Separation anxiety: Why this is healthy for children (in the proper age group)

This topic of children's rights is personal to me. Most parents think separation anxiety is a disorder, and is unhealthy in children. I have suppressed traits of a new diagnosis known as adult separation anxiety disorder (ASAD). I am securely attached to my mother now, but have a history of insecure anxious attachment towards my mother, even as an adult. I blame the toxic mixture of attachment parenting and punitive parenting for my clingy attitude towards my mother - I was raised in a punitive authoritative home, meaning a mixture of warm and cold memories. Today, I simply am motivated to plan for being independent from my mother, which is a trait of secure attachment. Separation anxiety is a healthy aspect of child development, but only during a certain window in terms of age. 

Separation anxiety is part of the process of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the wake of the submission of children. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemmng from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

Separation anxiety was something commonplace in the Early Christian church communities, among children aged up until age 6. This is why children up until age 6 were usually either glued to the hip of their mothers, or else swaddled next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mothers and children were naked next to each other, with this making it easier for mothers to give their children skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance. All of this sustaining closeness and warmth brought out the separation anxiety in children. When mothers walked out of sight of the child in the family home, she'd immediately regret it, because her child would be crying. 

Separation anxiety is what causes closeness between mothers and children in children under age 6. When the child cries out for his/her mother, that child is expressing a fear of harm befalling their mother, and so the mother has to reassure her presence by picking up the child. Birth nudity is recommeded for this process of bonding, as it allows raw bonding between mother and child. 

Separation anxiety actually motivates independence in older children. In biblical times, children older than age 6 usually shook off the sustaining warmth of mothers, and played freely outside, venturing farther and farther from home. This is because separation anxiety is preparing them for a critical turning point in their life - the death of a parent caregiver. Separation anxiety, for an older child or teenager, should be that voice in their head saying "mom and dad won't be around forever, so prepare for them being gone and plan to move out". 

Separation anxiety only leads to independence in older children, teens, and young adults when it is suppressed, usually by a non-entitled conditioning. When you mix attachment parenting warmth with pro-spanking coldness, you get a clingy, wimpy Millennial who won't leave their parents' roof. That, in and of itself, is a form of adult separation anxiety.

I myself have a long history of separation anxiety, which wasn't officially diagnosed because it could be lumped into my autism. Currently, it is suppressed as a reminder that my mother won't always be around, and so I have to work on independence skills. Currently, I live with my mother, but if I had to live somewhere else, I'd manage, perhaps by trial and error, to fend for myself. It would just be lonely. This attachment that I describe is a secure attachment. My attachment to my mother before that was an insecure anxious attachment, which is a sign of parent trauma in an individual with autism. I didn't even sleep in my own bed until I was 16. If I wasn't punished, my development wouldn't have been so stunted. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!