Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the biblical way of doing time-in

Many parents think a crying child is deserving of punishment. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents punish their children for throwing a temper tantrum. The most common form of child punishment in America is time-out, alongside the occasional disciplinary spanking done "out of love". The fact of the matter is that the Bible prescribes time-in as a means of dealing with the big feelings of children. Mammary closeness is the proper way of doing time-in.

Time-in is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating them as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords on their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely for being "too soft" on their children.

Time-in is a valid parenting tool in Christian attachment parenting. However, there is a right way and a wrong way to do time-in. Most gentle parenting advice says to kneel down before the child who is upset, and listen to them that way. However, the optimal way of doing time-in is by picking up the child, and holding them to your bosom in mammary closeness. In the family home, mother and child were in birth nudity, meaning they both were quartered in the nude next to each other, in constant skin-on-skin closeness for the first 6 years of a child's life. Children older than age 6 were also picked up, and were cradled close to the bosom of mothers, resting in her loving arms.

When mothers were out and about with their young children - under age 6 - they swaddled their children in swaddling blankets, with the child being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress of mothers. The swaddling blankets were made of velvet, which was grown throughout the Ancient Middle East. Swaddling blankets were tied to the left breast of mothers, and then across the dot to the rights leg of mothers, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. Young children who were swaddled in the safety of mother were held closer to her bosom, and if they were milk-dependent, they were breastfed to sleep when they cried. Older children who had their moments were picked up and cradled in the bosom of mothers. 

Mammary closeness is when children is when they are held close to the bosom of mothers, either in the nude in the family home or when out and about when in swaddling blankets. The bosom of mothers is not intended to be sexualized by men. The breasts of women might be attractive to most men, but they are intended by God to comfort children. For some reason, holding your child to that part of the body actually soothes them. 

It should be noted that breastfeeding and tucking children under your shirt in public is actually legal in all 50 states. Breastfeeding in public was common and normal in the Early Church. Tucking children under your shirt in public, in swaddling blankets, was also common and normal in biblical times. There is nothing wrong with breastfeeding or warming up your children in public. Even the Bible allows for breastfeeding or warming up your child in public. Men may look, but modesty laws in the Bible allow for a woman to go completely naked, apart from the secular law that prohibits full frontal nudity of a woman. Men just need to get used to mothers breastfeeding in public. When a milk-dependent child is hungry, he/she is hungry, and mothers shouldn't be forced to breastfeed in the squalor of a dirty bathroom.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Separation anxiety: Why children sometimes cry seemingly out of nowhere

Many parents think that children cry for no reason in order to "undermine my authority". This is a commonly held belief among parents. Most American parents punish their children for crying out of nowhere. However, the fact of the matter is that most crying out of nowhere is due to suppressed separation anxiety. Christian attachment parenting helps children experience their developmentally normal separation anxiety.

The way to deal with separation anxiety is denoted in the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely for being "too soft" on their children.

Separation anxiety is a normal developmental stage for children under age 6. Children under age 6, in biblical times, were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the child went, so did the mother. Mother and child were quartered in birth nudity, meaning that mother and child were in the nude in the family home. Mothers breastfed their children whenever they would latch on to the nipple, with breastfeeding ending when the child pushing away the nipple entirely with their hand - age 3 was the usual end of breastfeeding, but with some children not pushing away the nipple until age 6 or even older. Children were constantly held until age 3, either by cradling the child in the mother's arms, or placing the child in a papoose bag when her hands were full with chores. Children aged 3-6 ranged beside mothers, and whatever room mom was in, the child followed her in. Whenever a child cried, mothers cooed at their children, and then picked them up, holding them close to her bosom in skin-on-skin mammary closeness. 

Separation anxiety is a normal developmental stage where children are deathly afraid of mothers "going away and never coming back". In biblical times, children were held close to mothers, with children never leaving her side for the duration of their separation anxiety. If your child order you to "come back, mom" from the next room over in your house, know that you have a healthy attachment to your child. 

Separation anxiety was more obvious in biblical times than it is today in children. That is because most American children are either ignored or punished for crying. From there, most American parents learn that they should keep their fears and upsets to themselves. It is like ignoring a crying infant - the need isn't met by ignoring or punishment. The child just gives up the fight, with the crying being the fight for a vulnerable need. 

When they do cry out of nowhere, it is because in that moment, they want YOU to reassure them, and can't help but cry. They know they will be punished, but can't help but cry, because they want YOU underneath that facade. However, most punitively parented children know to not show separation anxiety, because they fear punishment if they do show it. But, sometimes, it pops through, and shows out of nowhere. Those moments are when your child needs your love the most.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Child discipline: How to discipline your child the right way (meaning without punishment or force)

Many parents want their children to have discipline growing up. However, most American parents confuse discipline with punishment. Most parents' idea of discipline is punishment or force. However, actual child discipline is not based off of punishment or force. Instead, actual child discipline is about catching your child being good, and then encouraging good traits in children.

Parenting, in the Bible, is summed up in the doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom into the parish at Ephesus. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely for being "too soft" on their children.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, to modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children then following in their footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught by their fathers being good - such as sharing, or showing patience or self-control - children were lavishly praised and encouraged to "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise when caught being good by fathers, whereas girls were given snuggles and physical affection when caught being good by fathers. Children were also given religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the religious education of children. Parents introduced their children to the Bible by leaving an Aramaic copy of the Hebrew Bible out for the child to discover and explore. When children were caught exploring the Bible, fathers praised the child by saying "that book is good for you". From there, children were eager to learn about the facts of life, and fathers gave pointers on the context from there. The religious education came in question and answer format, with children asking fathers in particular all about the facts of life.

