Child discipline: How to discipline your child the right way (meaning without punishment or force)

Many parents want children to have discipline. This is a common desire on the part of parents. Most American parents support the concept of child discipline. However, most parents think that punishment is appropriate discipline for a child. However, the fact of the matter is that proper discipline involves children being caught being good.

The concept of proper child discipline is spelled out in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishment, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here to gently melding the countenance of a child. In light of stanza 1 of Eph. 6:4, this melding of the countenance can only mean one thing - lavishly praising and encouraging children when caught in the act of good behavior. Whenever children were caught in the act of being good, they were praised and encouraged with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Children ultimately learned good traits through the Christian example of parents. However, this good example was backed up by praise and encouragement, not punishment and force. Children also need religious instruction, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers here to self-directed religious instruction. This religious instruction, in biblical times, started out with fathers leaving out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers being quick to give pointers on the context. Today, children also have the Internet to lean on for religious learning. This religious instruction, and the lavish praise and encouragement that came with it, centered the countenance of children, with this centered countenance being the ultimate goal of Judeo-Christian parenting.

Children were only disciplined in Bible when caught in the act of being good, meaning usually self-controlled. Most of the time, when children were caught being "naughty", parents laughed it off. When parents were hurt by the actions of their children, they cried alongside their children. Most childhood behaviors are developmentally appropriate given the age and development of a child, with parents in biblical times knowing this intuitively.

Children, for the first 6 years of childhood, were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mom went, so did her child. For the latter half of childhood, children ran around and played freely, exploring the terrain, venturing farther and farther from home, playing high-risk games such as "marriage". Children up until the age of majority went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Children self-protect, adults abstain: Individual responsibility for adults attracted to children

Many parents think that pedophiles are a risk to children. This is a common belief amongst American parents. Most adults claim innocence in relation to children, and blame their political opponents for being "pedophiles". However, the fact of the matter is that every single adult is guilty in relationship to children merely for existing. Children have the right to protect themselves from sexual abuse, with all adults having the individual responsibility to abstain from child sexual abuse.

Most adults are more at-risk for sexually abusing a child than pedophiles. Most child sexual abuse comes from a secondary attraction to children that the abuser denies. Most sexual abusers deny their sex drive towards children by refusing to masturbate to sexual thoughts of children.

Sexual abuse comes from a criss-cross sexual dynamic in the family home. Fathers usually are attracted to their daughters, in a mutually unrequited fashion. Most boys are attracted to their mother, but usually as a dead end. Most child sexual abuse follows this primal pattern of rape that is a mainstay of out peacekeeping past.

The Greek root word denoting lust in the Bible is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but instead sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. It is okay to look the look, and then think the think later. But, there is a big difference between thinking the think and doing the deed. At minimum, the deed to be avoided is flirting or propositioning a minor child. However, any touching anywhere on a child's body for sexual reasons is also doing the deed. 

Children have the right to protect themselves from child sexual abuse, like only they can. Children, in most cases, refuse to go with an adult who poses a threat to children. When a child does want to go with the adult in question, think pedophile, but the right kind. Children almost always want to go with the pedophile, so that excuses that group of adults.

Most child sexual abuse happens not to young children, but to teenage girls. Being a pubescent child is a sensitive time in a child's lifetime, and it is sexually threatening to most adults. This alone is a recipe for disaster. The only way out is in - meaning the righteous masturbation about children. The idea is to go as low as you can in terms of age of fantasies, and then spend it away until it is all spent out. Then, the responsible choice would be to tend to that fantasy on occasion.

I myself am one of the more high-risk type of pedophile. Some abusers are pedophiles, bucking the trend, and I am one of them. I myself am an obvious abuser, meaning I made my crushes obvious to the child victim. It is good to identify as a pedophile, but it is not good to make your crushes obvious. I myself was fixated on a specific child, meaning one at a time, like train cars - and everyone around me hoped for the caboose. However, only 1 out of 4 pedophiles sexually abuse children. But, if you want to know which pedophiles are at risk, think mainly the little kind that is impulsive around children. Some pedophiles are in total denial of their pedophilia, in which case they make up a small minority of pedophiles. All abuser pedophiles such as me have the moral obligation to atone for the sin list that we have in relation to children. 

