"Terrible twos": Why this stage of childhood development can be averted

Most parents have dealt with this behavior in their toddlers. A child kicking and screaming on the floor because they didn't get what they wanted, or a toddler that cries out of nowhere. This is normal childhood behavior when a child is separated from an attachment figure. However, this phase can be entirely prevented by meeting the child's every vulnerable need, including attachment needs. This can be done by cradling toddlers like they are infants.

Toddler meltdowns are best dealt with using the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, where children surrender into the loving arms of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your children in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment came from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings.

The "terrible twos" are a modern phenomenon in parenting. This sort of behavior in toddlers is due to deficits in terms of needs, usually attachment needs. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were treated as babies, and were in constant closeness to mothers - wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were in the nude next to each other in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Children were breastfed in biblical times, with breastfeeding being normal even when done in public. Age 3 was the average age of weaning, meaning when the child pushed away the nipple. But, sometimes, children didn't push away the nipple until age 6.

2- and 3-year-olds were seen by the Early Christians as babies, and were constantly held by mothers while being breastfed. When cradled in the arms of mothers, children only cried silent tears. When silent tears were cried, mothers responded to the every cry of children, perhaps offering to breastfeed the child a form of righteous pacifier. 

Toddlers were designed by God to be treated as babies, meaning toddlers are not ready to be stationery children. Toddlers were held constantly by their mothers, and this was so that they wouldn't run off and get themselves hurt. When you pamper your children up until age 6, they will be more self-reliant come late childhood and adolescence.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous co-sleeping: Why co-sleeping is front and center of actual Christian parenting

Many parents oppose co-sleeping. Most American parents see co-sleeping as the irresponsible choice in parenting. The main reason parents oppose co-sleeping is that children need to self-soothe. The fact is that there is a way to co-sleep next to your child righteously. The Early Christian way of attachment parenting - known as Christian attachment parenting - relies heavily on skin-on-skin contact in order for the parenting to be effective.

Righteous co-sleeping is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with children surrendering into the loving arms of mothers. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of children in his writings.

It is common knowledge that children aged 2-6 refuse to go to bed at their bedtime. This is a common occurrence in American homes. Most parents punish a child for refusing to go to bed at their bedtime. However, the actual reason for bedtime defiance is that children that young are too young to sleep on their own. Children under age 6 have a primal fear of sleeping alone while isolated in a room, and this primal fear is a vague fear of predators devouring them. A parent may learn this, but rationalize that there are no predators today to devour children. That would be wrong. Most cases of childhood sexual assault take place when the child is isolated in a room, usually at night, and is usually perpetrated by a father in the family home. Christian mothers in the Early Church knew intuitively that fathers had sexual entitlement that posed a threat to children, and so mothers co-slept next to children in skin-on-skin format, in order to guard them from the sexual wrath of their fathers. Fathers, in the biblical context, were forbidden from having any sexual relations with their children, or else anyone but their wife. Mothers co-slept next to children in skin-on-skin format every night that the child would allow, and this convicted the father of his sexual entitlement. Usually, fathers then masturbated to sexual thoughts of their children, so that his sexual drive towards his child would be centered there.

The most common argument against co-sleeping is that children will become "sleep dependent" on parents, and thus need to self-soothe. The fact of the matter is that children will come to a place where they can self-soothe on their own accord. Mothers in the Early Christian church communities co-slept next to their children in skin-on-skin format, and this righteous co-sleeping lasted until the onset of puberty in the child. Children naturally acquire the skill of self-soothing when they hit puberty - there is no need to teach self-soothing.

Co-sleeping helps parents and children bond with each other. Mothers co-slept next to children in skin-on-skin format until they reached the onset of puberty. This led to a secure attachment between mothers and children. For some reason, skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance leads to a secure attachment to children. Even with older children, after a busy day, they surrendered into the loving arms of mothers in the form of skin-on-skin co-sleeping. Co-sleeping, for young children, was to keep fathers and children separate, with young children having little contact with their father until age 6. When children got along great with their mothers, they got along great with their fathers. That is because secure attachment to fathers is a secondary attraction. The core aspect of Christian attachment parenting is skin-on-skin co-sleeping, with the child co-sleeping next to mothers every single night in skin-on-skin format. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven! Let them be forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

Righteous objectification: Why children should treat their parents as objects

Many parents want to be seen as God-like figures in the family home. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, the fact of the matter is that the Bible encourages parents to allow children to objectify them as a milking-object. Bringing up children the right way - meaning through Christian attachment parenting - allows for children to see their parents as objects to use.

Parents are there for children to use and dispose of, like tools. This is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where the parent is to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong. thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings. 

Righteous objectification is a righteous acronym delineating how children respect their parents. Respect for parents was a concept for dependent children in the Early Christian church communities, but respect for parents was based off of deep closeness with parents, including during the time that adults lived under their parents' roof. Most children in the Early Church saw their parents as milking-objects to use at their own disposal, like a sponge. Until children were formally baptized into the church, parents were solely there to use at the disposal of children.

