Why to catch children being good (as opposed to catching them misbehaving)

Many parents want their children to have discipline. This is a common and understandable wish for parents to have. However, most American parents equate discipline with punishment. However, the fact of the matter is that children should be caught in the act of being good.

Proper discipline for children is spelled out in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. 

The first stanza of this commandment qualifies for the second that no discipline should hurt. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to stop spanking or punishing your child - you need to avoid the slightest of offense perceived by a child. The first stanza of this commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to point out that discipline does not equal punishment. Children should not be hurt in order to be given discipline, but nonetheless, children need discipline. The only way to fully avoid guilt under this stanza of the commandment in Eph. 6:4 is to be willing to apologize to your child whenever you offend them, with offense consisting of any upset or hurt feelings in a child. Punishment is never okay in parenting. However, children need discipline. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive treatment of a child in his secular writings.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here to a specific type of nurturing, namely of the teaching sort. Whenever children were caught being good, they were given lavish praise and encouragement from fathers. Behaviors such as having discipline and self-control, once found in children, were praised and encouraged for more of the same. Christian parents in the Early Church imparted a good example for children to follow, and backed it up with praise and encouragement, as opposed to punishment or force. Whenever children held it together when they usually didn't, they were give praise and encouragement for more of the same. Religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers here to a child hearing out the Christian warning of fathers. Starting when children turned age 6, fathers left out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught studying the Bible, fathers praised and encouraged religion in his child, and also saying "let me help you interpret that book". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, with children being curious about Scripture, and with fathers giving pointers as to the context. The Christian warning of fathers consisted on explaining to children the context behind the Bible that they discovered and read. 

Children sometimes act up. This is something every parent has to go through. However, most Christian parents in the Early Church knew more than parents today is that child development comes in phases, with most troublesome behaviors being developmentally appropriate given the child's age and maturity. A child who runs into traffic at age 3 won't be so reckless at age 9. Children start out by crying a lot, but then resort to whining, with whining being a mature way to petition parents for vulnerable needs. But, when children did engage in good behavior, it was lavishly praised and encouraged by fathers, with children then being eager to hear their father's praise.

Mothers nurture up close, whereas fathers nurture from afar. The foundation for good discipline comes in the first 6 years of childhood. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mother especially, seemingly attached at the hip. For the latter part of childhood, children alternating between closeness to mom and freedom to play and roam freely away from mom. Children were largely given free reign for the latter part of childhood. When children are raised in an attachment parenting home environment, siblings actually get along, and petition for things that they want in unison.

Most children are impulsive by way of their nature. However, when parents show impulse control around their children, children absorb self-control from the Christian example of parents. When children showed self-control, fathers were quick to praise and encourage such behavior, with children working hard to impress their parents. Maybe they fumbled a bit along the way, but Christian parents then noticed all of the good behavior in children, and ignored misbehavior as understandable given children's age and development. Children need to learn impulse control, and what better way to learn impulse control then a child being praised and encouraged when they show self-control on their own. Sometimes, limits need to be set, in which case the parent should simply apologize if the set limit upsets the child, in the form of reassurance and explanation for a limit set. Limits should only be set if a child's behavior is unsafe or immoral. Limits for children growing up in the Early Church were backed up by restful trust in parents, and when children warmly trust their parents, children listen to parents automatically and out of instinct.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous apology: The importance of apologizing to your child

Many parents are opposed to apologizing to children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents instead insist on an apology from their children, while not willing to apologize themselves. However, a key rule of thumb in the Bible is known as righteous apology

God's Law weighs in on apologizing to children, making it a biblical mandate - in practice - to apologize to your child. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to stop spanking and punishing children - you need to avoid the slightest of offense perceived by a child. The only way to fully avoid guilt under this commandment is to be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you offend your child. Any time you cause your child to become upset, including through set limits, you have offended your child, and thus you need to apologize. The best way to avoid guilt under this commandment is to be ready to apologize to your child, as an entitled parent does not apologize for offending a child ever. The offense here comes from entitlement in parents, including defending rights as a parent. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which roughly translates to "power to the parent", including the power to spank and punish children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Roman law prohibited attachment parenting, but the Early Christians did it anyway, as an act of civil disobedience to Rome. The Early Christians were widely hated because they were "too soft" on their children.

There are different types of apologies for different occasions. When you have to set a limit, it is best to give a Hebraic apology to your child, meaning a reassurance of good intent by way of honesty about your intent. Whenever you lose your cool with your child, you instead need to give a full, heartfelt apology, and mean it. A full apology from a parent should say "I apologize for losing my cool". 

Offending a child is inevitable in parenting. In most cases, children are offended for even being given limits. However, the way out of the command not to offend children is to be willing to apologize whenever your actions, including set limits, offends children. The definition of child abuse under God's Law is not just any offense, but an offense stemming from entitlement.

Any anger whatsoever is considered entitled in relation to children. Any parent anger directed towards a child was deemed parental entitlement in biblical times. Christians in the Early Church saw anger at a child as akin to a viper hissing and lashing out at an unsuspecting child. Instead, parenting in the Early Church was based off of worry or concern, not anger coming down from the ramparts. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

The age of consent/marriage: Drawing a line in the sand

Many adults support a higher age of consent. However, a vocal group of pedophiles instead wants there to be no age of consent. I, as a pedophile, support merging the concepts of the age of consent and the marriageable age. I oppose all sexual relations outside of the context of a Christian marriage.

The Greek root word translated "fornication" in the New Testament is πορνεία (Latin: porneia). This commandment does not prohibit identifying as a pedophile, and it would be nice if society allowed pedophiles to identify. However, all sexual relations outside of marriage are banned according to this highlighted Greek root word. 

The age of marriage in biblical times was always in line with the age of majority, wherever it stood. Sexual relations was not seen as a right for everyone, but instead a duty between spouses in a Christian marriage. God's Law reads in 1 Corinthians 7:1-5 KJV:

Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: it is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. Let the husband unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her body, but the husband: and likewise the husband hath not power over his own body, but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye give yourselves to fasting and prayer: and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. 

The Greek root word here is πορνεία as well, and here refers to anything considered sexually immoral then. This passage makes it clear that sex is not a right, but a duty between spouses in a Christian marriage. The main reason for a Christian marriage is sexual accountability. This passage ultimately cross-references the commandment to obey all worldly authority, including the marriage laws in your home state. See also Rom. 13:1-4.

The Early Christians were strict about equity in a marriage. Marriage then was only allowed if the spouses were same age, or else in the case of the bride being 4 years older at the most. Intergenerational marriage was not a valid concept in the Early Church. Maybe the age of marriage then was 13, but nowhere is that age found in the Bible. 

We live in a free society, meaning we can have our opinion as to where the age of consent should be. However, we need to draw the line somewhere. Any lowering of the age of consent/marriage serves only to cater to the self-interest of adults. The Bible is clear that Christians work against their self-interest, and when this abstinence is applied to children, we call that children's rights.

