Many parents have heard the phrase "spare the rod, spoil the child". That was saying that got me to be an atheist for half of my life. Most parents in America think that this phrase is a part of the Bible. Instead, this phrase paraphrases a set of passages in the book of Proverbs depicting the rod of correction. Most parents don't realize that these verses are repealed verses
God's Word depicting the rod of correction is spelled out in several verses, including Proverbs 13:24 KJV:
He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.
The Hebrew word translated "rod" is shebet and refers here to the rod of correction, which was a switch. The Hebrew word translated "son" is ben and refers here to an mature adult son. This passage denotes the 40 minus 1 lashes, applied to the bare back, within a courtroom setting, as a sentence for a crime. It was unlawful then to whip a fellow Jew outside of a courtroom setting. It was unlawful then to strike a minor child for any reason in the Old Testament. The reason for this verse is that, otherwise, the father would refuse to whip his son. The father was deputized by the court to administer the blows, and he was usually an unwilling participant in the prosecution of his adult son. Jewish parents then were the type to shield their children from blame, even when their children were adults.
The Sacrifice of Jesus Christ worked to end the harsh punishments of the Old Testament. Christ outlawed all corporal punishments by suffering corporal punishment unjustly in the form of the 40 minus 1 lashes at the hands of the Romans before being executed.
The Bible does not refer to a biblical spanking in the book of Proverbs. However, God does weigh in on the spanking issue, and then some. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:
Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.
The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards a child. It is one thing to stop spanking your child. However, it is not enough to stop spanking or punishing your children. You need to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults - be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt your child's feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent coming from parents, such as when a child cannot accept an ordinary limit not set out of anger. However, if you ever lose your cool as a parent, including when setting a limit, you should definitely apologize to your child, and then commit never to ever lose your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool with a child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christians who brought with them into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translated to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.
The staple punishment in Ancient Greece was a spanking to the bare bottom with an open hand. This was a pagan way of dealing with children. The Early Christians shunned the outside world, with Paul here would have none of that pagan parenting in the churches that he oversaw.
Any parent anger directed towards a child was considered entitled parenting in the Early Church. Parental entitlement is defended as a backbone of sorts, meaning basically that the parent focuses on anger at their child as opposed to trauma from being punished as a child. Any angry parents with anger directed toward a child in the Early Church were seen as akin to a viper lashing out at its prey - maybe the child was warned beforehand, but not by much.
The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!