My struggle with adult sexual entitlement

 Many people here are worried about how I talk about the concept of adult power and control over children. Many here think I am too hard on myself, namely out advocates influenced by the false psychiatry of anti-children's rights. Anti-CR is not my friend at all, and I actually don't talk to them at all. Yet, they know how to make up a lie that competes with your truth. Members of this community should not believe a word those shapeshifters have to say, especially as going down to the underlords. I do struggle, but don't exactly struggle silently with adult sexual entitlement in the form of self-diagnosed pedophilic disorder.

What is this struggle like? Grounded in relation to children, convicted of one's place. Not as a pedophile, but as an adult, period. Every single adult is guilty merely for existing in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and PUNISHMENT for the entitlement, power, and control they have over children. All adults are entitled and wicked in relation to children.

Tightening the girdle in terms of embracing the dogma in children's rights corrects the setup of my childhood, which lacked structure, but also at the same time had parents and adults who claimed to be authority figures. They ruled over me as a child, so I refuse to rule over children, being better than who raised me. I, as a pedophile, already went in the opposite direction while struggling with habits of sexual/behavioral neglect.

What turned me around? Literally. A young girl at the pool I have yet to rejoin, who is made by evil anti-CR forces to feel guilty for standing up to me. So what if it was "just" an untoward glance? She has the right to be the boss of her own body even to that degree. I was scared, not angry, meaning I was having a panic attack, waiting for her to call the police so I could turn myself in for harassment or disorderly conduct, bracing myself for the worst - jail. That was the beginning of the end. No more seeking out young friends by randomly approaching children. 

Growth in faith was like spiraling into control, gathering the facts of your faith. I actually was a religious progressive for a few years before seeing that a lot of conservative thought is rooted in biblical law, especially non-entitlement attitudes and respect for the higher powers, meaning the governing authorities that are the federal government of the United States, and the governments of the several states that make up a federal union of states and territories. I became more conservative as I studied deeper into the Bible. I am still progressive on some issues, but in a moderate and conservative way. 

I am very strict with myself, I'd say. Not upset or angry with anyone, nor any child for that matter. I am conditioned like a bowl, meaning I do have pride that I hold back, and is held back naturally by how I am convicted. Pride is something you pull out, and tar your enemy with shocking statements of prowess towards abusers. However, I myself am very shy about praise. Picture a light being shined in your face, and raising your hands to it.

All adults need to be open about their struggles, and identify by their struggles instead of their strengths as parents, meaning not using the word "parent" at all as a first-person point of pride. Being an adult does not mean rights, but responsibilities for the adult, especially if they are a parent.

I am not upset with any child or myself. Just a strongly convicted adult.

If spanking was banned tomorrow - How the system would handle massive change

Many parents believe that spanking and corporal punishment is the right thing to do in order to discipline and control a child. Most parents are opposed to a spanking ban in modern day, as am I, in fact - I support the natural flow of history, in terms of patterns, meaning physical abuse definitions are widening in many states, and this will eventually lead to a complete ban, once the local culture changes. But, what if the law did change? Would anything else change? No.

Here in my hometown of Berks County, Pennsylvania, caseworkers for Children and Youth Services (CYS) are underpaid, with their work underfunded and underappreciated. I am an advocate for them, and in past years was more vocal about support for child protective services agencies, and the need to fund them in order to make their job easier. Here in my locale, they are the closest to children's rights you can get. A spanking ban would change nothing right away here.

"Every parent would be arrested" is not what would happen. If such a law were to pass, the reports that might stem from children perceiving abuse from their parents by way of physical and mental anguish would sit in a filing cabinet and be ignored. I oppose a sudden ban in Pennsylvania for this reason, meaning under the civil laws. Nothing would get done. But, at the same time, educational efforts would stem from the ban hopefully, and educate parents about the law. However, there are countries where a law has been passed and few parents know about it, meaning the abuse still happens, and the authorities are neck-deep in cases of physically-injurious abuse.

America is a Christian nation, founded on Judaeo-Christian family values. Our traditions, customs, and norms come from the Bible. It says in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and is one of the Greek words referencing the offenses under the Law, meaning torts and damages stemming from the Eighth Commandment, and is summed up in the New Testament as the slightest of personal slights, including the slightest of personal touch without consent. Anything the child perceives as abuse objectively is, no matter how little this biblical tradition is honored, as the "reasonable chastisement" defense does not exist. This is because God's Law is above the law of the land, and if they ever get to banning gentle parenting, I'll be here regardless, and they can cone and arrest me.

YOU SHALL HEAR MY CRIES! YOU SHALL HEAR MY ANGER! F*CK PARENTAL RIGHTS, and advance children's rights throughout the land, ransacking every parent, rescuing and validating every child, terrorizing the entitled parents with the wrath of the state in protection of children. Then, I just sit back in my pro-social evil chair, as a sadist for parent blood. WE will not tolerate our abuse being imposed on children within the law. Sadly, we must wait against our righteous impulses to plunder and ransack our abuser, the parent who identifies him/herself by way of their abuse. KILL every parent, VALIDATE every victim. "Kill" means slam them on the dash of the police car for spanking their child, roughing up their child like they roughed up that child of theirs, watching the blood flow underneath the windshield wiper. Kill them all simply means arrest them all. That's how we feel at survivors of parental rights abuse, at survivors of abuse within the law/lawful corporal punishment. WE F*CKING HATE PARENTAL RIGHTS! Those are earned. Children's rights are inherent, due to their vulnerable status...Usually, we just raid the pro-spanking parents once they cross a certain line where even the law can't tolerate. That line should be changed - to whatever the child victim perceives as abuse, based on the intent of the parent to control, manipulate, demand, or harass the child. Entitlement leading to offense...Evil can be good for children, so lock up all the parents. Every single one of them deserves punishment for what adults as a whole have done to children.

Right above there is anger from a broken man. A broken man due to events in childhood beyond his control, with no earthly justice apart from an apology (rare even with this form of abuse - very grateful indeed). But, pro-spanking parents who hate their children with their rabid views will descend and burn on the last day, languishing in the lake of fire and brimstone, suffering the second death! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! Spanking is banned under Divine Codified Jurisprudence. May the state follow suit with religious tradition, no matter how underrecognized said tradition is.

How to deal with defiance in children

Many parents have a child who likes to talk back a lot, and maybe pick fights with parents. Many think this is a bad behavior. It can be, but not on the child's part. Defiance is a common child behavior when they feel controlled or cornered. Or, defiance can be seen as a mental illness.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and literally translates to "listen under". It was secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, being able to tell parents anything, or talk to them about anything, fearing no punishment from parents, owing nothing in return to parents, yet being convicted nonetheless to listen to and heed instruction from parents, not out of fear, but out of blind trust stemming from good works from parents, rooted in Christian non-entitlement values. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to the offenses in the Bible, namely the torts and damages under the Law linked to the Eighth Commandment. In the New Testament, it is summed up as the slightest of personal slights perceived by the child, and could include corporal punishment. One form of personal slight was the slightest of personal touch perceived by the child without consent. Verbal abuse was also banned, meaning the slightest of insult perceived by the child. Ultimately, any punishment of children was entitlement leading to theft, meaning abuse.

This was intended by the Apostle Paul as a warning about strict treatment of children. Defiance was seen then as like a mirror of the parent's attitudes towards the child, in bystander format. From the parent's view, it was seen as your own anger and demons flaming back of you, in a convicting way. Children, particularly one's own, in the Early Christian church, were seen as convicting figures, in a vulnerable way, where adults are struck with reverent fear and terror to provide for the child's every need, including every attachment need. Thus, when a child was defiant, it was seen as the child wasn't getting what he/she needed in terms of attachment needs such as spending time with children, taking walks, and reading Scripture together with children. Attachment needs are shattered by any sort of punishment or harsh treatment, and then cause children to avenge the aggression back to parents. This the first time you have gotten off of the gentle parenting path.

This mirror effect is more obvious in children with certain behavioral disabilities, such as autism, ADHD, or bipolar disorder. Children with autism in particular are mimickers of adult behavior, and have a sense of understandable vengeance where they throw your anger and punishment of them right back at the parent. Children can be vengeful, but the have a right to be, because they are trying to communicate to you something with their vengeance - "I hate how you are treating me". In ancient Hebrew culture, that sort of defiance would have caused a father to freeze, and then to do some soul searching as to why his child just went off on him, and basically shouted a whole bunch of obscenities at him. A good parent then blamed themselves first, then others.