Most pedophiles are the last adults to sexually abuse a child. A pedophile is always aware of their desires towards children. Most sexually entitled adults are instead unaware of their sexual drive for children until it comes out sideways onto the child, like a ton of bricks. However, child sexual abuse is ultimately a lifestyle choice, as all an adult needs to do is masturbate to sexual thoughts of children. If you can be honest about those desires without jinxing yourself, you are not a threat to anyone. If you only have wet dreams about children, you might be a rapist, especially if your child's nudity threatens you. 

All adults have something to atone for in relation to children. Even if your atonement is simply being at-risk for sexually abusing children, you have something to atone for. Most adults have a sin list a mile long in relation to children, yet they blame their neighbor over themselves. Usually, adults are guilty of punishment of a child in some form, which can come in sexual format. I myself didn't ever punish a child, but I do hold onto blame for being called "creep" by a child. I might be earning my keep, gauging by how children want to go with me, but I don't say for sure. Most children are not afraid of me, but that is because of work I have done on myself. I still hold onto my sin list in relation to children, as a reminder of what not to do in relation to children. I was not always mister nice guy around children. I have a long track record of wronging and abusing children. 

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape or sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the biblical way of doing time-in

Many parents these days are switching to time-out over spanking or other forms of punishment. Most parents oppose time-in as a means of dealing with a crying or upset child. There are many ways to do time-in. However, the fact of the matter is that there is one biblical way of doing time-in, when using the context as a guidepost.

Time-in is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:34-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children one last time. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

There are many ways to do time-in. However, only one method is biblical - mammary closeness. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed before picking up the child. From there, mom diagnosed the need, then meeting that need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period.

Mothers usually gave skin-on-skin comfort to children when they cried. This skin-on-skin mammary closeness usually came in the form of birth nudity between mother and child. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers going naked in the confines of the family home. Children, when they were tired, they were co-snuggled next to mom in skin-on-skin format, in skin-on-skin mammary closeness.

A big part of mammary closeness is breastfeeding. Whenever children were milk-hungry, they cried out loud for mothers to attend to them. Most of the time, breastfeeding ended at age 2, which was when the child rejected the teat of the mother. However, some of the time, breastfeeding didn't end until age 6 or even later. Christian mothers in the Early Church were allowed to breastfeed anywhere when called to do so, including in public. 

Most men sexualize the bosom of women. However, the bosom of mothers was not intended primarily as something to sexualize, but instead is a way for mothers to nurture children. Skin-on-skin mammary closeness is a short way into attachment parenting. Once you as a mother snuggle up next to your child in skin-on-skin format, you will regret doing it sooner. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Mutual respect: Why respect is earned in parenting

Many parents feel entitled to respect in the context of parenting. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents insist on some level of respect from their children. However, the fact of the matter is that parents need to earn the respect they want from their children.

The concept of mutual respect is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Respect for parents was a concept in biblical times. However, this respect came in the form of closeness to parents, not fear of parents. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mom went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following mom around from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children, putting children at ease before picking them up, and then from there, she diagnosed the need and then met it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When children under age 6 were out and about with mothers, mom wrapped them up in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to their parents in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which is when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity helped facilitate skin-on-skin contact, with these rays of skin-on-skin warmth happening even when children were being picked up.

Respect for parents might happen in an attachment parenting home in a way you might be surprised by. Most children who have a secure attachment with parents cry and tantrum a lot for the first 6 years. After age 6, children were in constant closeness to mothers, in a cooperative way. Most attachment parented children are compliant in an affectionate way after age 6. The first 6 years are the most challenging, and then the rest is easy from there. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous co-sleeping: Why God wants parents to sleep next to their children

Many parents think that co-sleeping is the wrong thing to do. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents insist that children sleep in their own bed. However, righteous co-sleeping is a time-honored method of gelling a bond with your child. Co-sleeping also has the potential to prevent child sexual abuse.

The doctrine of righteous co-sleeping is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any punishment towards a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

It is common knowledge that children under age 6 often refuse to go to bed on their own. Bedtime is a common excuse for punishing children, with children left to cry it out. However, the fact of the matter is that children under age 6 are not ready to sleep on their own. Children under age 6 have primal fears of being isolated in a room all by themselves, with the child being morbidly afraid of being devoured by predators. Parents may think that there are no predators in the household. They would be wrong. The most common form of child sexual abuse is a bedtime ritual, where the parent sneaks into the child's bed and rapes the child. However, in a co-sleeping setup, nothing can happen, because mom is right there. In the Early Church, mothers lay down in between father and child, perhaps using herself as a human shield if the father wanted to rape the children.

