Original sin: Why this teaching does not endorse punishment or controlling demeanor towards children

The teaching of original sin is one of the most misunderstood and misused Christian teachings. The teaching has been misused widely to keep down minorities, including children. However, there is a proper way to apply the teaching of original sin, and it does not involve the punishment or controlling demeanor towards children.

The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament, and cross-references the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to, officially speaking, parental entitlement, which is wanting things from children, to the point of imposition, and unofficially, to wanting anything from children. Want is at the very core of our depraved and entitled sin nature. It is not good to want anything in life, including from a child, but we all want something from children as depraved and entitled adults, and so it is good to fight against wanting things from children to the best of our ability as adults.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting home is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents should be extensions of Christ, with parents sacrificing for their children, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, with children resting in this sacrifice, and with children being a Godhead for parents to surrender to and submit to. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Jewish culture. Attachment parenting, in Ancient Israel, was mandated under Jewish customary law. In the Early Church, attachment parenting was mandated under church ordinance. This Greek root word lifts up the attachment parenting context of the Early Church.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, including child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child. Patrias potestas translates as "power to the father" or else "power to the parent", and was a legal defense under Roman law that allowed for fathers to control their house with as much force as they saw fit. No such law existed under Jewish law, including Christian ordinance, as striking or punishing a child was seen as either theft or kidnapping, with punishment seen as kidnapping in all cases. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by bloodletting for kidnapping when they punished their children enough times, with kidnapping being defined as any damages that involved hostage-taking - punishing a child was seen as taking them hostage for something they did wrong. Spanking and punishment of children was a Greco-Roman tradition, not a Christian tradition, meaning the Early Church has its own context in terms of parenting, and that context frowns upon any sort of punishment or controlling demeanor in parenting.

The teaching of original sin, when applied correctly to children, discourages punishment. Anything short of perfection is sin, and children are far from perfect people. But, they don't know any better, and so original sin is a reason to excuse immature and childish behavior, and tend to it when necessary. Immaturity is planned brainwaves in the brain, meaning immature habits come from brainwaves that determine the behavior, and when those brainwaves are repressed from punishment - like any repressed drive - they come out sideways as unruly and defiant behavior that lasts years, when that immaturity would have otherwise been grown out of right away. Thus, punishment stunts growth, and no punishment leads to children reaching maturity later, usually reaching maturity around the time of puberty - when adulthood came in most ancient cultures. Most ancient cultures used attachment parenting, which is the most time-honored parenting resource out there.

Ultimately, however, original sin, as a teaching, was intended for adults, as a means to remind oneself of how one should improve. I myself am a depraved and decadent adult who is entitled to absolutely nothing from children, and is grateful for being forgiven by children for acts of abuse and wrongfulness towards them, because I don't deserve anyone's forgiveness. I deserve everything hateful and resentful from children, and nothing affectionate or forgiving, because I have a depraved and decadent nature that is wicked and evil. I am a pedophile, and choose not to abuse children, and am grateful for the times I get to be around children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared by Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

How to impart Judeo-Christian values to children - without spanking or punishment

Many parents in the United States, meaning most, want their children to learn Judeo-Christian values, whether they name that as their values system or not. Many parents believe anti-spanking constitutes a values system in and of itself, and one that is opposed to Judeo-Christian values. Some anti-spanking parents support Judeo-Christian values, some simply live by them while opposing them nonetheless. There is a non-punitive way to teach Judeo-Christian values to children. Attachment parenting can teach any values system modeled by parents.

The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to, officially speaking, want, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, this word refers to the slightest of unattainable want. If a want will lead to a temper tantrum upon the word "no", fight against that want. A child cannot help but throw a temper tantrum, as that is part of their flawed nature, but YOU can help it and not throw temper tantrums when you don't get your way. Children are watching our every move as adults, and so it is good to work on your entitlement issues as an adult.

On the other hand, the Greek root word denoting discipline in the Christian tense is παιδεία (Latin: paideia), and refers to a specific standard of Christian discipline starting with an admission of a depraved and entitled sin nature, ending with an attitude that is entitled to nothing, and grateful for everything, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. One should not expect children to follow said example right away, as children are immature and impulsive, and thus should be expected to engage in childish and immature behavior. The idea is to let go of most immature habits, and reassure all crying, with the reason being that punishment causes immaturity to be repressed, and when you repress immaturity, it lasts longer and is expressed in sideways fashion. Think brainwaves that is the immaturity being allowed to flow instead of being held stagnant by repressive punishment and controlling demeanor. Immaturity is actually more manageable with no punishment or controlling demeanor in parenting.

A good example needs to be backed up by something. Punishments such as spanking and corporal punishment only serve to drive children away from the good example of parents. Attachment parenting makes children want to heed the example of parents, and is the time-honored alternative to punitive parenting. The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting home is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself last as a parent, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, sacrificing for their children, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, with children resting in the sacrifice of parents. Parents labored, toiled, and worked to win over the good graces of their children, and children rested in that love and good works of parents, with children being worshipped and venerated in their resting state as extensions of God. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Jewish culture. In Ancient Israel, attachment parenting was mandated under Jewish customary law. In the Early Christian church communities, attachment parenting was mandated under church ordinance. This Greek root word lifts up the attachment parenting context, making the attachment parenting traditions of the Ancient Jews relevant and applicable to all.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in the context in which it was given, to prohibit all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment and controlling demeanor towards children. The Apostle Paul was rebuking a group of Greek Christians that brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church, misusing the book of Proverbs as a justification for their abuse. The rod verses in Proverbs do not refer to raising minor children at all, but instead are symbolic statements about ADULT children enduring hardships. The rod mentioned in Proverbs refers to the 40 minus 1 lashes that an ADULT child endured as a sentence for crime when convicted of a capital offense. If the young adult survived the whipping, they were given a second chance at life. Most hardships in a young adult's life feel like the 40 minus 1 lashes, but we somehow get through it, don't we? That is the meaning of the rod verses, in the Hebraic tense.

The national parenting of the Ancient Jewish people, including the Early Christians, was a special, distinct form of attachment parenting where children were deified. Children then were worshipped and venerated as extensions of God and His Authority on earth, with parents being struck with reverent fear and terror as to the every vulnerable need of children, being compelled by the Lord to surrender and submit to the every vulnerable want/need of children. Parents are to submit to the needs of children as their enemy, just as mankind is the enemy of God and is subservient to Him as such. Parents are to seek to win over the good graces of children, just as they would towards God. Children had the authority then to issue lawful and binding orders to their parents, and even take children to court, and by the time the case was heard, it was already decided in favor of the child. 

How did this pan out? Children went naked in biblical times wherever they went. Women also went naked, in the family home, in order to serve their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by giving them nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (for the first 2 years) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy (especially during co-sleeping). By day, children ranged beside mothers, sometimes clinging to her. By night, children slept next to mothers, being guarded from all threats external and domestic, soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. Fathers also nurtured, but from afar, usually when encouraging their child's religious education. Fathers spoke on formal terms with children, by default, until the individual child "broke the ice" and invited the father to casual conversation. This formality was because most men were pedophiles then towards their children, but of the abstinent type, and needed this structure in order to fully abstain from ever sexually abusing their children. Even the ancients considered sexually violating a child to be abusive, and engaging in any sexual interaction with a child was seen as deserving of death, particularly in the Old Testament. Both parents allowed children to be the boss of their needs, and to boss them around as to what they needed, and parents vulnerably submitted to what children self-advocated as their needs.