Children have their own religious development. When children are around age 6, they are ready to learn the facts of life on their own. That is a perfect time to leave out a Bible for the child to discover and explore. Children start out with non-conforming religious beliefs. However, as they get older, they start to conform to a specific religious denomination. Maybe not the one you are in, but a specific denominational belief nonetheless. In most cases, a child's religious education is done by the time they are 13. Some churches will baptize them at that age, and some churches won't. Some churches don't require baptism except for infants. 

Children under age 6 stayed with their mothers, and were treated as babies. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the child went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, meaning that mother and child were quartered in the nude in the family home, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. For the first 3 years of childhood, children were constantly held, either in the mother's arms, or in a papoose bag when the mother was busy with chores. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children before picking them up, then holding the upset child in her arms reassuringly. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance, with this lasting until the child reached the onset of puberty.

For the latter half of childhood, children were disciplined by their father, and were transferred to his custody for nurture and instruction. Proper discipline for a child older than age 6 is a form of nurturing of a teaching variety, where the father models good traits in children. Then, when he sees the child copy those good traits, they then praise and encourage those good traits. Those good traits usually are sharing, patience, or self-control. Children learn good traits on a time-schedule, but it is good to praise and encourage good traits as they show.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous respect: Why respect is earned in parenting

Many parents feel deserving of respect. This is a common parent attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents punish children when they feel disrespected. Child punishment is a common way that parents enforce their power and prestige. The fact of the matter, however, is that respect in parenting is earned.

Righteous respect is the role in parenting for the child. However, this sort of respect is a choice made by a child that is between a child and God, in the context of a mutual submission relationship. In such a mutual submission relationship, the parent bears the burden of proof, not the child. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were oppressed largely for being "too soft" on their children.

Respect for parents was a thing in biblical times. However, it came more in the form of closeness than reverence. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and children were quartered in the nude in the family home, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Whenever a child cried, mothers cooed at the child before picking them up, then holding the children close to her bosom in skin-on-skin mammary closeness. Children up until age 3 were held constantly, either in the mother's arms or on her back in a papoose bag. Children aged 3-6 were in policing closeness to mothers, ranged next to her, insisting that mothers remain within the child's line of sight. Children were usually milk-dependent until age 3 - but sometimes until age 6 or older - and were weaned only when the child pushed away the nipple. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with co-sleeping lasting until the child reached the onset of puberty.

Righteous respect involves when children come to respect their parents and elders on their own accord. In the mean time, parents are undeserving of any respect or praise from anyone. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from anyone. Parenting should be a thankless job, meaning parents are the custodian in the house, not the custodian in another tense. Righteous respect is a private decision between the child and God, not something to be enforced on your child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Passing down the faith: How to instruct your child in the Christian faith (without punishment or force)

Many parents get the concept of instructing their children in the Christian faith wrong. In most fundamentalist homes, children are punished in a very specific way - keep punishing them until "their will is broken". The fact of the matter is that children don't need punishment in order to learn good traits.

Passing down the faith starts with the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment ultimately comes from parent submission, meaning parents are to submit to their child as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating them as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely for being "too soft" on their children.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in the footsteps of parents. Children, in biblical times, were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught showing good traits - such as sharing, patience, or self-control - they were lavishly praised and encouraged to "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise from fathers when caught being good, whereas girls were given snuggles and physical affection from fathers when caught being good. Part of childhood in the Early Church was religious instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) refers to proper religious instruction. Fathers instructed their children by way of leaving out an Aramaic translation of the Hebrew Bible for the child to read and explore on their own. When children were caught exploring the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement from their fathers. From there, children were eager to learn the facts of life. with fathers giving children pointers on the context.

Religious development is a field of child psychology that studies how children form their religious beliefs. Most children are capable of forming religious beliefs on their own accord. When children first study the Bible, they come to non-conforming religious beliefs. However, as children get older, they start to conform to a specific set of denominational beliefs. Children, in most cases, can see ahead and self-predict their own religious destiny. Most children reach conformity to a religious denomination by the age of around 13. A child, in most cases, needs a baptism once they show a change of heart. However, not all churches baptize early - Anabaptist churches require a child to wait until age 18 in order to join the church. I was baptized as a child - which I am grateful for - but I support for my children (once I have them) adult baptism.

What ultimately motivates passing down the faith? Children need a secure attachment with parents, primarily mothers, and secondarily fathers. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, with mother and child quartered in the nude next to each other, in the family home, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Whenever a child cried, mothers cooed at their children, then picking them up and holding them close to their bosom, in skin-on-skin mammary closeness. Children were swaddled next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets when out and about in public. Mothers breastfed whenever the child would latch on, and weaned the child when they pushed away the nipple. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to their mothers, with milk-dependent children being breastfed to sleep every night. Co-sleeping lasted until the onset of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep.

For the latter years of childhood, children were turned over to the providing custody of fathers for religious instruction. The hope of Christian fathers was that the child would stick to Christianity, as the Christian church then shunned the world. Children were only given, to start out with, a Hebrew Bible translated into Aramaic. As they learned, they asked for the more latter volumes of Scripture that were written to a Gentile audience. From there, children formed their religious destiny. Children usually at some point needed reassurance, namely when learning about the harsh realities of Hell and atonement. Children usually run into the teaching of limited atonement when they ask about Christ, in which case fathers should be comforting in teaching the "look around" method proposed by the Apostle Paul. Children are capable of, entirely on their own, keeping their own behavior in check just by looking around and correcting behaviors that they find immoral in their Bible. Children are more capable of looking around in their older and teen years, but can come to religious maturity at around age 13. 