If simply spending time with parents and other methods of building attachment didn't work, then the child needs medication to stymy the aggressive or defiant behaviors. Oppositional defiant disorder is usually linked to a mood disorder, and putting the mood disorder in remission through medication will shut down the ODD as well, making the child not defiant at all, Usually, when put on the right medication, the child takes ownership for past mistakes, and is embarrassed concerning the things they did in the past, or perhaps simply deems them wrong in an open and honest way. Medication should be a last resort by default, but with certain disorders, such as bipolar disorder, the treatment requires medication first, and then, only then, will they be open to advice from a therapist.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them BURN in ever-burning fire and brimstone! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why "dress policing" is sin

Many parents out there who have a daughter want her to dress "modestly", not understanding what modesty is. They sexualize the concept of modesty, whereas modesty is not reliant on the sexualizing nature of anyone's choice of garb.

The Tenth Commandment, in Exodus 20:17, states:

Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour's.

The Hebrew word translated "covet" is למחוד (Latin: lachmod) and refers to, in terms of adult sexual entitlement, not simply wanting things from a child, but wanting things from them to the point of seeking to impose said want on them, leading to theft/abuse. Abuse is whatever the victim perceives as such, regardless of age. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as this is well-pleasing to the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, and this meant feeling safe in various stages of undress, many times, in gentle parenting homes, down to full nudity. Punishing this nudity within a family home is a violation of Divine Codified Jurisprudence. The Greek root word translates "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and is one of the Greek root words in the New Testament that refers to the offenses, meaning the torts and damages under the Mosaic Law, as summed up under the New Testament teachings as the slightest of personal slight against a child, and/or her papers or effects. Policing dress is beyond the authority of any parent to set limits about, as abusing or controlling children for a choice to dress in a showy manner is abuse. A young girl has the  right to roam the house completely naked, and no adult in the house has the right to take advantage of the situation.

It says in 1 Timothy 2:9-10 KJV:

In like manner also, that women adorn themselves with modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety, not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array. But (which becometh women respecting godliness) with good works.

This refers to a specific setting - Sunday mass. Women, however, in general, were encouraged not to wear expensive clothing, and instead look plain. However, it was not a man tenet of the church then, and the biblical writers were comfortable with sexual descriptions enough that this would be a sexually laced command if it taught about "covering up lest you incur the lusts of men". Basically, the more expensive your clothing, the more immodest you are, regardless of how much skin is covered up. This commandment did not apply to a family, where wives and children especially wore no clothing at all, and the wife rarely left the house. Think a dress that fits on quickly on a hanger, to just throw on quickly while going out and about with the child. The climate in ancient Israel could get very hot, or very cold, so people dressed accordingly, but there was heat in homes, usually from burning wood.

Modesty wasn't avoiding the natural appearance of the body, but embracing it in an appropriate manner, meaning being free with one's body in a home setting, while wearing plain clothes that don't stand out, brag about class, or are offensive. Modesty was about simply throwing on clothes, and not caring about impressing anyone, as this alone is bragging or entitlement. The best thing to do here is to, yes, just throw on clothes that fit your personal style, as an instant choice. If you are trying to be somebody else with your flashy clothing, that is immodesty. But, even then, this is not a huge command, and simply is a poor statement about yourself as an individual to God. He includes it in the judgment, but it isn't a dealbreaker. Also, certain functions demand fancy clothing, such as dresses and tuxedoes, in which case it is acceptable to dress that way because of the nature of the occasion. Dress to the level appropriate for the venue, and you should be good, but do so in a plain way that does not stand out.

Who is supposed to dress the police of children, namely daughters? Daughters themselves. Children themselves. Parents only when asked "should I wear this?". Plunging neck lines? Short skirts?  Bikinis? Those outfits actually aren't sin if they are the cheap kind you might find at Wal-Mart. Adults are solely responsible for their behavior around a child dressed in showy attire, and if the child at all perceives abuse from them by feeling uncomfortable, unsafe, annoyed, or alarmed, the adult perpetrator and him/her alone is abuse. Children should not be told to "cover up" at home. Perhaps in public, if they have poor social skills to that degree, they should be told to cover up for the sake of the civil authorities. In a private home, anything goes pretty much, and if an adult exploits a child's state of undress, it is their fault, not the child's fault for not "covering up". Nudity in the biblical context was seen as vulnerability, meaning a vulnerability you hide behind closed doors. 

The sexually entitled parents who police the dress of children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them languish in eternal Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

 

ANNOUNCEMENT: Apologies

 I am aware that a mother and daughter feel targeted by what they are told about my posts. As of late, I started echoing out my plans to hang out and be friends with children at a neutral location.

If this is menacing, I do apologize, as I had no intent to harass or upset them. I do respect such concerns coming from both of them, meaning they believed that they were in danger. 

If I were in any child's presence, I'd leave them alone, and wait for them to speak. If they don't speak to me, I assume they want to be left alone completely. With some forms of autism, simply being around someone you are attracted to is enough, and I have that type of autism. If she finds this sort of setup to be threatening, she can reverse the order against me. She doesn't have to like me or feel safe around me, as I do not give orders to children.

I have no plans to visit. I did make a statement that I simply knew the house number still, and drove NEAR there, but at the top of the hill. I made that to answer to the court concerning my capacity for self-control. An impulsive version of me would simply blurt to mom "Kaylee lives down that road, can we go there, pretty please". But, as a conviction, I do not visit places without an invitation, perhaps a phone call or something. If Kaylee forgives me, I can understand, in her case. Otherwise, I still believe I was born in an evil nature.

I did, in fact, make a statement cancelling about a restraining order deeming Kaylee Geissler falsely as the perpetrator. I do not feel threatened by her, at all, and I am LIVID that she is even seen as an abuser at all at her age.

Why parents were born in original sin

 The teaching of original sin is one of the most misunderstood teachings in the Christian faith. Many parents believe in "breaking their will" or some analogous, pseudo-scientific concept. However, pro-social V is for parents, not children.

It says in Exodus 20:17 KJV:

Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, not his ass, nor anything that is thy neighbor.

This commandment is the most important commandment in the Christian faith, and all other sins are linked to entitlement, with the Hebrew word למחוד (Latin: lachmod) and refers to not merely wanting things from a child, but wanting things to the point of seeking to impose said item onto a child, leading to theft/abuse. This commandment is cross-referenced in the New Testament by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to, in general terms, man's depraved and entitled nature, meaning the attitude of "I am a good person/adult" leading to demanding things from others, and controlling others, or else harassing or begging others. 

Children in the Bible, though having an entitled nature themselves technically literally, are exempt from prosecution. It says in John 7:24 KJV:

Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment.

The Greek root word translated "judge" and "judgment" is κρινο (Latin: krino) and refers to the courtroom judgment at the time, which, for adults, presumed innocence beyond a reasonable doubt, and for children, innocence from any culpability whatsoever, meaning children are not guilty of anything just for being children.

This is further detailed in passages concerning mutual submission between parents and children. It says in Ephesians 6:1-3 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor thy father and mother, for this is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest and safety in the love and grace of parents, being able to confide anything into parents, being friends to parents, owing nothing in return, but showing respect and listening to parents due to gratitude that parents don't punish or control their children. The Fifth Commandment referred to here in the Old Testament was a step up from Canaanite custom, which involved parents sacrificing and killing their own rebellious children, thus giving children personhood, and at the same time banning any abuse by parents.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to the chastening of the Lord, namely punishment and reward of one's own parental behavior as self-behaviorism, in a way that allows room for a child to confide tears and upset into parents, modeling self-control and self-discipline to a child, with this being known as co-regulation. It is a teaching tool where you teach children by example lessons about the world, as well as religious instruction if they are willing. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the admonition of the Lord, meaning the word "no" or its various variants as setting limits and boundaries with children. This is weighed by the Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργιζο (Latin: parorgizo) and is one of the Greek words that refers to the offenses, meaning in the case of the Old Testament legal context torts and damages linked to the Eighth Commandment. In the New Testament, this refers to the slightest of personal slights perceived by a child, coming from willful or negligent intent to control, punish, manipulate, or spousify/objectify the child.

