How to pacify a crying child in public

Many parents want to know how to pacify a child in public. This is a common want on the part of parents. Most children cry in public at some point. There is a quick and simple way to pacify a child that is enjoyable for the two of you, namely swaddling blankets for the little one.

Using swaddling blankets with children is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your children in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to selflessly serve their children, just as they would God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral stature prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in their secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon. 

Parents in biblical times pacified their children by way of wrapping up their child in swaddling blankets. These swaddling blankets were tied from the left breast, and then across the dot to the right leg, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. From there, the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Whenever a child cried, mothers cooed before holding the child closer to her bosom, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting those needs. The swaddling blankets were made of velvet, which was grown throughout the Ancient Middle East.

Crying, in biblical times, was pacified immediately in children when they were held close to the bosom of mother. Children then found ease and comfort while being wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers. Children felt nice and cozy in the warmth of mothers. Children also enjoyed the view.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why God wants parents to pamper and baby their children

Many parents think that pampering and babying children is the irresponsible choice. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, the fact of the matter is that God wants children to be pampered and babied by parents. 

Righteous pampering was part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to serve their children selflessly, just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages of offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Righteous pampering does not refer to any old pampering of a child, but to parents pampering and babying their children in a certain specific way. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness with mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did her child.  For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held, either in mom's loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged beside mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever the child cried, mothers cooed at the child before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need and then met that need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed, they got it. Whenever children under age 6 were out and about with mothers, mom wrapped up the child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this skin-on-skin warmth happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which was when children usually wanted their own place to sleep. Children in biblical times went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin sustaining warmth, with children experiencing the rays of skin-on-skin warmth even while being picked up. 

In biblical times, after children turned age 6, they played outside freely, naked. Children in biblical times engaged in wet and messy play. Children then travelled farther and farther from home, venturing the terrain. However, children had to check in with mothers before playing outside, to tell her where they were going. Come evening, children were called one by one, and were treated to a warm, homecooked meal cooked by mom, after being cleaned up by mom with a handrag.

Children under age 6 were protected, in a sheltered way. Children under age 6 rarely left the house, and that was largely due to environmental hazards that existed outside, with those hazards including venomous snakes and scorpions. Even today, there exist hazards outside, namely busy traffic and would-be kidnappers. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Redefining child abuse: Why the Bible calls for expanding child abuse definitions

Many parents think that the ancients had no concept of childhood, let along child abuse. This is a common belief amongst American parents. However, the fact of the matter is that the ancients did have a concept of child abuse, with child abuse being defined in the Early Church as the slightest of offenses or damages stemming from parental entitlement.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is when parents are sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any parent anger directed towards children then was deemed parental entitlement. Whenever this sense of entitlement was perceived as offensive or damaging by a child, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in it original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishment, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" and is defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your children hostage merely for thing for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers to long-term damages, namely trauma. The ancients did have a concept of trauma. Atheism was seen as evidence of child abuse. Whenever a child lost heart, and lost faith in God, they were seen as the victim of child abuse, not blasphemers rebelling against the church.

Punitive parenting was seen in biblical times as any parenting motivated by anger. Parent anger towards children was seen in the Early Church as akin to a viper lashing out at a child. Parents in the Early Church only got angry in order to lay claim onto their children, thereby voicing protective anger on behalf of the child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke your children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Oppositional-defiant disorder: Why children with ODD need less limits (not more)

Many children each year are diagnosed with oppositional-defiant disorder (ODD). Most parents of children with ODD think that a child with that disorder need to learn hard lessons. However, the fact of the matter is that children who have ODD need LESS limits, meaning not more.

Dealing with the rebelliousness and pridefulness attitudes of children is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment ultimately comes from parent submission, where parents serve children selflessly, just as they would God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimand, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

A key feature of ODD is the strong counterwill. Whenever you try to control anyone, expect them to fight back. Most children can be overpowered by an adult, but at what cost to the child? With children who have ODD, they can literally overpower their own parents. What can be done about this battle of wills? Give up. Give up the fight, and give into the demands of your child. You may find that your child isn't asking for much - meaning they usually just need YOU.

