Change of heart: How to effect a change of heart in your child (without punishment or force)

Many parents want it in their children, if not most. Most American parents want a change of heart in their parents. A change of heart can mean many things, but most of the time, it simply means growing up. The concept of a change of heart is one of the Christian values that this country was founded on. Most parents try to effect a change of heart in their children by depriving them of wants and punishing them. However, there are better ways to effect a change of heart in a child than punishment or deprivation of wants.

The concept of a change of heart is effected by the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This word commands for a secure rest in the full and dutiful submission of parents. However, this word refers to a surrender where the child surrendering to parents can give orders in return in order to petition for needs.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords to punish their children - but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians largely for being "too soft" on their children.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling Christian discipline to children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with their children following in their footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good. Whenever a child was caught emulating the disciplined example of parents, they were lavishly praised and encouraged to "keep headed down the straight path". Boys were given manly praise whenever they were caught being good, and girls were given snuggles when caught being good. Sometimes, children needed direct and explicit instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers here to the advice and counsel of parents, meaning parents only had the right to give advice when needed, or else counsel their children when upset. Otherwise, children held divine authority over parents, and issued lawfully binding orders when they felt like parents weren't pulling their weight.

Most people think that a change of heart has to be beaten into a child. It is a common belief amongst Christian parents that children need help in learning to have a change of heart. The fact of the matter is that a child can have a change of heart almost entirely on their own, guided only by the Christian example of parents. When you catch your child copying your disciplined example, be sure to praise and encourage them lavishly.

What motivates children to have a change of heart? The only way to effect a change of heart in your child is to have a secure attachment, first with mothers, then with fathers. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child with her. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were in the nude next to each other, quartered in the family home, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. When children cried, mothers were right there to diagnose the need, and provide skin-on-skin nourishment and sustenance. Mothers in biblical times breastfed their children whenever and wherever, when children were milk-hungry.

The abovementioned warmth and sustenance is what prepared children to learn the facts of life later on in childhood. Fathers were charged with instructing children with discipline and family values. Fathers introduced children to the Christian faith in the Early Church by leaving out a Bible, and waiting for the child to find the Bible and study it on their own accord. When children were caught studying the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged to keep studying the Bible, as well as informed on the context of the Bible in "did you know" format. Ultimately, religious instruction was a casual discussion where father and child compared notes. The same kind of praise and encouragement was given when children were good in terms of behavior, meaning, in most cases, when they showed patience or self-control. Praise and encouragement was there so that children wanted to please parents. Once they had a change of heart, and after the children became legal adults under Roman law, they were baptized into the church.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Parenting your pedophilic child: What to do about pedophilia in your child

Many parents worry about their child being sexually abused, or being gay. Very few parents worry about their child being a pedophile, and if they do, they are usually acting in the wrong fashion towards the pedophilia. It is a fact that most pedophiles realize that they are attracted to much younger children in their teenage years. A child, by the children's rights definition, is anyone under age 18. 

Most people believe that a pedophile is something hidden. However, the fact of the matter is that pedophilia is a primary or exclusive sexual preference for children, usually associated with developmental immaturity associated with autism or a related disorder. Most pedophiles have an autistic specialty in children in terms of knowledge or social skills. Pedophilia is usually a humanizing attraction, meaning most pedophiles see children as full human beings, but with sexual connotations attached. To a pedophile, children are the center of the world. Most pedophiles have a legal personality in the form of rule-oriented autism, known as the "rule boy" profile of autism. However, to the pedophile, the rules don't apply to children, and they instead impose standards on the parents. 

Pedophiles can be diagnosed by the DSM-5 criteria as young as age 16, and can be identified even earlier. When parents get a whiff that their child is headed in that direction, they usually are either in denial or are trying to shut down every fantasy that the child has. Abuse of pedophiles is the sexual shaming of a pedophile, usually while masturbating, usually by a parent or other caregiver. 

Pedophiles have a collective parent trauma, meaning most pedophiles were sexually shamed by parents, just because they were a pedophile. The parents usually are religious to some degree, and impose their religion on their child. One Bible verse used against pedophiles by sexually shaming parents is Matthew 5:27-28 KJV:

Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. 

