"Benign" deprivation: Why using the word "no" with children "frequent and often" can be child abuse

Many parents buy into a concept known as "benign" deprivation. This ultimately boils down to a parent constantly telling children "no" for every little thing. However, children need to hear your "yes" far more often than your "no". Saying "no" all of the time can be perceived as abuse by a child victim. 

God's Law on child abuse is spelled out in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards a child. The idea behind not abusing your child is to avoid offense in your child. Part of avoiding offense in children is avoiding saying the word "no" to every little thing that a child wants, just because "children need to hear the word no frequent and often". Children growing up in the Early Church were told "no" by parents only when absolutely necessary, meaning almost never. Whenever a child cannot accept the necessary use of the word "no", you as a parent need to meaningfully apologize for hurting your child's feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent coming from parents. However, if you ever utter the word "no" out of anger or haste, you definitely should give a formal apology to your child, and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as losing your child in and of itself is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan parenting customs, which were punitive in nature. Paul, contrary to popular legend, opposed any punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

In the Early Church, as a general rule, the word "no" was banned coming from parents under customary law. The only exceptions allowed for telling a child "no" only in the case that the petitioned request was unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Even then, Christian parents in the Early Church found more reassuring ways to say "no", such as "that won't work", "that can't happen", or "that isn't possible". 

Whenever Christian mothers in the Early Church were out and about, they brought their children with them. Whatever a child wanted something from the sand at market, they got it. Even if it was a lamb that they had for sale, and the child wanted as a pet, they got the lamb that they wanted. The only exception was if the parents truly could not afford the item or animal that the child wanted. 

Most children want something small from the store, such as a piece of candy. Let them have what they want, as that won't break the bank. The main form of entitlement here is monetary entitlement, meaning insisting on parent anger at a child for "wasting an adult's money". Children don't usually ask for much at the store. Even in the Early Church, children usually wanted candies such as licorice. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke your children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Adult attraction to children: Individual responsibility for adults attracted to children

Many adults support the concept of collective responsibility. This means that it is up to an ordinary adult to stop a child predator from sexually abusing children. Most adults blame pedophiles for sexually abusing children. However, the fact of the matter is that adults are individually responsibility for not sexually abusing a child.

Every single adult is responsible for their sex drive in relation to children. That is because any old adult could rape or sexually assault a child. Child sexual abuse usually is a crime of opportunity, but nonetheless is a choice on the part of an adult. It is a myth that an adult has a fate, meaning a "date with the devil". Child sexual abuse is a choice on the part of the adult.

Most child sexual abuse, according to former offenders, comes with a "heartache" of sorts, meaning sexual lust to the point of physical pain and anguish. If you feel like you have such a heartache for a child, you need to masturbate to thoughts of that child. That should bring you down to earth by the first couple of sessions. If the attraction doesn't go away, you are a pedophile, and need to own up to those desires.

A pedophile is not an anger packet. A pedophile is a human being with a sexual preference for children under age 14, and is active as a mental illness if it interferes with the functioning of an adult or teenager. Most pedophilia comes with a form of immature autism that involves special interests surrounding children. A pedophile can easily be spotted If you see someone with autism just click with children, think pedophile, as most autistic adults find children to be "too chaotic" or "too noisy". 

It is a myth that the societal hatred of pedophiles started with survivors in the 1970s. The societal hatred of attraction to children started when Pope Constantine issued a decree that banned individuals with attraction to children from identifying with said attractions. Trauma survivors simply lifted up an existing stigma against pedophiles. In the 1800s, the pedophile label was coined as a means to identify a adult with attractions to children in order to excuse them, The survivors ultimately were trying to gain opposition in just the right way - meaning identify by trauma, and then identify by pedophilia.