As a Christian pedophile, I am opposed to any lowering of the age of consent/marriage, as I oppose what I want to the point of not wanting it. The most I want in terms of self-interest is children being allowed to go naked to my eyeshot. But, even that is not a huge injustice for me. I myself ultimately am the reason for marriageable ages in the United States being raised to 18. 

The ancients in the Bible did not have a concept of an age of consent. The age of consent was lumped in with the age of marriage. All sexual relations outside of marriage was considered illicit and unlawful. Casual sex was clearly banned in the Early Church, as was any sex work on the part of the men involved. Even pornography was banned, with masturbation instead happening properly without pornography. Rape and sexual assault were also banned, with sex offenders swiftly being excommunicated from the church. Anything outside of marriage towards another human being was considered sexually amoral, and thus fornication. A Christian man then went only two ways - towards his wife or towards the masturbation basket. Most men then did masturbate in order to stay out of trouble, in the form of solo masturbation to mental images in their imagination. 

A pedophile can hold an anti-fornicator viewpoint. It is a myth that we all are waiting for a sexual rapture to come, in order for mankind to behave like apes. I myself have a different policy as a pedophile - if she isn't my wife, she isn't for me. Bur, since I have no wife, masturbation will have to suffice. Masturbation clears the mind of sexual cobwebs and helps you think clearer about your own sexual choices. However, I am not allowed sexual relations with a woman who isn't my wife, even if I have no wife. Righteous masturbation is a pick-me-up that quenches unrequited sexual desires towards children, and helps me stay out of trouble. I am an anti-contact pedophile, meaning I support the age of consent/marriage being where it is currently. However, my future context view holds that all sexual relations outside of the confines of a marriage being banned entirely as a sexual offense, including all pornography and sex work. 

In the context of the Early Church, most male clergy were pedophiles. Whenever the council handed down a guilty verdict, the child was given a choice - stay with parents, or go with pedophiles. Usually, children went with pedophiles, with pedophiles simply lactating to nurse a child back to health. When a child did want to go with parents, the pedophile in question was put under investigation. The concept was not righteous barter, but instead Christian charity. Obviously, we have a different setup today, but this context clarifies that pedophilia alone is not fornication. The word "pedophile" is nowhere mentioned in the Bible, even though the ancients had a concept of pedophilia, with the pedophile with the cleanest record being appointed church elder or church deacon.

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who advocate for a right to sex with children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Expanding child abuse definitions: Why the Bible calls for more laws on the books protecting children

Many parents think that the Bible has no concept of childhood, let alone child abuse. This is a common belief amongst American parents. Most American parents support the current definitions of child abuse, and cite the Bible as an excuse for abusing children. However, the Bible does have a concept of child abuse - whatever the child victim perceives as abuse. Anything perceived as abuse by a child objectively is such. 

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent who is sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any parent anger directed towards a child in biblical times was deemed entitlement. When this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to avoid spanking or punishing children - you need to avoid the slightest of offense perceived by a child. The only way to fully avoid guilt under this commandment is to be willing to give a meaningful apology to a child whenever you offend them. Whenever a child is upset by how you deal with them, including in the case of set limits, you have offended your child, and thus you need to apologize. Refusal to apologize to a child for hurt feelings alone comes from entitlement. As long as you are willing to apologize to a child when they perceive offense, you are free from guilt under this commandment, as the offense being discussed here in Col. 3:21 being the type coming from a certain sense of entitlement in parents. Any defensiveness surrounding offending your child alone comes from entitlement. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", including the power of parents to spank and punish children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, in civil disobedience to Rome. 

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers here to long-term damages, namely trauma. The ancients in the Bible did have a concept of childhood trauma. Whenever a child grew up to be atheist, it was seen as a sign of childhood abuse, as opposed to someone simply being a "lost soul". 

Child sexual abuse is defined under God's Law by the Greek root word denoting fornication, which is πορνεία (Latin: porneia), and refers here to the slightest of sexual advances perceived by a child, even if the child liked it. The word ερεθιζο here refers to anything offensive to God being perceived by a child, as fornication is a blasphemy offense. The age of marriage then was where it always should be - at the age of majority. God draws an even better line to understand - if she isn't my wife, she isn't for me. 

Child abuse was prosecuted in the Early Church starting with the council. Whenever a child was being spanked by their parents, they usually confided into a church elder or deacon. From there, the parents were summoned before the council, and if the parents defended their "rights" as opposed to answering to the court with a plea of "yea" or "nay", they were excommunicated from the Early Christian Churches of God. When parents were excommunicated, children were given a choice - go with parents or go with pedophiles. Usually, children went with the pedophile, but in the case of the pedophile being rejected by the child, the pedophile fell under suspicion of child sexual abuse - child sexual abuse was banned even in the case of pedophiles caring for children, as child saviors then operated off of a charity model as opposed to a barter model. 

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - were written with an anti-spanking bias. All of the biblical writers were Jewish, with no Jew worth mentioning ever defending the punishment of children. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting for the little ones, while reserving the rod of correction for adults convicted of a criminal offense. 

The Bible is a founding document of this country, even above the Constitution itself. America is a Christian nation, with our social norms a a society, as well as out legal codes, being based off of the Good Book. It just so happens that the Bible prohibits all forms of punitive treatment of children. This moral law will become physical law in due time, at least here in the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania. God chose Israel as a moral model to the world because He foreknew a spanking ban that was passed by the Supreme Court of Israel in 2000. Even before then, Israel - in ancient times or modern times - never had a legal defense for "reasonable chastisement".

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke your children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

 

Parent anger: Why getting angry with your child alone is sin

Many parents think that they have the "right" to get angry with their children. This is a common attitude in American parents. However, the Bible opposes all anger towards a child. The fact of the matter is that children should not be subject to parent anger under any circumstance. 

God's Law states in Matthew 5:21-22 KJV:

Ye have heard that it was said of them of old time, Thou shalt not kill, and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment: But I say unto you, that whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say to his brother, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.

The phrase "without a cause" means that there is a proper way to be angry with your brother. Anger should only take place in the context of righteous judgment. However, children are immune to the judgment of adults, as children are sacrosanct. Anyone under the age of majority in the Early Church could not be charged with a moral crime, at least while they were still children. Blasphemy offenses in children only counted once the child believer reached adulthood.

Anger at your child is parental entitlement, as denoted by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. However, unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a patent getting sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing just for existing. All parent anger directed towards a child was deemed parental entitlement  Any time that this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

It is mandated in the Bible to oppose parental entitlement at the offense level. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to stop spanking or punishing children - you need to avoid the slightest of offense perceived by a child. The only way around guilt under this commandment fully is to be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you offend your child. It is especially pertinent to apologize to a child when you lose your cool, as any anger at a child comes from entitlement. However, even getting defensive when you offend your child automatically counts as entitlement. Any anger directed towards a child is bound to offend them to some degree, in which case parents must apologize for their fit of anger, and mean their apology, or else be guilty of entitlement. This commandment cross-references both the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", including the power to spank or punish a child. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, in civil disobedience to Rome. 

