Passing down the faith: How to pass down the Christian faith (without punishment or force)

Many parents want their children to grow up in the same Christian faith that they grew up in. This is a common desire amongst American parents. There is no guarantee that your child will hold the same denominational views as you do. But, you can encourage good values in a child. There is a right way, and a wrong way, to pass down the faith. The right way does not allow for any punitive parenting.

The passing down of the Christian faith is spelled out in the Bible, with this passage prohibiting the punishment of children. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother, which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as they would God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon. Indeed, Greco-Roman parents got out the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely for being "too soft" on their children. 

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The standard of Christian discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their footsteps. Children, in biblical times, were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever a child was caught showing good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - they were lavishly praised with statements such as "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise when caught being good by fathers, whereas girls were given a kiss to the forehead when caught being good by fathers. Children also need religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. Religious instruction started out by leaving out an Aramaic copy of the Hebrew Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were first caught reading the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based off of what children saw in the Bible. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers being quick to point out the context. Religious development is part of child development, as religion is a human need. For the first couple of years in a child's life, religious beliefs are simplistic and non-conformist to any religious denomination or sect. But, as they got older, they start to conform to a specific religious denomination or sect. It may not be the religion of your choice, but at least they have values.

What motivates children to follow the instruction of fathers? Why not start out with a secure attachment to mothers? For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of a child's life, children were held constantly by mothers, either in her loving arms, or in a papoose bag on her back when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her around from room to room, not allowing her out of their sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers were quick to coo at children, putting children at ease, then diagnosing the need right there and then. When mothers were out and about in public, children under age 6 were wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets, while tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping lasting until the onset of puberty, which is when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, and mothers went naked in the family home, with this birth nudity facilitating optimal closeness between mother and child.

Mothers nurtured up close, and fathers nurtured from afar. Fathers, for the most part, kept their distance from their children, apart from a teaching form of nurturing that involved praising or encouraging good behavior. Fathers were distant from their children due to the sexual attachment between fathers and children, namely daughters. But, even then, fathers were not allowed their icing on the cake, as sexual relations between parent and child were prohibited even then. Fathers instead masturbated righteously in order to spend away their parent attractions. Fathers then were warm and kind with their children, only showing anger when protecting their child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Redefining child abuse: Why child abuse definitions need to be expanded

Many parents get their parenting advice from the Bible. We as a nation are founded on Judeo-Christian family values. The Bible is a founding document of this country, above even the Constitution itself. The fact of the matter is that nowhere in these values does it legitimately state to strike or punish a child.

The Bible, in and of itself, prohibits all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any corporal punishment. The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. When that want was imposed on a child, and the child perceived it in some way, it became child abuse. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon. Indeed, Greco-Roman parents got out the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were largely persecuted for being "too soft" on their children.

Sweden was the first nation in modern times to ban all corporal punishment and other controlling demeanor towards children. However, in ancient times, there were societies that prohibited child punishment. Ancient Israel prohibited all forms of punitive parenting as a form of kidnapping, with punitive parents - and all those defending them - being put to death by way of bloodletting. Sexual correction of a child was considered unlawful even in the Old Testament, with the abuser being burnt at the stake.

In modern Israel, punitive parenting was prohibited officially in the year 2000. However, even before that, Jewish courts prohibited punitive parenting among Jews. The Supreme Court ruling in modern Israel gave the police the authorization to unilaterally raid Christian and Muslim homes who used punitive parenting on their children. Family courts in modern Israel are sectarian based, meaning Christians, Jews, and Muslims are represented by their respective sectarian courts.

The police are the entity in modern Israel currently enforcing the ban on punitive parenting in Israel based off of the relevant criminal statute. If a child was grounded or placed in time-out, it would be considered false imprisonment. If a child was struck, it would be battery. If a child was reprimanded, it would be harassment. The police in Israel can unilaterally enforce criminal statures relevant in a child abuse investigation.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why the Bible says to pamper your children

Many parents think that pampering their children is the irresponsible choice on the part of a parent. Most parents want to be seen as strict on their children. However, the fact of the matter is that the Bible, when understood in context, calls for parents to pamper and baby their children.

Righteous pampering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to a secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment was based off of parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon. Indeed, Greco-Roman parents got out the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely for being "too soft" on their children.

Righteous pampering calls on parents to pamper and baby their children, but in just the right way. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child, stemming from entitlement. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on her back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, with children morbidly fearing mothers "going away, and never coming back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, then holding them to their bosom in mammary closeness. When mothers were out and about, children were wrapped up next to their bare bosom, in swaddling blankets, with the child then tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with co-sleeping lasting until the child reached the age of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked in biblical times wherever they went, with mothers going naked in the family. 

