Why discipline is for parents, not children

In every parent-child relationship, there should be discipline. But, most American parents think that discipline is for the child. The reality is that it is not to be imposed on the child, but to be imposed on parents by themselves, guided by the Holy Spirit.

It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, as this is right. Honor thy father and mother, as this is the first commandment with promise; That is may be well with thee, that thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable attachment leading to rest and security in the love and grace of parents, with children then being able to tell parents anything, owing parents absolutely nothing in return, but nonetheless leading to the child listening to children in the love of their parents, who are extensions of Christ sacrificing for their children just as Christ sacrificed for his children, giving themselves up for their children in His example.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to the chastening of the Lord, and is to be applied to parents by themselves and not children by parents. It can be understood as pro-social V self-treatment, like an hourglass. You come to know that you are evil and wicked by nature, and loathe yourself for that entitled parent nature, with a reverent fear that prompts you to seek resources to learn more positive ways of relating to your child, with God's reverent fear being denoted by the Greek root word ψοβός (Latin: phobos) and refers to low-level fear intended to spur an individual into action, leading to good deeds done for a child. It is centering oneself in relation to one's child, while allowing for your child to show their true feelings to parents, with the parent being the disciplined, centered individual modeling said chastened attitude by listening to the child's tears. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the admonition of the Lord, meaning God's Loving Reproof, meaning giving an instruction to a child, but not entirely expecting them to follow it. Maybe they are too immature to understand the direction, so you dim down the instruction, or just let them run around and knock things over, and keep an eye on the behavior. Admonition then only meant correcting misbehavior, verbally or, more rarely, by logical consequence of physical removal. Physical punishment was unlawful then and now, with the Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is παροργιζο (Latin: parorgizo) and is one of the Greek words in the New Testament that reference the offenses under the Law, and this includes, as summed up implicitly by the New Testament, the slightest of personal slights perceived by a child through sensory gaslighting, going downward in severity.

Discipline is for parents to embrace, not for children to submit to slavishly. Parenting in ancient Israel was attachment-based in nature, meaning parenting then was based on closeness, not control over a child. Children remained close to their mother, and never left her side until many years after their birth. Punishing and controlling children is an idolatrous custom coming from Rome. The Roman Catholic Church tried to appeal to pagans by letting them keep their child-battering customs, even though it was against biblical law. They hid the Bible away from the ordinary person, and most people were illiterate anyway. Parents are to discipline themselves first, then tend to their child, seeing every cry or whine as a cry for help, assistance, and guidance, not as something to punish or "beat out of them".

Let the depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, suffering the second death prepared for Satan and his angels. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!