Greek root word translated "admonition", which is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia). Instruction and redirection should only be when the child is endangering themselves or others in an immediate manner, spiritually or otherwise. Apart from situations where children are endangering themselves or others physically or mentally in an immediate manner, only acts of sexual impurity should be redirected. Masturbation was not considered sexual impurity in the biblical context.

Children should not be expected to behave in a disciplined manner right away, or have a change of heart right away. Most childish and immature behaviors that most parents call "naughty" are actually developmentally appropriate behaviors given the child's age and developmental level. The idea is not to be offended by a child's immature behaviors, including when they are out of sorts and crying. Children will absorb your example and the family values you have in your home environment, but they will do so slowly and at their own pace. The idea is to catch a child being good, not being bad. When they are being "bad", leave it go, or redirect them if they are behaving dangerously. The more you catch a child being good, the more they will be good. "Good" here means disciplined and non-entitled. Children rarely are disciplined and non-entitled, but they can learn to be disciplined and non-entitled.

Children learned to read starting at age 6 from the Bible. What Christian parents in the 1st Century did was leave out a Bible for children to find on their own. Usually, children found the Bible on their own, and then started studying it on their own, knowing instinctively what it was for. When fathers caught their children reading the Bible, he praised his child for reading the right thing. Encouragement was used to make sure the child went the right way. Ultimately, children went the way they went, and they could disagree with their parents on theology to a point, but not to the point of heresy once they were legally adults under church ordinance. Children rarely turned out atheist then, and only turned atheist when discouraged due to provocations to anger, meaning punitive parents alienated their atheist children by abusing them the way they did. Religious child abuse was a violation of church ordinance for the very reason that it always seemed to drive children away.

Children, in biblical times, were in the providing custody, first of their mothers, secondly of their fathers. Mothers had a secure attachment to their children, and did so by providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comfort. For the first 6 years of a child's life, they were in constant closeness with their mother, never leaving her side, being held close to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets when the mother was out and about. Around age 6, children started exploring the terrain, playing outside with other children. But, at the end of the day, they snuggled with mothers at night, and snuggled with mothers when they were tired of playing, with mothers being home base in order for children to recharge. This happened until children shook off the closeness of mothers entirely at around age 13. Children formed a secure attachment with fathers through their mothers, with fathers making themselves at home through masturbatory fantasy about their child. This close bond created the space for children to absorb the disciplined and non-entitled example of parents. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Empathy for Alan Toole, Jr.

I am deeply sorry for the fact that you were abused, sexually and otherwise, as a pedophilic child, Alan. I do not approve of those sorts of gentle parents that try to correct and save their pedophilic children. I am one to represent pedophilic children - both present and past - as the core of my pedophile self-advocacy. 

Pedophilic children are at the core of the prejudicial hatred and hysteria against pedophiles. That is why pedophile rights ARE children's rights. Pedophilic children are punished for fantasizing sexually about much younger children, and are corrected for looking at much younger children.

I think you have a very real children's rights trauma. Know that such a trauma is not common. I can't relate to that trauma at all, and so I do not understand your very real pain from children's rights. I am a children's rights advocate, but I don't think a genuine pedophile is headed for Hell. If you are a Hell-bound sex offender, you lose the right to wear the pedophile label, unless you can admit that you have a problem.

My abusive liberal parents were parental rights liberals, and they abuse using authoritative parenting too. I was frequently put in time-out by both parents, with one parent adding a disciplinary spanking to the mix. That is why I identify as children's rights. I was never harmed by a pedophile, and that's why I don't oppose them. I AM a pedophile, after all, and I only oppose myself in terms of personal conviction of a sinful nature. Most pedophiles, I think, do char and tar themselves privately. I know that if I go up to a young girl, I go to Hell. 

Forgiveness of Alan Toole, Jr. cancelled

"How will I ever get him out?" You weren't ever sorry in the first place. You were never forgiven by me. You violated my wishes, which were backed up by Divine Codified Jurisprudence. Your only agenda is to remove me from my advocacy platform, in which case I refuse to go. A children's rights movement is better for a pedophile than the ideological abuse of a parental rights movement.

