"Benign" deprivation: Why every need of a child matters

Many parents today buy into the concept of "benign" deprivation. Most child abuse in the United States is based off of the concept of "benign" deprivation. "Benign" deprivation is understood as not responding to a child's every cry for a need, therefore "saving the parent's energy" for "real needs". However, mothers in biblical times met the every need of children.

"Benign" deprivation is a violation of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children into the anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking  - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings.

"Benign" deprivation is when you deprive a child of a need considered by the parent to be "invalid" to save the parents' energy for "valid" needs. This form of parenting is alien to the Bible and its context. Mothers in the Early Church tended to the every vulnerable need of children. Whenever a child cried, mothers cooed and then rushed to reassure the crying child. Mothers responded the EVERY need of children.

Children under age 6 suffered from separation anxiety, meaning young children morbidly feared their mothers would "go away and never come back". Mothers reassured the child by cooing and picking up the child, then holding children close to her bosom in mammary closeness. Both mother and child were in a state of birth nudity, where mother and child were at home, in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance. This birth nudity setup is what brought out the raw separation anxiety. Most crying in young children that appears to have no reason actually does - they need the sustaining warmth of mothers.

Children never cry to manipulate you or undermine you as a parent. Crying is how children communicate a need. Thus, children should be allowed to cry, in order to petition parents for vulnerable needs. Children have five basic categories of needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - and the greatest of these is attachment!

I myself was abused in the name of "benign deprivation". My father took the advice of "benign" deprivation from authoritative parenting guru John Rosemond. I was regularly given time-out by both my parents, with my father also imposing an occasional disciplinary spanking of only a few swats to a clothed bottom. The main context where I was deprived was when out and about in public. In the store, I was deprived of what I wanted from the shelf. All I wanted was what I asked for initially. There is one memorable incident where I was slapped in the face for my reaction to the word "no" in a grocery store.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous parent abuse: How to handle bipolar rage attacks in children

Some parents have to deal with this cold hard fact. Their child has bipolar disorder. Childhood bipolar disorder is where either the child alternates between a depressed and a manic mood, or else is only manic. I had the disorder as a child, with the disorder instead being treated with psychotropic medication. The right medication - lithium carbonate - was life-changing. However, it took a long time for my parents to find the right medication for me, and thus I was abused in the mean time by way of behavioral intervention.

There is a right way to deal with a child with bipolar disorder. The righteous acronym from the Early Church at play here is righteous parent abuse. Righteous parent abuse states that, sometimes, you as a parent have to take a beating from your child, due to the special needs of the child. Righteous parent abuse is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings.

Righteous parent abuse is the point where you give up the fight with your child with bipolar disorder, and give in to their demands. In the Early Church, parents had no legal recourse if their child was aggressive or violent. If a parent took their dependent child to court for the abuse imposed on to the parent, the court always took the side of the child. The parent was forced to apologize to the child before the council of 3 elders, or else be excommunicated for perjury - children were seen in biblical times as sacrosanct, meaning they could do no wrong, even if they did technically legally do things that were considered wrong. Children, however, could issue lawfully binding orders to parents, with parents, in most cases, being lawfully required to obey their children. When children physically battered their parents, they were seen as advocating a need, the best way they knew how.

One strategy parents used to defend themselves from the wrath of strong-willed children was crying. In the Early Christian context, whenever a child physically attacked or verbally berated a parent, parents did not become defensive. Instead, parents cried when being mistreated by their children. This reaction led to the child trying to sap up the situation, and actually deterred future abuse from the child. The way it worked then was that when children got angry with parents enough to hit them, the parent was not firm or stern in response. Instead, the parents cried. This causes children to snap out of their rage attacks, and reassure their parent while still in tears themselves. It ended up with parent and child crying next to each other.

"Benign" deprivation is a common parenting tactic in punitive authoritative homes like where I grew up in. This is where parents say "no" regularly because the child "needs" to hear the word "no". In the Early Church, parents were forbidden from saying "no" except in the most exigent of circumstances, such as if the word "no" was due to a command from a child that was unlawful and/or unworkable. All instances of a declination from parents required reassurance from a parent, which included crying with the child when the child struck out at parents. With bipolar rage attacks, the word "no" is a common trigger. The key is to avoid the word "no" at all costs, whenever possible. An example from my childhood is that I got a BB gun from my father for Christmas. He knew the truth - I'd be afraid to use it, out of caution. Children with bipolar disorder want to start a good project, but stop half-way towards the finish line. So, buy them whatever they want. When you have to say "no", expect a beating until your child is completely stabilized by medication.

Childhood bipolar disorder is a common mental health disorder in children, usually secondary to a developmental disorder such as autism. There is no way to remedy rebellious bipolar behavior but by medication, and medication of the right stand. Lithium carbonate is the gold standard for treating bipolar disorder. However, most child psychiatrists and developmental pediatricians don't recommend lithium treatment until late in adolescence.

