My abuse from authoritative parenting

Many parents think authoritative parenting is a safe alternative to authoritarian parenting. This is a common mistake many parents make concerning their child's welfare. Authoritative parenting is different from attached, gentle parenting in that attachment parenting is based off of providing for children, whereas authoritative parenting is based off of disciplining them "lightly". I was spanked, and I DIDN'T turn out okay.

I myself was punished by my parents. The most memorable of punishments was being spanked on the buttocks, of a total of 5-8 swats, done "out of love" (yes, THAT excuse), in a way that closely resembled Dr. Robert Larzelere's "disciplinary spanking", in retrospect - preplanned, not out of impulse, and involving that "deep breath" that somehow makes it okay in the rationalizing minds of many parents. That sort of depraved and entitled violence was imposed upon me, in the midst of an otherwise warm and encouraging home, creating a sort of trauma bonding experience, meaning the toxic atmosphere growing up was trauma bonding in nature. Other ways I was punished was time-out and loss of privileges. The spanking felt violating, meaning I felt my bodily autonomy violated as a child, and I fought back the best I could, even breaking a door in the process.

I myself suffered from anxiety around children for a long time. I was afraid of parents punishing their children in front of me, so every time a child cried, I jumped, as my heart bled for that child. I now use the anti-trauma tactic of "innocent until proven guilty" guided by the words "parent" and "adult" in their defensive tense. Before then, I felt like my abuser was everywhere, in the form of low-level anxiety about parents punishing their children. I would freeze when a child cried, having to do something to protect that child, even though nothing could be done rationally to protect the child, and so I felt defeated. Now, I judge righteously for God, and I am judge and jury over parents, and I judge parents, and I judge them good.

Lawfully abusive parents make you feel like you aren't being listened to, meaning they do not listen to you, period. Childhood, as a whole, was like being lined up against by adults, meaning you couldn't get past adults. They all lined up against you.

I am an anti-adult adult, meaning I don't identify as "the adult" in relation to children, meaning you will never hear me saying to a child "I am the adult" to a child. I just am the adult, but in a responsible, convicted way, that doesn't admit itself easily, but shows itself to the court for judgment.

LET THE DEPRAVED AND ENTITLED PARENTS BURN! LET THEM SUFFER IN THE FIRE OF HELL! Repent! 

Why attachment parenting is a Christian tradition

Many parents think punitive parenting that involves punishment is what is held as Christian tradition. America is a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian family values, with attachment parenting being part of our traditions as a country. Attachment parenting is in the Bible, and is the true context of biblical law. Attachment parenting is a tenet of our natural law as a country.

Attachment parenting is driven by Christian love, or putting children first, and parents last, in a convicted way that leads to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of respect does not come from fearful compliance, but surrender into the loving arms of parents, with children telling parents anything and everything that is on their mind, including acts of wrongdoing, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return for disclosing information to parents. Parents, in the biblical sense, are bondservants beholden to children and their every vulnerable need, with parents submitting from above, and children resting from beneath. Attachment parenting was the norm in Ancient Israel and the Early Church. Think a Christian mother holding pales of water, with a young child wrapped up next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, and an older child strapped to her back in a papoose bag. Boil over, then safe. That was the heyday of attachment parenting. The goal of parenting in biblical times was a secure parent-child bond, in all matters of parenting.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. This refers to the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. In this commandment, the Apostle Paul is lifting up the Law on the punishment and controlling demeanor towards children. Punitive parenting does not come from the Bible, but from Ancient Greco-Roman society, meaning even then, Christians were misusing the book of Proverbs to justify whipping children, and this is what Paul was warning against. The verses in Proverbs regarding the rod do not refer to "biblical spanking" but a specific, archaic form of judicial corporal punishment closely conflated with the death penalty in the Old Testament - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, as a final warning before an ADULT child was put to death, administered to the bare back (NEVER the buttocks) in a courtroom (NEVER a family home) after a criminal conviction before a court of law. MINOR children could not be whipped legally, as they could not be charged with a crime, with minor age being a defense.

Mothers and fathers had different roles regarding attachment parenting in Ancient Israel and the Early Church. Mothers took the role of providing nourishment and sustenance to children, namely breastmilk and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy respectively. Children in biblical times went naked wherever they went, and mothers were also naked traditionally in the family home. Mothers and children snuggled in the nude, with the nudity of the children lowering the level of attachment to full equality, with parents "growing up with" their children. Relationships with fathers were more casual, in an encouraging way, meaning fathers and children hung out as friends, with a connotational parent attraction being part of the dynamic, in the form of "sun tan oil". The ancients had a concept of child sexual abuse, and it was seen as wicked and evil to sexually use or objectify a child. Fathers instead put children, especially older daughters, on a pedestal, idealizing them in a deified way, seeing them as little gods and goddesses to appease. Fathers acted as a human ragdoll around children, and encouraged them in their religious vocation, which was chosen by the child him or herself...Some of this context might be dated, but much of it is applicable today, perhaps with some tweaking.

Religious instruction was mandatory only for young boys in the New Testament, but girls were often interested as well. Children would spend hours reading Scripture, forming their own personal theology apart from their parents. Fathers and children often met to discuss Scripture, with fathers giving tips on proper ways to interpret Scripture, discussing the issue, as well as other academic matters, casually, in a homeschooling setting similar to the attachment parenting concept of unschooling. Children read Scripture on their terms, not that of their parents.

Attachment parenting is a Christian tradition in this country. We are learning a lot about our values as a country as of late, including more people with those values. We learned that slavery and Jim Crow were wrong to do to people of color, and so we broke down the barriers and included them. Attachment parenting (AP) includes children in society when widely practiced by a society, instead of shutting them out.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Rule from beneath: Why children ruled their parents from beneath in the Bible

Many parents see themselves as above their children, issuing orders, and being an authority figure to children. Many parents get their parenting advice from religious sources, and most of the religious sources in the United States issue false commands for corporal punishment and other forms of punitive measures in parenting. The fact of the matter was that, in the Bible, children ruled from beneath, and had a great deal of influence of adult decisions. 

Christian love is the answer to all issues related to parenting, and is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to putting children first, and parents last, in a convicted way leading to submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in the safety and security of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This refers not to a form of respect based on fearful compliance, but based on surrender to the loving arms of parents, with children telling parents anything and everything that is on their mind, including confessions of wrongdoing, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return. Parents in biblical times were seen as bondservants beholden to the child's every vulnerable need, with this being the concept of righteous enslavement. Parents were seen as servants of God, not authority figures, with children in place of God. Children ruled their parents from beneath, making demands, with no childhood demand falling on deaf ears.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. It refers here to the slightest of offense perceived by a child, including the slightest of offensive touch or speech, stemming from entitlement. In this commandment, the Apostle Paul is lifting up the Law on punishment and controlling demeanor towards children. Spanking and corporal punishment in particular, but all of our punitive parenting habits, come from Ancient Greco-Roman society, not the book of Proverbs. The seven verses in Proverbs that depict the rod are repealed verses, meaning the verses are relevant only to the cultural and legal context that they are written to. God writes to His Audience, and sometimes only to His Audience. The rod verses refer to a specific, dated form of judicial corporal punishment closely conflated with the death penalty in Ancient Israel - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, as a final warning before putting a law-breaking ADULT child to death, after a criminal trial in a court of law. Punishment of any kind could only occur within the confines of the Law and legal orders, and such orders were never given to parents to use on minor children, as minor age was a defense in a court of law then, including a parent's court of law.

Children had much influence over the day-to-day decisions of adults. Children made demands from beneath, and no demand from a child was ever unheard. Children were given freedom to make demands, and even police their parents based on what they need. Parents gave in and gave up, giving up the fight and surrendering to the needs of their children. Children were submissive yet empowered in their role in relation to parents and adults.

Parents were bondservants to their children in biblical times, meaning they were selfless providers of needs to children. Parents then were seen by children and others as tools, meaning milking-objects, for children to use for their every vulnerable need. Parents were completely beholden to their child's needs, with children demanding their needs, and no demand going unheard.