"You have my trauma" based on what evidence? "I just know" Well inuition is not enough to be evidence "This isn't going anywhere. Abort mission" No. You started a row, now finish it. "I refuse" You are entitled. "Yes I am" And you even admit it, so now you agree to be cast into Hell as an unbeliever. "HELP" Yep, cornered the Ethan/Alan guy.

Alan Toole, Jr. forgiven

I forgive Alan Toole, Jr. as my enemy, under the conditions that he not try to help me with anything ever again. The only difference is when I ask for help. 

If Alan Toole shows entitlement of any kind, including gaslighting control as a temper tantrum, he will be duly charged with that entitlement.

Anti-entitlement statement against Alan Toole, Jr.

Alan Toole, Jr. a.k.a. "Ethan Edwards" is charged with gaslighting entitlement and mayhem entitlement.

The anti-CR is using complex gaslighting to get me off of Facebook. The woman that reported me is a survivor of a pro-spank compound, and was motioned by the anti-CR to make the report through special control software put in all survivors removed from pro-spank. From there, the moderators at Facebook in the Philippines were motioned to respond as if it was an actual threatening post. How they did it? I'm not that dark of a person to figure that out. Toole was behind this sort of gaslighting, and he tests as one of the  world's worst psychopaths known to man. 

Anyone who has an anti-CR attached to them can be manipulated by Alan Toole, as he is the known founder of that anti-children's rights syndicate. He universalizes his very real children's rights trauma, meaning he wants to believe every pedophile has somehow absorbed a children's rights trauma.

I have a parental rights trauma, meaning I resent that my parents had all the rights growing up, and I had none. I have a specific form of parental rights trauma known as a "reasonable chastisement" trauma. I had abusive authoritative parents abuse me in the name of that unjust law, meaning I was punished, sometimes physically. My parents cited their parental rights as an excuse.

I apologize ahead of time if anyone thinks that I am attacking the Virtuous Pedophiles forum. I am pro-fantasy in terms of allowing pedophiles to masturbate to sexual thoughts about children. It is just that I find solace in my pro-fantasy views in my Christian convictions. I am pro-pedophile, but in the children's rights way. "Pro-pedophile" means being in favor of the pedophile label as a valid mental health diagnosis or self-diagnosis. In my case, it is a self-diagnosis.

Clarification statement to acting CEO of Facebook

I apologize if you perceive that I am going to take over Facebook. I am not a hacker. I am children's rights, but I am not in the hacking department. I don't understand why anyone would want to take over Facebook. I simply have a page to promote a blog, and that is the purpose of the page. 

The anti-CR is the anti-children's rights syndicate. The actual anti-CR is pro-narcissist and pro-pedophile, all in one. They don't represent my interests as a pedophile. Why they want me out of this movement is because I am not a narcissist yet I am a pedophile, and I am proving them wrong by proving that most pedophiles are not narcissists. They want to use the pedophiles for an anti-child agenda.

My intent in writing this blog is denoted by the acronyms pro-social convince, pro-social factoid. Objective reality does not support the concept of spanking or punishing children, which is the main thing that I want to go away. I am an anti-spanking advocate, not an anti-Facebook advocate. I apologize if I wasn't clear enough as an advocate for children.

Attn: Facebook moderators Concerning: The promise made by your supervisor

Your supervisor made a promise to me that I would be online by 12:00 PM ET. I forgive him unconditionally for being late, as something out of his control came up. There is nothing wrong with flipping the switch now. I'm not that picky. I'd just like the ban to end before it is scheduled to end in 6 hours.

Yes, I was expecting to be on Facebook by 12:00 noon, but maybe I don't deserve things to happen exactly as scheduled. But, it would be nice to get onto Facebook as soon as possible. My preference would be by 2:00 PM ET, but as long as the ban is shortened, I know you care. 

As background knowledge, a woman made a report that I made a domestic violence statement. What she was really offended by was a perceived lawful command to join my page, but since she knew she'd lose at that exchange, she made something up. I forgive her because she apologized to me. The forgiveness is conditional, meaning if she shows any entitlement at all by my standard, all of the other charges that I dropped go back onto the table...If anyone does not like my page, click to the next page. Don't complain. Anyone has the right to leave my page for any reason they see fit.