Children, after age 6, played freely outside with the children in the neighborhood, naked. Children ventured farther and farther from home, exploring the terrain, then coming home to mom come dusk. Children were called by their name when dinner was ready, and after dinner, slept next to mothers in co-sleeping format in order to recharge. When children shook off co-sleeping closeness, that was the beginning of the end of the closeness between parents and children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Honor thy parents: Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Most parents want to be honored by their children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents demand that children obey and honor them. However, there is a bare minimum where children are suppose to respect their parents, and that meant avoiding clear elder abuse.

The Bible says in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mothers: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

This meant simply not to dishonor parents, meaning don't abuse them. This ultimately refers to the parent protection laws. Adult children are not to strike their parents (see also Exod. 21:15), gaslight their parents to send them places (see also Lev. 20:9), or commit crimes while blaming parents (see also Deut. 21:18-21). The best way to understand the Fifth Commandment is a child striking out at their parents. Even young children should be discouraged from striking their parents, with parents crying out loud in what is called righteous wailing, with parents crying out loud due to their child striking them. Children don't want to take advantage of cries from parents, but simply want to be heard. But, striking your parents is not the way to use your parents. Parents are there for your use, like a sponge. But, there is such a thing as misusing your parents, and that is where the parent protection laws step in. Apart from the parent protection laws, respect was earned by parents. If parents offended their children by treating them in an entitled manner, children could disown their parents.

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon. Indeed, Greco-Roman parents got out the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were largely persecuted for being "too soft" on their children.

Respect for parents was a thing for children in biblical times, but in the form of closeness to parents, not fear of parents. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of a child's life, children were constantly held by mothers, either in mom's loving arms, or on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their sight, morbidly fearing mom "going away and not coming back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed before picking up the child, holding the child close to their bosom in mammary closeness. When mothers were out and about with their children - under age 6 - they swaddled their children next to their bosom in swaddling blankets. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to parents in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping lasting until the onset of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep. 

Children, once they turned 6, started to play outside with other children in the neighborhood, naked. However, they had to check in with mom first. Children past age 6 ventured farther and farther from home, exploring the terrain, then returning to home for dinner once called by their parents by name. Children co-slept and co-snuggled next to mothers in order to recharge, then going even farther from home the next day. When children shake off the co-sleeping warmth and sustenance of mothers, that was the beginning of the end of closeness with parents, with children from there being seen as reaching maturity.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Christian attachment parenting: Understanding why God wants parents to raise their children as comes naturally

Many parents think that the Bible condones or even commands punitive parenting. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents think that attachment parenting is not part of the Bible. However, the Bible clearly commands attachment parenting. 

Christian attachment parenting is attachment parenting based off of the Early Christian context. The Bible is best understood as written to God's Audience. The Audience that God spoke to was staunchly anti-spanking, apart from a few scofflaws here and there.

Christian attachment parenting is clearly spelled out in the Bible. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon. Indeed, Greco-Roman parents got out the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely for being "too soft" on their children.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The standard of Christian discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their footsteps. Children, in biblical times, were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever a child showed good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - they were lavishly praised and encouraged by fathers with phrases such as "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise when caught being good by fathers, and girls were given a kiss to the forehead when caught being good by fathers. Children also needed religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. Religious instruction started out with fathers leaving out an Aramaic copy of the Hebrew Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught reading the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged with phrases such as "that book is good for you" From there, religious education came in the form of question and answer, based off of what children saw in the Bible. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers giving pointers on the context. Religious development is a part of child development. Children start out with simplistic beliefs that don't conform to any religious sect or denomination. However, as children get older, they start to conform to a specific religious sect or denomination. It may not be your choice of religion, but at least they have values.

What motivated children to hear out the instruction of their fathers? Why not start with a secure attachment with mothers? For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of a child's life, children were held constantly by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom outside of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at the child before picking them up, then holding them next to her bosom in mammary closeness. Children past age 6 played outside freely, while naked. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with co-sleeping starting from day one, and lasting until the onset of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers being naked within the confines of the family home, with this birth nudity facilitating sustaining warmth between mothers and children.