Children growing up in the Early Church usually settled down next to mom during the first 6 years of childhood. However, some children were ready for the world, before literally being ready. Christian parents in the Early Church had a label for such a child - a stand-beside-me child. Mother insisted that the child stand right by her side, but the child usually had a mind of their own. In most cases, children also demanded what they wanted when they wanted it. Stand-beside-me children were the most prized of children. Most children at some point gave up and settled in with mom and dad. Some children have a mind of their own, and they were the stand-beside-me child.

Most children can be controlled by punishment. A child with ODD fights back. ODD in children is usually secondary to another disorder, namely autism, ADHD, and/or bipolar disorder. In most cases, a change of medications will subdue the child's willfulness and rebellion. Some children simply have autism as the primary diagnosis, in which case parents have to put up with parent abuse. If it is just your child, who cares? Most of the time, children beat their parents because they needed something, but didn't have tears to cry out.

However, Christian parents in the Early Church rarely had to face a child beating them up. There are very few instances of a child striking out at their parents in the biblical context. This was because of the closeness between parent and child in Christian homes in the Early Church, where children were never punished for anything. Usually, parents who were abused experienced verbal abuse, meaning taunts and name-calling against mothers. Christian parents in the Early Church cried out loud when their children struck out at them, in the form of righteous wailing.

I myself as a child was never formally diagnosed with ODD, but I sure met the criteria to a T. Today, I find structure and grounding in my Christian faith, with a little help from psychotropic medication, namely lithium carbonate. Before then, I was a bull in a china shop, and could be combattive with adults as a child. I myself felt the heat of all of the adults around me trying to be controlling with me. However, some teachers were nice and kind, and I never saw them as abusive, and behaved well for them.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke your children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Temper tantrums: Why temper tantrums are not bad behavior

Many parents think that children who throw temper tantrums are deserving of punishment. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. The fact of the matter is that parents these days need an attitude adjustment. A child cries because they need love, not because they are "undermining parental authority".

Tending to a tantrumming child is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto the parents. See also Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to serve children selflessly, just as they would God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking  - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

In most cases, when children cry out loud, parents punish their children, thinking that the child is simply being oppositional and defiant. However, the fact of the matter is that whenever a child is throwing a temper tantrum, there is an antecedent behind the temper tantrum. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed, they got it.

Most full-blown temper tantrums ultimately come from children suppressing their cries until they can't hold it back anymore, and then, from there, they let it all out. Christian parents in the Early Church allowed their children to experience all of their emotions. Thus, cries came more frequently, meaning whenever they were self-advocating a need.

Children growing up in the Early Church cried frequently and often for the first 6 years of childhood. Crying children were then given closeness and warmth. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were picked up and held, either in her loving arms, or on her back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing her from their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever children cried, mothers held them close in skin-on-skin mammary closeness. However, when children turned age 6, they started to whine, which is a sign of maturity, meaning they grew out of crying but needed you anyway. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven!

Crying: Why children crying is not bad behavior (and instead is communication)

Many parents think that crying is some scheme to "undermine" the "authority" of parent. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Crying is the number one reason for punishing a child. However, the fact of the matter is that crying always happens for a reason. Most of the time, the child needs YOU.

Tending to the cries of a child is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to serve children selflessly, just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθίζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor toward children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon. 

Most parents punish their children when the child even starts crying. However, the fact of the matter is that children cry in order to communicate. Whenever children cried out for mom, she was always there to respond.  Mothers tended to their children by way of first cooing at children, and then picking up the child from there. From there, children growing up in the Early Church had their every need tended to. 

Cooing is a primal vocalization on the part of mothers, designed by God to put children at ease. From there, children growing up in the Early Church were put at ease, with speaking children then verbalizing what they need. Children were then given all of what they need, and most all of what they want.