Attn: the acting CEO of Facebook

The anti-CR stands for anti-children's rights. The NSCCY stands for National Syndicate for the Child Care of Youth. "Child Care of Youth" is a euphemism for child slavery in much of Africa, where the organization originates.

The thread of anti-CR that you are receiving comes from Robert E. Hall, an individual who is cyberstalking me by spreading false slander about me. The idea is that if he makes my life hard enough, I will leave children's rights.

The children's rights community in the United States has an open slot for a well-behaved pedophile. I didn't rape anyone, and didn't sexually assault anyone, and so I earned my seat at the children's rights table.

My view on forgiveness

I grew up in a largely Catholic family. Catholic forgiveness is emotional forgiveness. I myself hold Mennonite values, and Mennonites keep the tradition of legal forgiveness.

Christ says in Matthew 6:14-15 KJV:

For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

The Greek root word translated "trespasses" is παραπτομα (Latin: paraptoma) and refers to legal forgiveness, meaning forgiveness meant that, in a moral legal exchange, forgiveness could be granted at any time that the plaintiff saw fit, and canceled any time the plaintiff saw fit. The plaintiff was the one bringing forth moral charges against a defendant. Once the defendant was convicted, they became an offender. An offender could be forgiven once they apologized. Sometimes, the plaintiff forgave the defendant, but with conditions that they not do something that was found offensive by the plaintiff. 

When I forgive, I announce that the charges I pressed are dropped, and I unblock the offender. Today, I dropped the charges against Marie Eaton. Forgiveness is the dropping of anti-entitlement charges against the offender after an apology or when the forgiveness comes with strings attached. With her, there are strings attached. If I even see her in gaslighting tomorrow, the charges are coming back, and then I might not think to reach out again to forgive an enemy, meaning she'd be my enemy, period.

I forgive everyone by default, turning the other cheek. I leave initial offenses go in most cases, but when the offenses are repeated or serious, I judge. I usually give an abuser a reasonable amount of time to just stop what they are doing, and righteously evade charges. When they keep doing it enough times, enough is enough, and then I take offense at the entitlement of the abuser, and all the offenses they committed against me in reverse coloration format. Until I get around to pressing anti-entitlement charges, I deserve everything coming to me for being the depraved and decadent adult and human being that I am.

Blocked from Facebook

I have been blocked from Facebook, and that is why I am putting my ex cathedra statements on my blog. Someone reported a benign post on Facebook, and the moderator put me on a 24-hour ban without fully reading the post.

At this point, we presume the best of intentions in the reporter, Marie Eaton, and I forgive her as my enemy in all this. She misinterpreted a mere suggestion to join my page as a lawful order to join my page. Nobody has to join my page. If you don't like my page, click to the next page. Don't report based on a suggestion you don't like. But, that's just my personal feelings, which I hold back. 

I am not a happy camper, but I forgive anyway, since we all have to forgive our enemies at least once and a while. That first stanza of the beforementioned sentence tells you everything you need to know about the level of forgiveness I hold towards Eaton. I could cancel the forgiveness in a second, and I can do so for any reason or no reason at all, even when I planned to keep it otherwise. So, Marie Eaton should be grateful for my forgiveness, because it sits on shaky ground.

Forgiveness of enemy

I will try again to reach out to and forgive Marie Eaton. All charges have been dropped. The charges will stay dropped as long as Eaton stops visiting me in gaslighting and supervising me in an entitled way using her gaslighting app.

I trust that Eaton will stop logging in, in order to keep me from harming myself. I will add the condition that she not show any entitlement, including deliberately annoying conduct, or else she will be marked as entitled, thus not saved. 

You have to forgive your enemy every once and a while. I am currently reaching out to an enemy of mine. To repeat, all charges have been dropped.

My view on masturbatory fantasy about children

I am allowed, under my Christian beliefs, to masturbate to thoughts of children. I am just not allowed to brag about my fantasies by putting up pornography.

The Greek root word denoting adult sexual entitlement is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, when understood in context, but instead refers to sexual entitlement, defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach.

Taking the first steps to approach a young girl for sexual or flirtatious purposes is the moral crime of adult sexual entitlememt. The idea is to masturbate to the sexual fantasy about the child instead of approaching the child for sexual or flirtatious reasons.

