The traditions of attachment parenting: Why the Bible commands attachment parenting

Many parents think that our traditions as a country include punishing or being controlling with children. This is a common mistake parents make. Much of our normative parenting as a country is based on false doctrine and false interpretation of the Bible. America is a Christian nation, and the Bible commands attachment parenting.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to ensure that children have a warm and loving childhood, winning over the respect and affection of children. When attachment parenting is used to the fullest in Christian parenting, including in terms of skin-on-skin comforting strategies, children listen to parents, and do so automatically and out of instinct. Obedience, in the biblical tense, is not something you force onto a child, but instead a willful choice on the part of a child to surrender to parents, in response to a child's cup being filled to the top with their every vulnerable need. When that cup is filled up, a child does not question the motives of parents, but instead blindly goes along with what parents say or do, following parents wherever they go. This verse lifts up the customary laws that parents followed in biblical times, with these customary laws commanding that parents use attachment parenting. This verse was a reminder to the Colossians to stay on the attachment parenting path.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times, and after receiving many warnings that their punitive parenting habits were in violation of the Law. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damage or offense stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen then as holding a child hostage merely for what they did wrong. Paul here was lifting up this Law to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any punishment of a child. Paul here was advocating for children in Greek and Roman Christian homes who were being spanked and whipped for any little behavior that parents deemed "impurity". No such custom existed among the Early Christians, with the Early Christian parenting traditions involving attachment parenting.

Mothers, in biblical times, were the adults primarily charged in the care and protection of children. Mothers then did not spank or punish children in order to gain cooperation from them. Instead, they used skin-on-skin comforting strategies in order to gain the cooperation of their children. Children never wore any clothing, at all, until they were an adult. Mothers only wore clothing when outside the home, and otherwise wore no clothing. Children snuggled with mothers, engaging in mammary closeness, with the child held close to the bosom, being reassured by close contact with mothers. Fathers also nurtured, every once in a while, only gaining access to the children with the mother's permission.

The result? Children never left the side of mothers until age 6, and even when they left her side, they didn't stray at all from the line of sight of parents. Respect for parents was a concept in biblical times, but that respect was based off of closeness to parents, not fear of punishment from parents. Parents in biblical times aimed to form a close and secure bond with their children, and used that bond to gain cooperation from their children.

Parent anger was not accepted in biblical times, except in ceremonial form as a means to protect a child from an interloper. Parents who even showed anger towards their children, openly or in private, were seen as vipers and monsters who preyed upon children with their parental entitlement. Anger towards a child was seen as predatory, in the worst of ways, and in and of itself provoked outrage throughout the child victim's community. Parents were instead motivated by righteous anxiety and worry, meaning parents simply worried about their child doing something wrong or unsafe.

Attachment parenting is a part of our traditions as a country. The Bible is our main source of wisdom and inspiration, as we glean from the Bible and its context as a country. The Bible supports the use of attachment parenting, as that was the way of the ancients. We as a country should follow the lead of the good parents in the biblical context, and raise our children in an attached manner.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever in to the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

 

Parental entitlement: Why to avoid entitlement in being an adult in relation to children

Many parents and adults think they have the right to be entitled in relation to children. The parent lobby teaches parents that they have the right to be entitled on the parent level. Most parents today want to be seen as good parents, and often insist that they are good parents. However, nowhere in the Bible does it say it is okay to be entitled towards your child.

I am a children's rights Christian/conservative. Children's rights can be a conservative ideology, but only if it is marketed as an anti-entitlement ideology. Children's rights, by the conservative definition, is the opposition and avoidance of parental entitlement. We at conservatism will never be convinced of children's rights any other way. Parental entitlement is the lowest level of entitlement. Leaving this world without working on avoiding parental entitlement is a death sentence, meaning the parent entitled will not inherit the Kingdom of God - and that very message is the core of everything done on my children's rights platform.

It says in Romans 3:9-12 KJV:

What then? are we better than they? No, in no wise: for we have before proved both Jews and Gentiles, that they are all under sin; As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one: There is none that understandeth, there is none that seeketh after God. They are all gone out of the way, they are together become unprofitable; there is none that doeth good, no, not one.

This passage was originally written to Roman Christians in the 1st Century, who were becoming way too prideful in their practice of Christianity. The Roman Christians believed that they were the righteous ones just for being Christians. Paul was convicting them, trying to bring them to a place of humility. Today, this passage can be understood as a reflection of what God thinks of mankind. God hates us all as human beings, so much that He doesn't want us to even exist within His midst. Only a few of us as adults will win His favor, with all other adults marked for deletion. Every single adult is a depraved and entitled sinner deserving of nothing but DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing in relation to God and the Children He protects. All children that die go to Heaven, as the little children are the greatest in the Kingdom of God (Matt. 19:14). All adults, by default, are predestined to the second death. This whole world is hostile to children, and so God will destroy everything on the very last day.

The Greek root word denoting entitlement, including parental entitlement, in the New Testament, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement refers to wanting things from children, period. Don't we all want things from children? Yet, at the same time, we shouldn't want anything from anybody as depraved human beings. So, instead of demanding things from children, we should ask politely what we want from children, and leave it up to them to decide what to give and what not to give. Want is the core of our wicked and depraved sin nature, including in relation to children, and so it is best not to want anything from children, at all. Instead of demanding respect from children, earn it. Instead of demanding affection from children, earn it or don't receive it at all. 

Parental entitlement is explicitly prohibited in the Bible, with that prohibition being mentioned in offense format. It says in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times, and after receiving many warnings that their punitive parenting habits were in violation of the Law. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damage or offense stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong. Paul here was lifting up the Law to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any punishment of a child. Paul, here, was advocating for children in Greek and Roman Christian homes, where children were being spanked and whipped for any little thing the parents deemed "impure". There was no such parenting custom among the Early Christians, who were Christian pacifists even within their own homes. 

Parental entitlement is subdivided into two expressions - parent anger and parent attraction. A parent, in the brain, is like a cord, with the entitlement being the thread inside the cord's encasement. That cord is intertwined with primal instincts to control children, with one thread being sexual and another physical in terms of control output. The key to avoiding parental entitlement is to avoid the output of these control mechanisms, with these control mechanisms then being channeled inward. We should instead be angry at ourselves for what we are capable of towards children. In the case of parent attraction, that should be rechanneled using masturbation, with parent attraction only being deadly entitlement once it leads to sexual approach of children. Find fault in yourself, not your child. You can't fix your child, but you can fix yourself. 

It is the responsibility of parents and other adults to avoid parental entitlement. Parental entitlement is the lowest level of our entitlement. Avoiding parental entitlement makes one more silent and shamefaced as a Christian member of society, and makes one more understated and humble. Avoiding parental entitlement also makes one aware of every level of their psyche, enough to control every level of themselves. The goal of children's rights is to subdue parental entitlement and then seek to eliminate it, knowing it will never be fully eliminated due to the low level nature of the entitlement. In the end, it won't matter that someone might be accusing you of child abuse, because then you can just provide the evidence and answer to the court, without worrying about adult pride and power. Being an adult is a power trip that is entitled in nature. Avoiding parental entitlement is stepping down and abdicating from that position of power and privilege. 

