Pro-social permissiveness: Why children should have no rules (just bonding time)

Many parents think all permissiveness is the same, and all of it is bad. Permissiveness is where there are no rules in a family home setting for children. Many people think children need a strict set of rules to follow. The fact of the matter is that children do not need rules to follow. They need to make up their own rules, on their own time, and just be pampered and treated with respect by parents.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of respect from parents does not come from fearful compliance, but instead restful trust in parents, with children feeling safe in confiding into parents anything and everything that is on their minds, including admissions of wrongdoing and non-conforming traits, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return. Attachment parenting was the established norm in biblical times, as such parenting was mandated under customary law as a means of raising children. That customary law is lifted up in this verse.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, especially child abuse, literally translating to "vex" in the present-tense of the word. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment, in its original context, was understood as prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. Most Greek Christians were compliant with the Christian customary law that mandated attachment parenting, but a few Greek Christian parents were misusing Proverbs to justify their pagan custom of spanking children that they brought onto the church. Paul was lifting up the Law for them, and explaining that they were missing the big picture, and that they were to love their children like a neighbor and not provoke them to anger. The rod verses are repealed verses, Paul was explaining further in his secular pamphlets, and that the verses did not refer to parenting, but to judicial corporal punishment under Jewish law that does not apply to Christians at all - Christ abolished those harsh punishments on the cross. The rod verses - all seven of them - refer to the 40 minus 1 lashes that warned of impending death if young men did not reform themselves.

Children made the rules back in biblical times, meaning children called the shots, having immense lobbying power from a submissive role. Children were strongly deified as extensions of God in the family home (see Matt. 25:31-46), and children had the power to issue lawful and binding orders. The every cry of a child was taken as a lawful order to give a child what they needed, which was usually loving attention. Children's cries were treated as that of an infant, with parents, but especially mothers, seeking to diagnose and treat the upsets that bothered their children and led them to a crying state. Parents were not allowed to give lawful and binding orders to minor children, as minor children could not stand trial for criminal acts or civil wrongs that they committed.

Children went naked wherever they went, and women were also traditionally naked in the family home, in order to serve her husband and her children, separately. Mothers served their children by having children ranging beside them wherever they went in the home, or else with children clinging to them, by day. By night, mothers slept next to their children, co-sleeping with them, building a bond that would last a lifetime. Mothers, when children were crying, would pull children close to their bosom and reassure them that they were there to listen. Children were treated as the center of the world. 

Children learned self-control for themselves. Parents provided a disciplined, structured example by working on their own self-discipline, and then when children emulated the example of the parent, fathers especially praised their child for their discipline and for "being a chip off the old block". Children were never punished in the name of discipline, but were praised for following the example of parents, being caught being good instead of being "bad". 

Attachment parenting served as an invite for children to learn the chastening of the Lord, and how to keep it, without relying on punishment to keep the Christian traditions. Children were pampered and treated with the utmost tact, love, and respect, and then, they wanted actively to listen to parents, and listened to the best of their ability, given their age and developmental level. They didn't get it perfectly the first time, but by the time they wanted to shake parents off as young adults, they were ready to carry on the example of parents to the next generation, passing down the family tradition.

The depraved and entitled adults who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

ANNOUNCEMENT: Apologies for lack of activity

I apologize for not being active today in terms of posting. I went to the beach at North East, Maryland with my mother, and spent some quality time with her.

Tomorrow, we will be back to our usual programming here at Opposing Parental Entitlement.

Mutual submission: Why parents must win over their children's respect (not demand it)

Many parents think they deserve respect, and demand it from their children. It is a common belief from parents that they deserve respect. The fact of the matter is that children and parents submit to each other. Burden of proof is on the parent to prove love and respect for children. Children owe nothing to parents, and parents owe everything to children. 

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted in the New Testament by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of respect for parents does not come from fearful compliance, but instead comes from restful trust in parents, with children feeling safe confiding into parents anything and everything that is on their mind, including admissions of wrongdoing or non-conforming traits, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return. Attachment parenting, in biblical times, was the established norm, meaning it was customary law that parents have a secure parent-child bond with their child. Parents won over their children's trust and affection by treating them with the utmost tact, love, and respect.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, especially child abuse in context, translating directly to "vex" in the present-tense. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child. This commandment was understood, in the context in which it was given, to prohibit all forms of punitive parenting, including punishment and controlling demeanor towards children. The Apostle Paul was lifting up the Law on theft and kidnapping - but mainly kidnapping - in order to rebuke Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking children into the church. Greek Christian parents misused the book of Proverbs even in the 1st Century, when this passage was written. Paul was explaining that the rod verses - all seven of them - are repealed verses, meaning they are written only to the context that they were given to. They do not refer to raising children, but to judicial corporal punishment of young men, meaning ADULT sons who committed a capital offense, as a warning that he would be put to death if he continued his unlawful behavior.

Parents in biblical times did not demand anything from their children. They just provided, just as they would serve God, with children being in the place of God. Parents saw themselves as extensions of Christ in the family home, serving a Godhead which is children. Children were heavily deified in Ancient Jewish culture, including Early Christian culture, and were treated with the same reverent respect that parents would show God. Children were valued as mini "gods" and "goddesses" to serve, with their every demand being a lawful and binding order coming from God Himself, thus parents took heed to their children's demands, with children getting much of what they want and all of what they need.

How were children treated in practice? Children were allowed to go naked wherever they went, with women traditionally being naked in the home, serving both their husband and their children, separately. Children ranged by their mothers, and sometimes clung to them, by day. By night, children slept next to their mothers until they shook off their parents and were ready to sleep on their own. Children were benefitted everything they needed, and a lot of what they wanted as well.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why parents should have zero expectations in parenting

Many parents think it is good to have high expectations for children. This is a common mistake parents make, thinking children are little adults. Should we have any expectations for children at all? The fact of the matter is that we should have preferences instead of expectations.

The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, in the New Testament, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers, officially speaking, to wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially, this word refers to wanting anything from a child, period. Basically, when you know you will throw a temper tantrum due to a request being denied, that request comes from entitlement. Expecting anything from a child will surely lead to parents being sorely disappointed when children don't live up to the expectations that the parent imposes. Any want imposed on a child like this is entitlement.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted in the New Testament by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), which refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of respect for parents does not come from fearful compliance, but instead comes from restful trust in parents, with children feeling safe in confiding into parents anything and everything that is on their mind, including admissions of wrongdoing or non-conforming traits, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return. Attachment parenting was the established norm in biblical times, with such parenting being mandated under customary law, which the Greek root word here lifts up.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, at minimum, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child. This commandment, in its original context, was seen as prohibiting punitive parenting in all of its forms, including all forms of punishment or controlling demeanor. The Apostle Paul was lifting up the Law on theft and kidnapping - but especially kidnapping - to Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking children into the church. Greek Christian parents were misusing the book of Proverbs to justify their punishment habits even in the 1st Century, when this passage was first recorded. Paul here was explaining that all seven verses in Proverbs that mention the rod are repealed verses, and do not refer to raising children. Instead, they refer to a form of judicial corporal punishment within Judaism where the father was court ordered to issue 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction upon a lawbreaking son, warning him that he would be put to death if he re-offended. Capital and corporal punishment, under Roman law, were shunned by the Early Church, with only mutual accountability between spouses allowed as a form of corporal punishment. The Early Church banned ALL punishment of children, including corporal punishment.

