Righteous masturbation: How parents can avoid sexual entitlement towards their children

It is a hidden problem that all fathers and some mothers have towards their children. The topic at hand is parent attraction. Most parents, especially fathers, are sexually attracted to their own children. Most parents try to deny the attraction. The problem is that this denial of sexual desire in parents towards children puts parents at prime risk for sexually abusing their children. Righteous masturbation is the only way out of parent attraction to children.

The Greek root word denoting lust in the Bible is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but to sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. The only way out of that approach is in, meaning righteous masturbation. 

Righteous masturbation isn't any old masturbation, but masturbation as a solemn act. The acronym of righteous masturbation implies that pornography is not even in the possession of the adult masturbating, including, but not limited to, child pornography. Even if you don't use the pornography on your person, you are guilty because it is on your person. That means that if you do stumble across pornography, delete it from your search and Internet history, but don't wipe your hard drive for honesty's sake. Pornography was a form of εύτρεπλία (Latin: eutrapelia), which meant both pornography and coarse jesting. Pornography can even be in your speech. If your speech is intended to inflame romantic or sexual passions, it shouldn't be had. 

"Guy talk", meaning men revving up each other by sharing sexual experiences, is a moral crime in and of itself. Flirting, in and of itself, is fornication by way of obscenity. The only reason a man should flirt with a woman should be to court a bride, and even then, if she turns him down, he has to atone for even approaching the woman. A man should not be approaching a child at all for sexual or flirtatious reasons. It is okay to look the look, and think the think. It is not okay to approach the approach or do the deed. Whenever your approach made the slightest of sexual contact with a child, you did the deed, and you need to atone for that.

The sexual dynamics in a family home go like a criss-cross. Fathers and daughters were attracted in a mutually unrequited format. Sons were attracted to mothers, usually in the form of a dead end. Most of the time, mothers did most of the protection, since they could see their children clearly. Sometimes, mothers also had sexual attraction to their children, and in those cases, mothers really had to atone. The most dangerous part about today's sexual norms is a father's usual choice to repress sexual desire for his children. Fathers are supposed to masturbate righteously to thoughts of their children, meaning usually their daughters.

Most people think of masturbation as something that only leads to sexual contact outside of marriage. The truth is that masturbation purges the unrequited lusts that parents especially have towards children. Righteous masturbation is not a celebratory form of masturbation, meaning documenting fantasies in and of itself is pornography, as is sharing sexual fantasies. Masturbation is a solemn act to be done in private, as a form of mental hygiene. The only way to fully acknowledge your sexual side towards children is to fantasize about sexual relations with children. When you refuse to masturbate to sexual thoughts of children - which all adults have - you refuse to acknowledge that side of you, and then it stays repressed. Repressed sexual desires often leads to adults, especially parents, approaching children for sexual or flirtatious reasons. Some adults don't even know where their feet go in relation to children, such as when they see children in a public swimming area. 

I myself am a pedophile, meaning that I have a near exclusive sexual preference for children under age 14. The peak age in my attracted is ages 11-12. I deal with my attractions by masturbating righteously to sexual thoughts of children. The masturbation alone purges the unrequited attraction I might have for a child passerby. I have a history of obsessing and fixating on specific young girls, and so I have to char and tar all sexual possibilities by knowing that even approaching children for sexual or flirtatious reasons will land me in Hell. Righteous masturbation is something that I use to explore all possibilities, and I have no problem masturbating to sexual thoughts of the girl that I met. I just need to remember that if I do approach her for sexual or flirtatious reasons, the approach, in and of itself, would be a moral crime against God. I have no problem finding my feet in relation to children, and simply look the look, and maybe think the think later. I don't want what I want these days, and feel safe exploring all possibilities through righteous masturbation. I prefer to explore the possibilities with children, especially the children I see in public. I myself often coo at little children, even boys when I am not attracted to boys, meaning I dote on them when out and about, especially when they are having their moments.

All fornication is blasphemy. All blasphemy is against the Father, and whenever the Holy Spirit is mentioned in a convicting way, it refers to the Father. That is how convicting references to the Holy Spirit were viewed in biblical times. Thus, it is not too late to avoid your habit of approaching your children. The main idea is to "flee fornication", meaning that if you find yourself approaching a child for sexual or flirtatious reasons, about-face yourself and flee from fornication. If you find yourself in a rape habit with a child, flee from that habit, and you will be forgiven. What the Bible says is clear - God the Father gave to us our bodies as a gift, with strings attached. If you commit fornication with your body, you are unclean until the even. Fleeing fornication is enough to purify yourself of uncleanness and impurity. It is a myth that God owns our bodies - we are our own, but with strings attached, meaning no fornication with our bodies, with fornication being a sin against our own bodies. The key to fleeing fornication is avoiding the approach entirely, and then masturbate to sexual thoughts of children, with masturbation alone being seen in biblical times as a purifying act. Fornication is ultimately summed up by the Greek root word πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers to anything outside of proper channels, as understood in the biblical context. The slightest of sexual contact is considered impurity, with masturbation seen in biblical times as a form of purification. 