Crying is a means that children use to communicate with parents. Whenever a child breaks down crying, they need tender loving care from mom. There are five main categories of need; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - with the greatest of these being attachment. The tired cry was always met with closeness from mom, and thus tiredness was deemed an attachment need in and of itself.

Most childhood behaviors are due to normal stages in child development. It is normal for children under age 6 to cry especially when they fear abandonment. Older children whine or roll their eyes when they don't feel listened to. All a parent has to do is give up the fight, and give in to the demands of children. Once you give into your child's demands, the rest should be a piece of cake.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

The Fifth Commandment: Understanding the commandment to honor parents in context

Many parents feel entitled to being honored by their children. This is a common belief amongst American parents. Most American parent insist on being honored. However, the fact of the matter is that the commandment to honor parents refers to taking care of parents as they age.

God's Law states in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

This passage does not mandate that parents punish their children for "speaking against parents". The fact of the matter is that the commandment to honor parents simply means to care for your parents as they age. However, in order for parents to be deserving of care as they age, they need to earn that honor, meaning that children could shun their abusive parents for the slightest of entitled treatment.

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to serve their children selflessly, as they would God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Parents in biblical times did not insist on honor and respect. Parents first sought to win over their children, so that children could, in turn, care for parents as they age. However, children were not mandated to care for their aging parents. If parents did not give their children anything short of a loving, warm upbringing, they were shunned by their victims, with no questions asked.

I myself had an abusive childhood. However, I honor my parents despite their dishonoring of my former child. But, the only reason I forgive my abusive parents is because they apologized and meant it. I give back to my mother by paying the restaurant bill. But, whenever the topic comes up, I remind her of my trauma.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices. Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

 

Separation anxiety: Why children cry seemingly out of nowhere

Many parents think a child who cries seemingly out of nowhere is out to "undermine" the "authority" of parents. This is a common belief amongst American parents. However, children do not cry out loud simply to "undermine" their parents. They instead cry because they need YOU.

Tending to separation anxiety in children is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment ultimately comes from parent submission, where parents are to serve children selflessly, as they would serve God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

This Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Children sometimes cry seemingly out of nowhere. However, there is always an antecedent behind a child crying. The fact of the matter is that most of the time, children who cry seemingly out of nowhere do so out of separation anxiety. Most children growing up in the Early Church, during the first 6 years of childhood, were morbidly afraid that mom would "go away and never come back".

Children growing up in the Early Church were allowed to feel separation anxiety. Most parents punish their children merely for crying "out of turn". Children growing up in the Early Church let out a screeching, deathly cry when they wanted attachment with mom. Children would not stop crying until mom reassured children of their presence.

The problem today is that children are kept from feeling their entire range of emotions. This means separation anxiety is repressed, waiting to surface when the child can't take it anymore, and then they throw a hand over foot temper tantrum in the middle of a store. Even in that case, the poor child has to face punishment just for being a child and throwing a temper tantrum that embarrasses the parent.

Separation anxiety is a normal stage of childhood development, with children feeling anxiety when they are too young to internalize an image of mom, meaning object permanence. Thus, when separating mom from child, you might as well be realizing a child's worst nightmare - that mom is "gone and will never come back". 

It is recommended that mothers stay home for the first 6 years of their child's childhood. This is because children need to be with mothers during the first 6 years of childhood. Separation happening before age 6 is likely to cause what is an attachment injury. In the Early Church, the father brought home the bread, with mothers being the primary caregiver of children. Children were attached at the mother's hip for the first 6 years of childhood, either by being held for the first 2 years, or by ranging next to mothers for the latter 4 years of babyhood, with babyhood then lasting for the first 6 years of childhood.  

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Punitive parenting: Why the Bible prohibits punitive measures in parenting

Many parents think that punitive parenting is the best way to deal with a child. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, the fact of the matter is that punitive parenting is prohibited in the Bible, with punitive parenting being defined as child abuse under God's Law. 