The key to good religious instruction is peaceable religious instruction. Punishing a child in the context of a religious upbringing simply alienates the child from the faith. Children don't need a strict parent. They instead need a warm, loving parent that yet encourages strict attitudes in children. All a child needs is room to grow, and praise and encouragement to know that they are headed down the right path.. They may not be headed down your path, but they sure have a path of their own. If you made no mistakes before becoming a gentle parent, they should land where you are already.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Clergy abuse: Why pedophile hatred is the cause of clergy abuse

Many people don't want to talk about it in the Catholic circles that I grew up in. Most people that I talked to thought one man, State Representative Mark Rozzi. My grandfather, from the memories I recall, opposed his proposals to eliminate the statute of limitations for sexual offenders. I think he's being too nice about the issue. I say lock them all up, regardless of time period, but that will never fly. Clergy abuse is the most preventable form of abuse, in the most hopeless type of way. If only the Catholic church would rid themselves of their anti-masturbation teaching, which most guilty priests rely on as a means to convince themselves that they are "cured".

Where did the hatred of pedophiles come from? The fact of the matter is that the romanization of the Catholic Church is where the hatred of pedophiles came from. The equation most alleged Christians who hate pedophiles come to is that because masturbation about a child is sin, because all masturbation is sin, therefore all pedophiles are "concealed to their fate". Most pedophiles are hated more when they masturbate than when they sexually abuse a child, especially in more religious circles. Most pedophiles are anti-religious.

There are several passages in the New Testament that condemn "lust" or "inordinate affections". It all boils down to the Greek root word επιθυμέω (Latin: epithmeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but to a gutteral sexual desire that leads to approaching a child for sexual or flirtatious reasons. As a pedophile, you can look the look, or even think the think, but if you as much as approach the approach, you are suspect. If you rape or sexually assault a child, you have committed a moral crime worse than murder, meaning a form of blasphemy known as fornication.

The Roman Catholic Church has a no-masturbation policy. That means that any male masturbation is prohibited by the Roman Catholic Church, for any reason stated. Most child sexual abuse occurs in dry and daft places, where adults don't want to acknowledge their attraction to children. You acknowledge any sexual attraction simply by calling it up from the boot using masturbatory fantasy, in this case about children. Most adults avoid acknowledging their sexual side towards children by refusing to masturbate below a certain age, or else at all.

A Catholic priest is in a very at-risk place. Not only are they not allowed to masturbate, but they aren't allowed to get married. That leaves them without a sexual outlet to acknowledge. This leads to sexual denial, and then to offending once they are in the right/wrong opportunity. To most religious leaders across the board, masturbating to thoughts of children is the "ultimate sin". But, what about when the child is actually ambushed.

I myself am a pedophile, and given the situation that society puts me in, I can understand why a Catholic priest would sexually abuse a child. Most sexual abusers operate in dry and daft situations, not the opposite. A Catholic priest is not allowed any sexual outlet whatsoever, but it all has to go somewhere, doesn't it? That is why I embrace righteous masturbation, meaning I intentionally go to sexual fantasies of children. That, alongside righteous avoidance through images of Hell, keep me in line. I believe that, due to my pedophilia, that I can see the issue of child sexual abuse from a unique angle, and tell others why a pedophile would do such a thing as to sexually violate a child. We will always need survivors to tell their story, but pedophiles have another perspective worth noting.

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who commit sexual offenses while vested with the power and prestige of a clergyman will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into the fire of Hell and torrents! Repent!

Oppositional-defiant disorder: Why these children need LESS limits (not more)

Many parents think that oppositional-defiant disorder (ODD) traits are a sign that a child isn't being disciplined enough. This is a common myth amongst American parents. Most American parents see a child that is undisciplined, and they think that the child needs discipline. 

The key to treating ODD is to take a step back, and stop controlling so much. We as a society have overthought discipline, and based it off of being strict with a child. The fact of the matter is that children should be praised and encouraged for finding their own happy medium in terms of discipline and self-strictness. All of this is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, meaning that children need a secure attachment between parents and children. Secure attachment is what motivates children to follow the example of parents. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" and refers to υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word refers to secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as they would God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργιζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may have not gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords to punish their family, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely for being "too soft" on their children.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their footsteps. Children, in biblical times, were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children were caught being good, they were lavishly praised and encouraged to "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise from their fathers, whereas girls were given snuggles and physical affection as praise from their fathers. Religious instruction was part of the upbringing in the Early Church. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to religious instruction. When children were around 6, fathers left out an Aramaic copy of the Hebrew Bible, for children to read and explore. When children were caught reading the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged with phrases such as "that book is good for you". From there, children were eager to learn about the facts of life. Fathers, from there, gave pointers on the context.

The best way to deal with a child with ODD is to have the child with ODD find their own discipline and structure, stemming from the example of parents. From there, children with ODD do deserve praise and encouragement when they find the right structure and discipline, meaning the parents' example. Children with ODD love praise, and this love for being praised and admired can be used as a bargaining chip. If you catch your child with ODD being good, such as showing good traits such as patience, self-control, and sharing, praise your child with lavish praise and encouragement. 

This encouragement was possible due to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. Mothers responded to the every cry of their child, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Children under age 6, in public, were swaddled next to the bosom in swaddling blankets. From there, children trusted the example of parents, as well as heard them out in terms of religious education. Children with ODD need a lot of praise when caught following the example of parents. 