Mothers nurture up close, whereas fathers nurture from afar. Fathers in the Early Church kept their distance from their children, and kept their distance due to a sexual attachment between father and child, in most cases between father and daughter. However, a Christian man was not allowed his "icing on the cake", and instead stuck to righteous masturbation. Fathers did nurture, but in a distant way that was teaching in nature, once children were ready to hear out the instruction of fathers. Sexual correction was prohibited in biblical times. Fathers who approached their children for sexual or flirtatious reasons were excommunicated from the Early Church. Most sexual attachment in biblical times was connotational in nature, meaning not driven. Fathers kept an eye on children, motivated by sexual attachment, in order to catch them being good, and then reward them with praise, or a kiss on the forehead in the case of daughters.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Proverbs 13:24: Why this is not a pro-spanking verse

Many parents think the Bible says somewhere "spare the rod, spoil the child". However, there is no such verse in the Bible. However, there are passages in the book of Proverbs that do mention a rod. However, this rod refers to judicial corporal punishment of a young adult, when understood in context.

The Bible says in Proverbs 13:24 KJV:

He that spareth the rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

The rod here refers to a specific form of judicial corporal punishment known as the 40 minus 1 lashes. These lashes were administered as a final warning before being executed for a capital offense, meaning it was a once and a lifetime event that was harrowing in nature. Children under the age of majority could not be whipped under the Law. This passage is a reminder that fathers are to whip their errant young adult children if the time came, because otherwise, fathers would refuse to whip their children with the 40 minus 1 lashes.

All 7 of the rod verses are repealed verses. Christ suffered corporal punishment before being nailed to the cross, and did so unjustly. The Early Christians did not practice corporal or capital punishment for this reason alone. Christ died in order to abolish the harsh punishments under the Law of Moses. The Law of Moses is still binding today, but only in spirit, meaning the first 10 commandments sum up the rest of them. Laws were only to be followed if they are repeated in the New Testament, and even then, the Early Christians did not whip or execute anyone. All of the harsh punishments in the Old Testament are null and void, thanks to Christ's work on the cross.

The Bible actually prohibits the corporal punishment of children, as well as any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement, and cross-references the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. When this want was imposed on a child, and the child perceived it, it became child abuse. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon. Indeed, Greco-Roman parents got out the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were largely persecuted for being "too soft" on their children.

The various writers of all 88 books of the Bible were all anti-spanking, including both the Apostle Paul and King Solomon. All of them were Jews, and the Jewish faith prohibited the use of force on minor children even then. Judaism is the root religion of Christianity, and Judaism prohibits striking or punishing children for any reason. In the Hebraic context, the rod was only employed rarely, and even then, only in the Old Testament. In the Early Church, parishioners were forbidden from participating in Roman floggings or executions by church leadership. King Solomon did not intend for his work to be an excuse for child abuse. Parents then brought up their children as comes naturally, meaning attachment parenting. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices. Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous respect: Why respect is earned in parenting

Many parents take up the attitude that they deserve respect. Most American parents feel entitled to respect from their children. The fact of the matter is that parents are not deserving of any respect. Respect in parenting is earned, and does not come for free on a silver platter.

The concept of righteous respect is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children. Indeed, Greco-Roman parents got out the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were largely persecuted for being "too soft" on their children.

Respect for parents was a thing in biblical times, but came in the form of closeness to parents, as opposed to fear of parents. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mothers went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of a child's life, children were constantly held, either in mother's arms, or in a papoose bag if mom's hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their sight, fearing morbidly that mothers would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, then holding them in mammary closeness. When mothers were out and about, they swaddled their children next to their bosom in swaddling blankets. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with co-sleeping lasting until the child reached the onset of puberty, which was when children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked in biblical times, wherever they went, with mothers going in the nude inside the family home. Mothers wore a loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron when out and about in public. From there, children were tucked underneath the dress in swaddling blankets.

Respect, coming from children, does not come for free. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing. Not even respect. Not even forgiveness. Not even affection. Nothing. Nada. Zilch. Children owe their parents nothing, and parents owe their children everything. All respect in parenting is to be earned, not bestowed on a silver platter for free.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Benign" deprivation: Why to meet a child's every need

Many parents believe in the concept of "benign" deprivation. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. "Benign" deprivation is meeting only some of the needs of a child, at the parents' prerogative and convenience. However, children need ALL of their vulnerable needs met.

"Benign" deprivation is a violation of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your children in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke,..to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, the slightest of punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with kidnapping being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few children during his time as deacon. Indeed, Greco-Roman parents got out the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely for being "too soft" on their children.

Mothers in biblical times responded to the EVERY need of a child, not just some of them at their convenience. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness with mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of a child's life, they were held constantly, either in mom's loving arms, or in a papoose bag on mom's back when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, fearing that mothers would "go away and never come back". Mothers, when out and about, swaddled their children next to their bosom in swaddling blankets. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with co-sleeping lasting until the onset of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep. Mothers in biblical times never missed a single need of their children, and doted on the every vulnerable need of their children.