What is the difference between expectations and preferences? Preferences are simply a statement of values that isn't imposed on children. Once you impose a preference onto a child, it becomes an expectation. Expectations, by definition, are imposed in nature, and denote a want, hence all expectations for children are entitlement.

Children, most of the time, are punished in America for behaviors that are developmentally appropriate behaviors, meaning behaviors that are understandable in children given their age and development. Most childish behaviors that annoy you (but not the child or anyone else) are a phase in development, and won't be there forever. 

Children should be left to develop on their own, without expectations being imposed on them. Children aren't stagnant people in terms of growth. Children develop quite quickly, if you let them. Children go through all different phases, at the same time trying to keep your values, while not having the self-regulation to keep such values right away. The core of most behaviors in childhood is poor self-regulation, and self-regulation is a skill that takes time to perfect, meaning the entirety of childhood into early adulthood. So, with all this information, why impose any expectations onto a child? Why not let them be and let them grow on their own.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

How to impart Judeo-Christian values (the right way)

Many parents in the United States, at some level, want to impart Judeo-Christian family values onto their children. Most parents in America want their children to learn Judeo-Christian family values. This is a common set of values in this country, as America is a Christian country, founded on Judeo-Christian family values. How does one impart these values? Punishment is the last thing you need, meaning punishment won't work. Attachment parenting does work.

The idea is not to model bad traits to your child. The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers, officially, to want from or of children, to the point of imposition, and unofficially to wanting things from children at all. The idea is that when you want something from a child, your should do the opposite of that want, and keep doing it until it becomes a habit, telling yourself that you are not entitled to anything from a child due to your sin nature. Entitlement, or wanting things - including from children - is the core of our sin nature. Children are watching our every move, in order to learn how to behave, so it is good to work on that sin nature.

On the other hand, the Greek root word παιδεία (Latin: paideia) refers to a specific standard of Christian discipline, starting with an admission of one's depraved and entitled sin nature, and ending with the attitude that one is entitled to nothing, and grateful for everything, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. The idea is to take up this disciplined, non-entitled attitude, and model it to children. See Eph. 6:4.

In order to set a good example, children have to want to follow said example. The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), which refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of respect for parents does not come from fearful compliance, but instead comes from restful trust in parents, with children feeling safe in confiding into parents about anything and everything that is on their mind, including admissions of wrongdoing or non-conforming traits, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return. Attachment parenting was the established norm in the Bible, and is mandated by customary law. This Greek word is what lifts up the customary law mandating that parents form a secure parent-child bond with their child.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, at minimum, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment, in context, was understood as prohibiting all punitive parenting techniques, including any sort of punishment or controlling demeanor. The Apostle Paul was lifting up the Law on theft and kidnapping in particular, rebuking Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking children into the church. Greek Christian parents were misusing the book of Proverbs to justify their punishment habit even in the 1st Century, when this passage was written. Paul was warning parents in the Colossian church that the rod verses in Proverbs - all seven of them - are repealed verses, and do not refer to raising children, but instead a form of judicial corporal punishment where the father of an errant ADULT son was appointed to issue 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction. This punishment did not exist in the Early Church, with the Early Christians instead using pro-social non-association, with physical punishment only existing as a form of mutual accountability between spouses. Physically punishing a child was unlawful in every instance, no matter how it was done, as was any punishment of a child.

The key to teaching any skill to a child is forming a secure parent-child bond. Forming such a bond requires attachment parenting. Children in biblical times went completely naked wherever they went. Women also were traditionally naked, in the confines of the family home, in order to serve their husband and their children, separately. Mothers snuggled with children in the nude, with children soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy with their child.

When children have a strong parent-child bond with parents, borne out of closeness and intimacy, they are more likely to follow the example of parents when they are young adults. Children don't follow the example of parents right away, as children go through their phases of childish behavior, and that's just what they do. All children cry for the same reason a baby cries - they want love! So, give a crying child that loving attention, and live in the moment. In due time, at their own pace, they will develop your habits and follow your example.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

The Second Amendment: Why we should ban spanking, not guns

Many people think we should ban guns, or at least heavily regulate them. This is a common stance among leftist SJWs who support parental rights. I work alongside the left to ban punitive parenting, but I am not a leftist myself, and instead am a children's rights Christian conservative. I hate guns, but if you want to own a gun, I'm not going to stop you.

We have too many guns in this country, and that is why gun control measures won't work. We have an amount of guns comparable to Russia. Russia actually did pass gun control laws, and it failed - people just bought guns off of the street. Once people start buying guns off of the street, we lose track of them, and then we can't regulate them. It would be nice if such laws would work in this country, but it would be nice if we all could grow wings and fly as well.

Corporal punishment is the leading cause of violence in this country, not guns. Guns are simply the tool used to commit mass shootings. Violence is bred, meaning we have the tendencies to be violent as depraved and entitled human beings, but we also need a violent role model to become violent. Most violence is linked to mental health issues that are further linked to early childhood trauma.

In the United Kingdom, punishment of a child, including corporal punishment, is legal. Yet, the UK has some of the strongest gun laws in the world. So, what do people resort to? Knife fighting. And then, the London city government has, in previous years, proposed restrictions on knives carried by individuals. 

In Iceland, however, those same gun laws exist, but a spanking ban also exists, with landmark cases of corporal punishment leading to criminal arrest to make an example out of the parents. Violent crime is pretty much non-existent. Domestic violence is the most common form of violence, but even those rates are lower than the U.S. - 17% of co-habiting or marital relationships lead to domestic violence in Iceland. You can't have it much better than that, given no country is perfect.

It says in Romans 13:1-4 KJV:

Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers. For there is no power but of God: the powers that be are ordained of God. Whosoever resisteth the power resisteth the ordinance of God: and they that resisteth shall receive to themselves damnation. For rulers are not a terror to the good works, but to the evil: Wilt thou then not be afraid of the power? do that which is good, and thou shalt have praise of the same: for he is the minister of God to thee for good. But if thou do that which is evil, be afraid; for he beareth not the sword in vain: for he is the minister of God, a revenger to execute wrath upon him that doeth evil.

The highest authority in the land is not a ruler in the United States of America - it is the United States Constitution. The Constitution comes with a Bill of Rights. The Bill of Rights has a Second Amendment. I can't own a gun under my current religious restrictions, but at the same time, I have to accept that I live in a country where people can own guns and not have the government after them about it.

You can bet the shooter at Robb Elementary School in Ulvalde, Texas was punished as a child. We have no definitive evidence of that, but no child that grew up without punishment and in an attached home would ever shoot up a school like that. Punishment in childhood is known to trigger many mental illnesses, and many adults who have antisocial personalities grew up in horrific circumstances where violence was common, against them and against a mother figure

Let the depraved and entitled adults who commit gun violence be cast into everlasting Hell-fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent!

