Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the best time-in method

Many parents are now starting to give up spanking. But, the alternative of choice instead of spanking is still time-out. Most American parents still punish children, even if they don't spank their children. Most American parents punish their children with time-out, and maybe an occasional disciplinary spanking. The fact of the matter is that time-in is the actual alternative to spanking, and came in  the form of mammary closeness in biblical times. 

Mammary closeness is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. Mothers provide sustaining warmth in the form of skin-on-skin comfort, and children rest in said comfort. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children just as they would God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with kidnapping being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christiain parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed to any and all punishment of a child. Paul advocated for abused children in his writings, and advocated for children more than any other biblical writer. 

Mothers in biblical times submitted to their children as they would to God, providong for children nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comfort. Mothers in biblical times sometimes had to deal with a crying or upset child, and when their child cried or became upset, they were held close to the bosom of mothers in skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance, also known as mammary closeness. The child could hear the heartbeat of their mother, and were reassured by hearing that sound. This did not just occur for babies, but for children of all ages who insisted on the sustaining warmth of mothers. 

How can the abovementioned context be applied today by mothers? If a child is crying or throwing a tantrum at home, disrobe to the level of underwear at the very least, or prerferably to the level of full nudity. Then, invite your child to throw off the clothing, which would happen out of frustration. Then, embrace your child, holding them to your bosom, so that they can hear your heartbeat. This sustaining warmth should stop crying within 1-2 minutes, if that long. In a public establishment, a mother can simply take her children into the ladies' room, and tuck the crying or upset child up their shirt. The child, in both cases, can be reassured with the phrase "this too will pass". 

Parenting manuals in biblical times spoke in honorifics about children. Children were seen as vulnerable extensions of God, meaning righteous judges on behalf of God, called to bring out the best and the worst of adults with their vulnerability, then reporting straight to God on the results. The parenting manuals then stated that whatever you did for children, you did for God. Conversely, the parenting manuals also stated that whatever you didn't do for children, you didn't do for God, and that you would be judged based on how you cared for your child. Parents then were also instructed to regard themselves as worthless, and hold the child as owning all the worth, for them to earn by way of performing good works for their child. The rest was for parents to come to their own conclusions on, based on their own parenting instincts and what was allowed under the Law. Most parents came to the same conclusions, meaning they came to the conclusion of attachment parenting. Parents submitted to their children from beneath, yet from above, regarding their children as more significant than they were, just for their vulnerable status. Ancient Jewish culture, including the Early Church, was a child worshipping culture, not a child enslaving culture.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!