Parent anger was seen in biblical times as akin to a viper lashing out at a defenseless child. Instead, parenting then was motivated by worry or concern, not anger or frustration. Whenever you find yourself angry with your child, act the opposite of your parent anger. Any parent anger directed towards a child is parental entitlement, and requires a full length apology whenever you lose your cool with your child. 

However, any limit setting might offend a child.. However, children need limits. Thus, children need to hear you reassurance of your good intent whenever you set a limit with them, with this type of apology being known as a Hebraic apology. Limits should never be set out of anger, as any parent anger directed towards a child counts as entitlement. If you refuse to apologize to a child that you upset, you are entitled. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Proverbs 13:24: Why the rod verses are repealed verses

Many parent believe that the Bible commands them to punish their children. The most commonly cited verse in the Old Testament is Proverbs 13:24, which is widely interpreted as a commandment to punish children who are naughty. However, the fact of the matter is that all 7 rod verses in Proverbs are repealed verses.

God's Word reads in Proverbs 13:24 KJV:

He who spareth the rod hateth his son: but he who loveth him chastenth him betimes.

The Hebrew root word translated "son" in Prov. 13:24 is "ben" and refers to an mature adult son, or else a mature adult descendant. This verse, and all of the others, ultimately refers to the 40 minus 1 lashes, meaning a form of judicial corporal punishment where adult descendants were whipped by their fathers with the rod of correction after being convicted of a crime. The rod consisted of a switch, administered in the context of a courtroom - meaning never in a domestic setting. The rod verses are there as wisdom writings, as otherwise, fathers would just refuse to whip their children. The rod of correction was never used on minor or dependent children.

The rod verses in Proverbs, meaning all 7 verses, are repealed verses, as Christ died on the cross in order to repeal the harsh punishments of the Old Testament. The verse that cements the fact that God never intended for the rod of correction as a parenting tool is Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to stop spanking or punishing your children - you need to avoid the slightest of offense perceived by a child. The only way around guilt under this commandment is to be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you offend your child, especially when you lose your cool - losing your cool with your child alone constitutes parental entitlement. Whenever a child is upset due to how your deal with them, including regarding set limits, you have offended your child, and thus you need to apologize. Whenever you refuse to apologize to a child for offending them and hurting their feelings, you are entitled. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christians who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas which is a Latin praise roughly translating to "power to the parent", including the power to spank or punish children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive treatment of children in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was prohibited under Roman law, but the Early Christian did it anyway, in civil disobedience to Rome. 

Spanking wasn't always church teaching. Most Christians that lived before Rome took over were anti-spanking, meaning they opposed punishing children altogether. Anyone who supported the Greco-Roman norm of spanking children was treated as a church infiltrator, and they were excommunicated from the church by the council. When the trial was over, children usually elected to go with a chosen clergyman or clergywoman, with the male clergy usually being clinical pedophiles - and the closest the pedophile got to being close to the child is lactating for the child in order to nurse the child back to health. Today, I support the survivor system of child protection, but a pedophile can jump aboard the children's rights train and take a stand for the children that he loves. 

The Latinate Bible was willfully mistranslated in order to keep a European pagan custom going. The European pagans were brutal to children, with the worst of these offenses against children coming from the Anglo-Saxons. However, just because the Anglo-Saxons interpreted the Bible a certain way doesn't make it the official teaching of Christianity. The Western Church has long suffered from European influence, with European pagans being known for spanking children. The most accurate of all Bibles is the Byzantine Bible, which is not available to the Anglophone reader. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous co-sleeping: Why God wants you to sleep next to your children

Many parents are opposed to co-sleeping next to their children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents punish children for bedtime refusal. However, the main reason for bedtime refusal is that children aren't ready for sleeping on their own. Also, righteous co-sleeping helps prevent child sexual abuse.

Co-sleeping is a part of a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. See Colossians 3:20 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. The context tells us how to form a secure attachment with your child. The core way of forming a secure parent-child bond is to co-sleep next to children, for long as they need you to be with them at night, as was done in the context.

Most young children refuse to go to bed, and then are punished for it. However, the fact of the matter is that children under age 6 are too young to sleep on their own. Children under age 6 have a morbid fear of being devoured by predators when left isolated in a room on their own. You might think that there are no predators that exist today. You would be wrong. Most child sexual abuse is a bedtime ritual, where the father sneaks into his child's room and rapes the child. In the Early Church, child sexual abuse was rare, and that is because the mother was right there, co-sleeping next to her children in skin-on-skin format, perhaps using herself as a human shield, guarding her children from the sexual wrath of fathers.

The main excuse for not co-sleeping next to children comes from fearmongering on the part of pediatricians and mental health professionals serving children, with frightening terms such as "sleep dependence". However, Christian parents in the Early Church knew more than parents today that co-sleeping always has an end to it. In the Early Church, children slept next to parents in skin-on-skin format, until the child reached the onset of puberty, which is when they usually wanted their own place to sleep. 

In the Early Church, customary law mandated skin-on-skin co-sleeping, with the family bed being naked in terms of setup. Fathers hung up their robe, and mothers hung up her dress, by the door once they got home. Children went naked wherever they went. When children slept in mom and dad's bed, mom was right there, separating the father from his children, guarding them from the sexual wrath of fathers. The proper term for this setup is nude gentle parenting. 

I myself was punished for trying to sleep in my parents' bed. Whenever I would try to co-sleep next to parents, my parent abuser grabbed me by the throat, in a fit of rage. He felt the right to sleep with his wife, meaning my mother. My father even dared to put a lock on the door. I would call what he did emotional neglect, as well as physical abuse.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punishing bedtime refusal will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

 

 

The word "no": Why the constant use of the word "no" is child abuse

Many parents use the word "no" frequent and often. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents think children need to hear the word "no" frequent and often. However, the Bible has its own  child abuse definitions - whatever the child victim perceives as abuse. The ancients in the Bible had a concept of child abuse, with child abuse definitions including the frequent and unnecessary use of the word "no". 

Child abuse definitions in the Bible are spelled out in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to stop spanking or punishing your children - you need to avoid the slightest of offense perceived by a child. The only way to avoid guilt completely according to this commandment is to be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you offend your child. Any time you upset your child when dealing with them, including set limits, you have offended your child, and thus you need to apologize. Children need to be reassured of your good intent when told the word "no". This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, with this Latin phrase translating roughly to "power to the parent", including the parental power to spank or punish children. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, engaging in civil disobedience to Rome. 

The word "no" is a commonly overused word in parenting. Most American parents think that children need to hear the word "no" frequent and often. However, customary law in the Early Church only allowed the word "no" under the strictest of circumstances - namely when the petitioned requests of children were unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Even then, parents usually elected to use nicer-sounding words to decline a request, namely "that won't work", "that can't happen", or "that's not possible". 

