Why to catch children being good (as opposed to caught being bad)

Many parents believe in disciplining children. This is a common goal for parents. It is true that children need discipline. However, children do not ever need to be punished as a form of discipline. Children instead need to be disciplined with a Christian example, and with that example backed up by attachment from mothers, and encouragement from fathers. This means that children need to be caught being good, and then praised for it.

Catching children being good is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; for this is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to anger: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This form of surrender to parents came with strings attached on the part of parents, meaning children could issue lawfully binding orders from their place of rest, usually when parents were not doing their fair share around the house.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church at Ephesus. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child. Paul may have not have gotten along with women, but he sure loved children, and took in orphaned children. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were hated largely for being "too soft" on their children.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling Christian discipline to children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their footsteps. Children, in biblical times, were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught emulating the disciplined example of parents, they were lavishly praised and encouraged to "keep headed down the right path". Boys were given manly praise from fathers when caught being good, and girls were given snuggles and physical affection from fathers when caught being good. Sometimes, children needed direct parental instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the advice and counsel of parents, meaning that parents could only offer advice to their children when needed, and counsel children when they are upset. Otherwise, children had divine authority over their parents.

Children need discipline in their lives, and that is a given. However, many parents believe falsely that children need punishment as a form of discipline. The fact of the matter is that children need parents to impart a good Christian example to their children, where the parent is convicted of the fact that they are a depraved and entitled sinner, and thus is deserving of absolutely nothing. Knowing that you are deserving of absolutely nothing forces you to be grateful for absolutely everything. Children are watching your every move, and when you find them copying your disciplined example, such as for showing patience or self-control, don't forget to praise them lavishly and encouragingly. When they receive praise and encouragement, that reinforces the desired behavior even more. 

Children are not going to become disciplined overnight. Children will absorb the disciplined example of parents at their own pace, little by little. Whenever that discipline shows in their behavior, it is good to praise and encourage the behavior. Children grow up almost entirely on their own, and are guided solely by the example of their parents. The idea is not to rush discipline, but mete out discipline when warranted in the form of praise and encouragement.

How does a child become motivated to follow the example of their parents. They first need a secure attachment, primarily with their mother, and secondarily with their father. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at them, then picked them up and held them in skin-on-skin mammary closeness. From there, the mother diagnosed the need and provided for it. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance, with this co-sleeping lasting until the child reached the onset of puberty, which was when children wanted their own place to sleep. All of this closeness readied children to be encouraged and praised by their fathers for taking up Christian studies on their own accord - children can be religious entirely on their own, and when that happened, fathers discussed the Bible casually with children, giving children pointers on the context as they eagerly devoured all Scripture in sight. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Child punishment: Why not to punish or be controlling with your child (and what to do instead)

Many American parents believe in punishing children. Most American parents, in fact, punish their children. Most American parents who punish their children believe that the Bible allows for punitive parenting. The fact of the matter is that the Bible prohibits all parental entitlement, including any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor.

Child punishment can be replaced by the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This form of surrender to parents comes with strings attached on the part of parents, with children being able to issue lawfully binding orders from their place of rest, usually when parents weren't doing their fair share around the house.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child. Paul may not have gotten along with women, but he loved children, and, in fact, took in orphaned children. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were hated largely for being "too soft" on their children.

What alternatives are there for punitive parenting? The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling Christian discipline to children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in the footsteps of their parents. Children in biblical times were caught being good, instead of being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught emulating the disciplined example of parents, they were lavishly praised and encouraged to "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise when caught being good, and girls were given snuggles and physical affection when caught being good. Sometimes, children needed direct instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the advice and counsel of parents, meaning that parents can only give advice to children when needed, or else counsel children when they are upset. Otherwise, children had divine authority over their parents, and issued lawfully binding orders to their parents.

Mothers nurtured up close, and fathers nurtured from afar. Fathers, in biblical times, nurtured their children in a teaching way. Fathers first set the groundwork for discipline by setting a good Christian example for children, meaning they were convicted of the fact that they were a depraved and decadent sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing. Knowing that you are deserving of absolutely nothing, forces the parent to be grateful for absolutely everything. Children are bound to pick up on this example, and copy it. Whenever you catch your child copying your Christian example, such as through showing patience or self-control, encourage and praise them for "behaving the right way".