I myself have the disorder, though it is completely in remission. Everyone around me as a child, when the disorder was active, was blaming the autism and punishing me for behaviors I couldn't help. As a young child, I was put in time-out and given a disciplinary spanking. A disciplinary spanking is only a few swats, but it is sudden due to the calm demeanor of the perpetrator. Regardless of my behaviors, I did not deserve to be punished. The goal of parenting for a child with bipolar disorder, before landing with the right medication, is keeping them safe, and otherwise tolerating their behaviors. Having bipolar disorder in a punitive parenting society is like being controlled on all sides. When adults weren't controlling of my behaviors, I was just fine. Now, I want back at my abuser, which is all parents, and all parents by extension. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which  is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which ss the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the Christian way to do time-in

Many parents think that punishment is the answer to a crying child. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents use time-out as a means of punishing their behavior, and then maybe the occasional disciplinary spanking, The fact of the matter is that children need time-in when they cry. There are many ways to give children time-in, but only one way is biblical in nature - mammary closeness.

Mammary closeness, as a form of time-in, is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke their children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating them as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children one last time. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings.

Time-in is thought of as a modern parenting practice. However, time-in is actually a time-honored parenting practice. In the Early Church, mothers tended to their children's cries by cooing and picking up the child in skin-on-skin comfort, then holding the child close to her bosom in mammary closeness. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness with mothers, meaning wherever the child went, so did the mother. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were in the nude next to each others. Mothers in biblical times breastfed their children, not just in private, but also in public.

Mammary closeness is the biblical way of doing time-in. Contrary to popular sentiment amongst men, the female breasts are not there primarily for being sexualized. A woman's bosom is designed as warm refuge for young children who need sustaining warmth from mothers. Children were picked up and cradled close to the bosom of mothers. Even older children were cradled next to the bosom of mothers when upset.

The modern application of mammary closeness is either going naked with your child in the family, prepared for a crying fit ahead of time, or else tucking children under your shirt when upset in public. The secular law of the land calls for clothing to be worn in public. Thus, when your child cries in public, tuck them underneath your shirt and lather them up with skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance, letting their head rest on your bosom. Mammary closeness is most certainly the quickest way into gentle parenting. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Elopement: What to do about toddlers and young children running off

Many parents have to worry about it. Most parents have been in this situation. A child runs off. Most parents then find the child, and then punish the child for being curious about their surroundings. However, at the same time, there are too many hazards in public for young children to be left on their two feet in public. The idea is that, when out and about in public, growing up in the Early Christian church communities, were swaddled next to the bosom of mothers, all the way up until age 6.

Swaddling children is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission in parenting. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings.

Elopement, meaning toddlers and young children running off, is a modern concept. Children quite often get lost in stores these days, with these incidents being entirely preventable. The Early Christians, due to the hazards outside, did not allow children to walk on their own two feet except when inside the family home. In the family home, young children ranged beside mothers, never leaving her side. However, when mothers were out and about, they swaddled next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets.

Children in biblical times were prevented from running off in public. This was because children were swaddled next to the bosom of mothers, in swaddling blankets. Swaddling blankets were made of velvet, and were tied to the left breast, then across the dot to the right leg. Children were too busy soaking up the rays of skin-on-skin mammary closeness when swaddled to want to run away and explore. The child was then tucked under the mother's loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Mothers offered breastfeeding until the child pushed away the nipple, which signaled that the child was ready for solid foods.

This abovementioned setup, today, can prevent a catastrophe when your child runs away in a crowded store. There have been instances of young children being abducted while lost in a store. It is not good for children to have two feet on the ground. Instead, the child with the two feet should be held in swaddling blankets. When you swaddle your child next to your bare bosom, you gently keep them out of harm's way. Children up until age 6 are babies, and are to be treated as such.

Some children rejected closeness with mothers from an early age. These children were seen as stand-beside-me children. These children shook off the closeness of mothers as young at the toddler years. Such was allowed by more spirited children, but only under the condition that they stand beside mothers. In most cases, these children would have fit the modern diagnosis of oppositional-defiant disorder. Most children in the Early Church, as well as Ancient Jewish culture at large, had some traits of oppositional-defiant disorder, but wanted closeness in their earlier years.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Birth nudity: Why birth nudity is a Christian tradition

Most American parents think that children should wear clothing. This is a common attitude in American homes. The fact of the matter is, however, is that children didn't wear any clothing at all, until they became adults and while being baptized. Birth nudity was a Christian tradition in biblical times, lifted up by the Christian doctrine of mutual submission.

Birth nudity is the best way you can understand the Christian doctrine of mutual submission in the family home. Children surrender into the loving arms of mothers, as mothers provide sustaining warmth. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings.