Skin-to-skin closeness: Why this is crucial for a secure parent-child bond

Many parents think that children should comply with orders from parents and other adults, meaning adults are made out to be authority figures instead of caregivers. However, the Bible commands that parents form a secure parent-child bond with their child, and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy with a child is the best way to bond with your child, even if they are an older child and not an infant anymore.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted in the New Testament by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children and others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents, not having a worry in the world. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of respect for parents does not come from fearful compliance, but instead restful trust in parents, with children feeling safe confiding into parents anything and everything that is on their mind, including admissions of wrongdoing or non-conforming traits, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return. Attachment parenting was the Judeo-Christian tradition in the biblical context, and was customary law in both the Old and New Testaments. This Greek root word uplifts the attachment parenting context that commands a secure parent-child bond.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offenses perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment, in context, was understood then as a command against all punitive parenting techniques, including any punishment or other controlling demeanor towards children. The Apostle Paul, here, was lifting up the Law for Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking children into the church. Greek Christian parents were misusing the book of Proverbs to justify their punishment habits even back then. Paul was explaining that every single verse in Proverbs that mentioned the rod of correction - all seven of them - are repealed verses, and refer to a legal practice within Judaism during the context of the Old Testament, where a father was court ordered (usually because he was a hostile witness against his own son) to whip his own ADULT son for committing a capital offense, with the whipping being a last warning before the errant son was put to death. That punishment was closely conflated with the death penalty in Ancient Israel, and thus does not apply today, as Christ abolished the harsh punishments of the Law, and arguably the death penalty as a whole, when He Himself suffered capital punishment on the cross. Any Christian who participated in a Roman whipping with the cat o' nine tails, even as part of the audience, was immediately excommunicated from the church. Same with Roman executions. The church itself did not allow for any corporal punishment apart from mutual accountability between spouses. Striking a child, however, was completely unlawful and sinful.

The goal for every biblical parent was a secure parent-child bond. Mothers and children bonded by way of skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy with children. Children went completely naked wherever they went, and women were traditionally naked in the confines of the family home in order to serve their husband and their children, separately. Mothers and children snuggled in the nude, with children soaking up the rays from the bosom of their mothers.

In biblical times, children were treated with a special type of attachment parenting that deified children, meaning they were idealized to the point of being called "gods" and "goddesses" in passing. Parents were devotees to their children's every vulnerable need, being beholden to their needs just as they would be to what God needed of them. Children were authority figures for parents, and could issue lawful and binding orders to decree their needs to their parents, and their every demand was seen as a statement of Law representing God. Childhood demands were summonses for parents to obey, and was not seen as "talking back" or "disrespect". Children were pampered, sitting on their throne, not having a worry in the world.

How should mothers apply the abovementioned context today? Mothers and children can snuggle once the mother gets out of the shower, with the mother inviting children to disrobe as well. According to the English common law, as long as there is no sexual intent behind the interaction on either end, it is not a sex crime to snuggle with your children while getting out of the shower. Mothers can also invite children to disrobe at any time, and give them the freedom to run around the house naked, and this brings down the level of attachment to equal level. This involves the mother guiding the child as an equal, in an encouraging and playful way.

When a child is upset, crying, or ramping up, instead of putting them in time-out, you can hold them to your bosom as a mother, head first. Some women wear plunging necklines to serve someone other than their husband or men in general, and instead wear such clothing to serve the needs of their children, making children feel safe while listening to the heartbeat of mothers. This was how mothers reassured their children in biblical times.

The Bible is an attachment parenting document, meaning attachment parenting was the established norm when the Bible was written. The people in the biblical context would have understood the parenting commands in both Colossians and Ephesians in that light, meaning it was believed then that God ordained the attachment parenting setup as a form of customary law. God writes to His Audience, and without His Audience, the Bible would have no objective meaning, and people could make of it whatever they wanted.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pro-social masochism, pro-social formal/informal: Why to fear your child

Many parents think that they are the boss, and that they tell children what to do. This is a common stance among parents. Authoritarian parenting is when there is a strong authority figure in parenting. Pro-social masochism attachment parenting is when children are the boss in a parenting relationship.

I myself am a fearful and timid attached parent to children. Rarely do I get the chance to deal with children up close, but when I do, I am afraid of them, yet am not scared of them. I am struck with reverent fear and terror by their mere presence, in a shake and quake type of way, not questioning their needs as they demand them. I speak in formalities to children in public, perhaps thanking them when they hold the door, just as I would recognize good deeds in an adult. When a child invites me to casual conversation, and only then, I will let go of formalities and hang out with the child. That is my role as a man in gentle parenting. All of the snuggling and cuddling is for the womenfolk to relate to children with. I tend to let children order me around, with me being their trusty servant to boss me around, with me surrendering to their demands, rarely ever saying "no". It is scary to say "no" to a child, because then they melt down, and then I feel the need to reassure them.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted in the New Testament by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), which is prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This is secure rest of children in the submission of parents, meaning their good works. In biblical times, this was seen as the parents were servants of God, with children being extensions of God. Children were authority figures in the home, demanding their every need, knowing they would get most of what they wanted, and all of what they needed.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment, in context, was understood as prohibiting punitive parenting measures such as any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children, regardless. Paul here was lifting up the Law on theft and kidnapping in particular - but especially kidnapping - and rebuking Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking children into the church, with the Greek Christian parents misusing the book of Proverbs to justify their punishment habits. Paul was explaining, from prison, that all seven of the rod verses in Proverbs are repealed verses, as they refer chiefly to legal practices conducted within Judaism in the form of judicial corporal punishment, with fathers acting in a legal capacity when issuing 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction. Such was only for ADULT children. MINOR children could not be punished for anything, as they could not stand trial, and thus could not be charged with any criminal offense or civil wrong. They could only stand trial as the plaintiff in a child abuse case.

Children are the boss, in terms of biblical parenting. Children are to call the shots, in terms of what happens at home. Children know what they need, even if they have trouble expressing it. Parents should tend to their children, and should be motivated on the level of reverent fear. Reverent fear is denoted in the New Testament by the Greek root word ψοβός (Latin: phobos) and refers to a certain spark that prompts the Christian into action, and in the realm of parenting, it is a specific charge that prompts the parent to conviction, in which case conviction leads to things such as reassuring upsets and obeying the needs of the child.

Adult men are prone to sexual entitlement in relation to children, as a whole. Thus, fathers in Christian attachment parenting homes should use the pro-social formal/informal mode of communication with children. The idea is to take up the conviction that you are not even entitled to speech with your child, and keep all speech to what is necessary. Then, when the child says it is okay to interact in a casual manner, then, and only then, should formalities be dropped. A father is not to touch his son or daughter without the child's permission, and even then, the mother can overrule the child if she sees danger in the interaction, perhaps shielding the child from parent sexual entitlement. All of this is motivated by reverent fear of children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

The age of consent: Why Pennsylvania should raise it to 18

Many adults support a lower age of consent, as a youth rights stance. There is a fine line between youth rights support for lowering the age of consent and pro-contact pedophile activism. I myself am a pedophile, but the anti-contact, VirPed type. Just a special little snowflake being a pedophile, but I know it is a self-interest that could lead to adult sexual entitlement if not kept in check. This platform is situated in Pennsylvania, and thus I support a Pennsylvania age of consent of 18. The current age of consent is 16, and that needs to change. 

A 16-year-old can possibly support a relationship with a non-entitled, children's rights adult that is of a sexual nature, but society puts a meaning on sexual relations between others. Sexual relations are a marriage, of sorts, meaning they are the contract that binds a marriage between a man and a woman. Those are the Judeo-Christian values that this country was founded on, and those values will withstand all leftist scrutiny until the end of time, and will never cease to guide our great nation.

One reason preventing adult sexual relations with children today is entitlement, meaning adults want things from children, and they impose those wants on children. That is the definition of deadly entitlement, and entitlement affects one's sexual expression as an adult. With the average man, a 16-year-old girl could break a bone, perhaps a rib in her chest. Usually, adult sexual relations with children comes out in a punitive, correcting manner.

