Pro-social skin-on-skin: The quick way to deal with a crying child

Many pro-spanking advocates promote "quick fixes" to terms of dealing with behaviors such as crying. This is a common way that pro-spanking advocates market their wares. Many gentle parenting advocates state that there are no quick fixes in parenting. The fact of the matter is that there is one simple thing you can do to deal with a crying child. Skin-on-skin comforting strategies are the one easy way to deal with a crying child.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to ensure that children have a warm and loving upbringing, winning over the respect and affection of children. When you use attachment parenting to the fullest in Christian parenting, children listen automatically and out of instinct. Obedience, in the biblical tense, is not the same as obedience as otherwise mentioned in the English language. Obedience isn't something forced on a child, but instead is a willful surrender to the love and grace of parents, in response to dutiful and selfless submission to the every vulnerable needs of children. Parents and children are to submit to each other. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting any form of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times, and after receiving many warnings that their parenting habits are in violation of the Law. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as slightest of damage or offense stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen then as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong. Paul was lifting up the Law for a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed all forms of punishment of a child. Paul was advocating for children being punished and abused in Greek and Roman Christian homes, trying to educate children on proper Jewish parenting. Jewish society, then and now, has never condoned any form of punitive parenting, or other forms of child abuse. Even in biblical times, children weren't punished or abused, and any punishment or abuse of a child incurred bloodlust. Judaism is the root religion of Christianity, and so the Christian parent should go by the Hebraic context of the Bible in matters of parenting, with the Hebraic context prohibiting all forms of punishment or abuse in parenting.

Mothers, in biblical times, were the adults primarily charged with the care and protection of children. Mothers then did not spank or punish children in order to stop them from crying. Mothers instead would use skin-on-skin comforting strategies to reassure children. Children then wore no clothing, at all, until they were adults. Mothers only wore clothing outside of the home. Mothers and children snuggled next to each other. This came in the form of co-sleeping, co-snuggling, and co-mingling. When children cried in biblical times, mothers snuggled with them in skin-on-skin format, placing the crying child on her bosom, forming a secure bond with that child.

Skin-on-skin treatments can be used to deal with crying in any child. Within 1-2 minutes of skin-to-skin comfort and intimacy, children calm down and can be reasoned with. Children should be placed on the bosom of mothers, with both mother and child engaging in mammary closeness. There are nerve endings on the bosom of mothers, and the stomach and chest of children, that allow for comfort in skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy, for both the mother and the child. Upon placing your child on your bosom as a mother, the position should feel like the natural thing to do, and you'll remember for next time.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!