Parent anger: Why parents in biblical times had no parent anger

Many parents think they have the right to get angry with children. This is a common belief among punitive parents, that it is acceptable to get angry with a child, and even a "right". The fact of the matter is that the Bible prohibits all forms of parental entitlement, including parent anger. Parents in biblical times did not get angry with their children.

It says in Matthew 5:21-22 KJV:

Ye have heard that it was said of them of old time, Thou shalt not kill; and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment: But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.

This commandment prohibits all anger outside of the realm of righteous judgment. A Christian is only to get angry when taking his/her enemy to court, meaning anger is part of a courtroom discourse and is not to be expressed outside the realm of a courtroom setting. The clause "without a cause" means anger should only be expressed towards one's adversary when there is evidence beyond a reasonable doubt that their opponent in an exchange has committed an offense. Children are not subject to the Law, as they are still learning the Law, and so expressing any anger towards a child is considered perjorious judgment towards a child. There is no just cause for getting angry with children according to the Law, as understood in context. Parents are to turn the other cheek. See also Matt. 5:38-39.

In biblical times, parents didn't get angry with children. Anger towards a child was seen as conduct becoming of a viper or a monster. Parents who could even show anger towards their child were shunned by the rest of society, and left out of everything, as showing anger towards a child was seen as the lowest of all entitlement out there. Jewish and Christian parents in the Bible instead went on righteous anxiety to guide their parenting, meaning they worried a lot about their children, and didn't want anything bad to happen to their children. A parent need not be motivated by anger. Instead, a parent should be motivated by worry and anxiety about harm befalling their child, in order to motivate them to provide for their child.

The core of parental entitlement is parent anger. In a society like ours that promotes punitive parenting, parents are prone to getting angry with their children, and that anger is taken for granted. In cultures where attachment parenting is the norm, parent anger is heavily misunderstood, and rightfully so, meaning most people in attachment parenting societies cannot grasp the concept of getting angry with a child. Most Jewish and Christian parents in biblical times had no concept of how an adult could get angry with a child. Parental entitlement is explicitly prohibited as a form of entitlement on the offense level. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child in an exchange, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times, and after receiving many warnings that their parenting habits were in violation of the Law. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damage or offense stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen then as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong. Paul was lifting up the Law for a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking and opposed punishing children for any reason. Paul was giving commands not to provoke children to anger in order to advocate for children who were being brutalized in Greek and Roman Christian homes. Children then commonly were beaten with the rod and staff of their fathers, whereas that rod and staff was only there to beat intruders with. Paul would have none of children being beaten in the church he oversaw. Jewish society, then and now, has never condoned any sort of punitive parenting towards children. Judaism is the root religion of Christianity, and so the Christian parent must go by the Hebraic context of the Bible, which clearly prohibits punishment or controlling demeanor in parenting.

How does a parent eliminate parent anger? Stifle anger until it is non-existent, meaning choose not to get angry by not expressing parent anger when it surfaces. When you get angry with your child, force yourself to do the opposite of what that anger tells you to do. Re-channel that anger inward towards yourself, and your own entitlement towards children, being convicted that you are a depraved and entitled sinner that is deserving of nothing from children, knowing that want is the root of all evil when directed towards children. Once you believe fully that you are deserving of nothing from your child, you'll demand nothing from your child, and then this should translate into how you interact with people other than your children in your life. 

I myself cannot get angry with a child. That emotion in me is missing. It isn't like I hold back anger towards a child. The emotion just isn't there, and I cannot understand how anyone could even see a child in angry terms. I don't see children that way. I just worry about them, and also get tired when I am in a place where I am responsible for them. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!