Adult attraction to children: Personal responsibility for adults attracted to children

Most of American society wants to prevent child sexual abuse. 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys will be raped or sexually assaulted before their 18th birthday. Most people blindly blame pedophiles for the sexual abuse of children. The fact of the matter is that every single adult is guilty for the child sexual abuse epidemic, as any adult is capable of sexually abusing a child under the right/wrong conditions.

Every single adult is guilty merely for existing in relation to children, and is deserving of nothing but DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing in relation to children and the God that protects them. An adult is deserving of absolutely nothing from children, for every single adult has a depraved and decadent sin nature in relation to children. All adults are capable of the moral crime of child sexual abuse, under the right/wrong conditions. Adults need to gauge under which conditions will they abuse children sexually, and avoid those conditions using righteous avoidance.

In order to become aware of your risk towards children, you need to indulge in masturbatory fantasy about children. If you are averse to finding children attractive, then you are at-risk for sexually abusing a child, and you will do that under the right/wrong conditions, which you are unaware of due to your unwillingness to explore your child fantasies. 

Most child sexual abuse occurs in sexually repressed environments, where the adult perpetrator of sexual abuse is him/herself sexually repressed in relation to children. They were unwilling to explore their child fantasies. When someone like that imprints on a child sexually, they fight back their sexual drives, and keep fighting them back, until they spill over onto the child. If the sex offender chose to masturbate instead of repressing their sexual desires, they wouldn't be in that mess.

Whenever you as an adult get a crush on a child, which could happen, the idea is to face those sexual thoughts about your child crush head on, following those sexual thoughts to end through masturbatory fantasy. Unless you are a pedophile, you should hit a dead end, where the fantasy ceases to be interesting. You'd know if you were a pedophile because adults wouldn't interest you sexually much, as a pedophile is an individual with a primary or exclusive sexual preference for children. Pedophiles are at very low risk for sexually abusing a child because they are constantly reminded of their desires. Therefore, the word "pedophile" is a misnomer that needs to go. The words "pedophile" and "pedophilia" are not medical excuses for abuse of any kind.

The Greek root word denoting lust and inordinate affections in the Bible is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but to sexual entitlement, and in the case of child sexual abuse, adult sexual entitlement. Adult sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want towards children, to the point of sexually motivated approach. Regarding lust, the sin line isn't at masturbation, but at taking the first steps to approach an attraction figure for sexual or flirtatious reasons. It is a complete myth that masturbation is a sin, and that belief has both kept down pedophiles and enabled child sexual abuse.

The depraved and decadent, defiled parents/adults who defiled themselves next to children through rape or sexual assault will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire! Repent!

Separation anxiety: Why this is healthy for children (in the proper age group)

This topic of children's rights is personal to me. Most parents think separation anxiety is a disorder, and is unhealthy in children. I have suppressed traits of a new diagnosis known as adult separation anxiety disorder (ASAD). I am securely attached to my mother now, but have a history of insecure anxious attachment towards my mother, even as an adult. I blame the toxic mixture of attachment parenting and punitive parenting for my clingy attitude towards my mother - I was raised in a punitive authoritative home, meaning a mixture of warm and cold memories. Today, I simply am motivated to plan for being independent from my mother, which is a trait of secure attachment. Separation anxiety is a healthy aspect of child development, but only during a certain window in terms of age. 

Separation anxiety is part of the process of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the wake of the submission of children. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemmng from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

Separation anxiety was something commonplace in the Early Christian church communities, among children aged up until age 6. This is why children up until age 6 were usually either glued to the hip of their mothers, or else swaddled next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mothers and children were naked next to each other, with this making it easier for mothers to give their children skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance. All of this sustaining closeness and warmth brought out the separation anxiety in children. When mothers walked out of sight of the child in the family home, she'd immediately regret it, because her child would be crying. 

Separation anxiety is what causes closeness between mothers and children in children under age 6. When the child cries out for his/her mother, that child is expressing a fear of harm befalling their mother, and so the mother has to reassure her presence by picking up the child. Birth nudity is recommeded for this process of bonding, as it allows raw bonding between mother and child. 