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is when parents are sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any parent anger directed towards children was seen in biblical times as parental entitlement. When this sense of entitlement was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers to long-term damages from child abuse, namely trauma. The ancients had an understanding of trauma, in the form of seeing who still believes in God. Atheism was not seen in biblical times as anything but a sign of child abuse, and the trauma that comes with it. The church elders then worked to investigate the child abuse, and then purge the abuse from their midst. The council of church elders operated on an inquisitorial bases, directing the investigation into why a grown adult still doesn't believe in God.

Punitive parenting was understood in the Early Church as any parenting motivated by anger. Most Christians in the Early Church saw parent anger as akin to a viper lashing out as a child. That kind of anger was something shielded from children, if it was there. Such punitive parents stood out like ragweed, and were excommunicated from the Early Christian Churches of God once called out by the church elder during an anti-spanking sermon.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous ordering: Why parents are to heel to the commands of their children

Many parents think that they call the shots in the family home. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents want power and prestige over their children. However, the fact of the matter is that children have the right to order parents around.

The concept of righteous ordering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to serve children selflessly, just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they got wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon. 

Parents, under customary law in the Early Church, were to heel to the command of their children, with children issuing orders from their place of rest, and with these orders usually coming in the form of crying or whining. As a general rule, parents were forbidden from telling their children "no". The only exceptions to this rule was when the child's commands were unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Even then, children were given an explanation and reassurance, as per customary law. However, most of the time, children were told nicer alternative phrases than the word "no", such as "that won't work" or "that can't happen".

Righteous ordering is much akin to ordering at a restaurant. You can have it your way, but it has to be on the menu. When an item is out of stock, the server is nice about it, even if you aren't. Parenting involves serving children in a similar way, showing reverence just as they would to God.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Parenting your pedophilic child: Why to accept your pedophilic child

Most parents fear their child being sexually abused by a pedophile. This is a valid and real concern for parents. However, few parents ever factor in the chance of their child developing pedophilia as a mental illness. However, the fact of the matter is that children can be diagnosed with pedophilia by age 16, and can be identified earlier in retrospect.

It is a myth that pedophiles are the ones sexually abusing children, with every single adult posing some risk of sexually abusing a child. However, pedophiles are the last of all adults to sexually abused a child. It is a myth that a pedophile is an anger packet directed towards a child. A pedophile is a person who has a primary or exclusive sexual preference for children under age 14. A pedophile is someone with autism who has child smarts, with these "child smarts" being reflected in the age-oriented sexual preferences of the pedophile.

The idea behind proper pedophile treatment is knowing that the word "pedophile" is not a medical excuse for abuse of any kind. The reason not to use that word is because that word is taken - by individuals who sexually prefer children. "Pedophile" is a celebratory term, meaning should not be an abuser's label. 

What should parents do when they see signs of pedophilia in a child? The first step is to hold space for your child to disclose their pedophilia. Once they do, listen and validate, like listening to someone's heart beat. Anyone familiar with listening to trauma will recognize this advice immediately. Compassionate empathy is what pedophiles need from their parents. 

Pedophilia is simply a sexual curiosity about children. This means that children need to learn about the child's body. There are certain body books that inform children about proper body parts and what to call them. I myself found out what a nude child looked like at a search party that was extended to me (this platform is under investigation). I myself am guilty of sexual harassment motivated by sexual curiosity about children, meaning I just wanted to see things.

Most pedophiles have a history of being sexually shamed by parents. This makes parent trauma being the collective trauma of all pedophiles. I filter the parents by the entitlement in their tone of voice. Most pedophiles are atheist, and blame all Christians for their abuse. Atheism is something that comes from a form of parent trauma coming from parental abuse. My abusive childhood is steeped in pro-parent indoctrination from pro-parent parents who identified to me in a court of law. The idea behind improving your pedophilic child's outcomes is to be there for them. That was the main thing my parents did right, amongst other memories that were either warm or cold in nature. My parents were simply worried sick about me, and even questioned their own parenting in a way that I like. I am now an ex-atheist, because that was my condition when being abused within the law - I need to know God is there to exact vengeance on my parent abuser.

