Want avoidance: How to quit the punishment habit altogether

Many parents in the United States want to quit punishing their children, but don't know how. Others don't think they need to quit, but they really do. Parental entitlement is the root cause of all child abuse, including domestic battery against children such as spanking and other forms of corporal punishment. You can't always get what you want in life, even as a parent. Spanking in particular comes from a form of parental entitlement that constitutes a controlling attachment to a child.

Why stop spanking? The Bible prohibits it. Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, leading to meek and shamefaced attitudes in relation to children, prioritizing the needs of children above your own, to the point of complete and total surrender and submission to children, with this being the unconditional Christian love parents should show to their children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao). Children should be allowed to rest in the love and grace of parents, with parents submitting from above, sacrificing for their children in the spirit that Christ sacrificed for His children, and children resting in said sacrifice, receiving the warmth and sustenance of their parents. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to restful surrender in the loving arms of parents. In biblical times, this meant attachment parenting. Children went in the nude until adulthood, being wrapped up next to their mothers, in swaddling blankets. Older children alternated between free play (within the line of sight of adults) and closeness, with closeness being of the skin-to-skin variety. Children in biblical times were demanding, petitioning their parents for needs and a redress of grievances. Parents then feared the wrath of their children, submitting to them, with children then resting in the love and grace of parents. Children got most of what they want, and some of what they needed instead, especially in terms of attachment needs.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to loving children in the Agape sense, but with the command stated in the negative. Ultimately, this word refers to a provocation to anger against a child, meaning the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, with this being intended by the Apostle Paul and the legal context he was writing from to prohibit all punishment and control of children, including spanking and other forms of corporal punishment. The Apostle Paul was cracking down on Greek Christian parents using Proverbs as an excuse for abuse. The seven verses in Proverbs that describe the rod of correction are repealed verses, as they refer to a dated legal punishment not applicable today - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction. Religious instruction in biblical times was similar to Montessori instruction, meaning children read Scripture on their own accord, with the father peeking the child's curiosity.

How does one quit this habit? It is called want avoidance, meaning in everything in relation to your child, avoid indulging in or seeking out wants, including wants about your child's identity or wants about changing children's behavior. When you feel the urge to control, go the opposite direction, and stifle the anger or sexual aggression. Keep going in the opposite direction until you don't want to spank or punish anymore.

A good parent, under Christian standards of discipline, is to be shut up and stoic on the level of speech. Parents are to shut up their speech, first shutting up idle chatter with their child, then idle chatter with everyone else, shutting up and silencing the parent, with the parent paying that small price for having better discipline in relation to their children. Parents are to slow to speak, and quick to listen, and even slower to anger (James 1:19). Parents are to be silent, quiet islands for children to run to for refuge and listening. So, any time you want to preach to your child or scold them on a little unnecessary thing, shut up and hearken to the Lord through your child, with your child being in place of God as His extension.

Entitlement is denoted in the New Testament by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés), with this word cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment not to covet. This means, officially, do not want things from children to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child. However, why want anything from a child at all? Unofficially, this Greek word refers to all wants from children. 

Instead of demanding your way with a child who isn't listening, why not simply ask "Will you please...?" and then after the child cooperates, say "thank you" to them, and if they don't cooperate, assume they aren't ready to cooperate on that level. Demanding anything from a child is entitlement. Asking them politely is not entitlement, as you are giving them a chance to deny your requests - and yes, requests are the only form of askance allowed of parents. Parents are to remain silent and shut up in the face of their children's cries, whines, and screams, modeling to them good Christian behavior.

Parents who are disciplined end up having disciplined children. It takes a while, but eventually, children follow your lead. This is called self-behaviorism. It is kept by parents, and emulated by children with some encouragement.

The depraved and entitles parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's tomb! Let them descend into everlasting Hell and torment, suffering God's Wrath for all eternity! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

My New Years' resolution

What is my New Years resolution? I am a pedophile, and have a history of adult sexual entitlement towards children in the form of a "love" addiction. I seek to be less entitled in relation to children, by continuing down the road of wanting nothing from children. The Greek root word denoting my struggle in the Bible is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers here to wanting sex with children to the point of seeking it out. But, why want anything from children at all? At least to the point of demanding? Or maybe not at all? I want the daydream at this point, but not much else, and am averse to sexual interaction with anyone, really. Keep the non-entitled habits into 2022.

And you, dear parents?

"Honor parents": The true meaning of the Fifth Commandment

Many parents punish and control their children. A common excuse for child punishment and control is the Fifth Commandment, which states rightly to honor parents. Parents were honored in biblical times, but only because they earned it, meaning they honored their children.

It says in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honor thy father and mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

This doesn't refer merely to talking back to parents or even expressing hatred towards parents, but elder abuse. The ancient Israelites were horrible to their parents, beating them, bludgeoning them, and even winding them up with gaslighting juices in order to get their way with parents. Society then blamed the parent victim of elder abuse for bringing it on, assuming "they had to be abused somehow" about the assailants who harmed their parents. The parent protection laws were temporary, until a Messiah could break the curse of the Law. Disrespecting a parent in the Bible is striking them, which was already illegal before it was declared by God to be a capital offense. Children today are to show as much respect to their parents and elders as said parent or elder shows respect to them, like a human mirror.

Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, and are to be meek and shamefaced in relation to children, prioritizing the child's needs above their own, to the point of selfless and dutiful submission to children from above, as their enemy, assuming nothing about their needs, allowing children to self-advocate as to their own needs. Children should be allowed to rest securely and warmly in the surrender and submission from above given by parents, without any care or worries. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest and trust in parents, leading to children taking after their example and wanting to be like their parents. This translates to attachment parenting in the biblical context, meaning children rested while wrapped up next to their mother's bosom in swaddling blankets, up until age 8 or 9 or even older, perhaps into adulthood, with children getting their dose of skin-to-skin closeness - children went in the nude until adulthood. Older children alternated between free play and closeness to parents, with fathers giving warm encouragement and life lessons. Children were breastfed late, and weaned at age 3 in most cases, but maybe older. Parents presumed themselves to be ignorant of their child's needs, listening to the self-advocacy of their child in various modes of immature communication, such as crying, screaming, whining, and physical aggression - all of which were seen as communication in their children, not reasons to punish a child, as punishment of children was unlawful under Jewish and Christian law.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to provocations to anger, as defined as the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, with this being intended by the Apostle Paul and the legal context he was writing from to prohibit all punishment and control of children, including all spanking and corporal punishment. The Apostle Paul was rebuking Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking children into the church, citing Scripture in Proverbs in order to justify their moral crime of kidnapping children. All of the verses in Proverbs that describe the rod of correction are repealed verses, as they deal with a specific form of judicial corporal punishment - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, which was a primary sentence for a capital offense in ADULT children of Hebrew parents, and only after a capital offense was adjudicated in a court of law. Minor children were deemed incompetent to stand trial for criminal acts or civil wrongs that they committed. Christ abolished the death penalty and all corporal punishment by experiencing both on the cross. It was understood in the Early Church that all verses involving the rod of correction were repealed.

Children honored parents later in life, by way of following their example, not out of fear of punishment, but out of fondness and admiration for a parent and their charitable graces towards them as children. Honoring parents was more of a thing in adult children, meaning a reward for parents for forming a secure attachment with children. Minor children were demanding, running parents aground for their needs if necessary, with parents reverently fearing their child and their needs, leading to the child resting in the care and protection of parents, in unconditional Christian love that puts children first, and parents last, to the point of selfless submission to children. Christian love is denoted in the Bible by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao). Surrender to parents is rest and security, knowing you will be taken care of and protected, counting on a childhood without punishment or control imposed on you. When children rest in the love and care of parents, they take on the example of parents, and their fondness and admiration for parents drives their desire to be like their parents, worshipping the ground in which their parents walk, always being close to them in some fond and doting way.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the ever-burning lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the everlasting Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

 

Why punishment of children is already banned in America

Many parents punish their children in the United States. It is assumed that not punishing children is an atheist and secular venture. Many non-punitive parents are atheists, but not all of us are ignorant to the Bible. I myself am a Christian conservative, of the peaceable Anabaptist sort, and my Christian pacifist views do not stop at battle lines. I am completely and totally opposed to punishing children in all its horrific forms.