Parents in ancient Jewish culture were attachment parents, by norm and by custom. Children remained close to their parents, with methods such as co-sleeping and carrying children on the mother's back being the norm. Parents charred themselves by being convicted in being servants to their children, and not wielding power and control over minor children at all, and adult children only in the realm of criminal trials, where fathers were used as a vehicle of justice for rebellious or delinquent sons, and that's why fathers gave sons 40 minus 1 lashes in the courtroom, meaning never at home. Whipping or punishing a child in any way was illegal, and not the norm. Assault and battery laws existed then, and those prohibited the slightest of touch without the child's consent. The mother could also step in and protect the child from being battered by a parent, and in the Early Christian context, had the right of divorce from a man, whereas men who have a wife they can't handle shouldn't have married her in the first place, because now he's stuck with her, and though wife-spanking was allowed then, it was seen as a sign of weakness in a man, as a non-violent man was in control, and thus a real man, as was an abstinent man of any type, including one that abstained from abusing children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them languish in eternal Hell-fire and torment! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Master plan for criminalizing domestic battery against children

Many parents spank and otherwise punish their children, with 94% of parents spanking and physically battery. This is an national emergency, with children being abused and oppressed like no other group of people. How do we end this? The answer is unity leading to division.

Society in the United States is highly influenced by the church, meaning the main organized body of the Christian faith. America is a Christian nation, founded on Judaeo-Christian values. The American church consists of a plethora of denominations, with the general Christian values espoused being our core values and norms as a country.

Denominational tenets today, on children's rights issues, serve as a fan from beneath, meaning we don't discuss our individual denominational views as conservatives or Christians in general as Americans, but speak in terms of general values. Part of those values, in future tense, is no spanking.

All punishment of children is banned under Christian law, with God calling for a certain order of the family, God's order of the family. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your children in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest and security in the love and grace of parents in the form of providing custody, receiving everything they need, being able to tell parents anything and not expect punishment, owing absolutely nothing to parents, yet listening to parents nonetheless as a token of gratitude for respectful and loving treatment. Love is a form of sacrifice for children, just as Christ sacrificed Himself for His own children, expecting absolutely nothing in return. Parents are entitled to nothing from children. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and is one of the Greek words that, here, refers to the offenses in under the Mosaic Law, which include here assault and battery in the Old Testament law, and are summed up in the New Testament as the slightest of personal slights against your child inflicted in a willful or negligent manner, with parental entitlement here being denoted by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to wanting things from children to the point of seeking to impose want on a child, leading to theft/abuse as referred to as a provocation to anger. Parenting in ancient Hebrew culture, like many ancient cultures, endorsed attachment parenting as a normative mode of parenting. Children were close to mothers especially until late childhood, and attachment parenting methods such as co-sleeping

This theology can be incorporated into any Christian theology. There is progress being made with several churches, such as the United Methodist Church and the Church of God positing statements against the corporal punishment children, with the Church of God being a moderate, Calvinistic organization (my theology is Calvinistic). Several fundamentalist churches, such as the Watchtower Society and Adventist Church, have removed ordinances mandating the use of corporal punishment, as have many Anabaptist denominations, while these churches still don't prohibit corporal punishment, and many pastors still preach it. There is also certain awareness in conservative Christian churches about the concept of a "prodigal son", by their understanding, which is a child with special needs to the point where they are extremely oppositional and defiant, in which case the advice is to give them less structure, so that they have less triggers for upsets or defiance. This can mean do not overschedule them at all. These denominations do not understand that all children work like that, meaning all children need to be cut a break. This denominational tenet allows for parents of children with disorders such as autism, ADHD, or ODD to refrain from punitive practices, with many regarding punishing a child with autism to be overly harsh and abuse due to the autism itself. We at gentle parenting find that children with autism are not too different from other children, so don't punish any child. Churches, due to taking in children with special needs, with that issue being made more aware to pastors and church counselors. Certain children do not respond to spanking at all, whereas others "fake it to make it", and I was one of them.

The awareness of the harm of punitive parenting is reaching the Christian churches here in the United States, and once the church is reformed from within, and then the church will reform society from without. Certain historical injustices, such as slavery and Jim Crow, were backed up by religion, and discredited by religious teaching. The oppression against children in the United States is extreme. Go to any children's rights country and you'll get the idea - I was in Iceland just to get away from the riff-raff in America. My goal is "rally around the flag" type children's rights, meaning it fits right in with our culture, meaning our core Judaeo-Christian family values. The core religious values of this country are based on original sin. Original sin, in the realm of family life, has long been used to single out children. The idea behind children's rights is to flip the scripts on parents and other adults, as every single adult is guilty for their mere existence in relation to children, and must atone for all their abuse and sin that they direct towards children.

Let the depraved and entitled parents BURN! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why it is not sin for a child to cry

Many parents abuse their children, including 94% of parents physically battering their children as punishment. What seems to be the most common reason? Crying. Crying "about spilled milk". Now, I am, in fact, conservative, and so I am non-entitled enough not to cry, but maybe whine when cornered by an abuser. I am hardened to anything, but a child isn't. I clearly see that due to the immature and egalitarian nature of my parent. Most parents with my conditioning, which is rough and tough, but appears quiet and peaceful, have trouble empathizing with their children due to this hardened conditioning. For me, it melts, and it does for any gentle parenting conservative.

It says in John 11:35 KJV:

Jesus wept.

This was, yes, concerning the death of a brother, but the fact that this is even included in the Bible meant that because Christ cried, so can a child. Biblical masculinity, in context, is different from modern masculinity involving "the real man" who picks up girls and wins as many fist fights as possible. This was a very centered man in the Early Church, who was expected to follow the example of Christ. This is noted as the chastening of the Lord, and is referred to throughout the New Testament as παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to discipline, meaning self-control and self-discipline. This was not a denial of feelings, but a centering of them, while aware of every emotion. Mere thoughts then were not healthy, per se, if they involved harming others, but only visible intent was prosecuted. All crimes had to be visible.

Crying was acceptable then, as the Early Christians used vulnerability gaslighting against their enemies who attacked, crying and hoping God saw how their persecutors and attackers took advantage of their vulnerability. Especially the men, who otherwise were very quiet and centered in their demeanor.

Punishing a child for crying is sin, in and of itself, and was then. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, being able to tell or confide in parents about anything, owing nothing in return to parents, but nonetheless showing gratitude for kindness by listening to parents. This sort of surrender to parents means that children can feel safe to cry in the presence of parents. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stir up" and refers to the offenses, meaning torts and damages under biblical law, and is summed up in the New Testament. Guilty intent (mens rea) leads to/is guided by guilty action, with the guilty action (actus reus) being the offense perceived by the child, which guides the intent until questioned by a plaintiff in an exchange. The way to show intent that is not guilty is to reassure and validate the child's feelings, like a sounding board, thus showing no intent to offend a child either out of willfulness or negligence. Just leaving a child cry is abuse, and defending any dismissiveness towards a child's feelings is entitlement.

Ancient Hebrew culture was an attachment parenting society, meaning children were close to parents, especially mothers. Co-sleeping was the norm then, as was other bonding techniques with children, including holding a child on the back of the mother, perhaps as she's out and about in public venues. Punishment was illegal then except as a sentence for a crime, and only towards legal adults. This legal context applies today, and apart from a courtroom, assault and battery was an offense under the biblical offenses, which are linked to the Eighth Commandment.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven is at hands! Let them BURN! Let them suffer and languish in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which descends in a never ending manner! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pro-social self-crucifixion - The biblical way to parent a child

Many parents abuse their children in the United States, meaning most parents. 94% of parents have physically battered their children, with 70% of adults supporting lawful corporal punishment of children. Most parents get their parenting advice from religious sources, not scientific ones, and such false teachers preach that parents punish and control their children. However, the true teaching is that parents control themselves, to the point of sacrifice.

The Greek root word denoting love in the New Testament is αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to submission by all adults to children as their enemy, just as mankind is the enemy of God, submitting to Him accordingly, with the child as in place of God.

