Pedophilic children: How to accommodate your pedophilic child

Many parents are afraid of their child being sexually abused. Children being sexually abused is usually every parent's nightmare. However, most parents aren't prepared for their child being a pedophile. Most parents think such a child deserves punishment, namely the attitude of "I never raised a pedophile". However, a pedophile has a mental health disorder that is genetic in nature. A pedophilic child is a child with special needs, not a monster in the making.

A pedophile is not an anger packet directed towards children. A pedophile is a human being with arrested sexual development. Most pedophiles have an immature form of autism that is child-centered in nature. Most individuals with autism have trouble relating to children. Thus, when a child with autism gets along with much younger children, think pedophile. Most of the time, the pedophile is acting as a defense attorney on behalf of a child. But, most pedophilic males in particular know how to nurture a child, meaning not through sex, but more appropriate forms of closeness. A child can be a pedophile, in which case they can be diagnosed at age 16, and identified even earlier.

Most people think being a pedophile alone is sin. However, pedophilia is not a moral crime. It is a flaw of the human genome, but it isn't a sin to be a pedophile. The Greek root word translated "fornication" is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers here not to mere sexual desires, but instead here refers to sexual advances towards a child, at minimum. Mere sexual attractions are not reasons for God to condemn an individual. Most men in the Early Church avoided sexual sin by way of masturbating righteously without pornography. I am a pedophile, and I convict myself with this Greek word. 

What your pedophilic child needs is room to masturbate to sexual thoughts of children. Use of pornography is prohibited in the Bible, but you can accommodate their sexual needs otherwise by letting them masturbate to sexual thoughts of children. In the Early Church, most men had a masturbation policy as an amendment to their theology, and that included anything that wouldn't fit into a Christian marriage, including attraction to children.

Most sexual offenses committed by pedophiles are committed out of curiosity, not intent to harm. What a pedophilic child needs is the reuse of body positivity literature. The more that children's private parts are known to a young pedophile, the less likely that their curiosity will land them to choose to sexually abuse a child. Most pedophiles who sexually abuse a child just want to see things, and so body positivity literature is the best bet to help them see things.

Most people think that we as survivors started the hysteria against pedophiles, including many who defend pedophiles. However, the hysteria actually started with the Roman Catholic Church. Pope Constantine issued a decree stating that when an individual admitted to sexual attraction to children, that all friends and family must disperse from them, with anyone defending the pedophile becoming a pedophile themselves. Before Rome took over, the Early Christians treated pedophiles well, meaning that when they disclosed their attractions, it was assumed that they needed help of some sort. Maybe a parent would stand in between their child and the pedophile. But, usually, the pedophile needed to use another person as a sounding board. Pedophiles then could even become clergy in the Early Church, and used the pulpit to advocate attachment parenting. Survivors only opposed pedophiles in order to win over the right kind of opposition of a pedophile, meaning one that mentioned trauma. Once a pedophile mentions a trauma here at survivors, they are welcome here any time.

Pedophiles have a collective parent trauma, usually from parents who sexually shame their pedophilic children. Usually, such parents know their child is a pedophile, and threaten to send them out on the street if they ever disclose. All trauma in a pedophile exists on the inherent level, meaning the sexual level. Most adults ignore their childhood traumas by focusing on parent anger at their child. But, a pedophile is usually incapable of any adult anger towards a child. Most child sexual abuse instead is committed out of anger, and has nothing to do with pedophilia. 

Most child sexual abuse is not committed by pedophiles. The sexual abuse of children is usually a crime of opportunity, meaning an adult acts on a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to rape, sexually assault, or sexually harass a child. Usually, this sexual abuse comes in the form of a rape. Sometimes, a pedophile does sexually abuse a child, but the motives are different, and the sex offender is left off by the police for not having intent to harm. Most pedophile rapes happen in the case of a mentally disabled offender, meaning the pedophile rapist usually has a low IQ. Most child sexual abuse committed by pedophiles happens in the context of what is called an obvious abuser - they have a crush on a child, and make it obvious to the child and everyone else around them.

I myself was an obvious abuser in my past. I myself, as a pedophile, usually acted on my desires in the form of street harassment. I had many crushes, coming like train cars, with everyone around me hoping for the caboose. I am under investigation for a specific incident of sexual harassment that happened in my grandparents' attic against my cousin. I was falsely and fraudulently accused of rape, when it was a form of sexual harassment instead. This whole platform is being monitored by the police, and thus I choose to be fully transparent in light of these allegations - I am non-deserving of appearances, and so I accept if I am seen in an unflattering way by my readers. I do mention being investigated for full disclosure purposes. The police have already decided that I am not guilty, due to not intending harm towards a child. I, however, believe I am guilty of sexual harassment of children, and deserve prison. I am grateful for the grace afforded to me by the legal system. 

Most pedophiles aren't like me. I didn't know where the boundaries are during the time of my offenses. Most pedophiles know where the boundaries are, with 3 out of 4 pedophiles having no acts of child sexual abuse under their belt. Most pedophiles, if they do pose a danger, only pose a danger to themselves. Most pedophiles hate their attractions to children, due to the fact that they are afraid of acting on their desires. They don't want to hurt a child, and so they hate their attractions. What they need to know is that if they are that afraid of abusing a child, that they are a good person and not a bad person. The problem is that many pedophiles have preplanned a suicide for if they are found out as a pedophile, especially if they have a co-morbid diagnosis of major depression.

Most pedophiles have a co-morbid diagnoses of moderate-severe autism spectrum disorder. I myself have moderate autism. I can tell you everything you need to know about parenting, but I can't even clean up after myself half the time. I struggle with things most people take for granted, such as organizational skills. Most pedophiles are like me, and focus on children all of the time in an autistic way in the course of their attractions. Autism usually comes with a mood disorder as well. Those with major depression usually pose a danger to themselves. The most risky form of pedophilia is mine - with a co-morbid diagnosis of bipolar mania. Bipolar disorder can come in the form of the sufferer being exclusively manic. I now take psychotropic medication to calm down my mind, namely lithium carbonate. Even with lithium treatment, you still need to learn the boundaries, especially if you are a pedophile. I use my Christian faith to convict me of the boundaries in our society, as our society is founded on Judeo-Christian norms. Medication can be seen as training wheels for the sufferer of mental illness to do the rest of the work on their own. I myself followed the 12 Steps in dealing with my pedophilia, leaning on the fourth step. I needed that kind of intervention. Most pedophiles do not. Most pedophiles instead need to learn to accept their sexual fantasies of children, and that can be done by masturbating to sexual thoughts of children to become more comfortable with your sexual desires. 