Birth nudity is a Christian tradition, dating all the way back to the Early Church. During the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went in biblical times, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mothers and children were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. When out and about in public, mothers swaddled their young children to their bosom in swaddling blankets, then tucking the child underneath her shirt. Mothers in biblical times felt free to breastfeed whenever necessary, including when she had the child with her in public. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format. This skin-on-skin co-sleeping lasted until puberty, when the child wanted a place for him/herself to sleep on their own.

Women in biblical times went naked in the family home, in order to serve both their children and their husbands, separately. When mothers went out and about, they wore a loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Children went naked wherever they went, and this setup was to make skin-on-skin comfort more accessible to children. In this birth nudity context, whenever a child was mere picked up, there was skin-on-skin closeness.

Birth nudity, in its modern practice, is allowing children to go completely naked, all the way up until they choose to wear clothing on their terms. Until then, mothers were also in the nude for purposes of sustaining warmth, remaining home constantly, tending to her babies. This tradition is an old Christian tradition, dating back to the Early Church, and even before then in Ancient Israel.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

 

Why to catch children being good (as opposed to being bad)

Many parents think that discipline means to catch a child in the act of doing something wrong, then punish them for the infraction. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents see discipline in parenting. The fact of the matter, however, is that actual Christian discipline of children involves catching children being good, in the context of a secure attachment.

Catching children being good, in the context of secure attachment, is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye father, provoke not your children to wrath: bur bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul, here, was lifting up the Law in order to convict Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus of bringing their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, to modeling Christian discipline to children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, thereby grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with their children following in their footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good by fathers, instead of caught being bad. When children followed the disciplined example of parents, and were caught doing so, they were rewarded with lavish praise and encouragement to "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise when caught being good, and girls were given snuggles from aside when fathers caught them being good. Sometimes, children need direct advice and counsel. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the advice and counsel of parents, meaning parents could only give advice to children, and counsel children when they are upset. Parents did not have any lawfully binding authority over children, with children being the ones calling the shots.

What motivated a child to learn right from wrong? Parents sought a secure attachment from children. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child are in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Whenever children cried, mothers responded with sustaining warmth, picking up the child in skin-on-skin format, then holding the child close to her bosom in mammary closeness. When out and about in public, mothers swaddled their young children - under age 6 - in swaddling blankets made of velvet. When a child was swaddled to the bosom of their mothers, and cried, they were held closer to the bosom of mothers. Most children who were swaddled next to the bosom of mothers cried quietly, with mothers responding immediately. 

This abovementioned sustaining warmth during the child's formative years conditioned children to accept discipline on their own accord from fathers. Fathers were a secondary attraction figure for children, based off of the primary attachment of a child to his/her mother. Righteous masturbation was used by fathers to center their sexual drive towards a child in a certain place. This masturbation ultimately kindled a bond between father and child, and especially father and daughter.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Strictness in Christian homes: Why parents should not impose strictness (and why children can learn to be strict with themselves)

Many parents want to be strict with their children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents favor strictness when dealing with children. However, the Bible teaches that strictness comes from within a child's heart, not without.

The Christian doctrine of mutual submission holds that parents, namely fathers, lovingly encourage children to be strict with themselves. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. 'This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus of their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling Christian discipline to children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, instead of being caught being bad. Whenever a child emulated the disciplined example of parents, they were given lavish praise and encouragement. Boys received manly praise when caught being good, and girls received snuggling from their fathers when caught being good. Sometimes, children needed advice from parents as well. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the advice and counsel of parents, meaning all that parents were allowed to do was give advice to children as well as counsel them when they were upset. While the child still lived with parents, only the child could issue lawfully binding orders on parents.

What motivates a child to follow the disciplined example of parents? Christian attachment parenting made children want and strive to follow the disciplined example of parents. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, do did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, with mother and child being in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. When children cried, mothers picked up the child in skin-on-skin format, then holding the dear child close to their bosom in mammary closeness. When mothers were out and about in public, children were swaddled next to the bosom of mothers, in swaddling blankets made of velvet. When a swaddled child cried, they were held close to the bosom of mothers. Children who were swaddled, in most cases, cried quietly. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format. Skin-on-skin co-sleeping lasted until the child shook that comfort off after the onset of puberty, with the pubescent child wanting a place of their own to sleep. This sustaining warmth in the formative years of childhood motivated children to follow their parents' example. When a child is given nourishment and sustenance, they grow to be ready to learn how to be disciplined on their own.

Strictness is a must in parenting, and that is not up for debate. However, children need to learn to be strict with themselves, and not reliant on an adult to be strict with them. In Christian homes in the Early Church, both sons and daughters studied a Bible that was left out for the discovery of children. When fathers saw his children exploring the Bible, he praised his children in their religious vocation. That self-study of the Bible helped children grow up to be strict with themselves, alongside the disciplined example of parents.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous ordering: Why children call the shots in Christian parenting

Many parents think that they call the shots. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most parents think they are the one in charge, and cite the Bible as "proof" to their punitive parenting. The fact of the matter is that the Bible, when understood in context, commands that children be in charge of their parents, and righteously demand their every need.

