Children self-protect, adults abstain: Individual responsibility for adults attracted to children

Many parents think keeping children safe from sexual abuse involves spotting a threat, usually a pedophile, and then protecting children from the threat by taking a stand. It is good to protect children from sexual abuse, but not all sexual abusers of children are pedophiles, and not all pedophiles sexually abuse children. The fact of the matter is that children are capable of profiling sexual threats on their own, with adults being capable of righteous avoidance in relation to children.

Children can easily spot a sexual threat in an adult, as all children have a sexual attraction to adults. This attraction repels the child from the adult target, and thus children have the instincts necessary to keep themselves from sexual harm. Whenever a child refuses to go with an adult, the adult surely is a sexual predator, and needs to be confronted. Whenever a child wants to go with an adult, think pedophile of the non-contact type. Some forms of grooming is overlooked by children, and that includes infatuation  grooming. Even then, the child can be taught to not give out personal information to strangers.

Every single adult is responsible in relation to children, as any old adult can sexually abuse a child under the right/wrong conditions. Most child sexual abuse comes from a repressed sexual desire in relation to children, with this sexual desire coming out sideways onto the nearest child, like a ton of bricks. The only way out of this conundrum is to masturbate righteously to sexual thoughts of children, without the usage of pornography.

The Greek root word in the New Testament translated "lust" is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers here to a sexual narcissist, which most adults have in relation to children. The only way out of this conundrum is to face your unwanted child fantasies head on, and masturbate to those thoughts. It usually should only take a few sessions to spend the fantasy away, with the fantasy then being a rare curiosity. 

I myself am a pedophile. A pedophile is not an anger packet. A pedophile is a human being with a primary or exclusive sexual preference for children under age 14.  Most pedophiles have a form of immature autism with their specialty is children in terms of knowledge and social skills. Most pedophiles have a form of autism with child smarts. Most pedophiles never get angry with children, and instead are born nurturers of children  If you see someone with autism get along with children, think pedophile, as most adults with autism find children to be annoying. 

I myself have an offense under my belt, namely in the form of infatuation grooming. I am currently under investigation for the sexual abuse I committed against a cousin, in the form of sexual harassment. I engaged in antisocial "rough-play" in my grandparents' attic with my cousin. I answer to the court, and plead "yea" to what actually happened. There was accusation of rape, which never happened. The police cut me a break because I meant well towards my cousin. All the police had to do was issue a warning at my door, but they were revved up for a raid which would never happen. I myself see my crushes as coming in the form of train cars, with everybody around me hoping for the caboose. 

The sexual dynamics of a family home come in the form of a criss-cross. Fathers and daughters are naturally attracted to each other, in an unrequited format. Boys are attracted to their mothers in the form of a dead end. The idea is to masturbate to the sexual thoughts of your child, and spend away that attraction. 

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape and sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Redefining child abuse: Why the Bible calls for expanding child abuse definitions

Many parents think that the ancients in biblical times had no concept of child abuse. Most American parents today support the present definitions of child abuse under state and federal law. However, the Bible has its own definition of child abuse. Child abuse then was defined as anything that the child victim perceives as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of parents being sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any parent anger directed towards a child was deemed parental entitlement then. When children perceived this sense of entitlement in parents as offensive or damaging, it was seen as child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses and damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It isn't enough to stop spanking and punishing children - you need to avoid the slightest of offense in children. The only way to fully avoid guilt under this commandment is to be willing to give a meaningful apology to a child when you offend them, especially if you lose your cool with your child. Whenever your child is upset due to how you deal with them, including in the case of set limits, they are offended by how you deal with them, and thus you need to apologize. Refusing to apologize to an upset child in and of itself is entitlement. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church the pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase translating to "power to the parent", including the power to spank and punish children. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, as a form of civil disobedience to Rome. As long as you are willing to apologize to your child when you offend them, you are safe from guilt under this commandment.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers here to long-term damages, namely trauma. The ancients had a basic understanding of trauma. When a child grew up to be atheist, it was seen as a sign of trauma, not simply a sign of a "lost soul". 

Child sexual abuse was prohibited also by the Greek root word πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers here to any sexual advances perceived by a child, even if the child liked it. Child sexual abuse was rare in the Early Church, but when it did happen, it was a huge scandal on the part of the parents. Even if the child liked it, God objected on the child's behalf. Any perceived sexual advances counted as provoking children to anger, even if the child liked it, as fornication is a blasphemy offense. Sexual relations with children will always be wrong, and surely was wrong in the Early Church.

Child abuse was prosecuted in the Early Church by a council of 3 elders who headed the parish. The investigation usually started with a child confiding into a church elder or deacon about the abuse they were subjected to. The parents were brought before the council, and if they defended their offenses toward children, they were excommunicated from the Early Christian Churches of God.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - were written by Jews. No Jew worth mentioning has ever endorsed the punishment of children. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting for the little ones, with the rod of correction referring to in Proverbs to the 40 minus 1 lashes as a sentence for a crime. Christ did away these harsh punishments with His Work on the cross, repealing all 7 verses mentioning the rod.

The Bible is a founding document of this country, even above the Constitution itself. This country was founded on Judeo-Christian norms, with the Bible and its context telling us how to live as a society. It jusr so happens that the Bible prohibits all forms of punitive treatment of children, including spanking and punishing children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepated for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

How to set limits with your child the right way (meaning without punishment or force)

Many parents think that children need limits. This is a common belief amongst American parents. However, most parents think that limits need to be backed up by some sort of punishment. But, the fact of the matter is that there are better ways of setting limits than forcing limits down children's throats.