However, some of us are not entitled fully in relation to children. I am not sexually threatened by a 16-year-old girl, but simply reverently afraid of the mechanics - it would be all too sudden for me if I did it with a child, to the point where I would just be shocked and affronted by such a proposal from an older teenager. A 16-year-old girl likely would come on stronger to me than I would to them, due to my lack of entitlement towards children as a pedophile. I might well be the victim in that case, judging solely by harm, but I would be at fault under God's Law because I am the adult in that situation, and the Bible teaches that all sexual relations with children by adults are sinful and unlawful.

It says in 1 Corinthians 6:18 KJV:

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body, but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

The Greek root word translated "fornication" is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers to, at the core of its definition, the slightest of sexual contact perceived by the child, coming from adult sexual entitlement. The Greek root word translated "lust" in the New Testament is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers to desire for sex with children to the point of taking the first steps to approach a child sexually, with fornication being when such entitlement is perceived by the child.

"Fornication" is the word enumeration of all of the sex crime statutes under the Law of Moses, which basically prohibits all sex outside of marriage, with sex being the marriage contract itself, signed on the dotted line. A child may be able to withstand sex from someone who is older, but can they serve their spouse in a marriage? A 16-year-old is not ready for marriage, and that is why, under biblical law, nobody under the age of majority in a given state can marry. That Christian standard is implied in the Greek root word πορνεία.

The Bible, in short, prohibits all sex with anyone under the age of majority, meaning any sexual contact perceived by the child, including even any coarse jesting or overtures perceived as offensive by the child or others. All adults were seen in biblical times as caregivers of children, including extended family when parents weren't around. Children were allowed to masturbate and indulge in sexual fantasy, but were kept away from sexual relations even with same-age peers. 

Marriage in biblical times was between same-age peers or else a younger man to an older woman. When an older man married a younger woman, it was a shame on his part, and on the part of her father. NEVER were children under the age of majority married off for any reason. Only young men and women above the age of majority were married off.

Sexual purity is now a controversial issue. It wasn't in the old days, when we stuck to our values as a nation. This is America, and we are a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian family values. Those values include sexual purity. A child should stay a virgin until he or she is married, and when that healthy balance is upset, blame the boy's parents first, or in the case of child sexual abuse, ALWAYS blame the adult or adult-figure.

Let the depraved and decadent, defiled adult fornicators of children who sexually harass, assault, and rape children BURN in everlasting Hell-fire and torrents! Repent! 

Time-out and grounding: Why this is not a good alternative to spanking (why time-in is better)

Many parents today are ditching spanking. In the 1990s, over 90% of parents punished their children physically. Now, that number is around 60%, thanks to better education and awareness among pediatric and mental health professionals. But, many parents are holding onto punitive elements of parents that they find out don't work. This includer time-out and grounding.

The story usually goes that parents who wanted to go the anti-spanking way started with time-out and grounding, but ended up just being friends with a child. That is a change of heart that is welcome, but you should be friends with your child from the very beginning, so not to impose undue trauma onto them.

No disciplinary measure should come from entitlement. Parental entitlement is denoted by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers officially to wanting things from or of children, to the point of imposition, and unofficially, to any wants from a child. Ultimately, it is deadly entitlement when you throw a temper tantrum when your child isn't giving you what you want. Isn't that what time-out is? You throwing a fit, so you send them to their room? Children should be expected to throw fits, as they are emotionally labile and dysregulated - children have trouble with emotional regulation, and so they throw a fit. They need someone who is calm to not throw a fit. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. The good works of parents are denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every need. That submission is from above, and children rest beneath without a worry in the world. This rest is an active rest, much like a "god" or "goddess" sitting on his or her throne, giving orders and decrees, and parents and other adults scrambling to obey. Apart from the Law, Jews and Christians in biblical times lived under customary law, which the Greek root word υπακουο makes relevant in regard to attachment parenting traditions. Attachment parenting was the traditional parenting of Ancient Israel, and this was spread forth by the death and Resurrection of Christ, and the expansion of the Christian church. The Jewish attachment parenting customs are relevant to Christians today.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended to prohibit all punishment, and can be applied in the modern context to false imprisonment of any kind of a child, such as time-out. This passage was intended to prohibit spanking and corporal punishment of children, when understood in context, but any hostage-taking action, including false imprisonment, was considered kidnapping, and was a church-wide offense leading to excommunication. In the Old Testament, kidnapping against children lead to the death penalty by way of bloodletting, and courts were quick to convict parents. What do you think time-out is? Locking a child forcibly into a room.

Time-out has no biblical basis as an alternative for spanking. Instead, time-in has biblical basis. Time-in, as done in the Bible, involves skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy with an upset, crying, or ramping up child. This involves mothers holding their children to their bosom, head first, with the child hearing their mother's heartbeat, resting safely and securely in the comforting bosom of mother, surrendering their every worry to their mother.

Time-in can come in many forms, usually with a parent kneeling to the level of the child. That is what parents in biblical times did, except women and children both went naked then in the home (children went naked everywhere they went), and thus, when a child was crying, the mother would pick up the child or kneel down to his/her level, and then hold the child to her bosom. Within 1 to 2 minutes, the child quieted down and was able to be reasoned with.

Time-in is now the recommended antidote to a meltdown. Time-out was recommended in the 1990s-early 2000s as a means to "teach children self-control". The fact of the matter is that children can't control themselves - that's why we consider them children and not little adults. The idea is to excuse the immaturity and let children grow up at their own pace. Time-in is also recommended in the Bible by way of word-window to the context.

The depraved and entitled parents that provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pro-social deification, pro-social child worship: Why biblical culture was child worshipping culture

Many parents think that biblical times were harsh for children. This is a common belief among American parents, who have heard a false rendition of the biblical context from pastors and clergy. The rumors are that children were put into child labor and whipped in that capacity. The fact of the matter is that biblical times were child worshipping times, as Ancient Jewish culture, including the Early Church, was a child worshipping culture. 

Jesus Christ was recorded to have said in Matthew 25:45-46 KJV:

Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not to one of the least of these, ye did it not to me. And these shall go away into everlasting punishment: but the righteous into life eternal.

This commandment denotes the concept of pro-social child worship. The "least of these" refers to the fact that vulnerable groups are signs of God, and that God appears in the faces of people who belong to a vulnerable group. Jesus only mentioned the categories that Jewish society then was getting wrong. Jewish society then already recognized clearly that children were among the "least of these", as children were deified figures in Jewish society, including Early Christian society. Whatever you did for a child, you did for God. Whatever you refused to do for a child as an adult, you refused to do for God. 

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted in the New Testament by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents, with children being in place of God. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of respect for parents does not refer to fearful compliance, but instead restful trust in parents, with children feeling safe confiding into parents anything and everything that is on their minds, including admissions of wrongdoing or non-conforming traits, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return. Customary law in Ancient Jewish society, including the Early Church, commanded that parents have a secure parent-child bond, and be attachment parents in a special way that deifies the child, holding them high in reverent fear as a deity, obeying them as such.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, as the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This was interpreted, in context, as prohibiting all forms of punishment and controlling demeanor towards children, with the Apostle Paul rebuking Greek Christian parents for bringing their pagan spanking custom into the church. Greek Christian parents were misusing the book of Proverbs even then to justify their punishment habits. Paul would have none of it in the churches he oversaw, and sent a warning to all of the churches that had scofflaw parents who supported spanking and punishing children. The rod verses are repealed verses that don't actually refer to raising children at all, but instead to a form of judicial corporal punishment within Judaism where a father was court ordered to issue 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction against an ADULT child (usually fathers were hostile witnesses when testifying against their own child), usually for crimes against the state or child abuse offenses. None of this sort of punishment existed in the New Testament, with instead Law being enforced by pro-social non-association.