Masturbation encapsulates a pedophile's sexual desire towards children, meaning the sexual entitlement of the adult is centered away from the child. Masturbation rechannels the sexual desire inwards, so that the pedophile has total and complete choice as to where their sex drive goes.

My view on domestic violence

I am a survivor of law-abiding parents. I am opposed to domestic violence except when allowed by way of contracts signed by informed consent. I myself would only strike a woman if she had a spanking fetish, because my Christian beliefs call for me to meet ALL of the sexual needs of my wife, and for her to meet all of my sexual needs. 

I believe in the concept of male headship in the context of being a Christian feminist. On the male side of Christian feminism, male headship replaces male privilege as the obligation for men. A man must provide for his woman, prioritzing his woman above himself, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to woman, expecting absolutely nothing in return. I do believe in disciplining a wife, but only by pro-social leave out, meaning I leave her out of the conversation and give her the silent treatment. In order to earn her way back in, she would need to apologize for the entitled offense she committed, usually an act of blasphemy or theft against a third party. Even adultery would not cause me to get angry with my wife, as you blame the interloper in that case. What might is punishing the children. If my wife spanked a child of mine, I wouldn't speak to her until she apologized.

I myself have experienced domestic violence. I was punished repeatedly as a child, sometimes physically. What my father would do was send me to my room, and then take a deep breath before coming up the stairs and spanking me. It was something he swore by at the time. It was a "warm and cold" type of trauma. Some moments were warm. Some moments were cold. I had to put the cold moments to bed...only they still creep up. My reconstructed beliefs as a Christian make me a policer of sorts, in the form of a pro-social cop/judge. I am always on the lookout, at some level, for my abuser, judging the world with my righteous judgment. If I see entitlement in a parent, I jot notes to the Lord.

Anti-entitlement statement

All the beforementioned charges are now back on. Eaton threw a concern temper tantrum, which counts as a refusal to my wishes, which are backed up by Divine Codified Jurisprudence. I never forgave her.

Forgiveness

I am now reinforcing my contined forgiveness for Marie Eaton. However, one of the charges dropped was supervision entitlement. If Eaton refuses, in any way by my perception, to stop supervising me as a suicide prevention tool, all the charges will be fully revamped.

Entitlement is a mortal sin under my Christian faith, and thus if I do have to revamp the charges, it would say something about Eaton's salvation. Given that she is a Christian, she should take heed to my warning, because this does count as a warning, but not yet an offense. 

If she agrees to avoiding logging in on her gaslighting app, the charges will stay off.

Apologies

I am going to drop all charges against Marie Eaton and apologize to my enemy, with the hope that she does not pull this kind of nonsense again, and ceases to defend her perjorious actions towards my platform.

I apologize if I sounded like I was giving a mandate when I invited Marie Eaton to my page. She does not have to visit my page, but she is certainly welcome to visit my page. Not everything I say is a mandate. I don't issue mandates like that. I only issue suggestions, and if you don't like my page, fine. See if I care.

To repeat, all charges are dropped. At the faintest sign of entitlement from Eaton, the charges are back on, and this forgiveness never occurred. I forgive my enemy, because God calls us to forgive every once and a while.

Second statement indicting Marie Eaton

I am now accentuating the charge of supervision entitlement under the anti-entitlement charges against Marie Eaton.

Eaton needs to stop logging in with her gaslighting app. That is an imposition of want to supervise that I perceive as offensive. It appears that she doesn't want me to commit suicide, yet knows an ambulance would laugh at her because I have made no attempts and no threats.

I'd say it is about time Eaton lose her gaslighting app, so notify the Columbus, Ohio Police Department. 

Anti-entitlement statement indicting Marie Eaton

Marie Eaton is charged with offense entitlement, help entitlement, supervision entitlement, "report" entitlement, misrepresentation entitlement, and perjorious entitlement.

She claimed to Facebook moderators that I used a domestic violence statement. A domestic abuser doesn't say "if you really wanted to help me", they say "if you really loved me", and there is a reason for that. "If you really loved me" is a guilt statement used by domestic abusers to keep the victim cooking. It is a rare domestic abuser that perceives help entitlement from their victim. Usually, it is the other way around, meaning what I said is what a VICTIM of domestic violence would say, because they don't think the swift intervention of the abuser is helpful at all.

