Hebrews 12:5-8: Why this is not a pro-spanking verse

Many parents think that they have the "divine right" to punish their children, oftentimes thinking they have a duty to punish their child. Most parents in America believe that they have a "God-given duty" to punish their children. One text often quoted by parents is Hebrews 12:5-11. However, this verse is not a pro-spanking verse.

It says in Hebrews 12:5-8 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as sons: for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, than are ye bastards, not sons. 

The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μαστιγόω (Latin: mastigóo) and refers literally to the rod of correction. The rod of correction was a switch that a father wielded against an adult descendant who was convicted of a capital offense in Ancient Israel. This image was being used as symbolism for life's hardships/ The Greek root word translated "chastening" and "chastisement" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to a specific standard of Christian discipline based on an attitude that is entitled to nothing, and grateful for everything, leading to a chastened up state where one can endure anything. The teaching to the Hebrews was that God disciplines His children by sending them hardship, and if you can get through hardship, you become stronger and more resilient.

The rod being referred to here is the rod of correction, an instrument of legal correction that was used to impose the 40 minus 1 lashes as a summary sentence for a capital offense. The way it worked is that an offender that was convicted of a capital offense was sentenced to enduring 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, and if they lived to tell the tale, they had a second chance at life. Doesn't all hardship work the same way? Don't we all go through rough patches in life, with enduring them with a non-entitled attitude making us stronger? This is not a parenting command, but a general Christian tenet to endure the world, because God uses elements in the world to test your strength. It can be applied to parenting in terms of understanding where stressors come from spiritually, and then finding a way to endure them - God made children the way He did so that parents can be tested, and if they endure the test, they grow alongside their children. Fathers chastened up their young sons in biblical times by encouraging non-entitlement in them as a religious vocation, meaning just because Scripture here mentions a father chastening his son does not mean it is okay to use violent or controlling discipline.

There are actual parenting verses in the Bible. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, sacrificing for their children, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, serving a Godhead which is children, with children resting securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest in the sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Israel. In Ancient Israel, attachment parenting was mandated under Jewish customary law, and in the Early Church, such parenting was mandated under church ordinance. This Greek root word lifts up the attachment parenting context, for the relevance of all. This word refers to a form of secure, safe rest in parents where children give back later on, as young adults, corresponding with the modern scientific concept of secure attachment.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child. coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor from a parent towards a child. Punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, for punishing their children too many times. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offense stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen then as holding a child hostage for things they did wrong. Paul was lifting up this historical legal context to a group of Greek Christians that brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. There was no such established custom among the Early Christians, as all punishment or punitive parenting of children was strictly prohibited, as Christian parents preferred to use attachment parenting as a means to raise up their children. Christians in the 1st Century were persecuted largely because they were too "soft" on their children, and Christian parents made no attempt to hide their attached strategies as parents.

Children went naked in biblical times, everywhere they went. Women also went naked, in the family home, to serve both their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by providing nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-on-skin comforting strategies. By day, children ranged next to mothers, sometimes clinging to her, or else being wrapped to her bosom in swaddling blankets or held to her back in a papoose bag. By night, children slept next to mothers, being guarded from all predators external and domestic, soaking up rays from skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy.

Mothers in biblical times were the primary adults charged in the care of children. Biblical mothers did not strike or punish their children to gain cooperation, but instead used skin-on-skin comfort strategies to gain cooperation from children. This included skin-on-skin co-sleeping with children. Respect for parents was a concept in Ancient Judeo-Christian culture, but it was based on closeness to parents, not fearful obedience of parents. Skin-on-skin strategies in particular were used to form a secure parent-child bond with children. Children never left the line of sight of parents, and children up until age 6 never left their mother's side. Children generally stayed close to parents instinctively, also heeding limits and boundaries set by parents instinctively. The only time children didn't heed limits is when they didn't understand what was being asked of them, due to immature brain capacity, and parents excused those instances because they were children.

Children gave back to parents by being loyal and obedient to them as an elected choice, once reaching young adulthood, giving thanks to their parents for the kindness and warmth bestowed upon them by parents. Adult children were expected to be obedient, and parents could reel them in, in the Early Church by cutting all contact. It is a warm and familiar form of obedience, where you listen to parents because you trust their word and trust that they know what is best for you. Only adult children were expected to obey, and even then, they could shun their parents as well if their parents were abusive. Children were simply expected to need things from parents, in which case parents obliged.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger by way of punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pro-social skin-on-skin: Why these strategies help gain cooperation from children

Many parents believe that the way to gain cooperation from a child is to punish them. This is a common mistake American parents make, and they usually cite the Bible. The fact of the matter is that parents in biblical times did not use punishment or any other controlling measure to gain cooperation from children. Parents then instead used skin-on-skin attachment parenting strategies.

Attachment parenting was the way of biblical parents in the original context. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, sacrificing for their children, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, serving a Godhead which is children, with children resting securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers resting securely in the sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Judeo-Christian society. In Ancient Israel, attachment parenting was mandated under Jewish customary law, and in the Early Church, such parenting was mandated under church ordinance. Attachment parenting is lifted up by this Greek root word, for the relevance of all.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor coming from a parent. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, in which case "kidnapping" referred to any damages or offense stemming from hostage-taking. Paul was lifting up this context to a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. There existed no custom of child punishment or other punitive parenting among the Early Christians. The Early Christian church communities prohibited any child punishment or other punitive parenting. Christian parents then were persecuted in broader Greco-Roman society for being too "soft" with their attachment parenting strategies. Christian parents in the 1st Century favored attachment parenting strategies of the skin-on-skin variety to obtain cooperation from children. 

Children went naked in biblical times, wherever they went. Women went naked as well, in the family home, in order to serve their children and their husbands, separately. Mothers served their children by providing nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-on-skin strategies. By day, children ranged next to mothers, sometimes clinging to her, or else being held to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets. By night, children slept next to mothers, being guarded from all predators external and domestic, soaking up the rays that is skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy with mothers. 

Mothers were the primary adults charged with the care and protection of children. Mothers used skin-on-skin comforting strategies in order to gain cooperation from a child. Respect for parents was a concept in biblical times, but parents did not demand reverent respect from their dependent children, but instead aimed to create a close and secure parent-child bond with children. Respect for parents in biblical times was based on closeness.

Children up until age 6 never left the side of mothers, with older children rarely leaving the side of mothers either. When mothers took their children out and about, they held their children close to their bosom with swaddling bands, and close to their back with a papoose bag. Children in biblical times were cooperative, and didn't listen only when their brains couldn't process a request from a parent. Children cried a lot, but crying was seen as a child communicating their needs, not a child "undermining" parents. Usually, when children needed something, they'd cry to their parents, and their parents would do their best to provide.

Skin-on-skin comfort and closeness, including skin-on-skin co-sleeping, creates a bond with a child that lowers the level of attachment to equal level, so that mothers especially could better relate to their child, meaning relate to the child on the level of the child. Mothers in biblical times used skin-on-skin strategies with even older children, right up until the age of majority in some cases. Prolonged closeness of this sort raises quiet, cooperative children who don't make much of a fuss except to cry when they want a glass of milk. The crying is because children feel safe and at home with parents, and so they communicate vulnerably with parents. 

