Child abuse definitions: Why the Bible calls for expanding child abuse definitions

Many parents believe that the Bible has no concept of child abuse apart from obeying the law of the land. Most American parents support the present-day definitions of child abuse under state and federal law. However, the Bible has its own definition of child abuse - whatever the child victim perceives as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent being sorely disappointed when they don't get the well-behaved their child that they feel that they deserve. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing in relation to children just for existing. Even any parent anger directed towards a child is parental entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. Whenever this sense of entitlement in the Early Church was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. Child abuse in the Bible, as a legal concept, consists of entitlement in parents, leading to offense in children. The key to not abusing your child is to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults. Just as hurt feelings are inevitable in relations between adults, hurt feelings are also inevitable in children when dealing with them. This, in order to avoid offense in children, you need to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt your child's feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent coming from parents, in the form of an informal apology, whenever you hurt your child's feelings with limits not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while setting limits, you definitely need to give a formal apology for hurting your child's feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my cool with you", and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as any parent anger directed towards a child is parental entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin term roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. However, this commandment was ultimately received by the parish at Colossae as prohibiting offenses as perceived by a child. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers here to long-term damages, namely childhood trauma. The ancients in the Bible had a basic concept of childhood trauma. Whenever a child grew up to be atheist, shame fell onto the parents for being too harsh on their child. An atheist in the Early Church was seen as an abused child, not a "lost soul" to "win over". 

The ancients in the Bible even had a concept of child sexual abuse. The Greek root word translated "fornication" is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers here to any sexual relations outside of the context of a Christian marriage between one adult man and one adult woman, with this marriage having to be equal in nature. A groom was only allowed a bride his age or up to 4 years older. Intergenerational marriages were prohibited in the Early Church, as was any sexual relations with children. Most child sexual abuse then happened in the form of father-child incest, with daughters being the usual topic. Most men in particular, in the Early Church avoided sexually abusing children by way of masturbating to thoughts of children, with this masturbation being for health reasons, meaning to stay out of trouble with the ladies or the children. Child sexual abuse was rare in the biblical context, meaning it was next to non-existent. Whenever a child was sexually abused in the biblical context, it was a huge moral outrage that shocked the community. Child sexual abuse was not hidden on the gaslighting level then like it is today, but instead was hidden close enough to the surface that the child knew what was happening, and then self-reported their abuse to the church authorities.

It is a myth that the Early Christians were well-integrated into Greco-Roman society. The fact of the matter is that Christians in the 1st Century lived in urban enclaves, shunning the outside world, being policed into urban ghettos. The Early Christians even had their own court system that was binding until the turn of the 2nd Century. The Early Christians also had their own culture and customs, separate from Rome.

Child abuse was prosecuted in the Early Church by way of internal church investigation. This investigation started when a child confided into a clergyperson about their home life. From there, the parents were summoned to testify before a council of 3 elders, with this council here presiding over the investigation in an inquisitorial manner. If the parents defended themselves at all in court, as opposed to answering directly to the court, they were excommunicated from the Early Christian Churches of God, for their entitlement alone. 

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - were written by anti-spanking Jews, with no Jew worth mentioning ever endorsing anything punitive with a child. All of the biblical writers also wrote parenting manuals that advocated attachment parenting. Even King Solomon issued an attachment parenting manual for parents of minor children, with the rod in Proverbs referring to the 40 minus 1 lashes, administered to an adult Jew, as a sentence for a crime. It just so happens that these attachment parenting manuals were not translated into English until the 1960s. However, these attachment parenting manuals were known to the Jewish world long before then./

The Bible is America's book. America is a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian values. We as a society glean from the Bible and its context as to know how to live and treat each other with respect. Even our legal codes, under the English common law, mostly come from the Bible. However, the legal defense of "reasonable chastisement" is based off of a dated understanding of the Bible. It is about time we repeal the "reasonable chastisement" defense, and expand our child abuse definitions to include anything perceived by a child victim as abuse. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torrents, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

 

Original sin: How to talk to your children about the flaws of mankind

Original sin is one of the most misused of all Christian teachings. However, original sin is the backbone of Christianity. Without original sin, Christ would have died in vain. Original sin is not something to accuse a child of. Instead, YOU need to regard yourself as a sinner in order to be saved.

We as human beings are flawed creatures. God hates most all of mankind, as mankind has turned his back on God. God only loves a few human beings who are His elect. All of mankind is deserving of absolutely nothing just for existing. There is nothing good about human nature. I myself am a depraved and decadent sinner deserving of absolutely nothing, and am grateful for everything that I have. Children can also be convicted of the doctrine of original sin, but that should come without sin shaming. 