I didn't condemn the Facebook moderator for his domestic violence habit because it was a struggling habit, and I only condemn entitled abusers, and I condemn them to Hell. He was keeping his distance from the children, otherwise I wouldn't have respected him at all. He has a trauma that prompts him, for some irrational reason, to vent on his wife. I might create that trauma in a child if I am not careful. My advice to him is that the anger goes away on its own. Anger is an emotion that passes. I've been there where I was angry at a low level, but I don't have a habit of venting on my mother. When that did happen, the gaslighting caused the medication not to work.

Marie Eaton, your days here are numbered. If you report one more post of mine on Facebook, you will be banned. If you see something truly suspicious, call the numbers I provide and sort the issue out using the law. Under the laws of the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania, anything the victim perceives as offensive can be either harassment or disorderly conduct. The Reading Police Department can be contacted at 610-655-6116. PA ChildLine is at 1-800-932-0313. Call them if you see a sign of an abuser in my posts. If you think Facebook simply needs to take a post down, contact another survivor taking up my case, and show them the post that offends you. Getting Facebook involved isn't ideal, however, and I urge you to contact the police concerning perceived harassment or disorderly conduct online. 

Christian attachment parenting: Upholding the Christian tradition

Most American parents support authoritatve parenting. Typically, authoritative parenting is applied in a punitive manner, with frequent time-outs, and the occasional disciplinary spanking in some homes. Punishment of children is thought of as a Christian tradition by many parents, and this is based on false interpretation of Scripture, and false context.

God cast a dominion over all of America, yet only a few will heed the warning. America is a Christian nation, founded upon Judeo-Christian family values. The Bible is a founding document of this country, above even the Constitution itself. The Bible is codified law imposed and binding upon the American people. Nowhere in the Bible does it legitimately say to strike or punish a child. Wherever the rod is mentioned, the most literal interpretation refers to the 40 minus 1 lashes administered by fathers to young men in a courtroom setting, not a home setting. Christian attachment parenting was the parenting of the Early Christians, and so it is also American parenting, as our nation was founded on the premise that we would have a religious society. I am a Christian dominionist, and so I'd like to see our values be reflected in the secular law. 

Christian attachment parenting is based on the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, where parents provide for children, and children rest in the providence of parents. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which was the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, duttifully and selflessly submitting to children as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to their children, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, inclduing any punishments or controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings. 

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to, in the Hebraic context, modeling Christian discipline to children. Christian discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, and is grateful for absolutely everything, leading to a chastened up complexion for children to imitate. When fathers saw their children imitate their disciplined attitude, they lavishly praised and encouraged the disciplined attitude. With boys, they were praised for "withstanding all odds", and girls were given hugs and embraces with the mother's permission. Children in biblical times wanted to emulate the disciplined example of their parents, as parents had a secure attachment with their children. On occasion, parents needed to instruct their children directly, usually by way of redirection, and this is denoted by the Greek root word translated "admonition" which is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia). However, instruction and redirection should be rare, and only when the child is endangering themselves, spiritually or otherwise. A good example of spiritual endangerment is a young son sexually "feeling up" his mother as a part of the oedipus complex. Most sins that a child commits are theft, and all damages or offenses imposed by a child make the parents culpable for those damages or offenses. Blasphemy is something to redirect your child away from, namely fornication. If they trust your voice, they will listen to you and emulate your values. 

Change of heart in children did not happen overnight. Most all of the chilidish and immature behaviors most parents call "naughty" are actually developmentally appropriate behaviors given the child's age and developmental level. Children absorb lessons such as Christian discipline at their own pace, and in the mean time, will be out of sorts at times, as is normal for a child their age and developmerntal level. Children naturally want to emulate the Christian example of their parents, and so optimally, you as a parent won't need to instruct your children in much. Values instruction should instead be more about driving your child in the direction they should go through encouragement. Children shouldn't absorb the example of their parents, in full, until the adolescent years.