As an advocate, I would recommend as much skin-on-skin time as possible. Maybe the child wants to play in a more free-range way, in which case you let them, but then you invite them to snuggle with mothers or hold the hand of fathers. Most children, if done from day one, will choose skin-on-skin time with mothers, meaning they will stay latched onto mothers until they are ready to assert their independence, which usually happens around ages 6-8. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Respect in parenting: Why it should be based on closeness and not fear

Most parents want respect from their children. This is a common complaint among adults - that children don't have enough respect. Parents seem to want respect in the form of fear and reverence, meaning they want to "instill fear" in their children. The fact of the matter is that the Bible commands closeness to parents, not fear of parents.

Attachment parenting was the way of the ancients, meaning the way that children were raised in biblical times. The Bible lifts up the attachment parenting context. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, sacrificing for their children, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, with parents serving a Godhead which is children, and with children resting securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Judeo-Christian society. In Ancient Israel, attachment parenting was mandated under Jewish customary law, and in the Early Church, under church ordinance. This Greek root word lifts up the attachment parenting context of the Bible.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any form of punishment and controlling demeanor from a parent towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping after enough incidents were documented, with "kidnapping" referring to any damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in the Bible as holding a child hostage for things the child did wrong. Paul was lifting up this historical legal context to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. No such custom existed among the Early Christians, as the Early Christians shunned all violence, including family violence. The only exception was mutual accountability between spouses, which was rare next to non-existent, and also a frowned upon practice. Wives were subject to the law of their husbands, whereas children were not under anyone's law, either that of God or that of their parents. Parents kept the Law for their children until their children were ready to keep the Law on their own. Punishing a wife using force or control was frowned upon, and only legal with consent given from the wife in the marriage contract. Striking or punishing a child at all was unlawful, meaning because children were smaller, they were seen as more deserving of protection.

Children went naked in biblical times, wherever they went. Women also went naked, in the family home, as a means to serve her husband and her children, separately. Mothers served their children by way of nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-on-skin strategies. By day, children ranged next to mothers, sometimes clinging to her. By night, children slept skin-on-skin next to mothers, with mothers guarding the child from any predators both external and domestic, with children soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. Mothers gained cooperation from children by way of skin-on-skin strategies such as skin-on-skin co-sleeping and co-snuggling. 

Parents in biblical times set their short-term goals not to fear or obedience in children, but closeness to children. Parents then sought to create a close and secure parent-child bond with their child, with bonding and closeness being the goal and aim of biblical parenting. Mothers were primarily charged with the care and protection of children, and they gained cooperation from children using skin-on-skin strategies such as sleeping next to children in skin-on-skin fashion, and allowing children to cling onto mothers in skin-on-skin fashion. Both parties - mother and child - were nude while in the house. When mothers left the house, children were held against the mother's bare skin by way of swaddling blankets or a papoose bag. Children, in response, were very compliant and stayed close to mothers, with children up until age 6 never leaving her side. Older children played freely, but never outside of the line of sight of parents, with mothers being the main adults charged with supervising children. Parenting was close in biblical times, meaning parents weren't hard to reach, but instead were right there when you needed them

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of God is at hand!

ANNOUNCEMENT: In the wake of Robbyn Peters Bennett's departure

Robbyn Peters Bennett is now announcing that she is departing from the children's rights movement. She is appointing me as leader of the movement. 

I decline to take such a role, as a children's rights movement should have no leader. I am not the right person to lead a whole movement. I prefer to remain hidden, and to be a stumble upon page, meaning I want parents especially to stumble upon my page as a surprise, instead of me becoming famous by way of making the news.

Attachment parenting: The most time-honored of parenting tools to gain cooperation from children

Many parents think that punitive parenting such as spanking and punishment is the most time-honored way of dealing with children. This is a common myth - that spanking in particular is a time-honored tool to gain cooperation from a child. The fact of the matter is that attachment parenting is a much older way to gain cooperation from a child. Attachment parenting has been used by parents since time immemorial.

Christian love for children, as a parent, is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself last as a parent, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need. This love comes from conviction, namely coming to the belief that you are a worthless sinner deserving of absolutely nothing from anyone, leading to the belief that everyone else is deserving of everything from you. Love is putting yourself last to put your neighbor first, meaning everyone around you, meaning children also. It is a humble, undeserving attitude that others are deserving, not yourself, and that includes children being deserving, and you not being deserving.

Attachment parenting is inscribed into the Bible, when understood in context. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your children in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of patents. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, sacrificing for their children, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, with parents serving a Godhead which is children, with children resting in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest in the sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Judeo-Christian society, just like with many ancient cultures. Attachment parenting was mandated in the Old Testament under Jewish customary law, and in the Early Church under church ordinance. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including punishment and controlling demeanor coming from a parent. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" under the Law referring to any damages or offense stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment, then, was seen as holding your child hostage for things they did wrong. Paul was lifting up this historical legal context to a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. No such custom existed among the Early Christians. Attachment parenting was the established norm in biblical times, with such parenting being mandated under Christian church ordinance.

Children went naked wherever they went in biblical times. Women went naked as well, within the confines of a family home, in order to serve their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by providing nourishment and comfort, namely in the form of breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy, respectively. By day, children in biblical times ranged beside their mothers. By night, children slept next to mothers, with mothers guarding children from all threats external and domestic, with children soaking up the rays of skin-on-skin co-sleeping. 

Mothers in biblical times used skin-on-skin strategies to gain cooperation of children. Mothers were the primary adult charged with the care of children, and they used their warmth and their love to earn the respect of their children. Children in biblical times never left the line of sight of parents, and children up until age 6 never left the side of mothers at all. Children largely cooperated with parents then, but cried and demanded for their needs a lot. Crying was seen by parents then not as a means to undermine parents from children, but a means for children to communicate a vulnerable need. Children did not stray away from parents, and wanted to be close to parents, because they felt close to their parents. 

Parenting in biblical times was heavily based on closeness as a short-term goal, not obedience or compliance. But, with a child that is close to you, you get cooperation, because children who are close to parents want to listen to them, even if they don't do so perfectly. The long-term goal of Christian parents in the Bible was independence, which children asserted themselves when they were ready, and fathers especially encouraged independence skills in children. Closeness was, however, the main aim of parents in the Bible. Parents in biblical times formed a secure parent-child bond with their child, using skin-on-skin strategies such as skin-on-skin co-sleeping even with older children to form that perfect bond with children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

The age of consent: Why 16 is too low for Pennsylvania children

Many people think that the age of consent in Pennsylvania and across the United States is 18. This is a common belief that is false among Pennsylvania parents and other adults. The fact of the matter is that the age of consent is 16 in Pennsylvania, as it is in most states. Children should not even be having sex. We need a higher age of consent, meaning it should be raised to 18 in Pennsylvania.

There is a simple reason why the age of consent should be at age 18. Anyone other than the parents who comes into contact with a child is a parent in loco parentis. "In loco parentis" translates from the Latin to "in place of parents", meaning adults other than parents who come into contact with children are acting in place of their parents. Thus, sex with children is a conflict of interest, and thus, should be banned entirely.

In Ancient Judeo-Christian culture, sexual relations were seen as something adult, meaning children weren't allowed by parents to even have sex with each other. It says in 1 Corinthians 6:18 KJV:

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

The Greek root word translated "fornication" is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and lifts up all of the sex crime laws in the Law of Moses, enumerated. There was an age of consent then, and it corresponded with the age of majority. The age of majority was the age of consent then. Therefore, the age of majority should be the age of consent in all jurisdictions, as sex, in the biblical tense, is an adult act to be saved for a marriage between an adult man and an adult woman. Children shouldn't even be having sex, and that was the view of the ancients.