Attachment parenting, instead of punishment, serves to make children want to follow the example of parents, by creating a secure parent-child bond that lasts for the rest of the parent's life. Punishment and controlling demeanor in parenting, which is traditionally used to back up exemplary instruction, only alienates children from their parents, and causes resentment. Attachment parenting, eventually, gives children a reason why they should follow your example - you give them everything. Children shouldn't be expected to follow the example of parents right away, but come young adulthood, they should be able to follow the example of parents, unless they have a disability and/or mental disorder that hinders their development.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why we need more mental health services for pedophiles

Many people hate pedophiles. A majority of people in the United States hate people with the disorder. It is a common hatred, linked to the hatred for children. But, most people who hate pedophiles don't know what. or rather who, a pedophile is.

What is pedophilia? Pedophilia is commonly defined by mental health professionals in the DSM-5 as "intense, recurrent sexual fantasies, urges, OR behaviors regarding sexual activity with a child" under age 14. "Intense, recurrent" is interpreted by mental health professionals as denoting a sexual orientation that is pathological in nature due to the unrequited nature of it. Pedophilic disorder is a diagnosis for when this sexual preference interferes with the quality of life of the sufferer or others, or leads to the sexual abuse of a child. 

Where are the pedophiles? Think autism. Think autism that is child-centered. When someone with autism has their empathy and social skills specialized around children, think pedophile. A pedophile has a specific form of autism where they just "get" children, and have high sensitivity that just "sees into" children, being able to tell their needs right there and then. They just may be more introverted and aloof around same-age peers and/or adults. 

Pedophiles need therapy that is person-centered in nature, meaning a therapy program where the therapist listens and validates their every emotions, and the pedophile just vents and confides into the therapist. A therapist, for a pedophile, should be a close confidant that is there to listen. They don't need an expert, as nobody can know what it is like to be a pedophile except the pedophile him/herself. Pedophiles just need someone to talk to, so they can sort out their issues on their own.

I myself saw a parenting coach for my pedophilia, and recommend parenting coaching for any pedophile who feels that they need a mental health professional. I was guided in the right direction by having cognitive distortions of mine confronted, namely wanting to sleep over at a (then) 9-year-old girl's house. I was on my way into her life, like a zig-zag. Therapy simply sent me on a course where I would find humility as a pedophile, instead of pride and obsession. I was very obsessive and fixated, in a "just for you" sense, being fixated on individual young girls, like train cars. Eventually, I learned through hard experience that approaching children in order to flirt with them is inappropriate and immoral. I eventually allowed the Holy Spirit into me, and became a Christian, of the sexual purity kind. I now know that any sexual activity outside of a marriage with an ADULT woman - age 18 and up - is a defiled act of fornication and sexual impurity, and is to be shunned even within myself, as any sexual impurity makes the body unclean and unholy, defiling myself next to the child I want to have sex with. Fornication is ultimately a crime against myself and my own body, making me unclean until the even. I was a sexual abuser of children, and made all of them feel uncomfortable or unsafe at some point, which is the very definition of child sexual abuse, or all child abuse in general.

Most people misunderstand where child sexual abuse comes from. It does not come from pedophiles, but from sexually entitled adults who rape and sexually assault children as a means of oppressing them and keeping them down. It is part of the dynamic of adult oppression of children, as well as parental entitlement. Any adult is capable of choosing to sexually abuse a child under the right/wrong conditions. That doesn't mean every adult will. But, any adult can get into a situation where they are tempted to commit child sexual abuse. Adults should work to become aware of where they would choose to sexually violate a child, and reel back. Pedophiles have no choice but to be aware of their risk, and naturally know how to reel back. Mental health services should exist for those who need help with an unwanted attraction to a child. The key to dealing with that entitlement is to accept it, and allow yourself to have sexual thoughts about children, and then, you have total control over those thoughts. When you repress anything, it controls you and your choices. Take back control and responsibility over your sexual choices towards children!

The hatred and hysteria towards pedophiles ultimately does not come from trauma survivors. Ultimately, the hatred of pedophiles comes from abusive religious parents who sexually shame their children, and single out their pedophilic children for corrective abuse. Usually, the concept of Christian sexual purity is misused to oppress and abuse a pedophilic child so that they have to deconstruct completely. Most pedophiles are ardent atheists and staunchly anti-religious, meaning the ones I have met at the Virtuous Pedophiles forum. Ultimately, it is these sexual abusers of children who are deflecting onto their own victims, with their pedophilic nature and label making them an easy target.

The depraved and decadent, defiled sexual abusers who abuse and blame pedophiles will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them BURN in everlasting torrents of Hell-fire, forever and ever! Repent!

Pro-social deification, pro-social child worship: Why biblical times were child worshipping times

Many parents think that biblical times were harsh times for children. There is a lot of false context concerning the Bible that speaks of child labor, and children being "chastened up" and "whipped into shape". This context is, in fact, unbiblical and heretical, even as its proponents call me the heretic. The fact of the matter is that the Ancient Jewish people, including the Early Christians, were a child worshipping people, with children being seen as deities of their own, extended by God for worship and veneration.

Jesus Christ said in Matthew 25:31-46 KJV:

Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not to the least of these, ye did it not to me. And these shall go into everlasting punishment: but the righteous into eternal life.

The "least of these" in biblical times were seen as extensions of God and His Authority over mankind. In previous verses, Christ names the main groups of people that His Jewish culture were missing out on, in terms of charity. Whatever you refused to do to the least of these, you refused to do for God, and scrooges that refuse to do anything for anyone but themselves burnt in Hell. Children were regarded as the lowest caste in Jewish society, thus they were seen as extensions of God more than any other oppressed minority.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting home is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children being extended by God for Christian love and charity, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, with parents sacrificing for their children, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, with children resting in this sacrifice and self-crucifixion. Parents labor, toil, and work to win over the trust and affection of children, with children resting in such love and good works. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Jewish culture, including the Early Church. In Ancient Israel, attachment parenting was mandated under Jewish customary law. In the Early Church, attachment parenting was mandated under church ordinance.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in the context it was given, as a ban on all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. Spanking and other forms of punishment do not come from the Bible, but from the Roman Catholic Church pandering to the punitive parenting biases of European pagan cultures who beat and whipped their children into submission. Ultimately, the Roman Catholic Church was inspired by the Greco-Roman legal defense of patrias potestas, which translates either to "power to the father" or "power to the parent", and states that a father has the "right" to do anything within his power to control his home, including punishments such as spanking and corporal punishment. No such defense was allowed under Jewish law for minor children. In the Old Testament, there were rare whippings, but only in the form of 40 minus 1 lashes as a summary sentence for a capital offense, after a conviction in a criminal court of law. If a young adult child survived the 40 minus 1 lashes, they were given a second chance at life. Minor children could not be charged with or convicted of a criminal offense or civil wrong. The Early Church did not use capital or corporal punishment as a means of law enforcement, but instead used pro-social avoidance and pro-social non-association as a means of enforcing the law. The only exception was mutual accountability between spouses, which was rare next to non-existent, with men who had to resort to violence in family life, or at all, seen as weak and out of control. 