Setting limits alone can be considered child abuse under Christian law. Child abuse is whatever the child victim perceives as abuse. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethzo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It isn't enough to stop spanking or punishing children - you need to avoid the slightest of offense in children. The only way to avoid guilt under this commandment is to be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you offend your child. Whenever a child is upset in relation to your action or inaction, including your set limit, you have offended them, and thus you need to apologize. Refusing to apologize to a child alone is entitlement. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christians who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, or "power to the parent", namely the power to spank or punish children. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, as a form of civil disobedience.

In order to properly set limits with children, you need to avoid offending them as a parenting paradigm. Whenever your stated limit offends the child, you need to apologize with them by reassuring them of your good intent, and also by explaining to children why the limit needed to be set. If you are unwilling to reassure a crying child, you are entitled just for that, namely if you defend your non-apology in open court. 

Under the customary law of the Early Church, parents could only set limits under certain specific instances, namely when the child is behaving in an unsafe or immoral manner, or else if a child asked for something unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Usually, parents then used  nicer-sounding words as opposed to a flat out "no", such as "that won't work", "that can't happen", or "that isn't possible". The word "no" was saved for when it counted, for example in the case of casual sex in pubescent children.

If you are willing to make a meaningful apology to a child at all, you are non-entitled to the degree that you are willing to apologize. The goal in proper Christian parenting is to avoid offense in your child. However, hurt feelings are bound to happen, in which the parent should give a meaningful apology that is warm to the touch. If you do lose you cool in relation to a child, apologize fully and in a heartfelt manner. Apart from that, parents should be honest about their intent behind the limit in a reassuring way. 

Setting limits is not an act of law on the part of parents. Children could take offense to how their parents treated them, but parents could not get angry with their child for anything. Children have the right to take parental actions personally, but parents don't have those rights in relation to children. Any time a child was upset due to parental action or inaction, it was counted as an offense perpetrated hy the parents, and thus parental entitlement. Setting limits should be done from the bottom of your heart, with children trusting in parents in all matters. Parents cannot give lawfully binding orders to their children, and instead simply are their caregiver. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

 

Righteous pampering: Why God wants parents to pamper and baby their children

Many parents oppose the idea of pampering a child. Most American parents think that if they pamper their child too much, that they may end up "spoiling" the child. However, children need to be pampered, not just some of the time, but all of the time.

Pampering children is a commandment from God, as found in Colossians 3:20 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. It is good to use the context as a guidepost with this commandment, with the context telling us how to form a secure attachment with children.

Righteous pampering refers here to a specific form of pampering found in the biblical context. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mom went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mom, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6,  children ranged next to mothers, not allowing mom out of their line of slight, seemingly being attached at the hip, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children under age 6 were out and about with mothers, mom wrapped up her child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets. The swaddling blankets - and the child with them - were then tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, Christian parents in the Early Church co-slept next to their children in skin-on-skin sustaining warmth. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the context of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin warmth, with children experiencing the rays of skin-on-skin contact even when merely picked up.

Play is a need for all children, namely children age 6 and up. Children growing up in the Early Church played outside freely after turning 6, naked. This play came in the form of wet and messy play, with children engaging in mud battles as they explored the landscape. However, they always came home afterwards to mom, with mom calling each child by name, then serving them a homecooked meal on a porcelain plate. 

Children under age 6 were very much protected in the Early Church, in a sheltered way. In the biblical context, there existed environmental hazards that could harm children, namely venomous snakes and scorpions, with there being no antivenom then. However, even today, there exist dangers outside the context of the family home, namely oncoming traffic and would-be kidnappers. 

The depraved and entitled parents who are unloving with their children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent! 

Hebrews 12:5-6: Why this passage is not a pro-spanking passage

Many parents get their parenting advice from the Bible. Most American parents think that it is okay to be punitive with a child, and cite the books of Proverbs and Hebrews as proof for their theology. However, the main rod passage exists in the book of Hebrews in the New Testament. The fact of the matter is that the book of Hebrews does not contain parenting advice. 

God's Word reads in Hebrews 12:5-6 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation that speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despite not the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. 

This passage, when understood correctly, is a comforting passage. The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μαστιγόω (Latin: mastigoó) and is a type of metaphor found in ancient languages known as rod language. In biblical times, you would say "God whipped me hard today" as opposed to "I had a long day at work". God doesn't literally come down from the ramparts and whip His children. However, God does punish His children, like only He can, sending trials and tribulations to those He loves the most. However, God only punishes His children when it doesn't hurt them, whereas earthly parents only punish their children when it does in fact hurt them. This passage was intended as a means of comforting the Hebrew Christians in their persecution from Rome. 

The book of Hebrews does not not contain parenting advice. However, the Pauline Epistles do mention parenting explicitly. God never intended to be seen as a model for how to be an earthly parent. Instead, earthly parents should do attachment parenting, avoiding any sort of offense perceived by a child. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to stop spanking and punishing children - you have to avoid offending your child in any way. The only way around guilt according to this commandment is to be willing to make a meaningful apology whenever you offend your child, especially if you lose your cool with your child. Whenever a child cries a low, "swooshing" cry, or else are upset in any way due to your actions, they are offended by your actions, and thus you need to apologize. Refusal to apologize to an upset child in and of itself is entitlement.  This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, with this Latin phrase meaning "power to the parent", including the power of parents to spank or punish their children. Attachment parenting was a violation of Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, in the form of civil disobedience to Rome. All parents have to do is be willing to meaningfully apologize to children, and then you escape guilt under this commandment.

Spanking is not a biblical concept. All 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - were written by Jews, and no Jew worth mentioning ever has supported the punitive treatment of children. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting for the little ones, with his rod advice being reserved for criminals as a sentence for crime.

