Pro-social subduction, pro-social punching bag - Options for parents in the case of a meltdown

 Many Christian parents especially believe in punishing a child for a temper tantrum. Some advocates will cave to the fact that "tantrums are/can be bad/messy", I won't. It's a child's special right to act that way, since they don't have the words to communicate, nor the self-control to "keep it in" (though lack of punishment sure gives them tools to keep themselves in line). What would I do when a child threw a tantrum? Become a victim of domestic violence, and willingly submit to my child captor, repenting for my wretched parent existence with joy and splendor. Pro-social accountability/security, pro-social bliss, pro-social sacrifice, pro-social love. 

Love for your child is incurring an "abuser" from them,. because you are always guilty, and the child is always innocent, and that is God's order of things, and none of that will ever change, even if societies disparage of that advice widely. This is Christian love, and is denoted by the Greek αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), which refers to submission to children in varying degrees, in this case to complete and utter subduction, meaning complete 100% turnover, complete and disproportionate choice by the adult to surrender to the child and her needs, convicting themselves as wicked, filthy, and depraved merely for existing in relation to that child, trembling with reverent fear. Reverent fear is denoted by the Greek root word ψοβός (Latin: phobos) and refers to a low-level, driving fear that jolts you into doing good works for them. Love is a verb, and is doing good works for a child. In a case of a tantrum, it is selflessly taking your licks from your child.

She's a stubborn and rebellious daughter, and she hates your guts right now because she wants go to her favorite restaurant. "But the car is in the shot" and then the meltdown. I'd just submit, and take the brunt of her wrath, frozen and shut up, confessing how lowly and horrible of a father I was for letting her down like that. A black eye? See if I care. A badge of honor, since I surely wouldn't reciprocate. Dragged around like a ragdoll. Thrown around walls. I want to be hurt, to see my child satisfied in my pain. I then ask "what do you want"? Then the tears flow. "I just wanted to be heard. Don't hate me, dad"...Usually, this aggression is suppressed in children, where they are forced to conform to standards of emotional expression that are developmentally inappropriate.

Pro-social pedophilia is a form of gentle parenting, and involves channeling healthy and unhealthy levels of childhood energy, aggression, and other strong emotion into a closed space within the quarters of parents. Parents are tools, and a specific type of tool - sounding boards. The child puts their worries in the containment basket, and the parent stores them selflessly, and reassures the child in a validating manner. The one rule of pro-social pedophilia is to avoid outbursts in public. This can mean leaving the cart at Wal-Mart, and leaving with the child alone, not paying for the items in said cart. Usually, they'd be there for after the tantrum. Eventually, children wouldn't act that way in public, but only in private, when parents were there to nurture, set limits, and protect. It says in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to anger, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

"Admonition" then, denoted by the Greek root word νουθεσια and refers to correction, but is balanced out by the Greek root word for "provoke...to anger", which is παροργιζο (Latin: parorgizo). All this leads to the chastening of the Lord, which is a centered and disciplined attitude, mixed with good Truth and Scripture deciding right versus wrong. Christian discipline is denoted by the Greek root word παιδεία (Latin: paideia). It says in Hebrews 12:11 KJV:

Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.

Same word, in the case of chastening - παιδεία. The Greek root word λυπέ (Latin: lupe) and refers to pain, of a visceral sort, that leads to rewards at the end. Love and good works towards a child can be painful.

Let the parents burn if they disrespect or abuse their child! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!