Righteous ordering is part of the Christian doctrine of original sin. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings.

Children, in the Early Church, held divine authority over their parents, with parents being subject to the lawfully binding orders of children. When parents took their children to court, the church elders sided with the child every time, and the parents were ordered by the council to apologize for the undue accusation. Children sometimes took the parents to court for provocations to anger, and if parents were found guilty by the council, they were excommunicated and shunned by the entire Christian community. The only hope that entitled parents had was if they could apologize to their child in court.

For the first 6 years of a child's life, children cried frequently, and usually cried because they needed something. Cries from children were understood as lawfully binding orders by mothers, and thus mothers responded to the every cry of children, guided by her intuition in diagnosing the need, and then providing for a child's every need.

Children aged 6 and up started directly issuing righteous demands on their parents, ordering their parents around. In the Early Church, children called the shots. Parents gave up any fight they had with their children, and gave in to the righteous demands of their children.

Righteous ordering holds that children give the orders to parents, and parents follow. Under Christian law in the Early Church, parents were lawfully required to say "yes" to the every righteous demand of children, with few exceptions. Those exceptions were if the child's orders were either unlawful and/or unworkable. Unless the child was issuing unlawful or unworkable orders, merely saying "no" to a child brought the parents before the council, where they would be excommunicated and shunned by the entire Early Christian community.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared from Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Hebrews 12:5-8: Why this is not a spanking passage

Many parents punish their children. Most American parents support punishing a child. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents use the Bible as an excuse for punitive parenting. The passage that holds the pro-spanking argument together is Hebrews 12:5-8. However, this passage is not a command to punish or reprimand a child.

It says in Hebrews 12:5-8 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as sons, for what son is he who the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.

The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μαστιγόω (Latin: mastigoó) and is a reference to the 40 minus 1 lashes imposed on young adults in the Old Testament by fathers when the young adult was convicted of a criminal offense, with the whipping taking place within a courtroom - the rod verses, when literally understood in context, speak of judicial corporal punishment, not domestic corporal punishment. The Early Christians did not carry on the legal tradition of the 40 minus 1 lashes. The mention here of God whipping His children is a metaphor for trials and tribulations. In the Hebraic languages, instead of saying "I had a hard day at work" you would say "God whipped me hard today". This passage was specifically intended by the Apostle Paul to comfort the Hebrew Christians in their persecution by the Romans.

God whips His children, like only He can. God only whips His children when there it doesn't harm children. Earthly parents only whip their children when it does harm them. Earthly parents instead should use natural parenting, meaning attachment parenting, in bringing up children. The passage in Heb. 12:5-8 is not a spanking passage, but instead comfort for a long day at work. There are passages in the Bible that deal with proper Christian parenting. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and here refers to, in context, modeling Christian discipline to children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, with this discipline leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with their children following in their footsteps. Children in the Early Church were caught being good, instead of caught being bad. Whenever a child emulated the Christian example of parents, they were given lavish praise and encouragement to "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were rewarded with manly praise when caught being good, and girls were given hugs and snuggles when caught being good. Sometimes, children needed direct advice from parents. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the advice and counsel of parents, meaning parents could only either give advice to their children or counsel them. Parents of dependent children were prohibited from issuing lawfully binding orders to children, with parents being under the divine authority of children.

For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, with mother and child in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. When children cried, mothers cooed while picking them up, then holding the upset child to her bosom in mammary closeness. When out and about in public, mothers swaddled their children next to their bosom in swaddling blankets. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to the child in skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance. Children continued to sleep next to their children until the onset of puberty, when they wanted a place of their own to sleep.

For the last 7 years of childhood, children were turned over to the providing custody of their fathers, for religious instruction. Fathers left out a Bible for a child to find, and hopefully, take interest in. When children were caught reading Scripture, they were lavishly praised and encouraged in their religious vocation. Fathers bonded with children by way of following any sexual thoughts about them to the end by way of masturbatory fantasy. Righteous masturbation centered the parent attraction of fathers in a certain place, away from the child. This led to the parent attraction coming out as a male nurturing instinct. It is a myth that fathers corrected sexually - any sexual relations between adults and children was considered a capital offense on the part of the adult (see Lev. 18:17; 20:13).

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

The age of consent: Why it should be raised to 18 in Pennsylvania

Many adults are avoidant of the biblical context on parenting because of the age of consent being different in biblical times. In the Early Church, the age of consent was at 13, meaning at the age of majority under Roman law. Most Christians avoid the Hebraic context of the Bible to avoid "being led down the wrong path". The fact of the matter is that the Bible commands a high age of consent. 