For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Children used their mothers as a heating blanket, particularly on cold winter days and nights. Children saw their mothers as a milking-object while still milk-dependent, suckling the teat of mothers, and mothers offering children to breastfeed even in public. Children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, and co-slept next to mothers until the onset of puberty, which was when children wanted their own place to sleep. 

It is normal, for the first 6 years of a child's life especially, for children to see parents as objects to use at their disposal. Children respect their parents by objectifying them and using them like a sponge. So, be that human sponge for your child to use at their disposal. Also, know that if you are no use to them, they have the right to dispose of you like trash. The only way out of being trashed by your child is a sincere, genuine apology for all that you did wrong, and then, only when they accept your apology, do you deserve forgiveness.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Change of heart: How to effect a change of heart in children (without punishment or force)

Many parents want it. Our conventional parenting is designed to effect it. We're speaking of a change of heart. Most parents believe that a change of heart only comes from punishment, such as time-out and spanking. However, there are better ways to effect a change of heart in children. Children, as a matter of fact, are capable of coming to a change of heart on their own.

The best way to effect a change of heart in a child stems from the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished theirt children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. 

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling Christian discipline to children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, instead of being caught being bad. Whenever fathers caught their child emulating the Christian example of parents, they were lavishly praised and encouraged to "keep going down the straight path". Boys were rewarded with manly praise and encouragement when caught being good, and girls were given physical affection such as hugs and snuggles when they were caught being good. Sometimes, children needed direct instruction from parents. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the advice and counsel of parents, meaning parents were only allowed to either give advice or counsel their children, and only on rare instances when simply modeling a behavior wasn't working. Parents could not issue lawfully binding orders, whereas children were allowed to issue lawfully binding orders on their parents to petition for what they need.

Children, like all of us fallen human beings, have a sinful nature. That is not up for debate. However, children don't need "the devil beaten out of them" in order to have a change of heart. All children are capable of self-improvement on their own accord, preferably when guided by a Christian example. Children can improve themselves by slowly, at their own pace, absorbing the Christian example of parents. Children can come to the conclusion all on their own that they are deserving of absolutely nothing, and thus are to be grateful for everything. When you catch your child being good in this way, take the time to praise them, and encourage them to keep taking the high road.

What backs up the Christian example that reforms children? A secure attachment at home motivates children to be convicted of Christ's message of peace and forgiveness. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mothers went, so did their children. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mothers and children were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. When a child cried, mothers cooed while picking up the child, and then held the child close to her bosom in mammary closeness. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format. That co-sleeping stopped once the child reached the onset of puberty, when the child wanted their own place to sleep. This warmth and sustenance during the formative years of a child's life prepared them for the chastening of the Lord, which was a form of discipline absorbed by the child through the atmosphere. The chastening of the Lord was something to encourage in a child in the Early Church, not something to beat into a child.

All children are born with the capability of reforming their own sinful nature, almost entirely on their own. All they need is for YOU to set a good example. This means YOU need to be convicted of the fact that you are a depraved and decadent parent who is deserving of absolutely nothing, including nothing from your children. Once you accept that you are deserving of absolutely nothing, you will become grateful for absolutely everything. When children see you performing these good works on yourself, they will want to copy your example, and be strict with themselves. 

Actual strictness in the Bible is not being strict with children, but instead is encouraging children to be strict with themselves. So, instead of being strict with children, a loving father should encourage his children to be strict with themselves. A child who takes up strictness on their own has truly had a change of heart. Usually, a change of heart simply means growing up, and for that to happen, the child needs to learn to be strict with themselves. Children are perfectly capable of being strict with themselves. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Respect: Why parents need to earn respect from children

Most parents in America want their children to respect them. Many parents feel entitled to respect from children, demanding respect from children, then punishing children when parents feel disrespected. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents demand respect from their children. The fact of the matter is that respect in life is earned - even in parenting.

The Fifth Commandment to honor thy father and thy mother is cross-referenced several times in the New Testament. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul. contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Respect for parents was a concept for children being brought up in the Early Church. However, that respect for parents was understood differently than today. Respect for parents came in the form of warmth and fondness in the presence of parents. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness with mothers, meaning wherever the young child went, so did the mother. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, with mother and child in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. When children cried, they were comforted immediately by mothers, with mothers picking up the child, then holding the crying child close to her bosom in mammary closeness. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format. This skin-on-skin co-sleeping lasted until the child reached the onset of puberty, when the child wanted their own place to sleep. Mothers then breastfed wherever they went, meaning even in public. This closeness was the kind of respect every Christian parent wanted then. This warmth and sustenance in the child's formative years set in motion the child growing to reverently respect their parents come adulthood.

When children left the house, after being baptized, they bowed down to parents, giving due thanks for all of the times they were pampered by their parents. Respect for parents was a mandate for all adults, with the only exception being the case of child abuse. Reverent respect for parents was thanksgiving for all of fond memories children had with parents. The idea was that parents submitted to their child selflessly and dutifully, expecting absolutely nothing in return. That creates a secure attachment that children thank their parents for later. 