God's Law on child discipline, including religious instruction, is spelled out in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

This first stanza of this commandment prohibits sin shaming towards children. The Greek root word translated "provoke....to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. The key here is to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults. Just like hurt feelings are inevitable in relations between adults, hurt feelings are also inevitable in children when dealing with them. One thing that hurts a child's feelings is being called a "sinner" in the perjorative tense. Thus in order to avoid offense in a child that is sinning, you need to avoid calling them a sinner, or stop punishing them for their sins entirely for that matter. If you ever lose your cool at all with your child as a parent, including when children sin, you definitely need to give a formal apology for hurting your child's feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as any parent anger directed towards a child alone is parental entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This stanza of this commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan parenting customs, which were punitive in nature. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

Original sin, as a Christian teaching, does not have to be beaten into a child. Instead, all that is necessary is a brief talk about the topic. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and is more aptly translated as "instruction" in more modern versions of the Bible. The Apostle Paul here was discussing religious instruction. Starting at age 6, fathers left out a Bible for the child to discover and explore, with the Bible left open to a reassuring passage, such as the
Parable of the Sheep and the Goats. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement to keep on studying the Bible. Fathers then interjected something along the lines of "you can ask me anything about that book". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, with children being curious about Scripture, and with fathers quick to give pointers on the context. At some point, somewhere in the beginning of a child's religious development, children are bound to ask "Why did Jesus have to die?", in which case you should respond "We as human beings are sinners, and thus we needed a Savior so that God can forgive our sins". 

Children were not seen as "sinful swats" in the Early Church. Children were instead seen as next to God, with God Almighty identifying with the vulnerability of children. The Early Christians did not practice child worship proper, but pretty close to it. See Matt. 25:31-46. 

It is easy to call out your child on their sins. But, it is a whole other thing to convict yourself of your sins. ALL of mankind has a fallen nature, as ALL human beings are sinners deserving of absolutely nothing. Not just children. ALL of us as human beings have fallen from grace. God rescued us from a peacekeeping past, and our human genome is flawed due to our peacekeeping nature as human beings. The idea is to focus on your own sins, and not your child's sins. They will learn how to avoid sin and entitlement just by watching you and copying your example.

The teaching of original sin is something that children do need to know if they want to be good Christians. Most children are spiritually curious as children. Thus, they might just learn about their sinful nature on their own. If they can call themselves sinners at all, they are on the right path. If they as you questions about mankind being sinful, inform them in a way that is gentle and sensitive. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Passing down the faith: How to instruct your child in the Lord without punishment or shaming

Many parents want their children to have values. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents want their children to have religion. However, most Christian parents in this country in particular, feel the need to beat a religion into a child. But, the fact of the matter is that children don't need a religion beaten into them. Religion is a base human need for children and adults alike.

God's Law on child discipline, including religious instruction, is spelled out in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

This first stanza of this commandment clarifies for the second that religious instruction should not hurt. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement  It is one thing to stop spanking your child, including in order to "break their will". However, it is not enough to stop spanking your child when they don't obey religious orders, or even stop punishing children altogether for that matter. You need to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults. Just as hurt feelings are inevitable in relations between adults, hurt feelings are also inevitable in children when dealing with them. Thus, in order to avoid offense in children, you need to be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt your child's feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent coming from parents, in the form of an informal apology, whenever you hurt your child's feelings with limits not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while setting limits, you definitely need to give a formal apology for hurting your child's feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as any parent anger directed toward children alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This stanza of this commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin term roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. However, this stanza of this commandment was ultimately received by the parish at Ephesus as prohibiting offending children in any way, as is perceived by a child. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

There is no need to beat a religion into a child. Children go through their own religious development, with religion being a base need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and is more aptly translated as "instruction" in more modern versions of the Bible. The Apostle Paul here was discussing religious instruction. Starting at age 6, fathers left out a Bible for children to discover and explore, with this Bible left open to a reasssuring passage, such as the Parable of the Sheep and the Goats. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged to keep studying the Bible. Fathers then interjected something along the lines of "you can ask me anything about that book". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, with children being curious about Scripture, and with fathers being quick to give pointers on the context. 

A common way for Christian parents to impose their religious beliefs onto their child is through "breaking their will". The idea is that as soon as a child becomes mobile, that they need a will to be "made God's Will". However, a child does not have any will to be broken. A child instead simply wants things  even if they cannot have them. A child should get most of what they want, and everything that they need. 