The Greek root word denoting lust in the Bible is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but instead refers to sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement refers to, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. It is okay to look the look, and even think the think about a child, but there is a big difference between thinking the think and doing the deed. These were the values that my abusive liberal parents instilled in me, meaning they tried to stop me from approaching a children that I targeted, out of worry and not prejudice. The worst I got from my parents on that issue was denial that I had a mental illness called pedophilia.

Pedophilia is a valid mental health disorder, meaning not an abuser's label. Most child rapists are not pedophiles, but instead are opportunistic offenders, with any old adult being at some risk for sexually abusing a child. Most adults ignore that side of them, and this is how sexual abuse starts - with the repressed sexual desires coming out sideways, like a ton of bricks. Pedophiles experience things on the surface, and know where child sexual abuse starts - like the back of their hand. I myself can look into a house, and see where I might be alone with a child, and avoid such temptation like a bat out of Hell. I even tar and char my advances towards children with images of Hell. Most pedophiles come to these conclusions on their own, whereas I needed to be taught. Pedophile self-acceptance is not about self-love, but instead is acknowledging a personal flaw. It technically is a sexual orientation, but a flawed one nonetheless, making it a mental disorder.

I myself am a flawed pedophilic adult, and am deserving of absolutely nothing. However,  I can defend a fellow pedophile as I would myself, and most pedophiles do not have the sin count that I have. Many of them have a squeaky clean reputation unheard of in most adults. I sure do like myself, fantasies and all, even while without insisting that others like them or me. I just don't insist on good appearances, and don't think of myself as being a good person. I instead know that I am a flawed person. I am non-deserving of appearances, and deserve absolutely nothing in relation to children. I just am allowed fantasies, and also marvel at how far I have come in terms of pedophile progress. When answering what I like most about myself, I would say that my child fantasies are what I lean on in order to cope. I simply needed to avoid children, not out of self-hatred, but instead to protect children from my sexual impulses, as I did not know the boundaries until I took a leave of absence in order to purge it all. My mother must worry sick about me even today, just as she was then. I myself have a history of bipolar mania, and I needed some religion in order to ground myself - and grounded is all that will ever come of it. I myself have a sin count a mile long in relation to children. Most pedophiles simply have desires to accept. I myself have a sin count that I need to put to rest. Don't we all as adults have an entitlement problem in relation to children, in some way, in some form? I sure have that sense of entitlement centered at the penile ductile level, where it will stay until my dying day. My main entitlement problem was sexual want directed towards a child, in the form of flaming desire for romantic closeness to children, with romantic passions being a moral crime under my Christian faith. I myself am now under investigation for a rape, when all that happened was sexual harassment. I actually did the deed by way of antisocial "rough-play". She only told because she was told to by her parents, and everyone assumed she meant "rape" when she is a good friend of mine, and will always have a special bond with her. She told the truth, but lies came because of it, with the police acting on a previous false report from the anti-children's rights syndicate. I myself stand by my cousin, as all this scrutiny must be exacting a toll on her. I omit her name for her own privacy's sake. I am looking forward to cooperating with the investigation as it continues, and open my life to the public. I cooperate with the police as per my Christian faith, with me subjecting myself to the law of the land as I would any authority.

The depraved and entitled parents who sexually shame their pedophilic children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplicesl! Repent!

Righteous co-sleeping: Why God wants parents to sleep next to their children

Many parents think that co-sleeping is the irresponsible choice on the part of parents. This is a common attitude on the part of parents. However, the fact of the matter is that not only is co-sleeping the responsible sleeping arrangement, but it also helps prevent child sexual abuse. 