Whenever a child cries or is upset by the offensive conduct by parents, it was deemed child abuse, with the upset in the child standing as judgment on the part of parents. However, parents could not give meaningful offense towards children, as any parent anger in biblical times was seen as entitlement. 

The word "no" damages the parent-child bond when used often. The word "no" should not be used except when absolutely necessary for the best interests of the child. The word "no" should NEVER be used when a parent is angry or frustrated, and if they do, they should apologize to their child with a full apology for losing their cool. Declining a request should instead be done out of worry or concern for a child, not anger or frustration. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Child discipline: How to discipline your child the right way (meaning without punishment or force)

Most parents want children to have discipline. This is a common desire amongst American parents. However, most American parents think that discipline equates to punishment. However, the biblical tradition of child discipline involves catching children being good, as opposed to catching them being bad.

Child discipline is spelled out in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. Child discipline should never come with a child being offended. It is not enough to give up spanking or punishing children - you need to avoid the slightest of offense perceived by a child. The only way to fully avoid guilt under the first stanza of this commandment is to be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you offend your child, especially if you lose your cool with your child. Whenever you refuse to apologize to an upset child, you are entitled. This stanza of the commandment in Eph. 6:4 cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul convicting the Greek Christians at Ephesus of how to properly discipline their children, with this proper discipline meaning without punitive measures of any kind. This first stanza clarifies for the second that discipline be gentle and encouraging in nature, meaning not punitive in nature. 

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin" paideia) and refers here to a specific type of nurturing, namely of the teaching type. Whenever a child was caught in the act of being good, they were given lavish praise and encouragement for more good behavior of the same. Christian parents in the Early Church imparted a good example for children to follow, but with this good Christian example being backed up by praise and encouragement, as opposed to punishment and force. Children also need religious instruction, as religion is a human need. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers here to religious instruction, meaning hearing out the Christian warning of fathers. Religious instruction started at age 6 with fathers leaving out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, fathers praised and encouraged their children to keep up the moral improvement. Religious education, from there, came in the form of question and answer, with children being curious about Scripture, and with fathers giving pointers on the context. The Christian warning here came in the form of fathers lecturing spiritually curious children as to the Hebraic context of the Bible. Children usually come to the same religious conclusions as their parents, without any need for punishment or shaming. 

The commandment to not provoke your child to wrath ultimately clarifies that discipline should not hurt, and when it does, it is not proper discipline. The Ephesians were clueless as how to discipline a child, and so the Apostle Paul spelled out how to properly discipline children. This proper discipline involved avoiding offending your child, but at the same time, discipline your child by catching them being good, and praising and encouraging good behavior. This commandment spells out the Hebraic custom of positive reinforcement, meaning catching children being good. 

The most common behavior praised in children growing up in the Early Church was self-control. Whenever a child showed discipline and self-control, they were lavishly praised to keep up the good work. When children were naughty, parents simply laughed at the child's mischief, having a good sense of humor when the child needed it most. Christian parents knew more than parents today that a child's development comes in stages, and that most childhood behaviors are due to immature development in children.

Even in the Early Church, fathers did not rape their children as a form of correction. Fathers then did not use "hand-me-down-the-slate" gaslighting. Instead, fathers imprinted on their children through righteous masturbation to sexual thoughts of his children. This sexual dynamic in the household  ensured that fathers be warm and encouraging, albeit from a distance. Mothers nurture children up close, and fathers nurture from afar. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Children self-protect, adults abstain: Individual responsibility for adults attracted to children

Many parents think keeping children safe from sexual abuse involves spotting a threat, usually a pedophile, and then protecting children from the threat by taking a stand. It is good to protect children from sexual abuse, but not all sexual abusers of children are pedophiles, and not all pedophiles sexually abuse children. The fact of the matter is that children are capable of profiling sexual threats on their own, with adults being capable of righteous avoidance in relation to children.

Children can easily spot a sexual threat in an adult, as all children have a sexual attraction to adults. This attraction repels the child from the adult target, and thus children have the instincts necessary to keep themselves from sexual harm. Whenever a child refuses to go with an adult, the adult surely is a sexual predator, and needs to be confronted. Whenever a child wants to go with an adult, think pedophile of the non-contact type. Some forms of grooming is overlooked by children, and that includes infatuation  grooming. Even then, the child can be taught to not give out personal information to strangers.

Every single adult is responsible in relation to children, as any old adult can sexually abuse a child under the right/wrong conditions. Most child sexual abuse comes from a repressed sexual desire in relation to children, with this sexual desire coming out sideways onto the nearest child, like a ton of bricks. The only way out of this conundrum is to masturbate righteously to sexual thoughts of children, without the usage of pornography.

The Greek root word in the New Testament translated "lust" is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers here to a sexual narcissist, which most adults have in relation to children. The only way out of this conundrum is to face your unwanted child fantasies head on, and masturbate to those thoughts. It usually should only take a few sessions to spend the fantasy away, with the fantasy then being a rare curiosity. 

I myself am a pedophile. A pedophile is not an anger packet. A pedophile is a human being with a primary or exclusive sexual preference for children under age 14.  Most pedophiles have a form of immature autism with their specialty is children in terms of knowledge and social skills. Most pedophiles have a form of autism with child smarts. Most pedophiles never get angry with children, and instead are born nurturers of children  If you see someone with autism get along with children, think pedophile, as most adults with autism find children to be annoying. 

I myself have an offense under my belt, namely in the form of infatuation grooming. I am currently under investigation for the sexual abuse I committed against a cousin, in the form of sexual harassment. I engaged in antisocial "rough-play" in my grandparents' attic with my cousin. I answer to the court, and plead "yea" to what actually happened. There was accusation of rape, which never happened. The police cut me a break because I meant well towards my cousin. All the police had to do was issue a warning at my door, but they were revved up for a raid which would never happen. I myself see my crushes as coming in the form of train cars, with everybody around me hoping for the caboose. 

The sexual dynamics of a family home come in the form of a criss-cross. Fathers and daughters are naturally attracted to each other, in an unrequited format. Boys are attracted to their mothers in the form of a dead end. The idea is to masturbate to the sexual thoughts of your child, and spend away that attraction. 

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape and sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Redefining child abuse: Why the Bible calls for expanding child abuse definitions

Many parents think that the ancients in biblical times had no concept of child abuse. Most American parents today support the present definitions of child abuse under state and federal law. However, the Bible has its own definition of child abuse. Child abuse then was defined as anything that the child victim perceives as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of parents being sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any parent anger directed towards a child was deemed parental entitlement then. When children perceived this sense of entitlement in parents as offensive or damaging, it was seen as child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses and damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It isn't enough to stop spanking and punishing children - you need to avoid the slightest of offense in children. The only way to fully avoid guilt under this commandment is to be willing to give a meaningful apology to a child when you offend them, especially if you lose your cool with your child. Whenever your child is upset due to how you deal with them, including in the case of set limits, they are offended by how you deal with them, and thus you need to apologize. Refusing to apologize to an upset child in and of itself is entitlement. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church the pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase translating to "power to the parent", including the power to spank and punish children. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, as a form of civil disobedience to Rome. As long as you are willing to apologize to your child when you offend them, you are safe from guilt under this commandment.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers here to long-term damages, namely trauma. The ancients had a basic understanding of trauma. When a child grew up to be atheist, it was seen as a sign of trauma, not simply a sign of a "lost soul". 