Children often cry out of nowhere because they have a vulnerable need that needs being met. Children have five main categories of needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - with the greatest of these needs being attachment! Children need ALL of their needs met, not just some of them. Sometimes they are hungry. Sometimes they are tired (which counts as an attachment need). Sometimes they just need YOU. Children always cry because they have a vulnerable need. 

The word "no" is to be used sparingly, preferably never. Most of the time, children should get what they want, including the latest trending toys or electronic devices. The only reason to say "no" to a command coming from a child is when the command is unworkable and/or immoral. Children need cushioning when they hear the word "no", as that word packs a punch for children. Parents are to reassure their child that they are heard, namely by cooing when the child cries.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why children call the shots in the family home

Many parents think that they are the ones to call the shots in parenting. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents think that they are the one in charge, and that they are entitled to children listening to them. However, the fact of the matter is that children call the shots in the family home.

Children calling the shots is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon. Indeed, Greco-Roman parents got out the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were largely persecuted for being "too soft" on their children.

Children called the shots in biblical times. That means that children issued lawfully binding orders to parents. In most all cases, parents had to obey the law of their children, which came from the child's restful place in the secure attachment between parent and child. The only reason parents could righteously disobey the orders of their children if the orders were unworkable and/or immoral. Even when parents had to disobey the child's orders, they were required to reassure and validate the child's upset through righteous listening. Children calling the shots is known as righteous ordering.

Righteous ordering can be understood in terms of going to a restaurant. You can have it your way, but only if it is on the menu. If the item isn't on the menu, the waitress is nice about it, even if you aren't. Parents are there for the righteous use of their children, meaning parents are there to be used like a sponge, or a milking-cow when children were milk-dependent. 

Part of allowing children to call the shots is giving up the fight with your child, and giving in to their righteous demands. The idea is to be a hired bondservant for your child, righteously caving to their every order. In biblical times, older children - older than age 6 - gave their parents the morning breath treatment, meaning children literally shouted what they wanted into the face of their parents - and then their parents either submitted fully or came to a compromise with their children.

Young children - under age 6 - cried when they wanted something. That cry was interpreted as a summonses for mothers to meet a vulnerable need. Whenever a child cried in biblical times, mothers immediately responded, cooing at children to put them at ease. From there, mothers diagnosed the need of the child, and met it. There are five main categories of needs in a child; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - and the greatest of these needs is attachment!

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Crying: Why crying is not bad behavior

Many parents have to deal with it. Their child is crying. Most parents see a child crying as undermining their "authority". Most parents punish crying in a child past a certain age. However, the fact of the matter is that crying was seen as normal childhood behavior in biblical times.

Reassuring crying is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating their child as a quartered slave. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon. Indeed, Greco-Roman parents got out the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely for being "too soft" on their children.

For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mothers went, so did the child. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up. From there, mothers diagnosed the need of the child. Sometimes the child was tired. Sometimes the child was hungry. Sometimes the child simply needed attachment with mom.

There are five main categories of needs in a child; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - and the greatest of these needs is attachment! When children cry for seemingly no reason, they want YOU and YOU only. A child most definitely is petitioning for a need when they cry, and it is the responsibility of the mother to respond accordingly. It is a myth that children cry in order to manipulate. They simply need something, and are petitioning for such needs. 

Crying is not a form of defiance. Most parents feel undermined when their children cry after a certain age. There is no need to react this way towards a child crying. Instead of reacting to the crying, it is good for mothers to respond to the every cry of a child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Anti-Autism: Inside the mind of an obvious abuser

Many parents think that pedophiles are the only ones out to get their children. This is a common belief amongst American parents. Most child sexual abuse is not committed by pedophiles, and most pedophiles don't commit child sexual abuse. However, there are exceptions to this rule. I myself am an obvious abuser. I disclose this to use myself as an example of what antisocial traits to look for in a pedophile. Most pedophiles who have a narcissist have a suicidal narcissist. The most common pedophilic offender has no narcissist.

There are two different types of pedophile disclosure - tearful and tone-deaf. Most pedophiles who disclose their pedophilia are tearful about it, and that is how you can tell that they are deserving of listening and validation. Usually, it isn't a narcissist, but simply a private topic. Any narcissist they do have is called a "kamakaze" narcissist, meaning a hidden plan to self-destruct once caught being a pedophile.

The main pedophilic offender is the obvious abuser. An obvious abuser acts on the surface level, and does not know the boundaries in adult-child interactions. They usually disclose not through tears, but by a statement that is completely tone-deaf - they don't get how serious people think the disclosure is. I myself was that type of abuser.