Some pedophiles do abuse children, I am a pedophile, and I have abused a child in the past. I mainly committed sexual harassment, including street harassment. I am currently under investigation for child-on-child sexual abuse. I am currently cooperating with the police in conjunction with this investigation. I was falsely accused of rape by a pool of 3 family members. I never have committed rape against anyone, but I sure harassed young girls with inappropriate sexual advances. All the police want from anyone in gaslighting is for the suspect to talk. Most suspects put up a fight, in which you lose every time. Most pedophilic abusers mean well towards their victims, and thus the police cut them a break. Most pedophile rape comes from individuals with a low IQ. Most pedophilic offenders are guilty of sexual harassment. 1 in 4 pedophiles have sexually abused a child, usually due to not knowing the boundaries. I myself have an infatuation addiction, and used the Twelve Steps to deal with my sexual attractions to children, leaning on the fourth step to do a fearless moral inventory of your flaws. Not all pedophiles need the Twelve Steps, but if you are the prideful pedophile that I was, you need to come back down to earth. I myself have bipolar mania in remission due to mood stabilizers. Not a good combo indeed. An infatuation addiction happens in pedophilia when a pedophile pursues children as possible romantic partners.

An actual pedophile is among the last of all adults to abuse a child. Most adults have an entitlement problem in relation to children. Most pedophiles have a squeaky clean record, and simply have sexual desires to abstain from. A pedophile is usually born incapable of parent anger directed towards children. Usually, all a pedophile can do is protect a child with their anger. I myself, as a pedophile, don't have any displeasure for children. I have a selfish side for children, but in the form of sexual attractions towards children. Most adults do have that one side of children that they hate. 

Most adults have a sexual attraction to children, Usually, they find themselves attracted to a teenager in particular, and fight back those attractions until they can hold it in no longer, and then the repressed desires come out sideways onto a child, like a ton of bricks. Usually, an adult who sexually abuses a child is in a state of lust, and sees the child as a piece of meat. A pedophilic abuser usually instead operates by having crush after crush after crush, coming and going like train cars. I myself have a track record of obsessing over children, one by one, like train cars. Most adults instead are in lust in relation to children, and when this lust turns to physical pain, they are a rapist. This lust usually becomes relevant when an adult is left alone with a child. However, I wouldn't mind being alone with a young girl, and would just enjoy the view. Even if she was bare naked and alone with me, I would be safe to be around her. I am a pedophile and a former offender, and simply needed to know the boundaries. I don't feel lust in relation to children, and instead the child simply stands out in her beauty. 20% of men have a sexual attraction to prepubescent children, and most adults have sexual attractions to teenagers. Only 1-2% of the population is a pedophile, but probably less. Most sexual abuse of children is due to unmet sexual needs in relation to children in the perpetrator.

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape and sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

"Spare the rod, spoil the child": Why the rod verses in Proverbs are repealed verses

Many parents have heard the phrase "spare the rod, spoil the child". That was saying that got me to be an atheist for half of my life. Most parents in America think that this phrase is a part of the Bible. Instead, this phrase paraphrases a set of passages in the book of Proverbs depicting the rod of correction. Most parents don't realize that these verses are repealed verses

God's Word depicting the rod of correction is spelled out in several verses, including Proverbs 13:24 KJV:

He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

The Hebrew word translated "rod" is shebet and refers here to the rod of correction, which was a switch. The Hebrew word translated "son" is ben and refers here to an mature adult son. This passage denotes the 40 minus 1 lashes, applied to the bare back, within a courtroom setting, as a sentence for a crime. It was unlawful then to whip a fellow Jew outside of a courtroom setting. It was unlawful then to strike a minor child for any reason in the Old Testament. The reason for this verse is that, otherwise, the father would refuse to whip his son. The father was deputized by the court to administer the blows, and he was usually an unwilling participant in the prosecution of his adult son. Jewish parents then were the type to shield their children from blame, even when their children were adults.

The Sacrifice of Jesus Christ worked to end the harsh punishments of the Old Testament. Christ outlawed all corporal punishments by suffering corporal punishment unjustly in the form of the 40 minus 1 lashes at the hands of the Romans before being executed. 

The Bible does not refer to a biblical spanking in the book of Proverbs. However, God does weigh in on the spanking issue, and then some. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards a child. It is one thing to stop spanking your child. However, it is not enough to stop spanking or punishing your children. You need to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults - be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt the feelings of another, as hurt feelings are inevitable in social interactions. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent coming from parents, such as when a child cannot accept an ordinary limit not set out of anger. However, if you ever lose your cool as a parent, including when setting a limit, you should definitely give a formal apology to your child, and then commit never to ever lose your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool with a child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christians who brought with them into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translated to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The staple punishment in Ancient Greece was a spanking to the bare bottom with an open hand. This was a pagan way of dealing with children. The Early Christians shunned the outside world, with Paul here would have none of that pagan parenting in the churches that he oversaw.