What ultimately motivates children to follow the disciplined example of parents? Children first need a secure attachment to parents, primarily with mothers, and secondarily with fathers. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Whenever a child cried, they were cooed at by mothers, with mothers then picking up the child and holding the child close to her bosom in swaddling blankets. From there, the mother diagnosed the vulnerable need, and met it. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format. This skin-on-skin co-sleeping happened every night until the child reached the onset of puberty, which was when children insisted on their own place to sleep.

The abovementioned close nurturing by mothers paved the way for nurturing from afar by fathers. Fathers placed a Bible in an open area of the home, for the child to eventually find and explore. When a child was caught exploring the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged with phrases such as "that book is good for you". Father and child then discussed the Bible casually, with the father giving children pointers on the context. 

Children absorbed the teachings of the Bible at their own pace. Children were not forced to be religious in any way. Children are capable of religious growth almost entirely on their own. However, when children come to the right religious conclusions, it is good to lavishly praise and encourage them in their religious vocation. You are, in fact, quenching a need of theirs by encouraging the right religion in them.

The depraved and entitled parent who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Strictness in Christian homes: How to bring up children in the strictness of the Lord (without punishment or force)

Many parents want it for their children. Strictness is important in a Christian home. This truth is well-known. However, most parents do not know how to instill strict attitudes in children. Most parents think that teaching strictness means being strict with children. The fact of the matter is that children need to learn to be strict with themselves, and that only happens when children are encouraged for practicing strictness with themselves.

The strictness of the Lord is best instilled as a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This sort of surrender comes with strings attached on the part of parents, meaning children can issue lawfully binding orders from a place of rest, most commonly when parents aren't doing their part in terms of righteous providence.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may have not gotten along with women, but he sure loved children. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were hated largely for being "too soft" on their children.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling Christian discipline to children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with their children following in their footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good by their fathers, instead of caught being bad. Whenever a child emulated the disciplined example of parents, they were lavishly praised and encouraged to "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise when caught being good, whereas girls were given snuggles and other physical affection when caught being good. Sometimes, children needed direct instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the advice and counsel of parents, meaning parents could only give advice, or else counsel children when they were upset. Children were free to ignore the advice of parents, but most children were motivated to follow the advice of parents, because they trusted in their parents.

Children do need strictness, meaning they need discipline and structure. However, it is a myth that children need punishment and controlling treatment to learn strictness. Children need parents to embrace strictness, meaning accept the fact that they are a depraved and entitled sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing. This forces the parent to be grateful for absolutely everything. Once you catch your child showing discipline in some small way, such as being patient or accepting the word "no", praise and encourage them lavishly, as they are following in your footsteps with your disciplined example.

What motivates a child to be strict with themselves? It all starts with a secure attachment, primarily to mothers, and then secondarily to fathers. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Whenever a child cried, mothers swooped in to the rescue, cooing at the child before picking them up, placing the child on their bosom in skin-on-skin mammary closeness, from there diagnosing any other needs the child might have. Maybe the child was tired, so the mother co-snuggled on the bed with the child. Most women in the Early Church did not have a job, with the clergy being the main line of work for women.

Fathers left out a Bible for children to hopefully discover, and teach themselves to read on. Usually, around age 6, children found the Bible laying out, and then perused through the pages, exploring Scripture on their own accord. When fathers caught their children reading Scripture, they remarked "that book is good for you". Girls were rewarded with snuggling and physical affection. The more children were praised and encouraged, the more they were motivated further to learn about the facts of life. Children, however, were praised for any good deed, such as showing patience or self-control.

Children in biblical times were caught being good. This means that behavior that was unwanted was either left go, or in the case of crying or upset, reassured. Children then were known as having a mischevious nature, and childhood mischief was something the mother and father both laughed about, then cleaned up themselves later, not even demanding that children clean up their own mess. But, when children wanted to help out with the cleaning in the house, parents praised children lavishly and encouragingly. Most childhood mischief is developmentally appropriate behavior, and thus children will grow out of certain unwanted behaviors in due time.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Public meltdowns: How to deal with public meltdowns in children

Many parents have had to deal with it. Most, if not all, parents have had a child have a full-blown meltdown in public. This usually occurs during the first 6 years of life, when children have poor self-control by nature. The fact of the matter is that the Ancient Jewish culture, including the Early Church, used swaddling blankets, with children only being allowed on their own two feet in public starting at age 6.

Swaddling is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, where children are to rest securely in the loving arms of mothers. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your child to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. With this form of surrender to parents, children were allowed to issue righteous demands in return, in most cases when parents weren't doing their fair share around the house.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings. The Apostle Paul may have not gotten along with women, but he was great with children. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords on their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were hated largely for being "too soft" on their children.

