Parent anger: Why getting angry with your child alone is sin

Many parents think that they have the "right" to get angry with their children. This is a common attitude in American parents. However, the Bible opposes all anger towards a child. The fact of the matter is that children should not be subject to parent anger under any circumstance. 

God's Law states in Matthew 5:21-22 KJV:

Ye have heard that it was said of them of old time, Thou shalt not kill, and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment: But I say unto you, that whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say to his brother, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.

The phrase "without a cause" means that there is a proper way to be angry with your brother. Anger should only take place in the context of righteous judgment. However, children are immune to the judgment of adults, as children are sacrosanct. Anyone under the age of majority in the Early Church could not be charged with a moral crime, at least while they were still children. Blasphemy offenses in children only counted once the child believer reached adulthood.

Anger at your child is parental entitlement, as denoted by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. However, unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a patent getting sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing just for existing. All parent anger directed towards a child was deemed parental entitlement  Any time that this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

It is mandated in the Bible to oppose parental entitlement at the offense level. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to stop spanking or punishing children - you need to avoid the slightest of offense perceived by a child. The only way around guilt under this commandment fully is to be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you offend your child. It is especially pertinent to apologize to a child when you lose your cool, as any anger at a child comes from entitlement. However, even getting defensive when you offend your child automatically counts as entitlement. Any anger directed towards a child is bound to offend them to some degree, in which case parents must apologize for their fit of anger, and mean their apology, or else be guilty of entitlement. This commandment cross-references both the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", including the power to spank or punish a child. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, in civil disobedience to Rome. 

Parent anger was seen in biblical times as akin to a viper lashing out at a defenseless child. Instead, parenting then was motivated by worry or concern, not anger or frustration. Whenever you find yourself angry with your child, act the opposite of your parent anger. Any parent anger directed towards a child is parental entitlement, and requires a full length apology whenever you lose your cool with your child. 

However, any limit setting might offend a child.. However, children need limits. Thus, children need to hear you reassurance of your good intent whenever you set a limit with them, with this type of apology being known as a Hebraic apology. Limits should never be set out of anger, as any parent anger directed towards a child counts as entitlement. If you refuse to apologize to a child that you upset, you are entitled. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!