Any parent anger directed towards a child was considered entitled parenting in the Early Church. Parental entitlement is defended as a backbone of sorts, meaning basically that the parent focuses on anger at their child as opposed to trauma from being punished as a child. Any angry parents with anger directed toward a child in the Early Church were seen as akin to a viper lashing out at its prey - maybe the child was warned beforehand, but not by much.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Hebrews 12:5-6: Why this passage is not a spanking passage

Most parents believe that the Bible is pro-spanking. The core proof that pro-spanking parents have for their theology in the New Testament is Hebrews 12:5-6. This passage is often re-used as a spanking passage. However, other parts of the Bible prohibit not just spanking, but other forms of punitive parents. The fact of the matter is that the passage in Heb. 12:5-6 refers to enduring hardship, not any punishment of a child. 

God's Word on enduring hardship is spelled out in Hebrews 12:5-6 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation that speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.

The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μαστιγόω (Latin: mastigoó) and can have a figurative meaning to it, with the rod being a metaphor for enduring hardship. This sort of passage was written using a specific form of metaphor known as "rod language". After a long day at work, you instead said then "God whipped me hard today" God does not reach down from the heavens and literally whip His children. However, God punishes His children, like only He can, sending trials and tribulations the way of the believer. However, God only punishes His children when it does not harm them, whereas earthly parents only punish their children when it does, in fact, harm them.

God never intended for earthly parents to copy His Parenting methods. That is because earthly parents would harm the child if they punished their child, unlike when God punishes His children. Heb. 12:5-6 is not a spanking verse. However, God does weigh in on the spanking issue, and then some. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards children. It is one thing to stop spanking your children. However, it is not enough to stop spanking or punishing children. You need to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults - be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt the feelings of another. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent coming from parents, such as when a child cannot accept an ordinary limit. However, if you ever lose your cool as a parent - including when setting a limit - you definitely need to apologize whenever you lose your cool with your child, as losing your cool as a parent alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This passage cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christians who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which roughly translated as "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions onto children, such as spanking and other forms of punishment. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The staple punishment of children in Ancient Greece was spanking a child to the bare bottom. Spanking was a pagan custom then. Paul would have none of it in the churches he oversaw as deacon. The Hebraic understanding of discipline instead involved praise and encouragement when children were caught being good, not punishment and force when children were caught misbehaving.

Parent anger directed towards a child was seen as parental entitlement in the Early Church. Parental entitlement consists of a backbone that consists of parent anger towards children. Most parents in modern times are entitled as parents. However, most parents in the Early Church instead were motivated by worry or concern as parents.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Redefining child abuse: Why the Bible calls for expanding child abuse definitions

Many parents think that the ancients in the Bible had no concept of childhood, let alone child abuse. This is a common belief amongst American parents. Most American parents support today's child abuse definitions. However, the fact of the matter is that the Bible has its own definition of child abuse - anything that the child victim perceives as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of when parents can't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children, just for existing. Even any parent anger directed towards children was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. Whenever this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by the child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards children. Child abuse in the Bible, as a legal concept, consists of entitlement in parents, leading to offense in children. The key to not abusing your child is to avoid offense in your child. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults - be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt the feelings of another. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent coming from parents, such as when a child cannot accept an ordinary limit. However, if you ever lose your cool as a parent - including when setting a limit - you should definitely give a formal apology to your child, and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as the slightest of parent anger directed towards a child is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers here to long-term damages, namely when a spiritually abused child loses heart. The ancients in the Bible had a basic understanding of childhood trauma. Whenever a child grew up to be atheist, it was seen as a shame onto the parents, not as the atheist being a "lost soul" in need of "being saved". Atheism in adult children and minor children alike was seen as a sign of child abuse, with that being the shame that fell onto parents.

