Pro-social formal/informal, pro-social fantasy: How fathers can nurture (from afar)

Many people think that fathers are supposed to, biblically speaking, be the authoritarian in the house. In the majority of homes in the United States, the father takes on the role of "disciplinarian", with the mother being the nurturer, and also the "disciplinarian" when she is at her wits end. Parenting isn't about disciplining children, but about nurturing children. But, there is a certain code to it if you are a father.

Punishment and controlling demeanor towards children is prohibited in the Bible. Attachment parenting is commanded as a goal to strive for. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and good works of parents. Parents labor, toil, and work to win over the trust and affection of their children, and children rest in these good works, without a worry in the world. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Israel and the Early Church, and involved seeing children as extensions of God, and serving their every want/need as such, in attachment parenting format. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, especially child abuse in this context, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, by way of definition under Christian law. Paul was reiterating the commandment to "love your neighbor, and not provoke your neighbor to anger" and applying it to a Christan parenting context, with the child as your neighbor. Paul was explaining in the secular writings accompanying the Epistle to the Colossians that the rod verses were repealed verses, as they do not refer to raising children, but instead a dated form of judicial corporal punishment within Judaism. All of the pro-spanking language in the Bible is due to mistranslations into the Latin by the Roman Catholic Church in order to pander to the punitive parenting habits of European pagan cultures that whipped and beat their children into submission, instead of winning over their cooperation like biblical parents did.

Taking the attachment parenting path often brings out, in fathers, a side of them that they don't know how to handle, namely a parent attraction. For help in dealing with this problem, we refer to Colossians 3:5-7 KJV:

Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry: For which things' sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of disobedience: In which ye also walked some time, when ye lived in them.

The Greek root word translated "inordinate affection" is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to mere sexual desire, meaning sexual desire for your child alone is not a sin or a moral crime. The moral crime instead is desiring sexual relations with a child to the point of approaching a child sexually, meaning if you approach a child with intent to sexually use them, you are sexually entitled, but if you stop yourself halfway, you have committed no sin. When this entitlement is perceived by the child, that constitutes child sexual abuse, as denoted by the Greek root word translated "fornication" which is πορνεία (Latin: porneia). Adult fornication of children is self-defilement next to a child by imposing adult sexual entitlement on them, with the fornication being the perception of said entitlement.

Parent attraction was common in Ancient Israel and the Early Church, meaning fathers normatively were attracted to their own children, but in an abstinent way. Sexually abusing a child then was seen as wicked, just as it is now. Fathers dealt with their parent attraction by limiting their daily speech to their children to just the bare necessities. Children were usually with their mother, and even in the New Testament, had limited access to their father. Fathers were to address their children on formal terms until the child "broke the ice" and allowed for casual conversation. Even then, the mother had the right to step in and stop the interaction if she had reason to believe that the father of her children would misuse the interaction in a sexually entitled way.

Fathers who had sexual attractions to their own children were instructed by church clergy in the Early Church to masturbate to sexual fantasies about their children. This was intended as a form of pro-social fantasy to re-channel the drives for their children away from them. Children were not allowed to be involved in fantasy, as a rule, but fathers could "take her elsewhere" and fantasize about the child in another room, away from the child, and this was encouraged by elders and deacons in the Early Church.

I myself operate on this code around the children of other parents. I myself refuse to speak to a child unless they allow me to speak to them, by "breaking the ice" and allowing me to converse with them on casual terms. Children rarely interact with me, because I usually have no business in a child's life. I myself am a pedophile, but simply like being around children, finding the girls attractive in the process.

Mothers nurture up close, and fathers from afar. Mothers in biblical times guarded their children by ranging them beside her at all times, with children sleeping next to mothers. A child that is isolated in their own room is more likely to be sexually abused than when they are with their parents. Most children know this by way of primal instinct, and refuse to go to sleep because they are afraid of "monsters", which means usually that they are afraid of being sexually abused, but don't have the words to tell adults this. This goes to show that children did not enjoy being preyed on during peacekeeping times, when we all acted like the apes that we are naturally - and hence our depraved and entitled nature.