The national parenting of the Ancient Jewish people, including the Early Christians, was a special, distinct type of attachment parenting that deified children. Children were worshipped and venerated as extensions of God and His Authority on earth, with parents being struck with reverent fear and terror from their child's every vulnerable need, being compelled by the Lord to surrender and submit to the every vulnerable want/need of children, just as one would to God, serving children as their enemy, just as mankind is the enemy to God. The every vulnerable need self-advocated by children was Divine Law, and the Divine Right of children to order onto parents. Children issued lawful summonses and decrees, and parents obeyed fearfully and reverently, shaking and quaking in the lawful and binding summonses of children. Children could take their parents to court, and by that time, the case had already been decided, and sin guilt always fell on the parents. Parents could not issue lawful and binding orders in return.

How does this deified parenting pan out in person? Children were naked everywhere they went. Women also went naked in biblical times, in the family home, in order to serve their husband and their children. Mothers served their children by giving them nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (for the first 2 years) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy (especially during co-sleeping). Children, by day, ranged beside their mothers, sometimes clinging to them. By night, children slept next to mothers, being guarded from threats both external and domestic, soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. Fathers also nurtured a bit, but from afar, usually by encouraging a child's religious education. Fathers spoke to children on formal terms, until they were invited to "break the ice" and talk on casual terms. These formalities were observed by fathers because most adult men in biblical times were pedophiles of the abstinent type towards their own children, meaning fathers didn't have a driven attraction to their children, but instead had a connotational type of attraction to children, and usually only their own, due to the egalitarian and deified nature of the parenting. The deity of children was held by mothers in a hopeful, idealistic tense, and was also adored by fathers by way of idealized sexual attraction. Sexually abusing a child under the age of majority, in any way, was seen as pure wickedness by even the ancients, with the age of consent/marriage coinciding right with the age of majority, and with violators of such laws being seen as deserving of death and eternal punishment. Both parents took orders from their child, being righteously enslaved to their children, and heeded command from their child, interpreting the every self-advocated need of children as a lawful and binding summonses to meet said need.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Punishment of children: Why all punishment of children is banned in the Bible

Many parents believe that children should be punished in some way. This is a common belief among parents - that children are deserving of punishment, at least some of the time. Most of these parents use the Bible as an excuse to some degree. However, the fact of the matter is that the Bible opposes punishment of children, and bans it.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting relationship is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, sacrificing for their children, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, with children resting in the sacrifice of parents, being a Godhead for parents to serve and obey. Parents labored, toiled, and worked to win over their child's trust and affection, with children resting in said love and good works. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Israel, as well as the Early Church. Attachment parenting was mandated under Jewish customary law in Ancient Israel, and under church ordinance in the Early Church.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in the context in which it was given, as a prohibition against all punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. Paul was lifting up the Law for a group of Greek Christians that misused the book of Proverbs to justify their pagan custom of spanking and whipping children that they brought into the church. Paul was challenging the fathers to see the main idea in Judeo-Christian parenting values, giving the Jewish commandment of "love your neighbor, and do not provoke your neighbor to anger" in a Christian parenting context, in the negative. Paul was stating that children are your neighbor, and so they should be loved like you would your neighbor.

Spanking and other forms of punishment do not come from the Bible, but from the Roman Catholic Church pandering to the punitive parenting biases of European pagan cultures that whipped and beat their children. Roman law contained the legal defense of patrias potestas, which translates to either "power to the father" or "power to the parent", where the father could issue legal punishment as he saw fit in his own home. This was absorbed by the Roman Catholic Church, and then the Anglo-Saxons when they re-settled England. The Puritan settlers then introduced the punishment of children to the New World. The Ancient Jews had no such defense under the Law, with Jewish customary law mandating attachment parenting. 

What are the alternatives to punishing children? The national parenting of the Ancient Jewish people, including the Early Church, was a distinct form of attachment parenting where children were deified and seen as angelic and godly. Children were seen as emblematic of God and His Authority on earth (see Matt. 25:31-46). Children were worshipped and venerated as extensions of God on earth, with parents struck with reverent fear and terror, being compelled in the Lord to provide for their children's every vulnerable need. The every demand and cry of a child for vulnerable needs was seen as Divine Law, and if parents didn't give a child what they wanted/needed, it was as if they refused to give God what He wanted from them. 

How does this setup pan out in terms of application? Children went naked wherever they went. Women also went naked, when in the family home, in order to serve their husbands and their children. Mothers served their children by giving them nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (for the first two years) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy (especially during co-sleeping). By day, children ranged beside mothers, sometimes clinging to her. By night, children slept next to mothers, soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy, in co-sleeping fashion. Fathers also nurtured, but from a distance, offering encouragement for a child's religious education. Fathers spoke to their children on formal terms, until children "broke the ice" and invited fathers to have casual conversation with them. These formalities were because most adult men then were pedophiles towards their own children, but in the abstinent way, meaning fathers had connotational attraction to their children, but had that attraction centered so they never acted on it - sexually abusing a child then was seen as deserving of death.

America is a Christian nation, founded upon Judeo-Christian family values. We are constantly learning more about our values. We have learned that slavery and Jim Crow were wrong and unjust against minorities, and not within our American values. Now, we are learning that punishment and controlling demeanor towards children is morally wrong and against American values. The Bible is America's book, and we look to that book for wisdom, and its context for inspiration. God chose Israel as His chosen country, in order to spread Judeo-Christian values around the world, creating Western civilization as we know it today. Most of the West frowns upon punishing children, even though it still happens in a lot of places. It is about time America got on board. We are getting there, with rates of corporal punishment being as low as ever. True Judeo-Christian family values do not support punishing or being controlling with children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Individual responsibility for adults attracted to children: Why ALL adults are to blame for child sexual abuse

Many adults think that pedophiles are the sole cause of child sexual abuse. All rapes and sexual assaults of children are blamed on pedophiles, by the media and the public at large, whether the offender was clinically a pedophile or not. But, the fact of the matter is that we all as adults are capable of sexually abusing a child, if the conditions allow for it.

Pedophilia is a mental health disorder featuring primary or exclusive sexual attraction to children under age 14. The disorder is genetic in nature, and is associated with autism genetically, meaning it is a trait found commonly in people with autism. It is a special type of autism where empathy and social skills are specialized around children and children's issues, including children's rights issues. Most pedophiles are highly sensitive at least towards children, but may be distant or even callous towards same-age peers. It is a form of autism where tending to children is their second nature, with this being conflated strongly with sexual fantasies about children under age 14. I myself don't want friends who are adults, meaning I don't seek out friends my own age. Left to my own devices, I would only be friends with children. I myself am a pedophile. Most pedophiles are loners because they can't have children as a romantic partner, and don't find friendships with adults to be fulfilling. This is different from a child molester, who generally has access to children in some way, whereas pedophiles usually just dream of access to children.

Every single adult is guilty for the child sexual abuse epidemic, even if only a few are partaking. This is because all adults have the capacity to sexually abuse a child under the right/wrong conditions. That doesn't mean every single adult will. What leads to an adult sexually abusing a child? Location, location, location, mixed with entitlement. Adults who sexually abuse children usually prefer enclosed and/or secluded areas to abuse their children, usually the bathroom or the child's bedroom. Usually, the adult is left alone with the child, and is attracted to the child at some level, and is unprepared for being left alone with the child. Guilty conscience then leads to the choice to sexually harass, assault, or rape a child, usually out of nowhere in the eyes of the victim.