When children cry in a certain "swooshing" cry, they need an apology. That cry can come from simply the word "no", in which case the parent should apologize by reassuring them of your good intentions, and also explain why they were told "no". The idea is to explain your intent behind the word "no", and then explain why you had to set a limit. If you instead find yourself defending yourself in relation to limits, especially in terms of "disciplinary rights", you are entitled. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Expanding child abuse definitions: Why the Bible calls for more laws protecting children from abuse

Many parents think that child abuse is a modern concept, and that the ancients had no concept of child abuse. Most American parents support the modern definitions of child abuse. However, the Bible has its own definition child abuse, namely whatever the child victim perceives as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent who is sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel tha they deserve from children. Any parent anger directed towards children was deemed parental entitlement in biblical times. Whenever this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by the child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to stop spanking or punishing your child - you need to avoid the slightest of offense as perceived by a child. The only way to avoid guilt under this commandment is to give a meaningful apology to your child whenever you offend them, especially when you lose your cool with your child. This commandment cross-references both the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, meaning "power to the parent", including the power to spank or punish children. Roman law prohibited attachment parenting, but the Early Christians practiced attachment parenting anyway, as a form of civil disobedience.  

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers to long-term damages from child abuse, including trauma. The ancients did have a basic understanding of trauma. Whenever a child grew up to be atheist, it was seen as a sign of trauma, not simply the atheist being a "lost soul". 

Child sexual abuse was defined instead by the Greek root word πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers here to, at minimum, any sexual advances perceived by a child, even if the child likes what they perceive, as adult fornication of children is a moral crime against God, with this country being defined on the concept of sexual purity.

Child abuse was something prosecuted in the Early Church by way of the council. The investigation usually started with a child confiding into church elders about being abused by parents. The elders then called parents to testify before the council. Parents were required to plea "yea" or "nay" before the council, and if they defended their rights as parents instead, they were excommunicated from the Early Christian Churches of God for parental entitlement.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document, with all 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - being written by Jews, with no Jew worth mentioning ever supporting the punishment of children. All of the writers of the Bible were anti-spanking, with even King Solomon recommending attachment parenting for the little ones - with the rod in Proverbs referring to the 40 minus 1 lashes, which was a form of judicial corporal punishment that was repealed by Christ's Work on the cross. 

The Bible is a founding document of this country, even above the Constitution itself. We as a society glean from the Bible as to how to live. Most of our legal codes come from the Bible. It just so happens that the Bible was written with an anti-spanking bias. The Bible was simply mistranslated at the Latinate level, meaning the Roman Catholic Church wanted to keep a pagan tradition going. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Birth nudity: Understanding the Christian tradition of birth nudity

Many parents think that children need discipline above all else. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, the most important part of parenting is attachment. The best way to give a child attachment is through birth nudity.

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in Colossians 3:20 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment, where children were allowed to cry, and where mothers cooed while responding to the every vulnerable cry of children. The context simply tells us how to form a secure attachment to children, with the Early Christian method consisting of birth nudity.

Birth nudity was the way of the Early Christians in order to gel a bond with children. Children in biblical times went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the context of the family home. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed before picking up the child, and from there, the child was held close to the bosom of mothers in skin-on-skin sustaining warmth. When the child was milk-dependent, the mother held the child close to her teat, and breastfed the child. When sustaining warmth alone did not soothe the child, the mother scrambled to figure out the reason for the child's cries, through trial and error.

Birth nudity can be applied today, albeit with some tweaking due to the secular laws on human decency. However, even in the Early Church, young children under age 6 were wrapped up in swaddling blankets when in public, covering up their nude vulnerability. The idea today is to allow children to run around the house naked, with a set of clothing hanging somewhere in a neutral location of the household. When children find the clothing, they should be encouraged to wear it. Usually, children want to wear the clothing by age 6, out of curiosity and a desire to prove their independence. 

The idea of birth nudity is for mother and child to form a secure bond with each other, in skin-on-skin format. The Early Christians had no concept of modesty apart from not making a fashion statement. Children then were allowed to go naked wherever they went, with parents also allowed to take off their garb if they were too hot. However, even today, birth nudity is lawful completely when it takes place within the context of the family home. Women in biblical times did not even shave, even in the context of parenting, as that was a luxury for wealthy women, with Christian parents then being dirt poor. 

There is a right way and a wrong way to do birth nudity. Birth nudity in Old Order Mennonite homes means striking your naked child in order to shame them for their nudity. However, more moderate Mennonites simply allow children to go naked as an opportunity to gel a bond with children. 

Birth nudity is a Christian tradition that predates the physical punishment of children by centuries. The Early Christians practiced attachment parenting by way of birth nudity, as did the Ancient Jews before then. Children were in constant closeness to mothers in biblical times. This context can be applied today, as long as the basics on the child and on the mother are covered up when in public. However, the tender, vulnerable nudity between mother and child is still allowed within the context of the family home. The way around public decency laws is to wrap up your young child next to your bosom in swaddling blankets. 

The depraved and entitled parents who punish their children for not wearing clothing will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Catching children being good: How to instruct your children in good behavior the right way (meaning without punitive measures)

Many parents want their children to have discipline. However, most parents think that they should discipline their child by way of catching them doing something wrong, and then punishing children when they do in fact do something wrong by the parental standard.