Child sexual abuse was prohibited also by the Greek root word πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers here to any sexual advances perceived by a child, even if the child liked it. Child sexual abuse was rare in the Early Church, but when it did happen, it was a huge scandal on the part of the parents. Even if the child liked it, God objected on the child's behalf. Any perceived sexual advances counted as provoking children to anger, even if the child liked it, as fornication is a blasphemy offense. Sexual relations with children will always be wrong, and surely was wrong in the Early Church.

Child abuse was prosecuted in the Early Church by a council of 3 elders who headed the parish. The investigation usually started with a child confiding into a church elder or deacon about the abuse they were subjected to. The parents were brought before the council, and if they defended their offenses toward children, they were excommunicated from the Early Christian Churches of God.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - were written by Jews. No Jew worth mentioning has ever endorsed the punishment of children. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting for the little ones, with the rod of correction referring to in Proverbs to the 40 minus 1 lashes as a sentence for a crime. Christ did away these harsh punishments with His Work on the cross, repealing all 7 verses mentioning the rod.

The Bible is a founding document of this country, even above the Constitution itself. This country was founded on Judeo-Christian norms, with the Bible and its context telling us how to live as a society. It jusr so happens that the Bible prohibits all forms of punitive treatment of children, including spanking and punishing children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepated for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

How to set limits with your child the right way (meaning without punishment or force)

Many parents think that children need limits. This is a common belief amongst American parents. However, most parents think that limits need to be backed up by some sort of punishment. But, the fact of the matter is that there are better ways of setting limits than forcing limits down children's throats.

Setting limits alone can be considered child abuse under Christian law. Child abuse is whatever the child victim perceives as abuse. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethzo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It isn't enough to stop spanking or punishing children - you need to avoid the slightest of offense in children. The only way to avoid guilt under this commandment is to be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you offend your child. Whenever a child is upset in relation to your action or inaction, including your set limit, you have offended them, and thus you need to apologize. Refusing to apologize to a child alone is entitlement. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christians who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, or "power to the parent", namely the power to spank or punish children. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, as a form of civil disobedience.

In order to properly set limits with children, you need to avoid offending them as a parenting paradigm. Whenever your stated limit offends the child, you need to apologize with them by reassuring them of your good intent, and also by explaining to children why the limit needed to be set. If you are unwilling to reassure a crying child, you are entitled just for that, namely if you defend your non-apology in open court. 

Under the customary law of the Early Church, parents could only set limits under certain specific instances, namely when the child is behaving in an unsafe or immoral manner, or else if a child asked for something unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Usually, parents then used  nicer-sounding words as opposed to a flat out "no", such as "that won't work", "that can't happen", or "that isn't possible". The word "no" was saved for when it counted, for example in the case of casual sex in pubescent children.

If you are willing to make a meaningful apology to a child at all, you are non-entitled to the degree that you are willing to apologize. The goal in proper Christian parenting is to avoid offense in your child. However, hurt feelings are bound to happen, in which the parent should give a meaningful apology that is warm to the touch. If you do lose you cool in relation to a child, apologize fully and in a heartfelt manner. Apart from that, parents should be honest about their intent behind the limit in a reassuring way. 

Setting limits is not an act of law on the part of parents. Children could take offense to how their parents treated them, but parents could not get angry with their child for anything. Children have the right to take parental actions personally, but parents don't have those rights in relation to children. Any time a child was upset due to parental action or inaction, it was counted as an offense perpetrated hy the parents, and thus parental entitlement. Setting limits should be done from the bottom of your heart, with children trusting in parents in all matters. Parents cannot give lawfully binding orders to their children, and instead simply are their caregiver. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

 

Righteous pampering: Why God wants parents to pamper and baby their children

Many parents oppose the idea of pampering a child. Most American parents think that if they pamper their child too much, that they may end up "spoiling" the child. However, children need to be pampered, not just some of the time, but all of the time.

Pampering children is a commandment from God, as found in Colossians 3:20 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. It is good to use the context as a guidepost with this commandment, with the context telling us how to form a secure attachment with children.

Righteous pampering refers here to a specific form of pampering found in the biblical context. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mom went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mom, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6,  children ranged next to mothers, not allowing mom out of their line of slight, seemingly being attached at the hip, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children under age 6 were out and about with mothers, mom wrapped up her child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets. The swaddling blankets - and the child with them - were then tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, Christian parents in the Early Church co-slept next to their children in skin-on-skin sustaining warmth. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the context of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin warmth, with children experiencing the rays of skin-on-skin contact even when merely picked up.

Play is a need for all children, namely children age 6 and up. Children growing up in the Early Church played outside freely after turning 6, naked. This play came in the form of wet and messy play, with children engaging in mud battles as they explored the landscape. However, they always came home afterwards to mom, with mom calling each child by name, then serving them a homecooked meal on a porcelain plate. 

Children under age 6 were very much protected in the Early Church, in a sheltered way. In the biblical context, there existed environmental hazards that could harm children, namely venomous snakes and scorpions, with there being no antivenom then. However, even today, there exist dangers outside the context of the family home, namely oncoming traffic and would-be kidnappers. 

The depraved and entitled parents who are unloving with their children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent! 

Hebrews 12:5-6: Why this passage is not a pro-spanking passage

Many parents get their parenting advice from the Bible. Most American parents think that it is okay to be punitive with a child, and cite the books of Proverbs and Hebrews as proof for their theology. However, the main rod passage exists in the book of Hebrews in the New Testament. The fact of the matter is that the book of Hebrews does not contain parenting advice. 

God's Word reads in Hebrews 12:5-6 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation that speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despite not the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth. 

This passage, when understood correctly, is a comforting passage. The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μαστιγόω (Latin: mastigoó) and is a type of metaphor found in ancient languages known as rod language. In biblical times, you would say "God whipped me hard today" as opposed to "I had a long day at work". God doesn't literally come down from the ramparts and whip His children. However, God does punish His children, like only He can, sending trials and tribulations to those He loves the most. However, God only punishes His children when it doesn't hurt them, whereas earthly parents only punish their children when it does in fact hurt them. This passage was intended as a means of comforting the Hebrew Christians in their persecution from Rome. 