Separation anxiety actually motivates independence in older children. In biblical times, children older than age 6 usually shook off the sustaining warmth of mothers, and played freely outside, venturing farther and farther from home. This is because separation anxiety is preparing them for a critical turning point in their life - the death of a parent caregiver. Separation anxiety, for an older child or teenager, should be that voice in their head saying "mom and dad won't be around forever, so prepare for them being gone and plan to move out". 

Separation anxiety only leads to independence in older children, teens, and young adults when it is suppressed, usually by a non-entitled conditioning. When you mix attachment parenting warmth with pro-spanking coldness, you get a clingy, wimpy Millennial who won't leave their parents' roof. That, in and of itself, is a form of adult separation anxiety.

I myself have a long history of separation anxiety, which wasn't officially diagnosed because it could be lumped into my autism. Currently, it is suppressed as a reminder that my mother won't always be around, and so I have to work on independence skills. Currently, I live with my mother, but if I had to live somewhere else, I'd manage, perhaps by trial and error, to fend for myself. It would just be lonely. This attachment that I describe is a secure attachment. My attachment to my mother before that was an insecure anxious attachment, which is a sign of parent trauma in an individual with autism. I didn't even sleep in my own bed until I was 16. If I wasn't punished, my development wouldn't have been so stunted. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pedophilic children: How to bring up pedophilic children

Many people hate pedophiles. However, more and more people are defending pedophiles. Most people who defend pedophiles have criminals and sex offenders in mind. I as a child advocate don't defend the criminals with pedophilia, but the VICTIMS with pedophilia. 3 out of 4 pedophiles have never rapes or sexually assaulted a child. The core of the victims of pedophile hysteria are children themselves, and pedophile hysteria can come in the form of child sexual abuse. May is Mental Health Awareness Month, and pedophilia, in an ideal world, should be seen as a valid mental illness, with pedophiles being able to talk about sexual thoughts about children just as people with other forms of mental illness can talk about suicide openly.

What is pedophilia? Pedophilia is NOT the same as narcissism, meaning most pedophiles are not narcissists in any capacity. Pedophilia is a form of immature autism, where the age-oriented sexual preferences of the individual with autism correspond with the immature developmental level of the individual with autism. Most pedophiles have an autistic specialty in children, in terms of knowledge and social skills. Pedophilia is a humanizing attraction, where the pedophile values the humanity of children more than other adults, in a way where the pedophile can easily get onto the level of the child, and empathize with the child. Most pedophiles are highly sensitive towards children, with children being the center of the pedophile's worldview.

How do you understand the modern hysteria against pedophiles? Parents commit most child abuse, with 80% of child sexual abuse cases being perpetrated by a parent, and the remainder being perpetrated by adults extended into the lives of children by parents. The core of all child victims of parents are pedophiles. At the core, pedophile hysteria is a form of religious child abuse against pedophilic children, usually of latinate origin. Most pedophilic children are punished merely for having masturbatory fantasies about children, with parents figuring out the sexual preferences of the pedophile by watching his/her gaze. Many pedophiles have experienced rape and sexual assault as children, and that rape was usually corrective in nature, as a parental attempt to cure the pedophile. Most Christian denominations pray away the pedophile, and trying to pray away my pedophilic inclinations alone is anti-pedophile entitlement to me, since you are imposing your false beliefs on pedophilia on me. The core of pedophile hysteria is NOT the fact that pedophiles can't get what they want, but the fact that everyone wants to cure the disorder, when the disorder is genetic in an incurable way.

There is one false and abusive religious teaching guiding all of the societal hatred of pedophiles, and it is one imposed on pedophilic children. To some Christians, even looking at a woman out of sexual desire is something to avoid, and this is interpreted by many religious denominations - with latinate influence - as banning all masturbation and sexual fantasy. The mainstream teaching in Christianity is that you can carry a fantasy, but you can't indulge in it. This teaching quotes Matthew 5:27-28 KJV:

Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath already committed adultery with her already in his heart. 

The Greek root word translated "lust" is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, or even sexual desire towards children, but to sexual entitlement. Adult sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want from children, to the point of sexually motivated approach. The sin line is not at masturbation, but taking the first steps to approach a child for sexual or flirtatious purposes, if you are a pedophile. If you start approaching a child, turn around, and you will be forgiven. Once you actually rape or sexually assault a child under the age of majority, you have defiled yourself next to them.