Most religious child abuse happens when parents rush their child's natural religious development. One  example is with grateful postures, which many Christian parents forcing their children to assume grateful postures. However, I myself tie my hands behind my back, and nobody made me assume that position. Grateful postures are simply something to look for in children to know that they are in the right religious place.

Most Christian parents these days do not insists on children keeping all of their teachings. Most Christian parents these days want their children to pick a set of values and run with it. It may not be your values, but at least that they have values. Most children develop a religion naturally, without any input from parents..

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

Defiance: Why not to punish your defiant child

Many parents have been there. A child defying the limits of parents. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents punish their children for defying them. However, your child is not out to get you. Your child simply cannot accept a set limit.

God's Law on dealing with defiance in children is spelled out in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is one thing to stop spanking your defiant child. However, it not enough to stop spanking your defiant child, or even stop punishing them altogether for that matter. You need to avoid offense in children. One way to avoid offense in children is to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt your child's feelings with your limits. One way that children voice displeasure for set limits is by being defiant. Whenever your child defies your limits, you need to be willing to give a meaningful apology for hurting their feelings with your limits, lest it officially be an offense. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent coming from parents, in the form of an informal apology, whenever you hurt your child's feelings with limits not set out of anger. such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while setting limits, you definitely need to give a formal apology for hurting your child's feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as any parent anger directed towards a child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin term roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. However, this commandment was ultimately received as prohibiting offending children as perceived by the child, at minimum. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings, Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

Defiance is a normal behavior in children of all age groups. At some point, your child is going to defy your limits. The idea is to apologize to your child whenever you hurt their feelings with their limits. Usually, children will understand, and forgive your apology. If they don't forgive you. you traumatized them. 

Anger is not a valid motivation to be a parent. Most parents in the United States are motivated to be parents by an entitled backbone. However, most parenting in the Early Church was motivated by worry, not anger. Anger at a child alone was seen as entitlement in the Early Church, with parent anger at children being likeend then to a viper lashing out at a child - maybe the child was given some warning, but that was about it. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the eecond death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into ths abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Redefining child abuse: Why the Bible calls for tougher laws against child abuse

Many parents think that the Bible has no concept of child abuse apart from obeying the law of the land. This is a common belief amongst American parents. Most American parents support the present-day definitions of child abuse under state and federal law. However, God's Law is above the law of the land. The Bible has its own definition of child abuse - whatever the child victim perceives as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent who is sorely disappointed when they don't get the well-behaved child that they feel that they deserve. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing in relation to children just for existing. Even any parent anger directed towards a child is parental entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. Whenever this sense of entitlement in parents, in the Early Church, was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. Child abuse in the Bible, as a legal concept, consists of entitlement in parents, leading to offense in children. The key to not abusing your child is to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults. Just like hurt feelings are inevitable in relations between adults, hurt feelings are inevitable in children when dealing with them. Thus, in order to avoid offense in children, you need to be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt your child's feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent coming from parents, in the form of an informal apology, whenever you hurt your child's feelings with limits not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while setting limits, you definitely need to give a formal apology for hurting your child's feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as any parent anger directed towards a child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin term roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. However, this commandment was ultimately received by the parish at Colossae as prohibiting offending children, as perceived by the child. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers here to long-term damages, namely childhood trauma. The ancients in the Bible had a basic concept of childhood trauma. Whenever a child grew up to be atheist, shame fell onto the parens, meaning not the child, for the parents being too hard on the child. An atheist was seen in the Early Church as an abused child, not a "lost soul" to be "won over".

The ancients even had a concept of child sexual abuse. The Greek root word translated "fornication" is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers here to any sexual relations outside of the context of a Christian marriage between one adult man and one adult woman, with this marriage being equal in nature. A groom was only allowed to marry a bride his age or up to 4 years older. Any intergenerational marriage was banned in the Early Church. Most child sexual abuse then came in the form of father-child incest, with daughters being the usual targets. Parents ultimately coped with parent attractions to children by masturbating to sexual thoughts of his child. Child sexual abuse was rare in the biblical context, meaning next to non-existent, When child sexual abuse did happen, it was a huge moral outrage. Child sexual abuse was not hidden on the gaslighting level like it is today, meaning children knew exactly what was happening, and usually self-reported their own abuse.

