Want avoidance: How to quit the punishment habit altogether

Many parents in the United States want to quit punishing their children, but don't know how. Others don't think they need to quit, but they really do. Parental entitlement is the root cause of all child abuse, including domestic battery against children such as spanking and other forms of corporal punishment. You can't always get what you want in life, even as a parent. Spanking in particular comes from a form of parental entitlement that constitutes a controlling attachment to a child.

Why stop spanking? The Bible prohibits it. Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, leading to meek and shamefaced attitudes in relation to children, prioritizing the needs of children above your own, to the point of complete and total surrender and submission to children, with this being the unconditional Christian love parents should show to their children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao). Children should be allowed to rest in the love and grace of parents, with parents submitting from above, sacrificing for their children in the spirit that Christ sacrificed for His children, and children resting in said sacrifice, receiving the warmth and sustenance of their parents. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to restful surrender in the loving arms of parents. In biblical times, this meant attachment parenting. Children went in the nude until adulthood, being wrapped up next to their mothers, in swaddling blankets. Older children alternated between free play (within the line of sight of adults) and closeness, with closeness being of the skin-to-skin variety. Children in biblical times were demanding, petitioning their parents for needs and a redress of grievances. Parents then feared the wrath of their children, submitting to them, with children then resting in the love and grace of parents. Children got most of what they want, and some of what they needed instead, especially in terms of attachment needs.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to loving children in the Agape sense, but with the command stated in the negative. Ultimately, this word refers to a provocation to anger against a child, meaning the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, with this being intended by the Apostle Paul and the legal context he was writing from to prohibit all punishment and control of children, including spanking and other forms of corporal punishment. The Apostle Paul was cracking down on Greek Christian parents using Proverbs as an excuse for abuse. The seven verses in Proverbs that describe the rod of correction are repealed verses, as they refer to a dated legal punishment not applicable today - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction. Religious instruction in biblical times was similar to Montessori instruction, meaning children read Scripture on their own accord, with the father peeking the child's curiosity.

How does one quit this habit? It is called want avoidance, meaning in everything in relation to your child, avoid indulging in or seeking out wants, including wants about your child's identity or wants about changing children's behavior. When you feel the urge to control, go the opposite direction, and stifle the anger or sexual aggression. Keep going in the opposite direction until you don't want to spank or punish anymore.

A good parent, under Christian standards of discipline, is to be shut up and stoic on the level of speech. Parents are to shut up their speech, first shutting up idle chatter with their child, then idle chatter with everyone else, shutting up and silencing the parent, with the parent paying that small price for having better discipline in relation to their children. Parents are to slow to speak, and quick to listen, and even slower to anger (James 1:19). Parents are to be silent, quiet islands for children to run to for refuge and listening. So, any time you want to preach to your child or scold them on a little unnecessary thing, shut up and hearken to the Lord through your child, with your child being in place of God as His extension.

Entitlement is denoted in the New Testament by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés), with this word cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment not to covet. This means, officially, do not want things from children to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child. However, why want anything from a child at all? Unofficially, this Greek word refers to all wants from children. 

Instead of demanding your way with a child who isn't listening, why not simply ask "Will you please...?" and then after the child cooperates, say "thank you" to them, and if they don't cooperate, assume they aren't ready to cooperate on that level. Demanding anything from a child is entitlement. Asking them politely is not entitlement, as you are giving them a chance to deny your requests - and yes, requests are the only form of askance allowed of parents. Parents are to remain silent and shut up in the face of their children's cries, whines, and screams, modeling to them good Christian behavior.

Parents who are disciplined end up having disciplined children. It takes a while, but eventually, children follow your lead. This is called self-behaviorism. It is kept by parents, and emulated by children with some encouragement.

The depraved and entitles parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's tomb! Let them descend into everlasting Hell and torment, suffering God's Wrath for all eternity! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!