The most common excuse not to co-sleep next to your child comes from fearmongering on the part of pediatricians and mental health professionals serving children with terms such as "sleep dependence". The fact of the matter is that co-sleeping in biblical times in most cases ended at the onset of puberty, which is when children usually wanted their own place to sleep. Even when children co-sleep past puberty, co-sleeping always has an end to it. I co-slept next to my mother until I turned 16, which is when I decided to sleep on my own, wanting to prove my independence. First, mom slept beside me on the floor, and then the next night she slept in her own bed, and me on my own bed.

Co-sleeping is the ultimate way to gel a bond with your child. Co-sleeping is the centerpiece of the mutual submission relationship between parent and child. The family bed in biblical times was completely nude in terms of makeup, with children being breastfed until age 2 in most cases, but sometimes not until age 6 or beyond.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Benign" deprivation: Why children need all of their needs

Many parents believe in the concept of "benign" deprivation. This is a common method of dealing with children. The doctrine of "benign" deprivation allows for parents to avoid tending to certain cries in a child. The fact of the matter is that the Bible, when using the context as a guidepost, commands that children receive ALL of what they need, and most all of what they want.

Children need ALL of their needs, meaning not just some of them. Giving children EVERYTHING that they need is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto the part of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The concept of "benign" deprivation allows for parents to pick and choose which cries a child need attending to, and which cries are to be ignored. However, children need ALL of their needs, not just some of them. Children growing up in the Early Church were given absolutely everything that they needed, and most everything that they wanted. Whenever a child cried, mothers were quick to respond to their child's cries, doing so by way of cooing at a child in order to put children at ease. Mothers then picked up their child, and from there, she diagnosed the needs of the child before meeting them.

Children have five basic categories of needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - with the greatest of these needs being attachment. When children cried, they needed at least one of these five categories of needs. Sleep is counted as an attachment need, as most parents in biblical times co-slept next to children.

The major reason for a child crying was in response to the word "no". The key is to avoid using the word "no", and instead only decline a petitioned request when it was absolutely necessary. Under customary law, parents were only allowed to say "no" when the petitioned request was unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Even when parents had to decline a request, the request was met with an explanation and reassurance. There are better ways to decline a request than a flat out "no". Try instead saying "that won't work" or "can't happen", and this is how Christian parents in the Early Church declined requests.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why God wants parents to pamper and baby their children

Many parents think that pampering children is the wrong choice as a parent. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents are cold and distant by nature. The fact of the matter is that God wants Christian parents to pamper and baby their children, using the context as a guidepost.

Righteous pampering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child within the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimand, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time, The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Righteous pampering does not refer to just any old pampering, but instead pampering and babying children by using the context as a guidepost. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness with mothers, meaning that wherever mothers went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on her back in a papoose bag when mom's hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following mom from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed before picking the child up, and from there, she diagnosed the need and then met it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When children under age 6 were out and about with mothers, mom wrapped up her child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath her loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping setup happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which is when children usually wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin warmth between mother and child, with the rays of skin-on-skin warmth happening even when children were simply picked up.

Starting after age 6, children played freely outside, naked. Children explored the terrain, venturing farther and farther from home, playing high-risk games such as "marriage". However, children had to check in with mom before heading out. Come evening, children were called by name, one by one, and were treated to a nice, warm homecooked meal on a porcelain plate. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers, recharging for another day's play.

Children under age 6 were very much protected, in a sheltering way. Children under age 6 are too young to appreciate the dangers beyond the warmth of home. In the Early Church, dangers included venomous scorpions or snakes. Dangers also exist today, including busy streets and child kidnappers. Children under age 6 in biblical times, due to being naive about dangers, were kept indoors and never left mom's side.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Adult anger towards children: Why anger at children is banned in the Bible

Many parents think that they have the "right" to get angry at their children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents and adults need an attitude adjustment in relation children. Any anger towards a child was banned in the Bible, no matter what.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unoffically speaking, parental entitlement is an adult being sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel deserving of from children. An adult is deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any adult anger directed towards a child was seen in biblical times as parental entitlement, including even moral anger towards children. Whenever this sense of entitlement was perceived by children as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating a child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Adult anger is not a good place to be. In biblical times, anger at a child was seen as akin to a viper lashing out at a child. Adult anger was something that children were shielded from, meaning children were not even exposed to anger from their children.