The book of Hebrews does not not contain parenting advice. However, the Pauline Epistles do mention parenting explicitly. God never intended to be seen as a model for how to be an earthly parent. Instead, earthly parents should do attachment parenting, avoiding any sort of offense perceived by a child. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to stop spanking and punishing children - you have to avoid offending your child in any way. The only way around guilt according to this commandment is to be willing to make a meaningful apology whenever you offend your child, especially if you lose your cool with your child. Whenever a child cries a low, "swooshing" cry, or else are upset in any way due to your actions, they are offended by your actions, and thus you need to apologize. Refusal to apologize to an upset child in and of itself is entitlement.  This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, with this Latin phrase meaning "power to the parent", including the power of parents to spank or punish their children. Attachment parenting was a violation of Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, in the form of civil disobedience to Rome. All parents have to do is be willing to meaningfully apologize to children, and then you escape guilt under this commandment.

Spanking is not a biblical concept. All 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - were written by Jews, and no Jew worth mentioning ever has supported the punitive treatment of children. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting for the little ones, with his rod advice being reserved for criminals as a sentence for crime.

When children cry in a certain "swooshing" cry, they need an apology. That cry can come from simply the word "no", in which case the parent should apologize by reassuring them of your good intentions, and also explain why they were told "no". The idea is to explain your intent behind the word "no", and then explain why you had to set a limit. If you instead find yourself defending yourself in relation to limits, especially in terms of "disciplinary rights", you are entitled. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Expanding child abuse definitions: Why the Bible calls for more laws protecting children from abuse

Many parents think that child abuse is a modern concept, and that the ancients had no concept of child abuse. Most American parents support the modern definitions of child abuse. However, the Bible has its own definition child abuse, namely whatever the child victim perceives as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent who is sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel tha they deserve from children. Any parent anger directed towards children was deemed parental entitlement in biblical times. Whenever this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by the child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to stop spanking or punishing your child - you need to avoid the slightest of offense as perceived by a child. The only way to avoid guilt under this commandment is to give a meaningful apology to your child whenever you offend them, especially when you lose your cool with your child. This commandment cross-references both the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, meaning "power to the parent", including the power to spank or punish children. Roman law prohibited attachment parenting, but the Early Christians practiced attachment parenting anyway, as a form of civil disobedience.  

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers to long-term damages from child abuse, including trauma. The ancients did have a basic understanding of trauma. Whenever a child grew up to be atheist, it was seen as a sign of trauma, not simply the atheist being a "lost soul". 

Child sexual abuse was defined instead by the Greek root word πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers here to, at minimum, any sexual advances perceived by a child, even if the child likes what they perceive, as adult fornication of children is a moral crime against God, with this country being defined on the concept of sexual purity.

Child abuse was something prosecuted in the Early Church by way of the council. The investigation usually started with a child confiding into church elders about being abused by parents. The elders then called parents to testify before the council. Parents were required to plea "yea" or "nay" before the council, and if they defended their rights as parents instead, they were excommunicated from the Early Christian Churches of God for parental entitlement.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document, with all 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - being written by Jews, with no Jew worth mentioning ever supporting the punishment of children. All of the writers of the Bible were anti-spanking, with even King Solomon recommending attachment parenting for the little ones - with the rod in Proverbs referring to the 40 minus 1 lashes, which was a form of judicial corporal punishment that was repealed by Christ's Work on the cross. 

The Bible is a founding document of this country, even above the Constitution itself. We as a society glean from the Bible as to how to live. Most of our legal codes come from the Bible. It just so happens that the Bible was written with an anti-spanking bias. The Bible was simply mistranslated at the Latinate level, meaning the Roman Catholic Church wanted to keep a pagan tradition going. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Birth nudity: Understanding the Christian tradition of birth nudity

Many parents think that children need discipline above all else. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, the most important part of parenting is attachment. The best way to give a child attachment is through birth nudity.

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in Colossians 3:20 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment, where children were allowed to cry, and where mothers cooed while responding to the every vulnerable cry of children. The context simply tells us how to form a secure attachment to children, with the Early Christian method consisting of birth nudity.

Birth nudity was the way of the Early Christians in order to gel a bond with children. Children in biblical times went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the context of the family home. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed before picking up the child, and from there, the child was held close to the bosom of mothers in skin-on-skin sustaining warmth. When the child was milk-dependent, the mother held the child close to her teat, and breastfed the child. When sustaining warmth alone did not soothe the child, the mother scrambled to figure out the reason for the child's cries, through trial and error.

Birth nudity can be applied today, albeit with some tweaking due to the secular laws on human decency. However, even in the Early Church, young children under age 6 were wrapped up in swaddling blankets when in public, covering up their nude vulnerability. The idea today is to allow children to run around the house naked, with a set of clothing hanging somewhere in a neutral location of the household. When children find the clothing, they should be encouraged to wear it. Usually, children want to wear the clothing by age 6, out of curiosity and a desire to prove their independence. 

The idea of birth nudity is for mother and child to form a secure bond with each other, in skin-on-skin format. The Early Christians had no concept of modesty apart from not making a fashion statement. Children then were allowed to go naked wherever they went, with parents also allowed to take off their garb if they were too hot. However, even today, birth nudity is lawful completely when it takes place within the context of the family home. Women in biblical times did not even shave, even in the context of parenting, as that was a luxury for wealthy women, with Christian parents then being dirt poor. 

There is a right way and a wrong way to do birth nudity. Birth nudity in Old Order Mennonite homes means striking your naked child in order to shame them for their nudity. However, more moderate Mennonites simply allow children to go naked as an opportunity to gel a bond with children. 

Birth nudity is a Christian tradition that predates the physical punishment of children by centuries. The Early Christians practiced attachment parenting by way of birth nudity, as did the Ancient Jews before then. Children were in constant closeness to mothers in biblical times. This context can be applied today, as long as the basics on the child and on the mother are covered up when in public. However, the tender, vulnerable nudity between mother and child is still allowed within the context of the family home. The way around public decency laws is to wrap up your young child next to your bosom in swaddling blankets. 

The depraved and entitled parents who punish their children for not wearing clothing will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Catching children being good: How to instruct your children in good behavior the right way (meaning without punitive measures)

Many parents want their children to have discipline. However, most parents think that they should discipline their child by way of catching them doing something wrong, and then punishing children when they do in fact do something wrong by the parental standard.

God's Law on child discipline is spelled out to fathers especially in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. Child discipline should not offend children in any way, shape, or form. However, sometimes you need to set limits in a way that offends the child, in which case the limit should come with a meaningful apology, especially if the limit was set out of anger instead of out of worry or concern. Any parent anger, especially in the course of child discipline, was deemed parental entitlement. This stanza of Eph. 6:4 refers to any upset or offense perceived by the child, and clarifies how children should be brought up in a Christian home - meaning without any offense such as punishment or force.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here to a specific form of nurturing, namely of the teaching kind. Whenever children growing up in the Early Church were caught in the act of being good, such as showing self-control or patience, they were lavishly praised and encouraged to keep up the good work. Christian parents in the Early Church set a good example for their children, but backed it up with praise and encouragement, as opposed to punishment and force. In the Early Church, children were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. When children did not act in a civilized manner, it was excused by parents, with parents then waiting for children to show maturity on their own. Children also needed religious instruction, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers here to children hearing out the Christian warning of fathers. Starting at age 6, fathers left out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged to keep on studying the Bible. From  there, religious instruction came in the form of question and answer, with children being curious about Scripture, and with fathers giving pointers as to the context. The warning of fathers came in the form of explaining the context to children.

