Original sin: Why to avoid parental entitlement

Many parents misunderstand the doctrine of original sin. The doctrine of original sin is the most misunderstood, and most misused, of all Christian teachings. Yet, it is the backbone of Christianity, as without original sin, there would be no reason for a Christ. We were all born flawed, at best, meaning people are not good. People are bad, and the amount of child abuse that exists in this world shows that parents are bad.

It says in Romans 3:9-12 KJV:

What then? are we better than they? No, in no wise: for we have before proved both Jews and Gentiles, that they are all under sin; As it is written, there is none righteous, no, not one: There is none that understandeth, there is none that seeketh after God. They are all gone out of the way, they are together become unprofitable; there is none that doeth good, no, not one.

This commandment was given to Roman Christians by the Apostle Paul. The Roman Christians were getting too prideful in their practice of Christianity, thinking they were righteous just for being a Christian. This passage, to the modern reader, is a reflection of how God feels about humanity. God hates us all, so much that He doesn't want us to even exist in His midst. God, by default, has a punishment in store for every man and woman, with all mankind deserving of DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing in relation to God. This means, in the children's rights tense, that all adults are deserving of DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing in relation to children, with children not being subject to the Law, but instead learning the Law. Hence, they have no sin count, and thus every child that dies goes to Heaven, even when they die by suicide. Adults are not entitled to rights, and do not even have the right to exist in the eyes of God. Only a few adults will earn their right to exist, thus rendering themselves non-existent. All adults, by default, are non-existent beyond a reasonable doubt, until they prove their existence by way of the entitled defense of "I am the adult". Only existent adults will burn, which is most of them. All adults, by default, are marked for deletion. All adults, however, have a choice to overcome all odds and reform themselves so that they are marked for salvation instead.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement in the New Testament, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, this refers to wanting anything from children, period. It is not good to want things in life, including from children. But, since we all want things, it is good to ask politely for what we want. It is especially good to ask children politely for things from them. Any time you want to control children or demand things from them, you are parent entitled and need to atone for your parental entitlement. We all have the tendency to control children or demand things from them, and so we must avoid that entitlement at all costs.

How should a parent feel about their child? Nothing but love, in the Christian tense. Christian love is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), with this word referring to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every need, with their every wish being the command of parents, in some way, in some form. Christian love is not just a feeling or action, but is a way of life for a Christian, including a Christian parent, where you put your neighbor first, and yourself last. Putting yourself last happens when you admit your original sin as a depraved and entitled adult, thus coming to the knowledge that you are a worthless sinner deserving of nothing, including nothing in return from children or others for good works, thus everyone around you deserves everything from you. It is a way of paying penance for a wretched and sinful existence by serving the needs of others, even if it is being polite to the waitress at the restaurant - then maybe leading a generous tip. I am a wicked and depraved sinner deserving of nothing from anyone, especially a child, but I serve children by defending them, and I think I am doing my best doing God's work, which is child advocacy. I also serve children by choosing not to abuse them sexually despite being a pedophile. Generosity and charity usually comes from an undeserving state of mind, where others are deserving of everything, and you are entitled to nothing. 

What should parenting without parental entitlement look like? See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, sacrificing for their children, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, with parents serving a Godhead which is children, with children resting safely and securely in the sacrifice of parents. Parents took orders from children, and allowed children to boss them around, with children dragging parents/adults around like a human ragdoll. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Judeo-Christian culture. In Ancient Israel, attachment parenting was mandated under Jewish customary law. Attachment parenting, in the Early Church, was mandated under Christian ordinance. This commandment lifts up the attachment parenting context for the relevance of all.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, including the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in the context in which it was given, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. Patrias potestas is translated from the Latin as "power to the father" or else "power to the parent", and refers to the right of fathers under Roman law to use force as they saw fit to police their home. No analogous law existed under the Judeo-Christian law of the time. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, for punishing their children too many times, with the parents being charged with kidnapping. Kidnapping was understood then as any damages or offense coming from hostage-taking - punishing children was seen as holding a child hostage for things they did wrong. Paul was lifting up this moral legal context to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. No such custom existed among the Early Christians. The Early Christians shunned all violence, including in the family home. The only exemption was mutual accountability between spouses, which was rare next to non-existent. Wives were subject to the law of their husbands, whereas children were subject to no law whatsoever, as children were learning the Law. Even with wives, usually, the man of the house simply refused to speak to her until she apologized and made amends - wife-spanking was seen as a sign of weakness in a man. When a man took a step lower and lashed out at his child, he was issued an affidavit of excommunication from the church elders, and an affidavit of divorcement from his wife. There was no room at the inn for striking or punishing a child, or even being controlling with a child, and that context applies today due to God's command not to provoke children to anger. 

Original sin is not a reason to punish or be controlling with children. The doctrine of original sin does not say children are bad, but instead says that PEOPLE are bad. God, in the previous passage in Romans, said that ALL human beings were "under sin" and "have gone out of the way". That is how God sees all of us. We can resent it and point the finger elsewhere, or we can focus on our own sins as adults in relation to children. Don't blame children for the depraved and wicked sin nature of mankind - blame yourself and your own sins in relation to children. Cut children a break since they don't know any better.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!