"I am an abuser, and I admit it, and I don't care"

 ...And then it takes one guy to point out that they do. Why gaslight this way? I do admit myself to be an abuser, but only in terms of capacity in modern tense. I am not an abuser in terms of action and attitude towards children. I admit that I hate children in a certain way, and work on it, with that work turning to love.

I might say "I am a pedophile, and I admit it, and I don't care", because a pedophile is not an abuser, and if I say that, you likely are projecting your abusive attitudes towards children onto me, so I own up to something you can't/couldn't own up to, in order to soil myself so I can soil you, and if you point that out, I'll acknowledge that, and won't care, and then I'll accept most any name in the book. If I get torn down, I know, at least by the end, that I'll get through it.

Or you could leave me alone, or else converse with me on a flat cooperative level, and I wouldn't have to bring out that law. Another, much more common level of gaslighting I use is pro-social questioning, pro-social clarify. If you are digging your teeth, *I* might admit to being (your) abuser to get a defense out of you, and do so falsely, and/or falsely admit to lying, because no criminal defends themselves that way. I would, in that instance, urge you to report me for something. At the end of my line of gaslighting is "HELP" submission to my abuser - surrender all hope, and bare all helplessness, in a way no abuser ever would. This stages only occur if you attack me first. Otherwise, I simply respect what you do here. I hate having to take out the trash with the parents here, but sometimes they pop up like tall poppies, and you need a whole lawnmower, for some reason, to keep them down. We aren't parents here. We don't brag like that about our title. We are survivors. One of us admits to being a pedophile as a part of his trauma, that's all - not that a "victim made me a pedophile" - pubertal hormones did - but that pedophilia shapes how my trauma is expressed. It's a scientific issue for me, primarily, mixed with Christian sexual morality.

I always win the argument, at least in retrospect, because I can just pull myself right back up. The least level of interrogation and intrusion on the family, the better. Gentle parents are good, loving parents who sacrifice, tirelessly, in a thankless way. How about a round of applause for all the gentle, attached parents choosing to do the right thing, when a flawed and evil world says it is the wrong thing to do,