As a pro-pedophile advocate for children, I seek to ban the pejorative use of the word "pedophile". Most pedophiles pose no risk apart from maybe to themselves, and most adults who sexually abuse children aren't pedophiles. "Our abuser" as survivors was not a pedophile, but rather was a womanizer who had "I own the world" delusions. We as survivors profile for pedophiles differently. He may be a pedophile, but is he a rapist? If he is a rapist, we exile them. If he simply has attractions to children, he can be here anytime. Maybe he is an abuser other than a rapist, in which case he is lumped in with rapists and not welcome here. Pro-pedophile, in the context of children's rights, means making it okay for pedophiles to admit to their desires without threat of mental health stigma. My religion is children's rights, not "pedophilia". 

The depraved and entitled parents who sexually shame their pedophilic children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!  

Passing down the faith: How to instruct your children in the Lord without punitive measures

Many parents want their children to have values. This is a common goal for parents to have. Most American parents want their children to embrace Judeo-Christian values. However, many conservative Christian parents in particular seek to "break their will" in relation to their children. However, there are better ways to instruct your child in the Lord than using punitive measures.

God's Law on proper discipline, including proper religious instruction, is spelled out in Ephesians 6:4 KJV: 

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

This first stanza clarifies for the second that religious instruction should not hurt. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is one thing to stop spanking your child. However, it is not enough to stop spanking children, or even stop punishing children, including in the course of religious instruction. You need to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults. Just like hurt feelings are inevitable in relations between adults, hurt feelings are also inevitable in children when dealing with them. Thus, in order to avoid offense in children, you need to be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt your children's feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent coming from parents, in the form of a half-apology, when a child's feelings are hurt by limits not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while setting limits, you definitely need to give a formal apology for hurting your child's feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to losing your cool with your child ever again, as any parent anger directed towards a child is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This stanza of this commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions onto children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. However, this stanza of this commandment ultimately prohibited any offense perceived by a child, when understood in context. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christian did it anyway, obeying God over men.

You do not need to beat religion into children. Religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and is more aptly translated as "instruction" in more modern versions of the Bible. The Apostle Paul here was referring to religious instruction, of a specific type. Starting at age 6, fathers left out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement to keep on studying the Bible. Fathers then said "you can ask me anything about that book". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format. Children were curious about Scripture, with fathers giving pointers on the context. 

Christian parents oftentimes rush the religious development of their children. Children do not need their will broken. Children develop a religion on their own. One thing Christian parents do to rush their child's religious development is to force their children into grateful postures. I tie my hands behind my back whenever possible, and nobody made me when I was a child. Grateful postures are simply a sign of progress in terms of childhood religious development. 

Breaking your child's will does not work. The reason for this is because children do not have any sort of will to begin with. Children simply have wants, with most of these wants being benign in nature. Children will find religion all on their own, in which case you should praise them for finding God. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Defiance: Why punishing your child for defiance is child abuse

Many parents have been there. A child is acting defiant towards parents. This is a common scenario in parenting. Most parents punish their child for acting defiant towards parents. However, the fact of the matter is that punishing your child for defiance is child abuse. 

God's Law on child abuse is spelled out Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is one thing to stop spanking your child, including for defiance. However, it is not enough to stop spanking your child, or even stop punishing your child altogether. You need to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults. Just as hurt feelings are inevitable in relations between adults, hurt feelings are also inevitable in children when dealing with them. One reason for children's feelings being hurt is that they cannot accept a set limit. One way children voice their displeasure for their parents' limits is through defiance. Usually, defiance in children comes in the form of forceful tears, with this defiance being due to children not being able to accept limits. The key to dealing with defiance is to be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt your children's feelings with your limits. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent, in the form of a half-apology, whenever you hurt your child's feelings with limits not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while setting limits, you need to give a formal apology to children for hurting their feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool with your child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", including the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, including spanking or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. However, this commandment ultimately referred then to any offense perceived by a child. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men. 

Defiance in children is inevitable in parenting. Such behavior in children is normal for them. Christian parents in the Early Church knew more than parents today that when a child is being defiant, they simply cannot accept a limit. Parents then did not take defiance personally like parents today do. Instead, they simply apologized for having to set a limit.

Any parent anger directed towards children then was seen in the Early Church as entitlement. Most Christian parents in the Early Church did not ever get angry with their child. Instead, they were the type of parent to worry a lot. In most Christian households then, limits were set out of worry or concern, not anger towards a child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Redefining child abuse: Why the Bible calls for expanding child abuse definitions

Many parents think that the ancients in the Bible had no concept of childhood, let alone child abuse. Most American parents support the present-day child abuse definitions under the secular law. However, God's Law is above the law of the land. The Bible has its own definition of child abuse - whatever the child victim perceives as abuse. 

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent being sorely disappointed when they don't get the well-behaved child that they feel that they deserve. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Even any parent anger directed towards children is parental entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. When this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by the child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. Child abuse in the Bible, as a legal concept, consists of entitlement in parents, leading to offense in children. The key to not abusing your child is to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults. Just as hurt feelings are inevitable in relations between adults, hurt feelings are also inevitable in children when dealing with them. Thus, in order to avoid offense in children, you need to be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt your child's feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent in parents, in the form of a half-apology, whenever you hurt your child's feelings with a limit not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while setting limits, you definitely need to give a formal apology for hurting your child's feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as any parent anger directed towards a child is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", including the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. However, even the slightest of personal offense in children was prohibited under this commandment. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men. 

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers to long-term damages, namely childhood trauma. The ancients in the Bible had a basic concept of childhood trauma. Whenever a child grew up to be atheist, shame fell onto the parents for being too harsh with their child. An atheist then was seen as an abused child, not a "lost soul" to be "won over". 

The ancients in the Bible also had a concept of child sexual abuse. The Greek root word translated "fornication" is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers to any sexual relations with another person outside of a Christian marriage between one adult man and one adult woman, including, but not limited to, any sexual relations with a child. A man in the Early Church could only have two outlets - sex with a wife, or else masturbation without pornography. All forms of pornography were prohibited to be on a person's possession, including that which depicts children. Most child sexual abuse happened as a form of domestic violence against the child. Most men have a sexual attraction to their daughter in particular, and the only way that fathers could deal with that attraction was to masturbate to fantasies of his daughter. When you masturbate to thoughts of your child, you imprint onto them that way, and then a close bond will flow between father and child, namely father and daughter. Child sexual abuse in the biblical context was rare, meaning next to non-existent. Whenever a child was sexually abused, even in the Old Testament, it was a shock, with the sex offender being seen as deserving of death.