The parent entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

How to teach obedience to children - without spanking or punishment

Many parents want their children to be obedient to authority. My own Christian theology is heavily based on obedience, meaning I as an adult believer must obey everyone around me. Children can learn to obey everyone around them, without punishment or any other controlling measures. I, for one, never credit my parents or my pro-spanking upbringing for my belief in obedience - I just obey, because my conservative Christian values tell me to do so. 

My religious understanding of obedience is that I must obey everybody, because I must love everybody, as love is obedience, and vice versa. The Greek root word denoting Christian love and obedience is αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to prioritizing your neighbor first, and yourself last, in a convicted way, leading to dutiful and selfless submission towards your neighbor. This means you have to listen to whatever everyone around you needs from you, putting their needs first, and your own last. Everyone around you, including your neighbor, is your superior. Higher authorities, in particular, deserve obedience from us, with such obedience being denoted by the Greek root word υποτασσο (Latin: hupotasso), which refers to loyalty to a higher authority leading to willful and intentional submission to said higher authority. This is a great lesson to teach to children, as there are rules and regulations everywhere you go in life, but it doesn't need to be taught using punishment or force. These values on obedience are my values, even if they aren't yours.

Teaching obedience starts with instilling obedience at home. Instilling obedience involves mutual submission between parent and child, meaning the parent has to fill the cup of the child in order to win over their obedience. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers are to rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to ensure that children have a warm and loving upbringing, winning over their child's affection and respect. When attachment parenting is used to the fullest in Christian parenting, children listen to parents, automatically and out of instinct. Obedience, in the biblical tense, is not something forced upon a child, but instead is a willful choice to surrender to parents made by a child, in response to parents submitting dutifully and selflessly to the every vulnerable need of a child. When a child's cup is filled to the top with their every vulnerable need, they do not question the motives of parents, instead going along with parents in everything.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times, and after many warnings that their punitive parenting habits were in violation of the Law. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damage or offense stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong. Paul was lifting up the Law to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any punishment of a child whatsoever. Paul, in writing his Epistle to the Colossians, was advocating on behalf of children in Greek and Roman Christian homes who were being punished and brutalized, usually with parents falsely citing Scripture as an excuse for abuse. There was no such custom or tradition in the Early Church for punitive parenting, as attachment parenting was the established norm in Christian churches in the 1st Century, as per church ordinance.

Mothers, in biblical times, were the adults primarily charged with the care and protection of children. Mothers then didn't use spanking or corporal punishment to gain cooperation from their children. Instead, mothers used skin-on-skin comforting strategies to gain cooperation from their children. Children never wore any clothing, at all, until they were adults. Mothers only wore clothing outside the home. Mothers and children snuggled with each other, and were co-mingled beside each other, by day. By night, children soaked up the rays of skin-on-skin co-sleeping next to mothers. 

The results? Children then respected their parents, but only out of this sort of closeness with mothers, which translated onto fathers. Children never left the side of mothers until age 6, and when they did, they never left the line of sight of parents. Children ranged beside mothers when not in close contact with her, and went everywhere she went in the house, with children being bonded closely with parents.

Obedience is not something beaten into a child. It is something a child naturally chooses in relation to parents, meaning children listen to parents automatically and out of instinct, trusting blindly what parents ask of them. With that trust, parents can point to children who to obey, and who not to obey, and children will trust them blindly. Children naturally relate to all of their attachments in life much like they relate to their parents, and thus can easily be instructed to either obey or avoid a certain person if raised in an attached manner. 

First, form the secure parent-child bond necessary to gain cooperation from children. Second, once you have such cooperation from children, instruct them on the value of obedience and tell them who to obey and who not to obey. If you have a secure bond with your child, this process will be easy. A secure parent-child bond is best formed in the first 6 years of a child's life, when the child's brain is still forming.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Child punishment: Why punitive parenting is already banned under the unwritten law of the land

Many parents think that it is okay to punish a child to control or discipline them. This is a common view among American parents. Most parents in America use punishment or other forms of controlling measures to deal with childhood behaviors. Many of these parents, if not most, use the Bible as an excuse for their punitive parenting of children. The fact of the matter is that punitive parenting is banned in the Bible, and such is the unwritten law of the land.

Parental entitlement is the number one threat to children in the United States, and we all have it. Parental entitlement is prohibited explicitly in the Bible, and is prohibited in offense format. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any forms of punishment or controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times, and after many warnings that their punitive parenting habits were in violation of the Law. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damage or offense stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong. Paul was lifting up the Law to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any punishment of a child. In fact, you wouldn't find a single Jewish parent, including in the Early Church, support striking or punishing a child for any reason. Jewish society, then and now, has never condoned any form of child abuse, including punitive parenting. Judaism is the root religion of Christianity, and thus, the Christian parent should go by the Hebraic context of the Bible, which clearly prohibits any sort of punishment or controlling demeanor towards a child.

The Greek root word denoting entitlement, including parental entitlement, in the New Testament, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés), and refers to, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is wanting anything from children, period. When that imposed want leads to the child being offended in any way, that is child abuse. It is not good to want anything in life, including from children, but we all want something from children, so ask politely, and accept when your child cannot give you what you want from them. Children usually do not listen to parental instructions due to not being able to understand what is asked of them, usually due to immature brain development. 

Parents in biblical times didn't get angry with their children, at all. That emotion was missing from their complexion. Parents instead were driven by worry and concern for their child. Any parent that was driven by anger was a social pariah once that anger was discovered, with the parent being seen as a viper and a monster by all of society, with the revelation of parent anger directed towards a child being met with righteous anger of a protective sort by society. Parents did get angry, but only on ceremonial occasions when they needed to protect their child, or else a child in another household that wasn't being protected. Otherwise, parenting was driven by righteous anxiety. I myself am one of a few adults who cannot get angry at a child. That emotion is missing. I am driven to care for them, when I get the chance, but I would be more driven by concern, in the form of paternal instinct to care for a child. If a child cried, I would automatically go into reassurance mode and reassure the child frantically, not getting angry one bit. Fathers should reassure from afar, and mothers up close. 

America is a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian family values. We as a nation glean from the Bible and its context to figure out how to operate as a country. Nowhere in the Bible does it legitimately say to strike a child, with the only corporal punishment being allowed in the Old Testament was towards a young adult as a sentence for a crime. We have been wrong before as a society, just as we were with slavery and Jim Crow. The great thing about America is that things can change here, and can change for the better. God's Law is above the law of the land, and His Law prohibits all punitive parenting of a child. Therefore, we already have a ban on punitive parenting here in America. The secular law just needs to catch up.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descent into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Parenting your pedophilic child: Avoiding religious parental entitlement with vulnerable children

Many people hate pedophiles. In fact, most people hate pedophiles. More and more people today are turning away from that hatred, but are focusing on sex offenders, usually with a supportive comment towards someone undeserving of support. The most vulnerable of pedophiles might just be living with you right now. If you really knew what - or rather who - a pedophile is, everything would make sense.

