My view on domestic violence

I am a survivor of law-abiding parents. I am opposed to domestic violence except when allowed by way of contracts signed by informed consent. I myself would only strike a woman if she had a spanking fetish, because my Christian beliefs call for me to meet ALL of the sexual needs of my wife, and for her to meet all of my sexual needs. 

I believe in the concept of male headship in the context of being a Christian feminist. On the male side of Christian feminism, male headship replaces male privilege as the obligation for men. A man must provide for his woman, prioritzing his woman above himself, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to woman, expecting absolutely nothing in return. I do believe in disciplining a wife, but only by pro-social leave out, meaning I leave her out of the conversation and give her the silent treatment. In order to earn her way back in, she would need to apologize for the entitled offense she committed, usually an act of blasphemy or theft against a third party. Even adultery would not cause me to get angry with my wife, as you blame the interloper in that case. What might is punishing the children. If my wife spanked a child of mine, I wouldn't speak to her until she apologized.

I myself have experienced domestic violence. I was punished repeatedly as a child, sometimes physically. What my father would do was send me to my room, and then take a deep breath before coming up the stairs and spanking me. It was something he swore by at the time. It was a "warm and cold" type of trauma. Some moments were warm. Some moments were cold. I had to put the cold moments to bed...only they still creep up. My reconstructed beliefs as a Christian make me a policer of sorts, in the form of a pro-social cop/judge. I am always on the lookout, at some level, for my abuser, judging the world with my righteous judgment. If I see entitlement in a parent, I jot notes to the Lord.