Children in biblical society were clearly deified, with children being seen as next to God on earth. The pecking order was first-to-last in nature, with children having the authority to issue lawful and binding orders to advocate their needs. Children could order parents around, and unless it was absolutely necessary for parents to say "no", parents had to comply with the orders given by children. 

Parents revered and feared their children, in a way that prompted parents to idealize their children as "gods" and "goddesses". Children sat in their throne, and were pampered, not having to worry about anything, vesting all their trust in parents in terms of being cared for. Children were lawful extensions of God in the family home that parents respected with reverent fear, prioritizing children above themselves, leading to submission to children, and then, acceptance of children in a deified way. 

Parents were devotees to the deity of their children, and devoted their whole life to their children. Nothing in the world meant quite as much as a child. Parents who lost a child along the way were trauma-stricken by the loss, and believed their little "god" or "goddess" was one with God Himself, for Christ said several times that children were the greatest in the Kingdom of Heaven.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand.

The difference between authoritative and gentle parenting

Many adults out there seem to think that gentle parenting is the same as authoritative parenting, and seek to undermine gentle parents by lumping them in with my abusive parents. Oh, how things have changed in the U.S. children's rights movement since the 1990s-early 2000s. A lot has changed since then.

I am a survivor of authoritative parenting, and I can tell you that the difference between my abuse and the parenting here is like night and day. Authoritative parenting focuses on the "democratic" aspects of parenting, while being anything but. My parents were lukewarm. My parents were punitive. And, they were all for the parents, especially my fathers.

I was spanked as a child, but never beaten. "Beaten" to me means injuries such as welts and bruises. I never suffered any injury due to being spanked as a child. I knew it was coming. My father would "cool down" at the bottom of the stairs, then come up and ambush me with physical punishment. Nowhere was that advocated here.

I suffered anxiety for a long time, and still jump when a child cries in public. I worry, now at a submerged level, that a child might end up punished by the end of the excursion that the parents took the children on. I AM ALSO ANGRY AT ADULTS! It is a silent anger, meaning I have put my abuser to bed, but I am still very angry at parents and adults in general for punishing me when I was a child. Only, I am the adult now, so I have to be conscious about my own choices towards children, especially given that I am a pedophile.

Gentle parenting today is a spin off from authoritative parenting, meaning authoritative parenting today has moved to the parental rights side of things, whereas gentle parenting today is pretty much the same as attachment parenting. Attachment parenting is about the secure parent-child bond, also known as a secure attachment. It is being best friends with your child, with children being in the receiving role in terms of care. 

I associate the authoritative parenting of my childhood with parental rights. I associate parental rights with the "me, me, and my rights" attitude of parental entitlement, which is at the core of our entitlement problem as a country. The worst thing my parents, and all adults around me, ever did was demand respect. Respect is earned according to my Judeo-Christian family values, and that means parents need to earn their respect from children.

Let the entitled parents and adults BURN in everlasting Hell-fire! Repent!

Why a secure parent-child bond is crucial to raising children

Many parents have their own ideas on raising children. The idea is usually that adults give commands, and children must obey. Why? They say children need to understand what it is like in "the real world". The fact of the matter is that a secure parent-child bond is what prepares for the real world. This means attachment parenting, which is the God-ordained method of dealing with children in the Bible.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted in the New Testament by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents, not worrying about a thing. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of respect for parents does not come from fearful compliance, but instead comes from restful trust in parents, with children feeling safe in confiding into parents about anything and everything that is on their mind, including admissions of wrongdoing and non-conforming traits, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return. This Greek root word lifts up the attachment parenting context of Early Christian context, which was part of the customary law of the time. Customary law under Judeo-Christian tradition states, in sum, that parents work to win over the affection of their children, and children rest without a worry in the rest of parents.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment, in context, was understood clearly as a prohibition on all forms of punitive parenting, such as any form of punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. The Apostle Paul here was lifting up the offenses of theft and kidnapping, but especially kidnapping, to warn Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking children into the church. Greek Christian parents misused the book of Proverbs even then to justify their punishment habits. Paul was warning parents in the Colossian church that the seven rod verses in Proverbs are repealed verses, and only apply to the legal context within Judaism then, denoting a form of judicial corporal punishment where the father was appointed by the court (usually by force - fathers were usually hostile witnesses against their own children) to issue 40 minus 1 lashes to warn his ADULT child of impending doom by execution if he didn't reform his behavior. We are talking about criminal activity here, not mere defiance or "back talk". 

In Ancient Israel and the Early Church both, the goal of every parent was a secure parent-child bond. Mothers played a large role in the upbringing of their children, and could decide unilaterally that an unsafe male, including her own husband, not touch the children. Children ranged beside her by day when at home, with both mother and child being completely naked, occasionally with children wanting to be picked up or snuggled with. By night, mothers slept next to their children to lull them to sleep, with both parties completely naked to soothe the child with skin-to-skin closeness. Children went completely naked in biblical times, and this made it easy for mothers to bond with their children.

Children were deified in biblical times, meaning seen as an extension of God. Children were seen then as angelic figures, like "gods" and "goddesses" that ruled over parents, and summoned parents to meet a need or give them what they wanted when what they wanted wasn't harmful. Children got a lot of what they wanted in biblical times, as children usually demand what they need in the form of a want. Parents in biblical times treated children with respect like they would God Himself, and took children seriously like they did God's Law and Commands. Whatever the child said was Law, for the most part, with parents overruling children rarely. Children were idealized as being in place of God while on earth.

Skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy is crucial for a secure parent-child bond, and this isn't just with infants. A way to reenact the context in the biblical tense, if you are their mother, is to snuggle with children right when getting out of the shower - just lay on the bed, and invite the children to come over. Skin-to-skin closeness is especially important for reassuring crying, in which case the proper Christian time-in procedure for mothers, in specific, is to not only kneel to the child's level, but hold them close to your bosom, head first, with them hearing your heartbeat. Within 1-2 minutes, the tantrum should be over. Children of all ages cry for the same reason a baby cries - they want love! So, why not give them some loving attention? 

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Adult attraction to children: Individual responsibility to prevent child sexual abuse

Many adults think only a few people are guilty for child sexual abuse - pedophiles. Sexual abuse prevention in the United States has long been about blaming a few people "over there" who are "predestined to abuse a child". We are now finding the Truth - nobody is predestined to abuse a child in any way, especially sexually. In the past few years, several parent lobby children's charities have accepted this fundamental Truth. More and more people are waking up and seeing that pedophiles aren't the ones molesting children - we all are doing it as adults.

Child sexual abuse is abuse on the aside, not the main intergenerational line, but its harm is the most noted in the media. Surely, though, there are other forms of abuse just as bad - I endured it, and it was excused by law. All adults are guilty for their existence in relation to children, since all adults have the capacity to abuse or wrong a child under the right/wrong conditions. 

How do you understand sexual abuse of children? Location, location, location. Also, a choice to abuse a child sexually. A sexually abusive adult will find themselves alone with a child they are attracted to, usually while not wanting to acknowledge the attraction. They are pulled, pulled, and then pulled some more, thinking they have no choice, thinking they have no self-control. Then, they dream up some biblical excuse, and then they sexually assault or rape a child. Why was the perpetrator even there? Why was the perpetrator drinking? Why was the perpetrator doing so many drugs? Why didn't the perpetrator just take the attraction elsewhere, like a gentleman would? Why did he/she have to act like such a depraved savage?

