"Spare the rod, spoil the child": Why the rod passages in Proverbs are repealed passages

Many parents spank their children. Their main excuse for spanking children, arguably speaking, is 5 mentions in the Bible that mention the rod of correction. Most American parents believe that these verses in Proverbs condone or even command spanking children. However, the teaching of "biblical spanking" is  a man-made teaching. The rod passages in the book of Proverbs are repealed passages.

A total of 6 verses in Proverbs mention the rod explicitly. One favorite passage cited by pro-spanking parents in the Bible is Proverbs 13:24 KJV:

He who spareth his rod hateth his son: but he who loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

The Hebrew root word translated "son" is ben and refers to a mature adult son. The Hebrew root word translated "rod" is shebet and refers to the rod of correction, namely a switch. This passage ultimately refers to the 40 minus 1 lashes, administered to the bare back of an adult offender, in a courtroom setting, as a sentence for a crime. It was unlawful then to strike another adult Jew outside of the context of a courtroom. Striking a minor child was banned under Jewish law in all settings. The reason for this commandment was that, otherwise, Jewish fathers would shield even their adult sons from blame.

Christ died and Rose on the Third Day in order to repeal the harsh punishments of the Old Testament. Christ banned corporal punishment entirely by enduring corporal punishment unjustly before being placed onto the cross. The Early Christians never used corporal punishment as a means of church discipline. Instead, Christians who committed moral offenses were excommunicated if they defended their sins in open court. 

The teaching of "biblical spanking" is a man-made teaching. The Bible never legitimately condones or commands striking a child as a form of domestic corporal punishment. However, the Bible does weigh in on the spanking issue, and then some. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke....to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is one thing to stop spanking your children. However, it is not enough to stop spanking your children, or even stop punishing them altogether for that matter. You need to avoid offense in children. Whenever you hurt someone else's feelings, you need to apologize. It works the same way when dealing with children. Thus, in order to avoid offense in children, you need to be willing to apologize to your child for hurting their feelings. In many cases, all that is necessary is a reassurance coming from parents, in the form of an informal apology, for hurting your child's feelings with limits not set out of anger,, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limits for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, you definitely need to give a formal apology for hurting your child's feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for hurting your feelings with my temper", and then commit to never lose your cool with your child ever again, as any parent anger directed towards children is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin term roughly translated as "power to the parent" , namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. But, this commandment was ultimately received by the parish at Colossae as prohibiting causing offenses in children as perceived by a child, at minimum. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

Pro-spanking parents, in the Early Church, were seen as church infiltrators. These parents cited the same rod verses in Proverbs for pro-spanking excuses that parents cite today. Paul would have none of it in the churches that he oversaw as a deacon, and sent anti-spanking commandments to both the parishes ar Colossae and Ephesus. Contrary to popular legend, the Early Christians were not well-integrated into Greco-Roman society, with Christians then living in urban enclaves that shunned the outside world.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and bight forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Hebrews 12:5-6: Why this passage is not a pro-spanking passage

Many parents believe that the Bible condones or even commands the corporal punishment of children. Most Christian parents cite 5 passages in the book of Proverbs and 1 passage in the book of Hebrews as their "proof" of spanking being "biblical". However, the New Testament evidence cited for the teaching of "biblical spanking" sits on shaky ground. The passage in Hebrews 12:5-6 does not refer to earthly parenting, but instead refers to God sending trials and tribulations the way of the believer.

God's Word on enduring hardship is cited in Hebrews 12:5-6 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation that speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. 

This passage, when understood correctly, is comforting to me. The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μαστιγόω (Latin: mastigoó) and can have a figurative meaning to it. This metaphor is known as rod language. When a Christian man then got home from a long day at work, he instead said "God whipped me hard today". God does not literally come down from the Heavens and whip His children. However, God does punish His children, as only He can, sending trials and tribulations the way of His children that He loves the most. However, God only punishes His children when it does not harm them, whereas earthly parents only punish children when it does, in fact, harm them. The Apostle Paul here was reassuring the Hebrew Christians in their persecution from Rome. 