It may be annoying or even upsetting to pedophile parents (parents of pedophilic children), but pedophilic children have a sex drive that goes nowhere, since even they assumedly know that sex with children is off-limits. Your average pedophile does not masturbate to plan out acts of rape or sexual assault against a child, but for release concerning a sexual drive that can go nowhere. Masturbation channels the sex drive of the pedophile inwards, so the pedophile can be in complete and total control of where his/her sexual desires go. 

There are a wide range of autistic special interests that can help tell if your child is a pedophile, and they all are child-centered interests. One common special interest among pedophilic children is children's rights. Most pedophiles, in real life, are against any cruelty or abuse towards a child, to the extreme. A common pedophile behavior in children is guarding younger siblings or family members, meaning literally standing in between a child about to be scolded, and the parent scolding the child, usually destroying the parent's parenting style in terms of argumentation. When you see your child, especially after puberty, becoming a bleeding heart for children, think pedophile and see who they find attractive. Then, make room for them to disclose, and once they disclose, reassure them that you love them because of their flawed nature, not despite it. 

In pedophile disclosures, you can tell if they are an abuser. In today's modern society, the disclosure should be tearful and sorrowful. If they disclose the disorder like it means nothing, and start telling a whole bunch of people about it in bragging tone, they might be a form of abuser known as an obvious abuser, meaning they don't see the limits with children, in a way that is so obvious that it doesn't catch people's radar. Most people are looking for a low-level threat in a pedophile, not something right in front of their face. This type of pedophile can be rehabilitated, but they need to be informed of the boundaries around children. Usually, they will take this advice from the children themselves. An obvious abuser doesn't dehumanize their victims, but hunanizes them in a way that puts them on a pedestal, but most children find being seen as a sex goddess to be creepy. 

Pedophilia can easily be understood as similar to zoophilia, but directed towards children instead. Pedophilia is a tendency that you want to center, and once it is centered properly, it make a man want to nurture. Fathers in biblical times usually had a touch of pedophilia, in which case they invoked righteous masturbation, and otherwise got along with their children in a warm and nurturing way. Actual pedophilia is when that type of sexually motivated parent is parallel to the other parents, keeping them in line. In the Early Church, some church elders were designated for hearing child abuse cases, and they were all pedophiles. They would take the little children being abused into their arms, and into their care, and ask nothing in return. In other ancient societies, pedophiles demanded sex in return as a form of bartering, but under Christian law, this was unlawful. 

Pedophilia is not a medical excuse for abuse, including child sexual abuse. Most pedophiles are VICTIMS of crime and abuse, but rarely disclose in those instances. I myself have abused children in the past as an antisocial flirt, meaning I have a sexual harassment problem. Most pedophiles have even less sin guilt than me. They are literally the safest adults to have your children around. Most are very much trauma-aware. So, when you misuse my mental health label as a medical excuse, usually in a projectory way, you don't deserve to wear that label. The pedophile label is for the few of us who seek not to sexually abuse children, now and in the future. The rest of the adults in this world can go with no label to excuse their abuse of children, since most adults in our society are trash.

The depraved and decadent, defiled sex offenders who offend or procure children, and project your evil onto pedophiles, will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire! Repent!

Hebrews 12:5-8: Understanding why this passage is not a pro-spanking passage

Most parents think the Bible condones the punishment of children. Most parents cite a set of passages in both the Old and the New Testament that speak of either a rod or of scourging. The passage that holds together the pro-spanking argument is Hebrews 12:5-8. When understood correctly, this passage can be a comforting passage.

It says in Hebrews 12:5-8 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation that speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as sons, for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons. 

The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μαστιγόω (Latin: mastigoó) and refers, in the Hebraic context in which it was written to, to the 40 minus 1 lashes, in a reminiscent way that only the Hebrew Christians receiving this epistle would relate to. What is being referred to here is the chastening of the Lord, meaning God whips His children, like only He can. In modern Israel, when speaking Hebrew, you don't say "I had a bad day at work", you say "God whipped me real good today". This is called rod language, and it is figurative language pertaining to trials and tribulations that God sends to His children, like only He can. God only whips His children when it isn't harmful, whereas earthly parents only whip their children when it is harmful. God wants earthly parents to bring up their children the natural way, meaning attachment parenting. The Early Christians did not practice the 40 minus 1 lashes mentioned in this passage at all. Apart from a few men spanking their wives as agreed-upon domestic discipline, corporal punishment was non-existent in the Early Church. Hebrews 12:5-8 was intended to comfort the Hebrew Christians, who were enduring persecution from the outside Greco-Roman world.

The passage in Heb. 12:5-8 was not intended by God as parenting advice, but was written to a specific context, and can be applied today as mere comfort when having a bad day. There are passages in the Bible that govern parenting. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the wake of the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor of a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with kidnapping being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating them as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings. 

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to, in this context, modeling Christian discipline to children. The standard of Christian discipline in the Bible is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church sought to center their entitlement, and then their children followed suit. When children were caught emulating the disciplined example of parents, they were lavishly praised and encouraged by fathers to "keep going down the right path". Children were caught being good, instead of being bad, and were given the positive consequence of praise and encouragement, such as when they show self-control or give up something they really want. Children were not disciplined by fathers with punishment and harshness when they did something wrong, but were caught being good, and praised for doing good things. Sometimes, children needed direct instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to parental instruction. Parental instruction was not legally binding, and so parents instead requested favors from their children, from the bottom of their heart, hoping children would listen due to a secure attachment. All Christian parents in the Early Church strived for a secure attachment with their children.

Children are sinful human beings, and this objective Truth is not up for debate. But, that sinful nature is for them to work on, and not for parents to punish. Children are capable of self-improvement on their own, and simply need guidance from a trusted parental example. All parents have to do is focus on their own sins, and children will emulate that behavior and focus on their sins. When they see you declaring yourself a depraved and entitled sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing, they take up the same attitude. Children won't center their entitlement right away, but they will try if they like you enough. They will keep trying to keep it together until they succeed to be disciplined like the parents that they adore. 

Children need to be motivated by a parent in order to heed and emulate their disciplined example. Children, for the first 6 years of their life, were in constant closeness to mothers, never leaving her side. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, meaning both mother and child were naked next to each other, which made it easy for mothers to engage in skin-on-skin closeness with their children, and hastened the bonding process between mother and child. When mothers were out and about, they swaddled their young children by wrapping them up next to their bosom in swaddling blankets, possibly breastfeeding in public if the child was milk-hungry. When children were around age 6, they started squirming away from the intimate closeness of mothers, venturing places far away from home, playing outside with neighborhood children, but then retreating once more to the sustaining warmth of mothers in the form of co-sleeping. Children generally co-slept next to mothers until they hit puberty, which is when they wanted their own space to sleep. Fathers also nurtured children, but from afar. Fathers often had parent attraction to their children, and used righteous masturbation to purge unrequited lusts about their children. 

Hebrews 12:5-8 is not a rod passage, as the rod depicted is a figurative rod that only God holds. God does whip His children, but that is because God is Sovereign, and knows how to whip His children without damaging them in any way. No human being knows how to punish a child in that fashion, and that way of punishing children will never and can never be discovered by adult-kind. Due to the sinful nature of adults, parents need to atone for their humanity by using natural parenting, also known as attachment patenting. Parenting should not feel like a God-like endeavor, but something servile towards a child that means everything in the world - a slave that values his/her master. That's all a parent is to God when in human form. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Toughening up children: How to toughen up children without punishing them

Many of us conservatives today note the sharp decline in toughness among the younger generation. Many of my liberal friends at the children's rights movement would disagree, but I think we are raising a generation of wusses. But, that's what punitive authoritative parenting does to you. I was once that easily offended Millennial, and I credit my parent trauma largely for my entitled attitude. How can you toughen up your child so that they don't become one of the many getting offended by absolutely everything like a chicken with its head cut off. Christian attachment parenting has just the right tools for a parent who wants to pass down their family values, but do so gently. 

What toughens up children is attachment, with the right example. This exists within the context of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the wake of the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convicts a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers, in this context, to modeling Christian discipline to children. The standard of Christian discipline in the Bible is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, leading to a chastened example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church sought to center their entitlement in relation to their children, and then children followed suit to center their entitlement. When children were caught centering their own entitlement, they were praised lavishly and encouragingly by their fathers, as a due reward for their hard work on their own sin natures, with fathers saying "keep on going down the right path". Children were caught being good in biblical times, instead of being bad. When a child acted in a centered manner, or gave up something they wanted, they were immediately praised for their hard work combatting their sin nature by their fathers, and that encouraged more hard work. Sometimes, children needed direct instruction from parents. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to direct instruction from parents. Instruction from parents was not legally binding, as parents had no legal authority to sue their children, with children having that authority in the reverse. Parents instead asked things from their children, from the bottom of their heart, hoping children would listen because they trusted their parents, out of the secure attachment that all Christian parents in the Early Church strived for in their children.

Children are born sinful. This is a fact of life. But, it is up to children to work on that sinful nature. Sin cannot be beaten out of a child. It is a myth that a sinful nature is deserving of PARENTAL punishment. A child's sinful nature is something that is between that child and God, and up to the child to reform, with the support of both parents and extended family. All a sin nature entails is flaws, and children have plenty of flaws to work on. The key for a parent of a sin-affected child is to love them FOR their sin nature, not despite it, just as Christ love His children in order to sanctify them - parents sanctify their children, including non-believing children. This means forgiveness for mistakes made by children, and a parent is to forgive every mistake made by a child, as children are not subject to the Law - they are simply learning it. Even God spares His punishment for children that pass away.

Something has to motivate self-improvement in children, and that thing is a secure, loving attachment with parents. Children up until age 6 were in constant closeness to mothers, with children never leaving the side of mothers when at home. Birth nudity was practiced by the Early Christians, with both child and mother being naked in the family home, with this making it easier for mothers to engage in skin-on-skin closeness with children. Mothers, when out and about, wrapped up their young children in swaddling blankets, perhaps breastfeeding them in public if the child was milk-hungry. When children reached approximately age 6, they started squirming out of the arms of mothers, venturing places far from home, playing outside with neighborhood children, but then retreating to mothers once more in the form of co-sleeping. Co-sleeping generally lasted until puberty, when children wanted their own space to sleep. When children have this level of closenesss and sustaning warmth with parents, they naturally will follow the disciplined example of parents. 

Children can toughen up themselves. Just give them a toughened up example. This means YOU as a parent need to declare yourself a depraved and decadent sinner just for existing in relation to your child, knowing that you are deserving of absolutely nothing from your child. When you come to the conviction that you are deserving of absolutely nothing from your child, you become grateful for the every joy that child gives you. Parent anger comes from a deserving place in the sin nature of adult-kind, and thus the more you feel that you deserve from your child, the more angry entitlement you impose on your child. True parenting is not motivated by anger, but by worry and concern. Disciplining yourself in relation to your children makes you a disciplined person overall. It also leads to children taking up self-improvement and personal responsibility in the same way. Discipline begets discipline, but only when modeled in the context of a secure attachment.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous parent abuse: Understanding the reality of bipolar disorder

Many parents think that they are deserving of some things from their child. The concept of child-to-parent aggression has been referred to as a form of parental abuse committed by children. Most parents don't want to be beaten by their child. But, what can I say as an adult? Some blows were meant to be endured. Righteous parent abuse is when a minor or dependent child abuses a parent, physically or otherwise, and in such cases, the Bible - when understood in context - says that parents need to take a good beating from their children, now and then. Bipolar disorder existed in biblical times, and such children were held in high honor for their boldness and willfulness. 

Righteous parent abuse is really an acronym for the child, but for the parent to note, as a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the wake of the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slighrest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

Childhood bipolar disorder is a mood disorder where the child alternates between depression and mania, or else is always manic. Also prevalent among children with bipolar disorder is rage attacks. Rage attacks usually happen during a mixed episode. Usually, in children, bipolar rage attacks are triggered by the word "no". I have the disorder in remission, and was actively bipolar with oppositional-defiant traits as a child. The word "no" was earth-shattering, like it was the end of the world. I just had to have what I wanted, or else the world was going to end. What was worse? My parents then believed in "benign" deprivation, meaning they believed that I needed to hear the word "no" to "prepare him for the real world". I was put in time-out and punished phyically as well, and when I was placed in my room, I broke the door with my rageful kicking and anger.

In the Early Church, some children, who rejected the warmth of mothers from early on, were seen as stand-beside-me children. Stand-beside-me children stood beside the mother at all times. While standing beside their mother, they could hit, kick, or even bite their mothers. Such children were deemed to simply need space to be themselves. Many times, when children wanted something, and mothers had to say "no" to an order that was unworkable or immoral in nature, children would beat their children. Parents took it vulnerably, bursting into tears after being rejected by their child time and time again. Stand-beside-me children were high-energy children, and didn't want to be confined to swaddling blankets when out and about. They could run around a bit, but had to remain within the line of sight of parents.

Children who were stand-beside-me children were held in high honor. Children in biblical times were valued for their boldness and willfulness. This boldness and rebelliousness brought parents into full and dutiful submission to children. Parents with stand-beside-me children sometimes had to take a beating from children when setting limits with them, and parents took the beating vulnerably and meekly, toppling over to their child's demands.

Children, in biblical times, held lawful authority over their parents. Children could sue their parents in open court if they perceived offense from how they were treated by parents. But, parents had no right to sue in return, and had no lawful authority over their children. Parents were seen as bondservants towards their children, working towards a lump sum which was the independence of their children. Even if the child was beating up the parents, parents had no legal recourse for the violent behaviors of their children. Whenever a parent took their child to court, without exception, the church elders took the side of the child, and even forced the parent to apologize, to the child for challenging his/her authority, and to the elders for wasting their time. Sometimes, the church elders advised the parent abruptly, "you just have to take the blows from your child". 

Usually, it was stand-beside-me children that were aggressive and violent, usually when hearing the word "no". Striking parents was only unlawful for adults living away from home, and when the children were minor and/or care-dependent, the Law saw it as understandable aggression from a child. One thing Christian parents in the 1st Century used in their immediate defende was tears, which shut off the rage attack immediately. Crying in parents didn't cause the child to take advantage of the parent, but set a limit gently that the parent had enough of being beaten. Usually, children then switched to tears themselves. But, sometimes, parents had to take it in full.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Christian attachment parenting: Upholding the Christian tradition

Many parents today still support punitive parenting. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents today support authoritative parenting, which usually entails time-out, and maybe an occasional disciplinary spanking. Child punishment is mistakenly seen by many parents as part of this country's valid Christian tradition. The fact of the matter is that punitive parenting of children is not part of our traditions. Christian attachment parenting is part of our traditions.

America is a Christian nation, founded upon Judeo-Christian family values, with many of those values already enshrined into law. The Bible is the highest founding document of this country, above even the Constitution itself. Nowhere in the Bible does it legitimately say to spank or punish a child. Where the rod is mentioned, it would have been interpreted by the ancients to refer to the rod of correction in the 40 minus 1 lashes, meaning judicial corporal punishment instead of domestic corporal punishment. The Early Christians never practiced corporal punishment towards children of any kind.

Christian attachment parenting is based off of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the wake of the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slighrest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

Christian attachment parenting is attachment parenting that emulates the Early Christian context. In the Early Church, children were righteously pampered by their parents. Children up until age 6 were in constant closeness with their mothers. Children never left the side of mothers, and were frequently held by mothers. Mother and child were naked in the family home, with children being naked wherever they went until they became adults. This birth nudity was intended to make it easier for young children to receive skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance, as well as to hasten the bonding process between mother and child. Secure bonding takes place best in an environment where both the mother and the child are naked. When mothers went out and about, they swaddled their young children under their dress and next to their bosom, in swaddling blankets - even with children as old as age 6, to give them sustaining skin-on-skin warmth.

By the time children were around age 6, they started, on their own accord, to squirm out of the arms of their mothers, and venture places far from home, playing outside with neighborhood friends, but then retreating to the sustaining warmth of mothers, in the form of skin-on-skin co-sleeping. Children usually slept next to mothers late into childhood, and sought out their own place to sleep only come the onset of puberty. When children started sleeping on their own independently, parents knew it was only a matter of time before children shook them off completely and sought to move out of the house. In the Early Church, the church communities respected Roman law, which set the age of majority at age 13. 

America is a Christian nation. We were founded with a secular government, balanced by a religious society, with our national religion being Christianity, with all of the denominations within the faith. Christian attachment parenting was practiced in the context of both the Old and New Testament. We as a nation glean from the biblical context, and thus Christian attachment parenting is American parenting. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!