Many, if not all, parents have to deal with temper tantrums of various sorts. Childhood bipolar disorder is a mood disorder with mixed episodes of depression and mania, and moods in between, known as a mixed mood. In children, the disorder is associated with other issues, not just the disorder itself, and this can lead to problems.
It says in Exodus 20:17 KJV:
Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbor's..
The word "covet" is denoted by the Hebrew word דלחמו (Latin: lachmod) and refers not only to wanting, but to wanting to the point of seeking to impose onto a child, or else seek to control a child. This is cross-referenced by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to demanding things from children instead of politely asking for the child to do you a favor. When the child perceives unlawful demands and control imposed on them, to the slightest of din, in terms of pain, shame, fornication, or other emotional distress. Abuse is further defined in Colossians 3:21 KJV:
Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.
The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stir up" or "upbraid", meaning momentary damages as named above, meaning anything that the child perceives to be upsetting, offensive, alarming, or otherwise uncomfortable. Such is a general rule, but there are exceptions.
Self-defense is a principle in biblical law, but, ideally, must be done in a way where the struggling parent retreats to their abode, meaning their room, meaning likely the master bedroom. Sometimes, parents have to invoke the children's rights acronym pro-social punching bag. This refers to the specific act of a parent submitting to physical violence from a child, to any point necessary to selflessly quell the child's upset.
It isn't a normal tantrum, and it rarely occurs in public venues. It can be understood as a form of domestic violence against a parent, by way of dynamics. Parent abuse (as opposed to abuse of parents, which is more of an adult-geared offense) is about a parent "feeling their regret" by the child's primal urge to "punish my abuser back". That means they are likely aware of the fact that they are being punished as a child, and deem it an injustice.
Why don't you see this? You do, in fact, but may call it ADHD when a little girl with messy hair runs down the aisles, but the defining bipolar behaviors are documented by the parents at home. They also include things such as attachment issues, namely insecure attachment where they co-sleep in the parent's bed until they are teenagers.
I actually have the disorder, but it is completely medicated. That's the only way I can remotely function in society without being in prison. I am very much pro-medication, because lithium carbonate saved my life, meaning was the first step. It sent me on a self-exploratory mission to diagnose myself and seek psychiatric treatment.
A parent of a child with this disorder can only set realistic limits AFTER the child is medicated, which could take many years, perhaps not until the child is in their mid-late teens. Parents, in the mean time, can attempt to set limits and boundaries, but should readily expect them to be ignore. Gentle parenting is something that should be geared to the child's individual traits, and in these cases, this means more stringent supervision, but at the same time more selfless supervision. This means expecting maybe bruises and even broken bones from your child, even if they are as young as 8 or 9. It is a very serious form of temper tantrum, where the child may fit the criteria of "strength of 10 men". Some stereotypes are true, sadly.
A child can get bipolar disorder when they aren't punished - usually some other life event triggers the genes, such as puberty, and they simply have strong mood swings that escalate as they get older. If no violence was modeled to them, they'd simply be happy-go-lucky types mixed with an alternate depressive ego, and maybe have psychotic symptoms as well. Psychosis, however, is almost never about being abused by someone, even in paranoid format. Sometimes, persecutory delusions exist, but that would be like me claiming "an anti-pedophile guy visits me at night and tries to kill me". Usually, that could be allegorical for an actual trauma. Pedophilia is genetically related to persecutory delusions, but most pedophiles instead have strong traits of PTSD, both from childhood abuse and societal abuse intermeshed. If you think everyone hates you, and are quiet about it entirely (which most pedophiles are) someone is after you, and there is a danger, and it started with parents - but they never grew out of society's compress like most children did. If they are known abusers, and believe their victim is persecuting them, they are the persecutor. If they think us Christians are at fault, that's a trauma. Most at VirPed are atheist, and most blame us Christians. A child with autopedophiliac traits from childhood bipolar mania can have those traits switched to pedophilia at puberty, as is my case. Pedophilia is actually in the same cluster of mental disorders as childhood bipolar disorder, in terms of genetics. Pedophilia can better be understood as a childhood disorder in and of itself, usually self-realized in the mid-teen years, and occurs on the male genome, and is rarely expressed in females (though it seems to be more common in females than originally thought, from self-reports on support forums).
I have known gentle parents here with a child with the disorder. Yes, even these children can be raised gently and without punishment. It just takes a little bit more sacrificial attitudes in parent. Christ sacrificed for His children, put Himself on trial, and gave up His life for them. This is the ideal for any parent, but since such perfection will not be met in any parent, Christ will dissolve all sins and abuse that is atoned for and regretted...Do whatever you need to do, as long as there is no control or punishment. Sometimes, the circumstances around a child need to be controlled for their own good, and many times, this is the case for such a child. I am not judgmental of parents of such children, as long as you don't believe in punishment. A common entitled attitude in parents is "pills are an excuse. Get out the belt and whoop them". Nope, listen to them, even if that means submitting to physical attack.