Masturbation has a tendency to, when done willingly, to dim the lights and cool the jets. It purges the adult brain of all sexual strife, meaning that your struggles with sexual thoughts will cease. The idea is to allow yourself sexual thoughts, including sexual thoughts within the context of righteous masturbation. Most Christians may want a struggle, but what if I told them that it is better to purge yourself of sexual thoughts entirely? I myself don't have a sexual thought "every 10 seconds", but only am reminded of my pedophilia when I see an attractive young girl. Other than that, I know it is there, but don't have surface-level sexual thoughts. I can look the look, and even think the think, but I can't approach the approach or do the deed. Flirting or propositioning is counted as doing the deed. The only way I can approach is with intent to court a bride, and even then, if she turns me down, I am to atone for approaching her. If she is keen on dating me, I will make her wait until marriage. I am only allowed to marry a woman that is equal to me, meaning even college-age women are off-limits, as are children. 

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape or sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Why to catch children being good (as opposed to catching children being bad)

Many parents want their children to have discipline. This is a common want amongst American parents. Most parents feel the need to punish their children in order to give them discipline, catching them being bad. However, Christian parents in the Early Church instead caught children being good.

Catching children being good is spelled out in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon. 

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their parents' footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught showing good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise from fathers when caught being good, whereas girls were given a kiss to the forehead by fathers when caught being good. Children also needed religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. Religious instruction started with leaving out an Aramaic copy of the Hebrew Bible, for children to discover or explore. When children were caught reading the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based off of what children saw in the text. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers being quick to give pointers on the context. Religious development is a part of child development, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. Young children - starting after age 6 in most cases, develop religious beliefs that are simplistic and non-conforming to any religious denomination or sect. However, as children get older, they start to conform to a specific religious denomination or sect. It may not be the religion you would choose, but at least they have values. If you want to limit their options to Christian options, only leave out only a Bible.

What leads to children hearing out the instruction of fathers? Why not start out with a secure attachment to mothers? During the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mothers went, so did their children. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following mom from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing mothers "going away and never came back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, then diagnosing the need before meeting the need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When mothers and children were out and about, children were wrapped up to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping lasting until the onset of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep.

In a proper Christian home, mothers nurture from up close, whereas fathers nurture from afar. Mothers nurtured in a warm and sustaining way. Fathers nurtured from afar, in a teaching way. Fathers looked for moments when children were being good, then praised them for it. Fathers kept a distance from their children, and that is because of a sexual attachment towards their children, especially daughters. But, even in the biblical context, fathers could not have their "icing on the cake". Fathers instead masturbated righteously to sexual thoughts of children, in private, in order for fathers to stay out of trouble with their children. Righteous masturbation is masturbation in order to stay out of trouble with women or children, without the use of pornography. Daughters were also attracted to their fathers, in an unrequited way. The most daughters could do about their attraction to their fathers is go naked when dad was around, with the daughter liking to be seen naked. When fathers masturbated righteously to sexual thoughts of their children, they felt more comfortable around the state of children in biblical times, which was always naked. Fathers who masturbate righteously to sexual thoughts of children are more motivated to be fathers. Fathers nurtured children then, albeit from a distance, but children were nurtured by way of praise and encouragement when caught being good. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous ordering: Why children call the shots in Christian homes

Many parents think that they call the shots. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most Christian parents in particular think that they are the one in charge. The fact of the matter, however, is that children call the shots in Christian homes. This dynamic is known as righteous ordering.

Righteous ordering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Children in biblical times called the shots. Children issued righteous orders to their parents, and, in most cases, parents had to obey their children. The only way parents could say "no" was when the orders from children were either unworkable and/or immoral. Even then, if the child threw a temper tantrum due to the word "no", mothers in particular had to reassure the child by way of skin-on-skin warmth and sustenance. Children need to hear the word "no" rarely, meaning almost never. Children need to hear the word "yes" far more than the word "no".

When young children - under age 6 - needed something, they cried. From there, the mother cooed at the child and then picked up the child. From there, the mother diagnosed the need, and met it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Older children gave formal orders, starting with the phrase "I want" in most cases. Children in biblical times got most of what they wanted, and all of what they needed. Children in biblical times were given what they wanted/needed no matter how they asked, even if they asked in a demanding way.

Righteous ordering is like going to a restaurant. You can have it your way, but it must be on the menu. If an item is not on the menu, the waitress is nice about it, even if you aren't. A parent should be like a waitress, waiting on children hand and foot, allowing themselves to be used like a sponge or a milking-cow.   

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous co-sleeping: Why co-sleeping is good for a secure attachment between mother and child

Most parents think that co-sleeping is the irresponsible choice. Most parents oppose co-sleeping next to children entirely. However, the Bible, when understood in context, prescribes attachment parenting, and sound attachment parenting calls for co-sleeping. Co-sleeping can save a child's life, in fact.

The doctrine of righteous co-sleeping is the centerpiece of the doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children in his time as a deacon.

It is common knowledge that children aged 2-6 often refuse to go to bed. This is a common occurrence in family homes. Most children that refuse to go to bed are punished for it. However, the reason behind bedtime refusal is that children under age 6 aren't ready to sleep on their own. Children of that age have primal fears of being devoured by predators. This is because parents are to protect their children from predation. Maybe predators of the animal type are non-existence, but human predators might just exist in your own home. Children are most likely to be sexually abused when isolated alone in a crib or bed. When co-sleeping was done in biblical times, the child was protected from harm, as the mother was right there. Co-sleeping happened in skin-on-skin format every night, and the man of the house had to get used to it, or else the mother would leave with the children in a hasty divorce. 