Righteous co-sleeping is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of children. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to serve their children selflessly, just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment in his secular writings. Paull may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

It is common knowledge that children under age 6 oftentimes refuse to go to bed. Bedtime refusal is a common reason for parents punishing their children. However, the fact of the matter is that children under age 6 are not ready to sleep on their own. Children under age 6 had a primal fear of being devoured by predators. You might argue that no predators exist today. You would be wrong. Most child sexual abuse happens in the form of a bedtime ritual, with fathers usually sneaking into the child's room and, from there, rapes the child. However, this form of abuse usually could not happen in the Early Church, as the mother was right there, perhaps using herself as a human shield against the sexual wrath of fathers. 

The main reason for parents refusing to sleep next to their children comes from fearmongering on the part of pediatricians and mental health professionals serving children, with terms such as "sleep dependence". However, the fact of the matter is that co-sleeping, in the Early Church, happened every night in skin-on-skin warmth, with this co-sleeping usually ending at the onset of puberty, which is when most children wanted their own place to sleep. However, even in the case of extended co-sleeping, there always is an end to co-sleeping. Extended co-sleeping is a sign of autism, bipolar disorder, and/or ADHD. I myself have autism, and didn't sleep on my own until age 16, which was a means of asserting my independence.

Co-sleeping is the perfect way to gel a bond between parent and child. Co-sleeping in biblical times happened in skin-on-skin format, with the family bed happening in the nude every night. The father put his robe on a hanger. Mothers also put her loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron on a hanger. Children were closely guarded by mothers, with her acting as a stand-between between the child and their father. This stand-between setup helped mothers bond securely with their .

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Benign" deprivation: Why children need everything that they need

Many parents buy into their "right" of parents to use "benign" deprivation in order to choose what needs they feel like heeling to. However, proper Christian parenting involves meeting a child's every vulnerable need, meaning ALL needs, not just those that parents "feel like" meeting. 

The concept of "benign" deprivation is a violation of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV: 

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of children. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to serve their children selflessly, just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

"Benign" deprivation is an aspect of punitive parenting where parents ignore some of a child's needs to focus on what the child "really" needs. However, children growing up in the Early Church had their EVERY need met. Whenever the child cried, mothers cooed at children before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting that need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever children needed from mom, they got it.

A common way that parents deprive their children of needs is saying "no" all of the time. However, customary law in biblical times, by default, prohibited the word "no" being used on children. However, the exception to this general rule was when children asked for things that were unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Even then, parents were required to give reassurance and an explanation. Parents then usually cushioned the punch by using nicer sounding words such as "that won't work" or "that can't happen". 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand.

Mutual respect: Why parents need to earn their respect from children

Many parents feel entitled to respect from children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents feel deserving of respect from children. However, the fact of the matter is that respect for parents is earned, not handed out for free on a silver platter.

The doctrine of mutual respect is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to selflessly serve their children, just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children from punishment one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Respect for parents was a thing for children growing up in the Early Church. However, this respect came in the form of closeness to parents, as opposed to fear of parents. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following her from room to room, not leavimg mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever a child cried, mom cooed at children before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting that need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever children needed, they got it. When children under age 6 were out and about with mothers, mom wrapped up their child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Children growing up in the Early Church went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked in the confines of the family home. This birth nudity helped to facilitate easy skin-on-skin contact, with rays of skin-on-skin warmth happening even when the child was merely picked up. 

Children, in most cases, respected their parents as adults, by giving back to their parents in some way. I myself pay for the restaurant bill when out and about with my mother. However, parents had to earn the respect that they received by forming a secure attachment. All the Fifth Commandment means is to take care of your parents as they age, as a show of gratitude for all of the fond memories with parents. However, you can disown your parents whenever they are entitled or abusive in nature

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand.

Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the biblical way of doing time-in

Many parents these days rely on time-out as an alternative punishment to corporal punishment. This is a common setup in the American home. However, the Bible prohibits any form of punishments hor reprimands, including time-out. Instead, God wants parents to do time-in. There are many ways of doing time-in, with some parents even sending children to a "calming corner". However, there is a biblical way of doing time-in - mammary closeness.