The idea is to sacrifice for your child in the way Christ sacrificed for His children, giving Himself up for His children, expecting absolutely nothing in return, as any good, gentle parent should do. Parents should render themselves below a child, serving them from a lowly, convicted place, being their indentured servant paying penance for being an adult. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and literally translates to "listen under", and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in parents, with children being able to be themselves and say whatever they want to parents, fearing no punishment or control from parents, owing nothing in return to parents, but nonetheless being convicted to heed parental instruction as a reward for love and respect from children. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: hupakouo) and literally translates to "stir up" and refers to the offenses, meaning torts and damages under Jewish law included under the Eighth Commandment, with said damages being summed up in the New Testament as the slightest of personal slights perceived by the child viscerally, coming from any parental entitlement. Parental entitlement is referred to by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to wanting something from a child, perhaps to do something, to the point of imposing said want onto a child, leading to the relevant offense.

Parents are to crucify themselves in relation to their child, taking a selfless attitude towards their children. Parents are to totally submit to their child, leading to total acceptance of said child, with the child guiding the parent to what they need.

Let the parents burn in the lake of fire and brimstone, as punitive parenting should not exist, and anyone who identifies by punitive parenting should not exist, yet because murder is wrong, they should only exist within a prison cell at the state correctional institute. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Can a pedophile be a gentle parent?

Pedophile hatred is a widespread prejudice, especially in more conservative communities. It can be framed using many different frameworks, with the disability rights framework. Mental health rights is a form of disability rights advocacy that has two camps, responsible and irresponsible. Pedophiles are a responsible  population of mental health clients, making up only 1-2% of men in North America, with 3 out of 4 pedophiles not sexually abusing children, according to research from the Canadian Centres for Addiction and Mental Health (CAMH).

What is pedophilia? We at pro-pedophile at children's rights define pedophilia as a parental thread motivated by sexual aggression and desire, encased in an encasement full of information guiding the direction of the parental thread. This thread has a primary sexual preference for children under the age of 14. Oftentimes, this extension cord is further encased in trauma, meaning baggage that may lead to the pedophile dissociating from the trauma - dropping the full luggage at the airport terminal - and "running away" from a child sexually. It is a specific type of sexual abuse, usually associated with autism in the perpetrator and possibly the victim, and is a surface level offense, usually in the form of sexual harassment, and linked to poor social skills in the sexually entitled adult.

Gentle parenting conditioning can be understood as admitting one's original sin, meaning the capacity to harm a child in any way, including also with physical aggression, and submitting to God through one's child. It is turning parental aggressive instincts inward, in a sheltering way towards children. This involves convicting the parent with new information, and deconstructing the old, so, in the case of pedophiles, they understand the harm of child abuse. Most already do at a level greater than most adults.

A pedophile survives while not abusing children by turning the electrodes inward, as a way to reel in the extension cord. Pedophilia, at its core, is a thought disorder, not a behavioral disorder. The idea is to keep such thoughts in a pocket, in the form of pro-social fantasy, and allow for automatic sexual thoughts about children to just float on by. That's what I do. Stuff fantasy in a pocket, and use a meterstick to avoid any undeserving wants in relation to children, which are all wants that the child or their development do not allow. I am entitled to nothing from children, especially sexual favors from them.

I myself am a former abuser of children, meaning sexual harassment in "company" format. It was inserting yourself in a child's life, and then wearing out your welcome. The intent was to see the child as a "girlfriend" and the first step was "asking her out", and then be a pest against her until she sends you away. It is intent to demand attention leading to the annoyance and/or alarm of the child victim, with said reaction being the abuse involved. Every single adult has abused a child at least on my level, but few will admit it, and few will work on their entitled attitudes towards children. 

We've earned our rights, not abusing or molesting children, so where is the therapist?

Parent abuse: Why parent abuse is legal under biblical law (but abuse of parents isn't)

Is abusing parents a violation of the Ten Commandments and the Bible. Most assume this is the case, but the fact of the matter is that parent abuse is legal under biblical law. Parent abuse isn't really abuse, but a form of reverse gaslighting.

I myself have been rumored to be a domestic abuser of parents. Such exists - the sweet elderly woman who is anti-spanking being beaten by her son. She apologized, but nonetheless, he lives with her, mooches off her rent, and beats her up, perhaps living off the taxpayer's dime. Or, simply refusing to care for aging parents. My theology does allow for the pro-social abuse of a parent, or parent abuse in shorthand. My religious beliefs oppose any physical force against my mother as I am individually convicted, as I honor my father and mother, because they loved and honored me first, namely my mother, with my father reforming his ways while I was in my mid-teens.

The parent protection laws were a set of laws under the Mosaic system of jurisprudence that protected parents from harm. The Law of Moses was countercultural, as the culture then was based off of the concept of reverent rebellion, meaning the Israelites were a free-thinking people with the government intervening rarely, and in a swift manner. In this case, elder abuse against parents was rampant, as reporting it was highly stigmatizing, with their culture blaming the victim due to assuming "he must have learned those traits somewhere". The parent protection laws called for the death of any stubborn and rebellious son, or else offenses such as cursing or striking a parent. Striking a child was also outlawed, but there was no problem on that front - it didn't happen. Tradition and assault and battery laws forbade any physical punishment of children.

The parent protection laws, as understood in the time of Moses, were abolished under Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, showing your true self to them, owing nothing to parents in return. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to the offenses, meaning torts and damages rooted in the Eighth Commandment against theft, referring to stealing in all angles and forms, and summed up in the New Testament by "lift up" words such as this as the slightest of personal slights imposed on a child. The Apostle Paul was warning Christian fathers of Greek descent - where corporal punishment was the norm - that being harsh on one's child can lead to rebellion, by way of discouraging or offending them, because no child wants to listen to a tyrant.

Pro-social punching bag is a gentle parenting application of the Bible, meaning you, as a parent, are deserving of nothing from your child, and this includes any right not to be attacked by your child for abusing them. Such rights were re-afforded to the child after the death and resurrection of Christ, as Paul clearly intended for this command to repeal the parent protection laws. The idea is that a parent has to to take the wrath of their child, trusting that they have a reason for acting up, and trying to diagnose the reason for the upset. 

With adult children living at home, they are treated the same as a minor child in the providing custody of their parents, as the Greek root word translated "children" is τέκνον (Latin: teknon) and refers to a dependent state, much like believers are dependent on Christ for care. The idea is to batter parents, but not assault them. When you have left a mark on a parent, you have gone too far, as that is assault in most states. 

Parent abuse is the opposite side of the term pro-social rebellion, and the term that abused children can use to usher entitlement out of their parents, and usually involves pro-social harassment. The pro-social harasser of parents should be positioned in a way that allows for ready exit of the parent from the exchange, in which charges may or may not be pressed depending on how entitled, meaning how abrupt, the egress from the victim is. The goal behind harassing parents in a pro-social manner is shutting down their protests and arguments so that you can explain a need of yours to them, or shut down abuse of theirs. Disproportionate force gaslighting in verbal format often really gets their attention. The goal of abuse is not to harm, even if stated as such, but to convict the parent, in burning, martyrdom fashion. When parents apologize, and the righteous judge has every reason to believe that the apology is genuine, everything must stop, and beyond that point, any persecution of parents becomes abuse of parents and not parent abuse.

Let the parents burn! I know where my mother is going - nowhere but "up". I have no problems with her generally, and when we argue, we make amends afterwards. I tend to interrogate her sometimes when I feel not listened to, which is a personal slight by my standards, whereas I let go most little things that might annoy me. There are so many parents out there not like her who are entitled. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

The Fifth Commandment and surrender to parents (as understood in the Bible)

American parents want their children to be compliant and obedient as a norm. We have very few parenting norms in this country, and much parenting pluralism, which is a wistful parental rights ideal. "Mosaic of parents", however, means something very different to those of us abused by parents.

The Fifth Commandment is repeated many times in the Bible, including in Ephesians 6:1-3 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this right. Honor thy father and mother, as this is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live upon the earth.

The Greek root word translated "obey" sheds light on the entire meaning of this passage, and is denoted by the Greek root word υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in relation to parents, being able to tell parents anything without fear of punishment, owing nothing to parents in return. 

This is a commandment for parents to take note of, not so much children, as respect is earned from children, and adults must shut up, and chasten up themselves in relation to a child. What is being referred to here is secure attachment to children, meaning a form of closeness prompted by parents eliminating ways for children to be afraid of them, leading to trust and cooperation from children.

Children do not have to love their parents, as true Christian love for a child is an action, and one of service to the child. Children are simply to rest in the shelter and grace of parents, having no worries about anything, with the parents worrying about everything, and the child simply is allowed to be a child, as they define it. Children should trust their parents, and this trust should appear, especially for very young children, as closeness, particularly to mothers, but also to fathers in a more distant way. 