Child abuse in the Early Church was prosecuted by way of internal church investigation. In most cases, the investigation started with a child confiding into a church elder or deacon about their home life. From there, the parents were subpoenaed to appear before the council, and testify on how they treated their children. If the parents were at all defensive of their behavior towards their child, they were excommunicated from the church for their entitlement alone. 

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - were written by anti-spanking Jews, with most Jews being anti-spanking throughout Jewish history. All of the biblical writers also wrote parenting manuals, with these parenting manuals advocating attachment parenting as a means of bringing up children. Even King Solomon wrote one of these attachment parenting manuals, with the rod verses in Proverbs referring to a sentence for a crime, namely the 40 minus 1 lashes. It just so happens that these parenting manuals were not translated into English until the 1960s.

The Bible is America's book. America is a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian values. We as a society glean from the Bible and its context for instruction as to how to live and treat each other with respect. Even our legal codes are based off of the Bible. However, the "reasonable chastisement" defense is based off of dated Christian teaching. It is about time that we repeal the "reasonable chastisement" defense and pass more expansive child abuse definitions. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss, which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torrents, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Spare the rod, spoil the child": Why the rod verses in Proverbs are repealed verses

Many parents think that it is okay to spank a child. Most parents get their pro-spanking advice from religious sources. These pastors cite 5 verses in Proverbs as their "proof" that spanking is commanded of parents by God. However, these rod verses, in all actuality, do not refer to parenting at all, but instead refer to judicial corporal punishment of adults.

The most commonly cited rod verse is Proverbs 13:24 KJV:

He who spareth his rod hateth his son: but he who loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

The Hebrew word translated "son" is ben and refers here to a mature adult son. The Hebrew word translated "rod" is shebet and refers here to the rod of correction, namely a switch, applied to the bare back, within a courtroom setting, as a sentence for a crime. This passage ultimately refers to the 40 minus 1 lashes. In the Old Testament, striking another Jew was prohibited except in the context of a courtroom. Striking a minor child then was strictly prohibited. The reason for this commandment was that, otherwise, the father would refuse to whip his son. The court deputized fathers to whip their sons when his child ran afoul of the law. 

The harsh legal punishments in the Old Testament are repealed by the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ, including judicial whippings. Christ was whipped with 40 minus 1 lashes unjustly before being placed onto the cross. Thus, the Early Christians shunned all corporal punishment done under Roman law, or any corporal punishment for that matter. 

The rod verses in Proverbs do not discuss parenting of any kind, let alone corporal punishment in parenting. There is no such thing as a "biblical spanking" in the Bible. However, the Bible does weigh in on the spanking issue, and then some. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is one thing to stop spanking your child. However, it is not enough to stop spanking your child, or even stop punishing your child. You need to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults. Just like hurt feelings are inevitable in relations between adults, hurt feelings are also inevitable in children when dealing with them. Thus, in order to avoid offense in children, you need to be willing to give a meaningful apology to children whenever you hurt their feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent from parents, in the form of a half-apology, whenever children cannot accept a limit not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while setting limits, you definitely need to give a formal apology for hurting your child's feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool with your child in and of itself is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting of children in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The 40 minus 1 lashes was a once in a lifetime experience that was recollected as a harrowing experience. The rod verses in Proverbs refer to this legal punishment. The 40 minus 1 lashes was a final warning before an offender was to death for further recidivism. We don't live under the Law of Moses as Christians, as Christ repealed these harsh legal punishments so that we don't have to live under them.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All of the biblical writers, including the Apostle Paul, issued parenting manuals to parents. These parenting manuals advocated for attachment parenting, in the most convicting of ways. Even King Solomon wrote one of these attachment parenting manuals. The rod of correction was a punishment reserved for adults who ran afoul of the law.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Hebrews 12:5-6: Why this passage is not a pro-spanking passage

Many parents use the Bible as a source for parenting advice. However, most American parents believe that the Bible is pro-spanking. A common verse in the New Testament used as "evidence" for the validity of any "biblical spanking" is Hebrews 12:5-6. This case for spanking is posited on shaky ground. The Bible does not refer to earthly parenting in this passage in Hebrews, but rather discusses enduring hardship.

God's Word on enduring hardship is stated in Hebrews 12:5-6 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation that speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.

This passage, when interpreted correctly, is comforting to me. The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μαστιγόω (Latin: mastigoó) and can have a figurative meaning to it. This form of metaphorical language in Ancient Greek was known as rod language. Whenever a Christian then got home from a long day at work, you instead said "God whipped me hard today". God does not literally descend from the Heavens and whip His children. However, God does punish His children, like only He can, sending trials and tribulations the way of the children He cherishes the most. But, God only punishes children when it does not harm them, whereas earthly parents only punish their children when it does, in fact, harm them. This passage was intended as comfort for the Hebrew Christians in their persecution from Rome.

Heb. 12:5-6 is not a pro-spanking passage. This verse does not refer to earthly parenting at all, since God does not want His Parenting strategies to be used by earthly parents. However, the Bible does touch on the spanking issue, and then some. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is one thing to stop spanking your child. However, it is not enough to stop spanking, or even stop punishing children. You need to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults. Just as hurt feelings are inevitable in relations between adults, hurt feelings are inevitable in children when dealing with them. Thus, in order to avoid offense in children, you need to be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt your child's feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent, in the form of a half-apology, when children cannot accept a limit not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while setting limits, you definitely need to give a formal apology for hurting your children's feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing your temper with you", and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as any parent anger directed towards children is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions onto children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

In the broader Greco-Roman world, the staple punishment was spanking to the bare bottom with an open hand. This was seen by most Christian parents then as pagan parenting. The Early Christians shunned all punitive parenting of children, including any corporal punishment in parenting. Punitive parenting was seen then as of this world, and was shunned as such.

Christian parents in the Early Church were almost never motivated by anger. Parenting in the Early Church instead was motivated by worry or concern. Anger in a parent, when directed towards a child, was seen as akin to a viper striking out against an unsuspecting child. Maybe the child was given warning, but that's about it. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous respect: Why children should respect their parents out of closeness (not fear)

Many parents want their children to respect them. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents believe in insisting on respect from children. However, respect for parents is a part of the Bible and its context, but involves closeness to parents, not fear of parents. 

The Bible commands a secure bond between parent and child in the family home. See Colossians 3:20 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to surrender of a specific type, namely surrender to the loving arms of parents, including especially the loving arms of mothers. Ultimately, this commandment refers to a secure bond between parent and child. The context tells us how to form a secure bond with children.