The teaching of "biblical spanking" is a man-made teaching. The Bible nowhere legitimately supports or commands the use of corporal punishment in parenting, with the rod verses in Proverbs referring to the 40 minus 1 lashes to an adult as a sentence for a crime. God does not want His Parenting methods to be used by earthly parents, lest they get it wrong. However, the Bible does touch on the spanking issue, and then some. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is one thing to stop spanking your child. However, it is not enough to simply stop spanking children, or even stop punishing your child altogether for that matter. You need to avoid offense in children. Whenever you hurt someone else's feelings, you need to apologize. It works the same when dealing with children. Thus, in order to avoid offense in children, you need to be willing to apologize to children whenever you hurt their feelings. In many cases, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent, in the form of an informal apology, whenever you hurt your child's feelings with limits not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, you definitely need to give a formal apology for hurting your child's feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for hurting your feelings with my temper", and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as any parent anger directed towards a child is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin term roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. But, this commandment ultimately was received by the parish at Colossae as prohibiting causing offenses in children as perceived by the child, at minimum. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his  secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men. 

The staple punishment in the broader Greco-Roman world was a spanking to the bare bottom with an open hand. However, most of the Early Christians shunned punitive parenting as of this world. However, some parishes had a clear problem with punitive parenting infiltrators. Paul would have none of it in the churches that he oversaw,  sending anti-spanking commandments to the parishes at Colossae and Ephesus. 

It is a myth that the Early Christians were well-integrated into Rome. Instead, the Early Christians lived in urban enclaves in major Greco-Roman cities, shunning the outside world. The Early Christians even had their own court system that was binding into the end of the 1st Century. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Honor parents: Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Many parents feel entitled to being honored. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents cite the Fifth Commandment as an excuse for using punitive measures on children. However, the commandment to honor parents refer to, in context, honor of a specific type - caring for parents as they age.

The Fifth Commandment is spelled out in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

And is repeated in Ephesians 6:2-3 KJV:

Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. 

The Greek root word translated "honour" in Eph. 6:2-3 is τιμαω (Latin: timao) and refers here to being a caregiver to someone else, in this context meaning being a caregiver to an aging parent. The idea is to give your parents the same kind and loving care that they gave you. However, this only works if you had a good upbringing from your parents. If your parents were at all abusive for you, you have the right to shun your abusive parents. The reason for this commandment was that the Ancient Israelites and the Ephesian Christians had an epidemic of elder abuse and neglect. 

Most parents today insist on respect from their children, and punish children for not respecting them. In some American homes, "dishonoring" parents is the sole reason for using punitive measures on children. However, punitive parenting, including child punishment, is prohibited in the Bible, including when parents feel "dishonored". See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" si ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is one thing to stop spanking your children, including when parents feel "dishonored" by their children's words or actions. However, it is not enough to stop spanking your child, or even stop punishing children altogether for that matter. You need to avoid offense in children. Whenever you hurt someone else's feelings, you need to apologize. It works the same way with children when dealing with them. Thus, in order to avoid offense in children, you need to be willing to apologize for hurting your child's feelings. In many cases, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent coming from parents, in the form of an informal apology, for hurting your child's feelings with limits not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limits for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while setting limits, you definitely need to give a formal apology for hurting your children's feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for hurting yoir feelings with my temper", and then commit never to lose your children ever again, as any parent anger directed towards a child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christians who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin term roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. But, this commandment was ultimately received by the parish at Colossae as prohibiting causing offenses in children, at minimum. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

Many children in America live under tyrannical rule. Most American parents spank their children from time to time, or else sit them in a chair as a form of false imprisonment. This is all rooted in the misinterpretation of the Fifth Commandment. However  the Fifth Commandment simply means to give back to your parents in some way, namely by caring for them as they age. However, if you were abused by your parents as a child, you have the right to shun your parents.

A parent must never demand respect from their children, as this alone is parental entitlement. Instead, the idea is to earn respect from children by giving them the respect that they deserve. This means respecting their feelings by striving to always apologizing for hurting their feelings, especially in the case of parent anger directed towards children. Respect in life is earned, and it is no different with parents in relation to their children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Redefining child abuse: Why the Bible calls for tougher laws on the books protecting children from abuse

Many parents think that the Bible has no concept of child abuse apart from obeying the law of the land. Most American parents support the present-day definitions of child abuse under state and federal law. However, God's Law is above the law of the land. The Bible has its own definition of child abuse - whatever the child victim perceives as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent who is sorely disappointed when they don't get the well-behaved child that they feel that they deserve. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing in relation to children just for being parents. Even any parent anger directed towards a child is parental entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. Whenever this sense of entitlement in parents then was perceived by the child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. Child abuse in the Bible, as a legal concept, consists of entitlement in parents, leading to offense in children. The key to not abusing your child is to avoid offense in children. If you hurt someone else's feelings, you need to apologize. It works the same way when dealing with children. Thus, in order to avoid offense in children, you need to be willing to apologize to children for hurting their feelings. In many cases, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent coming from parents, in the form of an informal apology, whenever you hurt children's feelings with limits not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while setting limits, you definitely need to give a formal apology for hurting your child's feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for hurting your feelings with my temper", and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as any parent anger directed towards a child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christians who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin term roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. But, this commandment was ultimately received by the parish at Colossae as prohibiting causing offenses in children as perceived by the child, at minimum. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men. 