Parents sometimes had to set limits with children, usually when the child was behaving in an unsafe or immoral manner. This setting of limits usually came in the form of declining a request, or else as a request from children out of the bottom of the parents' heart. Children usually were offended by the limits, in which case parents apologized by giving reassurance and an explanation for the limit set. Even then, a flat out word "no" was seldom used, with parents instead using nicer-sounding language such as "that won't work", "that can't happen", or "that isn't possible" Even then, the limit came with a meaningful apology that reassures children as to the good intent of parents. Limits were backed up not by punishment, but instead praise and encouragement.- namely a "thank you for understanding". Righteous apology came with all limits set by parents that upset or offended children. However, parents should not set limits except when absolutely necessary, as most childhood behaviors are developmentally appropriate, meaning the child will eventually grow out of the behavior. But, if the child is endangering themselves physically, mentally, or spiritually, the parent should set a limit out of the bottom of their heart. The Early Christians did not use their law to set limits in parenting, but instead gently set a limit and apologized if the limit upset the child. The child had the right to take offense to a parent's limit, in which case the only way out of guilt was to apologize to the child. Parents of dependent children could not take offense to their child's misbehavior. Limits should not be set out of anger, but instead out of worry or concern for the child's welfare.

In Christian households in the Early Church, mothers nurtured up close, with fathers nurturing from afar. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning kept away from the parent attraction from fathers. After age 6, children usually showed interest in religion, and once the child discovered the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged to keep up the good work.

Children oftentimes cried before age 6, and no matter how tired the mother was, the father was not allowed "hand-me-down-the-slate" gaslighting. This was referred to in ancient tribal languages as "gunning down" a child who won't stop crying. This way out for mothers was not an option - mothers had to scramble to figure out what the child actually needed. Fathers did have a sexual attachment to his children, but of the connotational type. Think spray tan oil on the naked body of children, with children going naked in biblical times wherever they went. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pedophilic children: How to accommodate your pedophilic child

Many parents worry about their child being abused by a pedophile. This is a common fear among parents. However, what if the child in question is a pedophile? Most parents don't know what to do with a pedophilic child. However, the fact of the matter is that many children are pedophiles, and if not that, many children are predestined to become pedophiles, once they turn 16.

A pedophile is not an anger packet. Instead, a pedophile is a human being with a primary or exclusive sexual preference for children under age 14. Most pedophiles have a moderate-severe form of autism that is child-centered in presentation. Most pedophiles have an autistic specialty in children in terms of knowledge and/or social skills. Most pedophiles are ambiverts, meaning they keep to themselves, and only come out of their autistic shell when a child is in the vicinity. I myself am a pedophile, and dote on other people's children by way of cooing when they show excitement or cry. A pedophile is the man that mothers, meaning any man who acts as a mother towards a child is a pedophile. Any individual with autism who gets along naturally with children is surely a pedophile, as most individuals with autism are easily annoyed by children. Many times, pedophiles are the child being abused, in which case their abuser is using their pedophilic identity as a grooming excuse. Usually, the grooming comes in the form of a false report of child abuse to the authorities, triangulating the police against the pedophilic child. 

Pedophilia, in most cases, is not a predatory hankering for a child, but is instead a sexual curiosity about the child form. Most teenagers with pedophilia are attracted to much younger children, but in the context of being curious about body parts of the child. The best way to deal with this attraction to children is to show your child picture books intended to educate children on human anatomy and sexuality. Usually, that's all a child needs if they are a pedophile.

I am a pedophile, but I have a mother who is understanding of my disorder. She is the type of mother that is easy to talk to, including with matters concerning pedophilia. I have appointed her as my accountability partner, meaning that if I develop an infatuation towards a child, to confide into her the attraction, and vent the attraction to her in clinical celebratory format.

Most male pedophiles are not misogynists. They simply are attracted to children and not women. Most pedophiles see women as just people. Pedophiles can appear skittish when women are attracted to them, usually because they are not attracted to grown women in the slightest. I myself don't mind the attraction, but some pedophiles are threatened whenever a woman is attracted to them.

Pedophilia is both a sexual preference and a mental disorder. It remains a mental health disorder because the core of pedophilic attraction going towards children. This alone can limit the options of the pedophile come adulthood, because they may never know love or have a family of their own. Any time a pedophilic attraction interferes with functioning in any way, it is a mental health disorder. However, it is okay to not be okay. Pedophilia is a form of not being okay, but it should never hurt to reach out for help when you can't go it alone. However, the help just isn't there - either the therapist abuses the client with help abuse, or the therapist reports the pedophile to the child protection authorities.. All a pedophile usually needs is a listening ear, where they can unload baggage that has been haunting them since childhood. It is normal to struggle, including with pedophilia - we all struggle in some way as human beings, as nobody is perfect. The last perfect man was nailed to a cross, and only because He was God. 

It is imperative that you allow your pedophilic child to masturbate to thoughts of children, as long as you teach them to avoid pornography of any kind. Righteous masturbation, as an acronym, holds that masturbation can be used as a form of therapy where the sexual desire for children is re-channeled to sexual fantasies of children, as opposed to being driven to sexually abusing a child.

How do you know that your child is a pedophile? Be the parent that is easy to talk to, and state in retrospect that they can talk to you about anything, including sexual desires that may haunt them. If they disclose tearfully, they are likely horrified that they are attracted to children in any way. But, the attraction cannot be cured, and can be abstained from, and so the child had to learn how to feel comfortable in their own skin knowing that they are a pedophile. I myself was the exception amongst pedophiles, as I made tone-deaf disclosures and also used infatuation grooming with children. Most pedophiles are not like me, and know and respect boundaries around children. 1 in 4 pedophiles have sexually abused a child, and usually, it happens as a form of sexual harassment - they mean well, but they committed the crime and have to face the music. 

There is a lot of bad advice out there on how to protect your pedophilic child from false accusations, coming from a group of civil libertarian attorneys that defend the criminals. The main advice given to pedophiles is to fight, and fighting, until you run out of fight, and then disclose only partially what happened. The police advice says to open your life up to the public, and answer to the court of the police. Answerence to the court is a credible way to show to the police that you are innocent, as no sex offender ever defends themselves that way. I have luck winning over police in an investigation involving a case where I was accused of rape, but actually only committed sexual harassment, with the statute of limitations running out for summary offenses such as harassment. The police have long let me off because I showed no intent of harm towards the cousin I sexually harassed in the attic of my grandparents' former house. If I would have put up a moat, and refused to talk, I might be in prison for a crime that I didn't commit. However, I am not innocent, as we all as adults are guilty of something in relation to children, even if the law and/or the police excuse it. Your child could be the one targeted by a false accusator, usually in the form of anti-pedophile grooming, usually in states where there is hope of the false accusator raping their victim in a police raid. Most pedophiles have done nothing wrong, and if they have, they meant no harm by it. Most pedophilic abusers have a developmental disability, and don't realize that their offense is morally or legally wrong - they usually get off on insanity due to having a low IQ. Most sex offenders cannot be protected using the insanity offense, but most pedophilic offenders are protected by that defense. However, I personally support locking up mentally disabled sexual offenders once discovered by the authorities. Most pedophiles who have a developmental disability simply are a big kid around much younger children, and can easily relate to children more than they can adults.