Respect for parents was a thing in biblical times. However, this respect came in the form of closeness to parents, not fear of parents. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mom went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Children aged 2-6 ranged next to mothers constantly, seemingly attached at the hip, following mothers from room to room, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever young children cried, mothers cooed before picking up the child, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed, they got it. Whenever mothers and children under age 6 were out and about, mom wrapped up her child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, in skin-on-skin closeness. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers, with this co-sleeping usually lasting until puberty. Children then went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the context of the family home, with this birth nudity setup setting the stage for intense skin-on-skin closeness between mother and child. 

Children past age 6 were close to their parents in another way. Parents then did not give lawfully binding orders to children, but instead simply asked things of their children. In return, children asked things of parents. Children usually listened to their parents almost blindly, much akin to goslings to a mother goose. Compliance is an aspect of a secure bond between parent and child. The child worships the ground that mom walks on, and mothers worship the ground that their child walks on.

Respect is earned in life, including in parenting. The key to earn your child's respect is to care for your child during the formative years of their childhood, namely the first 6 years of childhood. From there, children learn to respect parents out of secure trust in parents. When attachment parents grow to be elderly, children care for their aging parents. See Exod. 20:12; Eph. 6:2-3. Honoring parents means caring for your aging parents. 

The depraved and entitled parents who punish their children for perceived disrespect will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into ever-burning Hell-fire, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent! 

Original sin: How to teach your child about original sin without punitive measures

Many parents of the conservative Christian sort believe in the doctrine of original sin. Original sin is the backbone of Christianity. Without original sin, there would be no need for a Savior. Most parents teach original sin by way of punitive measures. However, the fact of the matter is that there are better ways to teach a child that they were born in sin.

The proper way to teach your child about original sin is spelled out in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

This first stanza of this commandment clarifies for the second that punishment or shaming are no way to teach a child that they are born in sin. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is one thing to stop spanking your child. However, it is not enough to stop spanking, or even stop punishing children. You need to avoid offense in your child. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults. Just like hurt feelings are inevitable in relations between adults, hurt feelings are inevitable in children when dealing with them. Thus, to avoid offense in children, you need to be willing to give a meaningful apology to children for hurting their feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent, in the form of a half-apology, whenever a child cannot accept a limit not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while setting limits, you definitely need to give a formal apology for your child for hurting their feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to losing your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool with your child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This stanza of this commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the parish at Ephesus their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men. 

Children can come to the conclusion that they are sinners without a parent breathing down their throat in that regard. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and better translates as "instruction" in more modern versions of the Bible. Paul here was discussing religious instruction of a specific sort. Starting at age 6, fathers left out a Bible for children to discover and explore. From there, when children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, fathers lavishly praised and encouraged children to keep on studying, then saying "you can ask me anything about that book". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format. Children are bound to ask about original sin when they are ready to handle harsh realities. The main reason it would come up is if they asked "Why did Jesus have to die?". The proper answer is that "we are sinners as human beings, and thus we need a Savior to save us from sin". You don't ever call a child a sinner. Simply point out to them "we are sinners" when speaking about human beings as a collective.

It is not acceptable to see your child as a sinner that seeks to undermine your "authority" as a parent. A child is not a "sinful swat" to hate. A child is a primal human being that parents welcome into their home at the parents' doorstep. Children are born in sin, but that just means they are imperfect in their nature. The opposite of sin is perfection. Maybe some of us as adults have hit perfection, but children surely have not. The idea is to accommodate a child's primal nature, until they are ready to behave maturely.

Human nature is in no way "good". We as a human race have a flawed genome that only makes sense in the context of peacekeeping. God rescued mankind from a sinful past, frought with rape and pillaging in all aspects of life. Anger at children is also a mainstay of peacekeeping in our human genome. We as human beings are depraved and decadent sinners deserving of nothing but punishment just for existing as human beings. It isn't mostly the children that are sinners. It is ALL of us as human beings. Focus on your own sins as a parent. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Expanding child abuse definitions: Why the Bible calls for stronger laws against child abuse

Many parents think that the ancients in the Bible had no concept of childhood, let alone child abuse. Most American parents support the present-day definitions of child abuse. However, the Bible has its own definition of child abuse - whatever the child victim perceives as abuse. We are a Judeo-Christian nation, and thus the Bible helps us understand how to frame legislation, including child abuse laws.

 

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent that is sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. However, even any parent anger directed towards children is parental entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. Whenever this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was seen as child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. Child abuse in the Bible, as a legal concept, consists of entitlement in parents, leading to offense in children. The key to not abusing your child is to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults. Just like hurt feelings are inevitable in relations between adults, hurt feelings are also inevitable in children when dealing with them. Thus, in order to avoid offense in children, you need to be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt your child's feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent from parents, in the form of a half-apology, when children cannot accept a limit not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while setting limits, you definitely need to give a formal apology to your child for hurting their feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to losing your cool with your child ever again, as parent anger directed towards children is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The Greek root word translating "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers to long-term damages, namely childhood trauma. The ancients in the Bible had a basic understanding of childhood trauma. Whenever a child grew up to be atheist, shame fell onto parents, not the child becoming atheist. An atheist in the Early Church was seen as an abused child, not a "lost soul" in need of "winning over". 

The ancients in the Bible even had an understanding of child sexual abuse. The Greek root word translated "fornication" is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers to, in short, any sexual relations outside of a Christian marriage between one adult man and one adult woman, with the marriage needing to be equitable in nature. Most child sexual abuse then happened in the family home, and even in the Old Testament, sexually abusing a child was seen as a capital offense. Most men then had a sexual crush on their daughters, in which case they masturbated to sexual thoughts of their daughters. It is a myth that men raped their daughters in the Early Church. Nothing usually happened apart from sexual fantasy about children in the form of righteous masturbation, or masturbation without pornography for health reasons. All pornography then was seen as contraband, including pornography then that depicted children. Pornography was defined as any depiction with intent to sexually arouse others. Child sexual abuse then was rare, meaning next to non-existent.

Child abuse in the Early Church was prosecuted by way of internal church investigation. The investigation usually started with a child confiding into a clergyperson about their home life. From there, a council of three elders subpoenaed the parents to testify before them. If the parents were defensive at all when being cross-examined, they were excommunicated from the Early Christian Churches of God. 