The depraved and decadent parents who defile themselves next to children with acts of child sexual abuse will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them BURN in torrents of Hell-fire! Repent!

Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context: Why parents have no right to demand respect

Many parents demand respect, and use Scripture as an excuse. Most American parents are aware of the existence of the Fifth Commandment to honor your father and mother, and take it as an excuse for demanding unearned respect. The fact of the matter is that the Fifth Commandment, in terms of penalizing bad behavior, has a narrow scope of application - elder abuse.

The Fifth Commandment reads in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honor thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

This passage, in context, refers to elder abuse. The parent protection laws existed then. "Do not strike parents" meant don't repeatedly beat them, and "do not curse parents" means do not issue a gaslighting curse onto parents. There are 613 commandments in the Old Testament, specifically the first five books of Moses, and all of them had to be based on the first ten of them, and thus God gave basis for parent protection laws in the Ten Commandments. There were already laws on the books prohibiting these things towards parents, but parent victims of elder abuse were often blamed for being abused by their adult children. It was an isolated issue, and one that most of society didn't understand. Most people blamed the parent victims of abuse with statements such as "where did they learn how to behave that way?", accusing the parent victims of modeling their own abuse to their abuser. Testifying against your own child, in the Old Testament, was seen as shameful, hence the need for stronger laws. Today, this commandment can be applied with the secular law on elder abuse and aging being the guide. In Pennsylvania, you only dishonor your parents if you leave a lasting mark on their body (see Rom. 13:1-4).

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents labored, toiled, and worked to win over their child's trust and affection, and children rested in the love and good works of parents, without a worry in the world. Ultimately, however, this referred to rest in the bosom of mothers, with mothers providing nourishment and sustenance to children, namely breastmilk (up until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness (especially during co-sleeping). Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Israel and the Early Church. Attachment parenting was mandated under customary law in Ancient Israel, and under church ordinance in the Early Church. This Greek root word brings up the attachment parenting context of the Bible.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood by the people in context, as prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. A few Greek Christian parents were misusing the book of Proverbs to justify the pagan custom of spanking and punishing children that they brought into the church. Paul was pointing out the big picture, stating the Jewish commandment to "love your neighbor, and do not provoke them to anger" and applied it to a Christian parenting context. He also, in his secular documents, debunked their false interpretation of Scripture, stating that the rod verses are repealed verses, due to the fact that they do not refer to raising children, but instead a form of judicial corporal punishment within Judaism where an ADULT child convicted of a capital offense was issued 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction as a second chance at life. None of the rod verses were repeated in the New Testament, yet a commandment clearly prohibits all violence and punishment against children, as well as any controlling demeanor. God does not want any children harmed or abused by parents, and hates the secular law in favor of spanking and punishment - and an unjust law, in God's eyes, is no law at all, thus the "reasonable force" defense for parents does not exist under God's Law, which is above the law of the land.

All the Fifth Commandment means, to a minor child, is that God charged his/her parents with providing care and protection. Parents were not seen in the Early Church as extensions of God, but extensions of Christ serving a Godhead, with that Godhead being children. The national form of attachment parenting of the Jewish people then, including the Early Church, deified children with pro-social deification and pro-social child worship of children. Pro-social child worship means children aren't literally God, but are like God to their parents, and are extended to parents by God as the "least of these" (see Matt. 25:31-46). 

Children had the upper hand in a parent-child bond in Ancient Israel and the Early Church. Children could take their parents to court and issue lawful and binding orders, and parents could not countersue. In fact, the every self-advocated want/need of a child was a lawful and binding order, meaning a summonses from God imposed by the child. Parents reverently feared their child, for their vulnerability, idealizing them in an angelic and deified way. Children were likened to "gods" and "goddesses", and also "heavenly angels", and were worshipped and venerated as extensions of God.