What should an adult do when they notice that they are sexually attracted to children? Instead of fighting the thoughts back, allow yourself to have such thoughts about children. Most men in particular have sexual thoughts about teenage girls, and those thoughts should not be pushed out of an adult man's head, but instead, adults should be allowed to feel sexual attraction to teenagers. This includes adult women towards teenage boys or girls. Adult sexual entitlement comes in two forms, adult sexual repression and adult sexual embrace. The former form is most common in the United States. When you repress a sex drive, it comes out sideways, with consent usually lacking.

In the New Testament of the Bible, the Greek root word translated "lust" is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to just any sexual desire for children, but sexual desire to the point of taking the first steps to approach a child sexually, with the very first step being rationalizing that sex with children is okay under certain terms, or will be okay in a future context. It is okay to look the look, or think the think, but it is not okay to do the deed and sexually abuse a child out of a God-ordained marriage, with no child marriage being God-ordained.

I myself have abused a child sexually. It happened in two main locations - a swimming area in my hometown of Reading, Pennsylvania, as well as an attic in my grandparents' house. One location, the attic, is closed off, with the house sold. With the swimming area, I had to unlearn the imprint on the location. My moral crimes involved sexual harassment in the form of antisocial "flirting". The statute of limitations is 90 days for summary harassment, which is what I committed. At the swimming area, I would wave flirtatiously at young girls, sometimes leading them astray, sometimes offending them. In the attic, I would roughhouse with sexually entitled intent. In both cases, I was a correctable abuser, meaning every time I was explicitly corrected, I obeyed. But, because of the damages involved, there was abuse in those interactions, and that's how I count myself as one of the plethora of adults that have abused children. Some of those times, I was still a child chronologically, but was the adult in the situation due to the age imbalance. This is a common story among pedophilic adults, meaning pedophilic adults might be inclined to lesser forms of abuse than non-pedophilic adults, but with all of us adults committing abuse of some kind against children.

All adults are capable of sexual abuse. The idea is to admit to what you have done to wrong or abuse children, meaning your adult footprint. Also, gauge your adult capacity to commit future crimes. Adult change of heart should be a moment of atonement, where the adult turns away from a life of abusing children, thereby earning their right to exist on this earth. Adults, by default, do not deserve even to exist on this earth, and are deserving of DEATH and PUNISHMENT for their depraved and entitled sin nature. Certain adults will earn their right to exist, and thus will cease to exist as adults deserving of punishment for their existence. One should assume all adults have the right to exist, until the adult shows their existence, in which case they are non-existent for existing with sin and entitlement. If you sexually abuse a child, and defend it, you are entitled as an adult and have proven your existence, and thus have no right to exist. Only existent adults are marked for deletion. Non-existent adults are marked for salvation. Only a few parents/adults will be marked as non-existent by our Creator, with the rest existent and deserving of burning for eternity in Hell.

The hysteria against pedophiles ultimately comes from the abusers themselves, meaning adults who find themselves in a sexual abuse habit often deflect the blame onto everyone around them, and pedophiles are an easy target for deflection due to their attraction to children, which can be mistaken for an abuser, when most pedophiles are VICTIMS of crime and abuse, not abusers themselves. Some pedophiles commit acts of sexual harassment as a child/adult towards much younger children, usually loitering or unlawful flirting. Most flat out rapes or sexual assaults against children, however, are committed by ordinary adults who find themselves in a sexual abuse habit, usually in a sexually repressed environment. Pedophiles only account for a handful of child sexual abuse cases, with the rest of the cases being committed by repressed opportunists.

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who sexually assault and rape children, then blame pedophiles, will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them BURN in torrents of Hell-fire! Repent!

How to teach sexual purity to children - without punishment or shaming

Many people associate attachment parenting with sex-positive things, such as the view that sex outside of marriage is acceptable, and even a good thing. Many gentle parenting advocates do take this stance, but I, for one, am in favor of sexual purity, both as a conservative Christian and as a feminist. There is a way to teach sexual purity to children without punishing or shaming them.

Many sex-positive parents tell their children "you can have sex with anyone in the world, if you work for it". If your values say sex belongs in marriage, and nowhere else, simply say "One day you will find someone that you will love, and that love will last forever". Reassure them that they will get the chance to find a spouse to have sex with someday.

Passing down values as sacred as these requires a working relationship with your child. Punishment only drives children away from Judeo-Christian sexual purity values. Attachment parenting backs up those values well. The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting home is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word translated αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, with parents sacrificing for their children just as Christ sacrificed for His children, with children resting in the sacrifice of parents. Parents labor, toil, and work to win over the trust and affection of their children, and children rest in said love and good works. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Jewish culture, including Early Christian culture. Attachment parenting was mandated under customary law in Ancient Israel, and church ordinance in the Early Church.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offenses perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in context, as a prohibition on all punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards a child. Spanking and other forms of punishment of children do not come from the Bible, but from the Roman Catholic Church pandering to the punitive parenting biases of European pagan cultures who whipped and beat their children. The rod verses in the book of Proverbs are repealed passages. These passages do not even refer to raising children, but to a form of judicial corporal punishment within Judaism where the father is court appointed to whip a capital offender 40 minus 1 lashes, and if the offender survived the lashes, he was given a second chance at life. It is a commandment to allow ADULT children to go through life's hardships, because they are adults, and no longer children. Children were sheltered from life's hardships in Ancient Jewish culture, including the Early Church, whereas adult descendants were encouraged to face the hardships of adult life, and be chastened up by those hardships (see Heb. 12:5-11).

The national parenting of the Ancient Jewish people, including Early Christians, was a distinct form of attachment parenting that deified children, with children being worshipped and venerated as extensions of God (see Matt. 25:31-46), with parents being struck with reverent fear and terror by their child's every vulnerable want/need, being compelled in the Lord to meet such wants/needs of children. This is why children didn't rebel about wanting to act on their sexual desires with peers - there was a good relationship with parents where the child was valued as emblematic of God and His Authority in terms of the child's needs.

Children played freely in biblical times, and many of the games were high-risk by today's standard. The most high risk game was "marriage". Children went naked wherever they went in biblical times. A Christian marriage, by the biblical definition, is ultimately defined by the signature on the dotted line which is sexual intercourse. Most children embraced when the pretend-play wedding got to that point, but some boys mounted the girls, in which case the two were separated. Neither child was shamed, but were reassured that "you'll get to do that someday".

Children in biblical times were sexual beings on the surface, not under the surface. However, even then, children were not usually inclined to have sex with each other, due to the strong sexual purity influence in the atmosphere then. Children simply masturbated, and were allowed to do so, as parents then knew that masturbation re-channeled thoughts about peers that otherwise would be acted upon. Children masturbated then from very young - age 6 or maybe even younger at times. 

Children were sexual beings in that they felt their sex drive, but parents still taught their children to wait until marriage. They just did so in an encouraging way, reassuring them that "you will get a chance to have sex, once you are married to a husband/wife that you love". Children were taught not to have sex outside of marriage by a continual talk about sex and sexual morality, and redirection away from temptation. Parents never dreamed of punishing or shaming children for their sexuality.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Reverent fear: Why parents should fear their child

Many parents think that children should be afraid of them, and fear punishment from them. The common attitude among parents is that children should listen to them, and obey them. However, the fact of the matter is that the Bible actually teaches that parents should fear and obey children, with God's reverent fear.

The Greek root word denoting reverent fear and terror is ψοβός (Latin: phobos) and is how parents should feel about their children, meaning children should strike reverent fear and terror into children just for their vulnerability, not despite it. Parents are to revere and fear their children. This teaching is similar to teachings that say to fear your wife. Just as a man should fear his wife, a parent should fear their child, as this is God's order of things, and will be until the end of time. Reverent fear is the base component of Christian love.