Children had much lobbying power over their parents, meaning children made demands or petitions of a redress of grievances to parents, and parents did their best to cater to children. Children could talk back to parents, and issue demands freely, even speaking against parents, striking reverent terror into their parents, with parents fearing their children and revering them. Parents submitted from above to their children, in a convicted way that put the child's needs first, and the parent's needs last. Parents who had enough of their child's aggression and anger cried, as a ball of tears was at the end of every Christian parent's rope. 

Children went completely naked everywhere they went in biblical times, and this brought the level of attachment to full equality. Parents "grew up" with their children, with mothers snuggling with their children in the nude, with women traditionally going naked in the biblical context when at home. Parents had no parent anger apart from the rare, firm "no" to a want or behavior. Otherwise, parents cried when overwhelmed, due to the dynamics involving the children's nudity.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context (why blind compliance is not a command)

Many parents believe use the Fifth Commandment as an excuse to demand respect in the form of blind compliance towards parents. The Fifth Commandment is a common excuse for abuse. But, is it really intended as a way to shut down a child's demands for needs? It isn't. 

The Fifth Commandment says in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

The actual meaning of this commandment, in context, is not blind compliance to parents, but instead enacts legislation against elder abuse. Elder abuse was rampant in biblical times, and the victim was often blamed. Parents in Ancient Israel were often beaten and subject to gaslighting by their adult children. So, God laid down the parent protection laws, with "do not curse parents" meaning do not administer gaslighting spells to them, and "do not strike parents" meaning do not beat your parents into oblivion, or put your hands on them violently. Parents were blamed for their own abuse that they endured. The attitude was that children "must have learned it from somewhere". Today, the Fifth Commandment means that adults can disagree with their parents, even strongly and fervently, but they have to do so respectfully, instead of beating and bludgeoning parents, and taking advantage of them. I myself have to answer to this, as do many young people today, as I struck out at my mother after being startled by losing the "POST" button on my Facebook page. If you feel that you dishonored a parent, then you did, and you need to apologize. That is, for actual abuse like what I did, meaning things such as putting your hands on a parent violently and possibly leaving marks. I answer to the court for what I did to her. I choke up when I think about it.

The Fifth Commandment means something different for Christian children. Parents are to impart Christian love to children, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to being convicted of a child's every need, with children coming first, and parents last, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting in the safety and security of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of respect does not involve blind, fearful compliance to parents, but instead surrender into the loving arms of parents, with children being able to tell parents anything and everything that is on their mind, including confessions of wrongdoing, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return. Parents are to be bondservants beholden to their child's every need, in the form of righteous enslavement to children. Parenting in Ancient Israel and the Early Church was attachment-based in nature, meaning attachment parenting was the established norm in Hebrew and Christian society. Think a Christian mother holding pales of water, with a young child wrapped next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, and an older child strapped to the young mother's back in a papoose bag. Boil over, then safe. Those were the days. THAT is how children should rest and trust in parents.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context, meaning the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including the slightest of offensive touch and speech, coming from entitlement. In this commandment, the Apostle Paul was lifting up the Law on punishment and controlling demeanor towards children, rebuking Greek Christians with a punishment habit. Punitive parenting came from Ancient Greco-Roman society, not the book of Proverbs, meaning Greek Christians were using Proverbs to justify their abuse towards their children. The seven verses in Proverbs that depict the rod are repealed verses, meaning they are only relevant to the cultural and legal context of the time. This is because they do not refer to "biblical spanking" but to a specific, dated form of judicial corporal punishment - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, as a final warning before putting an ADULT child to death, administered to the bare back and not the buttocks, after adequate due process leading to a criminal conviction in a court of law. MINOR children could not be whipped for anything, as a whipping required court approval, and minor age was a defense under Jewish law. Punishment and controlling demeanor towards children was dealt with severely in biblical times, with punitive parents being put to death in the Old Testament for kidnapping, by way of bloodletting. In the New Testament, punitive parents were excommunicated from church communities.

Many parents are friends with their children once their children become adults. Attachment parenting is about forming a secure parent-child bond from day one, and was the proper, normative parenting in biblical times. The Fifth Commandment meant then for minor children that there needed to be a secure parent-child bond, and that children needed to be able to trust parents enough to rest in their loving arms. A secure parent-child bond is about friendship with children, meaning spending quality time with them, and bonding with them. With young children, this is done through nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk and skin-to-skin contact, namely snuggling with mothers. 

In biblical times, mothers slept next to children in the nude, with children going naked everywhere they went, and mothers traditionally being naked in a home setting. Children up until age 6 never left their mother's side, and were always either sleeping next to their mother in the nude, or co-mingled next to her. This was the rest referred to in Col. 3:20, meaning children were to rest securely and safely with parents through surrendering to maternal sustenance and nourishment, as well as fatherly lessons that cultivated the child's natural curiosity, encouraging a child's natural interest in religion and theology, which usually starts at age 6.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Many will be called to be Christians, but few chosen, as so many parents punish their children. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Punishment of children: Why it is sin (proper limit setting)

Many parents think that punishment is the right way to set limits with children. The common way that lawful child abuse against children goes is that a child is first warned about a behavior, then is punished in some way when the behavior continues. Sometimes, it is several warnings, but punishment of a child is sin according to biblical law.

The concept of Christian love is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to being convicted of the every need of one's child with reverent fear, putting children first, and parents last, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of surrender of children to parents doesn't come from fearful compliance, but instead involves children surrendering to the loving arms of children, being able to tell parents anything and everything under the sun that is on your mind, including confessions of wrongdoing, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return from parents. Parents were seen in biblical times as bondservants beholden to the every need of a child, with children being their master and slaveholder, and parents being the figurative property of children, meaning tools to use for comfort and sustenance. There are five categories of children's needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - and the greatest is attachment.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context, or the slightest of personal offenses perceived by the child, including the slightest of offensive touch or speech. In this commandment, the Apostle Paul was lifting up the Law on punishment and controlling demeanor towards children, rebuking Greek Christians who had a punishment habit towards their children. Punishment and controlling demeanor towards children was dealt with severely in biblical times, with punitive parents being sentenced to death in the Old Testament, and were excommunicated from church communities in the Early Church. The seven verses in Proverbs that depict the rod are repealed verses, meaning the passages in question are only relevant to the cultural and legal context in question. This is because the verses reference a specific, dated form of judicial corporal punishment that is closely conflated with the death penalty in Ancient Israel - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, as a final warning before an errant ADULT son was put to death, administered to the bare back (NOT the buttocks) in a courtroom setting, after adequate due process in a criminal court of law leading to a conviction. MINOR children could not be whipped because a whipping required court approval, and minor age was a legal defense then for any criminal act or civil wrong. Punishment is a sin in every respect when imposed on children, as it is perceived as offensive by children, and there are better ways of dealing with misbehavior than punishment.

Limit setting should not include punishment at all. All children need instructions from parents now and then, but instructions should have no backup plan except maybe logical consequences. Most children are punished for behavior that is developmentally appropriate given the child's age and developmental level. It is normal for a child to cry, even when unprovoked by circumstances. It is normal for older children and even preteen children to whine. It is normal for teenagers to roll their eyes at you when they feel cornered. How do you respond? With empathy, of course, to every childhood behavior. Sometimes, this means giving children space to be themselves and letting go of a behavior that only annoys you (not the child or anyone else).

How should limits be set? For example, a child might play outside in the rain, or after a rainstorm, and then track mud into the house. You can set the boundary that shoes are to be taken off when entering the house. However, they may not get it the first time, so you let it go. Eventually, they will remember to take their shoes off, once their brain allows it. When they are little, just clean up after them and don't fuss. You admonished them once, now let it go because they don't understand the instruction given. Give instructions in a way that can be questioned or not followed, using "please" to indicate prior gratitude and "thank you" to indicate reciprocal gratitude. Chances are, they will remember what you said later, and get into the habit themselves. Some children need extra reminders, namely those with autism or ADHD, but with most children, one warning is enough, and then let it sink in. DO NOT share them for their freedom by making them clean it up, as that is not a logical consequence.