Doing time-in is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to selflessly serve children just as they would God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, bur not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of children in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Time-in can be done in many ways, including things such as a "calming corner". However, in biblical times, there was only one way to do time-in - mammary closeness. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed before picking up the child, then holding the child next to her bosom in mammary closeness, perhaps co-snuggling with children in skin-on-skin closeness. From there, mom diagnosed the need before meeting that need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed, they got it.

Breastfeeding and mammary closeness go hand in hand. Children who were milk-dependent remained so until the time came that the child refused to accept the teat of mothers. Children usually rejected the teat of mothers by age 2, but sometimes, children didn't unlatch until age 6 or even beyond. In biblical times, mothers breastfed children whenever she was called to, including in public.

Children under age 6, when out and about in public with mothers, were wrapped up next up to mom's bosom in swaddling blankets. The swaddling blankets were tied from the left breast, and then across the dot to the right leg, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. From there, the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress thar resembled an apron. Whenever children cried, they were held even closer to mom's bosom, in mammary closeness. The swaddling blankets were made of velvet, which grew throughout the Ancient Middle East.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! \Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why parents are to pamper and baby their children

Many parents think that children don't need to be pampered. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, in biblical times, children were pampered and babied. The fact of the matter is that the children need to be pampered and babied. God wants parents to pamper and baby their children. 

Righteous pampering is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to serve children selflessly as they would God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-45.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and here refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a morals statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Righteous pampering in the Bible did not involve any old pampering. Instead, the Bible, when using the context as a guidepost, called for a certain specific form of pampering and babying children. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning wherever mom went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, usually in her loving arms, but also on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, following mom around from room to room, not letting mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever a child cried, mothers cooed before picking up the child, and from there, she diagnosed the need and then met that need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed, they got it. When mothers and children under 6 were out in public, mom wrapped up their child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this co-sleeping setup happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which is when most children wanted their own place to sleep. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin contact, with children getting rays of skin-on-skin closeness even when simply picked up.

After turning age 6, children played freely outside, naked. Older children in biblical times engaged in wet and messy play, with children exploring the terrain, and with children travelling farther and farther from home. However, children needed to check in with mom first, and tell her where they were going. Come evening, children were called - one by one - and were each given a warm, homecooked meal on a porcelain plate, after mothers cleaned up the mess on their children with a handrag. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers, recharging for another day's play.

Children under age 6 were protected, in a sheltered way. Children under age 6 could not appreciate the dangers that existed outside, which included venomous snakes or scorpions. Today, the dangers that exist include busy traffic and would-be kidnappers. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! \Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Expanding child abuse definitions: Why the Bible calls for more laws protecting children

Many parents believe that the Bible has no answers on the issue of child abuse. This is a common belief amongst American parents. However, the ancients did have a concept of child abuse, with child abuse being determined by the perceptions of children.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is when parents are sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any parent anger directed towards a child was deemed parental entitlement then. Whenever this sense of entitlement was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging , it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers to children losing heart, meaning trauma. Whenever a child grew up to be atheist, parents were immediately charged with child abuse. Atheism then was seen then as evidence of child abuse, with there being no statute or limitations for parents to invoke before the council.

The Early Christians had a concept of child abuse. Child abuse was defined as under the Law as whatever the child perceived as abuse. When children self-reported\child abuse, the parents were brought before a council of 3 elders. If the parents were convicted of child abuse, the child was given a choice - parents or child saviors. Most child saviors were male pedophiles, but women could also be deacons, in which case they were usually female survivors of child abuse.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Honor parents: Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Many parents think that they are entitled to being honored by their children. This is a common wish on the part of parents. However, the Fifth Commandment simply refers to caring for aging parents, and only if they earned such care. 

God's Law states in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

This commandment simply means that aging parents were cared for in Ancient Israelite society. However, parents had to earn being cared for, and that meant parents had to care for their children when they were still young. If parents were abusive at all, children could shun their parents.