An obvious abuser has crushes on children, usually one by one, like train cars. They become fixated on a specific child, and that child becomes the subject of an autistic fixation. Most pedophilic offenders are spousifying offenders, meaning they put their victims on a pedestal, idealizing their victims in a way that places them in an adult role.

I myself approached several young girls for purposes of propositioning them. With one victim, she called me a "creep" and was accused of autism hatred by her mother after she put a stop to my approach. My approach involved waving flirtatiously to young girls, and otherwise following them around. I wanted to be invited to one of their homes, in which case I would likely commit the moral offense of forced affection.

If a pedophile appears like me, and doesn't seem to understand the gravity behind the "pedophile" label, they are obvious abusers. I myself would have used the label "autism" as an excuse for child abuse, not "pedophile". I am visibly autistic, and that caused many parents to let down their guard, because the threat they are looking for is something hidden. Most pedophiles who sexually offend against children operate on the surface, in the most excusable of ways. 

However, even pedophilic offenders need to be stopped. The way to stop them is very easy - teach your child about the dangers of giving personally identifiable information to strangers. Children should also be taught to assert themselves to pedophiles. That is their weak spot, as an actual pedophile doesn't get angry at children, meaning adult anger is missing in their emotional repertoire. An actual pedophile is convicted by the rejection of a child, and then learns their lesson through hard knocks. For me, when a child is upset at me, I'm scared. That fear sets me straight.

Most pedophiles are rather distant in their interactions with children, and only disclose in a tearful manner. Most pedophiles hate being a pedophile, and hate themselves along with it. Pedophilia, to a pedophile, is a private topic that is obvious to them, but with others being totally oblivious to what kind of anguish they are in. For them, the only way out is in, meaning masturbation is a way for them to feel comfortable in their own skin. Some pedophiles commit suicide, usually when suddenly found out, usually as a backup plan for if they are found out. 

Little things are capable of big things. A pedophile of the wrong calibur usually has a mental disability, and doesn't understand the harm they are imposing on a child. It is the same kind of rape or sexual assault that most children endure, but maybe a bit more celebratory than an ordinary sexual abuser. Their victims compare them to a warny figure who tries to be your friend, in all the wrong ways. I am capable of that type of abuse. Most pedophiles are more likely to self-isolate and avoid children, and do so unnecessarily. They can interact with children all they want, and it would actually be good for both child and pedophile. I can't interact with children, except in the capacity of being a caregiver, such as a babysitter. I take responsibility for sexually abusing a child in the obvious way that I did.

Most pedophiles won't ever abuse a child like I did. Most pedophiles instead are more likely to self-abuse, and are more likely to commit suicide, when they pose very little danger to children. Most pedophiles are the type of adult to admit to their adult privilege, to use leftist terminology. Most pedophiles are convicted adults, meaning they are remorseful in their role as an adult in relation to children. Most adults are at higher risk of sexually abusing a child than pedophiles. That is because most adults are repressing adult attraction to children. Pedophiles, on the other hand, can't repress it except through not masturbating, and even then, they still get urges in place of fantasies that can be easily tracked, which they know about. Most pedophiles are blatantly aware of being a pedophile, and want the desires to go away. Most sexual abusers instead have a secondary attraction that they are ignoring, which comes out sideways onto the child, like a ton of bricks.

I was a member of the Virtuous Pedophiles forum for 4 years. I stood out from the beginning, with me gushing about child crushes. I quickly found out that a lot of pedophiles had it together when I didn't. Most of them were the depressive types, and many of them seemed to be normal individuals, whereas I was the one oddball that was impulsive. One prominent member, Todd Nickerson, warned me against going to the house of a crush for a sleepover, which was a want I expressed blatantly and obviously. Most members of VirPed were jaded in a depressive way, like they knew how wrong it was to pursue children for a sleepover, and that knowing that child sexual abuse is wrong was like commonsense to them. Most pedophiles don't go up to young girls and ask for their number and address. Most pedophiles go as far as they can from questioning a child in order to proposition them. That's something I did wrong, and need to atone for that offense.

I myself am a pedophile. I am primarily sexually attracted to girls between the ages of 6-16, with my peak attraction being centered at ages 11-12. I have committed a string of sexual offenses against children. I committed them as an autistic fixation. I wanted to be friends with children, but in the worst of ways, meaning I put them in a parentified role. I wanted a child to nurture me, even though I was the adult in the interaction. I am deserving of nothing but DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing in relation to children as the pedophilic adult that I am. I didn't have this sense of humility before, but I am children's rights to the core now, and that means taking up an attitude of adult guilt. All adults are guilty merely for existing in relation to children, and even if they haven't abused a child, they sure are capable of doing so. All adults need to take into account their adult footprint, meaning atone for being the adult that they are. Don't we all have a depraved and decadent sinful nature in relation to children as adults? 