America is a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian family values, and we have certain family values that most Americans are not aware of, yet exist nonetheless in the framework that lays out the foundation of this country. The Bible is America's book, and God's Law is above the law of the land. Thus, spanking is already banned in this country. What are our nation's true parenting values? We need some norm, so lets start with the fact that our nation's founding was inspired largely by the laws and customs of ancient Israel - God's chosen country - lifted up by the Bible and spread across the world, creating Western civilization.

Our values teach us that every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and are deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, and are to be meek and shamefaced in relation to their children, convicted with reverent fear and terror of their child's every need, leading to prioritizing the needs of their child's needs first, and their needs last, to the point of submission and surrender to the every vulnerable need of children, with this form of Christian love being denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), with children resting in the love and grace of parents, with parents providing and submitting from above, and children resting safely and securely with parents. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor thy father and mother, which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest and trust in parents, leading to children taking on the example of parents, honoring parents in their taking after the example of their parents. With minor children, this refers to attachment parenting, meaning with children wrapped up in swaddling blankets next to mothers, being breastfed until the age of 3, and remaining close to parents, with older children alternating between free play and the closeness of mom and dad. Children were allowed to freely develop, with the assumption that most all childish behavior is a developmental phase, but with the hope that children would take on the example of their parents, which they usually did, as they had much affection and admiration for their parents due to lack of punishment. Children demanded and ordered parents as to their needs, feeling safe in doing so around parents, not censoring their words when petitioning their parents for needs and a redress of grievances.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to a Christian standard of discipline and chastisement in parents, namely one that is entitled to nothing, and is grateful for everything, in relation to children in this context. Children owe parents nothing, and parents owe children everything, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with this forming a good, chastened up example for children to follow, backed up by a rare, agreed-upon verbal warning that a certain want of a child is unattainable or unsafe, with this being denoted by the Greek root word νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers ultimately to the word "no" and its various variants, as well as any other verbal instruction of parents, backed up by the mutual submission and cooperation between parent and child. This is all weighed by the Greek root word παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to provocations to anger against children, meaning the slightest of personal offenses perceived by the child, with first stanza in Eph. 6:4 intended by the Apostle Paul to ban all punishment and control in parenting. Paul was rebuking Greek Christians who misused Scripture to justify their pagan custom of spanking children. All of the verses that depict the rod of correction in Proverbs are repealed verses in Christianity, meaning they refer to a specific form of judicial corporal punishment that is dated - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction. Such a punishment was only for ADULT children of Hebrew parents, and only for a capital offense that was adjudicated in a criminal court of law. Just as American parents support spanking by citing Scripture, Greco-Roman Christian parents misused Scripture the same way, and that's where the punishment of children comes from - Greco-Roman paganism.

Punishment of children is banned in the United States. It is prohibited under the natural laws of this country giving civil liberties and freedoms to children, with the provocation to anger of a child being an entitled offense against a child. We as a nation are constantly evolving in how we understand our values, including new people into American society. We will eventually include children into society, eventually valuing their input on social issues. Before we include children into society, we need to ban the punitive parenting customs that are keeping them down. The custom is already banned, so we must lift up the law in front of scofflaw parents who aren't in compliance with Divine Codified Jurisprudence. The secular law will change, but only when popular opinion changes. Recent trends show significant change in opinion on spanking, with 61% of women and 85% of men using corporal punishment, a significant decrease, in fact. The idea is to get the men on board, and that involves anti-spanking informational campaigns that appeal to men, meaning usually something along the lines of "take responsibility as a father" and clarifying that it means no spanking. 

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's final resting place! Let them descend forever and ever into everlasting Hell and torment, suffering God's Wrath for all eternity! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Back talk": Why children have the right to talk back to parents in the Bible

Many parents oppose back talk in their children, and assume the Fifth Commandment in the Bible prohibits their children from opposing them on anything. Back talk is here defined as any opposition to parents whatsoever. Punishing children for anything, but especially back talk, is unbiblical and heretical, given the extensive, irrefutable evidence against corporal punishment.

Wanting things from children is not a good thing, and that includes wanting children to shut up as you preach to them. Parental entitlement is wanting things from children to the point of imposition, meaning any time you impose what you want onto a child, you are entitled, with this being denoted in the New Testament by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés). However, why want anything from a child at all? I, as an adult, want nothing from a child, as a child owes me nothing. Wanting your child to treat you with respect is entitlement in and of itself, and abuse once it leads to theft. 

Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, and are to be meek and shamefaced in relation to their children, putting their children first, and themselves and their own needs last, to the point of submission to children, surrendering to the every need of one's child in Christian love, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), with children resting securely in the love and grace of parents, with parents submitting to children from above. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, with parents surrendering from above to the child's every need. Attachment parenting was normative in ancient Hebrew and Christian culture, with children being wrapped up in swaddling blankets next to mothers, going in the nude, being immersed in skin-to-skin closeness with mothers. Children were intensely close to their parents during the first 6 years of life, with older children alternating between free play and closeness to parents. Mother nurtured, and father encouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to provocations to anger against children, as defined under the Law as the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, with this being intended by the Apostle Paul to include any punishment or control in parenting, including spanking and corporal punishment, regardless. The Apostle Paul here was rebuking Greek Christians who held onto the pagan custom of spanking children. The "rod verses" in Proverbs, meaning all of them, are repealed verses, and were seen as such by the Early Christian church, as they refer not to punishing a child, but a sentence for crime for an ADULT child - the 40 minus 1 lashes administered by a father as a last resort before an adult child of his was put to death. That was the only corporal punishment parents could use in the Old Testament, and it only applied to ADULT children, never minor children. Christ endured both capital and corporal punishment so that we don't have to, with this including children especially. The Early Christians did not use corporal punishment in law enforcement, but instead used pro-social non-association (1 Cor. 5:11), including with adult children who violated the Law in an unforgivable fashion.

Children in biblical times were allowed to talk back. They rested with parents, meaning they were not under the command of parents, but instead directed how their needs were met, demanding and petitioning for needs/wants and a redress of grievances. Attachment in ancient Judeo-Christian culture between parents and children was policing in nature, meaning the child policed the parents for their needs, and parents righteously gave up and gave in, being meek and shamefaced in the never-ending demands of their children, with behavior such as crying, whining, and even aggression being seen as an expression of vulnerable needs. Parents bent over backwards for their children, expecting absolutely nothing in return, being shamefaced and meek in their servitude towards their children. 

Children have the right to demand their needs even today, just as they did in biblical times. They don't have to mince words, since tone-deaf, imposing demands are simply a phase in development, meaning they don't know how to "ask nicely". Why? Their brain isn't fully developed, and thus they cannot comprehend that they have to ask a certain way to get what they want. Thus, children are going to express themselves however they will, and parents must give in and give up the fight.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descent into everlasting Hell and torment, with them suffering God's Wrath forever and ever!

Mutual submission: Why parents and children should submit to each other

Many parents believe in children respecting them, and thus demand respect. Most American parents are entitled in the sense that they demand respect without earning it. Under divine law, children are to be respected before anything else. Parents and children are to submit to each other in mutual cooperation and submission, with burden of proof on parents.

Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, with parents being convicted to put their children's needs before their own, prioritizing their child, leading to total submission to the every need of children, and then total acceptance of the child, with children resting in the Christian love of parents, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao). Surrender to parents is rest in the unconditional Christian love of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Attachment parenting was the norm in ancient Israel and adjoining churches, with children being wrapped up in the swaddling blankets that mothers wore then, with children being weaned, on average, at age 3, or sometimes older. Older children alternated between free play supervised by parents, and closeness with mothers. Children were demanding in biblical times, petitioning for their needs and a redress of grievances with parents, and parents being struck with conviction to provide for the child's every need and benign want.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to provocations to anger, meaning the slightest of offense perceived by the child. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul and the legal context he was writing from to prohibit all punitive parenting, including punitive strategies such as spanking, corporal punishment, or else any punishment or control in parent. Greek Christians were bringing their pagan custom of spanking children into the church. Punishing a child was legally defensible under Roman law, but not under Jewish law. Jewish law regarded punishing a child as kidnapping, with the traditional penalty being bloodletting (chenek) after 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction - the same one mentioned in Proverbs and Hebrews. The passages in Proverbs referring to whipping "children" with the switch, meaning the rod verses are repealed verses, with the children being described there being adult children in the context, meaning the translation is imprecise and misleading. The translation is not the infallible word of God - the original text itself, in Hebrew, Greek, and Aramaic, is the infallible, unblemished word of God, as understood to the context it was written to, not in terms of any sort of modern understanding.

