Adult attraction to children: Individual responsibility for adults attracted to children

Many parents and other adults believe in a way of preventing child sexual abuse known as collective responsibility. This means that an adult who is sexually targeting a child be stopped by the collective as a form of "taking out the trash". However, there are better ways of preventing child sexual abuse than stopping a would-be adult. Collective responsibility involves spotting pedophiles, assuming they are the primary cause of child sexual abuse. However, child sexual abuse is usually a crime of opportunity. with any old adult having some risk for sexually abusing a child.

Every single adult is individually responsible for the sexual abuse of children, as any old adult is capable of sexually abusing a child under the right/wrong conditions. Most of the time, adults are secondarily attracted to teenage children, and some adults have a secondary attraction to prepubescent children. Most adults ignore this side of them, but feel compelled by it nonetheless. Sexual offenders of children describe this situation as a "heartache", where they feel sexual lusts to the point of physical pain.

There is only one way out of sexually abusing a child - in, namely through righteous masturbation. Righteous masturbation involves masturbation for health reasons, meaning without pornography. Most child sexual abuse comes from the choice of the offender not to masturbate at all to any fantasy, or else when child fantasies are completely ignored. Most adults at-risk for sexually abusing children are afraid of "encouraging" sexual attraction to children through masturbation. The idea is to face your sexuality head on - and fantasize to the first child that comes to mind.

A pedophile is not an anger packet attached to an adult. A pedophile is a human being with a sexual preference for children under age 14. Most pedophilia is a mental health disorder involving immature autism, meaning arrested psychosexual development usually associated with an autistic specialty in children. Most pedophiles get along with their child attraction figures by way of acting as a defense attorney, meaning defending a child when the child is punished by parents. Most autistic adults do not get along with children, meaning they find children to be "too noisy" or "too chaotic". However, if someone with autism gets along with children, meaning just "gets" children, think pedophile. If a pedophile talks about their latest crush all of the time, think a sex offender of the obvious type.

Most pedophiles who do sexually abuse children commit their crimes for different reasons than most adults who sexually abuse a child. Most abuser pedophiles either have a series of sexual crushes on children like train cars, or else rape a child due to a mental disability. In most all cases, abuser pedophiles simply need to learn boundaries. Most non-pedophilic sex offenders know the boundaries, but don't care. 

I myself have a few offenses under my belt. My main moral crime in relation to children was sexual harassment, usually in the form of street harassment. I am currently being investigated for sexual harassment against a cousin of mine in my grandparents' attic. I have agreed to cooperate with the powers that be. This post is being monitored by the police, and so I feel obligated to be transparent in my dealings with police. The police are putting the finishing touches on the investigation, before shutting down the investigation entirely. I was found not guilty in the police investigation despite having an offense under my belt, because I meant no harm towards my cousin, or any child for that matter. I harbor no anger at any child, and offended out of curiosity for the child form. 

Most child sexual abuse is committed by parents, and many times, the mother is complicit in the abuse. The sexual dynamic in any child's home comes in the form of a criss-cross. Most fathers and daughters have a sexual attraction that is mutually unrequited in its proper application. Sons are attracted to mothers in the form of a dead end in most cases. The idea is to masturbate to thoughts of your daughter, and face that sexual fantasy head on. If this simple advice was taken by parents, most child sexual abuse wouldn't happen. 

Most pedophiles can feel a hysteria that is brewing. Most pedophiles and their allies blame trauma survivors for the admit stigma to pedophilia. However, the hysteria comes from the Roman Catholic Church, with Pope Constantine issuing an ex cathedra decree stating that whenever someone admitted to attraction to children, that they lose all of their friends and family. The actual hatred of pedophiles is not a form of triangulation against children, but instead a mental health stigma against admitting to being a pedophile. Most mental disorders are shameful to admit to, even when the sufferer needs help. A pedophile should have the ability to reach out for help whenever they need it. 

There are two camps of pro-pedophile advocacy - "defend the criminals" or "pedophiles are capable of great things". These days, most trauma survivors lean towards the latter pro-pedophile lobby. Most pedophiles are not criminals in need of legal defense. A pedophile is a victim/abuser, meaning they are usually a tested victim, but are capable of child sexual abuse due to their nature. A pedophile is not an abuser, as much as they replicate an abuser. Thus, blaming all pedophiles for child sexual abuse might lead to lumping a victim in with their abuser. Pedophiles in the Early Church were allowed to give parenting advice as clergymen, and some took in children when nobody else wanted an orphaned child. Most of the time, a woman of the clergy was the one taking in children, but when all else failed, the pedophile took in the child. Pedophiles were never allowed sexual access to children in the Early Church, but even the men of the clergy who took in children lactated when the child was still nursing.