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape or sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Child discipline: How to discipline your child the right way (without punishment or force)

Many parents want their children to have discipline. This is a common wish for parents. Most American parents want their children to have discipline. However, there is a right way and a wrong way to impart discipline in a child. Punishment or reprimands are not the way to discipline a child. Actual discipline involves catching children being good.

Child discipline is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children within the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon. Indeed, Greco-Roman parents got out the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely for being "too soft" on their children.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in parents' footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught showing good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - they were lavishly praised and encouraged to "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise when caught being good by fathers, whereas girls were given a kiss to the forehead when caught being good by fathers. Children also needed religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. Fathers started out religious instruction by leaving out an Aramaic copy of the Hebrew Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught reading the Bible on their own, they were lavishly praise and encouraged with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based on what children saw in the Bible. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers giving pointers as to the context. The religious development of children is a part of child development. Children's religious beliefs start out simplistic and non-conforming to any religious sect or denomination. However, as children get older, they start to conform to the beliefs of a particular religious sect or denomination. It may not be the religious beliefs you would choose, but at least they have values.

What motivates a child to hear out the instruction of their fathers? Why not start out with a secure attachment to mothers? For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of a child's life, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not letting mom out of their sight, fearing morbidly that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, then diagnosing the need. Sometimes they were tired. Sometimes they were hungry. Sometimes they just needed attachment. When mothers were out and about in public, they swaddled their children next to their bosom in swaddling blankets, in constant skin-on-skin warmth and sustenance. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy, with this co-sleeping lasting until the child reached the onset of puberty. Mother and child were in the nude next to each other in the family home, with children going naked wherever they went.

Mothers nurture up close, whereas fathers nurture from afar. Most Christian fathers in the Early Church kept their distance from their children, only stepping in to praise and encourage good behavior. Fathers kept their distance due to having a sexual attachment to their children, usually their daughters. Fathers and daughters were attracted to each other in a mutually unrequited manner. However, fathers then could not have their "icing on the cake". Instead, the only way out was righteous masturbation, where fathers masturbated to sexual thoughts of their child, meaning perhaps their daughter. Daughters simply liked being naked for their father, and fathers liked a naked daughter in his eyeshot. However, approaching your child for sexual or flirtatious reasons was seen as akin to doing the deed itself, meaning committing child rape against your child. The only way out of an approach is to about-face yourself, and turn around, fleeing fornication. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why God wants you to pamper your children

Many parents believe that pampering children is the irresponsible choice coming from a parent. Most parents believe that children should be punished or be treated in a controlling manner in order to "get" them to behave. The fact of the matter, however, is that children need to be pampered and babied. 

Righteous pampering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: as is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen then as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon. Indeed, Greco-Roman parents got out the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were largely persecuted due to being "too soft" on their children.

Righteous pampering denotes pampering children, but with that pampering done a certain specific way. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of a child's life, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on her back in a papoose bag when mom's hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their sight, fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Mothers were quick to coo in order to reassure her children of her presence. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers, with this co-sleeping ending at the onset of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep. Both mother and child were in the nude in the family home, with children going naked wherever they went.

Whenever a child cried, mothers cooed at their children in order to put them at ease. From there, mothers diagnosed the needs of the child. Sometimes the child was hungry. Sometimes the child was tired. Sometimes the child simply needed loving attention. Never did children undermine their parents, as crying in children comes from a vulnerable need, not a desire to undermine parents.

Children past age 6 played outside freely, while being naked. Children ventured farther and farther from home, exploring the terrain, playing even high-risk games such as "marriage". However, before children could play outside, they had to check in with mom. Children were not even allowed to play outside under age 6 because they had no concept of environmental dangers such as venomous snakes and scorpions. Today, children are endangered by oncoming traffic and would-be child abductors. But, once they turned 6, they were allowed to play outside naked. This can be applied today as letting older children play outside until the street lights come on. Children in biblical times played freely in the nude until their name was called, which signaled that dinner was ready, and then after that, children recharged in the sustaining warmth of co-sleeping next to mom.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Passing down the faith: How to bring up your children in the instruction of the Lord (without punishment or force)

 Many Christian parents want their children to have their values, or else have values, period. Most Christian parents believe that the only way to instruct their children is to "break their will" first. However, the fact of the matter is that these punitive methods are a moral crime against your child. There are more constructive ways of passing down the faith.