God's Law on child discipline is spelled out to fathers especially in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. Child discipline should not offend children in any way, shape, or form. However, sometimes you need to set limits in a way that offends the child, in which case the limit should come with a meaningful apology, especially if the limit was set out of anger instead of out of worry or concern. Any parent anger, especially in the course of child discipline, was deemed parental entitlement. This stanza of Eph. 6:4 refers to any upset or offense perceived by the child, and clarifies how children should be brought up in a Christian home - meaning without any offense such as punishment or force.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here to a specific form of nurturing, namely of the teaching kind. Whenever children growing up in the Early Church were caught in the act of being good, such as showing self-control or patience, they were lavishly praised and encouraged to keep up the good work. Christian parents in the Early Church set a good example for their children, but backed it up with praise and encouragement, as opposed to punishment and force. In the Early Church, children were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. When children did not act in a civilized manner, it was excused by parents, with parents then waiting for children to show maturity on their own. Children also needed religious instruction, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers here to children hearing out the Christian warning of fathers. Starting at age 6, fathers left out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged to keep on studying the Bible. From  there, religious instruction came in the form of question and answer, with children being curious about Scripture, and with fathers giving pointers as to the context. The warning of fathers came in the form of explaining the context to children.

Parents sometimes had to set limits with children, usually when the child was behaving in an unsafe or immoral manner. This setting of limits usually came in the form of declining a request, or else as a request from children out of the bottom of the parents' heart. Children usually were offended by the limits, in which case parents apologized by giving reassurance and an explanation for the limit set. Even then, a flat out word "no" was seldom used, with parents instead using nicer-sounding language such as "that won't work", "that can't happen", or "that isn't possible" Even then, the limit came with a meaningful apology that reassures children as to the good intent of parents. Limits were backed up not by punishment, but instead praise and encouragement.- namely a "thank you for understanding". Righteous apology came with all limits set by parents that upset or offended children. However, parents should not set limits except when absolutely necessary, as most childhood behaviors are developmentally appropriate, meaning the child will eventually grow out of the behavior. But, if the child is endangering themselves physically, mentally, or spiritually, the parent should set a limit out of the bottom of their heart. The Early Christians did not use their law to set limits in parenting, but instead gently set a limit and apologized if the limit upset the child. The child had the right to take offense to a parent's limit, in which case the only way out of guilt was to apologize to the child. Parents of dependent children could not take offense to their child's misbehavior. Limits should not be set out of anger, but instead out of worry or concern for the child's welfare.

In Christian households in the Early Church, mothers nurtured up close, with fathers nurturing from afar. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning kept away from the parent attraction from fathers. After age 6, children usually showed interest in religion, and once the child discovered the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged to keep up the good work.

Children oftentimes cried before age 6, and no matter how tired the mother was, the father was not allowed "hand-me-down-the-slate" gaslighting. This was referred to in ancient tribal languages as "gunning down" a child who won't stop crying. This way out for mothers was not an option - mothers had to scramble to figure out what the child actually needed. Fathers did have a sexual attachment to his children, but of the connotational type. Think spray tan oil on the naked body of children, with children going naked in biblical times wherever they went. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pedophilic children: How to accommodate your pedophilic child

Many parents worry about their child being abused by a pedophile. This is a common fear among parents. However, what if the child in question is a pedophile? Most parents don't know what to do with a pedophilic child. However, the fact of the matter is that many children are pedophiles, and if not that, many children are predestined to become pedophiles, once they turn 16.

A pedophile is not an anger packet. Instead, a pedophile is a human being with a primary or exclusive sexual preference for children under age 14. Most pedophiles have a moderate-severe form of autism that is child-centered in presentation. Most pedophiles have an autistic specialty in children in terms of knowledge and/or social skills. Most pedophiles are ambiverts, meaning they keep to themselves, and only come out of their autistic shell when a child is in the vicinity. I myself am a pedophile, and dote on other people's children by way of cooing when they show excitement or cry. A pedophile is the man that mothers, meaning any man who acts as a mother towards a child is a pedophile. Any individual with autism who gets along naturally with children is surely a pedophile, as most individuals with autism are easily annoyed by children. Many times, pedophiles are the child being abused, in which case their abuser is using their pedophilic identity as a grooming excuse. Usually, the grooming comes in the form of a false report of child abuse to the authorities, triangulating the police against the pedophilic child. 

Pedophilia, in most cases, is not a predatory hankering for a child, but is instead a sexual curiosity about the child form. Most teenagers with pedophilia are attracted to much younger children, but in the context of being curious about body parts of the child. The best way to deal with this attraction to children is to show your child picture books intended to educate children on human anatomy and sexuality. Usually, that's all a child needs if they are a pedophile.

I am a pedophile, but I have a mother who is understanding of my disorder. She is the type of mother that is easy to talk to, including with matters concerning pedophilia. I have appointed her as my accountability partner, meaning that if I develop an infatuation towards a child, to confide into her the attraction, and vent the attraction to her in clinical celebratory format.

Most male pedophiles are not misogynists. They simply are attracted to children and not women. Most pedophiles see women as just people. Pedophiles can appear skittish when women are attracted to them, usually because they are not attracted to grown women in the slightest. I myself don't mind the attraction, but some pedophiles are threatened whenever a woman is attracted to them.

Pedophilia is both a sexual preference and a mental disorder. It remains a mental health disorder because the core of pedophilic attraction going towards children. This alone can limit the options of the pedophile come adulthood, because they may never know love or have a family of their own. Any time a pedophilic attraction interferes with functioning in any way, it is a mental health disorder. However, it is okay to not be okay. Pedophilia is a form of not being okay, but it should never hurt to reach out for help when you can't go it alone. However, the help just isn't there - either the therapist abuses the client with help abuse, or the therapist reports the pedophile to the child protection authorities.. All a pedophile usually needs is a listening ear, where they can unload baggage that has been haunting them since childhood. It is normal to struggle, including with pedophilia - we all struggle in some way as human beings, as nobody is perfect. The last perfect man was nailed to a cross, and only because He was God. 