Most adults attracted to children are not pedophiles. Most adults have an attraction to teenagers, and some women especially "swing low" due to feeling unsafe around men their age due to a "man" trauma. Most adults who sexually abuse children choose teenage victims, not prepubescent victims. Usually, with career offenders, they commit a string of rapes before regressing into underage victims. Some pedophiles do offend against children sexually, and mean harm by it. However, such cases are rare. Most pedophiles who sexually abuse a child do so because they don't know the boundaries. 1 in 4 pedophiles have sexually offended against children, and usually, it is not done out of intent to harm unlike most child sexual abuse. If an offense is committed apart from intent to harm, and the offender means well, the police cut you a break. 

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape and sexually abuse children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents which is the lake of fire and burning sulfur prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Honoring parents: Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Many parents feel entitled to respect from their children. Most parents cite the Fifth Commandment as an excuse for punishing children. Many parents punish their children merely for speaking against parents, thus citing the Fifth Commandment. However, the Bible does not prohibit merely speaking against parents. The Bible bans elder neglect.

The Fifth Commandment states in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

The Hebrew word translated "honour" is kabad and refers to a specific way to honor your parents - care for them as they age. The idea is to give them the same tender loving care that you got from them when you were younger. However, if you were abused by your parents as a child, you owe nothing to those parents.

Speaking against parents is commonly mistaken for actual dishonoring of parents, with this perceived "dishonor" from children being a common motive for punishing children. In many homes, speaking against parents alone is a main reason for punishment. However, the Bible prohibits all punitive parenting of children, including when parents feel dishonored. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

Punitive measures are not the way to get your child to honor you. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards children. The idea is not to spank or punish your child for perceived dishonor from children. However, it is not enough to avoid spanking or punishing unruly children. You need to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults. Just like with relations between adults, hurt feelings are inevitable in children when bringing them up. Thus, parents should be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever they hurt the feelings of their child, lest it officially be an offense. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent when children cannot accept a limit not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including when children are "dishonoring" towards you as a parent, you definitely need to give a formal apology for hurting their feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and the commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool as a parent alone is entitlement, and even was seen as entitlement in the Early Church.  The main reason why parents use punitive measures with children is that children "dishonor" parents by "speaking against" parents. In some homes, perceived disrespect from children is the number one reason for punitive measures. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

Honoring parents, as a commandment, does not prohibit speaking against parents. Speaking against parents was allowed in the Early Church. What was not allowed, by default, was refusing to care for your aging parents as they age. However, some adult children were abused by their parents, and want nothing to do with them. The bare minimum you have to do to honor your parents today is to find a nursing home for parents. You can speak against them at any time.

I myself am a survivor of law-abiding parents. My parents are apologetic for how they treated me, but I will always remember how they treated me. My parents both punished me with false imprisonment tactics, with my father giving disciplinary spankings done "out of love". The only time that you have to forgive your parents is if they give a meaningful apology for how they treated you. Even then, you can always go back on your forgiveness for your parents if they weren't truly sorry. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Child abuse definitions: Why the Bible calls for stronger laws against child abuse

Many parents think that the ancients in the Bible had no concept of childhood, let alone child abuse. Most American parents support the current child abuse definitions. However, the Bible has its own definition of child abuse - whatever the child victim perceives as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of parents being sorely disappointed when children don't give them what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children, just for existing. Even any parent anger directed towards children is parental entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. Whenever this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards children. Child abuse in the Bible, as a legal concept, consists of entitlement in parents, leading to offense in children. The key to not abusing your child is to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in adults. Just like with relationships between adults, hurt feelings are inevitable in children when bringing them up. Thus, parents should avoid offense in their children by giving them a meaningful apology whenever you hurt their feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent when children cannot accept a limit not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while setting a limit, you definitely need to give a formal apology for hurting your child's feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as any parent anger directed towards children is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement even in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christians who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it, obeying God over men.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers here to long-term damages, namely childhood trauma. The ancients had a basic understanding of childhood trauma. Whenever children grew up to be atheist, shame fell onto their parents, meaning never onto the atheist child. Atheism was seen then as a sign of childhood trauma, not a "lost soul" to be "won over".

The ancients even had a basic understanding of child sexual abuse. The Greek root word translated "fornication" is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers here to any sexual relations outside of marriage. One form of sexual relations then seen as child sexual abuse was any sexual relations with a child. Even giving children sexual or amorous attention was seen as child sexual abuse then, even if the child liked it. Sexually abusing a child, in the Old Testament, was seen as a capital offense. Child sexual abuse was rare in the biblical context, meaning next to non-existent. Mere pedophilia, meaning sexual preferences for children under age 14, was not banned then, and a pedophile then could ask for help whenever they couldn't go it alone. 

Child abuse was prosecuted in the Early Church by way of church investigation. In most cases, the investigation started with a child confiding with a clergyperson about their home life. Then, the council subpoenaed for the parents to testify in court. If the parents defended themselves at all in court, they were excommunicated from the Early Christian Churches of God. 