Being attracted to anyone or anything is not a sin, as attractions are unchosen. Acting on any attraction outside of marriage, including with a child, is a sin. It says in Colossians 3:5-7 KJV:

Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry: For which things' sake the wrath of God cometh on children of disobedience: In the which ye also walked some time, when ye lived in them.

The Greek root word translated "inordinate affection" denotes adult sexual entitlement, and is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers to sexual desire for children to the point of taking the first steps to approach a child sexually, and this leads to adult fornication or child sexual abuse, which is denoted by the Greek root word πορνεία (Latin: porneia), with this Greek root word referring to when adult sexual entitlement is perceived by the child, especially in terms of perceived sexual contact.

Note what is absent in the abovementioned paragraph - a prohibition on masturbation. The Early Church deacons and elders actually recommended sexual fantasy for a child through masturbation for pedophiles. In biblical society, pedophilia was normalized, but only in abstinent format. Most men were attracted to their children. However, even coarse jesting about children was seen as impure speech. One had to speak about their desires in a clinical celebratory manner that gave thanks.

All adults are capable of sexually abusing a child under the right/wrong conditions. So, what can YOU do as a responsible adult so that you don't sexually abuse a child? First, gauge your risk. The closer you are to children, the greater your risk, especially if you are male, and even more so if the children are pubescent in terms of sexual development. Gauge your risk, and then stay far away from it. 

Prepare yourself for an emergency situation by not repressing sexual thoughts about children, and allowing yourself to think them. If you repress anything, including something like sexual thoughts about children, it will control you, and guide your actions. Thus, when you repress sexual desires for children instead of allow yourself to feel them, you are actually more likely to sexually abuse a child when you are alone with an attractive child. Most sexual abusers of children were not prepared for the situation they were in, and then they acted on opportunity, not knowing they had a choice in the matter. It is a state of learned helplessness, where they simultaneously deny how they feel and think they have no choice in the matter. 

For the menfolk reading this, we will now do a thought experiment. Imagine a teenage girl. Imagine her with a tank top and short shorts on. Imagine you are alone with her, and you are her teacher - think teacher detention. What is your first thought? That is what is so crucial about sexual abuse prevention - and if you didn't want to think anything, YOU, sir, are part of the problem. Think that sexual thought, and run with it straight to your bedroom, and keep doing it until you know how stupid it is to do anything sexual with her in real life. Chances are, at least towards the end of practice, it should just be a relief. It is called thought re-channeling - that is how you re-channel sexual thoughts. For women, this should work in some cases with teenage boys.

A pedophile is simply a parent with sexual aggression features on the surface (and usually no physical aggression feature). A parent is attached to the adult, and is a bunch of wires encased in an encasement. There is always two components to parental aggression - parent anger and parent attraction. Parent attraction is repressed usually, and comes out in certain situations, usually when the child is bathing. Usually, fathers in particular notice signs of puberty, and fight back against any sexual connotations they may attach to it. A pedophile simply is at another level of parent - they have no choice but to acknowledge sexual desire, due to the surface-level nature of their sexually aggressive thread. The idea is to masturbate to sexual fantasy about children to bring your pedophilic desires to the surface, where they can more easily be countered with information about why sexual abuse is wrong, which is then absorbed in the encasement of the parent.

I myself avoid any interaction with children, sexual or otherwise, lest I get my wires crossed when talking to a young girl. If interaction is necessary, I interact on formal terms, limiting interaction, and showing them a cautious facade. When the child invites me to have a more casual conversation, I then talk more casually about what the child wants to talk about. I save the "did you know?" gaslighting I know I am capable of for my mother. Usually, though, I only engage in interaction towards children, if at all, on more formal terms, meaning sticking to formalities and keeping conversation sparse. I am now afraid to interact with a child, but in a healthy way, meaning I know there are dangers if I start flirting with her, and so I avoid it. I also masturbate to thoughts of children, and enjoy it, to the point where I don't need the real thing anymore. I can just whip it out, and do it on my own, and the imagined imagery is enough. Usually, I am more attracted to a child later, meaning when I get home, and not in the moment when they are there.

I used to abuse children sexually, in the form of sexual harassment. I would wave flirtatiously at children, and get acclimated to that behavior at a semi-public swimming area near me. I would also follow children around, out of sexual attraction to them. I had to learn to become un-acclimated to the swimming area, and just look. This is what I have done to contribute to the collective victimization of children, and thus I am undeserving of the trust and concern I am receiving from my victims. Every single child is my victim given that I am the depraved and entitled adult that I am.

Pedophilia doesn't have much to do with my choices - pedophilia is simply a mental disorder an adult can acquire, usually starting in late childhood. The problem, ultimately, is the choice an adult makes to sexually violate or harass a child, and that choice often comes from poor sexual self-care and being in the wrong place, at the wrong time, in a way that makes the abuser responsible for even being there. There is no excuse - a man especially can simply voice their preference not to be alone with a child if they are in a capacity where they work with children, and there are alternate reasons that work as well. Sexually abusing a child is a choice, not an urge that a man is "helpless" to. Pedophiles are most hated by religious abusive parents who sexually abuse their pedophilic children through sexual shaming, and so pedophiles cannot be scapegoated for the very abuse they suffer from their own parents.

Every single adult is guilty in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children. All adults are capable of child sexual abuse under the right/wrong conditions, and we as adults have repeatedly and incessantly abused and wronged children since time immemorial. Think peacekeeping and colonialism.

The depraved and decadent, defiled adult fornicators of children who sexually harass, assault, and/or rape children will BURN in torrents of Hell-fire! Repent! 

 

Children lying: Why children lie

Many parents think that children lie just because "that's what children do, so we punish them for it". This is a common mistake among parents. The fact of the matter is that children lie because they fear getting punished. So, why punish them at all?

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love, as denoted in the New Testament by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting in the safety and security of parents, without a worry in the world. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of respect for parents does not come from fearful compliance, but instead comes from restful trust in parents, with children confiding into parents anything and everything that is on their minds, including admissions of wrongdoing and non-conforming traits, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return. A healthy child who does not have trauma from punishment will tell parents everything that is on their mind, and then they might let a few accounts of wrongdoing fly out, knowing they will be treated with grace and forgiveness afterwards.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment, in context, prohibits all punishment and controlling demeanor in children, deeming it kidnapping. The Apostle Paul here was rebuking Greek Christian parents who were misusing the book of Proverbs to justify bringing their pagan custom of spanking children into the church. Paul here was warning Christian parents in the Colossian church that all seven verses in Proverbs that mention the rod are repealed verses, and refer to an ancient, archaic legal punishment inherent to the Old Testament context - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, as a final warning before putting a lawbreaking ADULT child to death. This punishment was closely related to the death penalty in Ancient Israel. Those harsh punishments were abolished by Christ on the cross - He endured them so that mankind didn't have to anymore.

Why do children lie? They fear punishment. When parents punish their children, they don't solve behavioral issues, but instead cause children to hide their behavioral issues. A healthy child does not lie when a parent confronts them about something they did. Instead, it just comes out, and they spill the beans.

Child victims of abuse DO lie, in fact, but in order to protect abusive adults, and not to "get adults in trouble". This is because they fear retribution from the perpetrator. Punishment serves the same purpose in a child's life - it is hostage taking that forces a child to do things the parent's way. The child will then do things their own way anyway, but will hide it.