The age of consent in Pennsylvania is too low. A child that age is not ready to make a decision as big as to have sex, with anyone. Children should be protected by their parents from sexuality and promiscuity, and if they end up having sex, the parents should be prosecuted for allowing their child to have sex. All a parent has to do is be there and supervise, and then they don't have sex. This was the attitude of the ancients. In Ancient Judeo-Christian culture, it was the parents who were charged when children had sex with each other prematurely and outside of marriage. I support abstinence for children, and there are encouraging ways to teach it, meaning redirecting sexual wants to masturbation, so that it becomes a habit to go there instead of there. 

The depraved and decadent, defiled adult fornicators of children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them BURN in torrents of Hell-fire! Repent!

Why co-sleeping is recommended in the Bible

Many parents think that co-sleeping is the irresponsible thing to do as a parent. This is a common belief among American parents. Most American parents believe that co-sleeping is the wrong way to go as a parent, usually citing sleep dependence as a possible outcome coming from co-sleeping. The fact of the matter is that co-sleeping is the most time-honored of strategies used as a parent-child bonding strategy, predating spanking and punishment by millennia.

Attachment parenting is a command in the Bible, with "attachment parenting" meaning any parenting based on a secure parent-child bond, and not obtaining obedience and subservience from children. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, sacrificing for their children, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, with parents serving a Godhead which is children, with children resting in the sacrifice of parents, just as parents rest in the sacrifice of Jesus Christ as adult believers. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Judeo-Christian society. Attachment parenting was mandated in Ancient Israel by way of Jewish customary law, and was also mandated in the Early Church by way of church ordinance.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor coming from a parent. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times. Parents who punished their children in biblical times were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" as a criminal charge referring to damages or offense stemming from hostage-taking - any punishment of children was seen then by the religious authorities as holding a child hostage for things they did wrong. Paul here was lifting up this historical legal context to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. No such custom existed among the Early Christians, as the Early Christians used attachment parenting to relate to their children.

It is well known that between ages 2-5, children refuse to go to bed on their own. Many parents simply are dismissive about the situation, chalking it up to a "defiant" nature in children. The fact of the matter is that children of that age are still too young to sleep on their own. Children under the age of 6 have a primal fear of being preyed on by predators when isolated in a room overnight. Many parents might scoff at this fear, calling it immature - due to the fact that we don't live in ancient times - but it is a very real fear in a child. Plus, children are at risk of predation even today, as the most common instance where sexual abuse happens is when a child is isolated in a room alone. A child instinctively knows that they could be targeted by a child predator. Co-sleeping stops predators from getting near children - because the mother is right there! The fact that the mother is right there scares child predators away from doing their dirty deeds against children, usually making a child predator so insecure that they show themselves. Sexual abuse was rare next to non-existent in biblical times, and that is because the mother was there to supervise all of the time, even at bedtime by way of co-sleeping. The only way the abuser could get their way was to mount the mother with the child on top. In the Early Christian context, rare instances of sexual abuse of children led to immediate divorce with no hope of reconciliation, and permanent excommunication of the sex offender from the church. 

Sleep dependence is a myth spread by medical professionals based on incomplete research on co-sleeping. Children sleep next to their parents until they are ready to shake off that closeness and be on their own. Children naturally will want to, at some point, be independent from their parents, and then they will declare their independence by electing to sleep alone. Parents in biblical times would, when children wanted to sleep alone, challenge them to do so, and if they couldn't, they were always welcome in their parents' bed. In biblical times, this shaking off of parents happened at various ages, but was the first step in a child being independent from parents entirely. Parenting then was based on the concept of independence from parents, versus obedience to parents.

Children went naked in biblical times, wherever they went. Women went naked in order to serve their husband and their children, separately. Children in biblical times slept in the nude next to their mothers, with the purpose of the nudity being to form a closer bond with children, in the form of skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. Children were guarded next to mothers, soaking up the rays as to skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. The nudity brought the level of attachment down to an equal level, with mothers playfully relating to their children, seeing them as equals and not subservient beings. Parents did not strike or punish their children, but instead gained cooperation through skin-on-skin co-sleeping. Skin-on-skin co-sleeping was used for children of all ages, until they shook their parents' closeness off. Mothers breastfed their children until age 3.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast in to the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Individual responsibility for adult attraction to children

Many adults believe that only pedophiles are to blame for the child abuse epidemic. The belief among broader society is that pedophiles are to blame for all child sexual abuse, and thus pedophiles should all "be put down". The fact of the matter is that all adults are to blame for the epidemic of child sexual abuse cases, even if only a few are the ones doing it. Most sexual abuse of children is about power and control, usually coming in the form of punishment as a guise for repressive sexual entitlement. 

What is pedophilia? Pedophilia is a mental health disorder involving sexual attraction to children under age 14. Pedophilia is a form of arrested sexual development, with the pedophile's age-oriented sexual development arrested in time. Pedophiles who offend against children either repress their sexuality entirely, or else do not know the boundaries that exist around children. Most pedophiles have a sexual preference for children, and do not repress that sexual preference one bit. Pedophiles remember trauma, and remember being punished and abused by their abusive parents. They are the type of individual with autism not to get along with their parents in most cases, and to hold a traumatic grudge over their parents. Pedophilia falls within a specific psychological profile, namely a form of autism where the special interests center on children, child care, and children's rights, as core interests that take a lifelong track. Most pedophiles have a form of autism that is child-centered in nature, meaning children are their passion, and their empathy is specialized in understanding children. Most pedophiles are victims of child abuse, meaning they were punished and shamed for having the sexual attractions that they had.

Most child sexual abuse does not occur due to pedophilia, but due to sexual entitlement on the part of adults, unrelated to a mental health diagnosis of pedophilia. Usually, the victim is a pubescent child, not a prepubescent child. Usually, the adult is repressing their sexual attraction to children, which all adults are capable of having for children. What happens is that the adult is left alone with a child that they are attracted to. The adult then deals with the attraction the wrong way by denying that they are attracted to the child. This represses the attraction until it comes out sideways and hits the child, out of nowhere. Usually, the abuser masks it as a way to either punish the child or else "keep them safe", meaning most sexual abuse, to the abuser, and to the victim, has more to do with power and control than mere sexual attraction. Most child sexual abuse comes from the same sexually entitled place as other forms of rape or sexual assault, meaning any adult is capable of committing child sexual abuse, under the right/wrong conditions. Individual responsibility involves avoiding those conditions.

What can adults do to be responsible and avoid adult sexual entitlement? Adults attracted to a child should allow themselves to have sexual thoughts about that child, and not try to push those thoughts out of their mind. When you repress any thought, you allow that thought to control you. The idea is to not let sexual attraction to children control you as an adult, but instead allow yourself to feel that attraction, while knowing that it is wrong to act on. Usually, adults encounter sexual thoughts about children while masturbating, and so the idea is to allow those fantasies to pass through, and then move on to the next fantasy. Also, not being alone with a child is a good way to avoid sexual assault and rape of children.

The Greek root word translated "lust" and "inordinate affections" in the New Testament is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and does not refer to ordinary sexual desire, but instead to sexual desire to the point of approaching a child. As long as you avoid approaching children sexually, at minimum, you have not sunned. If you walk towards a child, but then stop yourself, you have not sinned. Sexual fantasy and masturbation about children is not sin. 

Most sexual abuse is committed in sexually repressive environments. When children come to mind as an attraction figure, acknowledge that the thought is there, find an outlet for it in masturbation, and then the thought will be gone. There is no reason why adults have to have sex with a child anywhere, when they can just have sexual fantasies about it. 