It is imperative that you allow your pedophilic child to masturbate to thoughts of children, as long as you teach them to avoid pornography of any kind. Righteous masturbation, as an acronym, holds that masturbation can be used as a form of therapy where the sexual desire for children is re-channeled to sexual fantasies of children, as opposed to being driven to sexually abusing a child.

How do you know that your child is a pedophile? Be the parent that is easy to talk to, and state in retrospect that they can talk to you about anything, including sexual desires that may haunt them. If they disclose tearfully, they are likely horrified that they are attracted to children in any way. But, the attraction cannot be cured, and can be abstained from, and so the child had to learn how to feel comfortable in their own skin knowing that they are a pedophile. I myself was the exception amongst pedophiles, as I made tone-deaf disclosures and also used infatuation grooming with children. Most pedophiles are not like me, and know and respect boundaries around children. 1 in 4 pedophiles have sexually abused a child, and usually, it happens as a form of sexual harassment - they mean well, but they committed the crime and have to face the music. 

There is a lot of bad advice out there on how to protect your pedophilic child from false accusations, coming from a group of civil libertarian attorneys that defend the criminals. The main advice given to pedophiles is to fight, and fighting, until you run out of fight, and then disclose only partially what happened. The police advice says to open your life up to the public, and answer to the court of the police. Answerence to the court is a credible way to show to the police that you are innocent, as no sex offender ever defends themselves that way. I have luck winning over police in an investigation involving a case where I was accused of rape, but actually only committed sexual harassment, with the statute of limitations running out for summary offenses such as harassment. The police have long let me off because I showed no intent of harm towards the cousin I sexually harassed in the attic of my grandparents' former house. If I would have put up a moat, and refused to talk, I might be in prison for a crime that I didn't commit. However, I am not innocent, as we all as adults are guilty of something in relation to children, even if the law and/or the police excuse it. Your child could be the one targeted by a false accusator, usually in the form of anti-pedophile grooming, usually in states where there is hope of the false accusator raping their victim in a police raid. Most pedophiles have done nothing wrong, and if they have, they meant no harm by it. Most pedophilic abusers have a developmental disability, and don't realize that their offense is morally or legally wrong - they usually get off on insanity due to having a low IQ. Most sex offenders cannot be protected using the insanity offense, but most pedophilic offenders are protected by that defense. However, I personally support locking up mentally disabled sexual offenders once discovered by the authorities. Most pedophiles who have a developmental disability simply are a big kid around much younger children, and can easily relate to children more than they can adults.

Pedophiles fare better in police investigations in states that use family values policing as a means of enforcing the law. Here in Pennsylvania, we have predator police, and they believe whatever story is satiating to their sexual desire for raping guilty people. It is a form of hybristophilia, but in the context of a man. The police here have a hankering for criminals, and can easily be promised with a false raid. I respect the police, but I don't like the rape methods of police here in Pennsylvania. This hankering for guilty people can easily confuse police who receive a false and/or misleading report. This form of false report is known as anti-pedophile grooming. One thing to tell your children in such a police investigation is to not take abuser advice, and point out to the police that they are being groomed, using the word "groomed" in a sentence on a police screen. I myself was targeted by three family members who made up a false report of child abuse in predictive format, with testimony from my cousin triggering a rape investigation where there was only sexual harassment. All the police had to do was issue a warning at my doorstep, but they misinterpreted my cousin's testimony and accused her of being a victim of rape. 

I support the police because the police system can easily be used to protect pedophiles who fall victim to a crime. A pedophile is like an individual with autism in that they are a victim/abuser, and can fall on both the victim and the abuser side of the law. Most pedophiles are victims of child abuse, not perpetrators of child abuse. A pedophilic child is an easy target for a sex offender to project a narcissist on, because everyone would then side with the sex offender and think the child was the abuser. It is a classic case of a victim being lumped in with their abuser. That is what is so dangerous about pedophile hysteria. I don't blame the police, but instead blame the person making the false report of child abuse against a pedophile. I support the police as a valid higher authority, meaning an extension of the God-ordained law of the land. If I didn't support the police, I might be sitting in a jail cell for a crime that I didn't commit.

The depraved and decadent, defiled sex offenders who target pedophilic children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Child discipline: How to discipline your child without punishment or force

Many parents want their children to have discipline. This is a common want in parents. However, most American parents equate discipline with punishment. However, proper Christian discipline of children opposes the concept of punishment at all. 

Child discipline is spelled out in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The first stanza of this verse clarifies for the second as to discipline not being punitive in nature. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to avoid spanking or punishing children - you need to not offend children at all in the course of disciplining them. The only way to fully escape guilt concerning this commandment is to be willing to make a meaningful apology whenever you offend your child, especially when you lose your cool, but also whenever you have to set a limit that offends the child. This first stanza of Eph. 6:4 was intended by the Apostle Paul to clarify that it is not okay to offend your child with your own entitlement, but at the same time, children need discipline. This verse, as a whole, advocates non-punitive means of discipline. 

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to a specific type of nurturing, namely the teaching type. Whenever children were caught in the act of being good, they were given lavish praise and encouragement for more good behavior of the same. Christian parents in the Early Church set a good example for their children, but backed up their example with praise and encouragement, not punishment and force. However, any discipline that is intended to offend children is considered unlawful under God's Law. Children need religious instruction, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia)  and refers here to a child hearing out the Christian warning of fathers. Children growing up in the Early Church were introduced to religion by parents leaving out a Bible, for the child to discover and explore. The idea is that when you catch your child in the act of reading the Bible, give them lavish praise and encouragement for more of the same in terms of Bible study. From there, religious study in Christian households in the Early Church came in the form of question and answer, with children being curious about Scripture, and with fathers giving pointers as to the context. Most children end up at the same religious conclusions of their parents in terms of childhood religious development.  