What is pedophilia? Pedophilia is a mental health disorder featuring sexual attraction to children under age 14. Pedophilia is a genetic disorder along the lines of autism and alcoholism. It is usually part of a child-centered form of autism, where the special interests of the individual with autism focusing on children and children's issues. A pedophile has arrested emotional development due to autism or another developmental disability, and the ages of the children they are attracted to correspond to the developmental level of the pedophile. Pedophilia, as a mental disorder, is visible where an individual with autism has all their social skills and knowledge specialized in children, usually in a selfless manner. Abuser pedophiles usually are ignorant as to the boundaries around child, in a socially aloof way, not knowing how to interact with children any other way than sexual abuse. An abuser pedophile is a yappy type of abuser, usually charismatic in their positive "exist" attitude towards life, otherwise sympathizing with children, but ignorant as to the issue of child sexual abuse. I actually, in past tense, fit more the abuser stereotype than the stereotype of a pedophile who is a victim of abuse. The average pedophile abuser is an entitled victim. Most pedophiles aren't abusers due to pedophilia, with instead their pedophilia mimicking an abuser. 

Pedophile hysteria is a form of religious parental entitlement, where abusive religious parents force their abusive theologies onto their pedophilic children, usually knowing intuitively that their child is on their way to become a pedophile. The hysteria is a form of religious child abuse directed towards pedophilic children, who are anguished with self-hatred at the undeniable realization that they are a pedophile, yet they cannot talk about that condition with their parents, or anyone else for that matter. Certain Bible verses were misquoted and used against pedophiles in a court of law as a child. It says in Matthew 5:27-28 KJV:

Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

The actual meaning of this verse means looking at a woman to the point of taking the first steps to approach. The Greek root word translated "lust" is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but to sexual desire to the point of taking the first steps to approach children for sexual purposes. When that approach is perceived by the child, the offense also becomes fornication (GRK: πορνεία, porneia).

I myself am a pedophile, of the abstinent variety. I have a family that understands, a therapist that understands, and a psychiatrist that understands as well. I advocate for pedophile rights alongside children's rights because I have what all pedophiles should have. Part of it is my influential nature as an autistic vulnerability abuser - I got a lot of people to feel sorry for me that shouldn't have.

Judging by my experience, no pedophilic child will disclose in a home where they fear punishment. This mechanism of parental punishment is what is keeping pedophiles hidden and in the shadows. Parents either impose by their menace the threat of punishment upon the child disclosing their pedophilic condition to parents, or else single out the pedophilic child and punish them even more than usual for their sexual preferences. I was punished as a child, but never for being a pedophile. My self-diagnosing of myself with pedophilia sort of woke up my parents, and made them even more anti-spanking than they already were to begin with. Be an attached parent to your child, and they will tell you everything, and since you can't punish them as an attachment parent.

Let the depraved and decadent, defiled adult fornicators who blame pedophiles instead of themselves for the sexual abuse of children, will BURN in a Hell of fire and torrents! Repent!

Co-sleeping: Why co-sleeping is crucial for a secure parent-child bond

Many parents think that co-sleeping is the irresponsible choice for a parent to make. This is a common argument in favor of punitive parenting, which insists that any child past the infant stage of life sleep on their own. The argument is that children will become dependent on sleeping with their parents. The fact of the matter is that co-sleeping is not dependence-forming, and is crucial to forming a secure parent-child bond with children.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to ensure that their children have a warm and loving upbringing, with parents winning over the affection and respect of children. When attachment parenting is used to the fullest in a Christian home, including with skin-on-skin co-sleeping, children listen to parents, automatically and out of instinct. Obedience, in the biblical tense, is not something you can force onto a child, but is instead a willful choice to surrender to parents on the part of a child, as a response to the child's cup being filled to the top with what they need, forming a secure bond with children. When the child's cup is filled to the top with what they need, they don't question the motives of parents, instead blindly going along with parents. Children blindly went along with children out of fondness and trust for parents, not fear of punishment from parents. This commandment refers to a secure attachment between parent and child, and the results thereof, lifting up customary laws commanding attachment parenting as an established norm.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times, and after receiving many warnings that their parenting habits were in violation of the Law. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as any damage or offense stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen then as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong. Paul was lifting up the Law to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any sort of punishment towards a child. In fact, you wouldn't find a single Jewish parent then, including in the Early Church, who supported striking or punishing a child. Jewish society, then and now, has never condoned any sort of child abuse, including punitive parenting. Judaism is the root religion of Christianity, and so the Christian parent should go by the Hebraic context of the Bible in the realm of parenting, which prohibits any sort of punitive parenting whatsoever.

It is well known that 2-5 year old children often refuse to go to bed on their own. Many parents punish children for this, chalking it up to a "rebellious nature" that supposedly exists in children. The fact of the matter is that children under age 6 are too young to sleep on their own. This is because a young child's refusal to go to bed is a primal fear of predation when sleeping away from mothers. Many think that predation is a threat of the past for children, but we still have sexual predators that may be lurking in homes. Most child sexual abuse takes place as a form of domestic violence against children committed by fathers, and it usually takes place when the child is isolated in room separate from their parents. Mothers in biblical times slept next to their children to protect them from the sexual entitlement of their fathers, as well as other, more non-human predators. Fathers usually had a parent attraction to their children due to the egalitarian nature of the parenting in biblical times, and mothers would keep the men in line in terms of even access to the children, meaning fathers couldn't even interact with their children without the mother's blessing. Today, choosing to co-sleep next to your children will bring out the true colors of your spouse. In the Early Church, mothers of sexually abusive fathers of their children had the right of divorce (see 1 Cor. 7:10-11).

It is a myth that co-sleeping leads to sleep dependence. "Sleep dependence" is a term thrown around by medical and mental health professionals who treat children, such as pediatricians and child psychologists. The modern research into co-sleeping is incomplete, and also limited in nature. Psychohistory and biblical research tells us a very different story. Children in biblical times would sleep next to their parents only until they were ready, on their own accord, to sleep on their own. Usually, children shook off the nighttime comfort of their parents sometime between the ages of 6-10, when they were starting to prove their independence from their parents. Children ranged beside mothers from birth until age 6, or else being co-mingled to her bosom or back. After age 6, children became more mobile, and started insisting on doing things on their own. Parents, especially fathers, encouraged independence by showing children how to do things on their own safely. This included, at some point in the child's development, children sleeping on their own. Children would insist on sleeping on their own, and fathers turned it into a challenge, and if the child wasn't ready, there was still a spot for them on the family bed. 

Children slept next to mothers in biblical times, and did so in skin-on-skin format. In biblical times, children did not wear any clothing, at all, until adulthood - virgins didn't wear any clothing until marriage. Mothers didn't wear clothing except when leaving the house. Mothers and children slept next to each other at night, with the child soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. The touch of bare skin between mother and child formed a bond between mother and child. This was a form of compliant attachment, where children listened blindly to parents, and listened because they wanted to at the lowest level. All of this was because of the constant and intense closeness between parent and child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Crying: Why crying is not bad behavior

Many parents spank and punish their children. One of the most common reasons for punishment is crying. Most parents think crying can be a form of bad behavior. This is a common mistake parents make. The fact of the matter is that crying is not bad behavior. It is not a way that children "undermine" parents. It simply is a way children communicate. Most children cry for the same reason an infant cries - they want love!

