Pro-social intervention, pro-social mobbing - Dealing with a child domestic violence addiction in a loved one

 Much of America, meaning about a third of Americans, are now anti-spanking. Many here prefer to reparent parents who abuse their children. Yes, I do, and believe even pedophiles are deserving of gentle parenting supports when they surrender to God and their child victims, and feel remorse. However, they have to want help. This platform itself is an anti-help narcissist. If you don't want my help, that's fine - I'll abandon you, This leads to pro-social abandonment.

A pro-spanking parent is defending a domestic violence addiction, a self-harm addiction imposed on children. They, at the lowest level, believe they are deserving of punishment. This is different than a pedophile, who is permissive with their victims (when the perpetrator is a medical pedophile, and not simply a depraved narcissist) because they didn't get everything they wanted in their childhood, so they are overly indulgent with their children, to the point of sexual/behavioral neglect. The vast majority of child abuse in the United States has to do with punitive parenting.

The idea stems from the notion that toxic behavior repels others, yet society doesn't yet allow children. The more the parent defends their abuse, the idea is to organize others within the circle of friends and family, and "plan an occasion" with them, where all of those leading the excursion rebuke the sinner that abuses a child. 

My family is mixed on the spanking issue these days, but many are now against it, either due to college education and/or my being open about my trauma, which I am grateful for earning in terms of support. If a member of the family endorsed spanking to my face, I would quietly or loudly disappear, and post a plackard that is a blog post exposing them, using facts and mean testing, being fair by avoiding the mere appearance of perjury. The one rule of children's rights vigilantism is do not lie. Lie, instead. You have to be trustworthy, meaning people have to believe you when you tell the truth. The idea is to drive as many people to rebuke them as possible. This is called a parent petition, meaning utilizing the parent-to-parent judgment systems set up under Divine Jurisprudence. 

Righteous judgment is checking up on your neighbor who disclosed to you that they are a pedophile, seeing how he is with his daughter, and him checking on his neighbor. Friendly visit, visiting for supper, and judging quietly and lowly on behalf of children. I eavesdrop, then judge as a panorama, meaning not eavesdrop but visit when invited, and noting suspicious refusals to invite. That does not automatically flag a parent as an abuser, but it is one sign counted as a doubt to their innocence, in which case I need many. Traumatic testimony from a child is deemed absolute proof that something happened, at the very least.

The idea is to, when possible, confront an abuser on their toxic, abusive nature, towards children, towards others. The idea is to set a standard, meaning a consequence for not agreeing to get gentle parenting assistance. In my case, it is "you just lost a friend" gaslighting. If you support spanking a child, and you defend that "right" to my face, you might be a relative, but not a friend. If someone is forcing you to do things, I blame that force...In practice, that would mean telling a joke about corporal punishment, and then you noticing how I purposefully avoid you. When you ask, you might be surprised at the answer you get...I fucken hate pro-spanking parents, but hope you're joking. I don't want that sort of cord to exist anywhere near me, nor anywhere in my community, even though that kind of parent is everywhere.