It is a myth that the Early Christians were well-integrated into broader Greco-Roman society. Instead, the Early Christians lived in urban enclaves, being policed into ghettos by the Roman authorities, shunning the outside world. Christians in the Early Church had their own culture, and their own customs. The Early Christians even had their own court system, with this court system being legally binding until the turn of the 2nd Century. 

Child abuse in the Early Church was prosecuted by way of internal church investigation. This investigation usually started with a child confiding into a clergyperson about their home life. From there, the parents were summoned to appear before a council of 3 elders who would decide the fate of parents. If the parents defended themselves at all, instead of answering directly to the court, they were excommunicated from the Early Christian Churches of God, for their entitlement alone.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - were written by anti-spanking Jews, with no Jew worth mentioning ever condoning any punitive measures in parenting. All of the biblical writers also wrote parenting manuals that advocated attachment parenting. Even King Solomon wrote an attachment parenting manual, with the rod in Proverbs referring to the 40 minus 1 lashes as a sentence for a crime. It just so happens that these attachment parenting manuals were not translated into English until the 1960s.

The Bible is America's book. America is a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian values. We as  a society glean from the Bible and its context in order to know how to live and treat each other with respect. Even our legal codes, under the English common law, are based off of Christian teaching. However, the legal defense of "reasonable chastisement" is based off of a dated understanding of the Bible. It is about time we repeal the "reasonable chastisement" defense, and expand child abuse definitions to include anything perceived by a child victim as abuse. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torrents, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Positive reinforcement: How to discipline your child without punitive measures

Many parents want their children to have discipline. This is a common goal for American parents. However, most American parents equate discipline with punishment. But, the fact of the matter is that there are better ways to discipline a child than to punish them. The idea is to catch your child being good instead of catching them being bad. 

God's Law on child discipline is spelled out in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

This first stanza of this commandment states that discipline should not hurt. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is one thing to stop spanking your child. However, it is not enough to simply stop spanking your child, or even stop punishing them altogether for that reason. You need to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults. Just as hurt feelings are inevitable in relations between adults, hurt feelings are also inevitable in children when dealing with them. Thus, in order to avoid offense in children, you need to be willing to give a meaningful apology to your child whenever you hurt their feelings. Usually all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent coming from parents, in the form of an informal apology, whenever a child's feelings are hurt by limits not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while setting limits, you definitely need to give a formal apology for hurting your child's feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as any parent anger directed towards a child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This first stanza of this commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christians who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin term roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. However, this first stanza of this commandment ultimately was received as prohibiting offending any child, as perceived by a child. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The second stanza of this commandment spells out what discipline is appropriate for a child, with the first stanza ruling out anything punitive with a child. The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here to a certain specific form of nurturing, namely of the teaching sort. Parents looked for preferred behaviors in children, including discipline and self-control. When children were caught showing preferred behaviors, they were lavishly praised and encouraged to keep up the good behavior. Christian parents in the Early Church imparted a good example for children to follow, but backed it up with praise and encouragement, not punishment or shaming. Children also need religious instruction, as religion is a base human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and is better translated as "instruction" in more modern versions of the Bible.  The Apostle Paul here was discussing religious instruction. Starting at age 6, fathers left out a Bible for children to discover and explore, with the Bible being left open to a reassuring passage, such as the Parable of the Sheep and the Goats. Children then taught themselves how to read on the Bible. Whenever children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged to keep on studying the Bible, with fathers then interjecting something along the lines of "you can ask me anything about that book". From there, religious instruction came in the form of question and answer, with children being curious about Scripture, and with fathers giving pointers on the context. This second stanza ultimately denotes the Hebraic tradition of positive reinforcement. This Hebraic tradition of positive reinforcement is a Judeo-Christian tradition predating the coming of Christ by thousands of years.

Sometimes, children need limits. However, them accepting a limit is a whole other story. Many times, children cannot accept a limit set on them. Thus, whenever your child cannot accept a set limit, you need to apologize to your child for hurting their feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is an informal apology whenever you hurt your child's feelings with limits not set out of anger. However, whenever your child's feelings are hurt by way of parent anger, you definitely need to give a formal apology to children for hurting their feelings with their anger. Whenever you refuse to apologize to an upset child, you are entitled, with all parent anger directed towards a child being seen as entitlement in the Early Church.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

 

Pedophilic children: Why a pedophile can be a child

Most parents fear their child being sexually abused by pedophiles. This is a common fear that parents have for their child. However, most parents never bank on their child being a pedophile. But, the fact of the matter is that a child can be diagnosed with pedophilia as young as age 16, and can be identified as a pedophile even earlier. Pedophilia is a very real mental illness involving a genetic sexual preference for children under age 14. 