Most anger at a child comes from deservances. The idea is to avoid the slightest of deservances. Whenever you feel yourself feeling yourself deserving things from children, tell yourself that you are deserving of absolutely nothing from children. As soon as you feel that adult anger come on, tell yourself how you are deserving of absolutely nothing from your child. 

Anger at children is anger "without a cause", as children under the age of majority are not to be expected to behave just as "little adults". The main moral crime that was seen as worthy of prosecuting in a child was fornication, and even then, only in reverse coloration format. Sexual interactions had to be atoned for at the child's baptism, alongside other blasphemy offenses such as moral crimes motivated by alcohol or other intoxicants. Even in the case of clear blasphemy, parents did not get angry at, but instead simply took down the docket to hand over to the council. See Matt. 5:21-22.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Punitive parenting: Why punitive parenting is the wrong way to deal with a child

Many parents think that punitive parenting is a valid way of dealing with children. Punitive parenting is parenting based off of parental entitlement, meaning there are a lot of parents who support punishing and being controlling with children. The fact of the matter is that punitive parenting is banned in the Bible.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is an adult being sorely disappointed when their children don't give them what they feel that they deserve. Adults, including parents, are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. All adult anger on the part of adults was seen in biblical times as parental entitlement, including moral anger towards a child. When this sense of entitlement on the part of adults was perceived by children as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands. or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" referring to the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen then as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings, Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Punitive parenting is parenting based off of a specific sense of entitlement known as parental entitlement. Most parents today have parent anger, with this anger usually coming from a deserving place. In the Early Church, parents did not get angry at children. Instead, parenting in biblical times was motivated by worry or concern, not anger. The only anger allowed by parents then was protective anger, meaning laying claim onto children who might otherwise be abused and exploited by child predators.

The Bible is clear - no punishment or other punitive measures are allowed in parenting, including anger. Anger at a child was seen as akin to a viper striking out at an unsuspecting child. Any anger towards a child was seen as predatory, meaning something no child should ever be exposed to. 

The idea behind combatting parental entitlement is telling yourself how undeserving you are in relation to children. Most parents who get angry at their children feel deserving of things from their children. The most common deservance demanded by parents is good behavior. Whenever you don't get what you want, you surely are sorely disappointed. The idea is to pick out your flaws as a parent, and avoid any anger towards a child by coming to know that you are a depraved and decadent sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing. Whenever you as a parent center your adult anger, the rest of the entitlements in our entitlements fall into shape.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Children self-protect, adults abstain: Individual responsibility for preventing child sexual abuse

Many adults support child sexual abuse prevention. However, most anti-sexual abuse adults believe in collective responsibility, where the whole organization disowns the interloper. Many organizations end up using band-aid fixes that are simply a CYA precaution that has nothing to do with preventing child sexual abuse. The answer is children self-protecting and adults abstaining from child sexual abuse.

The Greek root word denoting lust is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but instead refers to sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. It is okay to look the look, and then maybe think the think later. However, if you find yourself doing the deed with a child, you shouldn't have anpproached her. Doing the deed includes any flirting or propositioning, or else touch a child anywhere on their body with sexual intent. There is only one way out of doing the deed - righteous masturbation. The idea is to explore all sexual possibilities, while landing at the same place - nothing except maybe with one's wife.

Most child sexual abuse takes place in sexually repressive environments, where adults repress their sex drive towards children. Usually, adults repressed a sex drive towards children. The problem with that setup is that repressing a sex drive often leads to the sex drive coming out sideways like a ton of bricks. 

Children can tell if you are safe as an adult. When a child repels from an adult when the adult in question poses an imminent risk to children. When children want to go with the adult in questioned, in the most objectifying manner, think pedophile of the non-offending type. 

It is a myth that only a pedophile would sexually abuse a child. However, every single adult is guilty merely for being capable of raping or sexually assaulting a child. The idea is to make sure all of your sexual needs are met, including child fantasies. When adults get their sexual needs met in relation to children, children are safe.