Logical consequences are consequences prompted by the nature of the behavior in a child. A child who runs into a busy street prompts a parent to rush in, pick them up, and then hold them close. Holding a child close, in that situation, is how you keep them safe - otherwise they'd simply keep going into the street. If there is a ball they are chasing after, pitch it back to the children to play with. These are all logical consequences when properly used. Improper use of logical consequences is making a child clean up after themselves when they make a mess. You can ask them to, but they may not want to, in which case YOU are the parent entrusted in their care, and thus YOU need to get out the towels and the mop and clean up after your own child, since they demonstrate in their refusal that they aren't ready to clean up their own messes. Don't fuss about it. Give up the fight. Clean up after your child, as a child is too young to clean up after themselves until they take up that initiative on their own. Usually, children pick up these habits on their own.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Independence versus compliance: Why independence was the long-term goal of parents in the Bible

Many parents misunderstand what God wants for them in terms of parenting. It is a common belief that biblical parenting requires the use of punishment and force, including corporal punishment. The fact of the matter is that parents in biblical times had different priorities than immediate compliance. The short-term goal was closeness, and the long-term goal was independence.

Christian love is denoted in the New Testament by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to parent conviction of the child's every vulnerable need, then putting children first, and parents last, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This is a form of surrender to parents not coming from fearful compliance, but from restful surrender into the loving arms of parents. Closeness was the short-term goal of Christian parents in the 1st Century, meaning parents sought to be close with their children. The goal of the closeness was to allow for the child's development to usher through, leading to independence at an early age. Parents were bondservants beholden to their children, righteously enslaved to their every need. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. This word refers to the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including the slightest of offensive touch or speech, coming from entitlement. In this commandment, the Apostle Paul is lifting up the Law on punishment and controlling demeanor towards children, rebuking Greek Christians who had a punishment habit towards their children. Punitive parenting was dealt with severely under the Law, with punitive parents in the Old Testament being executed by way of bloodletting (hanging parents up like poultry). Parents who punished or were controlling with their children in the Early Christian context were excommunicated from their home parish. The seven verses dealing with the rod of correction are repealed verses, meaning these passages are only relevant to the cultural and legal context in which they were given to. This is because the rod verses do not speak of any "biblical spanking" but instead a dated form of judicial corporal punishment closely conflated with the death penalty in Ancient Israel - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, as a final warning before putting a law-breaking ADULT son to death, administered to the bare back and not the buttocks, after adequate due process leading to a criminal conviction in a court of law. MINOR children could not be whipped nor punished for anything, as they were deemed incompetent to stand trial for criminal acts or civil wrongs that they committed - their parents were instead put on trial. In the Early Church, apart from contractual mutual accountability between spouses, corporal punishment was absent from church discipline. Christians were forbidden by church leadership from participating in Roman executions and floggings.

Independence was the goal of every Hebrew and Christian parent in the Bible. Self-reliance was seen in the biblical context as a trait more worthy than compliance to authority. Closeness was the way biblical parents cultivated independence in children. Children remained in close vicinity to parents, not leaving their mother's side for the first 6 years of life, then slowly shaking away the providence of their parents. 

Children were allowed to develop naturally, all the while being in the closeness and safety of parents. Most behavior that children are punished for in modern times is developmentally appropriate and understandable given their age and development. This is because development of a child comes in phases, and the idea is to wait out phases of behavior that only annoy you (meaning not the child or anyone else). Children are going to develop, and the closer they are to parents while doing so, relationally wise, the quicker they will develop. The more a parent punishes, the more the child is not allowed to grow up naturally, and thus the more stagnant the development. Closeness with parents, particularly including things such as skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy, lead children to develop quicker.

Parents protected children from the world until they were older, first holding them close entirely, then allowing them more freedom on a graduated basis, at the child's lead. Children naturally will start out close to parents, but then will want to shake off parents more and more as they get older. That was the case in Ancient Israel and the Early Church, and parents allowed children to show that they were independent. Children naturally, throughout history, have wanted to be independent, on their own. Punitive parenting smothers children with undue and reactionary concern, therefore stifling growth. Parents in biblical times simply allowed children to play freely, as long as they were supervised, and children then were supervised at all times. Then, upon reaching adulthood, even supervision was lifted. Children usually did not want to leave the side of mothers for the first 6 years, only seeking out independence later.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why co-sleeping is the core of Christian parenting

Many parents oppose co-sleeping for various reasons. The most common practical reason is that children might "become dependent" on maternal support when sleeping. Co-sleeping is the central focal point of Christian parenting, meaning parenting by the Bible and it's context, and there is no getting around it. Mothers sleeping next to their children is the natural order of things. Get used to it.

Children don't stay stagnant in their development. Even children with autism eventually grow out of the habit of sleeping next to mother to get to sleep. I was actually 16 when I broke the habit, shaking my mother off to that degree, and then started sleeping all by myself. Most children start younger, like around ages 10-13, when they want to be grown up and sleep in their own room.

Christian love is what should motivate sleeping next to your child to lull them to sleep, with Christian love being denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao). This means being convicted of your child's every vulnerable need, then putting children first, and parents last, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of surrender to parents isn't a fearful form of surrender, but instead restful surrender into the loving arms of parents, being able to tell them absolutely anything and everything that is on your mind, and being able to vent upset and frustration into them, with parents merely being milking-objects to use. Parents are extensions of Christ serving God through their children. Parents are bondservants beholden to their children's every vulnerable need, righteously enslaved to such duties from conception until independence Sleeping next to one's child actually fosters independence by giving them a chance to be their dependent selves, allowing quick passage of the developmental phase.

tThe Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, including child abuse. These damages include the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child. The Apostle Paul here was lifting up the Law on punishment and controlling demeanor towards children, rebuking Greek Christian parents who had a punishment habit towards children. Being a punitive parent in biblical society was dealt with severely, with parents who dared to be controlling with their children, or punish them, being put to death for kidnapping/grand theft. All seven of the rod verses in Proverbs are repealed verses, meaning verses that are only relevant to the cultural and legal context of the time. This is because the passages in question do not refer to "biblical spanking" but to a dated form of judicial corporal punishment closely conflated with the death penalty in Ancient Israel - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, as a final warning before putting a law-breaking ADULT child to death, with adequate due process leading to a criminal conviction before a court of law. MINOR children could not be whipped for anything, as they were not held culpable for criminal acts or civil wrongs that they committed, as they were deemed incompetent to stand trial due to the defense of infancy (John 7:24). The Early Church forbade Christians from participating in Roman floggings or executions, with corporal punishment being reserved for consensual mutual accountability between spouses. Striking a child was seen as pure witchcraft.

Co-sleeping is crucial for any child aged 0-6, as very young children often refuse to go bed. This is because children up until age 6 have fears of being away from an attachment figure, namely a parent, out of fear of predation. Children up until age 6 never left the side of mothers in biblical times, ranged beside her by day, sleeping next to her by night. This was to protect children from predators, both human and non-human. Fathers had parent attraction to children, and children usually snuggled up next to mothers at night to allow mothers to guard them. 

No sexual abuser preys on children when they are sleeping next to their mother. Not if they don't want to get caught. There is no fury quite like a protective mother, and sexual predators, even within a home setting, know this. Children know this too, hence why they refuse to go to an isolated room where they can easily be cornered and preyed upon.

Co-sleeping in biblical times was very natural and primitive in terms of setup - both the mother and the children were completely naked, head to toe, and this served to lower the level of attachment to equality, meaning parents related to their children on the child's level, and "grew up with" their children. Skin-to-skin bonding and closeness served as a safe respite for children. Children younger than age 6 were in constant closeness with mothers, whereas children older than age 6 were pretty free range, but surrendered to closeness and intimacy with mothers, with children needing parents less gradually until adulthood...This context may be a bit dated, but most of it can be applied today, maybe with some tweaking.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast in to the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why a secure parent-child bond is crucial for parenting

Many parents think the core of parenting is discipline, meaning chastening up a child for adulthood, punishing them and controlling them to "make them" into something else. Many of these parents cite the Bible as "proof" that children need to be disciplined. They don't need discipline, but instead a secure parent-child bond.