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers here to long-term damages, namely childhood trauma. The ancients in the Bible had a basic concept of childhood trauma. If a child grew up to be atheist, shame fell onto the parents, meaning not the child. An atheist was seen in the Early Church as an abused child, not a "lost soul" to be "won over". 

The ancients in the Bible even had a concept of child sexual abuse. The Greek root word translated "fornication" in the New Testament is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers here to any sexual relations outside of the context of a Christian marriage between one adult man and one adult woman, with this marriage needing to be equal in nature. A groom was only allowed a bride his age or up to 4 years older than him. All sexual relations with a child, including in the context of an intergenerational marriage, was banned in the Early Church. Most child sexual abuse in the biblical context happened as a form of father-child incest,, with daughters being the usual victims. Most men then masturbated righteously to thoughts of his daughter or son, with pornography of anyone - including a child - being banned in the Early Church at all when intended as pornography. Child sexual abuse in the biblical context, was rare, meaning next to non-existent. Whenever child sexual abuse happened then, it was seen as a huge moral outrage. Attraction to children existed then on the surface, with children who were being sexually abused knowing exactly what is happening to them, and then self-reported the abuse that they suffered. 

It is a myth that the Early Christians were well-integrated into Rome. Instead, the Early Christians lived in urban enclaves in major Greco-Roman cities, shunning the outside world. The Early Christians in the 1st Century were allowed their own culture, and even their own court system. The Christian courts were binding until the end of the 1st Century.

Child abuse was prosecuted in the Early Church by way of internal church investigation. In most cases, this investigation started with a child confiding into a clergyperson about their home life. From there, parents were summoned to appear before a council of 3 elders, who would preside over the investigation. If the parents were defensive at all, instead of answering to the court directly, they were swiftly excommunicated from the Early Christian Churches of God, alongside all witnesses that testified on behalf of the parents. Parents were prohibited from identifying as "parents" in first-person, lest they be seen as entitled.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document, All 88 books of the Bible were written by anti-spanking Jews, with punitive parenting of any kind being banned under Jewish law. All of the biblical writers also wrote parenting manuals that advocated attachment parenting. Even King Solomon wrote an attachment parenting manual for bringing up minor children, with the rod in Proverbs simply being repealed verses referring to the 40 minus 1 lashes in an adult child as a sentence for a crime. It just so happens that these attachment manuals were not translated into English until the 1960s. Before then, this context was only known to the Jewish world.

The Bible is America's book. America is a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian values. We as a society glean from the Bible and its context as to how to live and treat each other with respect. Even our legal codes, including under the English common law, are based off of biblical teachings. However, the criminal defense of "reasonable chastisement" is based on a dated understanding of the Bible. It is about time we repeal the "reasonable chastisement" defenses in all 50 states, and amend the child abuse definitions under state and federal law as anything that the child victim perceives as abuse.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Passing down the faith: How to instruct your children in the Lord without punitive measures

Many parents have it as a goal for their children. Most American parents want their children to live by a set of values. However, many parents think that children need to be punished or shamed in order to have "the devil beaten out of them". However, there are better ways to instruct your child in the Christian faith than by punishing them.

God's Law on child discipline, including religious instruction, is spelled out in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

This first stanza of this commandment clarifies for the second that children should not be taught religion using fear tactics. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is one thing to stop spanking your child, including in order to "break their will". However, it is not enough to stop spanking your child, or even stop punishing your child altogether for that matter. You need to avoid offense in children. Whenever you hurt someone else's feelings, you need to apologize. It works the same in children when dealing with them. Thus, in order to avoid offense in children, you need to be willing to apologize to them for hurting your child's feelings. In many cases, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent coming from parents, in the form of an informal apology, whenever you hurt your child's feelings with limits not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while setting limits, you definitely need to give a formal apology for hurting your child's feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for hurting your feelings with my temper", and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as any parent anger directed towards a child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This first stanza of this commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin term roughly translated to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. But, this first stanza ultimately was received by the parish at Ephesus as prohibiting causing offenses in children as perceived by the child, at minimum. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