Among ancient cultures, Early Christian culture would have been seen as a purity culture, as only legal adults were allowed to have sex, and only with someone close to their age. Children were prohibited under the Law from even having sexual relations with each other. Marriages weren't approved by the state unless there was some major degree of equality in the marriage.

It says in 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 KJV:

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's. 

The Greek root word translated "fornication" is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers here to anything outside of proper channels, as understood in the biblical context. Sex in the Early Church could only happen two ways - solo masturbation or sexual relations within a marriage between one adult man and one adult woman. This word lifts up all of the sex crime statutes in the Law of Moses, and applies those same laws to today.

The age of consent/marriage should be wherever the age of majority is set, without exception. Children should not be having sex at all. In the biblical context, children were forbidden from having sexual relations with others until they got a license to get married. Marriage in the Early Church was only allowed if there was some significant equality between the two marriage applicants. 

The age of majority can be lowered in a future context. But, I don't advocate for lowering the age of majority for my own purposes, as I am a pedophile, and thus my own judgment is clouded by my sexual desires for children. So, in the mean time, I support raising the age of consent to 18. Once attachment parenting is normalized in American society, we can talk about lowering the age of majority - for them, and not for us adults. Most children raised in attachment parenting homes are ready for the world by the time they are 13. All that tells me is that punitive parenting stunts the growth of children. Whatever happens will be, wherever the ages go. Due to my entitlement in the matter, I leave it to other advocates to advocate a lower age of majority.

I find that the current law on the rape and sexual assault of children to be permissive, at best. Rape and sexual assault towards a child should be a perceived offense. As soon as the child uses the word "creep" in relation to an adult, said adult should be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law for child sexual abuse. Childhood sexual assault is offensive or procuring behavior by an adult towards a child ranging from leering to rape. I have committed sexual assault against children, in the form of sexual harassment. I deserve prison for the antisocial "flirting" that I did to various child victims, and that means the law needs to change so that sex offenders like I was go to prison. 

I also am opposed to the police allowing for "search party affairs". Any parent who develops parent attraction can simply follow their sexual thoughts for their child to the end using masturbatory fantasy as an alternative outlet. Any sexual relations with a child by an adult over age 18 is child sexual abuse in my book, even if the police allow it.

Fornication comes in three main tiers of severity - rape/sexual assault, fraudulent marriage, and obscenity/pornography. All child sexual abuse is rape or sexual assault of a child. Under Christian law, as soon as a child calls me a "creep" as a pedophile, I am guilty of sexually assaulting a child through sexual harassment. The law should conform to these Christian standards, as we are a Christian nation founded on Judeo-Christian values. 

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape or sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descent into torrents of Hell-fire! Repent!

Independence: Why the goal of every parent is independence (not blind obedience)

Many parents want their children to obey them. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents want their children to blindly obey them. However, the fact of the matter is that the Bible prescribes that the main goal of parenting be independence and self-reliance. With that said, the key to healthy independence in children is healthy dependence.

Healthy dependence is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, where children rest securely in the loving arms of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or controlling demeanor towards children. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

Christian parents in the Early Church wanted their children to grow up to be as independent as possible. But, in order for children to embrace healthy independence, they need to embrace healthy dependence. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning wherever the mother went, so did her child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mothers and children were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. When children cried, mothers picked up the child in skin-on-skin format, then holding the child close to her bosom in mammary closeness. Come nightfall, children retreated to the sustaining warmth of mothers in the form of skin-on-skin co-sleeping. This co-sleeping next to mothers ended for the child once the child reached the onset of puberty, when children wanted a place to sleep on their own. For some reason, sustaining warmth during the first 6 years breeds resiliency in children, so that they may become tough and self-reliant as adults.

In most cases, when children turned age 6, children started to shake off the sustaining warmth of mothers by insisting on doing everything by themselves. Older children played freely, venturing farther and farther from home. Children, in this stage of childhood, ordered parents around, with their parents being in full and dutiful submission to their children. Children continued to retreat to their mothers come nightfall, until they shook off their parents entirely at puberty. Co-sleeping was the last thing a child gave up. Independence, from there, was bittersweet for mothers, and exciting for fathers. Mothers nurtured children up close, and fathers nurtured from afar. Fathers honed in on their nurturing insticts by indulging in masturbatory fantasy about their growing daughters, which centered the parent attraction, with the parent attraction coming out as a male nurturing instinct.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Terrible twos": Why this stage of childhood development can be averted

Most parents have dealt with this behavior in their toddlers. A child kicking and screaming on the floor because they didn't get what they wanted, or a toddler that cries out of nowhere. This is normal childhood behavior when a child is separated from an attachment figure. However, this phase can be entirely prevented by meeting the child's every vulnerable need, including attachment needs. This can be done by cradling toddlers like they are infants.

Toddler meltdowns are best dealt with using the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, where children surrender into the loving arms of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your children in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment came from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings.

