Righteous co-sleeping: Why co-sleeping is front and center of actual Christian parenting

Many parents oppose co-sleeping. Most American parents see co-sleeping as the irresponsible choice in parenting. The main reason parents oppose co-sleeping is that children need to self-soothe. The fact is that there is a way to co-sleep next to your child righteously. The Early Christian way of attachment parenting - known as Christian attachment parenting - relies heavily on skin-on-skin contact in order for the parenting to be effective.

Righteous co-sleeping is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with children surrendering into the loving arms of mothers. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of children in his writings.

It is common knowledge that children aged 2-6 refuse to go to bed at their bedtime. This is a common occurrence in American homes. Most parents punish a child for refusing to go to bed at their bedtime. However, the actual reason for bedtime defiance is that children that young are too young to sleep on their own. Children under age 6 have a primal fear of sleeping alone while isolated in a room, and this primal fear is a vague fear of predators devouring them. A parent may learn this, but rationalize that there are no predators today to devour children. That would be wrong. Most cases of childhood sexual assault take place when the child is isolated in a room, usually at night, and is usually perpetrated by a father in the family home. Christian mothers in the Early Church knew intuitively that fathers had sexual entitlement that posed a threat to children, and so mothers co-slept next to children in skin-on-skin format, in order to guard them from the sexual wrath of their fathers. Fathers, in the biblical context, were forbidden from having any sexual relations with their children, or else anyone but their wife. Mothers co-slept next to children in skin-on-skin format every night that the child would allow, and this convicted the father of his sexual entitlement. Usually, fathers then masturbated to sexual thoughts of their children, so that his sexual drive towards his child would be centered there.

The most common argument against co-sleeping is that children will become "sleep dependent" on parents, and thus need to self-soothe. The fact of the matter is that children will come to a place where they can self-soothe on their own accord. Mothers in the Early Christian church communities co-slept next to their children in skin-on-skin format, and this righteous co-sleeping lasted until the onset of puberty in the child. Children naturally acquire the skill of self-soothing when they hit puberty - there is no need to teach self-soothing.

Co-sleeping helps parents and children bond with each other. Mothers co-slept next to children in skin-on-skin format until they reached the onset of puberty. This led to a secure attachment between mothers and children. For some reason, skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance leads to a secure attachment to children. Even with older children, after a busy day, they surrendered into the loving arms of mothers in the form of skin-on-skin co-sleeping. Co-sleeping, for young children, was to keep fathers and children separate, with young children having little contact with their father until age 6. When children got along great with their mothers, they got along great with their fathers. That is because secure attachment to fathers is a secondary attraction. The core aspect of Christian attachment parenting is skin-on-skin co-sleeping, with the child co-sleeping next to mothers every single night in skin-on-skin format. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven! Let them be forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!