A child with ODD needs no control at all, apart from perhaps being picked up when endangering themselves or others. Controlling a child with ODD is the last thing they need. What children with ODD need is for parents to give up the fight, and give in to the child's demands. Most children have a list of demands that ends at some point, with the child making the conscious choice to surrender to parents. A child with ODD has a list of demands that seem to never end, and that is because a child with ODD has endless demands. When you try to control a child with ODD, know that they have a strong counterwill, and thus control back whenever they perceive control from and adult.

Some children are capable of vindictiveness. But, whenever that happens, the power struggle was created by the adult. Vindictiveness is simply the way a child gets their power back. It is a form of communication. However, the fact that a child communicates THAT way is a sign that the child needs accommodation, namely by way of a more relaxed schedule. Most children need a more relaxed schedule anyway, but a child with ODD needs it even more.

Most children need the same thing as a child with ODD. The fact of the matter, however, is that children with ODD, as a positive trait of the condition, are good at self-advocacy. Most children, however, would benefit from the relaxed environment that a child with ODD needs. Indeed, a child with ODD needs a relaxed environment where little demand are put upon them. 

Children who present ODD symptoms usually do so due to a chemical imbalance in the brain that is genetic, and is in need of medication. Most ODD is secondary to autism, ADHD, and/or bipolar disorder. In most cases, all they need for the ODD to go away is to medicate the child's primary disorder. In the case of pure autism, however, the child is stuck with the disorder for the rest of their lives.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Christmas Day meltdowns: What to do with children who tantrum at Christmas Day

'Tis Christmastime once more. Most children, by now, are with friends and family, or else opening their presents. Most every child is bound to have a meltdown this Christmas Day. The fact of the matter is that Christmastime meltdowns are normal behavior for children.

Preventing Christmas Day meltdowns involves the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, where children rest securely in the submission of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: as this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely due to being "too soft" on their children.

Many children tantrum come Christmas Day. The reason for most Christmas tantrums is social and sensory overload. Most children, including young children, are forced to socialize with adults. Mixed with all the commotion going on, this makes a recipe for a temper tantum. Children who throw tantrums on Christmas day are not trying to "undermine" you. They are just as tired as you are. So, offer them constant comfort at Christmas dinner this Christmas Day.

The idea behind constant comfort is swaddling blankets. Mothers, when visiting relatives for Christmas in the Early Church, wrapped up their young children - under age 6 - in swaddling blankets. The  swaddling blankets were made of velvet, which was grown throughout the Ancient Middle East. The swaddling blankets were tied to the left breast, then across the dot to the right leg, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. Children were held close to the mother's bosom when overwhelmed.

To note - they did celebrate Christmas in the Early Church. There was gift-giving, but not the commercialized kind. Early Christian Christmas was a time as a more wholesome Christmas, meaning without Santa Claus. Young children - under age 6 - were wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets, when visiting relatives. The constant closeness with mothers led to quiet tears, and then maybe the child latching on when they are milk-hungry.

Children never throw tantrums in order to "undermine adults". They throw tantrums to communicate that they are tired or overwhelmed. Children struggle with sin like anyone else would, and don't relish in their sinful habits. Children are struggling sinners, not not defensive sinners. Temper tantrums are a normal type of behavior.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Santa Claus: Why parents should not threaten their children with Santa

Many parents have done it. We are talking about using Santa Claus being used by parents as a threat of punishment. The most common form of Santa-threat is Santa leaving nothing but a bucket of coal. In some homes, Santa still delivers the whip. However, Santa-threat is actually prohibited in the Bible.

Punishing a child with Santa, or even threatening to have Santa punish a child, alone, is prohibited in the Bible. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

 Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral stature prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers got out the scourge of cords, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely for being "too soft" on their children.

The most common Santa-threat used by parents in America is coal for Christmas. Another way that children are threatened are with a "whip that cracks" left in the stocking of the child. Most of the time, Santa-threats are feigned threat. That was how I was dealt with by my parents. My parents threatened "coal for Christmas". I only got coal when I asked for it (I was a strange child).

Any punishments, reprimands, or threats towards a child is a moral crime against the child. Child abuse is defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from entitlement. Threatening children with Santa alone is child abuse, as understood under God's Law.

This Christmas Eve, be sure that Santa loves your child unconditionally, and doesn't have a "naughty" or "nice" list. The "naughty" list alone is a form of provoking your child to anger through child abuse. A child should not have to work for Christmas presents. Instead, parents are to give without receiving anything in return.

Another thing parents do is punish children come Christmas Day by sending their presents back. The child may just be having a hard time, but the parent takes it personally, given that it is Christmas morning, and takes the presents back to customer service. 

A child should not be expected to be "good" come Christmas morning. Children's behaviors are, in most cases, are developmentally appropriate given the age and development of a child. If a child doesn't develop in time, contact a child psychiatrist or developmental pediatrician. A slowly developing child may need mental heath supports, but that's all they need. They do not need coal for Christmas.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplice! Let them descend into the abyss which is the Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Temper tantrums in toddlers: What to do about toddler temper tantrums

'Tis Christmastime once more. It is around this time of year that many toddlers are overwhelmed, and throw temper tantrums. Most parents see these temper tantrums as an "embarrassment", or else the child is "undermining" their "authority" over the child. The fact of the matter is that toddlers kicking and screaming is a sign of unmet needs, not a sign of any plot or conspiracy to "undermine adult authority"

The doctrine of mutual submission is where the solution to a tantrumming toddler lies. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word refers to, in context, secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as they would God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, from beneath yet from above.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers brought out the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely for being "too soft" on their children.

