Parental entitlement: Why parental entitlement is sin in the Bible

Many parents support having a backbone, and the parental rights lobby insists on a backbone are if you are "really a parent". The idea behind a backbone is to find something you hate about your child, and form an anger packet based off of that observation. However, the fact of the matter is that having a backbone, from a biblical perspective, is entitlement, namely parental entitlement. 

Entitlement, including parental entitlement, is prohibited in the Ten Commandments. See the Tenth Commandment in Exodus 20:17 KJV:

Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, or his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, or any thing that is thy neighbour's.

The Hebrew word translated "covet" in this passage is lachmod and is defined as, officially speaking, want, to the point of imposition. However, in the context of parenting, any parent anger directed towards children was deemed entitlement, as most parent anger directed towards a child comes from deservances, with parents being deserving of absolutely nothing from children. This list is not an exhaustive list of things a parent wants but can't have. This commandment was intended as denoting the entitled intent behind a violation of the Ten Commandments.

The Greek root word cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment in the New Testament is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to, when in the context of parental entitlement, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent who is sorely disappointed when they don't get the well-behaved child that they feel that they deserve. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Even any parent anger directed towards a child is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. Whenever this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses of damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. The key to not abusing your child is to avoid offense in children. However, hurt feelings are inevitable in children, just as they are in relations between adults. Thus, in order to avoid offense in a child, you need to be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt their feelings. Many times, parents hurt their children's feelings by way of their parent anger at their children. However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, you definitely need to give a formal apology for hurting your child's feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as any parent anger directed towards a child is parental entitlement, and was understood as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here was convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. However, this commandment was received as prohibiting all forms of offense as perceived by a child. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

Parental entitlement consists of an entitlement packet, in the form of angry backbone directed at a child. Common advice on forming a backbone is to find something you hate in your child, and focus on it. However, this is bad parenting advice. Anger is a natural human emotion, meaning that you don't need a backbone in order to assert yourself. I don't have such an entitled backbone, and I simply find my anger easier to control. 

Attachment parenting can be understood, partially speaking, as parenting without a backbone. In attachment parenting, you never get angry at a child. What is there to be mad at? They are little, and new to the world. I see children as harmless. Why get angry at someone so small and vulnerable? I love all children, and love them all just as if they were my own.

The parent entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!