The depraved and decadent, defiled adult fornicators of children who blame pedophiles will not inherit the Kingdom of God! They will burn in torrents of Hell-fire! Repent!

Proverbs 13:24: Why the Bible does not allow for spanking or punishment

Many people think the Bible commands spanking or punishment as a means to discipline or control a child. This is a common mistake that parents make, thinking that there is biblical basis for their punishment habit imposed on their children. The fact of the matter is that the Bible nowhere legitimately says to strike or punish a child. Proverbs 13:24 is a commonly used verse to defend child punishment. Let's do an exegesis on this verse together.

It says in Proverbs 13:24 KJV:

He that spareth the rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

The Hebrew root word translated "rod" is שֵׁבֶט (Latin: shebet) and refers not to a shepherd's rod, like progressive child advocates would say, but, in the context of Proverbs, a switch wielded by a father in a courtroom setting. The Hebrew root word translated "son" is בִֵ׀ (Latin: ben) and refers here to an ADULT son. 

There are two layers of interpretation for a Proverbs verse like this, literal and figurative. Literally speaking, the verse refers to the rod of correction, which was a rod of legal correction used to carry out the summary sentence for adult males convicted of a capital offense under Jewish law. This whipping consisted of 40 minus 1 lashes to the bare back. This legal punishment was a final warning that, if the criminal behavior was to continue, the offender would be put to death immediately. If the offender survived the whipping, he was given a second chance at life. Doesn't all hardship in life give us that second chance like the 40 minus 1 lashes did for capital offenders in Ancient Israel? This is what the figurative meaning of Prov. 13:24 and all related verses is - that no matter how hard life may be in the moment, you will get through it, and then God gives you a second chance at life, just like He did for capital offenders in Ancient Israel many times. Proverbs is poetry, not prose, and should not be taken at face value. You can get a lot of wisdom from Proverbs, but you have to understand the Audience in which it was written to. Children were never whipped in the Bible, even in the Old Testament, nor were they punished. Adult descendants of fathers were whipped, for repeatedly engaging in criminal activity - there is no Hebrew word for "descendant", and so the Bible reads to the English-speaking reader as "child" or "children". Basically, the rod verses are a recommendation to Jewish and Christian parents alike to not shield their adult children from life's hardships. Minor children were surely shielded from the harshness of life, due to being in the providing custody of parents, but parents were allow their adult descendants to face hardship on their own, prevailing with an independent spirit, thereby encouraging individual responsibility in children.

The rod of correction was seen in the Hebrew language and Jewish culture of the time as a symbol of life's stressors and hardships, meaning if you went through a rough patch in life, you really got whipped, if you were to directly translate the Hebrew into English. Some Jewish sects still use this sort of language to speak of life's hardships. This is known as rod language among the Jewish people. This symbolism was closely connected to the doctrine of original sin in both Christianity and Judaism. When I am in a difficult place in life, I sometimes imagine being whipped by God, and in that symbolic instance, I deserve it just for existing. I know full well God does not literally come down with a rod and discipline His children, but He does discipline us. God hands down to us hardships to make us stronger as human beings. This, in the time of Solomon, was wisdom handed down from father to son.

All forms of punitive parenting, including punishment and controlling demeanor, are banned in the Bible. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" referring to any damages or offense stemming from hostage-taking - punishing children was seen as holding them hostage for things they did wrong. Paul was lifting up this historical legal context to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. The teaching of "biblical spanking" does not come from the Bible, but from the absorption of punitive Greco-Roman parenting customs into the Roman Catholic Church, with the Catholic Church pandering to European pagan cultures who whipped and beat their children. There was no custom to punish a child at all among the Early Christians, who were persecuted largely based on the group libel that they were too "soft" on their children. The Early Christians made no attempt to hide the warmth and love poured out to children in their homes, oftentimes not defending themselves against persecution for their parenting beliefs tied to their Christian faith. There is no excuse - punishing a child at all is antithetical to the teachings of both Jesus Christ and the Apostle Paul. Paul himself was very much anti-spanking, as most Jews of his day were. Spanking and punishment of children are a Roman incursion onto our Christian faith.

Parents in the Bible did not spank or punish their children. Attachment parenting was mandated under Jewish customary law in the Old Testament, and Christian ordinance in the Early Church. Parenting then was a special, distinct form of attachment parenting where children were deified as extensions of God. A child's every cry and demand for needs was seen as a lawful and binding order, with God extending children to their parents in His image for nourishment and comfort. Mothers breastfed their children until age 3, and held their children close beside them until age 6. Children never left the line of sight of parents, right up until adulthood. Children were allowed to play freely, but only within the line of sight of parents. The Greek root word υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) lifts up the attachment parenting context for the relevance of all. See Col. 3:20 and Eph. 6:1. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Teaching sexual purity to children - without punishment or shaming

Many parents think that children should remain sexless and have no awareness of their sexuality, making such parents sex-negative. Then, you have the left, which seeks to sexualize children beyond their years, allowing teenagers to look at obscene depictions of pornography, meaning these leftist parents are sex-positive. Sex-critical is the happy medium where enjoyment is allowed, but in moderation. America is a sex-critical country, and the Bible is a sex-critical document.

It says in Colossians 3:5-7 KJV:

Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry: For which things' sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of disobedience: In the which ye walked some time, when ye lived in them.

The Greek root word translated "fornication" is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and most literally translates to "outside of proper channels", meaning referring to any sexual contact with another person outside of marriage. Marriage then was a license allowing for a couple to have sex with each other, with the assets in the marriage merged by way of written contract, with the final contract signed on the dotted line by way of sexual intercourse. Any sexual intercourse or other sexual relations outside of this narrow allowance was seen as a fraudulent marriage. Some things commonly thought of as sexual sin aren't such. The Greek root word translated "inordinate affection" is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but sexual desire to the point of taking the first steps to approach a woman for sexual relations, with the perception of such an approach by the woman being fornication. 

Patronizing pornography led to pornography being confiscated by the church authorities. It is not good to view or patronize pornography. Pornography viewership is not a Hell-able offense, but children should be taught to hate pornography. One way to teach children to avoid pornography is to talk to them on their level about human trafficking and sexual exploitation of women. God hates pornography no matter where it comes from. We as Christians should hate it as well. See Eph. 5:4. 

Sexual purity can be understood in terms of pathogens, with the commandment against fornication being the one cleanliness law applicable to Gentile believers as well as Jewish believers. The idea is that if one even touches another person with impure intent, they become impure themselves, meaning they are defiled next to their sexual target. Once the person is sexually defiled, touching them spreads the uncleanness. God gave man his body as a gift, with the condition that it does not touch or interact with another body for sexually entitled purposes. In a consensual liaison between two lovers gone astray, the sin guilt, by default, falls on the man for allowing himself to touch a woman outside of marriage for sexual purposes, rendering him defiled and unclean until the even. In order to cleanse himself of sin, the man had to pray to God for forgiveness. This is the message that children in biblical times internalized by way of example and advice from parents. Parents had an elongated talk with their children about sexual issues - children wanted to do it, but parents encouragingly told children that they needed to wait.

Children in biblical times were allowed to masturbate, and children did masturbate then. Children as young as age 3 did masturbate. But, unlike in most ancient cultures of the time, children did not have sexual relations with each other, but instead internalized the message passed down by parents that they should wait until marriage to have sexual relations with someone they love. 