Christian fathers in the Early Church were expected to discipline their children, but at the same time, fathers were not allowed to offend their children in any way in the course of disciplining their children. Instead, fathers avoided offense of children by way of apologizing to children whenever the father hurt the child's feelings, with fathers also avoiding the slightest of personal offense perceived by their child. 

Unlike other ancient cultures, fathers in the Early Church did not use "hand-me-down-the-slate" gaslighting with their children. Instead, mothers responded to the child's every cry, without handing the child over to the father when she had enough of a child crying. The role of fathers was to discipline children by catching them being good. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is tthe ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

The word "no": Why children need to hear the word "no" seldom (meaning almost never)

Many parents think that they have the "right" to tell a child "no" whenever they see fit. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents say "no" all of the time. However, God's Law commands parents not only to avoid spanking and punishment, but instead to avoid offending their child. This offense can come from the word "no". 

God's Law states in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to avoid spanking or punishing children - you have to avoid offending your child in the slightest, including by way of the frequent use of the word "no". The only way to avoid offense perceived by your child is to give a meaningful apology whenever you offend your child. Child abuse, like all abuse, happens when a victim is offended by the entitlement of a perpetrator.

One way to offend a child is to tell them "no". Whenever Christian parents in the Early Church had to say "no", they apologized by reassuring children of their good intentions, and also explaining to children why they were told "no". Under customary law then, the word "no" was only allowed from parents when the child wanted something unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Even then, parents usually found a nicer-sounding way to decline a request, namely "that can't happen", "that isn't possible", or "that won't work". 

The word "no" is oftentimes used when the parent is angry with their child, meaning the parent feels annoyed by the child's constant requests. The word "no" should never be used out of anger. A parent should instead say "no" out of worry or concern.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Crying: Why crying is not bad behavior in children

Many parents think that children cry in order to "undermine parental authority". This is a common motive for punishing children. However, the fact of the matter is that children always cry for a reason. Most of the time, the child is advocating a vulnerable need.

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in Colossians 3:20 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: as is well pleasing unto the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their child, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for children, meeting children's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46; 1Cor. 13:4-8.

Most parents punish a crying child, thinking that children are out to "undermine parental authority". However, Christian parents in the Early Church knew more than parents today that children always cry for a reason, with children usually crying in order to petition a vulnerable need from parents. Children then got most of what they wanted, and everything that they needed. 

Under customary law in the Early Church, children were understood as having five basic categories of needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - and the greatest of these needs is attachment! Children then cried a deathly, screeching cry when they needed something. If the child was milk-dependent, mothers offered their child their teat. If the child continued to cry, mothers scrambled to figure out the need behind the cry, with the crying being designed by God to break down mothers until the need is fully met. 

Crying, in most cases, is developmentally-appropriate behavior in children, especially when the crying child is under age 6. A child most always cries in order to petition parents for a need. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed before responding to the child's cries, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting it. Usually, all a crying child needs is YOU. 

The depraved and entitled parents who punished their children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent!

Redefining child abuse: Why the Bible calls for expanding child abuse definitions

Many parents think that the ancients in the Bible had no concept of child abuse. This is a common belief amongst American parents. Most American parents support the current child abuse definitions. However, the Bible has its own definition of child abuse, namely whatever the child victim perceives as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of parents being sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any parent anger directed towards a child was deemed parental entitlement in biblical times. Whenever this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to stop spanking or punishing your child - you need to avoid any and all offense as perceived by a child. The only way to avoid guilt under this commandment is to give a meaningful apology whenever you offend your child, especially when you lose your cool. Children are usually offended when they cry due to parent anger being imposed on them. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul convicting parents who brought into the church the pagan custom of patrias potestas, with this term meaning "power to the parent", including power to mete out corporal or other forms of punishment. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did attachment parenting anyway, as a form of civil disobedience to Rome. 

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers here to long-term damages, namely trauma. The ancients had a basic understanding of trauma. When a child grew up to be atheist, it was seen as a sign of trauma, and not that the atheist was a "lost soul". 

Child abuse was usually prosecuted by a council of 3 elders that headed the parish of the Early Christian church. In most cases, an abused child confided into one of the elders, and then the parents were called before the council. When parents defended their abusive actions, they were excommunicated from the Early Christian Churches of God. 

The Bible is an anti-spanking document, with all 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - being written by Jews. No Jew worth mentioning ever defended child punishment, even in biblical times. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting for the little ones, with the rod of correction simply being a form of judicial corporal punishment under the Law. Christ fulfilled the Law, thus taking away the harsh legal punishments found in the Old Testament. 

The Bible is a founding document of this country, even above the Constitution itself. The Bible and its context tell us, as a society, how to live as a country. It just so happens that this Bible is anti-spanking, not pro-spanking. The Bible simply was mistranslated on the Latinate level of the translation, meaning the Bible was translated in error in order to keep a pagan tradition going. The Bible is only God's Word in the original Greek and Hebrew, as understood in context. All of the English language translations of the Bible are in error. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Separation anxiety: Why children cry seemingly out of nowhere

Many parents think that a crying child is trying to push their buttons, especially when they cry seemingly for no reason at all. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, the fact of the matter is that children always cry for a reason. Never ignore a crying child.

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in Colossians 3:20 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for children, meeting children's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25;31-46; 1Cor. 13:4-8.