Corporal punishment and any other form of punishment or harsh treatment was against church ordinances in the 1st Century. It says in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stir up" and one of the Greek words that point to the offenses in the context, meaning torts and damages, which included assault and battery in the Old Testament, and is summed up in the New Testament as the slightest of personal slights perceived by the child, stemming from willful or negligent entitlement. Any sort of control or demanding behavior and attitudes from adults, including any sexually entitled behavior or attitudes, that lead to the child feeling offended or upset, is abuse. 

Children have a right to stand up to parents, and even offer parenting advice. This ensures that they will comply and be cooperative when there is an exigent need for said cooperation. Children listen to parents that listen to them. True surrender to parents is like a mirror, meaning the parent's calm, centered attitudes reflect in the child's attitudes, as is the parents kindness and compassion likewise.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God, and will be tormented in eternal Hell-fire! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

 

Setting limits: How to set limits without punishment in biblical parenting

Most all parents, apart from the most permissive, believe in setting limits with children. The problem is what it is conflated with - punishment. The chastening and admonition of the Lord is often associated with harsh punishment. However, it means something else, something not punitive at all, when the Bible is understood in context.

It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor thy father and mother, as this is the first commandment with promise; That is may be well with thee, and that thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and literally translates to "listen under" to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, being able to confide into parents about anything, including issues that most people wouldn't understand, owing nothing in relation to parents, but listening nonetheless due to how good and kind your parents are. The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to the chastening of the Lord, meaning the parent (not the child) being chastened up by self-discipline and self-control, by way of self-behaviorism, punishing oneself for harming one's child by reminder of consequences, and reward by a pat on the back when one sees progress in themselves as a parent. This controlled and disciplined attitude is to be modeled to children, that allows for a child's existing immature upset to be reassured and validated by the parent, like a sounding board. This word also refers to religious instruction, in which case is taught by way of Socratic reasoning, meaning questions in both directions. 

The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the admonition of the Lord, meaning setting limits and boundaries with a child. This means saying "no" or stating its various variants, meaning perhaps the specific word "no" said all the time is dehumanizing, and something you'd save for a dog. The word "no" should be used rarely, when applying these principles appropriately, and the variants of the word rarely as well, as children cannot be expected to behave on a mature level like adults. So leave a lot go and supervise so that they don't hurt themselves, or perhaps giving older children cell phones as a means of remote supervision when out and about. This is balanced out by the Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργιζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to the offenses, meaning torts and damages under Jewish law, which could include assault and battery in the Old Testament Law. This is summed up in the New Testament as the slightest of personal slights perceived by a child victim

The idea behind having disciplined children isn't to be strict with them, but lovingly encourage them to be strict with themselves. This starts with you being strict with yourself in relation to children, encouraging them and guiding them to follow your example. The example of the level of self-discipline a parent should have is in Hebrews 12:5-8 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh to you as unto children, My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord. For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.

What child was never disciplined? Maybe not properly, when following this text, which is considered a rod verse by many, but in fact does not advocate corporal punishment of children, but mentions judicial corporal punishment under the Law as figurative for accountability, as the rod of correction - a switch applied as 40 minus 1 stripes applied to the back of a convicted capital offender - was seen otherwise as symbolic of the rare but powerful force of the Law, and in this context refers to applying the Law to oneself, guided by God. The Greek root word translated "scourge" is μαστγόω and literally translates to a whipping. However, the Early Church did not have corporal or capital punishment anywhere in their legal framework for adults, and children were exempt from any legal scrutiny, instead expected to be taught the Law. The Greek root word translated "chastening" is παίδεία, meaning the same as in Eph. 6:4, which is co-regulation in relation to children, by regulating one's own emotions in an exemplary teaching manner, while holding space to listen to the emotion of one's child. The chastening of the Lord is modeling and teaching discipline, but was understood then as being done without punishment, and by forming a secure bond and attachment to the father so that the son could trust instruction. Today, this same principle applies to both sexes, meaning children tend to act a lot like their parents, so if you chasten yourself up to be the type to be quiet and disciplined in your emotions, your child will follow suit, albeit not right away. However, you will be surprised when they have better emotional regulation than their peers.

Ancient Hebrew culture was an attachment parenting society, meaning punishment was actually illegal for a child, and was a slight against the child and the co-parent as co-plaintiffs in court. Attachment parenting is very misunderstood, and has more to do with the disciplined attitude of the parent in relation to their child, than any sort of "necessary closeness". Closeness is just what happened with Hebrew parents, with children up to age 3 being regarded and treated as infants. Children remained close to mother until later. Punishment was not a norm of ancient Hebrew society, but their Greco-Roman adversaries, and this infiltrated the Christian church with the Greek and Roman Christian newcomers. The Apostle Paul, in both Eph. 6:4 and Col. 3:21, was warning the Greek fathers especially of the harm of harsh treatment such as punishment towards children. Parenting in ancient Jewish culture was seen as like looking in a mirror, meaning whatever attitudes you espouse to or around your child is how your child behaves, looking straight back at you. That is why the laws against stubborn and rebellious sons under the Old Testament legal system were never carried out - parents would have flagged themselves as abusers just for reporting it, as you weren't executed then just for talking back. It would have to be a long paper trail of documented abusive, self-destructive, and delinquent behaviors, and he would have to be a legal adult at the time. Most parents then just let their child be a prodigal son, and waited for them to come back, praying for their adult son's safety.

I myself am a permissive parent, and so I need to learn how to set limits myself. I just can't say no, in my old self as a past-tense parent, meaning I can't tell them no. I have to be their "yes" man and be dragged along like a ragdoll, and I enjoy it. I have to learn to be more assertive with children, but in order to do that, you have to see them as assertive to you, meaning not appeasing them for them to like you...Gentle, non-violent parenting is NOT permissive. I've been there, meaning I was a permissive parent, so I'd know.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive limits will BURN! Let them suffer, and let them be tormented in the lake of fire and brimstone, suffering the second death! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand.

What is love for your child?

Many people may notice the lack of the use of the word "love" in my posts. Many gentle parenting websites do often use the word, as they are more progressive in theological/ideological orientation. Other pages, like mine, rarely ever use that word. Why? It should be implied. It is a verb, not an impulse of affection.

It says in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 KJV:

Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; not vaunteth itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked; rejoice not in inequity, but rejoiceth in the truth; beareth all thing, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether they be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.

The Greek root word translated "charity" refers to Christian love for one's child, and is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to a certain form of submission for one's child, namely out of sacrifice, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, giving Himself up while expecting nothing in return, and parents accordingly. Parenting isn't an position of authority over children, but is a position of servitude towards children, with parents beholden to the child and her every need. Love is a verb, an action, meaning good will that leads to good deeds towards a child, being rewarded by seeing the child have her every vulnerable need met, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace, with the child being able to confide anything into parents, including issues that most people wouldn't understand, owing nothing in return to parents. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stir up", and is one of the Greek words in the New Testament referring to the offenses, meaning torts and damages under the Mosaic Law, which are summed up for gentile believers in the New Testament as the slightest of personal slights perceived by the child. In this case, you don't love your child, and never did. Then, once you make amends with your child, you always did love them from the very beginning, as God foreknew that reconciliation.

Punishment of children was illegal under Jewish law in both the Old and New Testaments, and was considered kidnapping (note "in his hand" in Exod. 21:16 - this meant any sort of blackmail to the Early Christians), and was a capital offense in the Old Testament. The Early Church abolished capital punishment, but shunned child abusers of all types who provoked children to anger. The Apostle Paul, in vs. 21, is warning certain Greek fathers about the use of punitive tactics, saying that whatever you do to your child in that context is what the child will mirror back to the parent. Parenting in the ancient Hebrew culture was attachment-based, meaning young children remained close to their parents until late in childhood, with co-sleeping being the norm in that culture. Punishment of any kind of a child was not the Jewish norm then, as punishment could only be imposed within a judicial setting, whereas children were protected by a defense of infancy. The teaching of "biblical spanking" stems not from the Hebraic context, but from idolatrous and pagan Greco-Roman legal principles such as patria potestas that lead to the legal construct of "reasonable chastisement" in the English common law. 