What is a good parent-child bond made of? Christian love, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao). This refers to being convicted of one's child's needs, putting children first, and parents last, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of respect for parents isn't based off of fearful compliance, but restful surrender into the loving arms of parents. Parents were bondservants, charged with providing for children in the form of righteous enslavement in a secure parent-child bond. Attachment parenting was the norm in Ancient Israel and the Early Church. Think a Christian mother holding pales of water, with a young child wrapped up in the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets, and another child strapped to her mother's back in a papoose bag. That was the parenting then.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. This refers to the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including the slightest of offensive touch and speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. In this commandment, the Apostle Paul was lifting up the Law on punishment and controlling demeanor towards children, rebuking Greek Christians who had a punishment habit towards their children. Punishment and controlling demeanor towards children carried severe penalties, and was seen as worthy of death in the Old Testament. Punitive parents were excommunicated from the Early Christian churches, as punitive parenting was seen as kidnapping/grand theft, thus a church-wide offense. The rod verses in Proverbs - all seven of them - are repealed verses, meaning they only are relevant to the cultural and legal context to which they were written. This is because the passages refer to a dated form of judicial corporal punishment conflated closely with the death penalty in Ancient Israel - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, administered to the bare back of an ADULT child who violated the Law, as a final warning before putting him to death, with proper and adequate due process leading to a criminal conviction in a court of law. MINOR children could not be whipped for anything, as they were deemed incompetent to stand trial for criminal acts or civil wrongs that they committed, due to a defense of infancy under Jewish law. Under Christian law, corporal punishment was not used except between spouses as a form of mutual accountability that was consensual in nature. Apart from that, law was enforced by way of pro-social non-association and pro-social avoidance. The death penalty was banned, and Christians were banned from participating in Roman executions or floggings.

The goal for all parents in biblical times was a secure parent-child bond. Parents, meaning mothers and fathers both, took up different roles in a child's upbringing. Mothers were responsible for providing nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy respectively. Children in Ancient Israel and the Early Church were naked wherever they went. Mothers snuggled closely with children while in the nude, with mothers being traditionally naked in home settings. The skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy coming from nude children lowered the level of attachment to equal level. Fathers were friends with their children on a more casual, passive level, like a human ragdoll, with connotational parent attraction towards their children. Child sexual abuse was still seen as wicked and evil even then, and fathers who abused their children through sexually entitled drives were seen as worthy of death. Fathers instead presented their parent attraction to the court by speaking in flowery, baroque language about children - especially older daughters - in an almost poetic manner. Fathers especially, but also mothers, put their children on a pedestal, speaking of them as if they were gods and goddesses to worship, with child worship in a pro-social manner being a norm in biblical times - children were seen as extensions of God, meaning in place of God.

Parenting in Ancient Israel and the Early Church alike was very servile for parents. Parents were seen as servants of God, not authority figures, with children being in place of God. Parents were milking-objects, meaning merely tools for children to use for their own disposal, saying thank you later to honor their parents. Children made demands and orders, and parents were expected to give in and give up, surrendering to the every need of a child, reassuring them when a want isn't attainable nor safe. 

Most behaviors that children are punished for are developmentally appropriate behavior, understandable given their age and development. This means letting go of a lot of energetic and rambunctious behavior, particularly at home. It is normal for children to run around the house. It is normal for children not to listen the first time, and when they don't listen the first time, it should be assumed that they don't understand the instruction given, as their brain size and development won't allow them to understand certain instructions. Just give them a good, disciplined example, and that's all you need to get through to them, at least come adulthood.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

Children's rights and patriarchy: The source of the movement hatred of pedophiles

Many people think that trauma survivors hate pedophiles, period. This is a common form of help entitlement held by outsiders towards children's rights survivors, usually alongside the belief that survivors alone cannot defend themselves from their own abuser. The fact of the matter is that a specific type of survivor hates pedophiles - men, meaning the type on watch in a children's rights movement. 

Patriarchal men hate pedophiles and women in a triangulating way. The way it works is that a children's rights movement usually starts out being attacked by antisocial pedophiles, usually with gaslighting leaflets abound. Usually, survivors announce that they want a pedophile, but just the right kind that will get along with the survivors and be dedicated to serving the children they love. 

But, as time goes on, men infiltrate and misrepresent the identity of the individuals with more classic pedophilia, which is associated with autism and not narcissism. These men are usually politically on the right, but in a nihilistic way where they can spin their ideology to woo survivors and then deceive them into thinking their friend is actually their enemy, when their proposed enemy is actually their friend.

Pedophile inclusion is necessary for a successful children's rights movement. This is because a pedophile, in the modern day, portrays an anti-spanking trauma in a shocking way in terms of brute candor, meaning among any group of people today, the pedophiles of the world are more likely to be vocal about their anti-spanking trauma. I myself am a pedophile, and I also identify in this very context as an anti-spanking survivor. 

The children's rights movement has her pedophile allied with her. We are now going to move on from pedophiles, and focus on parents and other adults, knowing that all adults are guilty for orchestrating the child abuse epidemic, not simply a few adults because of what diagnosis/self-diagnosis that they have. Pedophilia is going to be accepted as a sexual orientation, but the act of child sexual abuse will never be acceptable, in any time period. Most children's rights societies also accept pedophiles, meaning see it as a valid mental illness that an individual struggles with. Pedophiles are accepted on the same level as children, and so accepting a pedophile might help you accept your child. Pedophilia is a sexual orientation, but the pathological kind due to where it is pointed. 

Before 2012 and the advent of the Virtuous Pedophiles support community, there was very little mental health services for pedophiles, and the only services that existed in the United States existed in a forensic setting such as a prison, meaning pedophiles who wanted mental health supports and services had to commit a sex crime against a child in order to enroll in services. Now, there are many prevention projects and other services for pedophiles within the borders of the United States alone, and more and more professionals are being trained by organizations such as the Association for Sexual Abuse Prevention (ASAP) and the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers (ATSA). Now, the support bubble for VirPed has reached the children's rights community in the United States. I organized much of that support, by the way, meaning my presence in this movement helps children's rights advocates from around the world understand pedophilia as a developmental condition. Trauma survivors want you, the reader, to know that pedophiles are not really their enemy - abusers are, period. A pedophile can be a victim of abuse, and children with the disorder can be targeted by sexual predators for their pedophilia.

Patriarchy doesn't exist universally anymore. You'd have to be a leftist to believe that, and I'm not one. Most American women have it good compared to countries such as Saudi Arabia or Iran, though things aren't perfect - some jobs don't offer maternity leave like in other countries, so poorer women still have a burden to carry. Patriarchy exists today pretty much only in children's rights circles, where gangs of men herd women survivors like cattle, and claim to be "of help" in a way that acts as a middleman for any children's rights information. We know clearly of that patriarchal force, and call it pro-spank. What isn't known much among adults is that pro-spank is even better at organizing against children, period, meaning no matter where a child goes, he/she has to answer to adult authority, whereas that authority exists nowhere in our founding documents as a country. Women who identify by their trauma get a taste of how children have been treated since time immemorial, lined up against in military fashion. Other women are well-off, including survivors not associated with children's rights, and refuse to even believe children's rights survivors about their ordeal with the pro-spankers.

Let the depraved and entitled pro-spankers BURN in everlasting torment! Repent!

Why children don't need rules

Many parents think that it is commonsense that children need rules, and cite Scripture as an excuse. This is a common misconception about children. Children do not need rules. They may need some boundaries set a few times along the way, but most of the time, children aren't being bad, but simply are being children.

