Good behavior in public venues: How to instill orderly behavior in a public place in children

Many parents want their children to behave in an orderly fashion in public places. These places include stores, restaurants, and churches. Many parents want a quick answer and a quick fix that will sedate a child in public. There is none. Children are going to be children, and parents just have to deal with it, until children are ready to behave in an orderly fashion.

Parents should show discipline at all times in a public place, as is denoted by the Greek root word παιδεία (Latin: paideia). This word refers to a specific standard of Christian discipline, starting with an admission of a wicked and depraved sin nature, and ending at feeling entitled to nothing from children, and being grateful for all the joy your child brings you, leading to a chastened up attitude that demands none, and asks little. This ultimately leads to peaceable and orderly behavior in parents, and then children once they are all grown up. Children can't control themselves, but parents can control themselves to show a good example of discipline and righteousness to children. 

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love for children, with this being denoted in the New Testament by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every need, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents, without a worry in the world. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents, in a public place, provide a shelter for their children to behave however they want, possibly running around the store, screaming, and so forth, and then they run back to parents for closeness. Children up until age 3-4 can be wrapped up in swaddling blankets, and held close to mothers in particular, in skin-to-skin fashion. In a secure parent-child bond, an older child would range next to the parent, but in an energetic way typical of their age. Children should be able to confide anything into parents, and be listened to and validate for that confidence. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. In this commandment, the Apostle Paul is lifting up the Law on theft and kidnapping, prohibiting punishment and controlling demeanor, with most child abuse being kidnapping due to its hostage-taking nature. Paul was rebuking Greek Christian parents for bringing their custom of spanking children into the church. Paul would have none of it in the Christian Churches of God, and called for the excommunication of any father or mother who was punitive at all with their children. Some Christian parents were misusing the book of Proverbs to justify their punishment habits of their children even then. Paul was pointing out that Proverbs is simply wisdom literature - a list of wise sayings - and not a parenting manual. All seven of the rod verses in Proverbs are repealed verses, and do not refer to raising children. They refer to legal punishment inherent of the Old Testament, namely the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction. When God's Word was translated into the Latin, it was mistranslated to justify the agenda of the Roman Catholic Church, which was to pander to European pagans who beat their children, allowing their abuse of their children in return for Christianization of their lands.

Most of the time, a power struggle erupts when a child wants something from the store. Usually, the parent is unwilling to get the item because they believe the child is being manipulative. The child isn't being manipulative - he/she simply wants attention, so give it to them by buying what they want. Usually, children stop asking after parents get them what they want, or else they get the same thing every time, and are grateful for your patronage to their needs.

If you have to say "no" because the child wants something outlandish, such as an expensive bicycle, know that they are going to cry. If you are their mother, hold them to your bosom, head first, and reassure them that you are there and you can understand how upset they are - and try to understand how upset they are. Remember when you were a child. Fathers, with the mother's permission, can hold an older child over his shoulder when crying, or cradle a child aged 0-3 when they cry.

Children never left the line of sight of adults in biblical times. In those times, children were deified in every aspect of life, but especially when acting in an imperfect and flawed way. Children were seen as worldly extensions of God, with parents being the servant of God, meaning their child. Children rested in their deified stance, being pampered on their throne, not having to worry about anything. Children in public today should not be made to worry about behaving like a little adult either...This context contained herein applied today just as it did during the time of Christ.

Children are not going to behave in a peaceable and orderly fashion right away. Most behaviors that children are punished for are developmentally appropriate behaviors, meaning understandable given their age and development. Most behaviors in children that bother you as a parent, but not the child or anyone else, are simply phases that the child is going through, and should be let go. Crying of any kind is a plead for help, meaning older children cry for the same reason a child cries - they just want love! So, give your child love when they cry in public, and if you are the mother, snuggle them in your bosom - many mothers wear shirts with plunging necklines to service their children, not their husband or men in general.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!