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to ensure that their children have a warm and loving upbringing, and are to win over their children's affection and respect. When attachment parenting is used to the fullest in Christian parenting, children listen to parents automatically and out of instinct. Obedience, in the Bible, is different from ordinary obedience. Obedience, in the biblical tense, isn't "getting" your child to obey, but instead a child willfully surrendering to parents, on their own accord, in response to dutiful and selfless submission coming from parents. Children in biblical times listened automatically and out of instinct due to being able to trust the motives of parents, and trust that parents would take good care of them. When children have their cup filled to the top with what they need, they go along with their parents out of instinct, whatever they have to say, whatever they are doing, wherever they are going.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times, and after receiving many warnings that their parenting habits were in violation of the Law. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damage or offense stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding a child hostage for things they did wrong. Paul was lifting up the Law to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any punishment of a child. Paul, in this commandment, and another version of it in Eph. 6:4, was advocating on behalf of children in Greek and Roman Christian homes, educating such parents on the proper Jewish way to raise a child. Jewish society, then and now, has never condoned the punishment or controlling treatment of a child. Judaism is the root religion of Christianity, and so the Christian parent must go by the Hebraic context of the Bible regarding parenting, with said context being opposed to all forms of punishment of children.

Mothers, in biblical times, were the primary adults charged with the care and protection of children. Mothers then did not spank or punish their children when they were crying, but instead used skin-on-skin comforting strategies to reassure children when they cried. Children wore no clothing, at all, until they reached adulthood. Mothers only wore clothing outside the home, perhaps when running errands. Mothers and children snuggled with each other, engaging in skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy.

Parents in biblical times did not see crying as bad behavior. Crying of children was normal in Jewish and Christian homes in the biblical context, and children cried a lot, and parents always saw it as a child crying out for what they needed. Children trusted their parents enough that, when parents were around, they became emotionally undone, and then cried to petition for what they needed. Usually, all they needed was loving attention.

When a child cries out of nowhere, it is because they want attention. So, why not give them attention? Children in biblical times got doting attention from their mothers, and also their fathers from time to time. Children need attention, because if they are made to be seen and not heard, they will do anything possible on their part to get the attention they need. So, just give them loving attention the first time they cry for it.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pro-social self-loathing: Why self-esteem is a farce in parenting

We live in a divided country, and this is due to culture wars perpetuated by the left. Close to the core of the national divide is the debate about self-esteem versus self-loathing. I myself, as a child advocate, omit the concept of self-esteem from my advocacy. Children can go without the lesson of self-esteem. Just raise them in the Christian attached way, and they won't hate themselves.

It says in Romans 3:9-12 KJV:

What then? are we better than they? No, in no wise: for we have before proved both Jews and Gentiles, that they are all under sin; There is none righteous, no, not one: There is none that understandeth, there is none that seeketh after God. They have all gone out of the way, they are together become unprofitable; there is none that doeth good, no, not one.

This passage was written to Roman Christians in the 1st Century, who were becoming prideful in their practice of their Christian faith, thinking they were the righteous ones simply for being Christians. The Apostle Paul was correcting them on their prideful attitude towards their Christian faith. Today, this passage is a reflection of how God feels about mankind. God hates us all, merely for existing in relation to Him, with mankind deserving of nothing but DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing in relation to God. God hates human beings for our incursions onto the smallest and most vulnerable of human beings - children. All adults, by default, are marked for deletion. Only a few will be saved by their own good works in avoiding parental entitlement. The rest will be punished on their last day, and/or destroyed on the very last day. When you think of yourself as a good person, you start demanding that things go your way. It is better to know you are a wicked and entitled sinner deserving of nothing, and seek to reform yourself from there.

True Christian love does not come from self-esteem or praise, but a place of conviction. The Greek root word denoting Christian love in the New Testament is αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to prioritizing your neighbor first, and yourself last. Love is not just a feeling or an action, but a state of being where everyone around you comes first in terms of needs, and you come last. This love comes from a place of conviction, where you come to the knowledge that you are a worthless and entitled sinner who is deserving of nothing, leading to the belief that everyone else around you is deserving of everything. Children in biblical times were loved as a neighbor, not an enemy, in this very way.

The key to teaching humility and understatement to children is to model it to them. It is not good to tell children that they are worthless sinners, as telling a child that is a form of spiritual abuse. But, children need to know that they are not the center of the world (even though all young children go through that phase). That means that YOU need to stop seeing yourself as the center of the world, and instead be convicted that you are a worthless and entitled sinner deserving of nothing. Children will then take up your example, in which case you encourage them to take up your example. Encouragement of a religious education is a better way to guide your child down the right path than punishment or controlling measures. A child who grows up around understated and humble adults will grow up to be an understated and humble adult themselves.

This copying of adult behavior is part of childhood obedience to parents, which, in the biblical tense, is a willful and automatic act as a result of a secure parent-child bond, in which case a secure parent-child bond is crucial to having children follow your example. A secure parent-child bond involves a vulnerable, restful trust where children come to a place where they can cooperate with parents on their own accord. This form of cooperation with parents is denoted by the Greek root word υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo). See Col. 3:20 and Eph. 6:1. 

Self-esteem should only be made relevant on controlled spaces to those who have suffered severe religious trauma. Someone with a severe religious trauma was shamed and abused in the name of "God" and "Christianity". Most people in the United States have a proud trauma from lawful abuse, meaning a rebellious trauma, and usually one that is repressed.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever in to the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pro-social skin-on-skin: The quick way to deal with a crying child

Many pro-spanking advocates promote "quick fixes" to terms of dealing with behaviors such as crying. This is a common way that pro-spanking advocates market their wares. Many gentle parenting advocates state that there are no quick fixes in parenting. The fact of the matter is that there is one simple thing you can do to deal with a crying child. Skin-on-skin comforting strategies are the one easy way to deal with a crying child.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to ensure that children have a warm and loving upbringing, winning over the respect and affection of children. When you use attachment parenting to the fullest in Christian parenting, children listen automatically and out of instinct. Obedience, in the biblical tense, is not the same as obedience as otherwise mentioned in the English language. Obedience isn't something forced on a child, but instead is a willful surrender to the love and grace of parents, in response to dutiful and selfless submission to the every vulnerable needs of children. Parents and children are to submit to each other. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting any form of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times, and after receiving many warnings that their parenting habits are in violation of the Law. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as slightest of damage or offense stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen then as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong. Paul was lifting up the Law for a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed all forms of punishment of a child. Paul was advocating for children being punished and abused in Greek and Roman Christian homes, trying to educate children on proper Jewish parenting. Jewish society, then and now, has never condoned any form of punitive parenting, or other forms of child abuse. Even in biblical times, children weren't punished or abused, and any punishment or abuse of a child incurred bloodlust. Judaism is the root religion of Christianity, and so the Christian parent should go by the Hebraic context of the Bible in matters of parenting, with the Hebraic context prohibiting all forms of punishment or abuse in parenting.

Mothers, in biblical times, were the adults primarily charged with the care and protection of children. Mothers then did not spank or punish children in order to stop them from crying. Mothers instead would use skin-on-skin comforting strategies to reassure children. Children then wore no clothing, at all, until they were adults. Mothers only wore clothing outside of the home. Mothers and children snuggled next to each other. This came in the form of co-sleeping, co-snuggling, and co-mingling. When children cried in biblical times, mothers snuggled with them in skin-on-skin format, placing the crying child on her bosom, forming a secure bond with that child.