The centerpiece of a Christian parenting home is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word translated αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, sacrificing for their children just as Christ sacrificed for His children, with children resting in the sacrifice of parents, just as Christ's adopted children rest in His sacrifice. Parents labor, toil, and work to win over the trust and affection of children, and children rest in such love and good works. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Jewish culture, including Early Christian culture. Attachment parenting was mandated under customary law in Ancient Israel, and was also mandated by church ordinance in the Early Church.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in context, as prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any form of punishment and controlling demeanor towards children. Roman law allowed for the legal defense of patrias potestas, which translated to "power to the father" (or alternatively "power to the parent"), and meant that a father could use any force necessary to police his home, including even killing a child or wife. This legal standard was then introduced into the English common law when England was re-settled by the Anglo-Saxons. Certain Greek Christians brought this pagan custom into the church, and the Apostle Paul was educating Greek Christians on Christian ordinance, based on Jewish law. Jewish law offered no defense for punishing or being controlling with children, and prohibited all punitive parenting as kidnapping. Kidnapping, under Jewish law, meant any offense that involved hostage taking, which punishing a child certainly does. Corporal punishment, as a parenting measure, does not come from the Bible, but from the Roman Catholic Church absorbing the legal defense of patrias potestas and using it to pander to European pagan cultures whose custom was to whip and beat children into submission. Ancient Jewish culture, including the Early Church, had no such custom, as the custom of the Ancient Jews was one of attachment parenting.

The national parenting of the Ancient Jewish people, including the Early Christian church communities, was a special form of attachment parenting that deified children, in the form of pro-social deification and pro-social child worship, with children being seen as emblematic of God and His Authority on earth (see Matt. 25:31-46). Children were worshipped and venerated as extensions of God on earth, with parents being struck with reverent fear and terror by their child's every vulnerable want/need, being compelled in the Lord to meet their child's every want/need. The every vulnerable need of children was seen as Divine Law. Children could sue their parents under the Law, and by then, the case had already been decided, with children always prevailing when taking their parents to court.

I myself fear children reverently. I want them to boss me around, so that I know what they need, and I know children will be clear about what they need from me if they know that they will never be punished for it. I do not want to be seen as "the adult" meaning "the one in charge". I just want to be seen as an adult who provides and gives to children. Children police me as to what they want me to do, in the few chances I ever get to be friends with a child. They tell me what to do, and I listen. That is God's order.

The depraved and entitled adults who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Roe v. Wade overturned: Why abortion is sin

Roe v. Wade has been overturned. This marks a new chapter in the history of abortions in the United States. Most people who are pro-choice think that the Bible allows for abortions, if they identify as progressive Christians - they say that the Roman Catholic Church made up the ban on abortion to "control women's bodies". I can think of a whole bunch of feminist arguments against abortion being legal - and the Bible supports those arguments.

Exodus 20:13 KJV states:

Thou shalt not kill.

The Greek root word denoting murder in the New Testament is ψονος (Latin: phonos). Abortion has existed in ancient societies since the beginning of time, usually as an herbal "remedy" for ending pregnancies that the mother could not afford to come to term. The Early Church took a higher moral stand than the Ancient Israelites in the Old Testament, and deemed a man putting a woman in a position where she had to choose a murderer by way of triangulation. It was seen by the church community as an evil act where the man pit a woman against her own child, usually due to fleshly moral crimes such as rape and fornication. Thus, abortion is murder, if you go by the New Testament.

Abortion is bad for women. It takes responsibility away from men. How many politicians covering up their affairs with forcing their mistresses to have an abortion do we need to learn that abortion is bad for women? It usually isn't even her choice, but is something she is pressured into having, because a man won't man up and take up the responsibility of being a father. So, a woman gets an abortion because she was raped? Who should be punished there, the unborn baby or the rapist? I say punish the rapist instead, and take measures to prevent rape from occurring. 

Now, there is a problem with Roe v. Wade being overturned, but it is a minor one - the WOMAN would be charged, at least to some degree. I oppose that, but at the same time, we need to take what we can get. This Supreme Court decision sends a strong message that abortion is wrong. It just blames the wrong person, but it is a step in the right direction.

Ultimately, my ideal anti-abortion law would blame ME if I got a young girl dangerously pregnant. I myself am a pedophile, and would deserve to be called a murderer if I got, say, an 11-year-old girl pregnant where giving birth could end her life - making abortion medically necessary. Then, lock me up for life if I ever do anything like that.

Let the murderers who steal a child away from a mother through triangulation BURN in everlasting Hell and torrents! Repent!

Why children don't need to be disciplined (and why parents need discipline instead)

Many parents think that children need to be disciplined in order to "learn their lesson". This is a common belief among parents - that children need discipline and imposed structure in order to behave. The fact of the matter is that to raise healthy, well-behaved children into adults, PARENTS need discipline, not children. 

The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to, officially speaking, want, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, this refers to the slightest of unattainable want. If a want would lead to a temper tantrum if met with a "no" answer, don't want it, as it comes from entitlement. Children can't help but throw temper tantrums, but YOU as the parent can. Children are watching and observing our every move, and so we must work on our entitlement problems. It is best to start with entitlement towards your child - parental entitlement is the lowest form of entitlement possible, and guides all the others.

On the other hand, discipline, in the Christian tense, is denoted by the Greek root word παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to a specific standard of Christian discipline that starts with admission of one's depraved and entitled sin nature, and leading to an attitude that is entitled to nothing, and grateful for everything, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. However, one must not expect children to follow the Christian example of parents from day one, as children are immature and impulsive, and engage in childish behaviors. These childish behaviors are a phase, and will leave as soon as they come. 

A good example needs to be backed up by something. Spanking and punishment don't work, as they drive children away from the good example of parents. Attachment parenting makes children want to follow the example of parents, and leads to children looking up to parents. The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting home is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, sacrificing for their children just as Christ sacrificed for His children, with children resting in said sacrifice. Parents labor, toil, and work to win over their children's trust and affection, and children rest in this love and good works, being a Godhead for parents to serve, with children being pampered and doted upon by parents, all the while sitting on their throne. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Jewish culture, including the Early Church, was mandated, by way of Jewish customary law in the Old Testament, and by church ordinance in the Early Church. This Greek root word commands the use of attachment parenting as a goal to strive for, at the very least.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, at minimum, the slightest of offensive touch or speech, perceived by the child. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in the context in which it was given, as prohibiting any form of punitive parenting, including punishment or controlling demeanor. Paul was lifting up the Law in order to rebuke a few Greek Christian parents who brought their Greco-Roman pagan customs of spanking and whipping children into the church. These parents were citing the book of Proverbs as justification for including their pagan and idolatrous custom in with their worship. Paul was challenging these fathers to see the big picture, charging them with the commandment of "love your neighbor, and do not provoke your neighbor to anger". Such is a Jewish commandment that Christ, in fact, cited, and Paul was applying it in the negative to a Christian parenting situation. In the Greco-Roman world, the doctrine of patrias potestas, or "power to the father" (also translated as "power to the parent") meant a father had complete control over his family, legally speaking, and this was a tradition that pagan families would bring into the Early Church. Jewish law, including Christian ordinance, prohibited striking or punishing a child for any reason. Thus, spanking does not come from the Bible, but from the Roman Catholic Church pandering to the European pagan cultures who whipped and beat their children.