Honoring parents is a part of the doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment ultimately came from  parent submission, where parents are to selflessly serve their children as they would God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Proper parenting, as understood in its original context, reaped rewards for parents later on. Most parents in the Early Church were attachment parents, and loved their children deeply. The rewards came later, in the form of children caring for aging parents, or else with children giving back to their parents in some way. I myself honor my mother by paying the restaurant bill. Maybe my mother did abuse me, but I forgive while still remembering what she did to me. If she wasn't sorry, I could disown her just for that.

The depraved and entitled patents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Separation anxiety: Why children sometimes cry for seemingly no reason at all

Many parents think that children cry out of nowhere. This is normal behavior on the part of children. The fact of the matter is that children under age 6 cry out of nowhere due to separation anxiety. Separation anxiety is a normal stage of child development. 

Tending to children in the throes of separation anxiety is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: as this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This Greek root word ultimately refers to secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to serve children selflessly just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking or punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Children sometimes cry for seemingly no reason at all. However, the every cry of a child had a need behind it. Most of the time, children needed mom the most. A common reason for children to cry out loud is separation anxiety. This separation anxiety involved children being morbidly afraid of mom "going away and never coming back".

Children growing up in the Early Church were allowed to feel separation anxiety. Children then let out a deathly, screeching cry when mom was out of sight, and otherwise were seemingly attached to mom's hip. However, most children are never able to experience these emotions due to being punished for even crying "out of turn"'.

Children growing up in the Early Church, like today, needed reassurance that mom wasn't going anywhere. Children under age 6 struggled with object permanence, meaning that they didn't internalize mom's mental image yet. Thus, children younger than age 6 needed mom's constant presence, with mom instead staying put and not leaving her child's side. 

It is recommended that mothers stay home with their children for the first 6 years of childhood. Leaving children at a daycare facility runs the risk of children developing an attachment injury, meaning they cry out for you past age 6, with their crying keeping day care workers on their feet. In the Early Church, fathers brought home the bread, with mothers tending to children. That was because children needed mom's presence in order to feel safe and secure.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices. Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous ordering: Why parents are to heel to the command of children

Many parents think that they call the shots. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents demand that children listen to them. However, the Bible, when understood in context, endorses parents heeling to the command of children. 

The doctrine of righteous ordering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission to children. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Righteous ordering means that children have the right to order their parents around from their place of rest, with parents heeling to the command of their children. By default, Christian parents in the Early Church were prohibited under customary law from telling their children "no". The only exceptions to this general rule is if the orders from children were unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Even then, when children were told "no", it came with reassurance and an explanation. Even in that case, parents usually used nicer words than an abrupt "no" such as "that won't work" or "that can't happen".

Righteous ordering can be understood as akin to ordering at a restaurant. You can have it your way, but it has to be on the menu. If an item is unavailable, the waitress is nice about it, even if you aren't. Bringing up children is much like being a waitress at a restaurant. A waitress serves others selflessly, just as a parent serves their children selflessly.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Crying: Why children crying is not bad behavior

Many parents have had to deal with it. A child is crying. Most parents assume that the child is trying to "undermine" them. However, the fact of the matter is that children cry out loud when they needed something from mom or dad. 

Tending to a crying child is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parent. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon

Children cried in biblical times, much as they do today. However, mothers then did not interpret crying as a means to "undermine" their "authority". Instead, mothers interpreted the child's every cry as expressing a vulnerable need. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed before picking up the child, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting that need. 

One main reason that children cry is separation anxiety, For the first 6 years of childhood, children cried a screeching, deathly cry when mother was out of the child's line of sight. Children cried in biblical times when they feared that mom would "go away and never come back". Mothers attended to such cries by reassuring children of her presence. 

Another reason for crying in children is the frequent use of the word "no". Under customary law then, the general rule was that parents were prohibited from using the word "no" on their child. The only exception to this general rule was if the child was asking for something unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Even then, parents used nicer sounding words than "no", such as "that won't work" or "that can't happen". From there, children were offered an explanation and a reason for the declining of requests. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!