The home sexual dynamic is what trips up parents, especially fathers. The home sexual dynamic consists of a criss-cross, with fathers and daughters having a mutually unrequited sexual dynamic. The idea is to spend away the sexual passions felt by fathers toward his daughter. Boys usually were attracted to their mothers, but in the form of a dead end. Most child sexual abuse comes from the abovementioned sexual attachment between father and daughter. The idea is to identify as sexually attracted to children, in a calm and peaceable manner. Also, parents should masturbate righteously to sexual thoughts of their children, as a means of spending the attraction away most completely just by masturbating righteously.

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape or sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire, prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Expanding child abuse definitions: Why the Bible calls for more laws protecting children

Many parents think that the Bible has no answers to the issue of child abuse. This is a common belief amongst American parents. Most American parents think that the Bible is silent on the issue of child abuse. They would be wrong. The Bible is clearly opposed to child abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is being sorely disappointed when children don't give adults what they feel that they deserve. Parents and other adults are deserving of absolutely nothing from anyone just for existing. In biblical times, any anger towards a child by an adult was seen as parental entitlement. When this sense of entitlement in an adult was perceived by children as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context. as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting. including, but limited to, any punishments, reprimands, and other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" referring to the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writing. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Sweden was the first modern country to ban all use of force in parenting, with the official ban coming in 1979. However, several ancient cultures also banned force in parenting. One of these cultures was the Early Christian culture. The Swedish children's rights movement used the Hebraic context of the Bible to convict Swedish parents of their punitive ways. 

The Bible is America's book, with the Bible being a founding document of this country. The Bible is a book that is the main source of wisdom in this country, even above the Constitution itself. We as a society glean from all 88 books of the Bible, from Genesis to Revelation. Most of our laws are based off of the Bible, and if you have my values, you get to hope for having Christian law in this country. I support Christian law, but with an anti-spanking flair. If Jews and Muslims can want their law, then I can want mine. The Bible, when understood in context, is an anti-spanking document - the Bible was written entirely by Jews, and Jews were always anti-spanking.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Passing down the faith: How to bring up children in the Lord the right way (meaning without punishment or force)

Many parents know that children need religion. However, most parents think that this means that children need religion beaten into them. However, the fact of the matter is that children do not need to be punished in order to grow up to being a Christian. Instead, children need access to a Bible and religious literature, and the rest takes care of itself.

Passing down the faith is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the part of parents. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing your children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages and offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, gently melding the countenance of a child. In light of Eph. 6:4, stanza 1, this could only one thing - lavish praise and encouragement when children were caught in the act of good behavior. Whenever children were caught being good, they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Children ultimately learned good behavior by copying the Christian example of parents. However, this good example was backed up by lavish praise and encouragement, as opposed to harsh punishment or force. Children need religious instruction, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to self-directed religious instruction. This religious instruction started out with fathers leaving a Bible out for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based off of what children saw in the text. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers being quick to give pointers on the context. This religious instruction helped to center the countenance of children, which is the actual Judeo-Christian goal of parenting.

Today, children have another mode of religious instruction - the Internet. Children still read their Bible, and will still ask parents 20 questions about Christianity. The idea is to be prepared ahead of time, so that you can easily answer the plethora of questions about the Bible. Children, however, can and will do their own to research the Bible based off of the Internet. 

Children have religious needs, just as adults have religious needs. Thus, children simply need a Bible, a Christian website on their electronic devices, and then they are set. They might come to difference from you in terms of religion, but at least they have values.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment. suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent. for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Original sin: How to bring up children in the doctrine of original sin the right way (meaning without punishment or force)

The doctrine of original sin is perhaps the most misused and misunderstood of Christian teachings. Yet, original sin is the backbone of Christianity. Without original sin, there would be no reason for a Christ. Original sin is an important thing for children to learn, but that lesson can be taught without controlling demeanor on the part of parents or other adult.

God hates all mankind, except for a few who have been chosen as His elect. We as human beings are flawed creatures, and are glorified apes in that regard. We as human beings are depraved and decadent in nature, and are deserving of absolutely nothing just for existing. 