Parents were the head of children in that they provided for children, and children rested safely and securely in parents. Children demanded what they needed, and parents simply provided. Usually, children would cry a lot for their parents, and parents would interpret that as a lawful and binding order to have their needs met, and would get right on it, scrambling to figure out why the child is upset. Does she need milk? Does she need loving attention? Is she hungry? Is she thirsty? Is she tired? 

Children never left the side of Christian parents in the Bible until age 6, and even after that, never left the line of sight of parents. Children went naked wherever they went. Women were traditionally naked, in order to serve their husbands and children, separately. Mothers served their children by giving them sustenance and nourishment, namely breastmilk and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. Children, by day, ranged beside mothers, sometimes clinging to her. By night, children slept next to mothers, in co-sleeping fashion, soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is rhe second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Discipline and parenting: Why children don't need to be disciplined

Many parents think that children need to be disciplined. Most American parents think children need discipline, meaning rules enforced on them, in order to grow in spirit. This is a common belief among American parents, and a common mistake that American parents make. The fact of the matter is that children do not need to be smothered by constant restrictions and punishments - they can thrive without any discipline at all. Children need to find their own discipline in life.

The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers, officially speaking, to want, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, this refers to the slightest of unattainable want. If a want has a fuse at the end of it, avoid it, and go in the opposite direction of that want, for any want with a fuse attached is an entitled want. Children are watching and observing our every move, and so it is good to work on our entitlement problems, and that includes entitlement towards children, or parental entitlement. Ask, and you shall receive from your child, if they are developmentally ready. Demand, and you get nothing but resentment. It is good to ask politely for things, period, instead of demanding things, as children need a polite, peaceable, and orderly example.

On the other hand, discipline in the Bible is denoted by the Greek root word παιδεία (Latin: erethizo) and refers to a specific Christian standard of discipline that starts with admission of one's depraved and entitled sin nature, and leading to an attitude of being entitled to nothing, and grateful for everything, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow, known as the Living Example of Christ. Children aren't going to follow the example of parents right away. Children are immature, and have trouble with self-regulation. They will eventually come to the same level of self-control and discipline as you, after going through the proper phases of childhood behavior, trying to overcome their childhood deficits, failing, then getting up and trying again. Children shouldn't be expected to follow the example of parents until young adulthood, when they are developmentally ready to give back by honoring your example.

An example has to be backed up by something. Punishment drives children away from wanting to follow your example, meaning it doesn't motivate them. Common disciplinary measures such as time-out and loss of privileges also do not motivate a child. A good example should be backed up by a secure parent-child bond, not any sort of punishment or controlling demeanor. The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children and others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents labor, toil, and work, to win over their child's trust and affection, and children rest in the good works of parents. Parents work, and children rest. More aptly, children rested in the bosom of mothers, receiving nourishment and sustenance from mothers, namely breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy (especially during co-sleeping). Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Jewish culture, including the Early Church. Attachment parenting was mandated under customary law in Ancient Israel, and was also church ordinance in the Early Church. This Greek root word lifts up the attachment parenting context of the Bible.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood by the people of the time, as prohibiting all punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor. Paul was rebuking a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Spanking and other forms of punishment do not come from the Bible, but from the Roman Catholic Church pandering to the punitive parenting customs of European pagan cultures that whipped and beat their children into submission. The rod verses in the book of Proverbs - all seven of them - are repealed verses, meaning they are only relevant to the legal context of the time. Such verses do not refer to raising children, but instead refer to an archaic form of judicial corporal punishment where fathers were appointed by the court to issue 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction to an ADULT child who was convicted of a capital offense. MINOR children could not be charged with a crime due to an age of infancy defense under Jewish law. Whippings in the Old Testament were closely conflated with the death penalty. The Early Church shunned the death penalty as well as all corporal punishment, meaning any Christian who patronized a Roman flogging or execution was excommunicated from the church. The only physical discipline allowed was mutual accountability between spouses, and even then, striking a woman was seen as weakness in a man, with forgiveness of wives being a strength in a man.