Temper tantrums in toddlers were uncommon in the Early Christian Churches of God. Children did cry like children today do, for the most part. However, toddlers cried quietly. This is because toddlers were frequently held, most of the time in the mother's arms. Sometimes, however, mom had her hands full, in which case the child was placed in a papoose bag. Either way, children up until age 3 were held constantly. When toddlers cried then, they cried quietly, as they were constantly being held. 

Part of being held constantly was being breastfed. Whenever children latched on to the breasts of mother, they were breastfed to sleep. Children were breastfed, in most cases, until around age 3, which was when they usually pushed away the mother's nipple. However, sometimes, children were weaned - meaning pushed away the nipple - at age 6 or even older. 

When toddlers were with their mothers out in public, the child was swaddled next to the bosom of mothers, in swaddling blankets. The child was tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress of the mother, that resembled an apron. The swaddling blankets were made of velvet, which was grown throughout the Ancient Middle East. The swaddling blankets were tied around the mother's left breast, then, from there, tied across the dot to the mother's right leg, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. When children were swaddled, they continued to cry silently, and then mothers attended to the cries of their child, perhaps breastfeeding them to sleep if milk-hungry.

Toddlers in biblical times, unlike toddlers today, were constantly held, and were not seen as stationery children. Babyhood lasted until the child turned age 6. When children were under age 3, they were constantly held by mothers, either in her arms or in a papoose bag. The papoose bag was for when mothers were doing chores around the house. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

What to do about public meltdowns: Dealing with temper tantrums in public

 'Tis the Christmas season once more. Many parents take their children when shopping for distant relatives. Children then usually want something off of the shelf, and they maybe even take something off the shelf. "Put that back" is a statement stemming from entitlement. The fact of the matter is that all this could be avoided by mothers swaddling their children next to their bosom in swaddling blankets.

Swaddling children is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, where children rest in the loving arms of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word refers to, when understood in context, a secure attachment. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, meaning that parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translating "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating them as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers got out the scourge of cords in order to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely for being "too soft" on their children.

Public meltdowns did not happen much in biblical times, like they do today. Ultimately, this was because all of the attachment needs of a child were met. Mothers swaddled their children to the bosom in swaddling blankets. Children were wrapped up next to the mother's bosom. When children were milk-dependent, they were breastfed by mothers until the child pushed away the nipple. 

The swaddling blankets were made of velvet, which was grown throughout the Ancient Middle East. Mothers tucked the swaddled child underneath her revealing dress that resembled an apron. The swaddling blankets were tied to the mother's left breast, and from there across the dot, to the right leg of the mother, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. When children cry while wrapped up next to their mother, they cried silently, with mothers then tending to the need of their babies. This wrapped up state lasted until age 6. Older children who cried in public were cradled in the arms of their mother

Public meltdowns usually happen due to the word "no". However, under God's Law, parents are not allowed to say "no" except under certain specific conditions. The word "no" is only acceptable if the orders from the child are unworkable or immoral in nature. But, when the word "no" did happen, which in biblical times happened in poor families, parents were required by Law to reassure the child, and that is where swaddling blankets come in. Children, in public, were held closer to the bosom of mothers.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Christmastime meltdowns: What to do when your child has a meltdown at Christmas dinner

'Tis Christmastime once more. Many parents have to deal with it. A child throwing a temper tantrum come Christian Eve and Day. It may appear to the parent as an attempt to undermine family events. However, children do not intentionally undermine family events, as children are incapable of such reasoning.

Punishing a child for their tantrums is a violation of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, in which case the burden of proof is on the parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word refers to, in context, a secure attachment between parent and child. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along the women in the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely for being "too soft" on their children.

What should a parent do when a child cries at Christmas dinner, or during other family functions this Christmas? Most children throw temper tantrums at Christmas because there are too many people, and too much commotion. Children actually have better hearing than us adults. Feel free to comfort and reassure your child by swaddling them next to your bosom in swaddling blankets, and maybe breastfeed and nourish a child that is milk-dependent. You do not have to apologize to anyone in your family for meeting your child's needs. 

In most cases, the child needs constant comfort, as the beginning and end of the festivities is a long time for a child who is brand new to the world. Children have a short attention span, and thus need to be entertained by constant closeness with mothers. This constant closeness is what comforts the child.

Swaddling blankets were made of velvet in biblical times, with velvet growing throughout the Ancient Middle East. Children were tucked underneath the mother's dress that resembled an apron. The blankets were tied to the left breast, then across the dot to the right leg, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. Children were in this sort of closeness until they reached the age of 6. After turning age 6, children who cried or whined were picked up and held, but were, in most cases, too heavy to be swaddled by mom. 

A common tactic used on children who throw a temper tantrum is planned ignoring. However, this is perceived by the child as stonewalling. Temper tantrums and meltdowns need a response consisting of tender loving care. Anything less could be perceived as an offense by a child, thus child abuse.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Honor parents": Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Most parents demand it, in an entitled fashion. Most parents demand respect from children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most parents bring out the Fifth Commandment, and misuse said commandment in order to demand the respect that parents feel that they deserve.

It says in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land that the LORD thy God giveth thee.

This commandment is interpreted in light of the other parent protection laws in the Bible. Don't impose a gaslighting curse on your parents (see Lev. 20:9). Don't repeatedly beat your parents (see Exod. 21:15). Don't commit crimes in their name (see Deut. 21:18-21). Apart from those narrow rules, parents are there to be used, like a sponge, with the child milking what they need from their parents. 