The doctrine of original sin can be taught without punishment or force. It is good to note, however, that children themselves are exempt from official blame, as per the definition of righteous judgment. But, it is good to teach them that they aren't the center of the world. This can be done simply by praising and encouraging self-control in children. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also John 7:24; Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your children hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, to gently melding the countenance of children. In light of Eph. 6:4, first stanza, the second stanza can only mean one thing - lavish praise and encouragement whenever a child was caught in the act of good behavior. Whenever children were caught being good, they were given lavish praise and encouragement with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Children ultimately learned good traits through the Christian example of parents. However, that good example is backed up by lavish praise and encouragement, and not harsh punishments or force. Children also need religious instruction, as religion is a need for children alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to self-directed religious instruction. This religious instruction started with fathers leaving out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based off of the text that they saw. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers being quick to give pointers on the context. This religious instruction, and the extra praise with it, helped to center the countenance of children, with this centeredness being the Judeo-Christian goal of any Christian parent.

Children today have a new tool of exploring theological concepts - the Internet itself. At some point, children find religious literature discussing the fallen nature of mankind. The idea is to comfort any blow to them from learning they are sinners. The idea is to remind them of Christ's work on the cross, and reassure children using Christ as a hope and Savior. 

The whole idea behind the use of the word νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) is that the religious instruction be self-directed. In modern times, the Internet makes religious instruction more available. However, children usually discover the Bible, and ask parents 20 questions about religion, as well as getting some of their information from the Internet. Some of these questions posed by children will involve topics related to sin and atonement. Be honest, and hide nothing from them, but reassure them nonetheless. There is no need to beat religion into a child, as religion is a human need for children, just as it is for adults.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

How to pacify a child who cries in public

Many parents have to deal with it. A child cries in public, and sometimes, they throw a full blown meltdown. This is a common issue that occurs between parent and child. However, there is a simple solution to children throwing meltdowns in public. 

Child pacification in biblical times came in the form of swaddling children to the bosom of mothers, with this being part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of damages or offenses perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishment, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

When mothers and children under age 6 were out and about, mom wrapped up her child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets. The swaddling blankets - and the child with them - were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Beforehand, the swaddling blankets were tied from the left breast, and then across the dot to the right leg, or else vice versa, or else both in the case of twins. Whenever children cried out loud, their cries were pacified, with children being held even closer to the bosom of mothers, with the mother cooing beforehand at her child. The swaddling blankets were made of velvet, which grew throughout the Ancient Middle East.

Most public temper tantrums, even then, were due to children hearing the word "no". Whenever a child wanted something off of the shelf at market, they simply pointed to the item, and the mother took the item off of the shelf, just for the child. Whenever a child couldn't have an item, an explanation and a reassurance was given. Sometimes, children wanted a pet sheep from the market, in which case mothers happily obliged and pardoned the sacrificial lamb, just for the child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous ordering: Why parents are to heel to the commands of their children

Many parents think that they should call the shots when children want things. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents insist on calling the shots. However, the fact of the matter is that children are to issue commands, and parents are to heel to said commands.

Righteous ordering is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the part of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to the slightest of damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Righteous ordering involves children issuing commands from their place of rest, and parents heeling to the commands of children. Under customary law, by default, parents were prohibited from saying "no" to a child. The only exception was when the commands coming from children were unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Even when children were told "no", the disappointing news came in the form of reassurance and explanation.

Righteous ordering can be understood as akin to going to a restaurant. You can have it your way, but it has to be on the menu. Whenever an item is out of stock, the waitress is nice about it, even if you aren't. Being a Christian mother is like being a waitress, with that waitress waiting on children hand and foot. Ultimately, serving children was seen as serving God.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous co-sleeping: Why God wants you to sleep next to your child

Many parents think that co-sleeping is the irresponsible choice on the part of a parent. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, that not only is it beneficial to co-sleep next to your child, but it can also help prevent child sexual abuse.

Righteous co-sleeping is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment betwen parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offense, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

It is common knowledge that children aged 0-6 often refuse to go to bed. This is a common reason for parents punishing their children. However, the fact of the matter is that children that young are too young to sleep on their own. It is a matter of fact that children that young have a primal fear of being devoured by predators when isolated in a room by themselves. Many people believe that there is no threat to children today. They would be wrong. Child sexual abuse usually comes in the form of a bedtime ritual. However, co-sleeping would prevent all that, as in biblical times, the mother was right there, perhaps using herself as a human shield in the face of the sexual entitlement of fathers.