Child surrender is restful surrender in the loving arms of parents. This happens when parents put themselves last, and their children first, to the point of total surrender and submission to a child. The child then rests in the loving providence of parents, with children then demanding as they all so often do, and parents righteously giving into the demands, giving up the fight, then surrendering to their child's demands, assuming nothing about the child's needs, knowing that age corrupts and that never again will adults be able to understand what it is like to be a child.

America is a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian family values. The doctrine of mutual submission is the core of how a Christian society should function. We as neighbors monitor each other, check up on each other, and within family homes, provide for our wives and children, not being entitled towards one's family at all, including one's children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into everlasting Hell and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pro-social permissiveness, pro-social example: Why children should be allowed to find their own discipline and structure

Many parents think children need structure, and so they impose it on children. This is a common misunderstanding and misconception about children. The fact of the matter is that children in biblical times were raised in the manner of pro-social permissiveness and pro-social example.

There are a lot of people in prison who had a structured upbringing. It is called prompt dependence, and in many homes in the United States, a child's every moral choice is a prompt, and that doesn't change when they reach adulthood - except in the real world, there are no prompts. We have successfully raised a generation of children, upon many others, that will commit a crime in an instant once they get the perfect opportunity. Usually, it is something like traffic crime (ex. speeding, seatbelt violations, DUI/DWI), but still, crime is crime, and the law is the law. We need to raise our children, and bring them up, to respect morals and laws, not because a punishment is attached, but because the law is there to follow. Criminals, once freed from prison, often crave the structure that prison provides, so much that they will re-offend just to go back to prison. They simply cannot function in society. It is a cognitive impairment, and it starts with punitive parenting and how it damages the brain.

It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor thy father and mother, as this is the first commandment with promise; That is may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to a specific standard of Christian discipline in parents in relation to children, namely one that is entitled to nothing, and grateful for everything, with parents and adults wanting nothing from children, with this being the Living Example of Christ. Children owe nothing to parents, and parents owe everything to children, with this attitude towards life forming a chastened up example for children, backed up by a rare, agreed-upon verbal warning that certain behavior or wants are completely out of line, as denoted by the Greek root word νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia), but with children finding their own structure most times. This is all weighed by the Greek root word παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to provocations to anger, meaning the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to prohibit all spanking, punishment, and other forms of punitive parenting, as he was rebuking Greek Christians who held onto the pagan custom of spanking children. Punishment of children was legally defensible under Roman law, but never Jewish law. Any form of punitive parenting towards a child was considered kidnapping under Jewish law, and was seen as deserving of death by way of bloodletting (chenek) after 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction - the same one mentioned in "rod verses" such as Prov. 13:24 and Heb. 12:5-11. The translation of the "rod verses" in the Old Testament is incomplete, as ADULT children and ADULT children only where whipped with the rod of correction, and only once in a lifetime, as a last resort before the offender had to be put to death for their criminal habits. Children were deemed incompetent to stand trial for crimes they committed, with parents apologizing in court for the mischief of their children, then gently teaching them the right thing to do instead.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to restful surrender in the loving arms of parents. Parents totally submit to their children, putting the needs of children first, and their needs last, prioritizing their child's needs before their own. Christian love for children is putting children before yourself, to the point of willful and dutiful submission to children, with children resting in the love and grace of parents and adults. Children in biblical times were raised with attachment parenting, with children up until adulthood wrapped in swaddling blankets next to the bosom of their mother, holding their children close, weaning them late at age 3 or even older. Children alternated between playing freely and closeness with parents as they became older, with actual sexual contact being the only reason for parents to intervene in children's play, separating and supervising two children who were about to engage in sexual contact - parents supervised all play. Much of the free play in ancient Israel and adjoining churches had sexual undertones to it, usually in an immature, flirtatious manner - children went in the nude, and parents let go the flirtatious advances of girls in particular onto boys or even other girls. Then, children retired to the rest and respite of parents, recharging with complete closeness to parents, being wrapped in swaddling bands next to the bosom of mothers and soaking up the skin-to-skin closeness. Whenever children went outside to play, they could not leave their mother's line of sight. 

This context applies today to the degree it can be applied. There is nothing wrong, biblically, with children being allowed to play freely to the point of sexual awareness. Not all of the attachment parenting standards imposed upon biblical parents can be applied today. Christian parents must respect the higher authorities, and only excuse child nudity indoors, not outdoors, meaning if a child doesn't want to wear any clothing inside the house, they don't have to, and if any adult in the house finds that setup sexually threatening or enticing, that's their problem and not the child's. Most attachment parenting in the Bible can be applied today, but perhaps in modified format. Parents should be in closeness with their children as much as possible. Parents should set a good Christian example for their children, not backed up by punishment or control.

Children need to learn to find their own structure. What does this look like? Going through every childhood behavior with your child as a parent, knowing it is just a phase, and if they don't grow out of it, it is a disability of some sort that requires mental health treatment. When you impose structure onto a child, they depend on it, even when it is gone. That's exactly what a criminal is - someone with no structure because they had it all handed to them, hence they internalized none of it. Children need to absorb morality on their own, and that requires a good Christ-like, Christian example of charity and generosity directed towards children. Children take after the traits of their parents, so if your child has bad traits, chances are you do too - change those bad traits before pointing the finger at your child!

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's final resting place! Let them descend into everlasting Hell and torment, suffering God's Wrath for all eternity! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pro-social deification, pro-social child worship: Why children were worshipped in biblical times

Many parents think biblical times were harsh and punitive for children. Rumors flow about how children were treated in biblical times, such as children having to work around the house, and the much more flagrantly false context of young boys being whipped starting at age 6. The fact of the matter is that children were worshipped in biblical times, as ancient Hebrew culture was child worshipping culture.

Jesus Christ said in Matthew 25:45-46 KJV:

Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not to one of the least of these, ye did it not unto me. And these shall go away into everlasting punishment: but the righteous into eternal life.

This refers to pro-social child worship. Children in biblical times were seen as extensions of God, striking reverent fear and terror into parents with their vulnerability, with them seen as signs of God. Whatever a child wanted/needed was what God needed of parents. Parents are to submit to God through their children, by dutifully and selflessly submitting to their children. Christian love for a child, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to putting the child first, and yourself last, to the point of submission to the child, being convicted dutifully of their needs, and prioritizing them, leading to total acceptance of one's child, coming from total submission to said child. Children then rest in the love and grace of parents, in mutual submission between parent and child. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" directly is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to restful surrender in the loving arms of parents. Parents in ancient Israel and adjoining churches relied on attachment parenting as a means of bringing up children, with children being wrapped up by their mothers with swaddling blankets into adulthood, with children at least age 3 being weaned from mother's milk. Older children alternated between free play within the line of sight of parents, and closeness to parents, with parents being "home base", meaning a safe place for rest and respite. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to provocations to anger against a child, meaning the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child. The Apostle Paul intended this to include any sort of punitive parenting, such as spanking, corporal punishment, or any punishment, regardless. Paul here was rebuking Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking children into the church. Punishing a child was defensible under Roman law, but never Jewish law. Under Jewish law in the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting (chenek) after 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction - the same one described in "rod verses" such as Prov. 13:24 and Heb 12:5-11. The rod of correction was applied only to ADULT children as a sentence for crime. The verbiage in the English translation is vague, but only adult children are being referred to, and with the whipping only happening after a criminal trial for a capital offense under Jewish law. All capital and corporal punishment was abolished by Christ on the cross by Him enduring both forms of punishment, so we as God's children don't have to.