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - were written by Jews, with no Jew worth mentioning ever endorsing anything punitive towards a child. All of the biblical writers then wrote parenting manuals that advocated for attachment parenting. Even King Solomon wrote a parenting manual advocating attachment parenting for minor children, with the rod in Proverbs referring to a sentence for a crime, namely the 40 minus 1 lashes. It just so happens that these parenting manuals were not translated into English until the 1960s.

The Bible is America's book. America is a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian values. Even our legal codes are based off of biblical teaching. However, our biblical understanding of childhood has advanced, and thus so should our legal understanding of childhood, including child abuse. It is about time we repeal the "reasonable chastisement" defense and pass stronger child abuse definitions. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torrents, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Passing down the faith: How to instruct children in the Lord without punitive measures

Many parents want children to have values. This is a common goal for parents to have for their children. Most American parents want their children to embrace a values system of some sort. However, many American parents believe in "breaking their will" in regard to children. The fact of the matter is that there are better ways to impart Judeo-Christian values onto children. 

God's Law on proper discipline, including religious instruction, is spelled out in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

This stanza of this commandment clarifies for the second that religious instruction should not hurt. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. The key here in proper parenting is to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults. Just as hurt feelings are inevitable in relations between adults, hurt feelings are inevitable in children when dealing with them. Thus, in order to avoid offense in children, you need to be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt your child's feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent from parents, in the form of a half-apology, whenever a child cannot accept a limit not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child, including while setting limits, you definitely need to give a formal apology whenever you hurt your child's feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit to never losing your cool with your child ever again, as parent anger directed towards children alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This stanza of this commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase translating roughly to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

There is no need to "break the will" of children. Religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and is better translated as "instruction" in more modern versions of the Bible. The Apostle Paul was referring here to religious instruction. Starting at age 6, fathers left out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement to keep up the Bible study. Then, fathers said to their children "you can ask me anything about that book". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format. Children were curious about Scripture, and fathers were quick to give pointers on the context.

Many parents seek to hasten religious development in children. For example, children are often forced into grateful postures in order to "make them grateful". Instead, children find grateful postures on their own, once they hit a certain level of perfection. I tie my hands behind my back to show gratitude, and nobody taught me to do so. It just feels comfy to be in that position all of the time.

A common form of religious instruction is to "break the will" of children. The idea is to keep punishing children until they submit to Christ. The problem with that is that a child does not have a will to be broken. A will is something a narcissist has, not an innocent child. A child instead wants things, usually in a benign way, meaning children don't ask for much. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Adult attraction to children: Individual responsibility for adults attracted to children

Many parents support preventing child sexual abuse. This is a normal attitude on the part of a parent. What parent does not want their child to be safe? Most adults go by the concept of collective responsibility, meaning the collective stops an adult "pedophile" from sexually abusing a child. Usually, it isn't found out anyways until someone blows the whistle. However, the Bible calls for individual responsibility in preventing child sexual abuse. 

Every single adult is individually collectively responsible for the sexual abuse of children, as any old adult can sexually abuse a child under the right/wrong conditions. Usually, child sexual abuse is a crime of opportunity, not a career crime. Most adults who sexually abuse children don't take care of their sexual needs, and then it spills out sideways onto the nearest child victim. 

The Bible teaches righteous avoidance in cases of fornication, with fornication being denoted in the Bible by the Greek root word πορνεία (Latin: porneia). Basically, righteous avoidance is mapping out when you would offend against a child, and then avoiding those conditions. Also, righteous avoidance refers to righteous masturbation, meaning an adult should masturbate to the first child that comes to mind. Usually, the child in his fantasy is his daughter. If it smells off, you need to do it again, until you come to a point where the attraction is in the background. It should usually take about one or two sessions to fully purge a child attraction. If it takes more, you are a pedophile, and you need to own up to it. Masturbation without pornography was seen in biblical times as a way out of trouble. Pornography of any kind was prohibited under Christian law. 

Most pedophiles do not sexually abuse children, and are the last of adults to do so. 3 out of 4 pedophiles have never sexually abused a child. Sometimes, a pedophile does sexually abuse a child, in which case they rarely mean harm by it. Most child rapists who are pedophiles have a low IQ which makes the case excusable by the police standard. In the case of pedophiles with a normal IQ, the offender usually is obvious about their crushes on children, with the crushes coming like train cars. 

I myself have sexually abused a child. My main modus operandi was street harassment, in the form of flirtation, namely the "hey baby" wave. However, I did sexually harass a cousin in the attic of my grandparents' house. I freshened up her sides as she was beginning to grow breasts. I now know the boundaries around children. I didn't until I shed my atheism, and became a Christian. I am an ex-atheist because I was clueless as to the boundaries in the past. I am deserving of nothing but prison just for crossing those boundaries, and so I am grateful for the grace coming from the police. I am a regret adult in that capacity, meaning I regret how I related to children in the past. I did much of it as an adult as a child, meaning I was an adult in the course of my sexual offenses against children. 

A pedophile is a natural parent towards children, but of the parallel sort. In the Early Church, pedophiles were among the clergypersons giving parenting advice. Some pedophiles in the Early Church were appointed to clergy, where they wrote whole sermons convicting parents on their parenting. Some pedophiles even took in children when nobody else would, including the Apostle Paul. Parenting manuals were often written by pedophiles, and were not written then in the supportive tense, but rather in the convicting tense, telling parents what to avoid and then expecting them to parent properly as comes naturally. Whenever you see parenting advice come in a spiritually convicting way, think pedophile, but the non-contact type. Even if the pedophile had a sin list in relation to children, all they had to do was convict themselves in that regard, and then they could convict other parents.

Most pedophiles in the Early Church did not become clergypersons. But, whenever they brought up the topic of pedophilia, it was assumed that they needed help to some degree. If they needed so, the parents stood in between the pedophile and the child they were sexually attracted to. However, all that was necessary in most cases was a person to talk out their desires with. Today, a therapist can easily fit this role for a pedophile. Thanks to my lobbying, most all trauma-informed mental health professionals are on board with treating pedophiles the right way, as most pedophiles come with special trauma needs of their own. It is an under-the-table type of understanding pedophiles, but most trauma-informed professionals are willing to keep the secret of the pedophile, now that they understand what pedophilia is. 

The hysteria about pedophiles is often attributed to us as trauma survivors. However, the mental health stigma for admitting to being a pedophile started not here, but from Pope Constantine. Pope Constantine wrote an ex-cathedra statement saying that when attraction to children is admitted by an adult, "all shall disperse", meaning you lose all your friends and family. Most Catholic priests who sexually abuse altarboys are not pedophiles, but instead are "ex-gay" men who repress homosexual desires. What doesn't help is that masturbation alone is a big sin in the Roman Catholic Church even today, due to the alleged causal link to pornography in men in particular. I oppose pornography entirely on Christian grounds, but support solo masturbation to sexual thoughts of children. It isn't the masturbation that is the problem, but the powerful images that often come with it. A pedophile should have no problem identifying by their mental health disorder to anyone that they need help from. Many times, when they feel completely listened to, they drop the topic on their own. 