Children don't need to have a religion beaten into them. Religion is a base human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and is more aptly translated as "instruction" in more modern versions of the Bible. The Apostle Paul here was discussing religious instruction. Starting at age 6, fathers left out a Bible for children to discover and explore, with the Bible open to a reassuring passage (such as the Beatitudes). Children growing up in the Early Church taught themselves how to read on a Bible. Whenever children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement to keep on studying the Bible. Fathers then interjected to the child "you can ask me anything about that book". From there, religious instruction came in the form of question and answer format. Children were curious about Scripture, with fathers giving pointers on the context.

Sometimes, very young children refuse to go to church. This is normal and understandable behavior in toddlers and preschoolers. Children that young are not developmentally ready for religion. Children have their own religious development, with children finding their own religion as young as age 6. Until then, children and wives should be left at home to focus on forming a secure bond, with the man of the house praying for his family. Instead of forcing children to attend your church, you should allow them to attend their own church.

Most Christian parents rush the religious development of their children. One example of this is when parents insist on grateful postures. I myself tie my hands behind my back, and nobody forced me to. Grateful postures are simply a sign of spiritual health, with children showing these postures on their own in due time.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Adults attracted to children: Individual responsibility for adults attracted to children

Many parents and other adults think that pedophiles are the sole threat in relation to children. This is a common attitude amongst parents. Most parents think that they are immune to guilt in the context of child sexual abuse. However, every single adult is capable of sexually abusing a child under the right/wrong conditions. Parents are especially culpable for their sexual risk in relation to children/

Most child abuse detectives in America often get a child who discloses being a victim of child sexual abuse. These detectives usually look first in the neighborhood registered sex offender, assuming that he is a pedophile. However, parents are usually the ones sexually abusing their own child, and so the search should begin there. Most fathers in particular are attracted to their daughters in particular, with daughters usually feeling sexually for her father in an immature way starting at age 3. However, young daughters are not ready for sex with anyone, with her attraction to her father being of the masturbatory type - she does't really want sex with her father. Just the thought of it, in the form of foreknowledge. 

The Bible states in 1 Corinthians 6:18 KJV:

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

The Greek root word translated "fornication" here is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers here to anything sexually amoral as understood in context. This can be summed up as prohibiting any sexual relations outside of the context of a Christian marriage between one adult man and one adult woman, with the marriage being equal in nature. A groom then was only allowed a bride his age or else up to 4 years older. Pedophilia and sexual attraction to children in and of itself was not banned then. Instead, adults then masturbated to sexual thoughts of children, with this being a way to flee fornication. Masturbation could only occur then without pornography, meaning anything intended as such. Most fathers then masturbated to thoughts of their daughters. When daughters figured it out, and asked about the fantasy, fathers were a man of few words about the fantasy, thereby abbreviating the fantasy. Pedophiles in the Bible were seen as having a flaw, with this flaw being able to be used for good. Most pedophiles then were given the help they needed whenever they disclosed their pedophilia to someone else, usually in the form of talking out their desires with someone else. 

Every single adult is individually responsible for their sexual behavior in relation to children, as any old adult could possibly sexually abuse a child. Most child sexual abuse happens in sexually repressed environments. Thus, in order to avoid sexually abusing a child, you need to face those repressed desires head on, masturbating to the first mental image that comes to mind. For most men in particular, this is a mental image of his daughter. Usually, this should lead to immediate relief from the lusts that haunt the young girl's father. Child sexual abuse usually comes from repressed desires coming out sideways onto an unsuspecting child, like a ton of bricks. 

Pedophilia is not a narcissistic disorder, contrary to popular belief. A pedophile usually has a co-morbid primary diagnosis of autism, meaning the presentation of the disorder is autistic in nature, not narcissistic in nature. Pedophilia is a form of arrested sexual development where the age-oriented sexual development of the child is stuck in time - the pedophile grew up, but his attractions did not. Pedophilia is a genetic disorder running along the lines of autism, with most pedophiles having a co-morbid diagnosis of moderate-severe autism spectrum disorder. Most adults with autism do not get along with children, instead finding children to be "too noisy" or "too chaotic". If you meet an autistic adult male who appears to be a born nurturer, think pedophile. Most pedophile genes are triggered at the onset of puberty, with their sexual preferences usually being stuck in that age range.