Children in biblical times were in the providing custody, primarily of mothers, and secondarily of fathers. Mothers provided for children nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comfort. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness with mothers, never leaving her side, being worn in swaddling blankets when mothers were out and about. Around the age of 6, children started exploring on their own, and started insisting on doing things on their own. Children were lavishly praised and encouraged by fathers to be bold and do things on their own. But, when children were worn out and burnt out, they went back to the closeness of their mother, with mothers serving as home base for children to recharge. Children formed a secure attachment to fathers through mothers, with fathers making themselves at home with their daughters in particular by way of masturbatory fantasy about his child.

Christian attachment parenting is attachment parenting using the Early Christian context as a context for understanding how parenting should be done naturally. The Early Christians believed God was whipping them by sending them adversity (see Heb. 12:5-6), but nonetheless believed only God could whip His children, as only He did it without harm to His child. God calls Christians today to be natural parents, meaning attachment parents, yet only a few people will heed the warning. The Early Christians were hated by the Romans largely because they were too "soft" on their children. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descemd into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Honor your parents: Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Many parents want to be honored. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents feel entitled to being honored by their children, and make entitled demands in that regard. Most Americans think that the Fifth Commandment to honor your parents prohibits even speaking against parents. The fact of the matter is that it does not. It instead prohibits only clear and deliberate cases of elder abuse.

It says in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee. 

This commandment, in context, refers to the commission of clear and deliberate elder abuse, as further clarified in the parent protection laws. "Honor" here refers means "do not dishonor" as in committing honor offenses against parents. Those honor offenses being referred to here are listed in the parent protection laws. "Do not strike your parents" (see Exod. 21:15) means do not repeatedly beat your parents. "Do not curse your parents" (see Lev. 20:9) means do not administer airborne gaslighting to your parents. The parent protection laws only apply to mature adults, meaning adults that have moved away from home. Being a parent victim of elder abuse in Ancient Israel involved taking on much stigma, meaning parent victms of elder abuse weren't believed then, with bystanders usually commenting with things such as "Where did they learn that behavior". God sided with the victimized parents. No adult descendant was ever put to death, but a small handful were whipped due to their acts that dishonored their parents. Dishonoring parents was a high bar to prove under the Law, meaning there had to be many warning that the abusive behavior had to stop before it could get to court, and even then, the court could dismiss the parents' case just because there weren't enough warnings given. Parents alone had to prove that they were being beaten or sent on their merry way, with multiple eyewitnesses. The court had to come to a two-thirds majority that the parent was aggrieved before an errant son could be whipped. It is certainly okay today to speak against your parents, and even judge your parents.

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as extensions of God. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceved by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating them as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Children in biblical times were in the providing custody of their parents, primarily that of their mother, and secondarily that of their father. Mothers formed a secure attachment with children, and did so by providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding or skin-on-skin comfort. Children, during the first 6 years of life, were in constant closeness to their mothers, never leaving her side, being worn in swaddling blankets next to her bosom when she left the home. Around the time when the child turned 6, they started exploring more, including exploring the Bible. Most children in biblical times were taught to read on the Bible. Children became more self-reliant, while at the same time, when they needed rest from exploring, they went to mothers for closeness once more, with mothers serving as home base for children to recharge. Children slept next to mothers until they insisted on sleeping in their own bed or room. Children came to be securely attached to fathers through their mother, with fathers making themselves at home next to their children by indulging in masturbatory fantasy about them. Fathers could be physically affectionate in a gentle way, meaning snuggling and hugging, but only with the express permission of the mother.

Providing custody and punitive custody are two separate terms. Punitive custody means that the individual being cared for by a caregiver is bound by the law, as enforced by the caregiver. Providing custody means that the individual being cared for is not under any law. Children are in the providing custody of first their mother, and secondly their father. Parents then were not lawmakers or lawgivers, but merely caregivers for their children. Children were not under the control of their parents, but instead were taught how to control and discipline themselves (see Eph. 6:4). Parents in biblical times simply provided food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment, and didn't attempt to impose any authority onto children. Parents were not seen as authority figures, but instead best friends by children, especially mothers. 