The spanking teaching is Catholic encroachment in terms of pro-spanking idolatry, in which case we need to purify God's Church by purging it of the evil that is parental entitlement. All child abuse stems from parental entitlement, in some way, in some form.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God, and will be tormented for ever and ever in the lake of fire and brimstone! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

        

Understanding adult sexual entitlement and adult fornication

 Many parents and adults have a sexual entitlement problem with their child or a child, and it is more than you would think. About 1-2% of men are pedophiles, and about 20% of men have secondary attractions to younger children. What is adult sexual entitlement/fornication? Why are thoughts not a moral crime under biblical law?

The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament is πλεονέκτης and is translated as "covetous" in many verses, including 1 Corinthians 5:11 KJV:

But I have told you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolator, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with one an no not to eat.

The fact of the matter is that all sin must be open to judge, in some way, in some form. Sin, in divine court. has an offender and a plaintiff, with the plaintiff being the offended by a certain conduct or course of conduct. Mere thought crimes cannot be considered moral crimes, since they cannot be proven in court.

Entitlement is wanting something to the point of seeking to impose said wants onto a child, leading to abuse. Fornication refers to when the sexual entitlement is perceived by the child through sensory gaslighting. 1 Corinthians 5:11 KJV:

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body, but he who committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

The Greek root word translated "fornication" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and is the one moral crime that offends God, even if it doesn't offend its target, as God hates the misuse of sexual venom, meaning it is part of the duties of both husband and wife as a marriage. Adult sexual entitlement is sexually entitlement directed towards a child, as defended by such in one's actions or attitudes towards children, and when this entitlement is perceived by children in a way that stimulates fear and/or enjoyment, it is fornication, and if the adult doesn't apologize, they are the lowest of sinners in the lake of fire that is Hell. Simply looking, for example, is not sin, if the child doesn't notice or just brushes you off. It becomes the moral crime of antisocial "leer" when she looks back in an angry and/or frightened way. A child can claim anything that is sexually motivated from an adult as sexual abuse under Divine Codified Jurisprudence.

Simply sexual fantasy that is shared nowhere is not a moral crime. because it isn't directed towards a child, and even if it was directed towards a child, it could not be proven in court readily at that level. Lust alone is not a sin, with it saying in Colossians 3:5-6 KJV:

Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil conscupience, and covetousness, which is idolatry: For which things' sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of disobedience: In which ye walked some time, when ye lived in them.

The Greek root word translated "inordinate affections" is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and involves sexual entitlement, meaning wanting sexual relations with a child to the point of seeking it out, leading to fornication. This can be understood by rules of intent, meaning guilty intent (mens rea) leading to/guided by guilty action (actus reus). Entitlement proper is another layer, regarding chosen apology or refused apology. Basically, this would be approaching a child in a public place, asking inappropriate questions, with intent to "get somewhere", in which case the line of intent leads to proposed sexual activity, and the child should have the right to stop the situation right there, and possibly call the authorities. The Greek word mentioned refers to sexual entitlement and yearnings that can go nowhere, and are driven in nature, as opposed to simply an isolated fantasy or afterthought. It is a sexually demanding and channeled attitude towards a child, usually a sexual crush on a child that can go nowhere morally, and must be restrained at all costs.

"Inordinate affections" does not refer to pedophilia as a whole, but to when the intensity of the desires puts a child's life or welfare at risk. No sexual preference is banned under this biblical statute, but acting on pathological sexual preferences, meaning those that have no consensual outlet with another person, or are directed towards animals, is sin, and those who commit acts of sexual sin are the lowest among mankind, and the lowest in Hell, when they don't repent. Being born anyway is not a moral crime, as there is only one spiritual disease, entitlement, in which case all human beings struggle with such a spiritual affliction. Pedophilia is just one struggle of many.

The depraved and sexually entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through fornication will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let the parent/adult fornicators BURN! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Religious entitlement in parenting - what is it?

Most parents abuse children in this country, with 94% of parents spanking and physically battering children, with about 1/3 of cases possibly crossing into illegal territory. Most child abuse today, if not all, is motivated by religion to some degree. My parents never espoused a religious excuse for their punitive authoritative parents, but their methods were religious in historical origin, and extended family members who were more religious made religious excuses. My parents weren't very religious, but believed in God and respected the Bible to varying degrees, meaning the Bible summed up to treat others with respect and serve the community in the public service careers that they held. 

I never experienced direct religious child abuse, meaning religious entitlement imposed on children. My parents simply have encouraged my religious beliefs, and told me interesting biblical facts. My late father went to Catholic school, and there you get a very clear understanding of the Bible and its context, meaning a base understanding to branch out in spiritual growth. Pushing one's religion on a child is sin, meaning the moral crime of religious entitlement leading to religious child abuse.

It says in Exodus 20:17 KJV:

Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour's.

The Greek root word translated "covet" is למחוד (Latin: lachmod) and refers to parental entitlement, cross-referenced by the New Testament by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés). Entitlement here refers to religious entitlement, meaning the attitude of "I am the parent" leading to wanting a child to believe the same way you do, to the point of seeking to impose said views onto a child, leading to theft/abuse. It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV: 

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, as this is right. Honor thy father and mother, as this is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live well upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to the chastening of the Lord, meaning discipline and self-control for parents in a way that strikes terror into the hearts of parents, and chastens them up to the be the best parents they can be, in the form of pro-social self-behaviorism, meaning punishing oneself for transgressions against one's child, then rewarding oneself for growth as a parent, modeling this attitude of self-discipline to children, with children being lovingly encouraged to be strict with themselves instead of parents being strict with them. Much of this is exemplary teaching and instruction, but verbal instruction as to biblical law and teaching is acceptable if the child wants it. It is to be offered, not forced in a way that is mixed in with punishment. The Greek root word "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: noutheia) refers to the admonition of the Lord, and refers to God's Loving Reproof, meaning simply stating non-binding limits and boundaries, namely the word "no" and its various variants, backed up by a secure attachment relationship with a child, meaning secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, owing nothing in return to parents, as denoted by the Greek root word υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to "listening under" parents, only in the Hebrew linguistic context, the parent would be seen as slightly smaller than the child, with the parent sacrificing for their child, just as Christ sacrificed for His child, giving Himself up for the good of His children accordingly. Parents are to sacrifice themselves, not their children, in the course of bringing up their children, meaning no punishment or control at all. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργιζο (Latin: parorgizo) and literally translates to "exasperate" and one of the Greek words in the New Testament that refers to the offenses under the Eighth Commandment, and is summed up in the New Testament as the slightest of personal slights perceived by a child. This can include coercive "religion", meaning conflating punishment with religious instruction.

Religious entitlement isn't simply having religious needs, as we all need to believe in something. Even a mentally healthy atheist believes in something, and often finds themselves conforming to some degree with the Judaeo-Christian values that this country was founded on, meaning do not murder, do not steal, do not rape or commit adultery. Religious entitlement isn't wanting your child to believe like you. It is when that want leads to the first steps to seek to impose religion on a child, meaning imposed want onto the child. This can include any physical and/or mental punishment paired with religious instruction, or any terrorizing of a child with images of Hell before they are ready, such as in the teen years, meaning not before then ever. 

I am not entitled to a child believing the way I do, nor do I demand anyone here buy into the religious aspects of my posts. A child, in my home, would have religious instruction as a default option that they would have the right to opt out of at any time. If my child suddenly became atheist, I'd wonder why, since most children follow their parents on their belief systems. It could be that the pastor or some other person known to the family raped or sexually assaulted the child under the guise of religion.

The depraved parents who impose religious entitlement or abuse onto a child will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them languish in the lake of burning fire and brimstone prepared for Satan and his accomplices. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Love parents": Why parents aren't entitled to love from their children

 Many parents demand that their child love them. Most parents in the United States get their parenting advice from religious sources, instead of scientific or medical sources. When you understand the Bible to the fullest extent possible, you understand that the anti-spanking researchers are right. There is no need for a child to "love parents".

It says in Ephesians 6:1-3 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor thy father and mother, for this is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and literally translates to "listen under" and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, owing nothing in return to parents. This refers to being able to tell parents anything, disclose any struggle, including even struggle that most people wouldn't understand or would shun.