The "terrible twos" are a modern phenomenon in parenting. This sort of behavior in toddlers is due to deficits in terms of needs, usually attachment needs. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were treated as babies, and were in constant closeness to mothers - wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were in the nude next to each other in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Children were breastfed in biblical times, with breastfeeding being normal even when done in public. Age 3 was the average age of weaning, meaning when the child pushed away the nipple. But, sometimes, children didn't push away the nipple until age 6.

2- and 3-year-olds were seen by the Early Christians as babies, and were constantly held by mothers while being breastfed. When cradled in the arms of mothers, children only cried silent tears. When silent tears were cried, mothers responded to the every cry of children, perhaps offering to breastfeed the child a form of righteous pacifier. 

Toddlers were designed by God to be treated as babies, meaning toddlers are not ready to be stationery children. Toddlers were held constantly by their mothers, and this was so that they wouldn't run off and get themselves hurt. When you pamper your children up until age 6, they will be more self-reliant come late childhood and adolescence.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous co-sleeping: Why co-sleeping is front and center of actual Christian parenting

Many parents oppose co-sleeping. Most American parents see co-sleeping as the irresponsible choice in parenting. The main reason parents oppose co-sleeping is that children need to self-soothe. The fact is that there is a way to co-sleep next to your child righteously. The Early Christian way of attachment parenting - known as Christian attachment parenting - relies heavily on skin-on-skin contact in order for the parenting to be effective.

Righteous co-sleeping is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with children surrendering into the loving arms of mothers. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of children in his writings.

It is common knowledge that children aged 2-6 refuse to go to bed at their bedtime. This is a common occurrence in American homes. Most parents punish a child for refusing to go to bed at their bedtime. However, the actual reason for bedtime defiance is that children that young are too young to sleep on their own. Children under age 6 have a primal fear of sleeping alone while isolated in a room, and this primal fear is a vague fear of predators devouring them. A parent may learn this, but rationalize that there are no predators today to devour children. That would be wrong. Most cases of childhood sexual assault take place when the child is isolated in a room, usually at night, and is usually perpetrated by a father in the family home. Christian mothers in the Early Church knew intuitively that fathers had sexual entitlement that posed a threat to children, and so mothers co-slept next to children in skin-on-skin format, in order to guard them from the sexual wrath of their fathers. Fathers, in the biblical context, were forbidden from having any sexual relations with their children, or else anyone but their wife. Mothers co-slept next to children in skin-on-skin format every night that the child would allow, and this convicted the father of his sexual entitlement. Usually, fathers then masturbated to sexual thoughts of their children, so that his sexual drive towards his child would be centered there.

The most common argument against co-sleeping is that children will become "sleep dependent" on parents, and thus need to self-soothe. The fact of the matter is that children will come to a place where they can self-soothe on their own accord. Mothers in the Early Christian church communities co-slept next to their children in skin-on-skin format, and this righteous co-sleeping lasted until the onset of puberty in the child. Children naturally acquire the skill of self-soothing when they hit puberty - there is no need to teach self-soothing.

Co-sleeping helps parents and children bond with each other. Mothers co-slept next to children in skin-on-skin format until they reached the onset of puberty. This led to a secure attachment between mothers and children. For some reason, skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance leads to a secure attachment to children. Even with older children, after a busy day, they surrendered into the loving arms of mothers in the form of skin-on-skin co-sleeping. Co-sleeping, for young children, was to keep fathers and children separate, with young children having little contact with their father until age 6. When children got along great with their mothers, they got along great with their fathers. That is because secure attachment to fathers is a secondary attraction. The core aspect of Christian attachment parenting is skin-on-skin co-sleeping, with the child co-sleeping next to mothers every single night in skin-on-skin format. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven! Let them be forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

Righteous objectification: Why children should treat their parents as objects

Many parents want to be seen as God-like figures in the family home. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, the fact of the matter is that the Bible encourages parents to allow children to objectify them as a milking-object. Bringing up children the right way - meaning through Christian attachment parenting - allows for children to see their parents as objects to use.

Parents are there for children to use and dispose of, like tools. This is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where the parent is to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong. thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings. 

Righteous objectification is a righteous acronym delineating how children respect their parents. Respect for parents was a concept for dependent children in the Early Christian church communities, but respect for parents was based off of deep closeness with parents, including during the time that adults lived under their parents' roof. Most children in the Early Church saw their parents as milking-objects to use at their own disposal, like a sponge. Until children were formally baptized into the church, parents were solely there to use at the disposal of children.

For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Children used their mothers as a heating blanket, particularly on cold winter days and nights. Children saw their mothers as a milking-object while still milk-dependent, suckling the teat of mothers, and mothers offering children to breastfeed even in public. Children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, and co-slept next to mothers until the onset of puberty, which was when children wanted their own place to sleep. 