Sexual shaming, or shaming children for any mere sexual thought they may have, is a moral crime against the child, and a violation of Christian law. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including punishment and controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" referring to any damages or offense stemming from hostage-taking - punishing children was seen as holding them hostage for things they did wrong. Paul was lifting up this historical legal context in order to rebuke Greek Christian parents for bringing their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. There existed no such custom among the Early Christians, as the Early Church prohibited all force or entitlement within a family home. Attachment parenting was mandated under church ordinance, and was an established custom within the Early Christian church communities.

Parents in biblical times took a non-shaming attitude towards child sexuality. Many games then had sexualized themes then, with most games played by children then being high-risk by today's standards. One game in particular that was very high-risk was "marriage". Children in Ancient Israel went naked everywhere they went, and were naked when they played "marriage". The game involved children role-playing a wedding. The last stage of a wedding in biblical times was sexual intercourse. However, most children simply embraced during the last stage, observing the law against fornication, listening to their parents' advice. When children did attempt to copulate, the parents were right there supervising, and broke up the incident. Children, however, were not shamed for sexual liaisons, but were told "you'll be able to do that, someday, with someone you love".

Parents in biblical times were not the shaming type on sexual issues. Children were supervised at all times, and supervision was set up to thwart any attempts of children to relate to each other sexually. Children were never left alone unsupervised. No two children were left alone unsupervised, including when a boy was interacting and playing with a girl. When children attempted to relate to each other sexually anyway, they were redirected by way of being separated, then reassured that they would know love later in life, when they become adults. 

Some children showed clear homosexual traits, in which case homosexual behavior towards a child of the same-sex was redirected towards masturbation. With most parents, the immediate redirect for children was masturbation, and then children became satisfied with pleasuring themselves. Some children were seen as impaired, because they can never marry because same-sex marriage didn't exist then. Homosexual children then received nothing but sympathy from parents, but, at the same time, no parent wished a newborn baby would be born that way. Parents tried to comfort their same-sex attracted child with the fact that they could always just masturbate when they felt the urge to sexually relate to someone of the same-sex. Disowning one's dependent child for having same-sex attractions was prohibited under the Law, as it was seen as provoking the child to anger. The child being disowned had to be an adult, and that was meant as a summary warning that they were committing the moral crime of sodomy by having sex with someone of the same sex. The Early Church was welcoming but not affirming of homosexuals, and parents were welcoming but not affirming of homosexual children. Having a sexual preference for the same sex was simply seen as a burden to carry, meaning a cross to bear. Simply being attracted to other boys or other girls was not a sin in and of itself, and the supervisory setup made any inappropriate contact with someone of the same sex to be a distant possibility for a homosexual child. Children were allowed to have crushes, but they were unrequited and forbidden to act on, and there was no opportunity for children to have sexual relations with another boy or another girl. Children in Christian homes who were same-sex attracted were told that they had the gift of celibacy - being a family man or woman takes time away from studying Scripture, whereas celibacy reserves more time for religious studies. 

Most Christian parents then used pro-social separation to teach children the dangers of fornication, for their body and for their soul. Children were always naked, but they were always supervised by an adult, usually the mother of the children. The mother or father watching the children kept two children separate when they wanted to mount each other, in a way that both were under supervision, and then both were then redirected towards masturbation by the parent, with the parent warmly reassuring them that they would be able to have sex with a woman or man they loved when they got married, or else that they had the gift of celibacy if they were homosexual. Children then learned that if they had a sexual urge for another child, usually a sibling, to take it in the other room. This drew a clear line in the sand without resorting to punishment or shaming of any sort.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context - and why respect is earned

Many parents think that the Fifth Commandment to honor parents gives them the right to demand respect from children. This is a common stance parents take in America, meaning most parents take the stance that they are entitled to respect, leading to them demanding respect. The fact of the matter is that the Fifth Commandment, directly in context, only prohibits elder abuse, paving the way for the parent protection laws.

It says in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.

This commandment, in context, prohibited elder abuse, paving the way for the parent protection laws. The reason for the parent protection laws was that, when parents were abused by their adult children, the plight of the parent victims was not understood by fellow Jews. Most parents were blamed with statements such as "where did they learn that behavior?". Therefore, God enacted the Fifth Commandment, and then two parent protection laws afterwards. Do not strike parents means do not repeatedly beat parents as an adult offender. Do not curse parents means do not gaslight parents with airborne gaslighting. Today, the present elder abuse laws under state law apply. In Pennsylvania, the Fifth Commandment would be applied in terms of injuries imposed by a minor offender, with "minor offender" referring to the adult child beating up on their parents. Children under the age of majority are not liable to God's Law for how they treat their parents, with the liability in children always falling on the parents in a divine court of law.

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in the New Testament, where it takes a different application for minor children. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents are to be extensions of Christ, sacrificing for their children, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, leading to safe and secure rest in the love and grace of parents. Children rest in the love and grace of parents, just like parents and other adult believers rest in the saving grace of Jesus Christ. Parents are to serve the Godhead which is children, surrendering to and submitting to children and their every vulnerable need, with children resting in such submission, striking reverent fear into parents with their vulnerability, giving orders and decrees as to their every vulnerable need, with parents being obedient to such needs. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Judeo-Christian culture. In Ancient Israel, attachment parenting was mandated under Jewish customary law. In the Early Church, attachment parenting was mandated under church ordinance.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment and controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times. Parents were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" referring to any offenses or damages stemming from hostage-taking - punishing a child then was seen as holding them hostage for things they did wrong. Paul was lifting up this legal context as a rebuke to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. No such custom existed among the Early Christians. The Early Christians shunned all violence, including family violence. The only exception was mutual accountability between spouses, which was rare next to non-existent. Wives were subject to the law of their husband, whereas children were not under any Law. Parents kept the Law for their children until children were ready to keep it on their own. Children were simply learning the Law, and weren't expected to keep the Law until they learned all of it and were baptized as adults.

The national parenting of Ancient Judeo-Christian culture was a special, distinct form of attachment parenting where children were deified, in the form of pro-social deification and pro-social child worship. Children were idealized and venerated as extensions of God in the family home, with parents struck with reverent fear and terror over their child's every vulnerable need, leading to parents being compelled in the Lord to surrender to and submit to children and their every vulnerable need, as an enemy, just as mankind is the enemy of God, and is to be subservient to Him as such. Parents are to be bondservants to their children, serving the every need and want of children like waitstaff. Parents in biblical times feared the wrath of their children, towing the line, seeking to please their children just as they would want to please God. 

Children went naked wherever they went, in biblical times. Women also went naked, in the family home, in order to serve their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by way of giving them nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (up until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy (especially during co-sleeping). By day, children ranged beside their mothers, sometimes clinging to her. By night, children slept next to mothers, guarded from all threats external and domestic, soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. Fathers also nurtured, but from afar, usually in a manner that was encouraging towards the religious education of children. Fathers spoke to their children on formal terms, until they were allowed to "break the ice" by a child, in which case they engaged in casual conversation. This distance was set in place because most adult men in biblical times were pedophiles towards their children, albeit the abstinent type. Most adult men were attracted to children in a connotational way, meaning they were made aware of that side of them by way of egalitarian parenting.

Surrender to parents is not something you force onto a child. Surrendering and submitting to parents is a choice a child makes, based on a trusting and secure bond with a parent. Children will heed the example and instruction of parents later on if parents form a secure parent-child bond with children during the early years. Submission to parents is a willful choice made by the child. All the Fifth Commandment means is that parents are the head of their children. Parents are NOT authority figures over children, but instead simply are the head of them that provides for children and their needs. Parents are to love their children, just as Christ loves His children, with the headship and example of parents sanctifying all sin in children. Children submitted in biblical times by surrendering to the love and care of parents, in a demanding way, ordering parents around. A parent, in the biblical tense, is a caregiver heeding to the demands of children, not a lawgiver that makes the demands. Children, in biblical times, gave orders to parents as to what care they need, and parents bestow the care ordered by children. Parents were servants to their children. In return, children obeyed their parents on their own accord when they were adults.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Original sin: Why to avoid parental entitlement

Many parents think that pedophiles are the source of all child abuse, due to misuse of valid mental health labels in the mainstream media. The fact of the matter is that we all, as depraved and entitled human beings, are responsible for the unilateral incursion on the youngest of our wayward species. Mankind was born in original sin, as no other species treats their children with such depravity like we do. We are glorified apes deserving of everything coming to us.

No human being is righteous, as we all as depraved and entitled adults have abused and/or wronged children, at least in a lawful tense. See Romans 3:9-12 KJV:

What then? are we better than they? No, in no wise: for we have before proved both Jews and Gentiles, that they are all under sin; As it is written, there is none righteous, no, not one: There is none that understandeth, there is none that seeketh after God. They are all gone out of the way, they are together become unprofitable; there is none that doeth good, no, not one.

This passage was written to Roman Christians who were becoming too proud in their beliefs, thinking they were the righteous ones merely for being Christians. Paul was tapering down their enthusiasm and pridefulness with a general statement against the sin nature of mankind. This passage is a reflection to the modern reader of how God feels about mankind. God hates all mankind, so much that He doesn't want us to even exist in relation to Him. In God's eyes, all of us depraved and entitled human beings are deserving of DEATH and PUNISHMENT for the incursion onto the youngest of our species, with children being the first in line to enter the Kingdom of Heaven - all children who die go to Heaven. All adults who die, by default, are Hell-bound, and have no right to exist while on this earth. Only a few adults will earn their right to exist - those who have surrendered to God meaning their children, and reverently fear both entities. This means love God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your mind, and love your neighbor at least as yourself. Christian love is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to a state of being where the needs of everyone else is prioritized first, and yourself as coming last. Putting yourself last requires admission of one's depraved and wicked sin nature, meaning that one is a depraved and entitled sinner deserving of absolutely nothing in life. This includes how we as adults relate to children, as children are people too.

Entitlement is a moral crime against your neighbor and God, and is the root of all other moral crimes. See 1 Corinthians 5:11 KJV:

But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolator, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat.

The Greek root word translated "covetous", and denoting entitlement throughout the New Testament, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially, it refers to wanting things from children, period. So you want respect from children? Earn it by being respectful towards them. Anything an adult can legitimately want from a child can be worked for. There is no need to demand or command that children act a certain way, or treat you a certain way. 

Haven't we all done something to abuse or wrong a child, at least lawfully speaking? I myself struggle with adult sexual self-interest, meaning I avoid adult sexual entitlement towards children. I am a pedophile, and I choose not to abuse or wrong children, sexually or otherwise, and thus I keep my parental entitlement in check. Pedophilia is a very real mental disorder where you have sexual self-interest in children as an adult. At this point, I just like being around children, meaning it is visually interesting. I have come a long way since the days when I would approach children in a sexually entitled way. We all have had our experiences dealing with parental entitlement. Parental entitlement is the lowest of all forms of entitlement, meaning if you defend that one, it is as if you defended all the other ones above it.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Reverent fear: Why to fear your children

Many parents think that their children should fear them. This is a common belief among punitive parents - that their children should be afraid of them, when parents should instead be afraid of their children. The fact of the matter is that a parent should fear their children, just as mankind should fear God. 

The Greek root word denoting reverent fear in the New Testament is ψοβός (Latin: phobos) and refers to righteous anxiety that strikes the individual into action. It is a reverent gasp that prompts the sinner into conviction, and when that conviction leads to action that puts your neighbor first, love. 

True Christian love comes from conviction. It is the conviction that one is a depraved and wicked sinner and is deserving of absolutely nothing in life, and thus everyone around the Christian is deserving of everything that the Christian can give them  This reformatory and remorseful attitude in an adult can lead to prioritizing children first, and yourself as an adult last, leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao). See Romans 3:9-12 KJV:

What then? are we better than they? No, in no wise: for we have before proved both Jews and Gentiles, that they are all under sin; As it is written, There is none righteous, no, not one: There is none that understandeth, there is none that seeketh after God. They are all gone out of the way, they are together become unprofitable; there is none that doeth good, no, not one.

Love for children comes from the conviction that one is not righteous just for existing as an adult, and that you yourself as an adult are deserving of DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing in relation to children, and need to atone for your sin nature by doing acts of service and sacrifice for children as an adult. In this passage, the Roman Christians were becoming too proud in their practice of Christianity, and so the Apostle Paul was convicting the Roman Christians to focus on people other than themselves.

The idea behind reverent fear is that the child, as a representative of God and His Authority, strikes the fear into parents by issuing orders and decrees for their own needs. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents are to be loving extensions of Christ in the family home, sacrificing for children, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, with parents fearfully and dutifully submitting to a Godhead which is children, marking themselves as the enemy of said child, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. Punitive parents in the Old Testament were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, meaning any damages or offense stemming from hostage-taking - punishment of children, then, was seen as holding your child hostage for things they did wrong. Paul was lifting up this legal context as a rebuke to Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking children into the church. No such custom existed among the Early Christians, with the ordinance of the Early Church mandating attachment parenting or else transition to such parenting.

The idea behind fearing your child is having the humility to allow children to boss you around. Parents are mere bondservants to their children, and have the duty to take orders from the children they serve, like waitstaff. A waiter or waitress bends over backwards for those they serve. So should a father or a mother. Yes, that means clean up messes, settle disputes, and provide nourishment and comfort for children, as children see fit in their demands. 

Parents in biblical times revered and feared their children, in the form of veneration of children as an emblem of God and His Authority on earth, with parents enduring the demands and orders of their children, turning the other cheek in the case of talking back or aggression, and allowing the demands of children to topple them over. Children had immense lobbying power with adults from beneath, and gave orders to parents, with parents seeing themselves as servants of God.

I am reverently afraid of children, meaning children make me afraid, but they don't scare me. Children are a delight to be around, while I am put in my lowly place as a pedophilic adult, They are downright fearsome when that delicate order is upset, and they are upset at my entitled behavior. I am entitled to absolutely nothing from children, and grateful for all the forgiveness I get from my child victims. I am afraid of letting children down, and making them mad at me, and so I leave them alone, or else give them pretty much whatever they want, and I don't argue with their stated needs ever.

Reverent fear of children is being convicted of Christ's love for children, in a fearful way that strikes reverent terror into the adult, and then compels them in the Lord to do as they should for a child, and serve that child on a lowly level, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others. Giving, without receiving, and a healthy dose of reverent fear helps one accept that one won't get any reward in return for serving the needs of children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

The attachment parenting traditions of the Bible

Many parents think that punitive parenting, including punishment and controlling demeanor towards children, is part of our traditions. This is a common belief among parents, and that is why so many parents still punish their children today. The fact of the matter is that attachment parenting is a Christian tradition. Attachment parenting needs to become the norm in America.

The Greek root word denoting Christian love in the New Testament is αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers not merely to a feeling or an action, but to a state of being, where you prioritize your neighbor's needs above your own, meaning the needs of everyone around you come first. Under this state of being, the most vulnerable come first, and you last. Children were seen as the most vulnerable among Judeo-Christian society then.

Attachment parenting is inscribed in the Bible. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing under the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, sacrificing for their children, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, with parents surrendering to and submitting to a Godhead which is children, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Judeo-Christian society. In Ancient Israel, attachment parenting was mandated under Jewish customary law, and was also mandated in the Early Church under Christian ordinance. This commandment lifts up the attachment parenting context for the relevance of all.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages and offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in the context in which it was given, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards the child. Patrias potestas is translated from the Latin to "power to the father" or else "power to the parent", and refers to a father's right under Roman law to use force as he saw fit to control his own home. No analogous law existed under the Judeo-Christian law of the time. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times. Parents were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" referring to any damages or offense stemming from hostage-taking - punishing a child then was seen as holding them hostage for things they did wrong. Paul was lifting up this moral legal context to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. No such custom existed among the Early Christians. The Early Christians shunned all violence, including family violence. The only exception was mutual accountability between spouses, which was rare next to non-existent. Wives were subject to the law of their husband, whereas children were not under any Law. Children were seen as simply learning the Law, and thus, since they were ignorant of it, were not expected to keep the Law. Instead, parents kept the Law for their children until they came of age, and were ready to keep the Law on their own. 

The national parenting of Ancient Judeo-Christian culture was a special, distinct form of attachment parenting that deified children, in the form of pro-social deification and pro-social child worship. Children were worshipped and venerated as extensions of God, with parents struck with reverent fear and terror for their child's every need, with parents being compelled in the Lord to submit to and surrender to their child and their every vulnerable need, with parents/adults being the enemy of all children, just as mankind is the enemy to God, and is to be subservient as such. Children could issue lawful and binding orders, and the every need of a child was seen as Divine Law. Children could take their parents to court, in which case the case was already decided - in favor of the child. 

In biblical times, children went naked wherever they went. Women also went naked, in the family home, as a means to serve their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by way of nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy (especially during co-sleeping). By day, children ranged next to mothers, sometimes clinging to her. By night, children slept next to mothers, with mothers guarding them from all threats external and domestic, and with children soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. Fathers also nurtured, but from a distance, usually encouraging their child's religious education. Fathers were on formal terms with children, until children invited fathers to "break the ice" and engage in casual conversation, with mothers serving the role of vetoing the interaction if it was unsafe. Most adult men in biblical times were pedophiles towards their own children, but in an abstinent type of way, meaning most fathers simply had a connotational sexual attraction to their children, and not a driven attraction. Both parents took orders from their child, with the child bossing them around.

Attachment parenting is in our Christian traditions as a nation. Most of us as American adults just don't know that yet. We are a Christian nation founded on Judeo-Christian family values. We as a nation glean from the Bible and its context to know as to how to behave, and how to run this country. The Bible nowhere legitimately supports striking a child, and where it says "child" in that tense, God means it to mean "adult descendant".

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at stake!

Punishment of children: Why it should be banned (and why it is already under the unwritten law of the land)

Many parents think it is acceptable to punish a child to get them to do what you want them to do. It is sure accepted in America to punish or control a child. But, just because something is accepted in society doesn't mean it is acceptable, nor does it mean it ever will be. Punitive parenting will never be accepted in the eyes of God, and so it should not be seen as accepted in the eyes of the law of men.

God's Law already prohibits the punishment of children. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in the context in which it was given, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. Patrias potestas is translated from the Latin as "power to the father" and "power to the parent", and refers to a father's right under Roman law to use force as he saw fit to control his home. No analogous law existed under Jewish law during the time of Christ. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times. Parents were charged with kidnapping, which constituted any damages or offense stemming from hostage-taking - punishing children was seen in biblical times as holding a child hostage for things they did wrong. Paul was lifting up this legal context for a group of Greek Christian parents that brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. No such custom existed among the Early Christians, as the Early Christians shunned all violence, including family violence. The only exception was mutual accountability between spouses, which was rare next to non-existent. Wives were subject to the law of their husbands, and were to be disciplined as such, whereas children were not legal subjects under the Law. Children were seen as simply learning the Law, and thus since they were ignorant to most of it, were not expected to keep it like a wife was. Parents kept the Law for children so that children did not have to worry about things of the Law early in life.

America is a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian family values. Our nation, and our culture, gleans from the Bible and its context for wisdom. Being anti-spanking is as American as apple pie and baseball, as it is a valid interpretation of our values, and the correct one at best. Nowhere in our founding documents - especially the Bible - does it legitimately say that it is okay to strike a child. The rod verses regard enduring hardship, likening endurance of hardship of adult descendants to enduring a form of judicial corporal punishment - there is no Hebrew word for "descendant" so Proverbs says "child" and means ADULT descendants or children. That is not an excuse for legalized physical abuse at all. Banning spanking is part of the unwritten law of the land. I shun punitive parents, and don't even speak to them.

An unjust law is no law at all. The legal principle of "reasonable chastisement" is an evil and unjust law that allows for the legalized punishment of children, in which case there is no justice for these children. The law must change if child victims of lawful physical abuse have a route to justice and safety when their parents lash out at them, physically or otherwise. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast in to the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Original sin: Why to avoid parental entitlement

Many parents misunderstand the doctrine of original sin. The doctrine of original sin is the most misunderstood, and most misused, of all Christian teachings. Yet, it is the backbone of Christianity, as without original sin, there would be no reason for a Christ. We were all born flawed, at best, meaning people are not good. People are bad, and the amount of child abuse that exists in this world shows that parents are bad.

It says in Romans 3:9-12 KJV:

What then? are we better than they? No, in no wise: for we have before proved both Jews and Gentiles, that they are all under sin; As it is written, there is none righteous, no, not one: There is none that understandeth, there is none that seeketh after God. They are all gone out of the way, they are together become unprofitable; there is none that doeth good, no, not one.

This commandment was given to Roman Christians by the Apostle Paul. The Roman Christians were getting too prideful in their practice of Christianity, thinking they were righteous just for being a Christian. This passage, to the modern reader, is a reflection of how God feels about humanity. God hates us all, so much that He doesn't want us to even exist in His midst. God, by default, has a punishment in store for every man and woman, with all mankind deserving of DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing in relation to God. This means, in the children's rights tense, that all adults are deserving of DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing in relation to children, with children not being subject to the Law, but instead learning the Law. Hence, they have no sin count, and thus every child that dies goes to Heaven, even when they die by suicide. Adults are not entitled to rights, and do not even have the right to exist in the eyes of God. Only a few adults will earn their right to exist, thus rendering themselves non-existent. All adults, by default, are non-existent beyond a reasonable doubt, until they prove their existence by way of the entitled defense of "I am the adult". Only existent adults will burn, which is most of them. All adults, by default, are marked for deletion. All adults, however, have a choice to overcome all odds and reform themselves so that they are marked for salvation instead.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement in the New Testament, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, this refers to wanting anything from children, period. It is not good to want things in life, including from children. But, since we all want things, it is good to ask politely for what we want. It is especially good to ask children politely for things from them. Any time you want to control children or demand things from them, you are parent entitled and need to atone for your parental entitlement. We all have the tendency to control children or demand things from them, and so we must avoid that entitlement at all costs.