The Greek root word translated "lust" is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers to a specific form of gutteral lust, where you are so full of sexual want that you find yourself approaching your sexual target. Sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach to someone other than your wife, as a man. Adult sexual entitled is when this approach is directed towards children. 

For most of human history, pedophiles were praised as "child saviors". In the Early Christian churches the pedophiles were a group of deacons that brought in abused children, with another camp of deacons taking in abused children. Pedophile hysteria started with the romanization of the Western Church, when the theology that prohibits masturbation and sexual fantasy was introduced to the Christian Church.

The core of the modern-day pedophile hysteria is the false religious doctrine that a pedophile cannot be saved by God, and that no pedophile will ever go to Heaven. The logic behind that theology is that since pedophiles can't have the children they want, and can't masturbate it off, that there is nowhere for the pedophile to go but Hell. As mentioned earlier in this article, however, is that a pedophile is allowed to masturbate, and if they do so in order to discharge, then they can expect to go to Heaven.

What does a pedophilic child need? All such a child needs is someone to talk to, and someone to give them space to explore their sexual fantasies. If you instead punish them for their fantasies, they will come to hate you and your religion. If you correct your pedophilic boy for feminist reasons, they may grow up to hate women. 

The depraved and decadent parents who sexually shame their children just because they are a pedophile will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire! Repent!

Toddler temper tantrums: What to do about toddler temper tantrums

Many parents, if not most, have dealt with it. A 2- or 3-year old kicking and screaming, either at home or in the store. Most American parents think that it is okay to punish a child merely for having a temper tantrum. The fact of the matter is thar temper tantrums are not bad behavior, and are deserving of warmth and sustenance.

I threw a lot of temper tantrums when I was a child. I was given time-out, which was perceived as stonewalling and possibly false imprisonment. Relatives say that it was like pulling teeth to get me to even sit in a chair quietly. Ignoring or punishing temper tantrums don't work. 

Toddler temper tantrums are best dealt with using the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, where the child surrenders into the loving arms of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This word does, in fact, denote secure rest, but in a way that a child can expect anything they need in return, as well as hold their parents accountable if the child thinks that parents aren't pulling their weight. Parents are to submit in a way that expects absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in his original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Indeed, Greco-Roman parents used the scourge of cords on their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Christians were hated by greater Greco-Roman society for being "too soft" on their children.

Toddler temper tantrums in biblical times were not common, at all. That is because 2- and 3-year-olds were not considered stationery children. Children under age 3, in the Early Church, were constantly held by mothers, and nursed to health by way of mothers breastfeeding. Toddlers were seen in biblical times as babies, and were treated like babies. When mothers could not hold their toddler directly, they strapped them to their back in a papoose bag. Toddlers did cry, but they cried silent tears, for only their mother to hear and respond to. Mothers responded by seeking to diagnose the need of the child, then meet and validate the vulnerable needs of children.

Attachment parenting was the way of parenting for the ancients, including the Early Christians. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, with mother and child being in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Children under the age of 3 were commonly held and breastfed, with that breastfeeding period sometimes going on until age 6. Most children pushed away the nipple by age 3. Mothers went in the nude in the family home, and this was to please both her children and her husband. 

Toddlers were seen as babies in biblical times. Even with children old enough to eat solid food, they ranged next to mothers, going from room to room in the apartment, seeking the presence of mothers. When mothers went in another room to take a break, that break was shortened by the cries and shrieks of separation anxiety of the child. This separation anxiety lasted until age 6, when children started insisted on doing things on their own. When children want to do things on their own, be sure to teach them how to do it safely, instead of discouraging their natural curiosity by slapping way curious hands

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

Strictness in Christian homes: Why strict attitudes in children come from within (not from without)

Many parents want children to have a strict upbringing. Ultimately, what this boils down to is strict attitudes in children. Children are capable of forming strict attitudes. However, the WRONG way to teach strictness is being strict with a child. Children need to learn to be strict with themselves, and being strict with children actually hampers with that. 

The idea of strict attitudes in children take place within the context of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This word commands that the child be allowed to rest securely, but the child could expect things in return from their parents, as this word denotes surrender to parents with strings attached for the parents to heed warning to.