Children in ancient Israel and adjoining churches were seen as vulnerable yet convicting extensions of God, striking reverent fear and terror into all adults entrusted in their care, with adults shaking and quaking in the fearsome menace that is the vulnerable needs of children, and the assertive and demanding attitudes children took when petitioning for needs and a redress of grievances. Children usually got what they wanted in biblical times, and then some of what they needed alongside reassurance and validation when they didn't get their way. Children in ancient Israel were not spoiled, but parents usually compromised with their children instead of totally shutting them down, usually finding ways for things to work for both parent and child. The opinions of children were heavily valued in biblical times, and life changes such as moving to a new house might have been due to an immature fear a child attached to the old house. This context is to be applied today to the degree it can be, given the level of entitlement in the parent.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pro-social self-crucifixion: Why parents are to sacrifice like Christ did

Most parents believe that they are extensions of God at some level, and thus feel like they have the right to punish and control their child, meaning moving them around. True biblical parenting is sacrificial in nature, with parents being a giving extension of Christ.

Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION in relation to children merely for existing in relation to them, sacrificing for their child, just as Christ took up the cross and sacrificed for His children, being charitable and generous just as Christ was towards His children, especially on the last days - Christ gives a Living Example for parents to follow and pass down. Christian love is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to putting others first, and yourself last as a parent, leading to submission, expecting absolutely nothing in return, resting in the love and grace of parents. 

Mutual submission is the teaching for all Christian parents to follow. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to "resting under" parents, with rest leading to listening and following of example, with parents being a shelter to allow for the child to develop normally. Attachment parenting was the normative mode of parenting in biblical times, with children wrapped up in swaddling blankets next to their mother, in the nude, in skin-to-skin closeness with their mother. Most children were weaned by age 3, and older children, alternated between free play and closeness with mothers, with mothers supervising play, being a safe place for children to rest in closeness and respite. Mothers in the Early Christian cultures took up the cross for their child.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to provocations to anger, meaning any and all offenses against children, as defined as the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and the legal context he was writing from, to prohibit all punishment and control in parenting, including punishments such as spanking, whipping, and other forms of corporal punishment. Greek Christians in Paul's Early Church held onto their pagan custom of spanking children, and Paul would have none of it. Punishing a child, including striking a child at all, was seen as kidnapping then, meaning grand theft, due to the hostage-taking nature of the abuse. The prescribed punishment in the Old Testament was bloodletting to death (chenek) after 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction - the same one mentioned in Prov. 13:24, and the same punishment mentioned there as well. Punishment was seen then as for ADULTS, as some passages in the Bible are poorly translated, namely those concerning parenting - any reference to children in Proverbs refers to adult children, and is a repealed verse. Hebrews simply refers to enduring hardship, with scourging referring to, in parenting, being "scourged" by the stress of raising children, which pays off in the end.

Parents are to put themselves on the cross, and crucify themselves in their parental duties, just as Christ did for His children. Sacrificing for your child is like nailing yourself to the cross for your child, like Christ did, being a giving and charitable extension of Christ. This means putting yourself last, and the best interests of your children first, to the point of complete and total submission to your child's needs, expecting absolutely nothing in return for your good works and sacrifice for them. Parents are entitled to nothing from children, and should be grateful for everything from them, leading to a chastened up example to be imparted onto children. Selflessness towards children teaches them selflessness. Parenting in Ancient Israel and adjoining churches was selfless in this way, meaning children demanded and parents supplied.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's final resting place! Let them descend into everlasting Hell and torment, suffering God's Wrath for all eternity! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

What is anti-parent?

Anti-Parent is a function of my advocacy that seeks to eradicate punitive and permissive parenting by seeking to ban the parent label as a glorified title for an abuse to decree from their throne. 

We don't want parents here in Berks County, Pennsylvania. We hate them through and through, even if some haven't found themselves out.

What we want here at Anti-Parent is to hide our parent identity, so that that the parents can show, and show their entitlement as parents, then plowing over them with information, laying out our court-space, and debating the parents, setting them afire with our list of facts gaslighting here at Opposing Parental Entitlement.

We hide, so the parents of the world show their true faces, rearing their heads, showing parental entitlement - which we all hate, and if you don't hate parental entitlement, show it for all to see, so we can call you out. Show your parent fornicator for all to see, so we can call it out and hedge it.

We challenge the societal entitlement that keeps children down, yanking pompous and entitled parents down to our level, meaning the child level, one parent at a time, ministering to them the good Word of God, convicting them of their provocations to anger against their child.

Let the parents BURN, and the rest of society who simply raises children to show once more, repopulating the earth, being the chosen few elect by God to inherit the Kingdom of God.

Child sexual abuse: How to prevent it

Many adults believe that they will not sexually abuse children. The belief is that only other adults abuse children sexually, meaning some minority over there - yes, they blame pedophiles, without a shred of evidence. All adults have some risk of committing child sexual abuse.

Pedophilia is the sexual attraction to children under age 14, and is a mental disorder in the common case that it interferes with an adult's life and/or poses a risk to children. Most adults are attracted to children in some capacity, usually teenagers, and as a secondary attraction usually. A primary attraction to teenagers aged 15-17 is ephebophilia. I myself have both, but with pedophilia being the most appropriate diagnosis. We all pose some risk in that regard, so why be so insecure and take it personally?

Most child sexual abuse occurs when an adult is alone with a child they have a sexual attachment to. The most common excuses of sex offenders who are arrested by the authorities are "I was in the wrong place, at the wrong time". Why were you there? Why were you drinking so much? Why were you smoking so much weed? Why were you shooting up so much heroin? Adults are responsible for their own choices around children, period, meaning there is no excuse for abuse - abusing a child is a choice, and if you make that choice, you accept and consent to all worldly and otherworldly consequences.

So, just don't be alone with a child. Also, a common parenting recommendation in biblical times was masturbating to fantasies about your child as an alternative to sexually abusing your child, which was unlawful then. The idea was one of time-out, as understood in attachment parenting, meaning the parent takes a time-out to regather their thoughts.

The Greek root word πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers to three type of sexual impurity - rape/sexual assault, fraudulent marriage, and obscenity. All three apply to child sexual abuse, as all sexual acts imposed upon children is a fraudulent marriage imposed on the child before she is ready. Sexually obscene and objectifying speech about a child in a place where others could be offended is also sexual abuse, as such is a form of public humiliation to the child. Simple pedophilia, meaning having sexual thoughts about children, was not seen as fornication, but the Early Christian churches ran on pro-social honesty, meaning if someone asked out of moral concerns about any attraction to children, the other adult would have to be honest, as is my policy today.

Most child sexual abuse in the United States peaks in intensity in a child's mid-teens, with teenage girls being the most common victims of sexual abuse in America. Most of the time, in the case of teenagers, there is an added component - unawareness of one's sexual side for teenagers, leading to recklessness in terms of location when being with teenagers. They may be sleeping at a hotel with a teenage girl, but may not know why they are making such a choice until they make it, and that is because they refuse to be aware of their sexual attractions to children, then abusing a child sexually. Usually, we aren't talking about simple pedophilia, but secondary ephebophilia.

Refusing to be aware of any thoughts lead to them being out of your control. The thoughts then control you, and take you places. What about instead of pedophiles having their thoughts controlling them, them being in total control of their thoughts. The way to do this is to fantasize about children, and recover the pedophilic thread, which may include dealing with trauma alongside the recovery of the pedophile. Pedophile recovery is simply becoming aware of the fact that you are a pedophile, and that is how you recover from the disorder - be in complete control of your thoughts in regards to wanting sex with children, and then avoid all wants in relation to children in real life, especially related to locations where sexual abuse could occur. Pedophilia is treated best alongside other mental health disorders, which can include autism, ADHD, and PTSD (from childhood trauma usually). I myself am a pedophile, and I am aware of it all of the time, and I am aware enough to control my thoughts enough not to abuse a child sexually.

The depraved and defiled adult fornicators who provoke children to anger will suffer the second death, descending into everlasting Hell-fire! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pedophilic children: America's true victims of pedophile hysteria (and child abuse)

Many parents fear the likelihood of their child experiencing child sexual abuse, whereas most parents abuse their children, oftentimes throughout their childhood and through law-abiding means. Most of the time, anti-spanking trauma is an understory. However, some children show the trauma on the surface, and they are the least to be listened to.

Pedophilia is a mental disorder involving attraction to children under age 14. Children age 16 and up can be diagnosed with pedophilic disorder. 3 out of 4 pedophiles have not sexually abused a child, and most pedophilic adults believe in youth rights and are convicted of such beliefs. 