The most common reason for parents not to co-sleep next to children is fearmongering with terminology such as "sleep dependence" on the part of pediatricians and mental health professionals serving children. However, all co-sleeping has an end to it. In the Early Church, children, in most cases, refused co-sleeping at the onset of puberty. However, even if co-sleeping lasted until later, it always had an end to it. I myself was 16 when I sought to sleep on my own. I intended to prove my independence, and so mom slept on the floor, and then in her own bed.

Co-sleeping was the centerpiece of the doctrine of mutual submission. Co-sleeping, in biblical times, helped gel the bond between parent and child. The family bed was naked in terms of setup, with this setup allowing for skin-on-skin sustaining warmth between parent and child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke not your child to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Child punishment: Why children don't deserve punitive parenting of any sort

Many parents think that children need punishment. This is a common attitude on the part of American parents. Most American parents punish their children, including through spanking or other forms of corporal punishment. Most parents in America are punitive in terms of how they deal with children.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is an adult losing their cool when they don't get what they deserve from children. Whenever adults don't get what they feel that they deserve from children, they lose their cool. Any anger on the part of adults towards children was considered parental entitlement, including moral anger at children. When this anger led to offense or damages as perceived by a child, it became child abuse. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting any form of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Any adult anger was deemed parental entitlement. The adult anger towards children was seen as becoming of a viper or a monster. There is no need to get angry at a child. The core driving emotions behind Christian parenting is worry or concern, not anger. Anger at a child was seen as something predatory in nature, and when it came out, everyone stood up for the child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke not your child to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Mutual respect: Why respect is earned in parenting

Many parents want respect from their children. This is a common desire on the part of parents. However, most American parents demand respect from their children. The fact of the matter, however, is that respect is earned in life, including in parenting.

Mutual respect is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your children as a quartered slave. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Respect for parents was a thing in the Early Church. However, this respect came in the form of closeness to parents, not fear of parents. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mothers went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mothers out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried out loud, mothers cooed at the child before picking them up, and from there, mothers diagnosed the need and then met it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whenever mothers and children under age 6 were out and about in public, mom wrapped up her child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers, that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping warmth happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which is when children, in most cases, wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin contact, with this sustaining warmth happening even when the child was merely picked up.

Respect for parents comes from respect for children. Parents are not deserving of anything in relation to children. Not even respect. Not even forgiveness. Not even affection. Nothing. Nada. Zilch. A parent needs to earn what they want from children, as opposed to it being handed out on a silver platter.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Hebrews 12:5-8: Why this passage is not a pro-spanking passage

Many parents cite the Bible as an excuse for punishing children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. The main passage holding the pro-spanking argument together is Hebrews 12:5-8. However, Heb. 12:5-8 does not even refer to earthly parenting.

God's Word reads in Hebrews 12:5-8 KJV: 

And ye have forgotten the exhortation that speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou are rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons, for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.

This passage, when understood correctly, is comforting. The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μαστιγόω (Latin: mastigoó) and has a figurative meaning to it. This sort of metaphor is what is called rod language. When you had a long day at work, you instead said "God whipped me hard today". This metaphor was intended as validation for the anguish brought forth from Roman persecution. This whole passage was intended to reassure and validate the Hebrew Christians who were being persecuted by Rome. The modern way to understand this passage is the phrase "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger".

God whips His children, like only He can, sending trials and tribulations the way of the believer. However, God only whips His children when it doesn't harm them, whereas earthly parents only whip their children when it does harm then. Due to the flawed nature of earthly parenting, earthly parents should bring up their children as does naturally, meaning attachment parenting. Instead of parents being like God, they should tip that God-complex on its side, submitting to children just as they would to God.

The passage in Heb. 12:5-8 does not have to deal with earthly parenting. However, certain passage do, in fact, deal with earthly parenting in full. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother, which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of children.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40; 25:31-46,

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of offenses or damages stemming from hostage-taking  - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Maybe Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, gently melding the countenance of children. In light of Eph. 6:4, stanza 1, this word can only mean one thing - lavishly praising and encouraging children when they were caught in the act of good behavior. Whenever children were caught in the act of being good, they were given lavish praise and encouragement with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Children ultimately learn from the Christian example of parents. However, this good example is backed up by lavish praise and encouragement, as opposed to harsh punishment or force. Children also need religious instruction, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to self-directed religious instruction. This religious instruction started out with fathers leaving out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based off of the text. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers being quick to give pointers on the context. Today, children can also study religion over the Internet, in which case let them talk to you about their religious beliefs. This religious instruction, and the praise along with it, was ultimately what centered the countenance of children.