The Greek root word translated "provoke..to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating them as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers did, in fact, use the scourge of cords to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were hated largely for being "too soft" on their children.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to, in this context, modeling Christian discipline to children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their footsteps. Children, in biblical times, were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever a child was caught following the disciplined example of parents, they were given lavish praise and encouragement from fathers in the form of "I see you" sportscasting statements. Boys were given manly praise when caught being good, and girls were given snuggles when caught being good. Sometimes, children needed direct parental instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the advice and counsel of parents, meaning parents could only offer advice, or else counsel their children when they were crying or upset. Otherwise, children held divine authority over parents, and issued righteous demands. A parent could not issue righteous demands in return.

Strictness is important in parenting. However, truly strict attitudes come from within. Strictness here involves the parent modeling peaceable and orderly behavior, for the child to follow. Children in biblical times were taught by example to be strict with themselves. The key to strictness is the parent coming to the knowledge and conviction that they are a depraved and entitled sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing. This attitude adjustment forces the Christian parent to be grateful for absolutely everything. When you catch your child emulating a peaceable and orderly example such as this, don't forget to praise and encourage them in their pursuit for good values. Also, leave a Bible out for them to further internalize for them the straight path. Praise them the moment you catch them reading Scripture.

This strictness has to be motivated by something, and that something is a secure attachment. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mothers and children were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Whenever children cried, mothers swooped in and cooed, then diagnosing the need of the child, reassuring and validating those needs in the process. 

This abovementioned nurturing is what prepared children to take up a strict attitude later. This strict attitude was guided partially by self-study of the Bible, and then the strict example of fathers in particular. The secure attachment to mothers prepared children for secure attachment to their father. Mothers nurtured up close. Fathers nurtured from afar, in a teaching way that encouraged good values in children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous child worship: Why Ancient Jewish society was a child worshipping society

Many people support the idea of punishing a child. The religious "right" to punish a child is a common attitude in American parents. Most American parents think that Ancient Jewish society, including the Early Church, was a child enslaving society. The fact of the matter is that children were not enslaved in biblical times, but were rather venerated in the form of righteous child worship. Ancient Jewish society, including the Early Church, was a child worshipping society.

It says in Matthew 25:45-46

Then shall he answer to them, saying, Verily, I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not one of the least of these, ye did it not to me. And these shall go away into everlasting punishment: but the righteous into eternal life.

The verses mentioned before this passage simply enumerated the oppressed and downtrodden groups that were ignored by Christ's Jewish society, meaning it was an incomplete list. The "least of these" meant anyone smaller and more vulnerable than you, with the ultimate "least of these" being children. Children were seen as divine figures, issuing orders and edicts for parents follow. Children were revered by parents, with the commands of the child striking reverent terror into parents. 

Children ruled from above yet from beneath. This form of righteous child worship was part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your child to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This form of surrender to parents allows for the child surrendering to parents to expect things in return for surrendering to the loving arms of parents. Parents submitted in a way that they could not expect anything in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were criticized by the Greeks and Romans around them for being "too soft" on their children.

Children, in biblical times, were considered the salt and light of the world, sitting high atop a mounted hill, casting high judgment upon adult-kind, discerning between the sheep and the goats, bringing out the best and the worst of adults, just by being themselves. Children were seen in biblical times as representatives of God, holding divine authority over their parents, resting only once all of their needs were met. 

Children were treated differently in biblical times. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed before responding to the cry, then meeting and validating the vulnerable needs of a child. When out and about in public, children were wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets. Mothers then breastfed their children, perhaps to sleep, whenever they were milk-hungry, until the child pushed away the nipple. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to their mothers in skin-on-skin format. Co-sleeping lasted until the onset of puberty, which is when a child usually wanted their own place to sleep.

Righteous child worship refers to how Christian mothers in the Early Church viewed their children. Children were viewed in biblical times with the deepest of unconditional love. They were regarded as "wet and messy", but in lovable way. Children's messes and mischief were a reason for adults to laugh. A common statement about children then was "he/she is like God to me", and parents meant it, showing reverent respect towards their children. Fathers viewed daughters in particular as sex goddesses, but in a forbidden way, since the only outlet for the father concerning parent attraction was the masturbation basket. Fathers, just like mothers, put their children on a pedestal, with righteous masturbation re-channeling the parent attraction to a male nurturing instinct. Mothers nurtured up close, yet fathers nurture from afar.