Children in biblical times were not punished. Instead, parents used attachment parenting methods to keep children honest, by keeping an honest dialogue and, more importantly, fostering a secure parent-child bond. Such a bond was built by skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. Children ranged next to mothers by day, and snuggled next to her by night, with mothers comforting their children in their bosom when they were upset or tired, with both mother and child completely naked when in the home, or with children  snuggled next to mother in swaddling blankets when out and about. Children told biblical parents everything, occasionally letting fly something bad that they did, and then they were rewarded on their honesty. This is because of the secure parent-child bond that was commonplace in Hebrew and Christian homes in the biblical context. Children were deified in biblical times, and had the authority to order parents around legally as to their needs, with parents being a servant of God through their child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Good behavior in public venues: How to instill orderly behavior in a public place in children

Many parents want their children to behave in an orderly fashion in public places. These places include stores, restaurants, and churches. Many parents want a quick answer and a quick fix that will sedate a child in public. There is none. Children are going to be children, and parents just have to deal with it, until children are ready to behave in an orderly fashion.

Parents should show discipline at all times in a public place, as is denoted by the Greek root word παιδεία (Latin: paideia). This word refers to a specific standard of Christian discipline, starting with an admission of a wicked and depraved sin nature, and ending at feeling entitled to nothing from children, and being grateful for all the joy your child brings you, leading to a chastened up attitude that demands none, and asks little. This ultimately leads to peaceable and orderly behavior in parents, and then children once they are all grown up. Children can't control themselves, but parents can control themselves to show a good example of discipline and righteousness to children. 

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love for children, with this being denoted in the New Testament by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every need, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents, without a worry in the world. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents, in a public place, provide a shelter for their children to behave however they want, possibly running around the store, screaming, and so forth, and then they run back to parents for closeness. Children up until age 3-4 can be wrapped up in swaddling blankets, and held close to mothers in particular, in skin-to-skin fashion. In a secure parent-child bond, an older child would range next to the parent, but in an energetic way typical of their age. Children should be able to confide anything into parents, and be listened to and validate for that confidence. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. In this commandment, the Apostle Paul is lifting up the Law on theft and kidnapping, prohibiting punishment and controlling demeanor, with most child abuse being kidnapping due to its hostage-taking nature. Paul was rebuking Greek Christian parents for bringing their custom of spanking children into the church. Paul would have none of it in the Christian Churches of God, and called for the excommunication of any father or mother who was punitive at all with their children. Some Christian parents were misusing the book of Proverbs to justify their punishment habits of their children even then. Paul was pointing out that Proverbs is simply wisdom literature - a list of wise sayings - and not a parenting manual. All seven of the rod verses in Proverbs are repealed verses, and do not refer to raising children. They refer to legal punishment inherent of the Old Testament, namely the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction. When God's Word was translated into the Latin, it was mistranslated to justify the agenda of the Roman Catholic Church, which was to pander to European pagans who beat their children, allowing their abuse of their children in return for Christianization of their lands.

Most of the time, a power struggle erupts when a child wants something from the store. Usually, the parent is unwilling to get the item because they believe the child is being manipulative. The child isn't being manipulative - he/she simply wants attention, so give it to them by buying what they want. Usually, children stop asking after parents get them what they want, or else they get the same thing every time, and are grateful for your patronage to their needs.

If you have to say "no" because the child wants something outlandish, such as an expensive bicycle, know that they are going to cry. If you are their mother, hold them to your bosom, head first, and reassure them that you are there and you can understand how upset they are - and try to understand how upset they are. Remember when you were a child. Fathers, with the mother's permission, can hold an older child over his shoulder when crying, or cradle a child aged 0-3 when they cry.

Children never left the line of sight of adults in biblical times. In those times, children were deified in every aspect of life, but especially when acting in an imperfect and flawed way. Children were seen as worldly extensions of God, with parents being the servant of God, meaning their child. Children rested in their deified stance, being pampered on their throne, not having to worry about anything. Children in public today should not be made to worry about behaving like a little adult either...This context contained herein applied today just as it did during the time of Christ.

Children are not going to behave in a peaceable and orderly fashion right away. Most behaviors that children are punished for are developmentally appropriate behaviors, meaning understandable given their age and development. Most behaviors in children that bother you as a parent, but not the child or anyone else, are simply phases that the child is going through, and should be let go. Crying of any kind is a plead for help, meaning older children cry for the same reason a child cries - they just want love! So, give your child love when they cry in public, and if you are the mother, snuggle them in your bosom - many mothers wear shirts with plunging necklines to service their children, not their husband or men in general.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Independence: Why this was the goal of every biblical parent

Many American parents go by the biblical adage "spare the rod, spoil the child" when discussing their parenting goal. They want a child that is obedient to authority blindly, when not all of authority in the world is well-meaning. Only God's Authority exists eminently, and God's Law is above the law of the land. God helps those who help themselves - but first, children need to be helped in a way that enables them to shake you off as a parent when they are ready.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love for children, which is denoted in the New Testament by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself last as a parent, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of respect for parents does not come from fearful compliance, but instead comes from restful trust in parents, with children feeling safe in confiding in parents anything and everything that is on their mind, including admissions of wrongdoing and non-conforming traits. This word implies attachment parenting, lifting up the Judeo-Christian customary laws commanding attachment parenting of children. Both Jewish and Christian law included customary law not just allowing for attachment parenting, but commanding it.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment, in context, was understood as prohibiting all forms of punishment and controlling demeanor towards children, with the Apostle Paul simply lifting up the Law on theft and kidnapping prohibiting punitive parenting. This commandment was intended to rebuke Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking children into the church. Greek Christian parents were misusing the book of Proverbs even then as an excuse for their own punishment habits. Paul was explaining that the rod verses instead refer to the 40 minus 1 lashes that were intended to warn an errant ADULT child that they were about to be put to death. This legal practice was intrinsically related to the death penalty in the Old Testament, so much that the two could not be separated. The Early Christians shunned the death penalty, and so they shunned the 40 minus 1 lashes as well. Customary law in the Early Church commanded a secure parent-child bond through attachment parenting methods.

Attachment parenting is like providing a safe place for children to cling to before becoming fully independent and functioning adults. Children rarely left the side of mothers until age 6 in biblical times. Children ranged next to their mother by day, with both mother and child in the nude when at home, and children being in the nude all the time. Children, by night, slept next to mothers. Children were close to mothers and fathers, slowly asserting their independence.

Children were kept close to parents, and were heavily supervised, until they shook their parents off in terms of closeness, asserting their independence. In which case, parents allowed children to prove themselves. Children were allowed to develop naturally in biblical homes, and so adulthood came earlier, by the age of 13 in the case of both boys and girls in the Early Church. In Ancient Israel, girls instead became women at age 12.

The first step of gaining independence was shaking off co-sleeping, and then children tried to prove independence to their parents by doing all sorts of things on their own, including religious studies. An adult, in biblical society, studies all of the Law and came to a conclusion as to how to apply it. Most children started shaking off their parents starting at age 6, but were supervised closely still until the age of majority, while at the same time being allowed to play freely.

Society in biblical times did not favor blind obedience, but instead independence and self-reliance. A child was not expected to be self-reliant, but instead was given freedom while being supervised. God helps those who help themselves. Parents in biblical times did do things for their children, yes, but only until children insisted on doing those things by themselves, in which case they were supervised while doing what they wanted independently. Children were instructed for later the value of hard work and not relying on your neighbor for a handout. Some children could not be independent even as adults, and so the church picked up the tab, stepping in with Christian charity.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Autism and co-morbid disorders: How to deal with aggression (pro-social vulnerability, pro-social crying/punching bag)

Many parents face it every day. They get hit. They get slapped. They get kicked or bit. Aggression is a behavior associated with autism. However, most aggressive behavior in autism is from a co-morbid mental disorder in the child.

