Pro-social rebellion - Gauging healthy rebellion in children

Our nation was founded as a Christian nation, and is based off of Judaeo-Christian family values. Pro-social rebellion is the founding biblical principle of our nation. Some of us conservatives apply that principle to family life.

It says in Exodus 20:17 KJV:

Thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbor's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor anything that is thy neighbor's.

This is not an exhaustive list, by far. The Greek root word cross-referencing this commandment is πλεονεκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to wanting anything from a child, to the point of seeking to impose said want on that child, leading to abuse/kidnapping (GRK: κλέπτω). I am entitled to nothing good, and everything bad, from a child in terms of respect. I am wicked and depraved, and entitled to absolutely nothing from children. Ask, and I shall receive if I've earned trust. Demand, and I become entitled.

It says in Colossians 3:20 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to surrender coming from surrender, leading to secure attachment. Secure attachment is pro-social rebellion, coming from pro-social submission from parents. Christian love is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to being convicted of one's depraved and entitled parent/adult nature, leading to submission towards one child as an enemy, knowing nothing about childhood or your child's life, serving her every need and being her friend, with the child owing nothing in return to adults. 

The child can simply rest in the care and providence of parents, with children having every right to issue lawful and binding orders as to their needs. Glass of milk? Lawful and binding order, must do. Walk in the park? Lawful and binding orders, except maybe if snow or ice are in the way. A child can tell me what to do, and that is her role in parenting - tell me what she needs, on her level, and I lawfully and dutifully provide, as a servant to her every need. She can "talk back" whenever she wants, and I must obey her command as to what she needs, and be convicted as such, in a trembling way that acknowledges my guilt merely for being an adult in relation to her.

Parenting in the biblical context was attachment based, with infancy lasting until age 3, with breastfeeding being culturally acceptable until that date. Boys went with their father at age 6 to receive religious instruction, and girls until age 12. Religious instruction was not punitive in nature, but was simply imparting religious knowledge in a non-violent, non-coercive. It referred to reciting the law orally, through word of mouth. Punishment was for those who knew the law, yet violated it anyway - legal adults. Children were seen as an extension of God in the Early Christian churches, meaning the attitude was that if you mistreat or neglect a child, you do so for God.

The depraved and entitled parents shall PERISH in the lake of fire and brimstone, suffering the second death! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!