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - were written by Jews, with no Jew worth mentioning ever endorsing any punitive parenting of children. Each of the biblical writers wrote a parenting manual that endorsed attachment parenting. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting for minor children. The rod of correction in Proverbs refers specifically to the 40 minus 1 lashes, meaning a sentence for a crime, with fathers being deputized by the Sanhedrin to administer the blows.

America is a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian values. We as a society glean from the Bible and its context in order to know how to live and treat each other with respect. Even our legal codes are based off of the Bible. However, it just so happened that the parenting manuals written in biblical times were not translated into English until the 1960s. Thus, we were in the dark as a Christian society as to how to deal with children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torrents, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Benign" deprivation: Why saying "no" to children "frequent and often" can be child abuse

Many parents think that children need to hear the word "no" from parents "frequent and often". This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most Americans believe in the doctrine of "benign" deprivation, which basically amounts to saying "no" to a child for every little thing. However, saying "no" all of the time can be seen as child abuse under God's Law.

God's Law on child abuse is spelled out in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards children. The key to not abusing your child is to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children includes avoiding saying "no" to every little thing a child wants. A child should only hear the word "no" from parents when absolutely necessary, meaning almost never. Sometimes, a child cannot accept the word "no" even when necessary, in which case the parent should be willing to give a meaningful apology to children. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent, when children cannot accept the word "no" when not given out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to say no to X for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while saying "no" to your child, you should definitely give a formal apology to children for hurting their feelings when their feelings are hurt by your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to never losing your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool with your child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christians who brought into the church their pagan parenting customs, which were punitive on children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

Under customary law in the Early Church, as a general rule, the word "no" was prohibited in parenting. The only exceptions were if the petitioned requests from the child was unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. When children could not accept the word "no", parents apologized to children, usually in the form of reassurance of good intent. However, whenever parents said "no" out of anger, they definitely were required to give a formal apology for abusing a child with the word "no". But, most parents found nicer-sounding phrases to decline a request, such as "that won't work", "that isn't possible", or "that can't happen".

Parenting in the Early Church was not motivated by anger, with any parenting motivated by anger being seen as akin to a viper lashing out at an unsuspecting child. Maybe the child was given a warning, but that's about it. Most Christian parents in the Early Church were motivated by worry or concern, not anger. Most of the time, the word "no" from Christian parents in the Early Church was given out of worry or concern, not anger.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke your children to anger through punitive parenting will nor inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Biblical spanking": Why the rod verses in Proverbs are repealed verses

Many parents think that the Bible says somewhere "spare the rod, spoil the child". This saying is nowhere in the Bible. However, the Bible mentions the rod of correction 6 times in the book of Proverbs. But, the rod verses in Proverbs are repealed verses.

One commonly cited rod verse is Proverbs 13:24 KJV:

He who spareth his rod hateth his son: but he who loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

The Hebrew word translated "son" is ben and refers to a mature adult son. The Hebrew word translated "rod" is shebet and refers to the rod of correction, coming in the form of a switch. This passage ultimately refers to the 40 minus 1 lashes, administered to the bare back, as a sentence for a crime. Striking a fellow Jew outside of a courtroom setting was unlawful then. Striking a minor child was always wrong then. The reason for this commandment is that otherwise, Jewish parents would refuse to whip their adult children. The court then would deputize the father to whip his errant son, and usually, fathers were hesitant to administer the blows.

Christ abolished the harsh punishments in the Old Testament by way of doing His Work on the cross. Christ endured corporal punishment unjustly, and thus corporal punished in any case was banned in the Early Church. Before Christ was nailed to the cross, He was administered a whipping to the bare back, also coming in the form of 40 minus 1 lashes. 

The book of Proverbs does not give parenting advice. However, the Bible does weigh in on the spanking issue, and then some. See Colossians 3:21 KJV: 

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards children. It is one thing to stop spanking children. However, it is not enough to stop spanking or punishing children. You need to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults - be willing to apologize for hurting the feelings of another, especially in the case of children. Hurt feelings are inevitable in parenting, just like it is inevitable in relationships with other adults. Thus, when you do hurt your child's feelings, you should apologize for hurting their feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is reassurance of good intent, coming from parents when children could not accept a limit not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while setting limits, you need to give a formal apology for hurting your child's feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to losing your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool alone with your child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The staple punishment for children in Ancient Greece was a spanking to the bare bottom. Spanking originated as a pagan custom infiltrating the Early Christian church parishes. Paul would have none of it, and used his inspired pen to convict the scofflaw parents who punished their children.

Any parent anger directed towards a child was seen as entitlement then. Christian parents in the Early Church were not motivated by anger, and instead were motivated by worry or concern. Anger directed towards children was seen then as akin to a viper. Maybe children were given a warning, but not by much. 

