Why to say "please" and "thank you" to children: Showing good Christian manners to children

 Many parents order children around, and punish them when orders aren't met. This is taken to various degrees, with authoritative parents being the most common type of abusive parent in the United States. However, the Bible forbids ordering children around like a slave, then getting into a fit of anger when they don't listen.

It says in Exodus 20:17 KJV:

Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor anything that is thy neighbour's.

The Hebrew word translated למחוד (Latin: lachmod) and refers not simply to wanting things from a child, but wanting to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child, leading to theft/abuse,

The Greek root word cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment in the New Testament is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to the entitled attitude in a parent of "I am the parent, and I have the right to my child to listen to what I have to say" leading to demanding, controlling, or punitive behavior, leading to the child perceiving said adult's behavior as offensive. We are specifically speaking of harsh, slavish commands that show no tact or politeness towards the child as a human being. In Colossians 3:20-21 KJV, it states:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stir up", and refers to offenses committed against children. An offense is the slightest of personal slights perceived by the child through sensory gaslighting. This means a child can perceive the order "clean your room" as an offense, if not stated with a "please". "Could you clean your room, please?" is a much better way to instruct a child, and they will listen if you have earned their respect. The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers more to what is expected of parents directly, than what is expected of children indirectly, as it refers to respect in the form of secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, being able to tell or confide into them anything, owing nothing in return to parents, with parents earning this respect from loving their child. Christian love is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to submission to children as their enemy, working to be their friend, being convicted of one's depraved capacity to harm a child, not knowing ever more what it is like to be a child, leading to bondservice from the parent in order to meet the child's every vulnerable need. It is sacrificing for your child, just as Christ gave himself up for His children, expecting absolutely nothing in return. Parents should expect absolutely nothing in return, and saying "please" and "thank you" ensures to the child, and to those watching, that you are being respectful and polite to your child, and honoring them.

Parenting in ancient Israel was attachment-based in nature. This meant constant closeness, especially to mothers, with co-sleeping being the norm. Children were either held by their parents, namely those under age 5, or played freely with siblings, particularly older children. Punishment, including physical punishment, was illegal except as a sentence for a crime, and only legal adults were sentenced for a crime. Corporal punishment was not an instrument of church discipline in the Early Christian parishes. Children listening to parents then was a reward for parents listening to children. This context applies today, as the closer your children are to you in terms of pro-social friendship, the more they will listen to you, especially when saying "please" and "thank you" to children, which one can imagine that parents did then.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in ever-lasting Hell-fire! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!