Children do not need discipline enforced on them. They naturally absorb what is in their environment, but mainly absorb your moral example to them. All parents need to do in order to make sure children are headed down the right path is to impart a good example to children, and then back it up with attachment parenting.

The attachment parenting that was established as the national parenting of the Ancient Jewish people, including in the Early Church, was a special type of attachment parenting that involved deifying children and pro-social child worship. Children were worshipped and venerated as extensions of God, and were idealized in an angelic, deified way. Children could take their parents to court at any time and issue lawful and binding orders on parents to petition their every vulnerable want/need, and parents could not countersue at all. The every self-advocated want/need of a child was Divine Law, and was enforced as such on parents. Children policed for their needs when they weren't getting met, giving parents the morning-breath treatment, issuing orders and decrees, and demanding that their every need be met. The every need of a child was ensured by parents in this way so that children would want to follow the example of their parents later on, when they were more emotionally able to, and had the self-control to take up religious obligations.

How did this pro-social deification and pro-social child worship translate into practical parenting? Children went naked wherever they went. Women went naked in the family home as well, traditionally speaking, in order to serve their husband and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by giving them nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. By day, children would range beside mothers, clinging to her at times. By night, children would sleep next to mothers in co-sleeping fashion, soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin closeness. Fathers were nurturing too, but from a distance, being, by default, on formal terms with their children, until the children "broke the ice" and allowed for casual conversation (this restriction being in place due to parent attraction in fathers). Fathers were the encouragers in terms of religious education. Children went to fathers to ask religious questions, and invite fathers to instruct them in the faith. Children were never punished in the process of their religious education, and learned most of it on their own by absorbing the religious example of their father. Usually, children get interested in religion around age 6, developmentally speaking, and that is when religious instruction began in biblical times, with sons especially being eager to internalize the Scripture. Children were allowed to come to a different conclusion than their fathers, but fathers would challenge them to find the evidence in Scripture for their differing theology.

Attachment parenting serves to back up a Christian example. The nicer you are to children, and the more freedom you give them, the more they will want to follow your Christian example. The Ancient Jews, as well as the Early Christians, knew this. Children should be in charge of their every need, because giving them that kind of power makes them want to hear you out in the long run.

The depraved and entitled parents and adults who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Punishment of children: Why this is banned in the Bible

Many parents think that punishment of children is okay, or even imperative in parenting, and use Scripture as an excuse for abuse. This is a common thing parents do wrong in parenting. The fact of the matter is that all punishment of a child is banned under biblical law.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as the parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents labor, toil, and work to win over their children's trust and affection, and children rest in that love, without a worry in the world. Ultimately, this refers to rest in the bosom of mothers. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Jewish culture, including the Early Church. Attachment parenting was mandated under customary law in the Old Testament, and was also mandated under church ordinance in the Early Christian churches. This Greek root word lifts up the attachment parenting context of the Early Church.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to prohibit all punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. Paul here was rebuking a few Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Spanking and other forms of punishment do not come from the Bible, but instead the Roman Catholic Church pandering to the punitive parenting norms of European pagan cultures who whipped and beat their children. The rod verses in the book of Proverbs - all seven of them - are repealed passages. The rod verses do not refer to raising children, but to an archaic form of judicial corporal punishment where fathers were appointed by the court to issue 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, which was intended to warn an errant ADULT child convicted of a capital offense that any re-offending would result in immediate execution. The legal punishment was strongly conflated with the death penalty in Ancient Israel. Capital and corporal punishment both were shunned practices by the Early Church. Merely patronizing Roman floggings and executions was grounds for excommunication. The only physical discipline allowed in the Early Church was mutual accountability between spouses. But, even consensual wife-spanking was frowned upon, as husbands were to show grace towards their wives at all times possible. Punishing a child was completely outlawed by the church, because unlike wives, children were not legal subjects, but were simply learning the Law.