The national parenting of the Ancient Jewish people, including the Early Christian culture, was a special form of attachment parenting that involved deifying children, in the form of pro-social deification and pro-social child worship. Children were seen then as emblematic of God and His Authority on earth (see Matt. 25:31-46). Children were worshipped and venerated as extensions of God, and struck reverent fear and terror into their parents, compelling them in the Lord to respond to their every want/need. The every want/need of a child was seen then as Divine Law and Ordinance, with children being the "least of these" - refusing to give a child something was seen as refusing to give God that very thing. Children were given most of what they wanted, and everything that they needed, with children being doted upon mainly by mothers, but also by fathers.

How did this all pan out in practice? Children were naked wherever they went. Women also went naked, in order to serve their husband and their children, separately. Mothers served children with nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy (especially during co-sleeping). By day, children ranged beside mothers, sometimes clinging to them. By night, children slept next to mothers, soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. Fathers also played a role in raising their children, albeit a more distant role - mothers nurtured up close, and fathers nurtured from afar. Fathers addressed their children on formal terms, until they were allowed by the child to "break the ice" and engage in casual conversation with their child. This setup of formalities was to curb parent attraction in fathers. Most men in biblical times were pedophiles, but of the abstinent type, meaning they were attracted to their own children, but not in a driven way - it was a connotational attraction that lead to idealizing children, and men channeled their parent attractions into nurturing their children whenever they could, usually by encouragement in a child's religious education.

Children learn discipline by seeing discipline in parents. However, children have to want to follow the disciplined example of parents. Attachment parenting is crucial to the development of children for this reason. One cannot expect a child to be disciplined right away, but come young adulthood, they should have the discipline of the Lord in them. In the mean time, fill the void by remaining calm and reassuring when your child is throwing a temper tantrum. Punishments such as spanking only work to drive children away from the good example of parents. Children need to be driven to follow the example of parents, and be like them, and so attachment parenting must become the norm here in America.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Policing attachment: Why children in the Bible policed their parents

Many parents think that they have to act as a policing force for their children, issuing orders and edicts to their children. A common understanding of parenting is that parents call the shots. However, the fact of the matter is that nowhere in the Bible does it say that children are subservient to parents. Children are to submit to parents, but in an empowered way, as this is how it was done in biblical times. Policing attachment is a form of secure parent-child bond where children are adamant about what they want/need, ordering parents around, with parents simply complying with the orders and edicts of their children.

The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting home is Christian Agape love for children, as is denoted in the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, sacrificing for their children just as Christ sacrificed for His children, with children resting in said sacrifice. Parents labor, toil, and work to win over the trust and affection of children, and children rest in such love and good works, without a worry in the world, as the extensions of God that they are, pampered on their throne. Attachment parenting was the established norm in biblical times, being mandated in Ancient Israel by way of customary law, and also mandated in the Early Christian church communities by way of church ordinance.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, as well as understood in context, as a prohibition of all punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. Spanking and other forms of punishment do not come from the Bible, but instead come from the Roman Catholic Church pandering to the punitive parenting habits of European pagans who whipped and beat their children into submission. In the Greco-Roman legal tradition, there existed the legal doctrine of patrias potestas, or "power to the father" (also translated as "power to the parent"), with this meaning that fathers had power over their wives and children, and had the power to enforce law. Paul was rebuking Greek Christian fathers who were using corporal punishment to enforce law in their home, whipping the children. Unlike Greco-Roman law, Jewish law, including Christian church ordinance, prohibited any form of spanking, whipping, or punishment of a child. The rod verses in the book of Proverbs are repealed passages, meaning all seven of them. They do not refer to raising children, but to a form of judicial corporal punishment within Judaism where 40 minus 1 lashes were issued to an ADULT child convicted of a capital offense. If the offender survived the whipping, they were given a second chance at life. No such whipping was carried out by the religious authorities in the Early Church, as the Early Christian churches were completely anti-violence. Some men spanked their wives on rare occasions, such as due to adultery, when the wife felt ashamed and submitted to it willingly, but even this practice was frowned upon severely, with a man who felt the need to strike his wife or child being seen as weak for being out of control enough to strike his neighbor.

Children policed their parents for their every want/need in biblical times. In Ancient Jewish culture, including Early Christian culture, children were raised with a special form of attachment parenting that deified children in the form of pro-social deification and pro-social child worship. Children were worshipped and venerated as extensions of God, with parents struck with reverent fear and terror by their child's every demanded want/need. Parents were compelled in the Lord to provide for their children's every vulnerable need. The every cry or demand for a want/need from children was seen as a lawful and binding summonses, where parents were summoned by being called by their children when they needed something. Biblical children got most of what they wanted, and all of what they needed, being pampered and doted upon by parents while sitting on their throne.

What does this translate to, ultimately, in the modern day? Adults love to say "no" to children a lot, particularly when their demands aren't convenient. But, is it possible? If what they want is at all a possibility, and you just don't want to do it, because "I don't feel like it", do it anyway. Children don't ask for much. Maybe candy in the store? Why not just get it for them and quit your arguing? Get everything for them in the store that you can afford - and then you'll find children don't ask for much. Most things that children ask for, you can give to them. If they want a candy bar in the checkout line, it's only like a dollar or maybe less, so why not give it to them? The fact of the matter is that it is an attachment need - children see stuff as coming from YOU, and when they want something, they want proof that YOU care about them and notice them. So, just give them what they want, so they know that you care about them. Give them whatever they want no matter how nicely or forcefully they ask for what they want, as children cannot be expected to have good social graces from day one, as children are naturally demanding, and that trait will exist until they grow out of it.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke your children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why we should care about the religious child abuse of pedophilic children

Many people, when they think of pedophiles, think criminals, namely the stereotype of the narcissistic jerk who preys on children and wins them over. Many people hate pedophiles with a passion, but most people don't know what, or rather who, a pedophile is - otherwise, they wouldn't hate them.

Where are the pedophiles? Think autism. Think a form of autism that involves high sensitivity. When that high sensitivity is centered on children, think pedophile. Pedophilia is a mental health disorder involving primary or exclusive sexual preference for children under age 14. It exists in a subset of the autism population that cannot relate to same-age peers or adults, but can relate to children in an empathic way. This highly sensitive empathy, however, comes at the cost of sexual attraction to children. Children with this form of autism usually trail around much younger children, and instinctively know how to interact with them, but have no friends at school their own age - and usually, they are satisfied having no friends their own age. Some pedophiles are narcissists, but most pedophiles are vulnerable victims with autism that will only be able to relate to young children. I myself enjoy solitude most of the time, but it would be nice to be friends with a young girl.

There is a mental health stigma against pedophilia as a whole. Children with pedophilia have to face the stigma while having another strike against them - childism/adultism. The mental health stigma against pedophiles does not come from trauma survivors, but is a religious stigma coming from spiritually abusive parents and pastors who deny pedophiles their right to their own body in terms of masturbation and sexual fantasy about children. A common passage used against pedophilic children is Matthew 5:27-28 KJV:

Ye have heard that it was said of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, that whosoever looketh on a woman in order to look after her hath committed adultery in his heart.

The Greek root word translated "lust" is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and does not refer to mere sexual desires for children, but instead sexual desire to the point of taking the first steps to approach a child, with the very first step being rationalization that the act itself is okay. It is okay to think the think, but it is not okay to do the deed. 