The Fifth Commandment and the parent protection laws are where we draw the line at elder abuse. We can use our parents for what we need, and they shouldn't mind being used like a sponge to squeeze and milk from. Dishonoring parents is when you take advantage of a parent's selflessness, and abuse them by the abovementioned means.

Respect in parenting comes in the form of mutual submission, with the burden of proof being on the parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word refers to, in context, a secure attachment between parent and child. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents submit to children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul. contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely for being "too soft" on their children.

Respect for parents did exist for children growing up in the Early Church. However, respect was seen differently, meaning closeness. Children, for the first 6 years of life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, meaning mother and child were quartered in the nude, in the family home, in skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance. Children under age 3 were constantly held, either by hand, or else in a papoose bag when the mother's hands were full. When children were aged 3-6, children never allowed their mothers to leave their line of sight, in most case with the child ranging next to mothers. Optimal conditioning is having all of a child's needs met by the time that they are age 6, so that they can focus on becoming as independent as possible. 

Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at them before picking them up, holding the child in skin-on-skin mammary closeness. Children, when out and about, were swaddled next to mothers in swaddling blankets, with children who cried then being held close to the bosom of mothers. If milk-dependent, children were nourished and breastfed, wherever they were with their mother. This optimal conditioning speeds up development, so that children are ready for the real world by the time they are 13 (even though they still have to wait).

Honor, for parents, is something earned, not handed out on a silver platter. Apart from the basic parent protection laws, children could show as much or as little respect to parents, based on what they have earned. Children praised their parents most when parents took good care of them as children. The highest part of the praise was acting in a child-like way when coming home to parents, making yourself right at home.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Proverbs 13:24: Why this verse is a repealed verse

Many parents quote the Bible to justify their punitive parenting attitudes. There are several verses that could be misconstrued as pro-spanking. The favorite passage for pro-spanking parents to justify their punitive parenting in Proverbs 13:24

It says in Proverbs 13:24 KJV:

He that spareth the rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

Most parents see a verse like this on the surface, and think it is okay to punish a child. However, God writes to His Audience, and His Audience would have interpreted this verse very differently. All 7 verses that mention the rod in the book of Proverbs refer to the 40 minus 1 lashes. The 40 minus 1 lashes were meted out as a form of judicial corporal punishment, as a final warning before the offender was put to death. Fathers were the ones who whipped their children, and they needed wisdom in order even bring themselves to whip a child. Only adult descendants were whipped by fathers, and only as a rare event. Young adult offenders were given many warnings before enduring the rod of correction. Minor children never were whipped for anything. 

We are no longer under the legal punishments of the Law of Moses. Christ abolished the legal punishments under the Law of Moses. We as Christians are no longer under the legal punishments of the Law of Moses. The rod of correction was abolished when all was said and done, and Christ died and Rose on the Third Day. The rod of correction was a switch that was used in judicial corporal punishment, namely the 40 minus 1 lashes.

All 7 verses in Proverbs are repealed verses, as they depict a dated legal punishment. There are two other verses, namely Prov. 20:30 and Prov. 26:3, that are repealed by way of the Church. Only the ones depicting children are seen by church denominations as applicable today. These passages were mistranslated in the Latinate Bible. 

There are Bible passages that prohibit any form of punishment, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children . See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even brought in a few orphaned children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely due to being "too soft" on their children.

The abovementioned verse is a prohibition on all parental entitlement, stated in offense format. Parental entitlement is the lowest level of entitlement in our entitlements. Parental entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Once this imposition is perceived by the child, to the point of visible offense, the parent or caregiver is guilty of child abuse. Child abuse constitutes the damages or offenses perceived by a child, whereas parental entitlement is any wants imposed upon a child by an adult.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Santa Claus: Why parents should not threaten their children with Santa

Many parents have done it. I myself have heard the line. When growing up, I was threatened with getting a bucket of coal for Christmas if I was "bad". This kind of threat is a common threat that children have to contend with. However, God Himself prohibits all punishments or threats towards children, especially the Santa-threat.

Using Santa Claus to threaten children with punishment is seen as child abuse in the Bible. It says in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writing. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and took in a few orphaned children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely due to being "too soft" on their children.

The mere act of threating children with Santa is the moral crime of child abuse. The most common threat from Santa is that the child victim of the threats will get "coal for Christmas". Sometimes. Santa brings a whip to parents. The practice of Santa has a long history of child abuse by way of behavioral modification.

No child is "naughty", or at least not naughty enough not to deserve presents. Christmas is about giving without receiving, meaning giving without strings attached. Therefore, all children deserve Christmas presents. Children don't misbehave on purpose. They are trying to communicate a need, the best way that they can. Children are sinners, but in the struggling tense of the word "sinner".  Children are struggling sinners.

Santa is often depicted as holding a nice list and a naughty list. Children are always nice, period, even when they have their moments. Children don't deserve any punishment from Santa. No whip that cracks. No bucket of coal.

If you have my values, you focus on Christ in Christmas, and shun Santa Claus altogether. Santa is the direct replicate of the Norse god Odin. Christmas is about the birth of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. The reason for the season is not Santa Claus or any other legendary figure, but about Christ Himself and His birth. If your denominational beliefs allow for Santa, be sure to make sure Santa gives gifts out of unconditional love, meaning giving without receiving. 