Pedophilia is antisocial traumatic dissociation, meaning in the United States, a trauma usually conflates it. Due to the unique nature of the parental thread conflated by the trauma, most pedophiles are actually aware of their trauma, and never repressed their trauma from punitive parenting. Punitive parenting is the source of pedophile hysteria.

The most common form of abuse pedophilic children have experienced as children is sexual shaming abuse, usually in the form of punishment and control around the concept of masturbation, usually in a heavily moralized way. This is based off of the false biblical concept that this verse bans pedophilia. See Colossians 3:5-7 KJV:

Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry: For which things sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of disobedience: In ye also walked some time, when ye lived in them.

The Greek root word translated "inordinate affection" is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers to sexual entitlement, namely adult sexual entitlement. It does refer to desire, but only to the level of severity where the holder of such desire is actively seeking to impose said desire onto another person, with or without consent, with children not being able to consent. This does not mean sexual fantasy is banned, unless it is used as a planning ploy to sexually abuse a child, in which case it is counted as a part of the offense in reverse coloration format. Thus, punishing children for sexual fantasy, even about much younger children, is child abuse, meaning a moral crime, thus sin.

Pedophilic children are canaries in the coal mine on the spanking issue. Most all of them are against it, entirely, in a militant way that runs their parents aground - commit to gentle parenting or bust, is the message most pedophile parents get. That is because the trauma is blatantly obvious in pedophiles, even at the anti-spanking level. 

Childhood trauma is a war zone trauma for a pedophile. I myself am a pedophile, and I have used "innocent until proven guilty" as a means to combat my trauma. It is a watchdog I can bring out at any time, and I grit my teeth when I express my trauma, usually to make a point about it. Most of us get to that point, here at pedophile survivors. Most pedophiles have experienced the hysteria of society first from their parents, and then the media, as a religious sexual trauma. I myself was accepted by my family and have found a niche in my community, and in the American children's rights community.

We are moving on from pedophiles. The research is clear, pedophiles are more likely to be victims of child abuse than perpetrators of child abuse. The safest adult you leave your children with might just be a pedophile, as non-offending pedophiles often get to the point of zero entitlement towards children sometime in adulthood. Gentle parents have been meddled with and attacked so much that they may still feel the need to defend their parenting choices. Pedophiles, in their personal lives, usually use vulnerability tactics if accused of child abuse. It is when you accuse them of being a pedophile that they get defensive - because that is still a closeted issue. We no longer count pedophiles as among our abuser here - we blame their abusive parents.

The word "no": Why it should be rare and inconsequential

Many parents think attachment parenting opposes the word "no". Many of us, myself included, are opposed to the word, but not the concept, meaning I'll find other ways to decline a want of a child that don't involve that word. But, the word is understood by many as what you say to a child to set a limit, so it has space in a title.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure trust in parents. Replace "obey" with "trust" and you come to a roughly better translation. This refers to open, honest trust where children can be open and honest about their emotions with parents, crying and screaming their upsets out, with parents merely being calm and stoic, but in a listening way, perhaps with a reassuring arm wrapped around the child's back, wiping away tears from their upset. This includes the rare time the word "no" had to be used.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to provocations to anger against a child, meaning any and all offenses against a child, as defined by the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul and the legal context in which it was written from to prohibit any punitive parenting, meaning any punishment or control in parenting, such as spanking and corporal punishment. The Apostle Paul was rebuking Greek Christians who were holding onto the pagan custom of spanking and whipping children, which was legally defensible under Roman law, but never Jewish law. It was considered kidnapping, which was seen as deserving of death, even as Christ spared the offender on the cross. The traditional death penalty under Jewish law for abusive parents was bloodletting after 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction - the same one mentioned in "rod verses" like Prov. 13:24. The rod of correction consisted of a switch, and was an instrument of legal correction of ADULT children of fathers, with fathers merely being accessories to the state appointed by the court to warn his errant adult son that continuing a certain pattern of behavior would cost him his life, and by that point, mom and dad can't save you. No minor child was ever whipped, and when that did happen, it was documented by extended family, and eventually, the father was whipped and possibly put to death by way of hanging by way of bloodletting, and then were hung on a cross as a warning to other parents - do not abuse your child. Striking a child for any reason was seen by the religious authorities as kidnapping, and in and of itself deserving of the rod of correction within the law. Christ died in order to abolish all capital and corporal punishment, as these were hindrances to the message of forgiveness Jesus Christ taught.

The word "no" is referred to in Eph. 6:4 by the Greek root word νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers roughly to an agreed-upon warning, where the parent warns the child that something they want is unattainable or unsafe. Denial of requests is a righteous test, not a fool-proof way to "get them to listen". You say "no" or its nice equivalent, and then see if the child will listen, and if they don't, they don't get it, and won't until later - perhaps much later. A child may not have the brain capacity to understand why a behavior is wrong. So, keep them safe in such cases, as such is the only thing you can do. No amount of punishment will ever "make" a child behave, as they will find ways around it, and find ways to go behind your back, and then communication will be lost. Most childhood behavior is a phase anyway, so if it annoys you, deal with it, as it is only going to last maybe a few months or a few years. Crying is a phase (early childhood), whining is a phase (late childhood), and eye-rolling and pouting are a phase (adolescence). That's just how children communicate, so deal with it.

Also, keep in mind that behavior is communication. A child has a limited vocabulary, and strong impulses, and so they will be driven to act out in order to get a need met. Children are actually rational enough to know what they need, but they don't know how to express it in a mature, adult fashion until they are older. Punishment shuts down that communication right away. God wants YOU as a parent to have a healthy, open line of communication with your child, through early childhood, and into adolescence. The Lord wants you and your child to come to a point of cooperation, and it starts with YOU as the parent. Thus, spare the word "no" or its various variants for when it is absolutely warranted, such as when something is unsafe or completely unattainable (perhaps due to finances), and pair the word with reassurance for any upset stemming from grieving the denial. If ever possible, compromise with your child to make things work.

The word "no" should be a rare word in a Christian home uttered to a child, and perhaps a common word to be uttered to a parent instead. All outbursts and acting out should be seen as self-advocacy for a need. But, when it is to be used, it is a righteous test - that's all it is. Children don't have the developmental capacity to comprehend and understand every statement of declined requests, and thus they may seek out wants anyway, in which case all a parent can do is keep them safe.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's final resting place! Let them descend into the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath for all eternity! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Strictness and discipline: Why parents should be strict with themselves (and not with children)

Many people, when they think of parenting, think of discipline, and see it as the focal part of raising children. However, is discipline for children even the right way to go as a parent? No. Discipline yourself as a parent before pointing the finger.

It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor thy father and mother, for this is the first commandment with promise; That is may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" and the Greek root word παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to a certain standard of Christian discipline in parents, stemming from the attitude that parents are entitled to nothing in relation to a child, and grateful for everything from a child, with this being the Living Example of Christ. Children owe nothing to their parents, and parents owe everything, with this attitude leading to a chastened up example in relation to children. This is backed up by a rare verbal warning that is agreed-upon, usually involving the word "no" or its various variants in most cases, not backed up by punishment, as denoted by the Greek root word translated νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia). To be clear, this word does not refer to any form of punishment of a child. Both these Greek root words refer to states of a parent, with the primary state being discipline and chastisement in parents to model to children. This is all weighed by the Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to provocations to anger imposed upon children, meaning any and all offenses against children, as defined as the slightest of personal slights perceived by a child. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to prohibit all punitive parenting, including all punishment and control in parenting. A few of the Greek Christians in the Early Christian churches held onto the pagan custom of spanking children. Roman law gave a legal defense for punishing children, whereas Jewish law did not allow for such a defense, and saw spanking and punishing children as kidnapping. Kidnapping was punished by bloodletting after the abuser of children received 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction - the same rod of correction mentioned in Prov. 13:24 and other "rod verses". The original Hebrew refers to an ADULT child, which would have been more in line with Jewish tradition.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure trust in parents. Replace "obey" with "trust" and you come to a roughly better translation. This is a special kind of trust, borne out of maternal warmth and sustenance. Parentis in biblical times used attachment parenting to gain cooperation from their children. Children were wrapped up next to their mothers in swaddling bands, sleeping next to their mothers until adulthood, with children being weaned at around age 3. Children in biblical times demanded thing from parents, and parents supplied the needs. Children petitioned for a redress of grievances, and parents heard out the complaints, and usually heeded them blindly. Children were seen as vulnerable yet convicting extensions of God by ancient Hebrew and Christian society.