It is normal, for the first 6 years of a child's life especially, for children to see parents as objects to use at their disposal. Children respect their parents by objectifying them and using them like a sponge. So, be that human sponge for your child to use at their disposal. Also, know that if you are no use to them, they have the right to dispose of you like trash. The only way out of being trashed by your child is a sincere, genuine apology for all that you did wrong, and then, only when they accept your apology, do you deserve forgiveness.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Change of heart: How to effect a change of heart in children (without punishment or force)

Many parents want it. Our conventional parenting is designed to effect it. We're speaking of a change of heart. Most parents believe that a change of heart only comes from punishment, such as time-out and spanking. However, there are better ways to effect a change of heart in children. Children, as a matter of fact, are capable of coming to a change of heart on their own.

The best way to effect a change of heart in a child stems from the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished theirt children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. 

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling Christian discipline to children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, instead of being caught being bad. Whenever fathers caught their child emulating the Christian example of parents, they were lavishly praised and encouraged to "keep going down the straight path". Boys were rewarded with manly praise and encouragement when caught being good, and girls were given physical affection such as hugs and snuggles when they were caught being good. Sometimes, children needed direct instruction from parents. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the advice and counsel of parents, meaning parents were only allowed to either give advice or counsel their children, and only on rare instances when simply modeling a behavior wasn't working. Parents could not issue lawfully binding orders, whereas children were allowed to issue lawfully binding orders on their parents to petition for what they need.

Children, like all of us fallen human beings, have a sinful nature. That is not up for debate. However, children don't need "the devil beaten out of them" in order to have a change of heart. All children are capable of self-improvement on their own accord, preferably when guided by a Christian example. Children can improve themselves by slowly, at their own pace, absorbing the Christian example of parents. Children can come to the conclusion all on their own that they are deserving of absolutely nothing, and thus are to be grateful for everything. When you catch your child being good in this way, take the time to praise them, and encourage them to keep taking the high road.

What backs up the Christian example that reforms children? A secure attachment at home motivates children to be convicted of Christ's message of peace and forgiveness. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mothers went, so did their children. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mothers and children were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. When a child cried, mothers cooed while picking up the child, and then held the child close to her bosom in mammary closeness. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format. That co-sleeping stopped once the child reached the onset of puberty, when the child wanted their own place to sleep. This warmth and sustenance during the formative years of a child's life prepared them for the chastening of the Lord, which was a form of discipline absorbed by the child through the atmosphere. The chastening of the Lord was something to encourage in a child in the Early Church, not something to beat into a child.

All children are born with the capability of reforming their own sinful nature, almost entirely on their own. All they need is for YOU to set a good example. This means YOU need to be convicted of the fact that you are a depraved and decadent parent who is deserving of absolutely nothing, including nothing from your children. Once you accept that you are deserving of absolutely nothing, you will become grateful for absolutely everything. When children see you performing these good works on yourself, they will want to copy your example, and be strict with themselves. 

Actual strictness in the Bible is not being strict with children, but instead is encouraging children to be strict with themselves. So, instead of being strict with children, a loving father should encourage his children to be strict with themselves. A child who takes up strictness on their own has truly had a change of heart. Usually, a change of heart simply means growing up, and for that to happen, the child needs to learn to be strict with themselves. Children are perfectly capable of being strict with themselves. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Respect: Why parents need to earn respect from children

Most parents in America want their children to respect them. Many parents feel entitled to respect from children, demanding respect from children, then punishing children when parents feel disrespected. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents demand respect from their children. The fact of the matter is that respect in life is earned - even in parenting.

The Fifth Commandment to honor thy father and thy mother is cross-referenced several times in the New Testament. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul. contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Respect for parents was a concept for children being brought up in the Early Church. However, that respect for parents was understood differently than today. Respect for parents came in the form of warmth and fondness in the presence of parents. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness with mothers, meaning wherever the young child went, so did the mother. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, with mother and child in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. When children cried, they were comforted immediately by mothers, with mothers picking up the child, then holding the crying child close to her bosom in mammary closeness. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format. This skin-on-skin co-sleeping lasted until the child reached the onset of puberty, when the child wanted their own place to sleep. Mothers then breastfed wherever they went, meaning even in public. This closeness was the kind of respect every Christian parent wanted then. This warmth and sustenance in the child's formative years set in motion the child growing to reverently respect their parents come adulthood.

When children left the house, after being baptized, they bowed down to parents, giving due thanks for all of the times they were pampered by their parents. Respect for parents was a mandate for all adults, with the only exception being the case of child abuse. Reverent respect for parents was thanksgiving for all of fond memories children had with parents. The idea was that parents submitted to their child selflessly and dutifully, expecting absolutely nothing in return. That creates a secure attachment that children thank their parents for later. 