The Fifth Commandment, in sum, simply sets up parental headship. This means parents are the head of children in terms of providing for them their every vulnerable need. Dishonoring parents is a moral crime only mature adults who have left the home can commit, and only through clear and deliberate acts of elder abuse. Otherwise, it is up to the secular laws to protect parents, and parental rights should not go beyond the basics, or we have a case of parents incurring on the rights of children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the best time-in method

Many parents are now starting to give up spanking. But, the alternative of choice instead of spanking is still time-out. Most American parents still punish children, even if they don't spank their children. Most American parents punish their children with time-out, and maybe an occasional disciplinary spanking. The fact of the matter is that time-in is the actual alternative to spanking, and came in  the form of mammary closeness in biblical times. 

Mammary closeness is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. Mothers provide sustaining warmth in the form of skin-on-skin comfort, and children rest in said comfort. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children just as they would God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with kidnapping being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christiain parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed to any and all punishment of a child. Paul advocated for abused children in his writings, and advocated for children more than any other biblical writer. 

Mothers in biblical times submitted to their children as they would to God, providong for children nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comfort. Mothers in biblical times sometimes had to deal with a crying or upset child, and when their child cried or became upset, they were held close to the bosom of mothers in skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance, also known as mammary closeness. The child could hear the heartbeat of their mother, and were reassured by hearing that sound. This did not just occur for babies, but for children of all ages who insisted on the sustaining warmth of mothers. 

How can the abovementioned context be applied today by mothers? If a child is crying or throwing a tantrum at home, disrobe to the level of underwear at the very least, or prerferably to the level of full nudity. Then, invite your child to throw off the clothing, which would happen out of frustration. Then, embrace your child, holding them to your bosom, so that they can hear your heartbeat. This sustaining warmth should stop crying within 1-2 minutes, if that long. In a public establishment, a mother can simply take her children into the ladies' room, and tuck the crying or upset child up their shirt. The child, in both cases, can be reassured with the phrase "this too will pass". 

Parenting manuals in biblical times spoke in honorifics about children. Children were seen as vulnerable extensions of God, meaning righteous judges on behalf of God, called to bring out the best and the worst of adults with their vulnerability, then reporting straight to God on the results. The parenting manuals then stated that whatever you did for children, you did for God. Conversely, the parenting manuals also stated that whatever you didn't do for children, you didn't do for God, and that you would be judged based on how you cared for your child. Parents then were also instructed to regard themselves as worthless, and hold the child as owning all the worth, for them to earn by way of performing good works for their child. The rest was for parents to come to their own conclusions on, based on their own parenting instincts and what was allowed under the Law. Most parents came to the same conclusions, meaning they came to the conclusion of attachment parenting. Parents submitted to their children from beneath, yet from above, regarding their children as more significant than they were, just for their vulnerable status. Ancient Jewish culture, including the Early Church, was a child worshipping culture, not a child enslaving culture.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

What is pedophilia? What is pedophile hysteria?

Many people hate pedophiles. This is a common hatred in American society. However, more and more people are getting on the side of pedophiles, to varying degrees. Many people support abolishing the sex offender registry. Many people, usually in the trauma-informed arena, are coming to understand pedophilia as a very real mental illness, starting with the founding of the Virtuous Pedophiles forum in 2012. Most of the core supporters of pedophiles, however, still blame the children's rights community for not accepting pedophiles. There is a slot in this community for as many pedophiles as it can support, as long as the pedophiles don't cause too much trouble. What is pedophilia? Once you understand what the disorder is, you won't hate them at all. But, there is a prejudicial hysteria, and that hysteria needs to be tamped down at all costs. 

What is pedophilia? Most people think a pedophile is a narcissist, and is something someone hides. This is false. Pedophilia is a form of immature autism, where the age-oriented sexual development of the pedophile corresponds with their arrested emotional maturity. Most pedophiles also have moderate-severe autism, and their special interests usually correspond with their sexual interest in children. It is a low-level sexuality, just as autistic sexuality usually is. Children's rights is a common interest for a pedophile like me. Most pedophiles have a rule-oriented form of autism known as the "rule boy" profile. A "rule boy" pedophile believes that children are a special class, and thus the rules don't apply to children. It is the view of the pedophile that a child can do no wrong. A pedophile is someone with autism who only wants frends with children, and adults their age or older are "chopped liver". Children are a small part of life to most people, but not to a pedophile. Autism is a specializing disorder, where individuals with autism specialize in a certain topic, and focus on that topic heavily. When that topic of speciality is children, particularly in a legalistic, adversarial way, think pedophile. Usually, this adversarial attitude is akin to that of a defense attorney, but in this case the defense attorney wants to get the child out of trouble. A common behavior in pedophilic children is guarding younger siblings or younger family members when they are being reprimanded, meaning standing in the way of the parent scolding the child. To the pedophile, scolding the child is unfair and unjust.