Unfortunately, many pedophilic children live in a religious prison where they are punished merely for having thoughts of much younger children, usually by eavesdropping and lurching. If the child even dares to disclose their condition, they get kicked to the curb like trash. 

The hysteria surrounding pedophilia ultimately comes from the same people that our children's rights community opposes - religious abusive parents who pervert God's Word and Law to oppress and abuse their children, controlling their sexuality, and punishing their pedophilic children for being themselves and being pedophiles.

Why should we care about these children? Usually, it is the child you'd least expect, but once you hear their whole story, it makes perfect sense. Most pedophiles are not pedophile narcissists, meaning it is not a narcissistic desire. Most pedophiles have mild-moderate autism, of the "exist" type, meaning they are capable of empathy, but in a specialized way. Autism is where an individual specializes all their skills in one area. When someone with autism specializes all their skills in children's issues, think pedophile. Some children with autism have a gift for children, and that is conflated with their pedophilia. Shouldn't a child like that be seen as having a gift for children first, then pedophilia second? Shouldn't a non-offending, non-contact pedophile be able to work with children and be friends with children? Chances are, they only have the social skills to relate to children, and are lost when it comes to adult relationships and friendships. Usually, a pedophile isn't the clingy type of autistic person, but instead is very distant with adults, and sits on the periphery of social gatherings. Most of them care about everyone, and humanize everyone, but only from afar. They, however, relate to children up close and naturally just "get" children. Ultimately, they empathize with children at their developmental level, as they are emotionally immature and their sexual preferences reflect that. 

I myself am fortunate to have all the support that I have. I have a mother to talk to about this, a therapist, and a whole community here at children's rights. Combined with my Christian beliefs, my support system helped me cope with sexually entitled tendencies towards children. Many, but not all, pedophilic children are socially awkward around children, to the point of flirting or being pushy. I was one of THOSE pedophiles. Other pedophiles just click with children, and the children love them. I can be that type of pedophile now, but not then, when I had an excited crush on several young girls. Today, I just like being around children, and like to check out the young girls. I don't need them to even acknowledge me. I just look, but don't touch, and otherwise leave them live their lives as they wish.

The depraved and decadent, defiled adult fornicators who sexually abuse children, then blame pedophiles, will not inherit the Kingdom of God! They will BURN in torrents of Hell-fire! Repent!

How to teach good behavior in public venues - without spanking or punishment

Many parents struggle with their children when going out and about. It is common for parents to have power struggles with their children when out and about, in public venues. Parents want children to behave in a peaceable and orderly way in public. However, how is this lesson taught? By example, not brute force. There is no need to punish a child anywhere when in a public venue, or when you get home.

The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to, officially speaking, want, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, this word refers to the slightest of unattainable want. If what you want will lead you to a temper tantrum if told the word "no", don't want it. Children can't help but throw temper tantrums in public, but YOU can as a parent raising them. Children are watching and observing our every move as adults, so we as adults - especially parents - should work on their entitlement problems. The best place to start is entitlement towards your child - parental entitlement.

On the other hand, discipline, in the Christian tense, is denoted by the Greek root word παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to a specific standard of Christian discipline that starts with an admission of one's depraved and entitled sin nature, and leads to an attitude that is entitled to nothing, and grateful for everything, leading to a disciplined and chastened up example for children to follow. Children will not be able to get the example of parents right away, as children are immature and lack self-control, and need a parent to be calm when they can't be. This means that when a child throws a temper tantrum, a parent should not react by throwing one as well - they should simply remain calm and respond to the tantrum with empathy.

Any good example has to be backed up by something. Spanking and punishment drives children away from the good example of their parents. Attachment parenting makes children want to follow the example of parents, and leads to children looking up to parents. The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting home is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, sacrificing themselves just as Christ sacrificed for His children, with children resting in the sacrifice of parents. Parents labor, toil, and work to win over their child's trust and affection, and children rest in such love and good works for children, with children being a Godhead issuing demands and summonses that is their every vulnerable need, being the extensions of God that they are. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Jewish culture, including Early Christian culture. Attachment parenting was mandated under Jewish customary law in the Old Testament, and also was mandated under Christian church ordinance in the New Testament.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offenses perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle 
Paul, as well as understood in context, as prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. Spanking and other forms of punishing children do not come from the Bible, but instead come from the Roman Catholic Church pandering to European pagan cultures that whipped and beat their children into submission, and the Bible was intentionally mistranslated into Latin to reflect this. Jewish law, including Christian ordinance, prohibited all punishment of minor children then, and also prohibited all punishment of adult children without a trial. Paul was spelling it out completely to a Greek Christian Audience that misused the book of Proverbs to justify their pagan punishment habits. The rod verses in Proverbs do not refer to raising children, and instead refer to an archaic form of judicial corporal punishment within Judaism then where offenders were issued 40 minus 1 lashes by their fathers upon being sentenced to death, and if they survived, they were given a second chance at life. 

The national parenting of the Ancient Jewish people was a special type of attachment parenting that deified children and treated them as emblematic of God and His Authority (see Matt. 25:31-46). Children could issue lawful and binding orders as to whatever they want/need, with whatever they wanted/needed being a summonses from God for parents to obey. Children then led the way as to what they wanted/needed, and cried easily, as a cry was understood as a petition and demand for a need. Children were seen as extensions of God, striking reverent fear and terror into parents, compelling them in the Lord to meet their every need. Children were given everything that they wanted, assuming it was a need, unless it was harmful, sinful, or otherwise unattainable.

How did this all pan out? Children went naked wherever they went. Women went naked in the family home, in order to serve their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by way of nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (up until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy (especially during co-sleeping). By day, children ranged beside their mother, sometimes clinging to her. By night, they slept next to her, soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. Raising children was the mother's domain, with the father rarely intervening. The father nurtured too, but from a distance, and at the consent of mothers. Fathers addressed their children on formal terms, until the child invited him to "break the ice" and allowed for casual conversation. Even then, mothers could step in and break up the interaction if the father was entitled in the interaction.

Children learn how to behave in public venues by way of example. All you have to do is behave yourself in a public venue, in a peaceable and orderly way, and be an attachment parent to your child, and your child should eventually be able to behave in public. Children should not be expected to master this skill until young adulthood. Spanking and punishment drives away children from the good example of parents, and make it so children don't want to follow the example of parents. Then, getting them to behave in public is harder. So, don't blow up at the waitress and demand to talk to the manager when your food isn't the right temperature - stifle that kind of anger, because then children think it is okay to throw tantrums in public. They will anyway when they are young, because they lack self-control and maturity, but they will learn Christian non-entitlement and gratitude if they have a good role model that they can want to be like and look up to. That role model should be their parents. In the mean time, all you can do is fill the void and be under complete self-control when your child throws a temper tantrum, but in a listening and validating way. Parents should show gratitude in how they position themselves, especially when children are watching, and show gratitude in how they ask for things. Children will follow in emulating your example, but not right away.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Joke" investigations: Why to change the abuser locator to "I am the adult..."

Many people are unaware of what a "joke" investigation is. There are levels of knowledge of how the police operate. Did you know that you can get investigated just for admitting that you are a pedophile, in the wrong place, at the wrong time?

Now, to be clear, I am NOT one of those civil libertarian types who think we should have lesser sentences for pedophiles. A pedophile is a victim/abuser, meaning they are far more likely to be victimized or taken advantage of than become an abuser. Most pedophiles abuse in their late teens-early 20s, and usually by loitering around child victims as a form of sexual harassment, and the abuse is usually everyday in nature - children experience worse abuse from their parents and other adults (ex. schoolteachers, coaches, etc.). Pedophiles are not the problem concerning child abuse. Adults are.