Parents today usually punish their children for crying "out of nowhere". However, Christian parents in the Early Church knew more than today's parents that the number one reason a child cries is due to separation anxiety. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, morbidly fearing that mothers would "go away and never come back". Children never left their mother out of their line of sight, crying out loud when mothers as much as went into the other room. Mom had to reassure her child that she was going nowhere.

It is recommended that mothers quit their job when they become pregnant. This is because going to work in the morning severs the secure attachment with parents, burning the trust in parents that children had. Separation is a young child's worst fear, meaning they actively fear that mom will "go away and never come back". Going to work in the morning alone is a child's worst fear concerning their parents, as when mom is out at work, the child is morbidly afraid of mom not coming back. Your children need YOU more than they need anything else. 

The depraved and entitled parents who punish their children for crying will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

The rod verses: Why Proverbs is not an excuse for spanking children

Many parents think that the Bible says "spare the rod, spoil the child". This is a statement frequently attributed to the Bible. However, the Bible itself is an anti-spanking document, meaning that Proverbs is widely misused as an excuse for punishing a child.

One notable passage in the Old Testament is Proverbs 13:24 KJV:

He who spareth the rod hateth his son: but he who loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

This passage does not refer to any old whipping, but instead referring to a specific form of corporal punishment of the judicial kind. The 7 verses in Proverbs that mention the rod ultimately mention the 40 minus 1 lashes. The writers of all 88 books of the Bible recommended attachment parenting, including even King Solomon. King Solomon lifted up customary law in his secular writings on parenting, with customary law itself commanding parents to bring up children as comes naturally. The reason for this commandment is that if the father was left to his own devices, he would refuse to whip his son when his son ran afoul of the Law.

The harsh legal punishments in the Old Testament were repealed by Christ's Work on the cross. The Law still applies when repeated in the New Testament, but minus the harsh punishments found in the Old Testament. The passages found in Proverbs have nothing to do with raising a minor child, as the Hebrew word for "son" in Prov. 13:24 referring to a mature adult son. The word for "child" in Proverbs refers to a young adult. 

The book of Proverbs is simply wisdom literature, in poetic tense. It was never intended by God to be a source of parenting advice. However, God's Law does touch on proper parenting, and prohibits all forms of punitive parenting. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It isn't enough to stop spanking or punishing a child - you need to avoid any and all offense perceived by a child. The only way to avoid offense from children is to be willing to give a meaningful apology to a child at a moment's notice, especially when you lose your cool. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, and was intended by the Apostle Paul as prohibiting the pagan custom of patrias potestas, meaning "power to the parent", and was a "duty" under Roman law to spank children when they misbehave. Christian parents then righteously disobeyed these laws, and did attachment parenting anyway. This passage alone repeals the verses in Proverbs that mention the rod of correction.

The rod of correction was a final warning before a criminal offender was put to death. The offender was initially charged with a capital offense, and was given many warnings before being brought before the Sanhedrin. When the offender was found guilty, his father whipped him with 40 minus 1 lashes to the back with a switch. However, this procedure only applies to adult children - whipping a minor child was a capital offense in and of itself. Parents who whipped their minor children were charged with kidnapping, meaning it was seen then as a form of hostage-taking worthy of death and punishment in and of itself.

Spanking was a common way that children in the Greco-Roman world were punished. The false teaching of "biblical spanking" ultimately comes from European pagan influence on the Western Church. "Biblical spanking" was a pagan custom in the days of the Early Church, but the Christians then shunned that pagan custom, treating pro-spanking parishioners as infiltrators bringing their pagan custom of spanking children into the church.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Hebrews 12:5-6: Why this is not a spanking passage

Many parents support the concept of spanking and punishing children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents still seek religious advice for how to raise a child, and most pastors cite a few verses in Proverbs, and one passage in Hebrews.

God's Word states in Hebrews 12:5-6 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation that speaks unto you as unto children, My son, despise the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. 

When understood in context, this passage is comforting to me, at least in retrospect of being caught in trying times. The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μαστιγόω (Latin: mastigoo) and refers here to the chastening of the Lord. God whips His children, like only He can. However, God only whips His children when it doesn't harm them, whereas earthly parents whip their children when it does harm them. This passage ultimately refers to trials and tribulations, which only God is capable of doing without causing trauma. Paul here was consoling the Hebrew Christians in their persecution from Rome, using the rod of correction as a metaphor for God's discipline of His elect. God never intended for parents to be like Him in parenting. Instead, parents should bring up their children as comes naturally.

The passage in Hebrews is not a spanking passage, as it was not intended by the Apostle Paul as parenting advice. However, Paul did chime in on parenting with his divinely inspired pen. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to avoid spanking or punishing your children - you need to avoid any and all offense in children, by the child's perception. The only way around guilt according to this commandment is to be willing to make a meaningful apology to your children, especially when you lose your cool. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church the pagan custom of patrias potestas, meaning "power to the parent" in terms of a "duty" to spank and punish children. Roman law prohibited attachment parenting, but the Early Christians were attached parents nonetheless, doing attachment parenting anyway.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers here to long-term damages, namely trauma. The ancients had a basic understanding of childhood trauma. When a child grew up to be atheist, it was seen as a sign of trauma, not merely the atheist being seen as a "lost soul". 

Spanking was a common way for children to be dealt with under Roman law, with spanking being a pagan custom on the part of broader Greco-Roman society. However, the Early Christians shunned those customs, and instead formed a secure attachment to their children, avoiding offense in children. The concept of "biblical spanking" is ultimately a pagan custom that was absorbed into the Western Christian churches by way of European influence. 