Where did the prejudicial hysteria against pedophiles come from? It is a myth that the children's rights community created a hysteria. The true source of pedophile hysteria dates back to the Roman Catholic Church. Before Constantine, the Early Church welcomed pedophiles as long as they remained non-offending, with pedophiles usually being the men that were single and celibate, yet very kind and charitable to children. The Apostle Paul is an example of a biblical pedophile. The Apostle Paul was a strongman, but in first-to-last context, meaning he was a strongman for the little guy, including children. A pedophile was seen then as a strongman for children, like a defense attorney, and when the church elders voted to split up a family - which they could do - the pedophiles in the church cared for the children, asking nothing in return from children. In other ancient cultures, predatory pedophiles were allowed, but God chose Israel, a country that only allowed non-offending pedophiles. After Constantine, the Christian teaching on pedophilia was altered to suit the need of Emperor Constanting to control the Holy Roman Empire, meaning all pedophilia was sin since it couldn't be acted upon. One Bible verse cited by the Roman Catholic Church to prohibit all masturbation, and one that has been used against pedophiles in this capacity is Matthew 5:27-28 KJV:

Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. 

The Greek root word translated "lust" is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but to sexual entitlement, which is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. Masturbation was a mandate for pedophiles in the Bible, in order to re-channel sexual desire away from having sex with actual children. Child sexual abuse was rare next to non-existent in biblical times, and only occurred in the most sexually repressed of environments.

However, the Roman Catholic Church chose to spread false religious doctrine that masturbation and sexual fantasy was sin, and that because of this, no pedophile would ever make it into Heaven. From there, that teaching was absorbed into all of the seceding churches during all three reformations. That is the reason why most Christians believe that a pedophile cannot be saved - because we were first told that masturbation alone was a hamper on our salvation, when it is not.

This same sexual repression of sexual thought about children ultimately led to the sexual abuse epidemic that we have today. Most fathers in particular are sexually attracted to their daughters, whether they are pedophiles or not. Decent fathers, by today's standards, distance themselves from their daughters. Sexual abuse happens when that sexual repression leads to the sexual desires come out sideways onto the child, usually in a predatory manner that treats the child more like food than a human being. If those fathers simply masturbated when they got sexual thoughts about their child, they wouldn't be sexually abusing them.

Pedophile hysteria is a form of mental health stigma of the admit variety. Pedophilia became associated with child sexual abuse because the religious stigma to labeling yourself a pedophile was so great in the 1970s that only avowed abusers used the label, and used it falsely. The true pedophiles remained hidden, and that was because their caregivers probably hid their disorder from sight. Today, the bulk of pedophile haters are the sexual abusers of children themselves, usually by blaming an easy target for what they are actually doing. Most sexual abusers of children are parents, or else trusted adults extended by the parents, or both. Any time you meet someone who calls everyone around them "the pedophile", think sexual abuse, because that is what they are doing on the other side of that facade, and seeing it in everyone else through foggy glasses.

Today, there is more for pedophiles than there ever was since the formation of this country. All a pedophile needs is someone to talk to, in normal language. I myself am a well-adjusted pedophile currently, meaning I am happy with life with what little I have, and I am grateful that I have people to talk to. I have a mother and a therapist, and other people that I could talk to if I ever needed to. I used to be an obvious abuser by nature, but I got better just by talking to someone about my attractions, and I talked to my therapist, my doctor, and my mother in order to sort things out in my head. At this point, all I want from children is to be around them. That wasn't the case before.

The depraved and decadent, defiled sexual abusers of children who project onto pedophiles will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire! Repent!