Discipline is a good skill to have in life. How do you teach it in children? Be strict with yourself as a parent, not with your child, in a way that sets a good Christian example for your children. Strictness and discipline are good things, but not when imposed on a child. Impose such attitudes on yourself first, then children will follow in your footsteps. If you don't want your child to grow up thinking it is okay to impose wants and entitlement on others, don't do that to them. Don't do that to anybody around them. You are entitled to nothing from children, and grateful for everything given to you by them. Don't push it.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices, which is Satan's tomb! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Proposed redefinitions of child abuse

Many adults believe we have too many laws on child abuse already. That is the mantra of the anti-children's rights agenda. I myself am an anti-entitlement Christian conservative, and my core entitlement group is parents. Parental entitlement is something we all struggle with as adults, and is the core entitlement of all adults.

The Bible is very clear on what child abuse is. The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to wanting things from or of children to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child, or not caring about your imposing behavior towards children, leading to an offense perceived by a child. It says in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to provocations to anger, meaning any and all offenses against children, as defined as the slightest of personal offenses perceived by the child. Whatever the child victim perceives as abuse objectively is under natural law, meaning God's Law.

Culpability under Christian law is divided into two parts, entitlement leading to theft, meaning the opposite. All theft is abuse, and all abuse is theft, and all theft, by default, comes from entitlement. All theft, by default, is a result of entitlement, in reverse coloration format. An apology immediately after the offense, to the child victim, is not abuse, as the entitlement aspect canceled out. Entitlement cannot be spotted in most cases without accompanying abuse/theft, with the exception of blatant rights defenses. Entitlement usually comes out as a rights statement for oneself. Demanding anything as a right onto somebody else can be entitlement, if it is a demand - just show that you are non-entitled enough to deserve your rights. Children have special rights because they are the least among us, and most vulnerable. Children get their rights for free, whereas an adult earns their rights, partially by treating children with respect.

A moral legal example of how relying on child victim perception works is in the case of a parent spanking their child. The moment the child feels pain from the angry strikes of the parent, God sees the every intent and action leading up to the offense against the child being part of the moral crime, as entitlement, and if you defend one item brought up in the divine investigation, it is as if you defended all of them, since they all come from the same entitled place. If you apologize for the spanking, that wipes the slate clean, meaning in the case of a spanking, it was abuse, but the situation is resolved, as long as the habit is struggled against on the level of tears. In another case, a parent might say "no", but if the parent reassures the child in an apologetic way, and also give the child a chance to deny what you want by saying it nicely. Many times, the child does, whereas in that case all you can do is keep the child safe.

America is a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian family values, and thus the child abuse definitions in our laws should reflect how child abuse was dealt with in the Bible. Currently, child abuse definitions are dependent on an act or failure to act leading to an injury of some sort, with that injury being tangible and measurable, all this to protect the rights of parents. Anything that offended a child or made them feel unsafe was abuse, at the very least by default. Only an apology can stop the legal motions from moving. This would include spanking and corporal punishment.

Under the law today here in Pennsylvania, all victims of domestic violence (DV) have the right to protection from abuse once they perceive offense from their spouse or significant other. That should be the case for domestic violence against children (DV against C). Domestic violence against children includes spanking and other forms of corporal punishment, as well as verbal and emotional abuse, at minimum.

Let the depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger BURN! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Involving the investigation of my advocacy platform

I am currently under investigation for vague allegations of religious sexual abuse, meaning vague by my understanding. I am sure that if I find out what I was charged with fully, I'd be horrified. This doesn't mean I am some saint in this regard.

I did commit one moral crime that opened up the investigation - fornication by way of false marriage. It was with a cousin, in an attic, and involved antisocial "rough-play" with the wrong motives. I will admit that I touched her with intent to play around recklessly, but my playfulness was sexually motivated.

I think it was handled wrong, in my humble opinion. The police should have just taken the report, and if something happened again, cited me $300 for summary harassment, as my intent was reckless in nature, and a form of physical battery under the English common law. The way the common law statute of battery is handled in Pennsylvania is through a decriminalized route, meaning there has to be a warning, then a citation, and prison is only an option for repeated offenses that have been documented.

I respected the boundaries of my cousin, then with her being 12, hence why no summary charges are warranted now, as if they could be pressed now, as the statute of limitations on summary harassment is 90 days.

I am judging the police based on the law that they enforce, and that only. I am not to have a personal opinion about the civil rights of children as victims or as perpetrators (my cousin was falsely alleged by some officers as the perpetrator). 

I believe in full openness, transparency, and honesty, as an advocate for children that is humble and shamefaced in nature. I don't believe in defiance against the rights of children to stay in business. The way to stay in business is to admit everything you did, and then point out what you didn't do. I am not entitled to anything from a child, so if I mess up, admit it, as anyone is capable of making an entitled and abusive choice towards children under the right/wrong conditions. All adults have abused a child at some point or another in their lives, or at least have condoned it, so all adults must take responsibility, as I did. I was an abusive parent to my cousin, meaning an adult in that situation, as there was inequality.

I am spared under the law of the land, but God's Law is even stricter. Fornication is a fraudulent marriage in this individual case, meaning I wanted to play, and I touched a child with that motive. I did not force myself, which is why the police thankfully are not pressing charges. My cousin blames herself for all this. She shouldn't. I was foolhardy and downright dumb for doing what I did. I do apologize, as I was wrong in how I treated her, and deserve her hatred, and am grateful that she does not hate me.

Pro-social meekness, pro-social punching bag: Core Christian family values for parenting

Many parents believe in being strong and proud as a parent. Some children, however, come as proud as a king, right out of their mother's womb. What is the solution? More of the same? Children need a meek example, for "blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth". How meek are you as a parent in relation to children? How much of a punching bag are you for their onslaught of upset and aggression (both verbal and physical). 

Not all children respond well to punitive discipline, and stomp right all over the boundaries parents back up with punishment. Attachment parenting is special needs parenting, namely autism parenting, assuming all children have those same needs that children with disabilities such as autism, ADHD, and bipolar disorder, self-advocate for loudly. Pro-social meekness is a children's rights conditioning of an adult, and it usually comes with parents being used as a punching bag for their pro-social parent abuse. When saying "parent abuse", picture a 4-year-old punching a parent, and the parent falling limp instead of getting defensive.

Christian love, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), is submission to the every need of a child as her enemy. All parents are guilty in relation to children, and are deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children. Parents can redeem themselves by turning themselves into the Lord through their children, shedding their parent pride, being struck with reverent fear and terror, becoming meek and shamefaced in surrendering to their parental duties towards children. A parent should have the humble compassion of a nurse or waiter/waitress. A parent to be a caregiver to this very capacity, striving for perfection, knowing they will never be a perfect parent, living in shame of their own depraved sin nature. Children are to be allowed to rest in this meek servitude towards them. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) refers to childhood rest in the sturdy shelter of parents, with parents being sturdy in a meek way, with children shouting orders at parents, barking morning breath in their face, and occasionally striking out fully, with parents being meek and shamefaced, not retaliating or using punishment in the face of their children's onslaught. Parents in biblical times were a human punching bag their child's every immature emotion and reaction to adverse consequences of life, with parents just taking the brunt of it, listening to their child's upset. Children in biblical times were the type to have two sides to them - calm and rational for the rest of the world, but bold and demanding for their parents, and parents were sure to siphon the upset and frustrations of their children to them by being their best friend, thus children being attached securely to parents, not straying out of their line of sight.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to provocations to anger inflicted upon children, meaning any and all offenses against children, as defined as the slightest of personal offenses perceived by children. The Apostle Paul was enforcing a ban on punishing and controlling children under the Law, upholding the Eighth and Tenth Commandments. Greek Christians in the Early Christian church communities held onto their custom of spanking children. Many had already converted to attachment parenting, but some needed a rebuke to strike terror in the heart of the sinner, and deliver the Greek Christians from their sinful parenting ways. The "rod verses" in Proverbs are repealed verses due to the fact that they refer to the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction in the original Hebrew linguistic and legal context - the translation in all English versions of the Bible is poor concerning the "rod verses" in Proverbs. Striking a child at all, or punishing a child at all, could get a parent in ancient Judeo-Christian society charged with kidnapping, an offense that was deemed worthy of death, but where Christ spared the execution by enduring capital punishment.