Parental entitlement is any time an adult wants something from a child, to the point of imposition, with this form of entitlement being denoted by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés). Child abuse is when this entitlement is perceived by a child (see Col. 3:21, Eph. 6:4). The sin of covetousness is basically defensive entitlement. Entitlement can be struggled against, in which case it is forgivable. Usually, entitlement leading to child abuse comes with the excuse, at least some point during the interview, "I am the adult, and I have the right to do X to a child". Some adults identify as "parent" in place of "adult", but the epithet against children is the same.

I am a pedophilic adult, and I am guilty not because of any mental health diagnosis or self-diagnosis I might have, in which case pedophilia is a self-diagnosis of mine. I am guilty because I am an adult in relation to children, and am deserving of DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing in relation to children, yet God allows me to exist, and children forgive me for the abuse that I have meted out to them. I might have earned my right to exist in relation to children, but I will let the good Lord decide that. I do consider myself one of the Saints who choose to fight against their parental entitlement instead of embrace it.

Whenever someone utters "I am the adult..." as a rights statement, or as a statement period, there should be an investigation done, because no safe adult says they are the adult, or takes that attitude. If they do have that attitude, they struggle against it. To defend that entitlement is abhorrent and reeks of an abuser. Usually, adults say that epithet to their child victims in order to justify their abuse, and any time you say that to your child, you are abusing them in some capacity. 

Adults should be presumed as non-existent until proven otherwise beyond a reasonable doubt, and then, they shouldn't be allowed to exist anywhere near children, period. Help the parents with a punishment habit by removing them from the burden that is their children and finding them a nice warm prison to relocate to. But, before that, we must go on any excuse that proves innocence and non-existence in an adult. Adults simply imply themselves as the adult before then, and once they name themselves, they tar their existence forever.

Just say that you are a pedophile instead. Nobody says that out in the open unless they are asking for help, or else just identifying by their sexual preferences. Admitting to a mental health diagnosis of any kind is better than admitting to being an adult, in order to defend yourself, as the assumption should be that nobody would diagnose themselves with a mental illness unless they were seeking help.

The entitled adults who provoke children to anger through child abuse will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them BURN in everlasting torrents of fire! Repent!

What is a criminal?: Understanding the link between punitive parenting and criminality

Many parents think that not punishing children leads to criminality, and many law enforcement organizations back that up. Police unions, in states where a ban on corporal punishment was proposed, refused to enforce such a law if it was passed. Not all police are pro-spanking, but there is a strong stigma in police circles to admitting to anti-spanking views. This has more to do with the police personality necessary to fighting the high crime rates that plague the United States. But, where does crime come from?

A criminal has a cognitive disability where they cannot behave in a peaceable and orderly way without some sort of punishment to fear. This is because they grew up in an environment where fear of punishment was used to control their behavior. Anyone can become a criminal, under the right/wrong conditions. This doesn't mean everyone will. But, if an ordinary person in an apartment that they rented gets evicted, and tossed onto the street, due to an addiction they have succumbed to, they will learn to be a criminal to get their needs met. There may be better options, but that's why we say being a criminal is a choice for most people. But, people who were punished as children will choose to do the wrong thing if they won't get caught. Many criminals will beg to go back to prison, and that is because they grew up with that kind of structure, and thus can't function without that structure.

What is the solution? Teaching by example, instead of by rule of punishment. The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to, officially speaking, want, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, the word refers to the slightest of unattainable want. If wanting something leads to a temper tantrum when you hear the word "no", don't want it. Children can't help but throw temper tantrums, as they have a flawed nature. But, YOU can help it, so just don't want things you'll tantrum about, as a temper tantrum is the test that denotes whether a person is entitled or not. Children are watching and observing our every move. If they see a parent acting entitled, THEY will act entitled, especially if they are treated in an entitled way - parental entitlement is actually the first entitlement problem you should work on as a depraved and entitled sinner. 

A good Christian example needs to be backed up somehow. Punishment simply begets the need for more punishment, by way of causing a dependence on being punished in order to behave in a peaceable and orderly manner in society - the very definition of a criminal. Also, punishment alienates children from your example, and hampers their internalization of your example. Attachment parenting is the way to back up a good Christian example. The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting home is Christian Agape love, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself last as a parent, in a convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, sacrificing for their children just as Christ sacrificed for His children, with children resting in such sacrifice. Parents labor, toil, and work to win over the trust and affection of children, and children rest in such love and good works, without a worry in the world, being revered and feared as extensions of God, and their every want/need being a divine command and summonses. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Israel and the Early Church. Attachment parenting was mandated under Jewish customary law in Ancient Israel, and was also mandated by church ordinance in the Early Christian church communities.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, including child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in context, as prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards a child. Spanking and other forms of punitive parenting do not come from the Bible, but instead come from the Roman Catholic Church pandering to the European pagan cultures who whipped and beat their children as a form of punishment. Jewish law, including Christian church ordinance, forbade parents from striking or punishing their children, deeming it a form of kidnapping, and this commandment spells it out completely to a group of Greek Christians that were out of compliance with Divine Law against punitive parenting.

The national parenting of the Ancient Jewish people, including the Early Christians, was a special form of attachment parenting that deified children, in the form of pro-social deification and pro-social child worship. Children were heavily deified in biblical times. Children were worshipped and venerated as extensions of God. The every cry and demand of a child was seen as a lawful and binding summonses on parents, and parents were legally commanded to give children whatever they wanted except if it was harmful or otherwise unattainable, in which case parents simply reassured children of their presence, listening and validating their child's every upset. Children felt safe crying about their every need, since they had no concept of what it was like to be punished for crying too much. Children, by day, ranged beside mothers, sometimes clinging to her. By night, children slept next to mothers, soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. Children went naked wherever they went. Women went naked in the family home, traditionally, in order to serve their husband and their children, separately. Mothers served their children with nourishment and sustenance, meaning breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy (during co-sleeping). Fathers nurtured too, but from a distance, encouraging the child's religious education. Fathers interacted with children on formal terms, until the child "broke the ice" and allowed for casual conversation, and even then, mothers could overrule the child for safety's sake (most fathers had a parent attraction towards their own children).

Attachment parenting prevents criminality, not promotes it, as it allows for children to think critically, and reason for themselves as to what is right or wrong, based on a parent's loving and gentle example. Punitive parenting relies on punishment to "beat discipline into" children, which makes children reliant on more punishment as time goes on. But, there will not always be someone to punish you in the real world when you do something wrong - and that is when people become criminals. Even when people simply jaywalk when the police don't enforce pedestrian laws - and that is how you can understand all crime. We need a country that can police itself, with minimal police intervention. We will always need police, but we will need them less and less in the decades following a ban on punishing children. We are a Christian nation, with God's Law being above the law of the land. If we can get it to a point where we can police ourselves, pretty much, that would be great. But, first, people have to internalize morality, and punishment does not allow for that to happen - punishment then becomes the morality, not God, and God and punishment are equated, leading to atheism in our young people.

Attachment parenting makes children want to follow the example of parents. Punitive parenting drives children away from the good example of parents, and doesn't back up the example of parents properly. Children being treated as extensions of God make children like their parents, and makes them want to follow the good Christian example of parents.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!