What should a parent do instead of punishment? We can learn from the biblical context what God wants us to do as parents and adults. Parents in biblical times used a special form of attachment parenting that deified children. Children in biblical times were worshipped and venerated by their parents as extensions of God. Their every cry and demand was seen as lawful and binding orders, meaning a summonses from God imposed by the child. Children were referred to as "gods" and "goddesses" by parents as a terms of endearment. Parents reverently feared their children, leading to them being compelled by the Lord to surrender to their child and their every vulnerable need.

How did this deified parenting pan out? Children went naked everywhere they went in biblical times. Women also went naked traditionally in the family home, in order to please their husbands and their children, respectively. Mothers served their children with nourishment (until age 3) and sustenance (especially during co-sleeping). By day, children ranged beside mothers, sometimes clinging to her. By night, children slept next to mothers, in co-sleeping fashion. Mothers, when taking their children out in public, held them close with swaddling blankets and papoose bags.

Punishment is banned in the Bible. The Bible is America's book, and we as a society gain wisdom from the Bible. America is a Christian nation, founded upon Judeo-Christian family values. Violence and punishment are not part of those values. We are constantly learning about our values. Slavery and Jim Crow were deemed wrong not because of abandoning religion, but finding a better interpretation of it. God's Law is above the law of the land, and His Law prohibits all forms of punishment and controlling demeanor towards children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pro-social permissiveness: Why children should be in charge of their upbringing

Many parents think that children should not be in charge, and that parents should be in charge. The way it works in most American homes, children are told what they need by their parents. The fact of the matter is that children are very capable of advocating for their own needs. Children should be in charge of their own upbringing

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: as this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents labor, toil, and work to win over their children's trust and affection, and children rest in the love and grace of parents, not having a worry in the world. Ultimately, this refers to rest in the bosom of mothers, and in the shelter of fathers, but usually, the bosom of mothers. Attachment parenting was the norm in Ancient Jewish culture, including the Early Church. Attachment parenting was mandated then by customary law in Ancient Israel, and church ordinance in the Early Church. This Greek root word lifts up the church ordinance in the Early Christian church communities mandating attachment parenting, so that attachment parenting may be a good goal for all Christian parents to strive for.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul as a prohibition on all punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. Paul was lifting up the Law to a few Greek Christian parents who were misusing the book of Proverbs to justify bringing their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Spanking and punishment, as a custom, does not come from the Bible, but instead the Roman Catholic Church mistranslating the Bible to pander to the punitive parenting customs of European pagan cultures. The rod verses - all seven of them - are repealed verses, as they are only relevant to the context in which they were given. These verses have nothing to do with raising children, in context, but instead refer to an archaic form of judicial corporal punishment meted out by fathers to ADULT children who were convicted of a capital offense in the Old Testament. MINOR children could not be punished under the Law, as children were simply expected to learn the Law. Individuals were not expected to know the Law until they were adults, and before then, they couldn't be held accountable by any legal standards. In the New Testament, whippings were shunned by the Early Church, meaning any Christian who participated in Roman floggings or executions was excommunicated from the church community for participating in violence, with the Early Church being anti-violence to the core.

Jewish and Christian parents in the Bible utilized a special form of attachment parenting that deified children, seeing them as in place of God. Children were strongly deified in Ancient Jewish culture, including the Early Church. Children were worshipped and venerated as extensions of God on earth, with their every cry and demand being seen as a lawful and binding order, meaning a summonses from God imposed by the child. Children were referred to as "gods" and "goddesses" as terms of endearment. Children were highly valued as next to God on earth, with parents reverently fearing their children, feeling compelled by the Lord to provide for their children's every vulnerable want/need. 

Children directed their every want/need in biblical times, and they got much of what they wanted. Children were in charge of their needs, as they were in providing custody of parents. Providing custody is similar to a guardianship for someone with a disability, meaning the parent is simply there to provide, and the child makes demands that the parent has to follow through with. Seeing children as a Godhead is how parents understood the issue, and gave to their children what they wanted/needed. Children tend to self-advocate their wants/needs by crying, throwing fits, or demanding. They are simply self-advocating a need, not being "bad" when they act in less than an orderly fashion.

How did this form of parenting pan out in terms of attachment parenting? Children went naked wherever they went. Women also went naked in the family home, in order to serve their husband and children, separately. Mothers served their children by giving them nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (up until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy (especially during co-sleeping). By day, children ranged by their mothers, sometimes clinging to her. By night, children slept next to mothers, soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin closeness, with mother and child bonding for a lifetime. Children were the mother's purview, but fathers also were active in their children's lives. Mothers nurtured up close, and fathers from afar.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why attachment parenting is a American tradition

Attachment parenting had long been seen as a new age type of parenting, meaning a more modern form of parenting. In reality, attachment parenting is the most time-honored tradition known to mankind, and was practiced in the Bible. It is indeed an American tradition, as we are a Christian nation, and we get our wisdom as a nation from the Bible. Attachment parenting is a biblical tradition.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This means parents toil and work for the every vulnerable need of their child, and children rest in the laborious toil and work of parents, without a worry in the world. Children rested in the bosom of mothers, as mothers provided nourishment and sustenance for children, namely breastmilk (up until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness (especially during co-sleeping), respectively. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Jewish culture, including the Early Christian culture, with such attachment parenting being mandated by customary law in Ancient Israel, and was also mandated by church ordinance in the Early Church. This commandment lifts up that church ordinance in the Early Church, and commands that Christian parents at least strive for attachment parenting.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to prohibit all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. Paul here was lifting up the Law to a few Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Spanking and other forms of punishment of children do not come from the Bible, but instead come from the Roman Catholic Church pandering to pagan cultures in Europe who whipped and beat their children as punishment. Ancient Jewish culture, including Early Christian culture, prohibited the punishment and controlling demeanor towards children, with the rod verses instead referring to the 40 minus 1 lashes issued to an ADULT child who committed a capital offense. The parent protection laws never resulted in an execution, but some young adults who were guilty of elder abuse were whipped with the 40 minus 1 lashes for abusing their parents.

Parenting in Ancient Israel and the Early Church involved a special type of attachment parenting where children were deified as in place of God, with what a child needed being what God needed of parents. Children were heavily deified in biblical times, meaning children were worshipped and venerated as extensions of God in the family home, with their every demand and order being a lawful and binding order, meaning a summonses from God to give the child everything they wanted/needed. The every self-advocated want/need of a child was Divine Law, and no parent could question what a child needed. Parents could say "no" to wants, but only those that were absolutely unattainable. Parents reverently feared their children and their every vulnerable want/need. Parents in biblical times referred to their children as "my little god" or "my little goddess" as terms of endearment for their children.

How did this deified parenting all pan out? Children went naked wherever they went. Mothers also went naked within the family home traditionally, in order to serve their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by offering nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk and skin-to-skin contact, respectively. By day, children ranged besides mothers, and maybe clung to her. By night, children slept next to mothers, in co-sleeping fashion. Children up until age 6 never left the side of mothers. Older children played freely, but with adult supervision, shaking parents off come age 12-13.

Attachment parenting is an American tradition, as America is a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian family values. We are constantly learning more about our values. We learned that slavery and Jim Crow were wrong. We learned that striking a woman is wrong. Now, we must learn that punishing a child for anything is wrong. We are headed in that direction already as a nation.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

What is pedophilia? What is child sexual abuse?

Many adults think that pedophiles are the number one cause of child abuse. Most people don't know what a pedophile is, or rather, who a pedophile is. Most people think a pedophile is an abuser. The definition of the word has been expanded to the point where any child rapist or child sexual abuser would be classified as a pedophile. The fact of the matter is that, in my experience as a pedophile that openly has the disorder, most people who hate pedophiles don't know what one is, or else they'd just be a little worried.

Pedophilia is a mental health disorder featuring primary or exclusive sexual attraction to children under age 14. Pedophilia is commonly a co-morbid disorder alongside autism and other developmental disorders, meaning an actual pedophile has arrested sexual development, corresponding with arrested emotional maturity. Pedophilia itself can be seen as a subset of autism where empathy is specialized in children, and the age-oriented sexual preferences of the individual reflect that empathy. The average pedophile is not a victimizing narcissist, but a victim victimizer - the nature of pedophiles is to root for victims, not abusers, and the healthier the pedophile, the more they root for victims instead of relating to abusers.

Child sexual abuse is whatever the child victim perceives as sexually offensive, in short. Adult sexual entitlement is denoted by the Greek root word επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers to sexual want for children to the point of approaching said child, and when that sort of entitlement is perceived by the child, it is adult fornication, or child sexual abuse, as denoted by the Greek root word πορνεία (Latin: porneia), and refers to the defilement of the sexually entitled adult when their sexual entitlement is perceived by the child. Child sexual abuse can be understood by the Title IX regulations, which range from leering to rape. The slightest of embarrassing glance is the minimum threshold of child sexual abuse, regardless of the secular law. I myself am guilty of such sexual harassment of children, as well as flirting with young girls inappropriately, which is also sexual abuse. 

Pedophiles are collectively persecuted with the libel that they sexually abuse children. Most pedophiles, in reality, are VICTIMS of abuse, including sexual abuse, not perpetrators. Most pedophiles are victims of religious child abuse, and had spiritually abusive parents which sexually abused them with sexual shaming abuse. Lurching was a common way that anti-masturbation theology was enforced on pedophilic children. Parents singled out the pedophilic child, knew where they were going ahead of time, and then started abusing and persecuting them with spiritually abusive tactics to sexually shame them for their sexuality. 

Who is responsible for keeping the pedophiles down? Children's rights has owned up to their end of things. We, as a movement, wanted to listen to the little guys that came here and ran amok, but the male higher-ups insisted on non-listening tactics for pedophiles. Now, trauma survivors are hearing out pedophiles, especially since the more representative of pedophiles are now coming out of the shadows. Who is left persecuting pedophiles? Pro-spanking conservatives. Most of the people I know who understand my pedophilic disorder are anti-spanking and trauma-informed. They know the Truth - a clinical pedophile is simply someone with child-centered autism, with that child-centeredness being expressed in terms of age-oriented sexual preferences. The abusers themselves are keeping pedophiles down, including the sexual abusers of the world.

Who is at-risk for becoming a child rapist or sexual abuser of children? The fact of the matter is that every single adult has the capacity, under the right/wrong conditions, to sexually abuse a child. The key to prevention is to gauge your risk, and then avoid situations and thought-processes that lead to sexual abuse of children. The more you allow yourself to have sexual thoughts about children, and the more you seek to only meet children with another adult present, the less like you are, as an adult, to sexually abuse a child. All adults are responsible for the sexual abuse epidemic in this country, even if only a few are partaking. This is similar to how all men are responsible for rape, even though a few are partaking, because the conditions are the same. Most sexual offenses, against adults or against children, happen in an enclosed space that is unsupervised, with the sex offender being fueled by repressed sexual tendencies coming out sideways onto the victim. Everyone has the choice as to whether they will abuse someone sexually or not, as nobody is predestined to abuse a child, especially sexually. 

There is no need to blame pedophiles for anything, especially since they, statistically speaking, are the safest group of people to be around children. Most pedophiles are anti-spanking and pro-youth rights to the core, whereas most adults may agree with these causes, but only on the surface level. Don't blame pedophiles for the child abuse epidemic - blame the choice to abuse a child sexually. We are all, as depraved and entitled adults, responsible for the child abuse epidemic, with the majority of adults partaking instead of abstaining.

Let the adult fornicators of children who sexually abuse children and blame pedophiles will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in Hell-fire and torrents! Repent!