Passing down the faith is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman parents got out the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely for being "too soft" on their children.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their parents' footsteps. Children, in biblical times, were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught by fathers showing good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - they were lavishly praised and encouraged to "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise when caught being good by fathers, whereas girls were given a kiss to the forehead when caught being good by fathers. Children also needed religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. Religious instruction started out with fathers leaving out an Aramaic copy of the Hebrew Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught reading the Bible, they were given praise and encouragement such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format based on the text of the Bible. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, and fathers gave pointers as to the context. Religious development is a part of child development. Children's religious beliefs start out being simplistic and non-conforming to any religious sect or denomination. However, as children got older, they started to conform to a specific sect or denomination. It may not be your choice as to denominational belief, but at least they have values.

What motivates children to hear out the instruction of their father? Why not a secure attachment with mothers first? For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of a child's life, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their sight, with children fearing morbidly that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried or were upset, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, then seeking to diagnose the needs of the child. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child just needed loving attention. Children went naked wherever they went, and this facilitated deep skin-on-skin warmth and sustenance with mothers, with mothers also being naked in the family home. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping lasting until the onset of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep. 

Mothers nurture up close, whereas fathers nurture from afar. Fathers were a secondary secure attachment to children, with mothers being the primary secure attachment to children. Fathers kept their distance from mother-child intimacy, and that was because fathers had a sexual attachment to their children. However, unlike in other tribal societies, fathers in biblical times were not allowed their "icing on the cake". Instead, fathers in the biblical context masturbated to sexual thoughts of their children. Daughters were also attracted to their fathers, but in an unrequited way. Daughters simply liked being naked for their father, and the father liked that his daughters were naked. If there was any sexual interaction other than respectful looking, fathers were excommunicated from the church, or in the Old Testament, burnt at the stake. Approaching one's daughter for sexual or flirtatious reasons was a moral crime in and of itself. Righteous masturbation was a father's only sexual outlet for his parent attraction. Fathers instead nurtured in a teaching way, meaning nurtured in children a passion for learning about the Bible and its context. Fathers then were gentle and loving in their encouragement, and that is because the righteous masturbation going on in his house made him feel more comfortable around his children, from a distance of course.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and burning sulfur, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Temper tantrums: Why temper tantrums are not bad behavior (and what to do about them)

Many parents have to deal with it. Temper tantrums in children. Most parents punish their children for having a temper tantrum. This is a common attitude that many parents have. The fact of the matter is that temper tantrums in children are not bad behavior. 

Dealing with temper tantrums is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with children surrendering to the loving arms of mothers. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original language, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parents, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon. Indeed, Greco-Roman parents got out the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were largely persecuted for being "too soft" on their children.

Temper tantrums are not an attempt of the child to "usurp parental authority". Children do not throw temper tantrums in order to undermine parents. They cry for a different reason - they need love. A child  who cries is communicating a vulnerable need. There are five basic categories of children's needs - food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - and the greatest of these is attachment! Chances are, when your child is crying and screaming their lungs out, they need YOU and YOU only.

When children cried in the Early Church, and had their meltdown, mothers cooed at children before picking them up, then holding them next to their bosom in mammary closeness, with that mammary closeness often coming in skin-on-skin format, meaning always when the child threw a tantrum at home. Mothers were in the nude next to their children when at home. Mothers also swaddled children under age 6 next to her bosom in swaddling blankets when out and about in public, with children getting optimal warmth and sustenance from parents. 

Cooing is a primal vocalization from a mother, and puts children at ease real fast. Cooing reassures children that they are heard, even if the answer is still "no". Cooing was the way Christian mothers in the Early Church said "I am here". From there, children were picked up and held close to the bosom of mothers. Common gentle parenting advice calls for the mother to kneel down to the child. However, gentle parents in the Early Church instead picked up the upset child, and held the child to her bosom in skin-on-skin mammary closeness.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Separation anxiety: Why children cry out of nowhere

Many parents have to deal with it. A child cries seemingly for no reason. However, most children cry due to separation anxiety when they are young. Most children who cry actually need YOU to soothe their upsets. 

Dealing with separation anxiety is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child. stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon. Indeed, Greco-Roman parents got out the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were largely persecuted for being "too soft" on children.

For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 2 years of a child's life, children were constantly held, either in mom's arms, or in a papoose bag on her back if mom's hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged beside mothers, following her around from room to room, not allowing mothers out of their sight, fearing that mothers would "go away and never come back". 

When children cry out of nowhere, there is always a reason why they are crying. They could be hungry, tired, or just plainly in need of secure attachment. When children cried, mothers cooed at their children in order to reassure them that they have been heard. From there, mothers diagnosed the need, and met it. There are five main needs that children have; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - and the greatest of these needs is attachment! 