This isn't the same as Christian love. Love is to start in the reverse - parents love their children. Christian love for a child is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to sacrificing for your child, just as Christ sacrificed Himself for His children, paying the ultimate price for the good of His children. This is the spirit in which parents should carry out their jobs. It is submission to an enemy, seeking to redeem oneself as her friend, being convicted of one's sin nature and capacity to abuse children, never more knowing what it is like to be a child, leading to bondervice to the every vulnerable need of a child, doing penance for one's wretched adult existence, expecting absolutely nothing from a child.

True love for a parent, by a young child, is too burdensome. Caring about parents? Yes, all children care about their parents to some degree, but love is more than caring - it is bondservice to your child, being righteously enslaved to their every need. It is paying due penance for being the entitled parent that you are by nature. Children, on the other hand, shouldn't be concerned about what they are capable of. Love, in early childhood especially, is a one-way street, as love is a burdensome verb for a child. Parents love their children, be quiet about their whiny complaints, expecting absolutely nothing in return from a child. Children may come to love their parents when they become adults, but that love is earned, and should not be expected at any age.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Corporal punishment of children shall not exist anywhere within the borders of the United States of America, and if you defend your right to impose it on a child, YOU shall not exist, but since murder is wrong, exist in a prison cell, once it becomes a crime here in Pennsylvania, and every state in the nation, and under federal child abuse statutes. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

How spanking and corporal punishment of children should be depicted

 I have a past child, and I defend that past child through the teeth, and my past child is the backbone of everything I write. I hate child abuse of all kinds, with most of it being by parents who are entitled to things from children. What is the view on lawfully abusive parents actually like?

Anti-pedophile officials will call their work gloomy but interesting, picturing a blizzard. Anti-spanking work is out in the open, with a shade of suspicion on every adult. It is accepting the evidence in front of you either way, but being tempted to push further into the evidence, even if you have none, to see what other evidence you can collect to present in court.

Picture a sunny day, a perfect-look suburbanite family, but you just know they have something to hide. So, to avoid perjury, you bridle yourself so that you don't rush to false accusation. It is a jaded light, like a grunge film showing what spanking really is like in America. No, not black and white - grunge. Spanking and corporal punishment against children are grotesque, grunge topics...A nice looking family, but appearances aren't everything, yet at the same time you know nothing about them, so presume nothing. Then, when they scream at their little toddler for "running around", we know what scum they really are. Since no law prohibits such abuse, I count them as among the damned, and move on with my life, horrified by what I just witnessed.

Picture toys and warmth, mixed with arched-back terror and fear. That's lawful child abuse through authoritative parenting. Picture parents otherwise willing to spend time with you, but then turn on you on the last day with punishment for either something you don't understand or for standing up for yourself. It is a marred innocence, mixing "loving" instruction with "loving" punishment. Those warm toys and gadgets that parents buy you are great, but enough. You are ANGRY enough that YOU WANT THEM LOCKED UP! Think an arched, insecure back mixed with warmth, amidst all the toys and goodies your parents bought you.

Spanking and corporal punishment is a grunge issue, in a way that anyone can be the abuser, and most likely every single adult in a store or restaurant is the abuser at some level. I naturally tune this out due to righteous judgment that presumes innocence,..I want no hint that my abuse would even exist, and when you identify by it, I want no sign that you exist with that identity of "pro-spanking parent", you fucken spoog and speck.

I want my abuser to fear. To the pro-spanking parent, I am a shady little chuck-E doll, that is always looking up to them as they punish their child...and then they can't. Too insecure. Too much of a guilty conscience around me. I enjoy that reverence for my trauma. I love being a spooky figure to all of society for my ANGER against spanking and corporal punishment of children. I am a school principal to these pro-spanking schoolkids who think everything is a joke. I am scary to my abuser, and I want them all arrested. Arrest them all. Arrest all the punitive parents, and let gentle parents take over the world. Gentle parents, everywhere; gentle parents, everywhere; gentle parents, everywhere...And that's what I presume for my own safety.

Why discipline is for parents, not children

In every parent-child relationship, there should be discipline. But, most American parents think that discipline is for the child. The reality is that it is not to be imposed on the child, but to be imposed on parents by themselves, guided by the Holy Spirit.

It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, as this is right. Honor thy father and mother, as this is the first commandment with promise; That is may be well with thee, that thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable attachment leading to rest and security in the love and grace of parents, with children then being able to tell parents anything, owing parents absolutely nothing in return, but nonetheless leading to the child listening to children in the love of their parents, who are extensions of Christ sacrificing for their children just as Christ sacrificed for his children, giving themselves up for their children in His example.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to the chastening of the Lord, and is to be applied to parents by themselves and not children by parents. It can be understood as pro-social V self-treatment, like an hourglass. You come to know that you are evil and wicked by nature, and loathe yourself for that entitled parent nature, with a reverent fear that prompts you to seek resources to learn more positive ways of relating to your child, with God's reverent fear being denoted by the Greek root word ψοβός (Latin: phobos) and refers to low-level fear intended to spur an individual into action, leading to good deeds done for a child. It is centering oneself in relation to one's child, while allowing for your child to show their true feelings to parents, with the parent being the disciplined, centered individual modeling said chastened attitude by listening to the child's tears. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the admonition of the Lord, meaning God's Loving Reproof, meaning giving an instruction to a child, but not entirely expecting them to follow it. Maybe they are too immature to understand the direction, so you dim down the instruction, or just let them run around and knock things over, and keep an eye on the behavior. Admonition then only meant correcting misbehavior, verbally or, more rarely, by logical consequence of physical removal. Physical punishment was unlawful then and now, with the Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is παροργιζο (Latin: parorgizo) and is one of the Greek words in the New Testament that reference the offenses under the Law, and this includes, as summed up implicitly by the New Testament, the slightest of personal slights perceived by a child through sensory gaslighting, going downward in severity.

Discipline is for parents to embrace, not for children to submit to slavishly. Parenting in ancient Israel was attachment-based in nature, meaning parenting then was based on closeness, not control over a child. Children remained close to their mother, and never left her side until many years after their birth. Punishing and controlling children is an idolatrous custom coming from Rome. The Roman Catholic Church tried to appeal to pagans by letting them keep their child-battering customs, even though it was against biblical law. They hid the Bible away from the ordinary person, and most people were illiterate anyway. Parents are to discipline themselves first, then tend to their child, seeing every cry or whine as a cry for help, assistance, and guidance, not as something to punish or "beat out of them".

Let the depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, suffering the second death prepared for Satan and his angels. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Coming out" for pedophiles: How to be supportive of your pedophilic child

This week, a NFL football player comes out as gay. Many non-offending pedophiles draw comparison with the LGBTQ community, saying they have a sexual orientation that is "just like being gay". It isn't. I'm not gay myself, but many who are gay or lesbian are insulted by the comparison between pedophilia and homosexuality. There are clear contrasts between being a pedophile and being gay, with the first and most blatant being that pedophilia takes you nowhere in life but down, if embraced to its fullest. It is an abusive tendency that, if left unbridled, can lead to the abuse of a child. The point is that most pedophiles DON'T act on those tendencies, and never will. "Never will" means the fact that they "will" is their worst fear, meaning the mere existence of that possibility is scary to them to the point of panic attacks

Pedophile pride is a form of anti-contact gaslighting. No pedophile is truly proud to be one. Comfortable in one's own skin? Absolutely. We are just very good at thought amplification, meaning we might be able to appear prideful when we really are like "really, don't you frickin' get it, people". 

Pedophiles don't want to be praised for their disorder or sexuality, but need a listening ear. They want listening and validation, using the other person as a soundboard to reflect how they feel right back to them. Pedophilia exists on the level of trauma from childhood abuse, and thus is an integral part of my trauma and why my anti-spanking trauma expresses itself on the level of a sexual trauma.