A pedophile is not necessarily a sexual abuser of children. A pedophile instead is an individual with a sexual preference for children under age 14. Pedophilia is not a narcissistic disorder, but instead involves arrested sexual development in terms of age-oriented sexual preferences, meaning pedophilia itself is a developmental disorder in terms of sexual predisposition. In most cases, pedophilia is secondary to a diagnosis of moderate-severe autism spectrum disorder. The pedophile is usually fully aware of their sexual predisposition towards children by their mid-teens, when pedophilic children grow up despite their attraction figures not growing up with the pedophile. Autism involves a narrow focus on a specific topic. Pedophilia is usually a form of autism involving a narrow focus on children. Most pedophilic teenagers have a child-centered form of autism where they get along great with much younger children. When an adult male with autism can easily nurture children, think pedophile, but the right kind.

Most people think that the hysteria against pedophiles started with trauma survivors. However, attraction to children was a concept long before the word "pedophile" was coined by Richard von Krafft-Ebing in the 1800s. Attraction to children was seen in the Early Church as a flaw that possibly could be used for good. A pedophile was oftentimes appointed church elder in the Early Church, and was charged with the role of giving parenting advice. However, when Rome took over the Western Church, Pope Constantine issued an order stating that when an adult admitted to sexual attraction to children, that "all must disperse" from both the adult attracted to children and all those who defended them. The word "pedophile" was intended as a way for someone with sexual attractions to children to be given a break. The word, however, was stolen again by "the pedophiles", meaning the Uncle Orange. However, the Uncle Orange was never representative of most pedophiles. Most pedophiles are anti-contact, in a way that they could never even admit to their condition without being lumped in with the Uncle Orange. Ultimately, the Uncle Orange overspoke most pedophiles, with knowledge of anti-contact pedophiles being kept among psychiatrists serving pedophiles. Trauma survivors feigned an opposition towards pedophiles, while realing an opposition to the Uncle Orange. They wanted a specific profile of pedophile to give them hope - the "little tykes" type.

The main profile of pedophile is the profile of "little tykes". A "little tykes" pedophile has a mental disability, in most cases in the form of moderate-severe autism spectrum disorder. A "little tykes" pedophile relates to children on their level, not a "Big/little" fashion. Most "little tykes" pedophiles have no capacity for anger at a child. 

Pedophiles have the same needs as an ordinary traumatic. Just like with trauma, a pedophile has a burden to unload onto a therapist. Thus, if your child discloses pedophilia to you, you should listen to them reassuringly. As with many cases of mental illness, in pedophiles, listening is half the battle.

It is a myth that being a pedophile is a sin. The Greek root word translated "fornication" in the Bible is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers here to anything outside of proper channels as understood then. The proper channels of sexual behavior then were sex with your wife, or else righteous masturbation without pornography. A pedophile can easily just masturbate to sexual thoughts of children, without any pornography of such. Most men in the Early Church left time in their masturbation habits for fantasies of minor children. A pedophile was treated in the Early Church as someone with a flaw, but with that flaw in and of itself not being a moral crime. 

Most pedophiles have a form of sexual shaming trauma from parents. Most pedophiles do not have parent jealousy, but instead have parent trauma from being sexually shamed by parents. Usually, these parents are Christian parents. Most parents of pedophilic children keep down the topic. I myself currently am well-adjusted as a pedophile, and that is because I have a mother and a therapist to talk over my sexual desires towards children with, with my mother being my accountability partner. I want all pedophiles to have the support that I have. 

If you think your child is a pedophile, the idea is to prepare a nest for the pedophile to rest in, inviting a pedophile disclosure. The idea is to say to them ahead of time, "if you ever say you are a pedophile, I will still love you". When they disclose that they are a pedophile, listen and validate their anguish. They aren't being manipulative. They are afraid out of their mind. Most pedophiles hate themselves, and hate themselves because they find themselves attracted to children, yet don't want to sexually abuse a child. That makes them a good person, not a bad person, and they need to know that they are a good person.

A pedophile is basically the man that mothers. Most pedophilic men in particular have a high nurturant drive in relation to children. I myself am a pedophile, and I dote on other people's children, including even babies. I also notice the attractiveness of young girls once they get to be of a certain age. I don't have driven attractions to children, but instead simply have connotational attractions to children, meaning that the young girl stands out in her attractiveness. That is because my mother allows for me to have "private time". I have a low sex drive as of late, but I do have a high drive to nurture a child. 

The depraved and entitled parents who sexually shame their pedophilic children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!