Most of the time, when children cry for seemingly no reason, they are afraid of mothers "going away and never coming back". Separation anxiety is fear of harm befalling a caregiver, such as a parent. It is a normal stage of development for children aged 0-6, with children naturally wanting YOU for closeness and intimacy. This closeness, coming in skin-on-skin fashion, reassures the child of mom's presence.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Birth nudity: Understanding a Christian tradition

Many parents think that children should wear clothing. This is a common attitude towards children by parents. However, birth nudity is a Christian custom predating the Early Church. Birth nudity involves children being close to mothers, with both parties in the nude.

Birth nudity is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above. expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers got out the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely for being "too soft" on their children.

For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. For the first 6 years of childhood, mothers and children were in the family home next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed before holding the child close to her bosom, in skin-on-skin mammary closeness. Mother and child were both in the nude when in the family home.

The tradition of birth nudity is a time-honored Christian tradition that predates the Early Church. What happens is that parents leave out a set of clothing for the child to discover, and then try on, all on their own. Before that happened, it was assumed that the child needed skin-on-skin warmth and sustenance. Proper skin-on-skin sustenance involves nudity on the part of both the mother and the child.

In the Early Church, children were given their clothing at their baptism, when they were adults. This context, however, can be applied as leaving out a set of clothing for children to discover. They usually ask what it is for, and then the mother says "wear it" and then the child puts on their clothing. Before then, children who don't put on the clothing are to be seen as in need of sustaining warmth from mothers.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand.

Hebrews 12:5-8: Why this isn't a pro-spanking passage

Many parents use punitive measures in order to punish their children. This is a common way for parents to deal with behaviors in their children. Most parents use Scripture as an excuse for punitive parenting, withe the core argument being Heb. 12:5-8. No such excuse exists in the Bible, when the Bible is understood in context.

It says in Hebrews 12:5-8 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation that speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scorgeth every son whom he receiveth. If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? Bur if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, not sons.

This passage, when understood correctly, is a passage I find comforting in times of trouble. This passage was intended as comfort for the Hebrew Christians, who were facing persecution at the hands of Rome. The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μαστιγόω (Latin: mastigoó) and refers figuratively to the 40 minus 1 lashes, with this form of figurative language in Ancient Greek being known as rod language. In the Ancient Greek, as spoken in the Early Church, you didn't say "I had a long day at work" but instead said "God whipped me hard today at work". The 40 minus 1 lashes was not a punishment in the Early Church, as Christ experienced corporal punishment unjustly.

God whips His children, like only He can. God, however, only whips His children when it helps them, sending trials and tribulations the way of the children He chose to adopt as His own. However, earthly parents only whip their children when it harms them. This passage only describes how God brings up His children. Due to the fact that earthly parents are not God, and can't punish without harming their children, earthly parents are to parent as comes natural, meaning attachment parenting. 

There does exist passages about earthly parenting in the Bible. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy fathers and mothers; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages and offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers got out the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely for being "too soft" on their children.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their parents' footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children showed good traits - such as sharing, being patient, or showing self-control - children were lavishly praised and encouraged to "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise when caught being good by fathers, whereas girls were given a kiss on the forehead when caught being good by fathers. Children needed religious instruction as well as discipline. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the instruction of the Lord. Fathers started out by leaving out an Aramaic copy of the Hebrew Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught exploring Scripture, they were lavishly praised and encouraged with statements such as "that book is good for you". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, based off of what children saw in the Bible. Children were eager to learn the facts of life, with fathers giving pointers on the context. Religious development is a form of child development. When children are younger, their religious beliefs are simplistic and non-conforming to any sect or denomination. However, as children got older, they started to conform to a specific religious sect or denomination. It may not be what you would choose for them, but at least they have values.

What motivates children to hear out the instruction of their father? Why not start out with a secure attachment with mothers? For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of a child's life, they were constantly held, either in mom's arms, or else in a papoose bag on mom's back when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their sight, fearing that mom would "go away, and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up and holding them next to her bosom, in mammary closeness. When mothers and children were out and about, the children were swaddled next to the bosom of mothers, while tucked under the loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping lasting, in most cases, until the child reached the onset of puberty. Children were naked wherever they went, and mothers were naked within the confines of the family home. Children were allowed to play naked outside once they turned 6.

Mothers nurture from up close, whereas fathers nurture from afar. In the Early Church, fathers kept their distance from their children, especially during the first 6 years of childhood. Fathers kept their distance from children due to a sexual attachment with his children, namely his daughters. Fathers then were not allowed their "icing on the cake", and had to masturbate righteously in order to purge themselves of their parent attractions. Fathers nurtured in a teaching way, by way of praising and encouraging good traits in children. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!