A common excuse not to co-sleep is "sleep dependence", as commonly given by pediatricians and mental health professionals serving children. Most parents are afraid to co-sleep, because they don't know when it will end. In the Early Church, co-sleeping ended at the onset of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep. 

Co-sleeping is the best way for a child to bond with mothers. Co-sleeping is the core way to understand Christian attachment parenting, meaning Christian attachment parenting calls for co-snuggling and co-sleeping of the skin-on-skin variety, every single night until the child is ready to sleep on their own. Christian attachment parenting is attachment parenting based off of the Early Christian context. Children in the Early Church went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked when in the confines of the family home. Mothers co-slept next to their children every night, with the birth nudity facilitating warm and cozy co-sleeping. Children who were milk-dependent were given mother's milk as a means to soothe them to sleep, every night until the child rejected the nipple. Children rested in the love and submission of parents, meaning in the loving arms of parents, especially mom. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Strictness in parenting: How to teach strict attitudes to children the proper way (without punishment or force)

Many parents want their children to have strict attitudes. This is a common wish for parents to have for their children. Most gentle parenting advocates don't support strict attitudes in children. But, most American parents want their children to have some strict attitudes in them. However, there is a way to raise children with strict attitudes - model and encourage strictness in children.

How does a parent teach strict attitudes to their children? Proper child discipline is spelled out in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offense stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating them as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with their children following in their parents' footsteps. Children, in biblical times, were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught showing good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Boys who were caught being good by fathers were given manly praise, whereas girls who were caught being good by fathers were given a kiss to the forehead. Children also need religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. Religious instruction started out with fathers leaving out an Aramaic copy of the Hebrew Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught reading the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement along the lines of "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based off of what children saw in the text. Children were eager to hear out the facts of life, and fathers were quick to give pointers on the context. Religious development is a part of child development. Young children - usually starting around age 6 - had simplistic religious beliefs non-conforming to any religious denomination or sect. But, eventually, children formed religious beliefs that conform to the norm of a specific religious denomination or sect. It may not be your choice of religion, but at least they have values. Parents can filter what religion they want their children to have by only leaving out a Bible.

How do you open up your child to strict attitudes to your children as a parent? Why not start out with forming a secure attachment to children as a mother? During the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held, either in mom's arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when mom's hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her around from room to room, never leaving her out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at children before picking them up, then diagnosing the need of the child. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When mothers and children were out and about in public, children were worn next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress of mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin, with this co-sleeping lasting until the onset of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children were naked wherever they went in biblical times, and mothers were naked in the confines of the family home, with this birth nudity facilitating skin-on-skin warmth and sustenance.

Mothers nurture up close, and fathers nurture from afar. The nurturing of fathers was intended to encourage strict attitudes in children. Fathers nurtured in a teaching way, and even then, only from afar Fathers in biblical times developed a sexual attachment to their children. However, fathers even then could not have their "icing on the cake". Instead, fathers masturbated to sexual thoughts of their children. This made fathers more comfortable around their daughters in particular, and also warmer towards all of his children. The sexual attachment to daughters in particular was connotational in nature, not driven. In most Christian homes in the Early Church, young girls were naked for their fathers, and enjoyed being there for their father to look at, with fathers knowing that all they can do about it is masturbate later. Sexual correction was seen as a vile act of sexual entitlement even in biblical times. Most ancient cultures allowed for that outlet, whereas the Ancient  Jewish culture did not. Masturbation to sexual thoughts of your children helps fathers nurture their children better, and helps them teach them better, improving the secure attachment between father and child. 

Strictness is something learned from within, not from without, with strict attitudes in children ultimately being learned from a strict example coming from parents. Children grow up almost entirely on their own, with the main influence in children's lives being YOU and YOUR example. When you see children copying good traits from you as their father, praise and encourage them. When you see children copying the good traits of their mother, praise and encourage them as their father. The mother's role is to form a secure attachment through skin-on-skin warmth and sustenance, whereas the father's role is to form a secondary secure attachment through righteously masturbating to sexual thoughts of their daughter in particular.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath  day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Honor thy father and thy mother: Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Many parents feel entitled to being honored. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents. Most American parents have demanded that children honor them. However, with a few narrow exceptions, parents need to earn honor from their children.

The Fifth Commandment states in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that the days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

This commandment means don't dishonor your parents, meaning don't commit elder abuse against them. The bare minimum that a parent deserves, in terms of respect, is not striking parents (see also Exod. 21:15), not gaslighting parents to send them places (see also Lev. 20:9), and not blaming parents for moral crimes that you commit (see also Deut. 21:18-21). Apart from that, parents are to allow themselves to be used by their children, even when they are fully grown, like a sponge. But, even parents have limits as to what they can tolerate.

Dishonoring parents, in children, can be understood by the commandment not to strike parents. Children can use their parents for pretty much anything under the sun. However, striking parents is not the way to get what you want from parents. The idea is to cry when your child strikes out at you, as children do not want to take advantage of parents, but instead just want to be heard. But, the right way to get what you want from parents is to simply voice a want, and use your words. 