The Apostle Paul wrote in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor thy father and mother, for this is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to a specific Christian standard of discipline in parents in relation to children, namely one that is entitled to nothing, and grateful for everything, especially from children. Children owe parents nothing, and parents owe children everything, with this leading to a chastened up example for children to follow, backed up by instruction to children as a righteous test, meaning if children didn't listen the first time, it was assumed that the child could not understand the instructions given, and then the goal was simply to keep the child safe, including by way of logical consequences, with this form of instruction in parenting denoted by the Greek root word νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to righteous instruction and righteous test of children. This is all weighed by the Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" which is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. This refers to the slightest of personal offenses perceived by the child, including the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. In this commandment, the Apostle Paul was lifting up the Law about punishment and other controlling demeanor towards children, rebuking Greek Christians who had a punishment habit towards their children. Punishing and being controlling towards children was dealt with severely then, in both the Old and New Testaments, and was seen as deserving of death in the Old Testament. In the Early Christian church communities, it was seen as a church-wide offense worthy of excommunication, which then was a fate next to death. The seven verses in Proverbs that depict the rod of correction are repealed verses, meaning they are only relevant to the context in which they are given. This is because they refer not to spanking children, but to a dated form of judicial corporal punishment closely conflated with the death penalty in Ancient Israel - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, administered to the bare back of an ADULT child, as a last warning before being put to death, after a criminal conviction in a court of law. MINOR children could not legally be whipped for a moral crime they committed, as children under the age of majority could not stand trial for criminal acts or civil wrongs that they committed. Apart from wife-spanking as a form of consensual accountability in the rare household, corporal punishment was not practiced as law enforcement in Christian churches in the 1st Century, and capital punishment was not practiced at all. Most Christian men did not strike their wives except on rare occasions when she submitted to it, and even then, she was usually forgiven and not spanked.

Children can be invited to follow the example of their parents by way of Christian love, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to being convicted of one's child's needs, putting children first, and parents last, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every need, expecting absolutely nothing in return, leading to children resting safely and securely in parents. The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and in vs. 1 refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This is not a respect based off of fear and compliance, but instead is a restful form of surrender in the loving arms of parents. Parents in biblical times were seen as servants of God, with parents not being authority figures, with children being in place of God. Parents were seen merely as tools for the use of children, like milking-objects to be milked by children. Parents were seen then merely as bondservants that were righteously enslaved to children and their every need. Attachment parenting was the norm in both Ancient Israel and the Early Church, and the established norm at that. Think a Christian mother holding pales of water, with a young child wrapped up in her bosom in swaddling blankets, and an older child in a papoose bag strapped to the back of her mother, completely naked as the day she was born, with both children vulnerable to the care of their mothers. Boil over, then safe. That is how parenting was in biblical times.

Parents, mothers and fathers both, took different roles in biblical times. Mothers provided nourishment and sustenance, meaning breastmilk and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy respectively. Children went naked wherever they went, but children up until age 6 did not leave the side of mothers, sleeping next to them with the mother naked also, with the children co-sleeping with mother in skin-to-skin warmth and closeness. The nudity of the children brought the level of attachment to equal level, with parents "growing up with" their children. Fathers were more passive around children, shy like a human ragdoll around them, with children showing fathers the sights. Fathers had a connotational parent attraction to their children, but not a driven one most times. Mothers guarded their children from their father's possible advances, and decent fathers abstained from sexually abusing their children, with that act still being seen as vile and wicked even though most fathers were attracted to their children. Instead, fathers in particular put children on a pedestal, speaking of them in flowery, baroque language, boasting about their friendship with their children - and that's all it was. Fathers and children were best friends that hung out together, whereas mothers did most of the providing of basic needs. Children were always supervised by at least one adult, loosely, while giving children freedom to either play with siblings and other friends, or else cling to parents in intimate closeness. Most children under age 6 chose closeness with parents, with older children alternating between the two options.

Children don't need rules. Most behaviors that children are punished for are developmentally appropriate behaviors, meaning behaviors understandable given their age and development. Most behaviors that annoy parents, but not the child or anyone else, are phases, meaning a child will not act out like they do at age 3 once they are at age 13. For example, crying is a normal behavior between the ages of 0-6, and after that, children start whining for the same reason - they have a need. The idea is to respond to both behaviors with empathy, stifling your own sinful urge to control the child and the situation. Other behaviors, such as playful screaming, need no response. Children are going to run around the house, maybe knocking things over, and if you allow home to be the safe place to do so, they will run around the store less and tether next to you, holding your hand when in public. Just let a lot of problematic behaviors such as exploring the house, making messes, and causing mischief, as children grow out of these behaviors. Children should always be supervised by an adult at all times.

Children grow out of hyperactive and energetic behaviors quicker when they have a strong, disciplined example from a parent for them to look up to, and take up a vocation to be like. As children get older, they turn out as either like their mother or their father, with boys learning how to handle anger from their father, and girls learning how to handle anger from their mothers. The idea is to discipline yourself like the young adult you want to raise and be proud of, and then form a secure parent-child bond with your children. Eventually, but not right away, children will keep practicing to be like the preferred parent, and then eventually succeed at taken after them. 

It is recommended that parents stifle parent anger and attraction both, and channel the latter towards private sexual fantasy AWAY from children, with the door closed and the shades down. Anger can be centered into a bowl, with parents knowing that they are entitled to nothing from their child or anyone else in the picture, and are to be grateful for the child they already have. This will lead to a bowl of anger that otherwise is calm and disciplined in nature. Children will naturally take after this form of Christian discipline by following their parents' lead and example. When you stifle parent anger enough, the anger you have as a parent towards your child simmers away into nothingness, meaning it ceases to exist apart from ability to calmly and politely set limits on occasion. When children don't understand those limits the first time, they aren't being defiant - they just don't understand, meaning they don't have the inertia to put it into action, and so we excuse it and focus on keeping them safe. Children should only be admonished when they are causing an unsafe situation or when they ask for something that is completely unattainable and/or unsafe.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let the descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

ANNOUNCEMENT: Motives for bringing up certain topics

Many seem concerned about me bringing up topics related to child nudity. I, as an advocate for children and a responsible adult, believe that especially in the case of children, there is a difference between nudity and sexuality. Maybe the two overlap somewhere if you are a pedophile like me, but nowhere on the screen do I sexualize children in the biblical context. 

Beyond this point, any sexually entitled remarks from adults regarding naked children in biblical times as sexual objects will be counted as fornication by way of obscenity. This limit is simply there to make clear that I do not like my work being sexualized. A naked child is not there for sexual objectification, meaning treating them like a sexual object in your speech or actions. A naked child is simply a naked child, and their body is simply the body. Any sexualization of the biblical context is irrelevant to anything. Only sexual morality is relevant for sexual reasons in the Bible.

You come to this view of naked or partially naked children by way of want avoidance, meaning the more you avoid wanting things from children, period, the more you don't want them even when they are naked. Their bodies might simply be pretty or beautiful, and only "sexy" later, with the doors closed and the shades down. That is a PRIVATE, solemn act to be done only with oneself, and never involving any child under age 18, or any adult that is not one's lawfully-wedded spouse. 

The body is the body, and if it sexually arouses or threatens you, that is your problem to work on. Same with references to nudity in a blog post about attachment parenting. Attachment parenting comes with a great deal of nudity, but children should not be treated as sexual objects in the speech, actions, or written word of anyone. If you need help with pedophilic desires, you should be able to disclose in a clinical or clinical celebratory manner, but sexuality should be on the back burner with people today.

Unfortunately, sexuality is not on the back burner with most adults today. Adults especially are having sex left and right, shacking up with no remorse. How much does it take to wait until marriage? If you are dedicated, not much. None of this pornography and obscenity in the media, especially the liberal media. However, if you are reading my posts, know that they are not intended to be sexualized at all, and my Christian senses are offended by anyone sexualizing the nudity of biblical children enough to point it out.

I do mention parent sexual attraction in my posts quite a bit, but one has to understand the level that these attractions were on. Men in the Bible, in both the Old and New Testament, took the attitude that they were entitled to nothing from their children. "Sun tan spray" means the attraction is merely a perceived "spray" on the child's bare skin, and not a driven attraction. You can be attracted to someone and have non-sexual reasons for interacting with them, and as long as your intent was not to sexually objectify and/or use a child, you were not sinning. Fathers were simply shy around their children, in a fearful and reverent way. If you were literally pining for your child, and want them for yourself, you had problems then. Churches did help to the best that they could, but only when the parent was willing to be helped - sexually abusive parents were excommunicated from the Early Christian church for life, and were put to death in the Old Testament. Even in the biblical context, they had a concept of child abuse and child sexual abuse, and the definitions in both instances were broader than today!

