How to impart Judeo-Christian values to children - without spanking or punishment

Many parents in the United States, meaning most, want their children to learn Judeo-Christian values, whether they name that as their values system or not. Many parents believe anti-spanking constitutes a values system in and of itself, and one that is opposed to Judeo-Christian values. Some anti-spanking parents support Judeo-Christian values, some simply live by them while opposing them nonetheless. There is a non-punitive way to teach Judeo-Christian values to children. Attachment parenting can teach any values system modeled by parents.

The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to, officially speaking, want, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, this word refers to the slightest of unattainable want. If a want will lead to a temper tantrum upon the word "no", fight against that want. A child cannot help but throw a temper tantrum, as that is part of their flawed nature, but YOU can help it and not throw temper tantrums when you don't get your way. Children are watching our every move as adults, and so it is good to work on your entitlement issues as an adult.

On the other hand, the Greek root word denoting discipline in the Christian tense is παιδεία (Latin: paideia), and refers to a specific standard of Christian discipline starting with an admission of a depraved and entitled sin nature, ending with an attitude that is entitled to nothing, and grateful for everything, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. One should not expect children to follow said example right away, as children are immature and impulsive, and thus should be expected to engage in childish and immature behavior. The idea is to let go of most immature habits, and reassure all crying, with the reason being that punishment causes immaturity to be repressed, and when you repress immaturity, it lasts longer and is expressed in sideways fashion. Think brainwaves that is the immaturity being allowed to flow instead of being held stagnant by repressive punishment and controlling demeanor. Immaturity is actually more manageable with no punishment or controlling demeanor in parenting.

A good example needs to be backed up by something. Punishments such as spanking and corporal punishment only serve to drive children away from the good example of parents. Attachment parenting makes children want to heed the example of parents, and is the time-honored alternative to punitive parenting. The centerpiece of an attached Christian parenting home is Christian Agape love for children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself last as a parent, in a fearful and convicted way leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the good works of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, sacrificing for their children, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, with children resting in the sacrifice of parents. Parents labored, toiled, and worked to win over the good graces of their children, and children rested in that love and good works of parents, with children being worshipped and venerated in their resting state as extensions of God. Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Jewish culture. In Ancient Israel, attachment parenting was mandated under Jewish customary law. In the Early Christian church communities, attachment parenting was mandated under church ordinance. This Greek root word lifts up the attachment parenting context, making the attachment parenting traditions of the Ancient Jews relevant and applicable to all.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, as defined under biblical law, at minimum, is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in the context in which it was given, to prohibit all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment and controlling demeanor towards children. The Apostle Paul was rebuking a group of Greek Christians that brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church, misusing the book of Proverbs as a justification for their abuse. The rod verses in Proverbs do not refer to raising minor children at all, but instead are symbolic statements about ADULT children enduring hardships. The rod mentioned in Proverbs refers to the 40 minus 1 lashes that an ADULT child endured as a sentence for crime when convicted of a capital offense. If the young adult survived the whipping, they were given a second chance at life. Most hardships in a young adult's life feel like the 40 minus 1 lashes, but we somehow get through it, don't we? That is the meaning of the rod verses, in the Hebraic tense.

The national parenting of the Ancient Jewish people, including the Early Christians, was a special, distinct form of attachment parenting where children were deified. Children then were worshipped and venerated as extensions of God and His Authority on earth, with parents being struck with reverent fear and terror as to the every vulnerable need of children, being compelled by the Lord to surrender and submit to the every vulnerable want/need of children. Parents are to submit to the needs of children as their enemy, just as mankind is the enemy of God and is subservient to Him as such. Parents are to seek to win over the good graces of children, just as they would towards God. Children had the authority then to issue lawful and binding orders to their parents, and even take children to court, and by the time the case was heard, it was already decided in favor of the child. 

How did this pan out? Children went naked in biblical times wherever they went. Women also went naked, in the family home, in order to serve their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by giving them nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (for the first 2 years) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy (especially during co-sleeping). By day, children ranged beside mothers, sometimes clinging to her. By night, children slept next to mothers, being guarded from all threats external and domestic, soaking up the rays of skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. Fathers also nurtured, but from afar, usually when encouraging their child's religious education. Fathers spoke on formal terms with children, by default, until the individual child "broke the ice" and invited the father to casual conversation. This formality was because most men were pedophiles then towards their children, but of the abstinent type, and needed this structure in order to fully abstain from ever sexually abusing their children. Even the ancients considered sexually violating a child to be abusive, and engaging in any sexual interaction with a child was seen as deserving of death, particularly in the Old Testament. Both parents allowed children to be the boss of their needs, and to boss them around as to what they needed, and parents vulnerably submitted to what children self-advocated as their needs.

Attachment parenting, instead of punishment, serves to make children want to follow the example of parents, by creating a secure parent-child bond that lasts for the rest of the parent's life. Punishment and controlling demeanor in parenting, which is traditionally used to back up exemplary instruction, only alienates children from their parents, and causes resentment. Attachment parenting, eventually, gives children a reason why they should follow your example - you give them everything. Children shouldn't be expected to follow the example of parents right away, but come young adulthood, they should be able to follow the example of parents, unless they have a disability and/or mental disorder that hinders their development.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!