The true Judeo-Christian goal of parenting is not "breaking their will" but instead "centering of countenance". The common way to discipline a child is to beat them, and continue to beat them, until their "will is broken". 

Heb. 12:5-8 is a common argument in favor of punitive parenting, including spanking and other forms of child punishment. However, two verses refer to parenting in particular, and both ban any form of offending a child. Heb. 12:5-8 has nothing to do with earthly parent.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke not your children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why God wants you to pamper and baby your children

Many parents think that pampering your child is the wrong thing to do. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, the Bible, when using the context as a guidepost, calls for parents to pamper and baby their children. 

Righteous pampering is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV: 

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damagetns or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of offenses or damages stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

When using the context as a guidepost, righteous pampering does not mean any old pampering, but instead means a specific type of pampering and babying children. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness, meaning that wherever mothers went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on her back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following mom from room to room, not allowing mothers out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried out loud, mothers picked up the child, and from there, she diagnosed and met the needs of a child. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. When children under age 6 were out and about in public next to mothers, mom wrapped up her child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which was when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin contact, with children receiving the rays of skin-on-skin sustaining warmth merely when being when picked up. 

Past age 6, children played outside freely, naked. Children explored the terrain, venturing farther and farther from home, playing high-risk games such as "marriage". However, children had to check in with mom before heading out, telling her where they were going. Come evening, children then were called by name, one-by-one, and were given a nice, warm homecooked meal, usually on a porcelain plate. From there, children co-slept next to mothers, recharging for another day's play.

Children growing up in the Early Church were protected, but in a sheltering way. In the Early Church, dangers existed outside the confines of the family home, namely venomous snakes and scorpions. However, even today, dangers lurk outside - busy streets and child kidnappers. Children younger than age 6 cannot possibly appreciate the dangers of the outside world, hence why the Early Christian parents kept young children at home.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Christian attachment parenting: Why the Early Christians were attachment parents

Many parents think that attachment parenting is banned in the Bible. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents support punitive parenting, not knowing that the Bible commands attachment parenting, or at least endorses it.

The Bible is a founding document of this nation, even above the Constitution itself. We as a society glean for answers as to how to live from the Bible and its context. Nowhere in the Bible does it say to strike or punish a minor child. The rod in the Bible refers to the 40 minus 1 lashes, as the Hebrew word translated "child" is "na'ar" and refers to a young adult. The Hebrew word translated "son" is "ben" and refers to a mature adult son. The 40 minus 1 lashes were a once-in-a-lifetime event, with the whippings being a final warning before putting the adult son to death. 

Attachment parenting comes in the form of the doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy f ather and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context as a moral statute prohibiting all form of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved the children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to, in this context, gently melding the countenance of children. In light of the previous stanza, this melding of the countenance ultimately refers to one thing - lavishly praising and encouraging children when they were caught in the act of good behavior. Whenever children were caught in the act of being good, they were given praise and encouragement with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Children ultimately learn good behavior through the Christian example of parents. However, that good example is backed up by lavish praise and encouragement, as opposed to harsh punishment or force. Children also need religious instruction, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to self-directed religious instruction. This religious instruction started out with fathers leaving out a Bible for children to discover or explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement with statement such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based off of what was in the text. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers being quick to give pointers on the context. Today, children can use the Internet to learn the facts of life, and when they present their religious knowledge, praise them on it. This religious instruction, alongside the praise and encouragement of fathers, is what centered the countenance of children. Centering the countenance of children is the Judeo-Christian standard of child discipline, not "breaking their will".

Children growing up in the Early Church were treated to attachment parenting from day one. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were constantly next to her mother, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did her child. For the latter half of childhood, children played freely outside. From there, children co-slept next to mothers in order to recharge for another day's play. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the family home - this nude setup is known as birth nudity, with the birth nudity of children helping to facilitate skin-on-skin closeness even when the child was merely picked up.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke not your children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!