Public meltdowns, when in full form, were rare in the biblical context. Most mothers, when out and about in public, swaddled young children under age 6 next to their bosom in swaddling blankets. The swaddling blankets tucked the child underneath the woman's loose-fitting, revealing dress. The child was tied to the mother's bosom by way of tying the swaddling blankets around the left breast, then further tying the child across the dot to the mother's right leg. From there, children could easily breastfeed if milk-hungry, or simply relax while in the cozy warmth of mothers.

Children, while being held in swaddling blankets, cried silent tears, not loud tears. The mother then held the child closer to her bosom while cooing at the child, in skin-on-skin mammary closeness. Actual public meltdowns, meaning kicking and screaming on the floor, were rare. Children were swaddled to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets.

Sometimes, older children had a meltdown in public. Mothers then picked up the older child, and cradled them in their arms, reassuring and validating their upset by cooing at them. Cooing serves a special purpose in telling the child, in their primal language, that they are heard and they are listened to. Sometimes, older children hit their mother or their father, in which case the parent either feigned crying or actually cried out loud, and that was the last time they hit a parent.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the biblical way of doing time-in

Many parents think that children, when they have temper tantrums or meltdowns, are deserving of punishment. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents support punishments such as time-out, spanking, and loss of privileges. However, the answer to a crying or tantrumming child is time-in. There is a proper, biblical way to do time-in, and that is mammary closeness.

Time-in is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, where children surrender into the loving arms of their mothers in particular. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This surrender to parents comes with strings attached on the part of parents, where children could issue lawfully binding orders from their place of rest, usually when parents weren't pulling their weight in the family home.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, ,with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children to the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings. Indeed, Greco-Roman parents used the scourge of cords to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were hated for being "too soft" on their children.

Time-in is NOT the same as time-out. There are many ways to do a time-in, but there is only one biblical way to do time-in. That way involves mammary closeness. Whenever children cried, mothers swooped in to the rescue, cooing at their children in order to validate their upset, then holding them next to their bosom in mammary closeness. When in the family home, both mothers and children were naked next to each other in a state of birth nudity. When out and about, children who cried were either swaddled next to the bosom of mother (if they were under age 6) or else tucked beneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress of mothers that resembled an apron. Either way, children were given the mammary closeness that they needed. When children needed to be breastfed, they were breastfed wherever they were summoned to breastfeed, including in public if necessary.

Mammary closeness can be replicated today. In the family home, this means the woman of the house needs to be in the nude next to her child, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy That way, it is easier to engage with your child skin-on-skin mammary closeness. When out and about, when a child is crying, take them to the ladies' room and, when in a stall, tuck the child underneath your shirt. If you can tell that your child needs to be breastfed, know that it is legal in all 50 states to breastfeed in public. 

The breasts of women are not there primarily for men to sexualize. They are there primarily to provide nourishment and sustenance to children. Mammary closeness is the natural way of dealing with a crying or tantrumming child, and it also is the biblical way. Just engage in skin-on-skin mammary closeness once with your child, and you'll regret doing it sooner. 

The ultimate goal of mammary closeness is to have the child hear the mother's heartbeat, which soothes the child. When you soothe a child this way, their tears fall silent, and then it is easier for mothers to reassure and validate upset. Most of the time, all a mother has to do with their child is coo at them before placing them on their bosom. This cooing helps calm down the child by making them feel heard, and mammary closeness does the rest at soothing and reassuring upsets in children. That reassurance ultimately comes from hearing the mother's heartbeat.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Adult attraction to children: Individual responsibility for adults attracted to children

Many adults blame pedophiles and pedophiles alone for the sexual abuse of children. This is a common attitude amongst American adults. Most adults don't want to blame themselves for the abuse of children, so they point the finger at pedophiles. The fact of the matter is that every single adult poses some risk to children, with all adults being capable of the worst forms of abuse under the right/wrong conditions.

How does child sexual abuse start? It starts with a child crush, meaning the adult develops a crush on a child, and then fights it back, and then keeps fighting it back until it comes out in full wrath on a child victim. By the time the abuse reaches the child, the abuser means harm to the child, due to the level of the sexual repression that they are facing.

What is the answer to child sexual abuse? The idea behind the prevention of child sexual abuse is allowing oneself as an adult to take care of your sexual attraction to children through righteous masturbation. The Greek root word denoting lust in the Bible is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but sexual desire so intense that it leads to approaching a child for sexual or flirtatious reasons. 