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Respect for parents was a real concept for children in biblical times. But, this respect came from closeness to parents, not fear of parents. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mothers went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held, either in mom's arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged beside mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their sight, morbidly fearing mom "going away, and never coming back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at children before picking the child up, then diagnosing the need from there. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When mothers were out and about with children, they wrapped up the child in swaddling blankets, the tucking the swaddling blankets - and the child with her - underneath her loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping lasting until the onset of puberty, which was when children wanted their own place to sleep.

Honoring parents becomes more relevant when parents grow old. If you had good parents, or else you have made peace with your abusive parents, you have the right to give back to your parents by taking care of them when they are older. If your parents were that down and the dumps that they abused you, you have the right to send them to the trash - permanently. It all starts out with children using parents like a sponge, and then when the parent is in need of care and attention, they can use their children like a sponge. The amount of honor shown towards parents is determined ultimately by how much parents did to earn the respect of their children. 

Speaking against parents alone is not dishonoring parents. The main offense against parents that can easily be committed today by a young child is striking parents. That is the most common form of dishonoring parents committed today. Children's needs are always valid, but they can be expressed better than striking out at parents. Crying when your child strikes out against you communicates to the child that they should express the need better. In most cases, the child cries alongside the parent. This is what is called righteous wailing. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Adult attraction to children: Individual responsibility for adults attracted to children

Many parents think that only some adults are capable of sexually abusing children, and that they aren't capable. Most adults think only a few people are capable of child sexual abuse, namely pedophiles. Most adults don't want to take responsibility for their part in the child sexual abuse epidemic. The fact of the matter is that all adults are responsible for the sexual abuse epidemic haunting children.

Every single adult is culpable merely for existing in relation to children, as every single adult is capable of child sexual abuse under the right/wrong conditions. Most adults never will sexually abuse a child, but all adults presumably will be tempted to sexually abuse children, and a few of them actually will. The core of the sexual abusers of children have adult sexual entitlement, not pedophilia. Pedophilia is a primary or exclusive sexual preference for children under age 14, in most cases associated genetically with autism or related developmental disorders. Most sexual abusers are not pedophiles, but simply adults who chose to oppress children with their sexual wrath.

What can adults do to avoid sexually abusing children? The Greek root word denoting lust is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to any sexual desire, but to sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. The first steps leading up to the attack are what is known as sexual entitlement. Trying to corner a child using grooming tactics can be an example of adult sexual entitlement. When it is a parent approaching a child for sexual or flirtatious reasons, it is parent sexual entitlement. Parent sexual entitlement is the most serious form of entitlement facing children today. The only way out of the approach is righteous masturbation, meaning masturbating to sexual thoughts of children in their own imagination, meaning without pornography of any kind. 

The way most child sexual abuse happens is the offender represses their sexual thoughts to children, meaning they try to deny it, and then they repress it. Then, they end up being alone with a child that they are attracted to, and the attraction comes out sideways onto a child, like a ton of bricks. This predicament can happen to any adult who isn't prepared beforehand. The way to prepare beforehand is to masturbate to sexual thoughts of children. 

Most child sexual abuse is committed by a parent, not a pedophile. The evolutionary sexual dynamics in a family home go like a criss-cross. Fathers and daughters are attracted to each other, in a mutually unrequited way, and sons are attracted to their mothers like a dead end. Usually, child sexual abuse goes along these lines, as usually, it happens in a home setting, not a school or anywhere where children congregate. Fathers who rape or sexually assault their daughters like to ignore their sexual side towards their children, until they can no longer, and then it spills out onto the child, like a ton of bricks coming out of nowhere.

Pedophilic sexual abuse is actually rare. When a pedophile does sexually abuse a child, they do so on the surface, with the abuser being known as an obvious abuser. Usually, sexual offenses such as following a child home from school is what most sexual offenders who are pedophiles do. Most pedophilic sexual offenders are fixated on a specific child, in the most autistic of ways, and impose that crush onto the child. I myself do fit the profile of an obvious abuser, meaning I have followed young girls around a pool deck, as a form of flirting, waving at them with intent to flirt. If one of the young girls did invite me to their home, I would have snuggled with them with intent to romance them. 

The most prolific of sexual abusers are not pedophiles, but instead serial rapists. Usually, they have victims who are not children, meaning usually a string of adult victims. Most pedophiles do not have the social skills to pull off a string of rapes. Most pedophiles who rape a child do it only once, and then the child confronts them for it. Most pedophilic offenders simply don't know the boundaries, due to being socially inept. Most pedophiles specialize their intelligence around children, with their sexual drive reflecting their specialty of intelligence. I can barely do any math, but I can tell you all about gentle parenting. 

The hysteria about pedophiles has gotten us nowhere in terms of child protection. Nobody wants to take personal responsibility for the sexual abuse of children, and everyone is pointing the finger at someone else. Why can't more adults do what I do - and blame themselves for the sexual abuse epidemic. We all as adults have let children down, and so all of us should atone just for our adult existence. All adults are depraved and decadent sinners deserving of nothing but DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing in relation to children and the God that protects them. Most actual pedophiles are ahead of the game, and feel about sexual abuse much like an ordinary member of society would. It is the rest of adult society that has to atone in relation to children. Most rapes or sexual assaults committed against children are an adult's choice to oppress children using sexual violence. Since all adults are capable, all adults need to atone for their risk for children, and their very existence. Our very existence as adults is marred by a peacekeeping past. 

Most pedophiles are the last people to sexually abuse a child. That is because they can't hide from themselves the fact that they are sexually attracted to children. Most pedophiles are always aware of their sexual attraction to children, whereas most adult attraction to children is on the dormant level, with the ordinary adult being attracted to the opposite sex. Most pedophiles are primarily or exclusively attracted to children, with their peak age being under age 14. Most pedophilia comes in the form of intrusive thoughts, where the pedophile is attracted to children at every level, and wants out of that rut. But, since there is no other way out, they need to accept their sexuality through righteous masturbation. Most sexual abusers ignore their sexual thoughts for children, until it comes out suddenly in the form of the attraction coming out sideways, like a ton of bricks. 

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape and sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent! 

Preventing public meltdowns: How to prevent meltdowns in public (without punishment or force)

Many parents have to deal with it. A meltdown in public. Most parents, if not all, have had their child melt down in public, perhaps kicking and screaming. However, most parents punish their children for "acting up" in public, saying things such as "you embarrassed me" or "I can't take you anywhere". There is a way to deal with public meltdowns.

Preventing public meltdowns is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: as is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating their children as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Mothers in the Early Church, when out and about in public, wore their children - under age 6 - next to their bosom in swaddling blankets. From there, mothers tucked the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - underneath her loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. The child was tied from the left breast, then across the dot to the mother's right leg, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. When children cried while in the bosom of mothers, mothers held the child close to her bosom, perhaps breastfeeding the child right there in public if the child was milk-dependent. The swaddling blankets were made of velvet, which was grown throughout the Ancient Middle East.

Sometimes, children throw a temper tantrum when they hear the word "no". A child in the supermarket or other store needs to hear the word "yes" far more often than the word "no". The word "no" should be used rarely, meaning almost never. The only acceptable time to say "no" in a store is when the child wants something that is too expensive, and even then, if you can say "we'll come back come payday", make that promise instead. If you absolutely have to say "no", they are going to throw a temper tantrum, most likely, and then the mother is to hold the child close to her bosom. Chances are, your child will be able to spot things they want from their rest in your bosom, and if you can afford it, give it to them. Chances are, if you can't afford it now, you can afford it when you get paid - perhaps at end of the week. Maybe children can't wait until payday, but you can count the days for them. If they are wrapped up in swaddling blankets when in the store, they are going to cry, but they cry silently, simply shedding tears without wailing or kicking and screaming. But, there is almost never a good reason to say "no" to what children want in the store. 

Some meltdowns, in some children, are due to other vulnerable needs. Maybe the child is hungry. Maybe the child is tired. Maybe the child needs mom's milk. Maybe the child needs mom, period. Whatever the child's need, it should be expressed quietly, with the mother diagnosing the need based on trial and error. Today, a common need that didn't exist in the biblical context is a soiled diaper - swaddled children defecated on the ground, and nobody complained. If a child has a soiled diaper, treat that need. If in doubt as to what the child needs, allow them to latch onto the breasts of mothers. If the child falls asleep in the swaddling blankets while being breastfed, they likely needed that nap. Some children, namely those with sensory issues, will cry silently next to mom, and then the best thing to do is hold them close and let them cry silently. If there is a crowd of people in a store, perhaps during the checkout line, children will cry, and if they cry silently in that context, you can presume that it is due to sensory deficits. 

There is never a good reason to punish a child for having a public meltdown. It is normal behavior in children to have public meltdowns. However, swaddling blankets quiet down the cry. If your child can talk, ask them what they need. If they can't talk, diagnose based on the context of the cry. There is no need for a child to be kicking and screaming in public. They can simply cry quietly while wrapped up to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets. They cry quietly because attachment needs are the root to all other needs. Whenever a child cries, they need YOU. 

When children were past age 6, they ranged next to mothers in public, following her closely. When older children threw temper tantrums, mothers cooed before picking them up. Most of the time, tantrums from children past age 6 happened in privacy of the family home, and mothers cooed before picking up the child. Most meltdowns were due to the word "no", which can be easily prevented by giving the child what they want, except when the orders from the child are unworkable and/or immoral. Most of the time, tantrums in older children aren't crying, but instead whining. When children whined due to the word "no", mothers cooed them before picking them up, then holding children in their arms to reassure them further of her presence. Whining is a sign of maturity in a child, meaning the immature way to deal with disappointment is to cry, with children under age 6 doing most of the crying. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Original sin: How to teach your children about the doctrine of original sin (without punishment or force)

The doctrine of original sin is one of the most misused of Christian doctrines. Yet, original sin is the backbone of Christianity, as without original sin, there would be no need for a Christ. Yet, Christ died and Rose on the Third Day for our sins. So, there has to be some sin in all of us.

Mankind is a fallen species. All human beings are depraved and decadent sinners, deserving of nothing but non-existence. God hates us as human beings for our very existence, in an insignificant form of hatred. God hates us as human beings largely for our peacekeeping past. We are peacekeeping animals as human beings, with mankind being a bunch of glorified apes. Children, in peacekeeping times, bore the brunt of mankind's sexual wrath. See also Rom. 3:9-12.

Children, at some point, should learn the doctrine of original sin. Children, like all of us, are sinful creatures. However, calling a child a "sinner" is an unacceptable way of dealing with the sin nature in your child. Children will eventually realize that they are sinners on their own.

The best way to teach the doctrine of original sin is through the doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children. Children, in biblical times, were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught showing good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise when caught being good by fathers, whereas girls were given a kiss to the forehead when caught being good by fathers. Children also need religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia), which refers to the instruction of the Lord. Religious instruction started out by fathers leaving out an Aramaic copy of the Hebrew Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught reading the Bible, fathers were quick to praise and encourage children with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in the form of question and answer, based on what children saw in the text. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, and fathers were quick to give pointers on the context. Religious development is a part of child development, as religion is a human need for both children and adults alike. Young children, usually around age 6, start out with simplistic religious beliefs non-conforming to any religious denomination or sect. But, as children get older, they start to gradually conform to a specific religious denomination or sect. It may not be the religion of your choice, but at least they have values.

Original sin is something that comes up automatically when children are exploring Christian doctrine. Most children ask, at some point, "why did they have to kill Jesus?". The proper way to explain the reason for a Christ is "we all are sinners, and so we needed Christ to sacrifice for our sins, so that we can be forgiven". From there, children get the message that all human beings are sinners, thus we are born in original sin. If the child feels distressed by learning that all mankind are sinners, reassure them with a statement along the lines of "I'm here to listen". A child is a struggling sinner, not a defiant sinner. When children successfully show good traits, and keep it together, praise and encourage them to keep doing the good work.

What motivates children to hear out the instruction of their fathers? Why not start out with a secure attachment with mothers? During the first 6 years of childhood in the Early Church, mothers were in constant closeness to children, meaning wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else in a papoose bag on her back when mom's hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at children before responding to their cries. From there, mothers diagnosed the need based off of the type of cry. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When mothers were out and about with children - younger than age 6 - the child was wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with it - being tucked underneath the mother's loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping lasting until the onset of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers being naked within the confines of the family home. This setup of birth nudity facilitated easy skin-on-skin warmth and sustenance. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath though punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous respect: Why respect is earned in parenting

Many parents feel entitled to respect from their children. Most American parents feel that they deserve things from their children, namely respect. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents want to be respected, but do nothing to earn respect from their child.

Righteous respect is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the parents bearing the burden of proof in such a relationship. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Respect for parents was a real concept in biblical times, but came in the form of closeness to parents, not fear of parents. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held, either in the loving arms of mothers, or else on her back in a papoose bag when mom's hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her around from room to room, lot letting mom out of their sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever a child cried, mothers cooed before picking the child up, then diagnosing the need by the type of the cry. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When mothers were out and about in public, children - under age 6 - were wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress of mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping lasting until the child reached the onset of puberty, which is when they wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, whereas mothers were naked in the family home, with this birth nudity facilitating warmth and closeness to mothers on the part of children.

Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing in relation to children. Not even forgiveness. Not even respect. Not even affection. Nothing. Nada. Zilch. There is no such thing as a free ride in parenting. Parents have the God-given duty to be there for their children, and be used by their children, like a sponge or a milking-cow. When you allow yourself to be used like a sponge by your child, your children will thank you later, and take care of you later. The first 6 years are the optimal time to take care of a child, and nurture them. After age 6, children in biblical times were more free range, and played outside naked. Maybe children got into mischief, but the adults had a good sense of humor, as did parents. If your child is clinging to you past age 6, and doesn't have autism, that is a form of separation anxiety disorder. Separation anxiety disorder is caused by a parent being negligent in meting out affection, or else a traumatic event in an attachment parenting home - this is called an attachment injury, and that means that children need even more closeness with parents.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Proverbs 13:24: Why the rod verses in Proverbs are repealed verses

Many parents use the Bible as an excuse for punishing children. Most parents in America go by the phrase "spare the rod, spoil the child" as a parenting motto. However, no such verse exists in the Bible. The 7 rod verses that exist in the Bible do not refer to parenting, but to judicial corporal punishment.

God's Word says in Proverbs 13:24 KJV:

He that spareth the rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

This passage, and all of the related passages, refer to a form of judicial corporal punishment known as the 40 minus 1 lashes. The 40 minus 1 lashes was a judicial punishment, after many warnings from eyewitnesses to stop the course of conduct. It was a once and a lifetime warning for a young adult to cease a criminal habit. If they didn't beyond that point, they were righteously kidnapped and put to death for their offenses. Children were never charged for a criminal offense, and could not be whipped at all lawfully.

As Christians, we aren't subject to the penalties found in the Old Testament. We are subject to the Law as Christians, but only the spirit of the Law, meaning all of the Ten Commandments minus the second one. Christ Himself was issued corporal punishment unjustly, and thus corporal punishment is unacceptable as a means of disciplining a child. All 7 of the rod verses in Proverbs are repealed verses due to these facts. 

Proverbs has no wisdom as to how to raise a child. However, disciplinary guidance can be found in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as a form of holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishment of a child into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything. Christian parents in biblical times centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their parents' footsteps. Children, in biblical times, were caught being good, as opposed to being caught bad. Whenever children were caught showing good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise when caught being good by fathers, whereas girls were given a kiss to the forehead when caught being good by fathers. Children also needed religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. This religious instruction started out with fathers leaving out an Aramaic copy of the Hebrew Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught reading the Bible, they were praised and encouraged with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in the form of question and answer, based on what children saw in the text. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, and fathers were quick to point out the context. 

Religious development is a part of child development, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. Young children, in most cases starting at age 6, have simplistic religious beliefs non-conforming to any religious denomination or sect. However, as children get older, they start conforming towards a specific religious denomination or sect. It may not be the religion you would choose, but at least they have values.

Mothers nurture from up close, and fathers nurture from afar, as was the case in the Early Church. Fathers nurtured in a teaching way. For the most part, the care of children was left to mothers, who gave children sustaining warmth. But, every once and a while, when children showed good traits, they stepped in and praised the child. This caused children to want to please their parents by trying their best to fight their sin nature, and struggle against sin. Children were never punished in biblical times, and if they were, it was seen as kidnapping, for trying to corner a child by their perception.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Child discipline: How to discipline children the proper way (without punishment or force)

Most parents want their children to have discipline. This is a common reason for parents punishing their children. This punishment is based off of the notion that you can train a child up, and force the child to obey Christian law. There are better ways to discipline a child than punishing or reprimanding them.

Proper child discipline is spelled out in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for doing things wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in biblical times centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children then following in their parents' footsteps. Children, in biblical times, were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children showed good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Boys, when caught being good by fathers, were given manly praise, whereas girls, when caught being good by fathers, were given a kiss to the forehead. Children also need religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. This religious instruction started out with fathers leaving out an Aramaic copy of the Hebrew Bible for a child to discover and explore. When children were caught reading the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based off of what children saw in the text of the Bible. Children were eager to learn about the facts of life, and fathers were quick to point out the context. Religious development is a part of child development. Young children, usually starting at age 6, have simplistic beliefs that are non-conforming to any religious denomination or sect. But, as children get older, they start to conform, in most cases, to a specific religious denomination or sect. It may not be the religious denomination or sect that you would choose, but at least they have values.

What motivates children to hear out the instruction of their fathers? Why not start out with a secure attachment to mothers? For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the child went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held, either in mom's arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following mom from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing mom "going away and never coming back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at the child before picking him/her up, then diagnosing the need based off of the type of cry. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Children, during the first 6 years, were wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child themselves - then tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress of mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this skin-on-skin co-sleeping lasting until the child reached the onset of puberty, which was when they usually wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, and mothers went naked when in the confines of the family home. 

Mothers nurture from up close, whereas fathers nurture from afar. Fathers nurture their children in a teaching way, praising and encouraging children when they are caught being good. Children then wanted to please their father, and so they showed good discipline all of the time, to the best of their ability. Fathers kept their distance due to a sexual attachment to his children, with daughters being the primary target of such an attachment. However, fathers were not allowed their "icing on the cake", and instead were to masturbate righteously. Righteous masturbation is allowing yourself to masturbate in order to purge unrequited lusts, and for fathers to stay out of trouble with their daughters especially. Righteous masturbation to sexual thoughts of your children helps built a secure attachment between father and child. The word "masturbate" or any of its stem words are not found in the Bible, with the Early Christians masturbating frequently in order to purge unrequited lusts, including unrequited lusts towards their children. Fathers spent away their parent attractions using righteous masturbation, and then got along great with their children, from a distance. Fathers only stepped in on occasion, when children were caught being good.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Temper tantrums: Why temper tantrums are not bad behavior

Many parents feel that they are entitled to have a perfect child that doesn't throw tantrums. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents hate it when their child throws a temper tantrum. The fact of the matter is that temper tantrums are not bad behavior.

Dealing with temper tantrums is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Temper tantrums were not seen as bad behavior in the Early Church. Instead, temper tantrums were seen as communication of a vulnerable need. Whenever a child cried, mothers quickly responded by cooing, before picking the child up. From there, the mother diagnosed the need by the type of cry/ Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. 

Cooing is a primal vocalization on the part of mothers. Cooing at children helps put them at ease, and prepares them for being reassured by mothers. Cooing at children reassures children of mom's presence. In the Early Church, instead of mothers saying "I'm here" reassuringly, mothers simply cooed at their children, reassuring children that they have been heard.

Most temper tantrums in older children come in the form of whining, in most cases in the instance of the word "no". Whining, in child development, is a sign of maturity, as crying is an immature trait found in babies and young children. When children whined or cried in biblical times due to the word "no", mothers cooed before picking up children, reassuring the child with closeness that the child's voice was heard. If the child did not cry after hearing the word "no", they were praised and encouraged by fathers in showing self-control.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

Righteous pampering: Why God wants you to pamper your children

Many parents think children should not be pampered, because they might "take advantage" of parents and "overstay their welcome". This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, the fact of the matter is that children deserve to be pampered and babied, not just some of the time - but ALL of the time.