Respect is earned in parenting, not given out on a silver platter. Demanding respect from anyone comes from entitlement, and that includes children. YOU, dear parents, are depraved and decadent sinners who are deserving of nothing but DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing in relation to children and the God that extends them. YOU, dear parents, are not deserving of respect from your child. Instead, even that form of respect is earned. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Benign" deprivation: Why children need ALL of their needs met

Many parents buy into a form of authoritative parenting known as "benign" deprivation. The false parenting doctrine of "benign" deprivation instructs parents to ignore certain needs in order for the parent to focus on "real needs". The fact of the matter is that children have needs, and all of those needs need to be met. 

The parenting doctrine of "benign" deprivation is in violation of Christian law. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

"Benign" deprivation would have been seen in biblical times as coldness and callousness on the part of a mother. Mothers, in biblical times, met the every vulnerable need of their children. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, with mother and child in the nude, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. This birth nudity setup brought out raw separation anxiety in children, where children were morbidly afraid of mothers "going away and never coming back". Christian mothers in the Early Church accommodated that separation anxiety by cooing towards their children, with the cooing being designed by nature to validate and reassure a child's upset. Mothers also held their crying children close to their bosom in mammary closeness. 

A child does not cry in order to manipulate or undermine parents. Most crying in young children under age 6 is due to separation anxiety. When your 4-year-old cries out of nowhere, know that they are advocating a vulnerable need. Chances are, they are afraid for your life, without realizing that they feared your death as their parent caregiver. 

Mothers in the Early Christian church communities responded to the EVERY cry of children, without exception. Children cried a lot during their formative years, but mom was right there to respond to the every cry of their child. Mothers then knew intuitively what many parents don't know today - that the every cry of a child is intended to petition for a need. So, they diagnosed the need based on the type of cry, and provided for the child's needs promptly. Most children under age 6 cry for attention, and needed attention in order to reassure their separation anxiety about their mother. 

The core of "benign" deprivation is the word "no". Most parents who defend "benign" deprivation say "no" all of the time, because of the false belief that children need to hear the word "no", and "hear it frequently". In the Early Church, the word "no" could only be used on a child for reasons of the order of the child being unlawful or unworkable, and parents needed to reassure and validate their children if the word "no" brought the child to tears. Parents in the Early Church were subject to the divine custody of children, with children being an eminent authority in the lives of parents. Saying "no" unnecessarily was deemed as a provocation to anger against children, thus abuse, thus sin. 

Whenever I would throw a temper tantrum with my mother as a child, she would sit me in time-out and ignore my needs. My father was worse, and gave me a disciplinary spanking after being given time-out in my room. As a child, I felt cornered and kept down. Most abusers of children are not "offending" abusers, but "keep down" abusers, and they keep down their children. My parent abusers could appear kind and polite to everyone else, but chose to punish and be controlling with me when they got home. They were both therapists when they met, and became teachers eventually. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why God wants parents to pamper their children

Many parents believe that children shouldn't be pampered, and instead should be disciplined. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most parents avoid even the appearance of pampering children. However, the Bible, when understood in context, supports pampering children - not just every once and a while, but throughout their childhood. You can't spoil a child with too much affection.

Righteous pampering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with children resting while being pampered by parents, getting the royal treatment. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV: 

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child is a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

Righteous pampering was a righteous acronym of the Early Church, and asserted to Greco-Roman pagan parents that they did pamper their children, and they knew it, and they didn't care. Righteous pampering has a certain specific application, spelled out in the customary law of the time (see Col. 3:20 and Eph. 6:1). For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. When children cried, mothers cooed while picking up the upset child, then holding the crying child close to her bosom in mammary closeness. When mothers were out and about in public, they swaddled their young children - under age 6 - next to their bosom in swaddling blankets, perhaps breastfeeding the child if milk-hungry, and holding the child closer to her bosom when the child cried. 

Come nightfall, children co-slept next to their mother, and this lasted until the child hit puberty. At the onset of puberty, the child wanted their own place to sleep. With older children, skin-on-skin warmth with mothers was a welcome break from playing outside and studying the Bible. Skin-on-skin co-sleeping was intended partially to convict the father of the child of his parent attraction to the child. The father, upon showing attraction to the mother and child, was redirected by the woman of the house to righteous masturbation.

Pampering your children comes with rewards later on. Once the child moved out of the house, and after being baptized into the church, adult children bowed down to their parents, giving thanks for all the fond memories of being pampered. The Fifth Commandment to honor parents only applies to independent children, meaning unless parents were abusive, adult children had to show reverence to their parents as thanksgiving for all the fond memories of being pampered by parents. Children could also shun their parents if the parents were abusive or entitled towards them, and also take their parents to court before the council. The council consisted of 3 elders of the parish, and that council of elders decided the fate of parents who provoked their children to anger, and when there was enough witnesses to the abuse, the parents were excommunicated and shunned collectively, with the children being taken into the providing custody of "child saviors", or anti-contact pedophiles who channeled their sexual desires for children into nurturing children whose parents abused them - without asking for sexual ransom in return.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!