Some children have issues such as bipolar disorder, that involve physical aggression. Just take it. Parents in ancient Israel and adjoining churches would not have had such a child put to death, as minor children could not be put to death for being stubborn and rebellious, or for any crime they committed against a parent or anyone else - striking parents only was a moral crime in the Old Testament, and only for adult children. Parents then would have taken the blows and punches, and would have allowed themselves to be broken down to tears, using full vulnerability gaslighting with an aggressive children. This is known as onslaught gaslighting, meaning setting yourself up to lose in an altercation. Most of the time, it was intended to signal help. But, if a child was doing the battering, nobody cared then...Tears usually stop childhood aggression, meaning instead of getting mad at a child, get sad and cry for being treated so harshly. 

Onslaught gaslighting here is to acknowledge and respect the vulnerability of the child, with reverent fear and terror. Ancient Jewish and Christian parents, but especially Christian parents, were the shaky type of parent that was meek and quiet,  and that were passive about their child's wants. Most children got what they wanted, and rarely had a request shot down. Parents found a way to make it work, even for requests such as wanting to move to a different home or location. Parents were trained by their churches then not to decline requests merely due to issues related to comfort and convenience - parents had to give their child whatever they wanted within reason, meaning everything physically attainable or safe, and could not cut corners for comfort or convenience purposes. Parenting was seen as both selfless and thankless in nature, as children were not expected to even thank for their children for anything. Children could just run with the care and service they received from their parents, keeping a piece of their parents deep in their hearts. Children often did say "thank you", but only to mimic their parents thanking them for doing favors that children could have easily just let their parents do.

Most behavior, including aggression, is a phase. Children may engage in an array of childish behaviors - and they grow out of almost all of them. Constant crying is a phase, then whining, then maturity. A 2 or 3 year old may hit, kick, or even bite because they don't have the words to communicate their needs, and so they go off on parents, hoping parents will figure out their needs. Sadly, most children get punished for developmentally appropriate behaviors intended to communicate needs.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared of Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath for all eternity! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

What child submission means in the Bible

Many people think children should be compliant and obedient blindly to adults, and if they do not comply with adults, they are punished and shamed. The Bible has a concept of child submission, but it is not at all like this.

Every single parent is deserving of DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing in relation to children, being convicted of their parental duties, then dutifully submitting to the every need of children, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children, with children resting in the Chrstian love of parents, as stated in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing to the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to children resting in the love and grace of parents, with children resting in maternal warmth and sustenance. Attachment parenting was the norm in biblical times, throughout the biblical context, with children being wrapped up in swaddling clothes next to their mothers, with this closeness lasting into adulthood. Children were weaned from nourishment from their mother's breast at age 3. Children rested in the loving arms of parents, snuggling with mothers, resting in the protection of fathers, getting gentle encouragement from both fathers and mothers.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to provocations to anger, meaning any and all offenses against children, as defined as the slightest of offense perceived by the child. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to prohibit all punishment or control of children, including physical and other forms of punishment, control, or harshness. Paul here was admonishing Greek Christian parents who brought in their pagan and idolatrous custom of spanking children, which was defensible under Roman law, but never Jewish law. Pro-spanking parents were put to death in the Old Testament after enduring 40 minus 1 lashes from the rod of correction - the same rod of correction mentioned repeatedly in the book of Proverbs. Solomon was talking about judicial corporal punishment of ADULT children. The translation of the rod verses in Proverbs is poor - the word for "child" denotes an adult child in every case.

Children rest in the love and grace of parents. They are not to be made to work for it, meaning children can tell parents how to raise them, and parents are to listen. Parents in biblical times heard out children's petitions for needs and a redress of grievances, with children resting in the shelter of parents, getting most of what they wanted, and some of what they needed instead. Child submission is a form of surrender to parents, meaning running to their arms in a symbolic stance of surrender, trusting that a parent or other similarly charged adult is going to take care of children, with children owing nothing in return for being cared for by parents. Parents should be caregivers, not lawgivers. Think changing the sheets, cleaning up messes, and nurturing and doting on children - that's true biblical parenting.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's tomb! Let them descend into eternal torment, suffering God's Wrath for all eternity! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Original sin: Why adults have a depraved sin nature in relation to children

The doctrine of original sin is one of the most misunderstood and misunderstood teachings. Most parents in America, at some level, believe that their child is born in sin, and that such a fact about them is relevant. Children are born in sin, but this fact about them isn't relevant until they reach adulthood and have heard out the message of their parents.

The Tenth Commandment denotes covetousness and entitlement, with this command being repeated and broadened by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and officially refers to wanting things from children to the point of seeking to impose said want onto children. However, unofficially, in the spirit of the word, it refers to any want from a child or of a child, usually imposed, but why want anything from a child? To the point of imposing? Why not just ask things of children, and know they will agree to it, because they trust you and care about what you have to say.

Every single adult is guilty in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing in relation to children, being convicted of their parental duties towards children, then submitting dutifully to the every need of children, expecting absolutely nothing from children, with children resting in the love and grace of parents, as delineated in the doctrine of mutual submission in parenting. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to "rest under" a parent's love and grace for their children, with children resting in maternal warmth and sustenance, then listening to parents, following their example. Children in ancient Israel and adjoining churches were wrapped up in their mother's swaddling bands, held close to the bosom of their mother, with children up to age 3 being weaned from suckling the breasts of their mothers, and children before that age being fully breastfed by their mother. Children slept next to their mothers in the nude, soaking up the skin-to-skin closeness, feeling safe and secure resting in the loving arms of parents, with mother to nurture, and father to encourage. Attachment parenting was the normative form of parenting in ancient Hebrew and Christian societies.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is the Greek root word ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to Christian love in the negative, meaning a provocation to anger perceived by a child, meaning the slightest of offenses perceived by a child. This was a commandment given by the Apostle Paul to make official a ban on corporal punishment in the Early Christian churches that existed in ancient Israel long before the coming of Christ. Paul was admonishing Greek Christians who brought the pagan custom of spanking children into the church. Punishing a child was legally defensible under Roman law, but completely against Jewish law. Paul would have none of it, and delivered the commandment from his prison cell, as Christians were being persecuted partially due to their "soft" parenting. Paul also sent secular writings in the form of attachment parenting manuals, where parents were told to impart the Living Example of Christ, meaning be generous and charitable towards children just as Christ was towards His children, marked by His Sacrifice.

We all have sinned in relation to children, with children being extensions of God, and whosoever wrongs or abuses a child does so to God (Matt. 25:31-46), with "child abuse" meaning whatever the child perceives as such. We are all capable of harm and abuse towards a child under the right/wrong conditions. All of us as adults are capable of that choice, and should be convicted of that fact, avoiding all provocation to anger in children, loving children as your neighbor. 

Our original sin in relation to children as adults is proven by a thread, meaning it exists without a doubt, as that thread is the sin itself. All parents have that thread as part of their parent complex, and it comes out and strangulates the child, when it should be the abusive adult that should be strangulated with the bloodletting they deserve. We are all capable of harm against a child through provocations to anger, yet very few adults will own up to it. Many will be called to be Christian parents, yet few will make the cut, because they have no working friendship with their children - just punishing children for a sin nature YOU have as well, and is more relevant in YOU as the parent.

I myself have a depraved sin nature in relation to children that I hate, meaning I hate what it can do to children. I myself am a sexually entitled adult by nature - a pedophile - and am deserving of absolutely nothing, but grateful for the fact that many children trust me, and adults as well. I am entitled to nothing, but grateful for everything in relation to children - because I deserve none of it, and only hatred and rejection from children, whom I have harmed merely while existing as an adult.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them suffer and be tormented in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss of Hell and torment, with God condemning them to their own demise, predicting beforehand who will make it! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pro-social friendship: Why parents should be friends with children

Many parents think their child is their property, meaning a subject to order around. Most parents in America state "I am your parent, not your friend". This is wrong. According to biblical law, your child is your friend, and you are to treat that child with respect.