Respect is earned in parenting, not given out on a silver platter. Demanding respect from anyone comes from entitlement, and that includes children. YOU, dear parents, are depraved and decadent sinners who are deserving of nothing but DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing in relation to children and the God that extends them. YOU, dear parents, are not deserving of respect from your child. Instead, even that form of respect is earned. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Benign" deprivation: Why children need ALL of their needs met

Many parents buy into a form of authoritative parenting known as "benign" deprivation. The false parenting doctrine of "benign" deprivation instructs parents to ignore certain needs in order for the parent to focus on "real needs". The fact of the matter is that children have needs, and all of those needs need to be met. 

The parenting doctrine of "benign" deprivation is in violation of Christian law. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

"Benign" deprivation would have been seen in biblical times as coldness and callousness on the part of a mother. Mothers, in biblical times, met the every vulnerable need of their children. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, with mother and child in the nude, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. This birth nudity setup brought out raw separation anxiety in children, where children were morbidly afraid of mothers "going away and never coming back". Christian mothers in the Early Church accommodated that separation anxiety by cooing towards their children, with the cooing being designed by nature to validate and reassure a child's upset. Mothers also held their crying children close to their bosom in mammary closeness. 

A child does not cry in order to manipulate or undermine parents. Most crying in young children under age 6 is due to separation anxiety. When your 4-year-old cries out of nowhere, know that they are advocating a vulnerable need. Chances are, they are afraid for your life, without realizing that they feared your death as their parent caregiver. 

Mothers in the Early Christian church communities responded to the EVERY cry of children, without exception. Children cried a lot during their formative years, but mom was right there to respond to the every cry of their child. Mothers then knew intuitively what many parents don't know today - that the every cry of a child is intended to petition for a need. So, they diagnosed the need based on the type of cry, and provided for the child's needs promptly. Most children under age 6 cry for attention, and needed attention in order to reassure their separation anxiety about their mother. 

The core of "benign" deprivation is the word "no". Most parents who defend "benign" deprivation say "no" all of the time, because of the false belief that children need to hear the word "no", and "hear it frequently". In the Early Church, the word "no" could only be used on a child for reasons of the order of the child being unlawful or unworkable, and parents needed to reassure and validate their children if the word "no" brought the child to tears. Parents in the Early Church were subject to the divine custody of children, with children being an eminent authority in the lives of parents. Saying "no" unnecessarily was deemed as a provocation to anger against children, thus abuse, thus sin. 

Whenever I would throw a temper tantrum with my mother as a child, she would sit me in time-out and ignore my needs. My father was worse, and gave me a disciplinary spanking after being given time-out in my room. As a child, I felt cornered and kept down. Most abusers of children are not "offending" abusers, but "keep down" abusers, and they keep down their children. My parent abusers could appear kind and polite to everyone else, but chose to punish and be controlling with me when they got home. They were both therapists when they met, and became teachers eventually. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why God wants parents to pamper their children

Many parents believe that children shouldn't be pampered, and instead should be disciplined. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most parents avoid even the appearance of pampering children. However, the Bible, when understood in context, supports pampering children - not just every once and a while, but throughout their childhood. You can't spoil a child with too much affection.

Righteous pampering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with children resting while being pampered by parents, getting the royal treatment. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV: 

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child is a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

Righteous pampering was a righteous acronym of the Early Church, and asserted to Greco-Roman pagan parents that they did pamper their children, and they knew it, and they didn't care. Righteous pampering has a certain specific application, spelled out in the customary law of the time (see Col. 3:20 and Eph. 6:1). For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. When children cried, mothers cooed while picking up the upset child, then holding the crying child close to her bosom in mammary closeness. When mothers were out and about in public, they swaddled their young children - under age 6 - next to their bosom in swaddling blankets, perhaps breastfeeding the child if milk-hungry, and holding the child closer to her bosom when the child cried. 

Come nightfall, children co-slept next to their mother, and this lasted until the child hit puberty. At the onset of puberty, the child wanted their own place to sleep. With older children, skin-on-skin warmth with mothers was a welcome break from playing outside and studying the Bible. Skin-on-skin co-sleeping was intended partially to convict the father of the child of his parent attraction to the child. The father, upon showing attraction to the mother and child, was redirected by the woman of the house to righteous masturbation.

Pampering your children comes with rewards later on. Once the child moved out of the house, and after being baptized into the church, adult children bowed down to their parents, giving thanks for all the fond memories of being pampered. The Fifth Commandment to honor parents only applies to independent children, meaning unless parents were abusive, adult children had to show reverence to their parents as thanksgiving for all the fond memories of being pampered by parents. Children could also shun their parents if the parents were abusive or entitled towards them, and also take their parents to court before the council. The council consisted of 3 elders of the parish, and that council of elders decided the fate of parents who provoked their children to anger, and when there was enough witnesses to the abuse, the parents were excommunicated and shunned collectively, with the children being taken into the providing custody of "child saviors", or anti-contact pedophiles who channeled their sexual desires for children into nurturing children whose parents abused them - without asking for sexual ransom in return.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!