The ancients in the Bible even had a concept of child sexual abuse. The Greek root word translated "fornication" is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers to any sexual relations outside of a Christian marriage between one adult man and one adult woman. Sexual relations with your daughter, as a father, was prohibited under Christian law then. Most men do have sexual attraction to their daughters, and this attraction being able to be kept in check using righteous masturbation to thoughts of their daughters. She isn't ready for your adult sex drive, with her attractions to her father being only intended for masturbatory purposes on her end of things. Child sexual abuse then was rare, meaning next to non-existent.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - were written by anti-spanking Jews. All of the biblical writers wrote parenting manuals that recommended attachment parenting to parents. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting for the little ones, with the rod of correction in Proverbs consisting of the 40 minus 1 lashes imposed as a sentence for a crime.

America is a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian values. The Bible and its context tells us how to behave and treat each other with respect. Even our legal codes are based off of Judeo-Christian values. It just so happens that the parenting manuals written in biblical times were not translated into English until the 1960s. Before then, we were completely in the dark about how to deal with children as per the Hebraic understanding of the Bible. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torrents, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Honor thy parents: Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Many parents feel entitled to being honored by their children. This is a common misapplication of the Fifth Commandment to honor your parents. Most Christians believe that this means that you should forgive your abusive parents. However, this commandment simply states that adult children should care for their parents as they age.

God's Law on honoring parents is spelled out in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

The Hebrew word translated "honor" is kabad and refers here to taking care of your aging parents. It does not mean that parents are immune from blame. Parents can be tried using righteous judgment just like anyone else, including by their children, especially by their children. The only instance where you have to forgive your parents is if they are truly apologetic for abusing you.

"Dishonoring parents" is a common motive for punishing children. In many homes, perceived disrespect from children is the sole reason for punishment of children. However, the Bible prohibits anything punitive towards children, including in the context of perceived disrespect from children, with any punitive parenting perhaps being a form of child abuse. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards children. The idea behind not abusing your child is to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults - be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt the feelings of another. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent coming from parents, such as when a child cannot accept a set limit. However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, you definitely need to give a formal apology for losing your cool with your children, and then commit never to ever losing your cool with your child again, as any parent anger directed towards a child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, and is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking and other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

I myself forgive my parents for abusing me. However, they apologized for abusing me within the law with spanking and false imprisonment tactics. The spanking was the worst thing that my abuser did. My father spanked me with a disciplinary spanking done "out of love". I awaited in my bed, gripping my pillow tight, expecting the worst. The very worst thing about the abuse that I endured was that it is legal in my home state of Pennsylvania even today. If they didn't apologize, I would shun them to the degree that I could, while still living with them. Even though they apologized, I will never forget what they did to me.

It is a myth that you need to honor all parents. All you need to do to honor your parents is to take good care of them as they age. I myself would call the area office of aging if my mother needed care that I couldn't provide. I am autistic, and so there is little that I can do for an aging parent.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Passing down the faith: How to instruct your child in the Lord without punitive measures

Many parents want their children to have religion. However, most Christian parents think that the answer is to beat a religion into a child. However, there are better ways to instruct your child in the Lord, meaning without punishment, shaming, or other forms of punitive parenting.

God's Law on teaching children the Christian faith is spelled out in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The first stanza of this commandment clarifies for the second that religious instruction should not hurt. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to. the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards children. Forcing religion on any child is religious entitlement, and when it offends the child, it becomes religious child abuse. The key to not abusing your child is to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults - be willing to give a meaningful apologize for hurting your child's feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent from parents, such as when a child cannot accept an ordinary set limit. However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, you should definitely give a full apology to your child, and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool with your child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This stanza of the commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought with them into the parish at Ephesus their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translated to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, namely spanking or other forms of punishment of a child. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

Children don't need religion beaten into them. Religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and is more aptly translated as "instruction" in more modern versions of the Bible, and refers in context to religious instruction of a specific kind. Starting at age 6, fathers left out a Bible for children to discover and explore. Whenever a child was caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged for studying the Bible. Fathers then said "you can ask me anything about that book". From there, religious instruction came in the form of question and answer. Children were curious about Scripture, with fathers giving pointers on the context. 

It is common for parents to rush the religious entitlement of their children. For example, grateful postures are commonly forced on children in Christian homes. However, a child will come there naturally when they become more astute in their religious ways. I myself tie my hands behind my back in public whenever I can. Nobody forced me. I came to that conclusion on their own. I tie my hands behind my back in order remind others that they are in the presence of the elect.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!