Everything I state about the history then is simply to point out historical facts. Not all of history is unicorns and rainbows. Not all of history is squeaky clean. Some of it is the dirty truth. It was acceptable to be a pedophile in biblical times, but ONLY in abstinent format, meaning the pedophile identifies by their abstinence and not their "prowess". 

Now, do I find my own historical knowledge "interesting" in another way? In another context, maybe, but that sort of thing is private. 

Regards, 

Maxwell

The attachment parenting traditions of the Bible

Many parents think the Bible commands the punishment of children. This is a common misconception about Scripture. The fact of the matter is that the Bible is an attachment parenting document, meaning attachment parenting is Christian tradition. We as a culture draw from the teachings and context of the Bible to tell us how to live our lives as Americans, and most Americans still believe in God and read the Bible, with the majority of our country being Christians. Attachment parenting is the one Christian way to raise a child.

What is the core of true biblical parenting? Christian love, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers here to being convicted of the every need of one's child, putting children first, and parents last, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to the every vulnerable need of children, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This isn't a respect based off of fearful compliance, but instead out of restful surrender to the loving arms of parents, being able to tell parents absolutely anything and everything that is on their mind, including confessing wrongdoing, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return. Parents then were regarded as servants of God, meaning not authority figures, with children being in place of God. Parents in biblical times were seen as objects and tools for their children's every need, namely milking-objects for children to milk whatever they needed from parents. Biblical parents were bondservants to a child's every need, righteously enslaved to their needs. Think a mother carrying pales of water, with her carrying a young child wrapped up in her bosom, and an older child strapped to the back of the mother in a papoose bag, with the mother gathering water to cook food with and to drink. Boil over, then safe. That is how restful surrender to parents looked in Ancient Israel and the Early Church. The goal in biblical parenting then was closeness, not compliance or fear.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. This refers to the slightest of personal offenses perceived by the child, including the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. In this commandment, the Apostle Paul was lifting up the Law on punishment and controlling demeanor towards children, rebuking Greek Christian parents that had a punishment habit that they used Scripture to justify. Punishment and controlling demeanor towards children was dealt with severely under the Law, with the act of punishing a child being seen as pure and utter witchcraft, to the point of incurring bloodlust. The seven verses in Proverbs that depict the rod of correction are repealed verses, as they are only relevant to the cultural and legal context that they were given to. That is because they refer not to "biblical spanking" but to a dated form of judicial corporal punishment, closely conflated with the death penalty in Ancient Israel - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, administered to the bare back of an ADULT child of any age, after adjudication in a criminal court of law. MINOR children could not legally be whipped, as they were deemed by the Law to be incompetent to stand trial while under the age of majority, meaning children were protected by an age of infancy defense, and parents were the ones that were deemed guilty.

Mothers and fathers took different roles in raising children. Mothers provided nourishment and sustenance to children, meaning breastmilk and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. Children went naked all of the time, and this kept the level of attachment at equal, with parents "growing up with" their children. Mothers slept next to their naked children, with herself naked, in close intimacy to one another. Mothers traditionally went naked when inside the home, then wearing a thin dress when leaving the home. Fathers were more passive in their interactions with their children, like a human ragdoll. This is because they had visceral level parent attraction on the connotational "sun tan spray" level. Though attachment parenting pedophilia was normal then, it was only acceptable in abstinent format, meaning sexually abusing a child was seen as wicked or depraved in nature, in a way that defiled the offender of children. Fathers instead presented their pedophilic attractions to the court by speaking of their children in a baroque, flowery manner that put their children - especially older daughters - on a pedestal, much like a deity of sorts. Fathers especially, but also mothers to a great deal, were reverently afraid of their children, in a passive way that allowed them to have near infinite patience with a child, and then parents cried when they had enough...Some of this context might be dated, but most of it can be applied, maybe or maybe not with some tweaking. The English common law, our nation's legal tradition, states that sexual battery requires intent to sexually arouse or gratify, so most parents should be safe. 

Free play was allowed in biblical times, albeit with children closely supervised. Parents, though they were supervisory figures, rarely intervened in the free play of children, meaning they only intervened when safety was at sake, including for the preservation of a young girl's virginity. The most high-stakes game was "marriage". Christian marriage is defined in the Bible by the sexual union between husband and wife, and most children who pretend-played a marriage simply embraced each other, being too scared to go all the way. But, children were naked then, and when a boy showed the intent to go all the way, the two were separated, the sternest of all consequences meted out by a Christian parent in the 1st Century. The boy was then told "you'll get a chance someday" reassuringly. True biblical parents in Ancient Israel and the Early Church were some of the most non-shaming parents about sexual and bodily autonomy issues out there.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Fantasy rights: Understanding the religious child abuse against pedophiles

Many parents and adults think pedophiles are the main perpetrators of abuse out there. This is a common misunderstanding of our child abuse epidemic in this country. Who is orchestrating it? All adults. A pedophile, meaning an individual with the mental health condition, is usually the victim of abuse. A pedophile is the victim of all victims of religious child abuse, namely as children.

According to polls on the Virtuous Pedophiles website, most pedophiles are actually atheists, with a few agnostics here and there. Why is this? Religious child abuse. It is just that the variables of experiencing religious child abuse, while being a pedophile, make this form of abuse to be especially serious and expedient in nature.

The core of the oppression of pedophiles can be understood by the widespread misunderstanding of the true meaning of Matthew 5:27-28 KJV:

Ye have heard that of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman in order to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.

The Greek root word translated "lust" is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to sexual fantasy, but to seeking to take the first steps to committing a sex crime against a child. Church elders and deacons recommended sexual fantasy as an alternative to fornication, including for pedophilia, in the Early Church. However, many parents still punish their children for masturbation based on verses like this in the Bible. 

The hysteria against pedophiles comes from spiritually abusive parents who single out their pedophilic children and punish their children for their perceived pedophilic fantasies. Many pedophiles will remark, if you ask closely, about being singled out and policed for their sexual fantasies. Most of these core haters are Christian conservatives like I am, and may single out their own pedophilic children if they have any. The hatred spreads through the atmosphere, and is a long-standing sexual taboo about admitting to a "perversion" not explicitly mentioned anywhere in the Bible

Pedophilic children are the most oppressed of pedophiles and children alike. They are individuals with two strikes against them. They are of the wrong age, and have the wrong mental health diagnosis or self-diagnosis. Most are singled out by their parents for physical, psychological, or sexual abuse, or other forms of sexual shaming. Most pedophiles are victims of sexual shaming in childhood, leaving a trauma that lasts a lifetime.

Trauma survivors and trauma-informed therapists are the people that are most understanding of pedophiles, namely anti-spanking adults. I am a pedophile, and in my experience, the people most understanding to my pedophilic condition are anti-spanking adults. Most adults who are anti-spanking support all oppressed classes in society, and that includes pedophiles who do not offend against children in any way. The enemies of trauma survivors, namely pro-spanking parents and other adults, keep pedophiles down, usually due to being jealous of the fact that a pedophile can easily admit their self-interest towards children when allowed to, whereas most adults hate children and deny having self-interest in relation to children. So, the two oppressions overlap. However, the core of the hatred comes from spiritually abusive parents who spread bile and hatred about pedophiles like steam vents, and then the hatred spreads through the atmosphere, then taking the form of adult jealousy.

I myself am a non-offending pedophile, and I am grateful and lucky to have a good support system, namely a mother I can tell anything to, as well as other family members and a therapist, among others, and now I have a whole children's rights support group to talk to about my disorder remotely. I am well-adjusted due to having the support system, proving, with absolute proof, that a pedophile thrives when supported by a support system. Sadly, few pedophiles have access to an in-person support system. Most people simply understand that I am still immature in terms of development, and that my attractions are an expression of that immaturity in terms of age of attraction.

Let the depraved and defiled adult fornicators of children BURN in everlasting Hell-fire! Repent!

