The word "no": Why the constant use of the word "no" is child abuse

Many parents use the word "no" frequent and often. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents think children need to hear the word "no" frequent and often. However, the Bible has its own  child abuse definitions - whatever the child victim perceives as abuse. The ancients in the Bible had a concept of child abuse, with child abuse definitions including the frequent and unnecessary use of the word "no". 

Child abuse definitions in the Bible are spelled out in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to stop spanking or punishing their children - you need to avoid the slightest of offense perceived by a child. The only way to avoid guilt completely according to this commandment is to be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you offend your child. Any time you upset your child when dealing with them, including set limits, you have offended your child, and thus you need to apologize. Children need to be reassured of your good intent when told the word "no". This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, and translates roughly to "power to the parent", including the parental power to spank or punish children. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, engaging in civil disobedience to Rome. 

The word "no" is a commonly overused word in parenting. Most American parents think that children need to hear the word "no" frequent and often. However, customary law in the Early Church only allowed the word "no" under the strictest of circumstances - namely when the petitioned requests of children were unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Even then, parents usually elected to use nicer-sounding words to decline a request, namely "that won't work", "that can't happen", or "that's not possible". 

Whenever a child cries or is upset by the offensive conduct by parents, it was deemed child abuse, with the upset in the child standing as judgment on the part of parents. However, parents could not give meaningful offense towards children, as any parent anger in biblical times was seen as entitlement. 

The word "no" damages the parent-child bond when used often. The word "no" should not be used except when absolutely necessary for the best interests of the child. The word "no" should NEVER be used when a parent is angry or frustrated, and if they do, they should apologize to their child with a full apology for losing their cool. Declining a request should instead be done out of worry or concern for a child, not anger or frustration. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!