Skin-on-skin treatments can be used to deal with crying in any child. Within 1-2 minutes of skin-to-skin comfort and intimacy, children calm down and can be reasoned with. Children should be placed on the bosom of mothers, with both mother and child engaging in mammary closeness. There are nerve endings on the bosom of mothers, and the stomach and chest of children, that allow for comfort in skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy, for both the mother and the child. Upon placing your child on your bosom as a mother, the position should feel like the natural thing to do, and you'll remember for next time.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

The Fifth Commandment: Why respect is earned

Many parents know of the Fifth Commandment to honor parents. Most parents who follow this commandment do so by demanding respect from children. This is a common mistake parents mistake when implementing the Fifth Commandment in their homes. The fact of the matter is that 1) respect is earned in parenting and 2) the Fifth Commandment was originally intended to prohibit elder abuse as a basis for the parent protection laws.

It says in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

This commandment was written to a context that stigmatized the reporting of elder abuse. Parent victims of elder abuse were the ones blamed for abuse from their children. Elder abuse did not happen often in the Old Testament, but when it did, it was isolating for the parent victim, as the common epithet to their abuse was "where did they learn to behave that way". This commandment, therefore, was the basis for the parent protection laws. "Do not curse parents" means do not issue an airborne gaslighting curse onto them. "Do not strike parents" means do not repeatedly beat them. These laws do not apply today. Instead, the spirit of the Fifth Commandment applies today, as repeated in the New Testament.

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to ensure that children have a warm and loving upbringing, winning over the respect and affection of children. When attachment parenting is used to the fullest, children listen to parents automatically and out of instinct. Obedience, in the Bible, refers to something different than what the term ordinarily refers to. Obedience to parents is not something to impose on a child, but instead is a willful choice of a child to surrender to parents, out of blind trust for parents, and with children not questioning the motives of parents. When parents form a secure bond with children, children don't question the motives of parents, trusting them vulnerably and affectionately. Children in such homes go along with parents blindly, as an instinctual way of complying with parents. Children naturally want to listen to parents, as is in their childhood instincts. True biblical obedience to parents by children in the Bible is based off of secure attachment, with this Greek word referring to secure attachment.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child in an exchange, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times, and after receiving many warnings that their parenting was in violation of the Law. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damage or offense stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen merely as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong. Paul was lifting up the Law for a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking and opposed any punishment of a child, like most Jews then and now. Paul gave these commands while advocating for children in Greek and Roman Christian homes, trying to educate such parents on proper Jewish parenting. Paul would have none of children being struck and beaten by their parents in the church he oversaw. Jewish society, then and now, never condoned any punitive measures in parenting. Judaism is the root religion of Christianity, and so the Christian parent should go by the Hebraic context of the Bible on parenting, which forbids parents from striking or punishing their children for any reason.

Mothers, in biblical times, were the primary adults charged with the care and protection of children. Mothers then did not spank or punish children to get them to listen, but instead used skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy to form a secure bond with their child, which naturally led to them listening. Children never wore any clothing, at all, until they were adults. Mothers only wore clothing outside of the home. Mothers snuggled with children, and allowed children to cling to them, when both were disrobed. When out and about, mothers held children close to their bosom, or else on their back, with swaddling blankets.

The results of such attached measures? Children never left the side of mothers until age 6, and even when older children did leave her side, they never left the line of sight of parents. Children naturally went along with parents. Respect for parents was a concept for children then, but such respect was based off of closeness, not fear of punishment. Children grew up to be fond of, and affectionate towards, their parents.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Parent anger: Why parents in biblical times had no parent anger

Many parents think they have the right to get angry with children. This is a common belief among punitive parents, that it is acceptable to get angry with a child, and even a "right". The fact of the matter is that the Bible prohibits all forms of parental entitlement, including parent anger. Parents in biblical times did not get angry with their children.

It says in Matthew 5:21-22 KJV:

Ye have heard that it was said of them of old time, Thou shalt not kill; and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment: But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.

This commandment prohibits all anger outside of the realm of righteous judgment. A Christian is only to get angry when taking his/her enemy to court, meaning anger is part of a courtroom discourse and is not to be expressed outside the realm of a courtroom setting. The clause "without a cause" means anger should only be expressed towards one's adversary when there is evidence beyond a reasonable doubt that their opponent in an exchange has committed an offense. Children are not subject to the Law, as they are still learning the Law, and so expressing any anger towards a child is considered perjorious judgment towards a child. There is no just cause for getting angry with children according to the Law, as understood in context. Parents are to turn the other cheek. See also Matt. 5:38-39.

In biblical times, parents didn't get angry with children. Anger towards a child was seen as conduct becoming of a viper or a monster. Parents who could even show anger towards their child were shunned by the rest of society, and left out of everything, as showing anger towards a child was seen as the lowest of all entitlement out there. Jewish and Christian parents in the Bible instead went on righteous anxiety to guide their parenting, meaning they worried a lot about their children, and didn't want anything bad to happen to their children. A parent need not be motivated by anger. Instead, a parent should be motivated by worry and anxiety about harm befalling their child, in order to motivate them to provide for their child.

The core of parental entitlement is parent anger. In a society like ours that promotes punitive parenting, parents are prone to getting angry with their children, and that anger is taken for granted. In cultures where attachment parenting is the norm, parent anger is heavily misunderstood, and rightfully so, meaning most people in attachment parenting societies cannot grasp the concept of getting angry with a child. Most Jewish and Christian parents in biblical times had no concept of how an adult could get angry with a child. Parental entitlement is explicitly prohibited as a form of entitlement on the offense level. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child in an exchange, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times, and after receiving many warnings that their parenting habits were in violation of the Law. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damage or offense stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen then as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong. Paul was lifting up the Law for a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking and opposed punishing children for any reason. Paul was giving commands not to provoke children to anger in order to advocate for children who were being brutalized in Greek and Roman Christian homes. Children then commonly were beaten with the rod and staff of their fathers, whereas that rod and staff was only there to beat intruders with. Paul would have none of children being beaten in the church he oversaw. Jewish society, then and now, has never condoned any sort of punitive parenting towards children. Judaism is the root religion of Christianity, and so the Christian parent must go by the Hebraic context of the Bible, which clearly prohibits punishment or controlling demeanor in parenting.

How does a parent eliminate parent anger? Stifle anger until it is non-existent, meaning choose not to get angry by not expressing parent anger when it surfaces. When you get angry with your child, force yourself to do the opposite of what that anger tells you to do. Re-channel that anger inward towards yourself, and your own entitlement towards children, being convicted that you are a depraved and entitled sinner that is deserving of nothing from children, knowing that want is the root of all evil when directed towards children. Once you believe fully that you are deserving of nothing from your child, you'll demand nothing from your child, and then this should translate into how you interact with people other than your children in your life. 

I myself cannot get angry with a child. That emotion in me is missing. It isn't like I hold back anger towards a child. The emotion just isn't there, and I cannot understand how anyone could even see a child in angry terms. I don't see children that way. I just worry about them, and also get tired when I am in a place where I am responsible for them. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

 

Obedience: Why true biblical obedience isn't fear based

Many parents want their children to obey authority. This is a common goal for parents. Most parents believe that obedience can only be taught using punitive measures such as spanking and punishing children. The fact of the matter is that children can learn obedience through means other than punishment. Attachment parenting can teach obedience to children without children being punished or subject to controlling demeanor.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to ensure that children have a warm and loving upbringing. When attachment parenting is used to the fullest, including skin-on-skin comforting strategies, children listen to and cooperate with parents, automatically and out of instinct. True biblical obedience isn't something you forcefully obtain from children through punishment. You can't "get them to listen". True biblical obedience is a willful choice that a child makes to surrender to parents, after his/her cup has been filled to the top with what they need. That willful choice is a choice that is automatic and instinctual in children, for it is in the nature of children to surrender to parents. Children then listen to parents blindly because they don't question your motives, because they don't have any reason to question their motives.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child in an exchange, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times, and after receiving many warnings that their parenting habits were in violation of the Law. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damage or offense stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment, in biblical times, was seen as holding a child hostage merely for things they did wrong. Paul was lifting up the Law for a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking and opposed punishing a child for any reason. Paul was giving these commands not to provoke children to anger as part of advocacy for children growing up in Greek and Roman Christian homes, with such children being beaten with their father's rod and staff. There was no custom among the Early Christians for fathers to beat children using their rod and staff, as the rod and staff was only for beating intruders. Jewish society, then and now, always supported a warm and loving upbringing.

Mothers, in biblical times, were the primary adults charged with the care and protection of children. Mothers then didn't spank or punish their children to gain cooperation with their children. They instead used skin-on-skin comforting strategies to gain cooperation from their children. Children didn't wear any clothing, at all, until adulthood. Mothers didn't wear any clothing except when outside the home. Mothers snuggled with their children in skin-on-skin format. Children were placed on the bare bosom of mothers, and either co-snuggled, co-mingled, or co-slept with.

Respect for parents was a concept then, but wasn't based off of fear of punishment, but instead was based off of closeness. Children never left the side of mothers until age 6, and even when they left her side, they never left the line of sight of parents. Children listened to parents automatically and out of pure instinct. Children have it in them, in the form of pure instinct, to go along with and listen to parents, and this trusting compliance is earned by the closeness of mothers.

Obedience, in the biblical tense, is not something you can "get" a child to do using rewards and punishments. True respect and obedience for parents is something the child elects to do, in response to  child's cup being filled up to the top with everything they need and most of what they want. Children naturally want to go along with parents when parents don't punish or control the child. Listening to parents is an instinctual drive towards parents in children, built up by a secure parent-child bond during the first 5-6 years of life. The closer the bond you have with your child during the first 5-6 years, the more obedient your child will be in the long run. Obedience is a means of giving back to parents for forming a secure attachment with them.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pro-social skin-on-skin: A quick way to gain cooperation from children

Many parents and pastors advocate for spanking and punitive forms of parents. A common pro-spanking argument is that punitive measures are easy to implement, thus making them valid in some way. Mainstream gentle parenting advocates say that there is no quick fix in parenting, and that building a relationship with children takes time. However, there are quick fixes to a crying child that are non-punitive and gentle in nature, as a part of an attachment parenting regime. That fix involves skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy with children to soothe their tears.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to ensure that children have a warm and loving upbringing, working to win over the trust and affection of children. When attachment parenting is used to the fullest, including skin-on-skin comforting strategies, children listen to and cooperate with parents, automatically and out of instinct. Biblical obedience to parents isn't something that is demanded of children, but instead is a willful choice of a child to surrender to parents, usually as a result of having their every vulnerable need met. Blind obedience is possible under an attachment parenting regime, in which case it is an automatic, instinctive form of listening to parents. Children just naturally trust their parents when parents meet a child's every vulnerable need, and that natural trust is borne out of instinct to go along with parents. True biblical obedience isn't a hearkening type of obedience, but a form of listening to parents where children go along with parents blindly. Fill a child's cup with whatever they need, and they will give back by obeying you. Obedience is a form of giving back to parents, usually done willfully and out of instinct.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child in an exchange, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times, and after parents received many warnings that their parenting habits were in violation of the Law. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damage or offense stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen then as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong. Paul was lifting up the Law to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking and opposed punishing a child for any reason. Paul was advocating for children in Greek and Roman Christian homes who were being beaten with a rod and staff. The rod and staff of a father was intended only for intruders. There was no such custom of spanking and punishing children in Ancient Israel or the Early Church. Jewish society then and now has never condoned any sort of punitive parenting, or any form of child abuse for that matter. Judaism is the root religion of Christianity, and so the Christian parent must go by the Hebraic context of the Bible, which forbids striking or punishing a child for any reason.

Mothers, in biblical times, were the adults primarily charged with the care and protection of children. Mothers in biblical times didn't spank, whip, or punish their children to gain cooperation. Instead, mothers then used skin-on-skin comforting strategies to reassure a crying child, thus forming a secure bond with children. Children never wore any clothing, at all, until adulthood. Mothers only wore clothing when outside the home, perhaps when running errands, and even then, mothers didn't wear much. Children co-snuggled with mothers in skin-on-skin format. Children were placed on the bosom of mothers, either co-snuggling with children or using co-mingling strategies to hold children close to the bosom or back of mothers with swaddling blankets.

This led to children respecting their parents. Respect for parents, in biblical times, was a concept, but such a concept was based off of closeness to parents, not fear of punishment from children. Children listened to parents automatically and out of instinct, not questioning the motives of their parents. When children have all their needs met, and have their cup filled to the top, they don't question your motives as a parent. They just go along with whatever you have to say or do. That is because they are NOT afraid of you, thus don't resent you one bit. 

Obedience is based off of three steps. Hear. Understand. Obey. Children must hear your instructions towards them, which many times, they don't because their brain isn't ready to hear you. Children must understand that parents mean well, and this means parents must prove that they mean well by not being punitive, and instead seeking to form a secure bond with children. From there, the rest is history. Children will go along with whatever instructions you have of them once their cup is filled to the top with what they need. 

A child has five basic categories of needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - and attachment is the greatest of all those needs. Children will listen to parents, as it is in their instincts to go along with parents, much like baby geese follow the mother goose. You just need to fill their cup to the top in terms of needs, and be a kind, nurturing parent to them. 

The quick way to becoming an attachment parent is placing the crying and out of sorts child on your bare bosom as a mother, and snuggle with your child. You will then find that it feels natural to do that in order to soothe your child. Co-snuggling with your child in skin-on-skin format will stop the crying within 1-2 minutes, and then you can talk to your child about what is wrong, or, in the case of a baby, diagnose what is going wrong. Usually, you'll find, children cry when they need something, regardless of age, just like a baby goose might honk for their mother's attention. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger using punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Individual responsibility for adults attracted to children - how to prevent child sexual abuse

Many people think the act of child sexual abuse is an inevitable act coming from a specific group of people - pedophiles. Most adults in America blame pedophiles for the sexual abuse of children. The fact of the matter is that pedophiles aren't the only adults responsible for the sexual abuse of children. ALL adults are responsible for the sexual abuse of children, even if only a few act on it.

What is pedophilia? Pedophilia is NOT a narcissistic desire for children. It is an inborn and inherited sexual trait genetically related to autism, and is a mental disorder featuring sexual attraction to children under age 14. Pedophilia is a form of arrested sexual development associated closely with autism and other developmental disorders. Pedophilia is evidenced outwardly by an autistic profile that specializes in children and children's issues. Most people are generalizers in terms of mind specialty. Autism is a specialized mind, where they pick an area of life, and learn facts in detail about it. Pedophiles do this regarding children. Most pedophiles know enough about children to know that a sexual relationship with a child - which they want - is unworkable and can't happen. It is an unrequited attraction to children at the connotational level, where the child is colored to stand out sexually.

Every single adult has the capacity, under the right/wrong conditions, to sexually abuse children. Most adults are attracted to teenage and pre-teen children. Most men in particular are attracted to teenage girls. Usually, this is a repressed attraction that isn't acknowledged by the adult. It is a secondary attraction to children, percolating in the background of the adult's brain. Then, when the adult is in a place where they are alone with a child, they grow a guilty conscience, and the repressed attraction to children comes out sideways as a rape or sexual assault. This can happen in the case of any adult in relation to a child.

How can sexual abuse be prevented? The first step is to acknowledge that you, too, can be attracted to children. Find a child that is worth masturbating about, then engage in sexual fantasy about that child. That will let you know one fact - you could do it too. So, keep masturbating so that your desires for children are encapsulated, and thus are under your complete control. When you repress a thought, that thought controls you. When you acknowledge a thought as powerful as a sexual drive towards children, you control it, and then you can easily choose not to abuse a child sexually. If every single adult in the world did this, there would be no sexual abuse at all.

The Greek root word translated "lust" and "inordinate affections" in the New Testament is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire for children, but sexual desire for children to the point of taking the first steps to approach a child for sexual purposes. Whenever that approach is perceived by a child, that is adult fornication of children, meaning child sexual abuse. There is nothing wrong with masturbation, however. Masturbation is nowhere legitimately mentioned in the Bible, with Onan's sin being refusing to inherit his brother's wife. In the biblical context, simply masturbating was not seen as a form of sexual offense. Sexual offenses involved any sexual relations outside of marriage.

It is time for YOU as the adult to take responsibility for your sexual desires towards children, just like pedophiles have already. Rape is rape, and sexual assault is sexual assault - regardless of age. Adult fornicators who sexually assault and rape children are solely responsible for the damage they impose on their victims. Nobody is responsible simply for letting it happen, or not stopping a sexually entitled adult from raping or sexually assaulting a child. Adults shouldn't sexually abuse children, period, and can simply make the choice not to sexually abuse a child. Child sexual abuse is not an urge or a tendency - it is a choice that the adult makes.

Sexual attraction to children is a sin nature that we all have in relation to children as adults. Sexual attraction to children, in adults, is a part of our depraved and decadent nature as adults. God hates that nature of ours, and hates it for that very reason. During peacekeeping, children were sexually oppressed by adults all over the world, in a widespread regime of sexual assault and rape. God rescued us from our peacekeeping past, and gave us a set of values to live under. I as a depraved and decadent, and pedophile, in relation to children, am deserving of nothing but DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing as the sexually self-interested adult that I am. I am grateful that my child victims forgive me. I myself sexually abused children by way of sexually pestering and harassing them like a gnat. Vulnerability abusers with autism like me simply don't know the boundaries. My apparent vulnerability as a visibly autistic young adult got me out of trouble many times, with parents taking the side of me over their own child. Children complained, but were silenced. I had to learn to get angry at child sexual abuse, which I wasn't angry about at the time of me committing moral crimes against children. I am responsible for my sexual offenses perceived by the child, and apologize to all for abusing them. Most sexual abuse does not go the way I perpetrated my abuse. Most sexual abuse of children comes from repressed sexual desires that are otherwise normal secondary attractions to children. Normal does not mean it is good, morally speaking. It will feel good to control your sexual attraction to children, but that doesn't make that faculty of ours good by nature. The first step to solving a problem is acknowledging that you have a problem, and sexual attraction to children is a problem all adults have, at some level of their psyche.

Let the depraved and decadent, defiled adult fornicators who sexually abuse children BURN in the everlasting Hell of fire and torrents! Repent!

RESOURCES

Association for Sexual Abuse Prevention (ASAP)

Virtuous Pedophiles

Teaching sexual purity to children - without punishment or shaming

Many parents in America still want to teach the old fashioned teaching of sexual purity to children. Then, you have a few parents on the political and social left who have given up on teaching the doctrine of sexual purity to their children, allowing children to sexually relate to one another outside of marriage. Sexual purity, for purposes of this post, is the avoidance of sexual interaction with another person outside of marriage.

The Bible clearly teaches that children remain virgins until marriage. See 1 Corinthians 6:18 KJV:

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

The Greek root word translated "fornication" is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and most literally translates as "outside of proper channels". Marriage, in biblical times, was a license for a man to have sexual relations with a woman. Any sex outside of marriage was seen then as a fraudulent marriage, meaning it was a marriage not licensed by the state. All sexual relations by a man towards a woman must take place within a lawfully-ordained marriage. Sexual relations outside of marriage was seen as a man defiling himself next to a woman, rendering himself unclean until the even. He could purify himself by turning away from that sinful way of life. Children were not exempted from this requirement, though they weren't held accountable for sexual transgressions until they came of age to be baptized, meaning when they became adults under the Law. 

The Greek root word translated "lust" and "inordinate affections" in the New Testament is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but to sexual desire to the point of taking the first steps to approach a woman out of wedlock for sexual purposes. Nowhere in the Bible is masturbation even mentioned legitimately, with Onan's actual sin being refusing to inherit his brother's wife. When a sexual approach was perceived by a woman, it was seen as fornication. God does not celebrate masturbatory fantasies, but understands that man has a flawed nature, and allows man to blow off steam masturbating when a woman isn't around to please him.

Above mentioned is the ethics of sexual relations that should be taught to children. Teaching sexual purity to children through punishment or controlling demeanor is prohibited in the Bible. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child in an exchange, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any form of punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times, and receiving many warnings that their parenting habits were in violation of the Law. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damage or offense stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong. Paul was lifting up the Law for a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, much like most Jews of his time, including presumably the writers of all 88 books of the Bible. Paul was advocating for the rights of children growing up in Greek and Roman Christian homes of the time not to be punished or abused. Most of the time, children were punished for impurity offenses. Girls were spanked on the bare bottom for sexual impurity, as a purification ritual as part of the Greco-Roman pagan culture. Greek and Roman Christians were bringing that pagan custom into the church, and Paul would have none of it. 

Children played freely in biblical times, albeit with supervision. Many of the games were high-risk by today's standards, and sexualized in nature. One such game was "marriage", where children role-played a Jewish wedding. For some background knowledge, children wore no clothing in biblical times until adulthood. Most of the time, to simulate the consummation, children simply embraced each other. Sometimes, the boy wanted to penetrate, in which case the parents of the boy swooped in and separated the two. The two children were then redirected to solo masturbation, separately. The children were reassured that they would get to have sex later on in life, warmly encouraging the good lesson of delayed gratification. 

Pro-social separation techniques were used to deal with preventing children from interacting sexually, especially when a boy and a girl wanted to play together. The first step was pro-social supervision, meaning parents were always there when a child of the opposite sex was over to play. If the children went into the back rooms of the house, they were called out of that area, so parents could see what they were doing, including what they were playing. If the children started to interact sexually, they were separated, usually with the guest child being sent home. The parents of the guest child would not punish the child, but would reassure them that they would get what they wanted eventually, and were redirected towards masturbation.

Another tenet of instructing children in sexual purity was pro-social redirection, namely redirection of sexual behavior to masturbation. Masturbation was not stigmatized in biblical times like it was today, and children as young as 3 masturbated without shame. It got to the point where they didn't need a partner to pleasure them, because they could just pleasure themselves and have whatever they want in fantasy. When children interacted with each other sexually, they were first separated, then both were redirected to masturbation. The idea was to keep sexual expression in children at the masturbation level until they are married, when they can re-channel those desires towards their spouse and their spouse only. 

Childhood was not seen as pure and innocent, in the restricted way that modern society sees childhood. Children were simply seen as little people, and it was clearly acknowledged in society that children had a sex drive of their own, and did from the time of infancy. Children were expected to explore their sexuality, but in a solitary way through masturbation. Children, even then, knew not to have sex with each other. They tried, but parents or other adults were always there to stop the interaction, and redirect the children to masturbation. Children in biblical times were breastfed until age 3, when they were weaned off of mother's milk, and the reason behind this probably was to allow for masturbation, which redirected them away from sexually interacting with each other most times. A child in biblical times knew that if they liked their sister, brother, cousin, or other same-age peer, they could simply have a sexual fantasy about them through masturbation, which encapsulated the sexuality of children in biblical times, putting it totally under their control. If that didn't work, adults were always around to supervise children.

Some children were homosexual in terms of sexual preference, and that was noted from very early on. The Bible nowhere says that sexual thoughts about the same sex are unacceptable or sinful, nor did the ancients in biblical times frown on mere homosexual desire alone. It was homosexual behavior that was prohibited, in all its forms. Gay children then were simply encouraged to be celibate, and were told they had the gift of celibacy. Children were allowed to masturbate to thoughts of their same-sex friends, but they weren't allowed to sexually interact with their same-sex friends.

All sexual purity, in the Bible, means for children is that they are not allowed to have contact with each other sexually. If they approach each other, they should be separated and allowed to blow off steam using masturbation. There is really no excuse in modern times for a child being sexually active. Just be there to supervise when your child's boyfriend or girlfriend is over, and then nothing will happen. Allow for them then to masturbate after the visit to discharge any excess attraction to their paramour so they don't feel the need to approach their boyfriend or girlfriend for sexual purposes. 

Children should remain virgins until they are married, just as was the tradition in biblical times. Christ died and Rose because God chose Israel for it's values, with the good news of Jesus Christ leading to spreading of Judeo-Christian values around the world. Part of those values is that a child remain a virgin until marriage. Ancient Israel was a purity society, with sexual purity being central to their values. God prefers the values of Israel as a nation best, and the Bible serves to lift up Judeo-Christian values from Ancient Israel, and spread them throughout the world, especially their sexual purity values.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast in to the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

What is pedophilia?: The line between pedophile and abuser

Many people hate pedophiles. Then, there are a lot of people defending sex offenders, thinking they are being helpful to pedophiles. The prevailing narrative is that all pedophiles abuse children, and that only pedophiles are responsible for child sexual abuse. Most people who hate pedophiles don't understand what a pedophile is, or rather, who a pedophile is.

What is pedophilia? Many people think all pedophiles are narcissists, and that pedophilia is a form of narcissistic desire for children. The fact of the matter is that pedophilia is a form of autism, meaning it is a sexual preference associate with autism spectrum disorders (ASDs). It is a distinct profile of autism where the individual specializes their narrow focus on children and children's issues, oftentimes in a children's rights sense. It is a specific dynamic where the individual with autism does have significant social skills, but only in caring for children. The average pedophile is an ambivert, meaning they are socially outgoing and friendly with children, usually in a selfless way, but are otherwise introverted and self-absorbed. The autistic brain, by definition, is a specialized brain, meaning an individual with autism specializes on one topic and one area of life, and learns all the facts about it. When this dynamic involves children as a point of interest, that is a major indicator of a pedophile.

I myself am a pedophile. All I want from children at this point is to be around them, which I get plenty of in public. I especially like seeing children in summer, when the young girls expose more skin and show more of their bodies. I think of children all the time, meaning my whole worldview is children, and without children, I'd be nothing. I love them all, but from a distance, meaning I leave them be, because sometimes, when you love someone, you leave them be. With children, that means all of the time.

Most pedophiles who do abuse children do so in their younger years, and usually as a form of sexual harassment based off of an obsessive crush on a child. I myself was abusive in the past by following young girls around a pool deck, and approaching several girls in a way that made them feel uncomfortable. That was because I was young, dumb, and impulsive. I choose not to repeat those mistakes that I made. Most full-on rapes or sexual assaults of children are committed by non-pedophilic adults, as a form of sexual entitlement in such adults.

Pedophilia, as a treatable mental health disorder, is the model in terms of preventing all forms of child sexual abuse through mental health treatment. All adults have traits of pedophilic disorder, but usually in the form of repressed sexual desire for children, usually pubescent children. The key to preventing sexual abuse of children is empowering adults to allow themselves to have sexual thoughts about children, and not push those thoughts out of their head. Whenever you repress something as powerful as a sex drive, you allow for it to control you. When you become aware of a sexual drive, you control it. Sexual fantasy about children encapsulates the fantasy in the brain, and the longer you practice with that fantasy, the more that fantasy will stay encapsulated. Lust, in the Bible, is not understood in context as the same as ordinary sexual desire. Lust, in the biblical tense, means sexual desire to the point of taking the first steps to approach a child for sexual purposes. If every adult allowed themselves sexual thoughts of children as part of a varied sexual diet, we wouldn't have the sexual abuse epidemic that we have now.

I support more laws to protect children from sexual abuse, including eliminating statute of limitation laws, broader child abuse definitions, as well as longer sentences for child abuse offenders of all kinds. Child abuse should be whatever the child victim perceives as abusive. Why do I say this in a post that supports pedophiles? Because pedophiles easily could be the victim of such abuse. The most oppressed of all pedophiles are still children, and they are being sexually shamed - and even sexually abused - by their abusive religious parents, as a form of spiritual abuse persecuting them for being pedophiles. I am fortunate to have understanding parents, as most pedophiles cannot even bring themselves to talk to their parents about such an issue. Abuse of pedophiles is a form of religious child abuse that is coming out of the darkness, and into light, thanks to the efforts of the Virtuous Pedophiles (VirPed) community. Most pedophile members of VirPed were abused by religious parents, meaning they were singled out as predestined to be a pedophile, then punished for their sexual thoughts about children. Most pedophiles are not religious, but instead are atheists. 

Let the depraved and decadent, defiled adult fornicators who abuse children, then blame pedophiles, BURN in everlasting torrents of Hell-fire! Repent!

RESOURCES

Association for Sexual Abuse Prevention (ASAP)