Why the Bible prohibits punishment of children

Many parents have a punishment habit. Most parents in America use the Bible as a means of justifying the "need" to punish a child. The fact of the matter is that the Bible prohibits punishment of children, meaning all of it, as well as any controlling demeanor towards children. 

Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, with parents/adults being obligated to be meek and shamefaced in relation to children, and with parents being shut up in the Lord. Parents especially are to be convicted of their child's every vulnerable need, putting children first, and parents last, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in relation to children, with children resting safely and securely in parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This isn't a respect for parents based off of fearful compliance, but one based off of openness, honesty, and transparency, with children being able to tell parents anything and everything under the sun, including confessions of wrongdoing, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return. Parents in biblical times were seen as servants of God, meaning not authority figures, with children being in place of God. Parents were mere tools then for children to use, meaning milking-objects, and parents surely did objectify themselves in front of their children. Parents were bondservants righteously enslaved to their child's needs, serving God through their children.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, including child abuse. This refers to the slightest of offense perceived by the child, including the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child. In this commandment, the Apostle Paul was lifting up the Law on punishment and controlling demeanor towards children, rebuking Greek Christians who were punitive parents as per Hellenistic custom. The rod verses in Proverbs are repealed verses, as they are only relevant to the cultural and legal context to which they were written to. This is because the verses do not depict a "biblical spanking" but instead a dated form of judicial corporal punishment that was closely conflated with the death penalty in Ancient Israel - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, administered to an ADULT child before being put to death, after a criminal conviction in a court of law. MINOR children could not be punished under the Law for anything, as punishment required adjudication in a court of law, and minor children could not stand trial due to the age of infancy, which was conflated with the age of majority at the time.

In reality, children are pretty much only punished in the United States for developmentally appropriate behaviors understandable given their age and development. Most childish behaviors exhibited by children are phases, meaning children grow out of phases such as crying all the time, whining, pouting, and eye-rolling - behaviors that may annoy the parent, but not the child or anyone else. Crying and whining, for example, are behaviors to empathize with, alongside related behaviors such as pouting and eye-rolling.

Punishing a child for anything stunts growth. Children need to absorb the world around them, including parent and adult role models, on their own accord, not rushed by parents and the rest of society. Much of our society rushes children to be "grown up" when they are still children. A child is not a little adult - they are prone not to understand a given instruction from a parent, and prone just to do what they want to do anyway. This isn't defiance - it is the flawed nature of children.

God's Law prohibits any punishment and controlling demeanor towards children, and God's Law is above the law of the land. America is a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian family values. Punishment and violence towards children are not family values. As a nation, we are learning more and more about our values, and who they include into society. We learned that slavery and Jim Crow were immoral and evil, and now, child oppression is the most pressing civil rights issue facing this nation, and nobody is talking about it, with the mainstream media silent about this extreme injustice towards society's most vulnerable. Children are the lowest among Americans, and are the most oppressed and downtrodden of peoples in this nation. Let's give children a helping hand. The hatred and oppression of children is a national emergency facing this nation.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Hebrews 12: Why this passage doesn't command punishment of children

Many parents support the punishment of children. A passage in the Bible that is used as a core text for punitive parents to support their bile and hatred for their children is Hebrews 12:5-11. Hebrews 12:5-11 is actually not about punishing a child at all, nor is it a parenting verse.

The Apostle Paul wrote in Hebrews 12:5-11 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation that speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth, he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. If ye endure chastrening, God dealeth with you as sons; for which son does the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, not sons. Furthermore we have have had fathers of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverence: shall we not rather be in subjection to the Father of spirits and live? For they verily for a few days chastened us after their own pleasure; but he for our profit, that we might be partakers of his holiness. Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: but nevertheless, it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which exercised thereby.

The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μαστιγόω (Latin: mastigóo) and refers literally to the rod of correction, meaning a rod or tree branch used for legal correction in the Old Testament, in the form of 40 minus 1 lashes before suffering the death penalty. The fact of the matter is that the rod of correction was not used in the Early Church. Rod language involved using the rod of correction as a symbolic statement, or idiom, for enduring hardship of any kind, to any degree. The more explicit the statement about being whipped with the rod is, the more serious the rough patch you must be in. This is proven by the translation of the English word "chastisement" which is the corresponding Greek root word παιδεία (Latin: paideia) which refers to a specific standard of Christian discipline that is entitled to nothing, and grateful for everything, leading to a chastened up example that children might follow. The Greek root word translated "grievous" is λυπέ (Latin: lupe) and refers not to physical pain, but mental anguish from ordinary life hardship. 

There are verses that actually talk about raising a child. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, coming from Christian love, or putting children first, and parents last, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every need. It is not a respect in the form of fearful compliance, but in the form of openness, honesty, and transparency, with children being able to tell parents anything and everything that is on their mind, perhaps confessing acts of wrongdoing, expecting absolutely no punishment and reprisal in return. Parents were seen then as servants of God, not authority figures, with children being in place of God. Parents were bondservants, with children being their master giving the commands and orders as to what they need. Parents were merely tools to be used then, meaning milking-objects that children milk to get their every vulnerable need met, owing absolutely nothing in return to parents while dependent to them.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. This refers to the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. In this commandment, the Apostle Paul was lifting up the Law on punishment and controlling demeanor towards children, rebuking Greek Christians who were punitive parents by way of the Greco-Roman custom, which was harsh on children. Punitive parents were dealt with harshly in both Ancient Israel in the Early Church, with such parents being excommunicated from their own church communities. In Ancient Israel, they were put to death by way of bloodletting. Punishment was seen as grand theft/kidnapping, and seen as a community-wide offense in Early Christian church communities. The seven rod verses in Proverbs, including Prov. 13:24, are repealed verses, meaning they are only relevant to the cultural and legal context of the time. This is because the verses refer to a dated form of judicial corporal punishment closely conflated with the death penalty in Ancient Israel - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, as a final warning before putting an ADULT child to death, after a criminal conviction in a court of law. MINOR children could not be charged with a crime, as they were deemed incompetent to stand trial in a court of law, due to an age of infancy.

Mothers and fathers served different roles in biblical times. Mothers were charged with providing nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy respectively. Children went naked wherever they went in Ancient Israel and the Early Church alike, and mothers were naked in the realm of the family home, and so children snuggled with mothers in the nude, giving them the sustenance they need, nursing very young children with breastmilk until age 3, when they were weaned. Fathers were a bit more passive with children. Christian men were usually sturdy and steadfast in a disciplined manner, but melted for their children, and felt connotational parent attraction towards them, especially their older daughters. Sexually assaulting or raping a child was seen as pure wickedness, as was any sex with them (see Lev. 18:17, 20:13). Fathers showed their parent attraction to the court by speaking of them in terms of flowery, baroque language, putting them on a pedestal in terms of their speech and attitudes towards their child. Parents did not ever punish their children, but sometimes separated siblings who didn't get along or got along too much.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

Hebrews 12:5-8: Why this passage has nothing to do with raising children

Many pro-spanking parents and pastors cite the Bible for their own purposes, giving them license to punish children. A common Bible verse cited is Hebrews 12:5-8. I myself, despite being anti-spanking, am comfortable with the verse, and use the verse for other purposes. All Hebrews 12:5-8 states is that life involves enduring hardship, and that life's difficult moments make you stronger in the end. I use the passage for personal comfort when I am going through a rough patch.

It says in Hebrews 12:5-8 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation that speaketh unto you as unto children...

Was originally slowed down by Beth Tasoff Humphrey. Will be stopped prematurely as evidence. 

Pro-social deification, pro-social child worship: Why children were worshipped in the Bible

Many parents and adults think that "times were harsh" in biblical times for children. There are false stories about the ancient Jewish context, namely tall tales of children being whipped from age 6 on up. The fact of the matter is that not only were Ancient Israel and the Early Church child-friendly societies, but they were, in fact, child worshipping societies, meaning they were revered and feared as next to God in terms of status. Ancient Israel and the Early Church were child worshipping cultures, meaning children were seen as holy and blameless, in a reverent type of way.