Pedophiles fare better in police investigations in states that use family values policing as a means of enforcing the law. Here in Pennsylvania, we have predator police, and they believe whatever story is satiating to their sexual desire for raping guilty people. It is a form of hybristophilia, but in the context of a man. The police here have a hankering for criminals, and can easily be promised with a false raid. I respect the police, but I don't like the rape methods of police here in Pennsylvania. This hankering for guilty people can easily confuse police who receive a false and/or misleading report. This form of false report is known as anti-pedophile grooming. One thing to tell your children in such a police investigation is to not take abuser advice, and point out to the police that they are being groomed, using the word "groomed" in a sentence on a police screen. I myself was targeted by three family members who made up a false report of child abuse in predictive format, with testimony from my cousin triggering a rape investigation where there was only sexual harassment. All the police had to do was issue a warning at my doorstep, but they misinterpreted my cousin's testimony and accused her of being a victim of rape. 

I support the police because the police system can easily be used to protect pedophiles who fall victim to a crime. A pedophile is like an individual with autism in that they are a victim/abuser, and can fall on both the victim and the abuser side of the law. Most pedophiles are victims of child abuse, not perpetrators of child abuse. A pedophilic child is an easy target for a sex offender to project a narcissist on, because everyone would then side with the sex offender and think the child was the abuser. It is a classic case of a victim being lumped in with their abuser. That is what is so dangerous about pedophile hysteria. I don't blame the police, but instead blame the person making the false report of child abuse against a pedophile. I support the police as a valid higher authority, meaning an extension of the God-ordained law of the land. If I didn't support the police, I might be sitting in a jail cell for a crime that I didn't commit.

The depraved and decadent, defiled sex offenders who target pedophilic children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Child discipline: How to discipline your child without punishment or force

Many parents want their children to have discipline. This is a common want in parents. However, most American parents equate discipline with punishment. However, proper Christian discipline of children opposes the concept of punishment at all. 

Child discipline is spelled out in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The first stanza of this verse clarifies for the second as to discipline not being punitive in nature. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to avoid spanking or punishing children - you need to not offend children at all in the course of disciplining them. The only way to fully escape guilt concerning this commandment is to be willing to make a meaningful apology whenever you offend your child, especially when you lose your cool, but also whenever you have to set a limit that offends the child. This first stanza of Eph. 6:4 was intended by the Apostle Paul to clarify that it is not okay to offend your child with your own entitlement, but at the same time, children need discipline. This verse, as a whole, advocates non-punitive means of discipline. 

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to a specific type of nurturing, namely the teaching type. Whenever children were caught in the act of being good, they were given lavish praise and encouragement for more good behavior of the same. Christian parents in the Early Church set a good example for their children, but backed up their example with praise and encouragement, not punishment and force. However, any discipline that is intended to offend children is considered unlawful under God's Law. Children need religious instruction, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia)  and refers here to a child hearing out the Christian warning of fathers. Children growing up in the Early Church were introduced to religion by parents leaving out a Bible, for the child to discover and explore. The idea is that when you catch your child in the act of reading the Bible, give them lavish praise and encouragement for more of the same in terms of Bible study. From there, religious study in Christian households in the Early Church came in the form of question and answer, with children being curious about Scripture, and with fathers giving pointers as to the context. Most children end up at the same religious conclusions of their parents in terms of childhood religious development.  

Christian fathers in the Early Church were expected to discipline their children, but at the same time, fathers were not allowed to offend their children in any way in the course of disciplining their children. Instead, fathers avoided offense of children by way of apologizing to children whenever the father hurt the child's feelings, with fathers also avoiding the slightest of personal offense perceived by their child. 

Unlike other ancient cultures, fathers in the Early Church did not use "hand-me-down-the-slate" gaslighting with their children. Instead, mothers responded to the child's every cry, without handing the child over to the father when she had enough of a child crying. The role of fathers was to discipline children by catching them being good. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is tthe ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

The word "no": Why children need to hear the word "no" seldom (meaning almost never)

Many parents think that they have the "right" to tell a child "no" whenever they see fit. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents say "no" all of the time. However, God's Law commands parents not only to avoid spanking and punishment, but instead to avoid offending their child. This offense can come from the word "no". 

God's Law states in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to avoid spanking or punishing children - you have to avoid offending your child in the slightest, including by way of the frequent use of the word "no". The only way to avoid offense perceived by your child is to give a meaningful apology whenever you offend your child. Child abuse, like all abuse, happens when a victim is offended by the entitlement of a perpetrator.

One way to offend a child is to tell them "no". Whenever Christian parents in the Early Church had to say "no", they apologized by reassuring children of their good intentions, and also explaining to children why they were told "no". Under customary law then, the word "no" was only allowed from parents when the child wanted something unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Even then, parents usually found a nicer-sounding way to decline a request, namely "that can't happen", "that isn't possible", or "that won't work". 

The word "no" is oftentimes used when the parent is angry with their child, meaning the parent feels annoyed by the child's constant requests. The word "no" should never be used out of anger. A parent should instead say "no" out of worry or concern.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Crying: Why crying is not bad behavior in children

Many parents think that children cry in order to "undermine parental authority". This is a common motive for punishing children. However, the fact of the matter is that children always cry for a reason. Most of the time, the child is advocating a vulnerable need.

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in Colossians 3:20 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: as is well pleasing unto the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their child, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for children, meeting children's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46; 1Cor. 13:4-8.

Most parents punish a crying child, thinking that children are out to "undermine parental authority". However, Christian parents in the Early Church knew more than parents today that children always cry for a reason, with children usually crying in order to petition a vulnerable need from parents. Children then got most of what they wanted, and everything that they needed. 

Under customary law in the Early Church, children were understood as having five basic categories of needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - and the greatest of these needs is attachment! Children then cried a deathly, screeching cry when they needed something. If the child was milk-dependent, mothers offered their child their teat. If the child continued to cry, mothers scrambled to figure out the need behind the cry, with the crying being designed by God to break down mothers until the need is fully met. 

Crying, in most cases, is developmentally-appropriate behavior in children, especially when the crying child is under age 6. A child most always cries in order to petition parents for a need. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed before responding to the child's cries, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting it. Usually, all a crying child needs is YOU. 

The depraved and entitled parents who punished their children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent!