Pro-social formal/informal, pro-social fantasy: How fathers can nurture (from afar)

Many people think that fathers are supposed to, biblically speaking, be the authoritarian in the house. In the majority of homes in the United States, the father takes on the role of "disciplinarian", with the mother being the nurturer, and also the "disciplinarian" when she is at her wits end. Parenting isn't about disciplining children, but about nurturing children. But, there is a certain code to it if you are a father.

Punishment and controlling demeanor towards children is prohibited in the Bible. Attachment parenting is commanded as a goal to strive for. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and good works of parents. Parents labor, toil, and work to win over the trust and affection of their children, and children rest in these good works, without a worry in the world. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Israel and the Early Church, and involved seeing children as extensions of God, and serving their every want/need as such, in attachment parenting format. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, especially child abuse in this context, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, by way of definition under Christian law. Paul was reiterating the commandment to "love your neighbor, and not provoke your neighbor to anger" and applying it to a Christan parenting context, with the child as your neighbor. Paul was explaining in the secular writings accompanying the Epistle to the Colossians that the rod verses were repealed verses, as they do not refer to raising children, but instead a dated form of judicial corporal punishment within Judaism. All of the pro-spanking language in the Bible is due to mistranslations into the Latin by the Roman Catholic Church in order to pander to the punitive parenting habits of European pagan cultures that whipped and beat their children into submission, instead of winning over their cooperation like biblical parents did.

Taking the attachment parenting path often brings out, in fathers, a side of them that they don't know how to handle, namely a parent attraction. For help in dealing with this problem, we refer to Colossians 3:5-7 KJV:

Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry: For which things' sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of disobedience: In which ye also walked some time, when ye lived in them.

The Greek root word translated "inordinate affection" is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to mere sexual desire, meaning sexual desire for your child alone is not a sin or a moral crime. The moral crime instead is desiring sexual relations with a child to the point of approaching a child sexually, meaning if you approach a child with intent to sexually use them, you are sexually entitled, but if you stop yourself halfway, you have committed no sin. When this entitlement is perceived by the child, that constitutes child sexual abuse, as denoted by the Greek root word translated "fornication" which is πορνεία (Latin: porneia). Adult fornication of children is self-defilement next to a child by imposing adult sexual entitlement on them, with the fornication being the perception of said entitlement.

Parent attraction was common in Ancient Israel and the Early Church, meaning fathers normatively were attracted to their own children, but in an abstinent way. Sexually abusing a child then was seen as wicked, just as it is now. Fathers dealt with their parent attraction by limiting their daily speech to their children to just the bare necessities. Children were usually with their mother, and even in the New Testament, had limited access to their father. Fathers were to address their children on formal terms until the child "broke the ice" and allowed for casual conversation. Even then, the mother had the right to step in and stop the interaction if she had reason to believe that the father of her children would misuse the interaction in a sexually entitled way.

Fathers who had sexual attractions to their own children were instructed by church clergy in the Early Church to masturbate to sexual fantasies about their children. This was intended as a form of pro-social fantasy to re-channel the drives for their children away from them. Children were not allowed to be involved in fantasy, as a rule, but fathers could "take her elsewhere" and fantasize about the child in another room, away from the child, and this was encouraged by elders and deacons in the Early Church.

I myself operate on this code around the children of other parents. I myself refuse to speak to a child unless they allow me to speak to them, by "breaking the ice" and allowing me to converse with them on casual terms. Children rarely interact with me, because I usually have no business in a child's life. I myself am a pedophile, but simply like being around children, finding the girls attractive in the process.

Mothers nurture up close, and fathers from afar. Mothers in biblical times guarded their children by ranging them beside her at all times, with children sleeping next to mothers. A child that is isolated in their own room is more likely to be sexually abused than when they are with their parents. Most children know this by way of primal instinct, and refuse to go to sleep because they are afraid of "monsters", which means usually that they are afraid of being sexually abused, but don't have the words to tell adults this. This goes to show that children did not enjoy being preyed on during peacekeeping times, when we all acted like the apes that we are naturally - and hence our depraved and entitled nature.

The depraved and decadent parents who defile themselves next to children with acts of child sexual abuse will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them BURN in torrents of Hell-fire! Repent!