How should a parent feel about their child? Nothing but love, in the Christian tense. Christian love is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), with this word referring to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every need, with their every wish being the command of parents, in some way, in some form. Christian love is not just a feeling or action, but is a way of life for a Christian, including a Christian parent, where you put your neighbor first, and yourself last. Putting yourself last happens when you admit your original sin as a depraved and entitled adult, thus coming to the knowledge that you are a worthless sinner deserving of nothing, including nothing in return from children or others for good works, thus everyone around you deserves everything from you. It is a way of paying penance for a wretched and sinful existence by serving the needs of others, even if it is being polite to the waitress at the restaurant - then maybe leading a generous tip. I am a wicked and depraved sinner deserving of nothing from anyone, especially a child, but I serve children by defending them, and I think I am doing my best doing God's work, which is child advocacy. I also serve children by choosing not to abuse them sexually despite being a pedophile. Generosity and charity usually comes from an undeserving state of mind, where others are deserving of everything, and you are entitled to nothing. 

What should parenting without parental entitlement look like? See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, sacrificing for their children, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, with parents serving a Godhead which is children, with children resting safely and securely in the sacrifice of parents. Parents took orders from children, and allowed children to boss them around, with children dragging parents/adults around like a human ragdoll. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Judeo-Christian culture. In Ancient Israel, attachment parenting was mandated under Jewish customary law. Attachment parenting, in the Early Church, was mandated under Christian ordinance. This commandment lifts up the attachment parenting context for the relevance of all.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, including the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in the context in which it was given, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. Patrias potestas is translated from the Latin as "power to the father" or else "power to the parent", and refers to the right of fathers under Roman law to use force as they saw fit to police their home. No analogous law existed under the Judeo-Christian law of the time. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, for punishing their children too many times, with the parents being charged with kidnapping. Kidnapping was understood then as any damages or offense coming from hostage-taking - punishing children was seen as holding a child hostage for things they did wrong. Paul was lifting up this moral legal context to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. No such custom existed among the Early Christians. The Early Christians shunned all violence, including in the family home. The only exemption was mutual accountability between spouses, which was rare next to non-existent. Wives were subject to the law of their husbands, whereas children were subject to no law whatsoever, as children were learning the Law. Even with wives, usually, the man of the house simply refused to speak to her until she apologized and made amends - wife-spanking was seen as a sign of weakness in a man. When a man took a step lower and lashed out at his child, he was issued an affidavit of excommunication from the church elders, and an affidavit of divorcement from his wife. There was no room at the inn for striking or punishing a child, or even being controlling with a child, and that context applies today due to God's command not to provoke children to anger. 

Original sin is not a reason to punish or be controlling with children. The doctrine of original sin does not say children are bad, but instead says that PEOPLE are bad. God, in the previous passage in Romans, said that ALL human beings were "under sin" and "have gone out of the way". That is how God sees all of us. We can resent it and point the finger elsewhere, or we can focus on our own sins as adults in relation to children. Don't blame children for the depraved and wicked sin nature of mankind - blame yourself and your own sins in relation to children. Cut children a break since they don't know any better.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Parent anger: Why it needs to go NOW (parenting in biblical times)

Many parents think that it is okay to get angry with a child. This is a common belief among parents - that sometimes you have to "get angry with them" in order to "get through to them". This is a common mistake that American parents make. The fact of the matter is that the Bible commands that parents eliminate anger entirely, at least over time.

It says in Matthew 5:21-22 KJV:

Ye have heard that it was said of old time, Thou shalt not kill; and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment: But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.

This passage prohibits getting angry outside of proper channels. The proper reasons for getting angry are for righteous judgment purposes, meaning offenses and damages imposed on your person, property, or effects by other adults. Apart from cross-examination in a court of law, it is a moral crime to get angry at all, for any non-judgment reason. Children, under the Law in biblical times, could not be prosecuted for criminal offenses or civil wrongs that they committed. Getting angry at a child then was not received well by society, as it was seen as imposing undue and undeserving legalism onto a target that didn't understand what was happening.

It says in Matthew 5:38-39 KJV:

Ye have heard that it was said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth: But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: that whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.

Parents in biblical times resisted resorting to any sort of anger whatsoever when dealing with children. Parents instead took a passive approach to parenting, where children took leadership as to what their needs were, allowing and even incurring children to demand and even give orders onto parents. Sometimes, children yelled. Sometimes, children screamed. Sometimes, children hit. All were met with passivity and non-violence.

Parents in biblical times were incapable of parent anger, meaning the vast majority of parents harbored no anger for their children at all. As an adult with such a complex, you are self-conscious as to what you say around children for another reason - you don't want to offend them or make them mad at you in any way. When they are mad at you, you blame yourself immediately, and can't bring yourself to blame the child. Children, at worst, simply tire you out, at a low level, and at the end of a whole day with children, you simply sleep good. The child can do no wrong, and all limits that need to be set are set lightly, and with the understanding beforehand that the child may not be able to understand how to follow the instructions from parents. In biblical times, anyone who merely could harbor anger towards a child was seen as a viper and a monster, meaning people then didn't understand such parents and didn't want to, and chalked it all up to sadism.

Think cowering. Think shaking and quaking. Think words scrolling from up above. A child's wrath should be that powerful and fearsome, and also frightening, when you provoke a child to anger. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in the context in which it was given, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. Patrias potestas translates from the Latin as "power to the father" or else "power to the parent", and refers to the right under Roman law for a father to use force as he saw fit to police his home. No analogous law existed under the Judeo-Christian law of the time. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting for punishing their children too many times, with the scofflaw parents being charged with kidnapping. Kidnapping then meant any damages or offense from hostage-taking - punishment of children was seen as holding them hostage for things they did wrong. The Apostle Paul was lifting up the moral legal context to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. No such custom existed among the Early Christians, as Christian ordinance then prohibited any form of punishment or controlling demeanor. What the Greek Christian parents were doing was bringing Greco-Roman customs into the Christian church, whereas the Christian church of the time opposed such punitive parenting vehemently, seeing it as abhorrent and horrid. The goal of parenting, in the short term, in terms of discipline, was to set a good example and, also, to avoid the wrath of children as much as possible. Offending a child, meaning making them upset at you at all, was seen as a grave moral offense in both the Old and New Testaments. Children were seen as wrathful and demanding, with parents having to tow the line to keep children happy and pleased.

How do you not get angry with a child? Usually, we get angry when we try to change something that we feel helpless about. The idea is that, in parenting, a parent needs to accept the helplessness and wallow in sadness. This means that you should allow yourself to cry and feel vulnerably hurt when your child is uncooperative or defiant. Also, parents should practice doing the opposite of what their parent anger tells them to do. If you feel like lashing out in anger at a child, stifle that anger, and imagine burning in Hell or some other aversive stimuli when you even express that anger. Then, you should eventually come to the point where you are not angry with your child at all. What helps is idealizing your child with statements such as "he/she is like God to me". When a child is like God to you, you don't even question the needs they state. Deal with any trauma by way of admitting that your parents harmed you in punishing you, and then explore childhood memories.  

Children in biblical times were seen as the boss of their upbringing. The parent didn't lead parenting - the child did. Children bossed parents around, and gave orders, and parents followed orders like waitstaff. Parents never got angry at their children, and this was because parents were incapable of such anger. They literally could not bring themselves to be angry with their child. It is not good to get angry with your child at all. Very few of us have a special personality that harbors no anger towards a child. I say "harbors...anger" because I can't get mad at a child for any reason. I just find reasons to blame myself when a child is upset with me. I could set a boundary if I had to, but if they didn't follow it, I'd assume they didn't know what I meant. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!