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape or sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of ever-burning Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Child discipline: How to discipline your child without punishment or force

Many parents want their children to have discipline. This is a common goal amongst American parents. However, most American parents equate discipline with punishment. But, the fact of the matter is that proper discipline should not hurt.

God's Law on proper discipline is spelled out in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

This first stanza clarifies for the second that discipline should not hurt. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is one thing to stop spanking or punishing children. But, it is not enough to stop spanking or punishing children. You need to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults. Just like hurt feelings are inevitable in relations between adults, hurt feelings in children are inevitable when dealing with them. Thus, in order to avoid offense in children, you need to be willing to give a meaningful apology to children for hurting their feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent from parents, in the form of a half-apology, when children cannot accept a limit not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while setting limits, you definitely need to give a formal apology to your child for hurting their feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit to not losing your cool with your child, as losing your cool with your child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This stanza of this commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions onto children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

This second stanza of this commandment spells out proper discipline, with the first stanza ruling out anything punitive with a child. The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia), and refers to a specific form of nurturing, namely of the teaching sort. Christian parents in the Early Church looked for preferred behaviors in children, and when parents saw these behaviors in children, they praised and encouraged more good behavior of the same. Parents in the Early Church imparted a good Christian example for children to emulate, with this example being backed up by praise and encouragement, as opposed to punishment or force. Children also need religious instruction, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and is better translated as "instruction" in more modern versions of the Bible. The Apostle Paul here was referring to religious instruction of a certain type. Starting at age 6, fathers left out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement in their religious learning. Fathers then said to children, "you can ask me anything about that book". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, with children being curious about Scripture, and with fathers being quick to give pointers on the context. This second stanza refers to the Hebraic parenting tradition of positive reinforcement, with this tradition predating Christ by thousands of years.

Sometimes, a parent needs to set a limit with their child. However, them accepting limits is another story. Whenever a child cannot accept a set limit, it is a good time to apologize to them for hurting their feelings. If you refuse to apologize for hurting your child's feelings, it is then officially an offense under God's Law.

It is a myth that children in the Bible were raped as a means of discipline. Sexual correction of childhood behaviors was completely prohibited under Christian law. Fathers did have parent attractions to their children, usually their daughters, but fathers were prohibited under Christian law from sexually abusing their child in any respect. Instead, fathers disciplined their children by catching them being good, and then praising them for it. Fathers did masturbate to thoughts of children, however. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pedophilia awareness month: Mental health awareness for pedophiles

Many parents worry about their child falling prey to a child rapist. This is a common and normal worry amongst parents everywhere. However, most people think pedophiles are to blame for the epidemic of child sexual abuse. This month is pedophilia awareness month. That means we shine a light on the rare mental disorder that is pedophilia. It isn't what you think it is.

A pedophile is not an anger packet directed towards children. A pedophile is a human being with a sexual preference for children under age 14, in the form of arrested sexual development. Most pedophiles have a form of immature autism with the narrow focus being on children and childhood. Pedophilia is a genetic disorder falling on the genetic lines of autism. Most autistic people do not have pedophilia, but most pedophiles have a child-centered form of autism. Most adults with autism find children to be "too noisy" or "too chaotic". Thus, when someone with autism does get along naturally with children, think pedophile, but the right type. A pedophile usually has trauma of some sort, in most cases in the form of parent trauma. 

Pedophilia is arguably the most stigmatized mental health disorder out there. Most people who ally themselves with pedophiles blame trauma survivors for the societal hysteria concerning pedophiles. However, the hysteria predates survivors by a long time. When Rome took over the Western Christian Church, Pope Constantine issued an ex-cathedra statement stating that when someone admitted to sexual attractions to children, that "all friends and family must disperse". The word "pedophile" was intended by Viennese psychiatrist Richard von Krafft-Ebing as a means to excuse adults attracted to children from this fate. Not only were pedophiles banned, but also siding with a pedophile. Hence, trauma survivors have long advocated for pedophiles by attracting just the right opposition to their anti-pedophile proposals. Most trauma survivors know that a pedophile can have trauma, but they made up a falsehood in order to be corrected by a pedophile. 

A pedophile can be a survivor in their own right, meaning pedophiles are usually fully aware of trauma from the time that they were abused as children. Most people need to dig a little to get to childhood trauma. A pedophile is inherently traumatized when they are abused by parents or other adults. We as a movement are winning over pedophiles currently, following the Danish model of pedophile inclusion in a children's rights movement. 

A pedophile is a person with a valid mental health disorder. Pedophilia in and of itself becomes a disorder officially when the pedophile needs therapy. Most pedophilia can be treated in an outpatient setting, meaning all they need is to give a clinical celebratory disclosure to a therapist. Most trauma-informed professionals know how to treat a pedophile, and I helped with that by being a case study for survivors and other professionals to understand from. A pedophile needs to be allowed to masturbate to sexual thoughts of children. Solo masturbation without pornography does not lead to more masturbation, but instead leads to less masturbation - the more you masturbate as a pedophile, the less you need to. 

Most child sexual abuse is not committed by pedophiles. Child sexual abuse usually is a crime of opportunity, meaning a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to rape a child. Usually, it is intended as a policing form of abuse against "child immodesty". Most child rapists have a sexual preference for adults, but target children who are sexually threatening to them in terms of "immodesty".. 

A pedophile is capable of sexually abusing a child, much like every single adult is. However, most pedophilic offenses against children are not done with intent to harm, meaning the pedophile simply was unaware of the boundaries in relation to children. The most common form of pedophile rape is committed by an abuser with a low IQ. Other than that, moat abuser pedophiles are obvious abusers in their sexual harassment of children. 1 in 4 pedophiles are guilty of child sexual abuse. Most pedophiles are aware of the boundaries, and painfully so since they are morbidly afraid of sexually abusing a child.

Most pedophile self-hatred comes from the fear in the pedophile that they might sexually abuse a child. Most pedophiles do care about children, but they fail to understand that their fear of abusing a child sexually makes them a good person, not a bad person. An anguished pedophile disclosure is not a form of manipulation, but is a pedophile being afraid of doing something that they never will. Being told that they have a "date with the devil" from professionals is the last thing a pedophile needs. Even if they have urges, those urges come from fear of something that is never going to happen, meaning that whenever you fight back sexual desires that inherent in nature, they come back as urges. 