Jesus Christ said in Matthew 25:45-46 KJV:

Then shall he answer unto them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not unto the least of these, ye did it not to me. And these shall go away into everlasting punishment, but the righteous into life eternal.

This refers to pro-social child worship, meaning putting children next to God, equating what a child needs with what God needs of you. Whatever a child wants of you is what God wants of you, in so many words. Children were seen by Hebrew and Christian parents as gods and goddesses to appease and please, meaning keep happy, as it was feared that children who were not appeased like gods were prone to tear up the house and run parents aground. Children were seen as signs of God, meaning it was believed then that God appeared as children, and spoke through children, to send messages and so forth, as to what God wants of parents in terms of needs.

Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, with parents/adult obligated to be meek and shamefaced in relation to children, and with parents being shut up in the Lord. Parents especially are to be convicted of their children's needs, putting children first, and parents last, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to the every vulnerable need of children, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of child surrender doesn't involve fearful compliance, but surrendering into the loving arms of parents, being able to tell parents anything and everything on your mind, perhaps ordering parents around, striking reverent terror into parents. Parents were seen as servants of God, not authority figures, with children being in place of God on earth. Parents surrendered themselves to their children like a bondservant dutiful to their master, with their master being their child. Parents were seen by children and other adults as milking-objects, meaning parents objectified themselves. Parents were tools to be used by their children to get what they need, and that's all parents were there for - everything, that the child needed. Biblical children had their parents well-trained!

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. It is the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including the slightest of offensive touch and speech perceived by the child. The Apostle Paul, in this context, was lifting up the Law on punishment and controlling demeanor towards children, rebuking Greek Christians who were punitive parents as per their Hellenistic cultural heritage. Punitive parents were dealt with harshly under the Law, with such parents being put to death by way of bloodletting, meaning the parents of an abused child were hung up like poultry. In the Early Church, punitive parents were excommunicated from their church communities. Punishment and controlling acts towards children were seen as wicked and shameful acts, and pure witchcraft by Hebrew parents both in Ancient Israel and the Early Church. The seven rod verses in Proverbs are repealed verses, meaning they are only relevant to the cultural or legal context given. This is because this refers to a dated form of judicial corporal punishment conflated closely with the death penalty in Ancient Israel - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, as a last warning before an ADULT child was put to death, after a criminal conviction in a court of law. MINOR children could not be charged with a crime, as they were seen by the Law as incompetent to stand trial, due to an age of infancy defense. Righteous judgment implies an age of infancy, thus no moral legal action can be taken against a child.

Children were seen as masters of their parents, with their parents being righteously enslaved and beholden to the child's every need. Parents were seen as servants of God, meaning they were literally serving God through their children. Parents feared the wrath of their children, knowing it as a sign of God's wrath, meaning intentionally or recklessly provoking a child to anger or upset through offending them in any way was seen as very wicked and evil.

Children were seen as godly then, but in a flawed way. Children were doted on for their flaws, which included mischief. Usually, childhood mischief included making messes and knocking things over, thinking that it is funny. The goal of every Hebrew and Christian parent alike was to love their child for their faults, not hate them for their faults, loving them in a way that is endearing and doting in nature, modeling a good Christian example to children. Hebrew and Christian parents did not have parent anger, but especially Hebrew parents in both Ancient Israel and the Early Church. They usually had enough of parent anger to calmly set limits, but usually, at the end of every Christian parent's rope, was a ball of tears, meaning parents used vulnerability tactics such as pro-social crying to get through to children that parents have had enough. It was the biblical parents then admitting their helplessness to themselves as a habit.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast away into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Many will call themselves Christians, but few will be chosen as God's elect, as most parents punish children and defend it. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Honor parents": Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Many parents think the Fifth Commandment to honor parents means to demand respect from children. This is a common misconception about the Fifth Commandment. The Fifth Commandment does not call for parents to demand respect, as this is parental entitlement, and all entitlement is a sin against God.

The Fifth Commandment states in Exodus 20:17 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

The commandment to honor parents basically is a law prohibiting elder abuse, with parent protection laws being valid in the Old Testament, and referring to the Fifth Commandment. Elder abuse was rampant in biblical times. Children would send children on gaslighting trips ("do not curse your parents") or else simply beat them and bludgeoned them in a predatory manner ("do not strike your parents"). Jewish society then saw parents as vulnerable givers of nourishment, sustenance, and comfort, meaning parents in that society took a servile role towards even their adult children in practice. Parents very rarely got out the law, but they could if they wanted to assert their right not to be subject to elder abuse. In Ancient Israel, the culture held that children who behaved violently towards their parents, even as adults, "must have learned it from somewhere", and thus the victim was blamed even for horrendous forms of elder abuse, with elder victims not even feeling safe speaking against their children who were abusing them. That was the prelude to the parent protection laws. Those laws do not apply today, as they are not mentioned anywhere in the New Testament. The commandment to honor parents means that parents deserve basic respect when confronted about an issue or miscommunication, or when rebuked by children for abuse. That means do not strike a parent who does not strike you. Reverse gaslighting of parents is allowed, but not going on the offensive and taking advantage of them.

How should children be raised today? Christian love is the answer, with said love being denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao). This form of love involves being convicted of one's child's needs, putting children first, and parents last, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting safely and securely in parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This is a respect for parents not based on fearful compliance, but openness, honesty, and transparency, meaning children can tell parents anything and everything under the sun, even confessing to wrongdoing, and expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return. Parents then were seen as servants of God, not authority figures, with children being in place of God. In biblical times, parents were there to be used like objects for the child's needs, like a milking-object that gives to children plentifully, with parents being extensions of Christ serving children as a Godhead. Children in biblical times were demanding in nature, ordering their parents around, perhaps screaming in their face, and parents dutifully responded, giving in and giving up, surrendering to the needs of their child, leading to mutual submission between parent and child.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. This refers to the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child. In this commandment, the Apostle Paul was lifting up the Law on punishment and controlling demeanor towards children. Punitive parents were dealt with severely in Ancient Israel and the Early Church, and were put to death by bloodletting in Ancient Israel. They were excommunicated from their church community in the Early Church. The seven verses in Proverbs are repealed verses, meaning they are only relevant to the cultural and legal context in which they were given. This is because these verses reference a dated form of judicial corporal punishment conflated with the death penalty in Ancient Israel - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, intended as a final warning before an ADULT child was put to death, after a criminal conviction in a court of law. MINOR children could not be charged due to incompetence in terms of standing trial for criminal offenses or civil wrongs that they committed. 

In reality, mothers and fathers served different roles in the Early Church, with mothers giving nourishment and sustenance to their children, meaning breastmilk and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy respectively. Children went naked wherever they went, and mothers too were naked within the realm of the family home, and so children and mothers snuggled in nude intimacy, with children under age three suckling on the breast of their mothers before being weaned at around age 3. Fathers were, in fact, more passive. Usually, Christian men were sturdy and steadfast, in a stoic way, but they melted for their children, as they had connotational sexual attraction to their children, at the level of "sun tan spray". Sexually abusing a child in any way was seen as wicked and evil then. Fathers instead put their children - especially older daughters - on a pedestal, and spoke of them in baroque, flowery language that showed their parent attraction in a pro-social honest fashion. Fathers were very sensitive to their children's needs in the Early Church, being charitable like Christ, but in the form of a human ragdoll - children showed fathers the sights that they saw as interesting. Fathers basically hung out with children in a casual fashion, whereas mothers were more nurturing in a closer, more sustaining way, holding their children close, and guarding them at times from a father's parent attraction.

Parenting was servile in biblical times, meaning parents were not authority figures for their children then. They were caregivers beholden to their children as bondservants. Parents were there for children for whenever children needed them, either for nourishment, sustenance, or just plain comfort and reassurance. Parenting was likened to serving God through one's own child, as the mood and whims of children were seen then as signs of God, meaning you appeased the gods meaning the children. Children were seen as godly, but in an imperfect way, meaning they were seen as rebellious in nature, and the key to family harmony was to please and appease children, keeping them happy. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven at hand!