In biblical times, fathers in particular dealt with their parent attraction towards their children by masturbating righteously to sexual thoughts of their children. It is a myth that, in the biblical context, that fathers sexually corrected their children. Most child sexual abuse is motivated by false context that fathers sexually corrected their children. This setup did exist in most ancient cultures, but not Ancient Jewish culture.

Mothers in biblical times guarded their children from the sexual desires of their fathers by co-sleeping next to them for as long as she could. Co-sleeping always came in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy, and that eventually tamped down on the father's sexual desires for his children.

Some child sexual abuse is excused falsely by the acronym of "righteous remarriage". The fact of the matter is that, in the Early Church, marriages were only allowed when there was equality in the marriage, meaning in most cases, the man had to be at the same age, or else younger, than his bride. Some brides were married immediately upon reaching the age of majority, to a groom three years older at the very most. No marriage of a child under the age of majority was ever allowed, in both the Old and New Testament. Fathers in the Early Church invited over young men to court the virgin, and the man that showed the most respect was betrothed to the virgin for marriage by the father. 

The biblical context, in its true Hebraic format, is a clean context. We call a context a clean context when all forms of child abuse were prohibited. In most ancient cultures, children were punished by their father, usually with sexual correction. However, in Ancient Jewish culture, including the Early Church, the courts always applied the Law as prohibiting any sexual relations towards children under the age of majority. See Leviticus 18:17 KJV:

Thou shalt not uncover the nakedness of a woman and her daughter, neither shalt thou take her son's daughter, or her daughter's daughter, to uncover their nakedness; for they are her near kinswomen: it is wickedness.

In the legal context of this passage, the courts ruled repeatedly in favor of the victim, even when the daughter and mother were apart, thus applying the Law flexibly. Most all of the time, the daughter was with the mother in the Old Testament context, hence why the text is written this way. The courts, however, sided with the victim in all cases. If a man had any sexual relations with his daughter, and was tried and convicted for it, he was put to death by way of burning at the stake.

Adults are individually responsible for their sexual choices in relation to children. Most men will acknowledge that they are attracted to teenagers. 20% of men are attracted to prepubescent children to some degree. 1-2% of men are primarily or exclusively attracted to children, meaning they are a pedophile. All adults are capable of sexual attraction to children. But, do you deny it, or do you admit that you have a problem and work on it? Righteous masturbation and righteous avoidance go hand in hand. Righteous masturbation centers the sexual desires of men towards their children, with the sexual desires coming out as a male nurturing instinct.

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape or sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend to a Hell of fire and torrents! Repent!

Independence: Why independence in children is the goal of every parent (and how to help your child become more independent)

Many parents think the goal of parenting is getting children to listen. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents think the goal of parenting is them respecting you. Respect is fine, but what about helping your child become as independent as possible? Most parents would agree that their children need to become as independent as possible, even if they hadn't thought of that goal. Healthy independence starts with healthy dependence on parents, namely during the first 6 years of a child's life.

Healthy dependence is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parent in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This surrender to parents came with strings attached for the parents, meaning children could issue lawfully binding orders from a restful place, and parents had to comply with such orders.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were hated largely for being "too soft" on their children.

Healthy independence comes from healthy dependence. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Whenever children cried, mothers rushed in to the rescue, cooing at their children, then picking them up and holding them close to their bosom, in skin-on-skin mammary closeness. When mothers were out and about, they swaddled their children next to their bosom in swaddling blankets. Mothers in biblical times breastfed their children wherever they went, including in public if summoned to by their children. Children naturally pushed away the nipple of the mother, in most cases, around age 3, but some children didn't push away the nipple until age 6 or even older.

When children were given warmth and sustenance for the first 6 years of a child's life, they were given the healthy dependence that led to children shaking off their parents come attaining the age of 6. The most they did to bond with parents was help parents out with chores. Children wanted to do everything on their own, and so parents held space for their children to assert independence. Children however, come nightfall, co-slept next to mothers, with children continuing to co-sleep next to mothers until the onset of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep. 

Some children have developmental delays, in most cases in the form of either autism and/or ADHD. This leads to children having problems with doing things independently. This is not a death sentence, or a sign that you have failed as a parent. The child is just taking a long time getting ready to shake you off. With few exceptions, all children shake off their parents at some point. It may not be at the age of 6 like most children with an attachment parenting upbringing, but they usually shake you off at some point. If not, enjoy their company. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!