It is a fact that most childhood aggression in a child with autism is not because of the autism, but because of co-morbid disorders, except in cases where the child is non-verbal and lashes out aggressively in order to communicate. Common disorders that cause aggressive symptoms in a child with autism are bipolar disorder, major depressive disorder, ADHD, and OCD. Most of the time, children need medication for their aggressive symptoms. Autism itself is a docile condition in most cases - it is the co-morbid mental disorders associated with the autism that make children with autism fly off the handle. Medication is crucial in these cases, and before the child can be properly medicated (which takes a few years, on average), the child needs less structure, more time to be themselves, and for parents to be patient until the proper medication, at the proper dosage, is found. I myself am medicated for childhood bipolar disorder, and I can attest that it is not something that can be melded by "more structure". Children like I was need less structure, and more free time to be themselves.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love for children, which is denoted in the New Testament by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself last as a parent, in a convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of respect for parents does not come from fearful compliance, but from restful trust, with children feeling safe in confiding into parents anything and everything that is on their mind, including admissions of wrongdoing or non-conforming traits. This word implies the Judeo-Christian custom of attachment parenting. In the case of an aggressive child, this would include vulnerability tactics such as incurring aggression onto oneself as a child.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, especially child abuse in this context. Child abuse, under biblical law, at minimum, is defined as the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or imprisonment. This commandment is understood in context as prohibiting all forms of punishment and controlling demeanor towards children, including seclusion and unnecessary restraint in the modern context. The Apostle Paul was simply lifting up the Law on theft and kidnapping that prohibited punitive parenting, rebuking Greek Christians for bringing their pagan custom of spanking children into the church. The Greek Christian parents were misusing the book of Proverbs to justify their punishment habits. Paul would have none of it, and excommunicated the Greek Christians who used punishment instead of the attachment parenting customary in Jewish and Christian circles. Attachment parenting was the established norm in both the Old and New Testaments, meaning customary law then required that parents have a secure parent-child bond with their children.

What does one do when a child is aggressive? In biblical times, parents who had aggressive children incurred the aggression onto themselves, then crying in the midst of the aggression. This was a vulnerability tactic used by mothers in biblical times, and also fathers. At the end of every Christian parent's rope then was a ball of tears. Children didn't take advantage of the crying, but were then alarmed by what they did, and took steps to make amends with parents. Children with aggressive issues usually snap out of their aggressive phase when an adult cries. They are more scared than even you are.

The way to avoid most aggression is to listen and validate emotions just as they are ramping up. Language such as "I can tell you are upset, so let's talk about it" is crucial in preventing rage attacks or meltdowns. Many times, a child behaves a certain way due to wanting attention. So, why not just give them attention of the quality sort, as opposed to false encouragement often feared by adults. Most Jewish and Christian parents in biblical times listened to the upset of children, and even heeded the orders of children.

Again, this advice can be used in a school setting. I support laws allowing to put their hands on a child to calm them down and reassure them. Teachers are parents in loco parentis to students, and a good parent is willing to hug and snuggle with their child when the child is having a hard time. Here in Pennsylvania, special education law, and state law in general, allows for teachers to hug or embrace a child who is upset or ramping up. Such is another attachment parenting strategy that could be used in the classroom right when a child is ramping up. Vulnerability tactics should be a last resort, for when a child is already escalated.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context: How it applies today

Many parents think they have the right to demand respect from children. This is a common form of child abuse that parents commit, which they justify using the Fifth Commandment to honor parents. Honoring parents in biblical times, particularly the Old Testament, meant something very specific, and not a vague command allowing parents to pretend to be God.

The Fifth Commandment states in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: so that thy days may be long in the land the LORD thy God giveth thee

This refers not to simple back talk or opposition of parents, but to actual elder abuse. The Fifth Commandment was the prelude to the parent protection laws, with "do not curse parents" referring to a gaslighting curse - adult children used to send their parents on their merry way. "Do not strike parents" referred to, in practice, repeatedly beating parents, with each incident clearly documented. Testifying against your own child in Ancient Israel was a shameful affair. Elder abuse was not at all common, but when it happened, most people rushed to the side of the perpetrator, excusing his or her behavior with statements such as "Where did that child learn to behave that way?" Very rarely were children convicted of elder abuse, and even then, none actually were put to death. Elder abuse today, as defined by state laws, is covered by the Fifth Commandment, meaning simply having "a smart mouth" is not elder abuse. Elder abuse is far more serious than a child talking back. It is an ADULT child taking advantage of their aging parents, with the aging parent usually feeling powerless over their own child.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of respect for parents does not come from fearful compliance, but from restful trust in parents, with children feeling safe in telling parents anything and everything that is on their mind, including admissions of wrongdoing or non-conforming traits, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return. Children, in this loving and affirming environment, learn to take after parents, wanting to be like parents, then following the example of children. Children will not honor the example of parents right away, as they cannot be reasoned with on the level of an adult, with children engaging in childish behaviors that may annoy the parent, but not the child or anyone else. Children do not fully follow the example of parents until they are young adults - the example peeks out early on, but doesn't fully show in the child until young adulthood.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, under biblical law, at minimum, is defined as the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. In this commandment, the Apostle Paul is lifting up the Law against punishment and controlling demeanor towards children, rebuking Greek Christian parents for bringing their pagan custom of spanking children into the church. Christian parents of Greek origin were misusing Proverbs to justify their punishment habits even in the 1st Century, when this passage was written. Paul was warning parents in the Colossian church that Proverbs is simply wisdom literature - a list of wise sayings - and not a parenting manual. The rod verses in Proverbs - all seven of them - are repealed verses, and have nothing to do with raising a child. They instead refer to the ancient, archaic legal practice within Judaism where fathers were court ordered to issue 40 minus 1 lashes as a form of judicial corporal punishment of their ADULT child that was violating the law to the level of a criminal offense. The punishment was intended simply to warn an ADULT child that death is imminent if they re-offend. This punishment was closely linked to the death penalty in the Old Testament, and the death penalty was a shunned institution in the Early Church. The Early Christians enforced the Law using pro-social non-association, as a individual collective unit.

All the Fifth Commandment means to a minor or dependent child is rest. Parents do all the labor and good works for their children, and children rest in it, not having to work at all for the love of their parents. Children do not even have to love their parents back, and it is recommended that they don't, as love requires labor.

This rest in parents is one where the child is not made to worry. They don't have to worry about behaving in just the right fashion. They don't have to worry about pleasing their parents (parents please their children). Children can simply shout or bark orders at parents, and parents are the ones that have to worry about serving their child, not the other way around.

Children rest as extensions of God (see Matt. 25:31-46), giving lawful and binding orders to parents, resting on their throne, not having to worry about a thing. The chain of command in true biblical parenting is applied in first-to-last fashion, meaning children order their parents around as representatives of God, and parents merely serve God, meaning their child, by seeking to please their child and keep him/her happy. 

Children were deified in biblical times, and were idealized as "gods" and "goddesses". Children were seen as imperfect extensions of God, with them being loved for their imperfections, not despite them. Children could order parents around, issuing lawful and binding orders. Children rested on their throne, worrying about nothing, being pampered by parents. Children were shown the same respect as a good Christian would show God, fearing and revering children as having such divine status.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!