I myself have abused a child sexually in the past. My main modus operandi was street harassment. I also committed sexual harassment in the attic with a female cousin of mine. I am currently under investigation for a rape that never happened. However, there is a kernel of truth in most false accusations. I never committed rape in my lifetime, but I did my share of sexual harassment. I did not mean harm at all with my actions, and so the police let it go and charged the false accusators with making a false child abuse report. Two aunts and an uncle made a false and fraudulent prediction that I would commit a string of rapes starting with a cousin. I know the boundaries now, thanks to my Christian faith. I struggled with boundaries in the past. I am grateful for the grace afforded by the police, as I deserve none of it. I have learned that a false accusation does not go on your criminal record, as the police shred all of the documents pertaining to your case. All the police had to do was issue a warning on my doorstep for summary harassment. The police then believed the false accusation, and then they were replaced by police who were not promised a false raid. My little cousin would never lie about me abusing her, meaning she was falsely accused by the police then of being a rape victim. I stand by my cousin, and don't think she is guilty of anything.

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape and sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of ever-burning Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Defiance: Why not to punish a defiant child

Many parents have had to deal with it. A child acting defiant to parents. This is a common and normal behavior in children. What most parents do not understand is that children aren't out to get parents with their defiance. They just cannot accept a limit set by parents. Punishing a child for being defiant constitutes child abuse under God's Law.

God's Law on child abuse is spelled out in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. The key to not abusing your child is to avoid offense in your child. Just as hurt feelings are inevitable in relations between adults, hurt feelings are also inevitable in children when dealing with them. Thus, in order to avoid offense in children, you need to be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever your hurt your child's feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent, in the form of a half-apology, in the case of a limit that a child cannot accept not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while setting limits, you definitely need to give a formal apology to children for hurting their feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my cool with you", and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as parent anger directed towards children alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. One thing that hurts a child's feelings is when they cannot accept a set limit. One way children express their displeasure for set limits is by acting defiant to parents. This is not intended by the child as an attempt to "undermine parental authority". Children have trouble accepting limits as a normal stage of development. The key is to apologize to your child whenever they cannot accept a limit, and mean it, even if it is just a half-apology to reassure a child of good intent in parents. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christians who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men. 

Defiance is not an attempt for a child to "undermine parental authority". Instead, defiance is normal behavior in children. Usually, children who act defiant cannot accept a set limit. Thus, they need help working through their upset, namely with an apology to children. 

Most parents punish defiant children due to anger. Most parents focus on their parent anger towards children as a means to run away from dealing with their trauma from punitive parenting. However, the Early Church banned parent anger directed towards children, and deemed it entitlement, and then deemed it child abuse in the case that the child was offended or damaged by your anger.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Benign" deprivation: Why telling "no" to children "frequent and often" can be seen as child abuse

Many parents buy into the parenting doctrine of "benign" deprivation. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Ultimately, this parenting doctrine amounts to "frequent and often" use of the word "no". However, the fact of the matter is that frequent use of the word "no" alone can been seen as child abuse.

God's Law on child abuse is spelled out in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. The key to not abusing your child is to avoid offense in children. Part of avoiding offense in children is to only use the word "no" as a parent when absolutely necessary, meaning almost never. The idea is to find every reason to say "yes" to a child, as opposed to finding every reason to tell a child "no". However, sometimes you need to tell a child "no". In the case that the word "no" is necessary, and a child cannot accept the declination of requests, you need to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt your child's feelings, lest it officially be an offense. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent, in the form of a half-apology, in the case of a child not being able to accept the word "no" when not given out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including when saying "no", you definitely need to give a formal apology to your child for hurting their feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to losing your cool with your child ever again, as any parent anger directed towards children is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan parenting customs, which were punitive in nature. Paul, contrary to popular writings, opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

Most "benign" deprivation is motivated by parent anger directed towards children. However, parent anger towards children in the Bible was a banned emotion in parenting. Any time a parent got angry with their child, it was seen by Christian culture then as akin to a viper lashing out at its prey - maybe the child got a warning, but not by much. Parents then largely did not get angry with a child, and if they did, they stuck out like a weed. The word "no" should only be used in the case of worry or concern in parents, meaning never anger.

Telling children "no" all of the time can be seen as child abuse as perceived by the child. It is okay to say "no" to children rarely, when necessary. However, saying "no" all of the time can lead to child abuse in terms of offenses. Parents then found ways to say "no" nicer with alternative phrases to the word "no", such as "that can't happen", "that won't work", or "that isn't possible". 

A common place of contention between parents is in the store. Most parents say "no" to everything their child gets off the shelf. However, you as a parent should give them that candy bar. You most certainly can afford it, so what is the big deal? In proper parenting, children should see their parents as the bringer of good things, not a menace to be feared. In the Early Church, parents let their children pick licorice off the shelf whenever they so pleased, and allowing for those things helped gel a secure bond with children. If you truly cannot afford it, you put it back if they won't. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Redefining child abuse: Why the Bible calls for expanding child abuse definitions

Many parents think that the ancients in the Bible had no concept of childhood, let alone child abuse. This is a common misconception about the Bible. Most parents instead support today's child abuse definitions. However, the Bible has its own definition of child abuse - whatever the child victim perceives as abuse. Most all of our legal codes here in the United States are based off of biblical teachings. Thus, the child abuse definitions under the secular law need to change. 

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent being sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Even any parent anger directed towards a child is parental entitlement, and was seen as parental entitlement in the Early Church. Whenever this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by children as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. Child abuse in the Bible, as a legal concept, consists of entitlement in parents, leading to offense in children. The key to not abusing your child is to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults. Just as hurt feelings are inevitable in relations between adults, hurt feelings are also inevitable in children when dealing with them. Thus, in order to avoid offense in a child, you need to be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt your child's feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent in the case of limits not set out of anger, in the form of a half-apology, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while setting limits, you definitely need to give a formal apology for hurting your child's feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to losing your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool with your child, in and of itself, is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin term roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spankings or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers to long-term damages, namely childhood trauma. The ancients in the Bible had their own concept of childhood trauma. Whenever a child grew up to be atheist, shame fell on the parents for being too harsh with their child. An atheist then was seen as an abused child, not a "lost soul" to be "won over". 

The ancients in the Bible even had a concept of child sexual abuse. The Greek root word translated "fornication" is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers here to, in sum, any sexual relations outside of the context of a Christian marriage between one adult man and one adult woman. The only outlets a man could have then was sex with his wife, or else solo masturbation without pornography. Fathers even masturbated to sexual fantasies of their daughters, and that was seen as normal. However, whenever an adult had sexual relations with a child, it was a massive scandal. Child sexual abuse was rare in biblical times, meaning next to non-existent. 

Child abuse was prosecuted in the Early Church by way of internal investigation. Usually, a child abuse investigation started with a child confiding into church clergypersons about their home life. From there, the parents were subpoenaed to testify before the council as to their abuse of their child. If the parents did get defensive at all when being cross-examined by the church elders, they were excommunicated from the Early Christian Churches of God.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - were written by Jews, with no Jew worth mentioning ever endorsing the punitive treatment of a child, then and now. All of the biblical writers also wrote parenting manuals, with all of these parenting manuals advocating attachment parenting. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting for minor children. It just so happens that these parenting manuals were not translated into English until the 1960s. 

The Bible is America's book. America is a Christian nation founded on Judeo-Christian values. Even our legal codes are inspired by the Bible, even if they are imperfect in their application of the Bible. However, the law of the land has it wrong on the issue of child abuse, based off of dated church teachings that call for the punishment of children. The Bible opposes child abuse entirely, meaning whatever the child victim perceives as such.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torrents, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Biblical spanking": Why the rod verses in Proverbs are repealed verses

Many parents spank or punish their children. This is a common behavior in parents. Most parents, at some level, use the Bible as an excuse to punish their children. Parents these days need an attitude adjustment in that regard. The fact of the matter is that the Bible is an anti-spanking document. 

There is no such phrase in the Bible stating clearly "spare the rod, spoil the child". However, the book of Proverbs contains 6 verses mentioning the rod of correction. The most well-known of these verses is Proverbs 13:24 KJV:

He who spareth his rod hateth his son: but he who loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

The Hebrew word translated "son" is ben and refers here to a mature adult son. The Hebrew word translated "rod" is shebet and refers here to the rod of correction, which was a switch applied to the bare back of a criminal offender, in a courtroom setting, as a sentence for a crime. Striking another Jew outside of a courtroom setting was considered unlawful then. Striking a minor child for any reason, in any context, was prohibited under Jewish law. The father then was deputized to administer the blows. The reason for these rod verses is that otherwise, the father would refuse to whip his son when the Law required it. Ultimately, what is being referred to here is the 40 minus 1 lashes, not a domestic spanking of a child. 

Christ died and Rose on the Third Day in order to repeal the harsh punishments of the Old Testament. Christ was whipped unjustly by the Romans before being put on the cross, and thus the Early Church shunned all corporal punishment, including which was perpetrated by the Romans. Christ instead opened up Heaven and Hell for sinners and saints respectively. 

The Bible nowhere speaks of any sort of "biblical spanking". However, the Bible does weigh in on the spanking issue, and then some. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is one thing to stop spanking your child. However, it is not enough to stop spanking or even punishing your child for that matter. You need to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults. Just as hurt feelings are inevitable in relations between adults, hurt feelings are also inevitable when dealing with children. Thus, if you hurt your child's feelings, you need to give a meaningful apology to your child. Usually, all that is necessary is reassurance of good intent in the form of a half-apology, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limits for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, you should definitely give a formal apology for hurting their feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool with your child in and of itself is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spankings or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular belief, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

All of the biblical writers also wrote parenting manuals. This included King Solomon himself. King Solomon was anti-spanking as a whole. Maybe he wrote about the 40 minus 1 lashes, but he didn't ever intend for minor children to be whipped. For minor children, he recommended attachment parenting to Jewish parents. 

Christian parenting in the Early Church was not based off of anger. Instead, parenting was motivated by worry or concern. Whenever a parent lashed out at their child in the Early Church, the parent was disciplined by the council, and was excommunicated if they defended their parent anger in any way. Parent anger directed towards children then was likened to a viper lashing out at an unsuspecting child. Maybe the parent gave warning, but not much of one.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

"Spare the rod, spoil the child": Why the rod verses in Proverbs are repealed verses

 Many parents spank or punish their children. This is a common behavior in parents. Most parents, at some level, use the Bible as an excuse to punish their children. Parents these days need an attitude adjustment in that regard. The fact of the matter is that the Bible is an anti-spanking document. 

There is no such phrase in the Bible stating clearly "spare the rod, spoil the child". However, the book of Proverbs contains 6 verses mentioning the rod of correction. The most well-known of these verses is Proverbs 13:24 KJV:

He who spareth his rod hateth his son: but he who loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

The Hebrew word translated "son" is ben and refers here to a mature adult son. The Hebrew word translated "rod" is shebet and refers here to the rod of correction, which was a switch applied to the bare back of a criminal offender, in a courtroom setting, as a sentence for a crime. Striking another Jew outside of a courtroom setting was considered unlawful then. Striking a minor child for any reason, in any context, was prohibited under Jewish law. The father then was deputized to administer the blows. The reason for these rod verses is that otherwise, the father would refuse to whip his son when the Law required it. Ultimately, what is being referred to here is the 40 minus 1 lashes, not a domestic spanking of a child. 

Christ died and Rose on the Third Day in order to repeal the harsh punishments of the Old Testament. Christ was whipped unjustly by the Romans, and thus the Early Church shunned all corporal punishment, including which was perpetrated by the Romans. Christ instead opened up Heaven and Hell for sinners and saints respectively. 

The Bible nowhere speaks of any sort of "biblical spanking". However, the Bible does weigh in on the spanking issue, and then some. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is one thing to stop spanking your child. However, it is not enough to stop spanking or even punishing your child for that matter. You need to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults. Just as hurt feelings are inevitable in relations between adults, hurt feelings are also inevitable when dealing with children. Thus, if you hurt your child's feelings, you need to give a meaningful apology to your child. Usually, all that is necessary is reassurance of good intent in the form of a half-apology, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limits for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, you should definitely give a formal apology for hurting their feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool with your child in and of itself is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", including the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spankings or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular belief, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

All of the biblical writers also wrote parenting manuals. This included King Solomon himself. King Solomon was anti-spanking as a whole. Maybe he wrote about the 40 minus 1 lashes, but he didn't ever intend for minor children to be whipped. For minor children, he recommended attachment parenting to Jewish parents. 

Christian parenting in the Early Church was not based off of anger. Instead, parenting was motivated by worry or concern. Whenever a parent lashed out at their child in the Early Church, the parent was disciplined by the council, and was excommunicated if they defended their parent anger in any way.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!