"Biblical spanking" is a man-made teaching. King Solomon himself advocated for attachment parenting in his secular writings. King Solomon issued a parenting manual for Jewish parents to use as reference in parenting. This parenting manual advocated against spanking. All of the other biblical writers advocated attachment parenting as well. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will nor inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Hebrews 12:5-6: Why this passage is not a pro-spanking passage

Many parents use the Bible as an excuse for punishing children. This is common belief that is spread by pro-spanking pastors and priests. Most clergypersons cite several Bible verses out of context. The teaching of "biblical spanking" is held together by the passage in Heb. 12:5-6. The fact of the matter is that this passage has nothing to do with earthly parenting. Instead, it has to do with enduring hardship.

God's Word on enduring hardship is stated in Hebrews 12:5-6 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation that speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou are rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth,

When interpreted correctly, this passage can be comforting to me. The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μαστιγόω (Latin: mastigoó) and can have a figurative meaning to it. This sort of figurative language is known as "rod language", meaning that when you had a long day at work, you instead said "God whipped me hard today". God does not literally reach down from the heavens and whip His children. However, God punishes His children, like only He can, sending trials and tribulations the way of His children whom He loves the most. However, God only punishes His children when it does not harm them, whereas earthly parents only punish their children when it does harm them. This passage was written to the Hebrew Christians to reassure them in their persecution from Rome.

God never intended for His Parenting strategies to be used by earthly parents. The Bible does not discuss any sort of biblical spanking. However, the Bible does weigh in on the spanking issue, and then some. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards a child. It is one thing to stop spanking children. However, it is not enough to stop spanking or punishing children. You need to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults - be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt the feelings of another, especially in the case of children. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent coming from parents when children cannot accept a limit not set our of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while setting limits, you should definitely give a formal apology for hurting their feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool with your child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This is commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christians who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", including the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The staple punishment for children in Ancient Greece was spanking to the bare bottom. Parents in the Early Church were punishing children and claiming such acts to be "Christian". Paul would have none of it in the churches that he oversaw as deacon. He convicted the Greek Christians of their pagan parenting custom, and then they had no choice but to conform to the norm of the church.

Parenting in the Early Church was not motivated by anger. Instead, Christian parents in the Early Church set limits out of worry or concern. Worry or concern was what motivated parenting then. Anger at children then was seen as akin to a viper striking out at an unsuspecting child. Maybe the child was given a warning, but not by much. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

 

Redefining child abuse: Why the Bible calls for stronger laws against child abuse

Many parents think that the ancients in the Bible had no concept of childhood, let alone child abuse. Most American parents support the present-day child abuse definitions. However, the Bible has its own definition of child abuse - whatever the child victim perceives as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin  pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent who is sorely disappointed when children don't give them what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Even any parent anger directed towards a child is parental entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. Whenever this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards children. Child abuse in the Bible, as a legal concept, consists of entitlement in parents, leading to offense in children. The key to not abusing your child is to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults - be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt someone's feelings, including in the case of children. Usually all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent when children cannot accept a limit not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limits for Y reasons". But, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including when setting a limit, you definitely need to give a formal apology to your child for hurting their feelings with your anger such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool with your child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase translating roughly to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers here to long-term damages, namely childhood trauma. The ancients in the Bible had a basic understanding of childhood trauma. If a child grew up to be atheist, it was seen as a sign of trauma, not merely a case of a "lost soul" worth "winning over". 

The ancients in the Bible even had a concept of child sexual abuse. The Greek root word translated "fornication" is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers here to any sexual advances towards a child, including when perceived by a child. Most child sexual abuse then was committed by parents, even in the case of sodomy against young boys. In the case of female victims, fathers usually acted on a sexual attraction to his daughter. Most men then knew to masturbate to sexual attractions to children. Child sexual abuse then was rare, meaning next to non-existent.

Child abuse then was prosecuted by way of a church investigation into a child's home life. This usually started when a child confided into a clergyperson about experiencing child abuse when at home. The elders of the church then subpoenaed the parents to testify before the council. If the parents defended their abusive conduct at all, they were excommunicated from the Early Christian Churches of God.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - were written by Jews, with no Jew worth mentioning ever endorsing punitive measures in parenting. Each writer of the Bible, as well as Christ Himself, wrote parenting manuals advocating attachment parenting Even King Solomon wrote an attachment parenting manual for the little ones, with the rod of correction referring to a sentence for a crime, namely the 40 minus 1 lashes.

America is a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian values. We as a society glean from the Bible and its context in order to know how to behave and treat each other with respect. Even our legal codes are based off of the Bible. It just so happens that the parenting manuals in the biblical context were not translated into English until the 1960s.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torrents, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!