Righteous pampering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offenses perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Righteous pampering refers to pampering and babying children, but in a certain specific way. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness with mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. During the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following mom from room to room, not letting mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever a child cried, mothers cooed before picking them up, then diagnosing the need from there. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Children under age 6, when out and about in public, were wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - tied to the bosom of mothers beneath a loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping lasting until the onset of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked in biblical times, wherever they went, with mothers also going naked in the family home. This setup of birth nudity helped facilitate skin-on-skin warmth and sustenance. 

Children over age 6 were allowed to play freely outside, naked. This happened, however, only after checking in with mom first. Children ventured farther and farther from home, exploring the terrain, playing high-risk games such as "marriage". Children, come nightfall, were called by name and fed a nice, warm dinner, and then they recharged in the loving co-sleeping warmth of mothers. The modern application to this is telling children over age 6 that it is okay to play outside until the streetlights turn on. Children today have one weapon against child abduction that they didn't have when the older generation grew up - a cell phone. But, children under age 6, don't understand things such as the street being dangerous. In the Early Church, children could get into venomous snakes and scorpions, and since there was no such thing as antivenom then, the child died. Either way, a child up until age 6 is meant to be supervised closely, in a way that bonds with mothers. 

Part of righteous pampering is saying "no" seldom, meaning almost never. Children in biblical times got most of what they wanted, and all of what they needed. Children issued orders as to what they needed, usually by crying and whining. When those behaviors came about in children, mothers knew the child needed something. In most cases, sibling rivalry was non-existent, and siblings simply competed by parroting each other's wants/needs. When one child wanted something, they all did. So, parents had no choice but to give up the fight, and give in to childhood demands. Whining can be annoying to some parents, but it is actually a sign of maturity - first they cry, then later they whine. The idea is to pamper them every time they cry or whine. Children need to hear "yes" far often than the word "no", as saying "yes" often builds a secure attachment between parent and child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Crying: Why crying is not bad behavior

Many parents feel entitled to a child that doesn't cry. Most parents demand that children not cry past a certain age. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents think that crying in children past infancy is something to stomp on and eradicate. The fact of the matter is that children cry as a means to communicate, not as a means to "undermine" your parenting.

Reassurance of a crying child is known as righteous reassurance. Righteous reassurance is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children as a deacon.

Children in biblical times were allowed to cry. A cry coming from a child was seen by mothers in particular as an expression of a vulnerable need. Whenever children cried, mothers immediately responded by cooing at children before picking them up. From there, mothers diagnosed the need, and provided the need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. 

Cooing was a primal way for mothers to reassure and validate a child's upset. Cooing, when done by a mother at a child, put children at ease. From there, mothers diagnosed the need of the child, and met that need. Cooing helps the child feel heard. When mothers cooed at their children in biblical times, their wailing turned to silent tears.

Crying occurs when a child needs something. There are five main categories of need in a child; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - and the greatest of these needs is attachment! When children cry, they need something under these five categories of needs, as children know what they need. Things such as tiredness in children fall under attachment needs, as children should be co-sleeping next to mothers. In the Early Church, mothers met the every vulnerable need of a child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Passing down the faith: How to pass down the Christian faith (without punishment or force)

Many parents want their children to have the same values as them. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. There is no sure fire way to impart your own religious values onto children. However, children can have values, as religion is a human need for children or adults alike.

Passing down the faith is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting any and all punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating their child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here, in this context, to modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The standard of Christian discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children then following in their parents' footsteps. Children, in biblical times, were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught showing good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - children were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise when caught by fathers being good, whereas girls were given a kiss to the forehead when caught by fathers being good. Children also needed religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. Religious instruction started out with fathers leaving out an Aramaic copy of the Hebrew Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught reading the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction of children came in the form of question and answer, based off of what children read in the text of the Bible. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers being quick to point out the context. 

Religious development is a part of child development, with religion being a human need in children and adults alike. Young children's religious beliefs start out being simplistic and non-conforming to any religious denomination or sect. However, as children get older, they start to conform to a specific religious denomination or sect. It may not be the religion you would have in mind, but at least they have values. You can limit their access to religious beliefs by only leaving out a Christian Bible.

What motivates children to hear out the instruction of fathers? Why not start with a secure attachment with mothers? For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were held constantly, either in the loving arms of mothers, or on her back in a papoose bag when mom's hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their sight, morbidly fearing that mothers would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers were quick to coo at their children, then picking them up, and from there, diagnosing the need. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When mothers were out and about in public, their children - under age 6 - were wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets, with these swaddling blankets - and the child with them - were tucked under the loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron, in skin-on-skin fashion. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers, with this co-sleeping lasting, in most cases, until the onset of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep.

Mothers nurture up close, and fathers nurture from afar. Mothers nurture by way of intense closeness. Fathers nurture older children, in a teaching way, intended to pass down the Christian faith. Fathers kept their distance due to a sexual attachment to their children. However, fathers were not allowed the "icing on the cake". Instead, fathers dealt with their sexual desires for their children by way of righteous masturbation, meaning fathers masturbated in order to stay out of trouble. Most of the time, children spent time with mothers, but when they were caught being good by fathers, dad then lavishly praised and encouraged the good traits in his children. When the man of the house masturbates to their sexual attachment to his child, they become warmer and gentler with their children, but in a distant way. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!