Pedophilia is not a good thing, and most parents know that. Parents should know that if they think their child is hiding such a secret from them, to STOP PUNISHING AT ALL. That means no punishment of the child, to the point where they just open up, then parents are to say "I'm here to listen, and you can tell me anything". Pedophilic children tend only to disclose their condition in home setting like that. Why? The worst fear of any pedophile disclosing is punishment and/or rejection, and when we don't punish children, and allow them to tell parents whatever is on their minds, those thoughts would come out, and the parents usually admit they don't get it. Take "get it" as in shrugged shoulders, not despair. It's a joke pedophile in most cases to gentle parents, meaning the odd remark of "that girl was hot" or "that girl is so attractive" and the parent just rolls their eyes. But, if I were to choose to abuse a child, meaning commit something along the lines of sexual assault or rape, she'd be fuming mad, meaning on the antisocial level. She's happy I am working on those issues, but speaks to me on the issue in a distant yet warm form of pro-social callousness, meaning not callous towards the individual but towards the disorder itself, being reassuring that manner of callousness. Pro-social callousness shows your privilege and distance over your child/pedophile. Think listening in a way that says you don't live their life, and never will hold the pedophilic perspective, so take a step back and learn about what pedophilia actually is instead. Autism awareness advocates recommend a similar form of pro-social callousness - drop all assumptions about the pedophile you are raising, meaning drop all media assumptions especially about the condition  Let your child tell you what it is like to be a pedophile. Usually, like in my case, this brings parent and child closer together. 

"Callousness" refers to the parent's lack of effusive emotion or praise, and for a pedophile with pro-social traits, this sort of sensitivity shows that you don't want anything from me. The other person listens warmly, but while non-verbally setting a boundary, meaning it is conditional acceptance of your pedophilic child, with the trust that they won't abuse a child behind your back, and that from that point on you will feel safe telling parents everything about the disorder, and parents are then to listen. The less you punish a child, the more they share. It says in Colossians 3:20 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord.

This is actually a commandment for parents, not children. The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, to the degree that children can tell their parents anything, or be anything, and parents won't punish you, instead allowing a pedophilic child to discuss all matters of the condition with them. The more they talk to parents, the deeper the bond between parent and child.

No, parents, it is not similar to being gay for you as a parent. The reason organizations such as Virtuous Pedophiles talk about it as such is due to the permanent and lifelong nature of the condition, meaning there is no cure for any sexual attraction, including pedophilia. This "cure" stigma doesn't come from trauma survivors, but the false teachers and spinsters in the pro-spanking lobby that we hate.

Pedophilia is a mental health label denoting adult sexual entitlement, when directed towards a child. It is a disorder because of where it is pointed - at a child. Some teens need more guidance as to what is abuse and what isn't. I am pro-pedophile only in the sense that pedophiles have the patients' right to disclose their condition to any mental health professional when they deem it necessary.

Respect for parents: Why respect in life is earned

Most parents in the United States abuse children. What is the number one cause of child abuse in the United States? Lack of "deserved" respect. Respect parents is a command in the Bible, but mainly for parents. Honor thy father and mother might not be applicable, as the context shows, if your parents won't honor you.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Father, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to respect in the form of secure, vulnerable rest and trust in parents, meaning a blind trust where you can tell parents anything, including things that incur persecution or abuse from others, with children owing nothing in return to parents. This compliance and cooperation should be a result of Christian love for a child, namely by sacrificing for one's child as Christ sacrificed for His children, giving himself up without expecting absolutely nothing in return. It is submission to the child's best interests as her enemy, earning to be her friend, just as mankind is the enemy of God and has offended God for merely existing, and thus should pay due penance accordingly. Parenting is paying penance for even having any power or control in relation to children, which every single adult has in relation to children to some degree, and every single adult has abused a child or enabled an abuser of children, at some point in their lives.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stir up" and refers, in context literally, to the offenses, namely here offenses against children. The Apostle Paul is telling parents, namely fathers of Greek descent, who had habits of punishing their children, that punishment was not allowed under Jewish law. The Law was followed by Jewish-Christians at the letter of the Law, in terms of requirements, whereas gentile Christians followed the Law by the spirit of the Law, meaning love God, love your neighbor, and don't offend either of them, with everything else playing out. Anything disrespectful to a child was seen as offending your neighbor, and thus child abuse.

A parent who is disrespectful does not deserve respect. A key part of Christian obedience to children is choice to listen to parents, spurred on by a secure attachment to parents. In such an attachment, parents serve as a shelter to children, enabling children to listen to the instructions of parents in response to a parent's providence and respect for the child. Basically, the child chooses on their own to listen to parents, without parents demanding such in response to their gentle, non-violent treatment of children. It is not a reverent respect of parents, but a close feeling towards a parent where you are connected at the hip, and your parent is your best friend, being able to talk to them about anything. That's all that attachment parenting is, and at the same time, this is what the Bible means by respecting parents. Parents need to respect their children, in order to earn respect from their children.

The parents who provoke children to anger through punitive or permissive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the everlasting fire of Hell, meaning the second death prepared for Satan and his angels on the very last day. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why not to shame a child's choice of garb

A common association with gentle parenting is child nudity, and there is intersection between the two. Usually, in our society, children aren't naked except in private, but may wear showy attire to impress either peers or adults...and that's the only reason why they do it. 

Many parents like to police especially the dress of their daughters. This comes in different levels of severity. Think the father with a gun, keeping his daughter "safe". Why the quotation marks? Some of those fathers might rape and sexually assault the child. As for me as a father? She can dress however she wants, and I'll just have to deal with it. Quite an easy chore. No complaint, if I'm attracted to her.

The Tenth Commandment prohibits coveting and entitlement, and said commandment is repeated by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektes) and refers to wanting a child to dress a certain way, to the point of enforcing said "dress code" on a child, leading to theft/abuse, as stated explicitly in Colossians 3:21 KJV: 

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers literally to stirring up children, but literally literally to the offenses under the Law, as transported to our modern lives in the New Testament as the slightest of personal slights imposed by a child. Taking false offense, however, is an offense in and of itself, if you get offended in a way that is pushy or manipulative.

You might get offended, naturally and viscerally, by a girl in 5th grade wearing a tank top and short shorts, and no undergarments, and you can just tell by the contours. But, you don't complain, as that is a bad way to feel about a child, meaning it is entitlement. Looking at a child is abuse when they perceive it as abuse, or if you form the intent to police their dress, even if that policing is sideways, meaning through gossip.  

Let the sexually entitled parents burn in the lake of fire and brimstone, suffering the second death! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why to say "please" and "thank you" to children: Showing good Christian manners to children

 Many parents order children around, and punish them when orders aren't met. This is taken to various degrees, with authoritative parents being the most common type of abusive parent in the United States. However, the Bible forbids ordering children around like a slave, then getting into a fit of anger when they don't listen.

It says in Exodus 20:17 KJV:

Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor anything that is thy neighbour's.

The Hebrew word translated למחוד (Latin: lachmod) and refers not simply to wanting things from a child, but wanting to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child, leading to theft/abuse,

The Greek root word cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment in the New Testament is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to the entitled attitude in a parent of "I am the parent, and I have the right to my child to listen to what I have to say" leading to demanding, controlling, or punitive behavior, leading to the child perceiving said adult's behavior as offensive. We are specifically speaking of harsh, slavish commands that show no tact or politeness towards the child as a human being. In Colossians 3:20-21 KJV, it states:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stir up", and refers to offenses committed against children. An offense is the slightest of personal slights perceived by the child through sensory gaslighting. This means a child can perceive the order "clean your room" as an offense, if not stated with a "please". "Could you clean your room, please?" is a much better way to instruct a child, and they will listen if you have earned their respect. The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers more to what is expected of parents directly, than what is expected of children indirectly, as it refers to respect in the form of secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, being able to tell or confide into them anything, owing nothing in return to parents, with parents earning this respect from loving their child. Christian love is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to submission to children as their enemy, working to be their friend, being convicted of one's depraved capacity to harm a child, not knowing ever more what it is like to be a child, leading to bondservice from the parent in order to meet the child's every vulnerable need. It is sacrificing for your child, just as Christ gave himself up for His children, expecting absolutely nothing in return. Parents should expect absolutely nothing in return, and saying "please" and "thank you" ensures to the child, and to those watching, that you are being respectful and polite to your child, and honoring them.

Parenting in ancient Israel was attachment-based in nature. This meant constant closeness, especially to mothers, with co-sleeping being the norm. Children were either held by their parents, namely those under age 5, or played freely with siblings, particularly older children. Punishment, including physical punishment, was illegal except as a sentence for a crime, and only legal adults were sentenced for a crime. Corporal punishment was not an instrument of church discipline in the Early Christian parishes. Children listening to parents then was a reward for parents listening to children. This context applies today, as the closer your children are to you in terms of pro-social friendship, the more they will listen to you, especially when saying "please" and "thank you" to children, which one can imagine that parents did then.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in ever-lasting Hell-fire! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!