The reason for the season is not behavioral modification, but true Christian love. True Christian love involves giving without receiving. Santa should not put children on a naughty list, but should give gifts unconditionally. Parents are not even to as much to utter a threat to "call Santa".

Most of the time, parents don't mean the threats that they mete out. My parents didn't mean the threats that they gave me concerning Santa. I was told that if I was bad all year, that I'd get a bucket of coal for Christmas. I had behavioral issues as a child, but my parents at least meant their Santa-threat in vain. But, I didn't realize that they were feigned threats.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Change of heart: How to effect a change of heart in a child (without punishment or force)

It is the goal of most American parents. Most American parents want their children to have a change of heart. Most parents try to effect a change of heart in children by way of punishments. However, there are better ways to instruct children in good traits, than punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor.

A change of heart occurs within the doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refer to secure, vulnerable in the love and submission. This word refers to a secure attachment, meaning a secure attachment between parent and child is a commandment from God. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, meaning parents are to submit to children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords as a form of child punishment, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely for being "too soft" on their children.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling and encouraging Christian discipline in children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in the footsteps of parents. Children in biblical times were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever children showed good traits - such as sharing, self-control, patience, or empathy - they were lavishly praised and encouraged to "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise when caught being good by their fathers, whereas girls were given snuggles and physical affection when caught being good by their fathers. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to religious instruction. Parents simply left an Aramaic copy of the Hebrew Bible out for the child to discover and explore. Fathers, when children were caught reading the good book, were lavishly praised and encouraged for their religious vocation, with fathers saying "that book is good for you". Children were eager to learn about the facts of life, and fathers gave pointers on the context.

Children have a religious development all of their own, and don't need to constantly be preached at. Children's religious beliefs, when the child is young, is non-conforming to any religious denomination. But, as they get older, they will go through the stages of conforming to a specific denominational belief system. Children, throughout the course of their religious development, were given praise and encouragement from fathers. Along the way, children discovered the doctrine of original sin by way of asking fathers "Why did Christ have to die". What a parent should say there is that "we are imperfect as human beings", and then the rest of the research they will do on their own.

What motivated the religious vocation of children? Children were motivated to trust their parents for religious advice by way of a secure attachment, primarily to mothers, and secondarily to fathers. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were quartered in the nude next to each other in the family home, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed at their children, and then picked them up in skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance. When mothers were out and about, they swaddled their children in swaddling blankets, perhaps breastfeeding a milk-dependent child right there and then. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers, with this co-sleeping lasting until the onset of puberty, which was when children wanted their own place to sleep. 

The abovementioned sustaining warmth and nourishment motivated children to have a change of heart. Children were born in sin, and that is not up for debate. But, children are capable of self-improvement almost entirely on their own, albeit while motivated by the good example of parents. For most people, having a change of heart is growing up. Children's development, including their religious development, does not have to be rushed. Children will get to their own religious conclusion, on their own. It may not be your denominational choice, but it sure is theirs. When you see your child's religious beliefs evolving and maturing, it is good to praise and encourage spiritual growth in children, no matter where their religious growth takes them. If you started off right from day one, expect their religious beliefs to conform to yours. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!  

Anti-Autism: Why "autism" is not an excuse for child abuse

Many parents think that a sexual abuser of children uses the word "pedophile" as an excuse for child abuse. This is a common theory amongst American parents. Most sexual abusers are parents, with 80% of sexual abusers of children being parents. However, child sexual abuse occurs in both the authoritarian and permissive of parenting setups. Most abuser pedophiles are negligent parents. If I did not stumble across the children's rights community, I may have continued to be the permissive abuser that I am.

Anti-Autism does not mean that we don't want to hear about it at all. However, if you are using autism as a medical excuse for sexual abuse, or any other child abuse for that matter. I myself am a convicted adult in regards to all of the autistic child abuse that I did commit. I have taken a fearless moral inventory into all of the children that I abused. I found myself doing the Twelve Steps for my pedophilia. My main moral defect is stated best in the DSM-5 entry on pedophilia - they might as well have my picture there.

I was a form of toxic autistic known as an "I am a good person" abuser. When your core self-belief about yourself is that your autism makes you a good person, you come to take up a deserving attitude towards life, and when you don't get what you feel that you deserve as an entitled autistic, you throw a temper tantrum, usually involving an entitled demand as to what you feel that you deserve. Another facet of an "I am a good person" abuser is letting yourself off the hook when you shouldn't. Parentifying abuse was where I left myself off the hook, because I wore that autism label, and my belief was that anyone who could call themselves "autistic" was a good person deserving of good things. But, the fact that bad things came my way, with that sort of entitlement, made me a weakling, as opposed to stand up Max that I am today.

I am not a good person, and I don't mean well around children. I don't pretend to mean well around children. I am a depraved and decadent pedophilic adult who is deserving of nothing but DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing in relation to children, as well as the God that protects them. Maybe I have earned my keep with the children in this children's rights community, but that is for the children to decide. I do not accept another adult's opinion on whether I am a good person or not. If a child/victim does praise me, like they often do in fact, I am grateful for such praise, because I am deserving of absolutely none of such praise. I acknowledge being praised by children, however.