The Bible itself was mistranslated in numerous instances, including Prov. 13:24. The rod of correction ultimately refers to a switch used on the bare back of a criminal offender, meaning it was simply a form of judicial corporal punishment that was administered when an offender ran out of warnings from fellow Jews. The reason for the rod verses in Proverbs was that otherwise, fathers would refuse to whip their errant son. Ultimately, the rod verses refer to the 40 minus 1 lashes. In Hebrews, this judicial whipping was used in a figurative tense, meaning rod language. God surely does not descend from the Heavens and physically whip His children, with this analogy instead being what is called rod language, which was a metaphor in the original Greek for enduring hardship. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why God wants you to pamper and baby your child

Many parents think that children should not be pampered or babied, lest it "spoil" them. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents believe that children need to learn hard lessons. However, the Bible, when understood in context, recommends pampering and babying children, in a certain way. 

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in Colossians 3:20 KJV

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here is defined as doing good things for children, meeting children's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46; 1Cor. 13:4-8. 

The Bible, as understood in context, calls for a certain specific form of pampering and babying children. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mom went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, seemingly attached at the hip, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever  a child cried, mom cooed before picking up her child, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever children needed then, they got it. When mothers and children under age 6 were out and about, mom wrapped up the child in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, Christian parents in the Early Church co-slept next to their children, in skin-on-skin format. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the context of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin sustaining warmth, with children experiencing the rays of skin-on-skin contact merely when they were picked up. 

When children turned age 6, they wanted to do things on their own, namely play outside freely, while naked. Children in biblical times engaged in wet and messy play. Children explored the terrain, venturing farther and farther from home, getting into mud battles in the process. However, children had to check in with mom first, so that she knew where the children were going. Come evening, children were called by name - one by one - and were treated to a warm, homecooked meal coming from mom. Children, starting at age 6, alternated between closeness to mom, and time away from mom, with children staying away from parents more and more as they got older. 

Children growing up in the Early Church, while under age 6, were very much protected, in a sheltered sort of way. In the biblical context, there existed environmental hazards towards a child's life, namely  venomous snakes or scorpions, with there being no antivenom then. However, even today, there exists hazards that endanger a child's safety, namely busy streets and would-be kidnappers. Children under age 6 were too young and immature to appreciate the dangers that existed outside.

The depraved and entitled parents who punished their children through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices. Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Honor parents: Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Many parents think that they are entitled to honor from their children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents feel deserving of being honored. However, the fact of the matter is that the Fifth Commandment means something very different than what is commonly believed by Christian parents.

The Fifth Commandment states in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

The Hebrew word translated "honor" means, in context, caring for parents, especially as they age. This first starts our with a parent caring for their children, and then children rewarded their parents by caring for them. However, if parents were abusive, children had the right to shun their parents. 

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of children. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for children, with children resting in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for children, meeting children's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46; 1Cor. 13:4-8 

The Fifth Commandment, as most commonly interpreted, is a common excuse for parents punishing children. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It isn't enough to avoid punishing your child when they talk back - you need to avoid offending your child in any way, even if they talk back. The only way around this commandment is to be willing to make a meaningful apology, especially if you lose your cool. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and Tenth Commandments, and was intended by the Apostle Paul as a moral statute prohibiting the pagan custom of patrias potestas, meaning the "right" of fathers to enforce law in his home, including through spanking and punishing children. Roman law prohibited attachment parenting, but the Early Christians obeyed God over men, and practiced attachment parenting anyway. 

The Fifth Commandment does not refer to simply speaking against parents. Instead, the Fifth Commandment simply means that adult children are to care for their aging parents. However, children who were abused were permitted to shun their parents. Child abuse was defined as entitlement in a parent resulting in offense in a child, meaning whatever the child perceived as abusive. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!.

 

Expanding child abuse definitions: Why the Bible calls for more laws protecting children from abuse

Many parents support the current child abuse definitions. Most American parents think that the ancients in the Bible had no concept of child abuse. However, the Bible has its own definition of child abuse, namely what is perceived by the child victim as abuse. 

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined here as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of parents who are sorely disappointed when children don't give them what they feel they deserve. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any parent anger directed towards a child was deemed parental entitlement. When this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived as offensive or damaging by a child, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. The only way around this commandment is to be willing to apologize to your children at a moment's notice, and mean it. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments. Paul the Apostle was ultimately convicting Greek Christian parents who followed the pagan custom of patrias potestas, meaning the power of fathers to enforce law in his house, including through spanking and punishing his children. Parents in the Early Church did not follow the tradition of patrias potestas, despite being required to under Roman law. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians obeyed God over men in that regard.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers here to long-term damages, namely trauma. The ancients did have a basic understanding of trauma. Whenever children grew up to be atheist, it was seen as a sign of trauma, not simply the atheist being a "lost soul".

Child abuse usually was prosecuted starting when a child confided into a church elder or deacon. When the church official was notified by the child of child abuse happening in the church, the elders called the abusive parents before the council. If they defended themselves at all by way of supposed "rights", they were excommunicated from the church.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible, from Genesis to Revelation, were written by Jews, with Jews never supporting the punishment of children. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting for the little ones, reserving the rod of correction as a form of judicial corporal punishment for legal adults - namely the 40 minus 1 lashes. Christ fulfilled the Law, so that we don't have to face the harsh punishments of the Old Testament. 

The Bible is a founding document of this country, even above the Constitution itself. We as a society glean from the Bible and its context for moral advice as to how to live. It just so happens that the Bible was written with an anti-spanking bias, meaning the Jews who wrote the Bible, even then, were all for attachment parenting. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!