The Holy Bible reads in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure trust in parents. Replace "obey" and "trust" and you come to a roughly more accurate translation. However, this form of trust is borne out of maternal warmth and sustenance. This is an open, honest type of trust, where children surrender all information and tell anything and everything to parents, expecting absolutely no punishment or retribution in return. Children were held close to Hebrew and Christian parents, swaddled next to mothers, wrapped up until adulthood in swaddling bands next to mom. Children were weaned as old as age 3, with older children alternating closeness with free play. Children were best friends with their parents, and vice versa. Parents in biblical times saw children in the moment, not for later.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to provocations to anger, meaning any and all offenses against children, as defined as the slightest of offense perceived by a child. The commandment prohibiting provocations to anger against one's child was intended by the Apostle Paul to prohibit punitive parenting, including punishment and control such as spanking and corporal punishment. The commandment in vs. 21 was to uplift the Law. Roman law had a legal defense for striking a child "within reason", whereas Jewish law did not, and in the Old Testament, put punitive parents to death by bloodletting, after enduring 40 lashes with the rod of correction - the same one mentioned in Prov. 13:24. The 5 rod verses in Proverbs mentioning the parenting of ADULT children are repealed, alongside Prov. 20:30 and Prov. 26:7. The rod verses refer to a dated legal punishment, involving 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, in which case grandparents often wielded the rod of correction against errant children who abused their grandchildren.

Parents are to be best friends to their children. True biblical parents make good friends. You can tell them anything, and they don't punish you. They take you seriously, and listen to you as you talk about your favorite subject, and they don't judge. Parents aren't to be judge, jury, and executioner over their children. Parents are to be friends with their children. The only difference is that children are extensions of God, and are in place of Him (Matt. 25:31-46). Children petition for needs and a redress of grievances from parents, directing how they receive their needs, striking reverent terror and fear into them. It is an attendant friendship towards a vulnerable friend who needs a more sturdy, mature friend to look after them, and care for them. It is a caregiver/ward type of friendship, where a friend assumes the care of an incapacitated, disabled friend. The friendship equalizes as the child approaches adolescence. Parenting should be for the moment, not for later.

The Greek root word translated "parents" refers to parenting, with the word being γονεύς (Latin: goneus) and refers to a friend to a child, in the position of caregiver. It is an attendant type of friendship that is totally accepting of a child, coming from total submission to the child. Think the connotations you add to a nurse's station. That's how attendant and caring parents in ancient Hebrew and Christian cultures were then. Parents are to be caregivers, not lawmakers or lawgivers, and it should translate to children simply being a parent's best friend, and vice versa - children should have a friend in parents to confide into, just as adult believers have Christ to confide into.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan, which is Satan's final resting place! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Strictness in parenting: Why to be strict with yourself as a parent (and not children)

Many parents want children with strict habits. This is a common American preference for child behavior. I myself am a conservative Christian, so I have no problem with strictness, as long as it is imparted correctly. Strictness in children is reliant on a strict, sturdy example in a parent, but one that is loving and caring at the same time.

The Bible reads in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor thy father and mother, for this is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to a specific standard of Christian discipline and chastisement in parents, stemming from that attitude here of being entitled to nothing in relation to children, but grateful for your children nonetheless. Children owe nothing to parents, and parents owe everything to children, expecting absolutely nothing in return, chastening children up with a good Christian example, with this example backed up by verbal or symbolic warnings that certain wants are unattainable and/unsafe, in a way that is rare and at a time when it is absolutely necessary, denoted by the Greek root word νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to warnings that are non-punitive and agreed-upon in a parent-child relationship. This is all weighed by the Greek root word παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to provocations to anger, meaning any and all offenses against children, as defined as the slightest of offenses perceived by the child. The commandment not to provoke children to anger was intended by the Apostle Paul to prohibit all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment and control in parents, including spanking and corporal punishment. The Apostle Paul was rebuking and admonishing Greek Christian parents who kept the pagan custom of spanking and whipping children, which was seen as parental entitlement and idolatry then.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure trust in parents. Replace "obey" with "trust" and you come to a roughly better translation. This is a special kind of trust borne out of maternal warmth and sustenance, with attachment parenting being the norm in ancient Israel and adjoining churches. Children were swaddled next to mothers, wrapped up in swaddling bands, with younger children being weaned off of breastmilk at age 3, and alternated between play and closeness with parents in late childhood. It is a warm, trusting bond with parents that lead to respect for parents, then following their example. Warmth and sustenance in early childhood especially earns parents respect, and then children want to follow your example.

Children are to follow, in Christian homes, the Living Example of Christ, meaning imparting the example of Christ's Sacrifice for His children, in attitudinal format. Christ was very strict with Himself, as He belonged to a Jewish monastery, and so should parents be as an example in relation to children, being entitled to nothing in relation to children, being grateful for the every joy a child brings you, with all parents owing everything to their children, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children. Parents are to be disciplined in relation to children, showing it and imparting their disciplined format. Put your children first, and yourself last. 

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Merry Christmas

Have a Merry Christmas, and may we remember the reason for the season - Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior, as we commemorate the eve of His birth.

Think mother Mary. That's how all mothers were then towards children in biblical times, as all children were seen as signs of God, thus were extended in place of God.

Merry Christmas, from my family to yours.

Regards,

Maxwell Scheibner

Pro-social free play: Why to allow children to play freely this Christmas season

This Christmas, you probably have plans involving a Christmas gathering with family and friends. Free play is an integral part of attachment parenting as it was done in the Early Christian church communities. Make free play a part of your Christmas plans for your child.

God's Law is handed down concerning the doctrine of mutual submission in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure trust in parents. Replace "obey" with "trust" and you come to a roughly better translation. However, this refers to a special kind of trust, borne out of maternal warmth and sustenance. Attachment parenting was the norm in ancient Israel and adjoining churches, with mothers holding their children close with swaddling bands, with even older children as young or as old as age 7 being swaddled to mothers, and held on her back when they were older. Children, other times, played freely, but within the line of sight of mothers, with children returning to mothers as "home base", recharging with snuggles and quality time together.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to provocations to anger against children, meaning any and all offenses against children, as defined as the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. Making a child sit for a couple of hours can be child abuse, so let them play outside, or inside, in their playful and rambunctious ways. The Apostle Paul here intended to ban all punitive parenting, including punishment and control such as spanking and corporal punishment. Paul was rebuking Greek Christian parents who punished their children as part of pagan custom. Any Christmas or other traditions that involve punishing or unrealistically restricting children come from pagan roots, not Christian roots.

Think, based on experience as a parent. Is it realistic to make a child sit for perhaps 4 hours, and not play outside? It isn't realistic to coop up children in the house, and make them sit through a whole dinner. They want to play, and they want to play without adult interruption. So a vase breaks? You can replace that, but not a broken child due to punishment for breaking said vase.

Play in ancient Hebrew and Christian cultures was very different than today. Children alternated, in the older years of childhood, between states of closeness to parents and free play, usually of the rough and "high-risk" type by today's standards. Children were only stopped once the play became sexualized overtly, meaning in terms of contact, whereas a lot of play had sexual themes to it that were hidden and masked, such as girls wanting to "look pretty" and impress the boys, with sexual awareness in relation to peers coming much earlier than in modern culture, meaning around age 6 or so. Children went naked throughout the biblical context, even in the Early Church, and then they snuggled in the nude with their mothers, getting ample skin-to-skin closeness with mom. Then, they went back to playing, and free play with other children weaned them off needing to snuggle all the time with parents. Children never left the mother's line of sight.

Today, you can get a cell phone for your child, and give them a GPS tracking device and have it installed on their phone, and that can be how you keep the Law in terms of supervising children who play freely. Tell them to call you when something goes wrong, such as when another child makes a sexual overture towards them. The attachment parenting advice I give here applies to the degree the parent can apply it, but punishment and control in parenting is heresy if you don't fight against those tendencies as a parent. Any parent who strives to be better and less punitive will be rewarded by God in the City in the Sky.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!