I myself am a pedophile, as well as an unregistered sex offender. I did offend against a child, but only within the law, meaning the police cut me a break due to my lack of intent to harm. I was an antisocial flirt, meaning I flirted with the wrong group of people - namely children. I am deserving of absolutely nothing in relation to children just for existing, meaning I have no rights just for being the adult that I am. I had no intent to harm a child, with me simply not knowing the boundaries around children. Most pedophilic sexual offenses work the same way. Thus, instead of interrogating the neighborhood sex offender first, the parents should be interrogated first. 3 out of 4 pedophiles have no history of sexual offenses against a child, with most of these offenses being excusable by the police standard due to lack of intent to inflict harm. Most pedophilic rapes come from pedophiles with a co-morbid diagnosis of both intellectual developmental disorder and autism. 

Most police enjoy preying on sexual offenders against children. But, they are biased as police due to only meeting abuser pedophiles. Most police believe that non-offending pedophiles only existed in ancient cultures. However, a pedophile is more likely to have trauma than inflict, meaning a pedophile is a victim/abuser. Most pedophiles have a parent trauma, not parent jealousy, with these parents usually being sexually shaming parents. Many pedophiles also were sexually abused as children, in the form of them being sexually corrected for their sexual preferences toward children. Most adults with a parent trauma are the last people to abuse a child, and pedophiles are no different in that regard. Most pedophiles who are a threat are only a threat to themselves, as many pedophiles have a suicide problem. 

Most serial child rapists are not clinically pedophiles. Instead, they start out targeting adult victims, and work their way down to teenage child victims. Most serial sexual abusers of teenage boys instead identify as ex-gay, not pedophiles,

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape and/or sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Child discipline: How to discipline your child without punitive measures

Many parents want their children to have discipline. This is a common goal for parents to have for their child. However, discipline is often equated with punishment in American homes. But, the fact of the matter is that there are better ways to discipline than punishment.

God's Law on child discipline is spelled out in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

This first stanza of this commandment clarifies for the second that discipline should not hurt. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is one thing to stop spanking your child. However, it is not enough to stop spanking your child, or even stop punishing them altogether for that matter. You need to avoid offense in children. If you hurt someone else's feelings, you need to apologize. It works the same way with children when dealing with them. Thus, in order to avoid offense in children, you need to be willing to apologize for hurting your child's feelings. In many cases, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent coming from parents, in the form of an informal apology, whenever you hurt your child's feelings with limits not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child aa a parent, including while setting limits, you need to give a formal apology for hurting your child's feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for hurting your feelings with my temper", and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as any parent anger directed towards a child is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This first stanza of this commandment cross-refences the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. But, this first stanza was ultimately received by the parish at Ephesus as prohibiting causing offenses in children as perceived by a child, at minimum. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

This second stanza of this commandment spells out what discipline is acceptable, with the first stanza ruling out anything punitive with a child. The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here to nurturing of a specific type, namely of the teaching sort. Christian parents in the Early Church looked for preferred behaviors in children, such as self-discipline and self-control, with children showing discipline on their own. When children showed good traits, they were lavishly praised and encouraged for more of the same. Christian parents in the Early Church imparted a good example for children, for children to emulate, with this good Christian example being backed up by praise and encouragement, not punishment or shaming. Children also need religious instruction, as religion is a base human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and is more aptly translated as "instruction" in more modern versions of the Bible. The Apostle Paul here was discussing religious instruction. Starting at age 6, fathers left out a Bible for children to discover and explore, with children learning how to read on the Bible. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement to keep on studying the Bible. Fathers then interjected something along the lines of "you can ask me anything about that book". From there, religious instruction came in the form of question and answer, with children being curious about Scripture, and with fathers giving pointers on the context. This second stanza ultimately refers here to the Judeo-Christian doctrine of positive reinforcement, meaning catching your child being good. Positive reinforcement is a Hebraic tradition predating the coming of Christ by thousands of years.

What should a parent do when their child is misbehaving? Most childhood behaviors are normal and natural given a child's age and development. Young children under age 8 lack self-control, and this leads to children getting into almost everything. Whenever children growing up in the Early Church were getting into mischief, parents laughed it off, and cleaned up the mess later. 

No child totally lacks good behavior. Sometime along the way of a child's development, you will find good behavior, in which you should praise and encourage that behavior. All children show good traits on their own, meaning that they form their own discipline if left to their own devices. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let then be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss, which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!