One good thing I can say about myself is that I am a cycle-breaker. All of the beliefs I have now help me break the cycle. The abuse would have came out the other way, as a form of negligent parenting. I have zero capacity for any form of adult anger, meaning I don't get mad at children. When they are mad at me, I am scared, and then I don't do that in relation to a child again. I have zero triggers as an adult in relation to children, as nothing a child can do annoys me. I just might find a daughter in particular to be sexually attractive. I myself am not a child of neglect, but instead had a punitive upbringing. When you see negligence where there is no family history of child neglect, think pedophilia, but not the right kind. I believe in determining child abuse based on the child's perception, allowing the child to draw the line as to what is abuse. I myself am an abuser of a different kind than the angry or vengeful form of abuser. I took children seriously, but in a way that put them in the role of caregiver or spouse. I wanted to be her friend, but in the way that appointed her as a caregiver. What set me straight was when I scared a child at the pool concession stand of my community pool. I was preparing myself for the police to come and cite me for disorderly conduct. Now that I have learned my lesson in terms of treating children with respect, I take children seriously as extensions of God meaning the "least of these". I am, however, deserving of prison merely for my track record in relation to children. Even if the state excuses my abuse, I am culpable for the moral crimes I have committed against children.

Autism is not exactly the benign condition that it masquerades as. Most individuals with autism should not become parents. Most with autism interested in having children are pedophiles. Most pedophilic sex offenders are not serial abusers on all sides - that type of abuser is rare, and uses their power and influence to gain access to children for purposes of sexual abuse. Most pedophilic sex offenders have a lower than average IQ, and usually have autism on top of pedophilia. Most of such parents are negligent parents, not authoritarian parents. I myself, before discovering gentle parenting, might well have become that negligent parent. I didn't trust any parents at that point. Now, I trust gentle parents, and if I have to watch a younger family member, I think I could do it, but the child would have to invite me to play games, or else play amongst themselves with my supervision. I think I was do best with little boys, around the toddler age, and I would listen to and wipe away their tears - I am not attracted to young boys, but have paternal feelings for both sexes of children.

Most pedophilic sexual abuse exists on the surface, not as a narcissist. Most power and influence abusers are pedophiles, but the repressed type. Most pedophilic sex offenders have a mental disability, where children are placed in the caregiver role, and from there, they were raped or sexually assaulted. The most common pedophilic motive behind rapes or sexual assaults is play rape, meaning the offender wants to play a game that isn't a game at all - it is rape. Some survivors of actual pedophiles want to protect their abuser, because their abuser was a "familiar" form of abuse. Other survivors see themselves as bigger than their abuser, in a vengeful way, and become disability haters. Both traumas are valid. I do pity any anger directed at me due to my status as an autistic pedophile, because it doesn't have to happen. I myself hold pedophilic individuals with autism to a higher standard, as 3 out of 4 pedophiles have never sexually abused a child. Non-offending pedophiles are more the norm than the exception, and so any pedophile abusing a child should be condemned roundly. I myself atone for making the Virtuous Pedophile online community look bad. I actually used the word "pedophile" in celebratory tense, in the form of being an obvious abuser of the "good person" variety. Most pedophiles are anguished, whereas I had one-sided conversations about my crushes on children, not understanding the gravity of what it means to be a pedophile. 

The depraved and decadent, defiled sex offenders with autism will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire! Repent!

Crying: Why crying in children is not bad behavior (and what to do about it)

Many parents have had to deal with it. A crying child. Most parents punish children for crying, deeming it "bad" behavior. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, the fact of the matter is that crying in children is not bad behavior. It is developmentally appropriate behavior in children given their age and development.

Crying is best dealt with within the context of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word refers to a secure attachment between parent and child, meaning a secure attachment is commanded by God of parents. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, meaning parents are to submit to their children as they would to God, from beneath yet from above.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were persecuted largely for being "too soft" on their children.

Crying is not bad behavior, but instead is understandable behavior given the child's age and development. Most all childish behaviors that children display are developmentally appropriate behaviors. Children grow up almost entirely on their own, behaviors and all. When they remain immature in their development, that is a sign of autism or other developmental disorder, and thus a reason to cut your children further slack. 

Crying in particular is a form of communication, meaning the child has vulnerable needs that need to be met. Crying is the most common way that a young child communicates a need. Children have five main categories of needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - and the most common and prevalent need of a child is attachment. It is imperative that mothers form a secure attachment with her child, with children being treated to warmth and sustenance from very young. 

What did the Early Christians do about crying? Christian mothers in the Early Church cooed at their children before picking them up, then holding them in skin-on-skin mammary closeness. Infants and toddlers up until age 3 were either held constantly and/or wrapped up in a papoose bag. Children age 3-6, in most cases, ranged next to mothers, never leaving her side. Children under age 6 were in constant closeness to mothers, with this constant warmth and sustenance being known as birth nudity. Mothers were naked in the family home, as were children. Cooing at children was how mothers reassured and validated the upset of children, making the child feel heard.

When out and about in public, young children - under age 6 - were swaddled next to the bosom of mothers, in swaddling blankets. The swaddled child was tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress of a mother that resembled an apron. The swaddling blankets were made of velvet, which grew throughout the Ancient Middle East. The swaddling blankets were tied to the mother's left breast, and then from there, across the dot to the mother's right leg, or vice versa, or both. Children who cried while in mother's arms did it quietly, with mothers reassuring the child simply by holding the child close to her bosom, perhaps breastfeeding milk-dependent children right there and then in public.

When children were older, they had their moments as well. Sometimes, even older children - school age by the modern understanding of children - threw temper tantrums. Usually, they had their moments at home, but rarely, they had their moments in public. Children that age, when they cried, were picked up and cradled next to the bosom of mothers. The modern gentle parenting advice is to kneel down before the child to comfort them. However, the Early Christians did not kneel down to children, but simply picked them up like babies, and held them close. Even children that age, when picked up, were light as a feather when crying.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!