Many parents have been there. A child crying seemingly for no reason. Most American parents punish children for crying "out of nowhere". However, children always cry for a reason. A child cries out of nowhere because they have vulnerable needs that need met.
God's Law mandates a secure bond between parent and child. See Colossians 3:20 KJV:
Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.
The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to a specific form of surrender - surrender to the loving arms of parents, namely the loving arms of mothers. Ultimately, this word refers to a secure bond between parent and child in the family home. The context, when used as a guidepost, tells us how to form a secure bond with children.
For the first 6 years of childhood in the Early Church, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning wherever the mother went, so did her child. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed before picking up her child, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period.
The one main reason for crying in children is separation anxiety. Christian parents in the Early Church knew more than parents today that children cry out of nowhere, many times, because they fear that mom will "go away and never come back". Whenever mothers left the room in a house, perhaps to answer the door, children cried, and kept crying, until they were attended to. It is recommended today that mothers stay home and care for her child during the first 6 years of childhood, so not to realize a child's worst fear of mom disappearing.
Children, under customary law in the Early Church, were understood as having five basic categories of needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - and the greatest of these needs is attachment. Whenever a child was tired, it was counted as an attachment need, as mothers co-slept next to their child, or else co-snuggled with children when they needed a nap in the middle of the day.
The depraved and entitled parents who punish their children for crying will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into the abyss which the ever-burning Hell designed for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!
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