Children held divine authority over parents, meaning parents had to obey the lawfully binding orders of children. The only lawful reasons for righteous disobedience of children's orders was if the orders were either unworkable and/or unlawful. If parents said "no" otherwise, they could be taken before the council and possibly excommunicated if the parents didn't repent. When parents took their children to court, the council always sided with the child, as the Law saw children as sacrosanct. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Child punishment: Why not to punish your child (and what to do instead)

Many parents still punish their children. Most American parents think that it is "imperative" that parents punish their children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, the Bible is clear that punishing a child is morally wrong and unlawful under God's Law. Therefore, what should a parent do instead of punish their children? This article speaks of alternative discipline techniques for parents to use.

The doctrine of mutual submission is the guiding principle for Christian parenting, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the parents. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This form of surrender to parents can come with strings attached for the parent, meaning children can expect due pence in return for their surrender by giving orders to parents.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords on their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians shunned the use of the scourge of cords, and were attachment parents towards their children.

What is there to do instead of punishment? The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, to modeling Christian discipline to children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, and then their children followed in their footsteps. Children, in biblical times, were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever a child was caught emulating the disciplined example of parents, they were lavishly praised and encouraged with "I see you" statements. Boys were given manly praise from their fathers when caught being good, and girls were given snuggles from their fathers when caught being good. Sometimes, children needed direct parental instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the advice and counsel of parents, meaning parents could only give advice to their children when needed, or else counsel their children when they are upset. Otherwise, children held divine authority over parents.

Children do need discipline, but they don't need discipline imposed on them. True discipline in children comes from within, not from without. Children are capable of self-improvement almost entirely on their own, albeit with a sturdy Christian example to emulate. Once you catch your child copying your disciplined example, take the time to encourage that good behavior in them. This praise and encouragement then motivates further progress in children.

There is only one way to motivate a child to have discipline, and that is a secure attachment with the mother, with this secure attachment reflecting in relation to the father. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. When children cried, mothers rushed in and cooed, before diagnosing the need. Many times, all the child really needed was skin-on-skin time with mom. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers, and did so until the onset of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep. 

The abovementioned intense closeness, during the first 6 years, prepared children for absorbing the disciplined example of fathers especially. Children gradually developed the chastened up attitude of their fathers. This involved children, at their own pace, absorbing the disciplined example of fathers. This process is hastened when a Bible is left out for the child to discover and study on their own. When catching your child being good in any way, reward them with praise and encouragement. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

How to raise your child not to become a criminal (without punishment or force)

Many parents are convinced to even abandon gentle parenting they were involved in, by false teachers on the parental rights side of child advocacy. The common excuse for punishing children is that it keeps them from committing a crime. Many police officers in the juvenile justice section of policing support keeping all forms of child punishment legal. The fact of the matter is that punitive parenting sure gives children structure, but that structure does not prepare them for the real world, and that's how crime happens.

Anyone is capable of committing a crime under the right/wrong conditions, as most criminal offenses are crimes of opportunity. This doesn't mean everyone will commit a crime. Punitive parenting provides a sort of structure that is akin to a prison. This is why, many times, criminal offenders commit crimes just to go back to prison - they were raised in a form of structure that cannot be replicated in the adult world. Most criminals want to be in prison, because they get the structure that they are used to in prison, that they otherwise could only get with their parents.

Raising your child not to be a criminal involves, instead of being strict on children, encouraging your child to be strict with themselves. This is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, iucluding, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral stature prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus of their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords on their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians shunned the scourge of cords.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling Christian discipline to children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with their children then following in their footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever a child was caught emulating the Christian example of their parents, fathers lavishly praised and encouraged their children with "I see you" sportscasting statements. Boys were given manly praise from their fathers when caught being good, and girls were given snuggles when caught being good. Children sometimes needed direct instruction from parents. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: paideia) and refers to the advice and counsel of parents, meaning parents could only give advice, or else counsel children when upset. Otherwise, parents were held under the divine authority of their children, with children being the salt and light of the world.

Strictness is a must in Christian parenting. But, most parents believe that children need parents to be strict with them. This is false. A child needs to be strict with themselves in order to center their emotions. Self-strictness needs to be modeled by a trusted parent who is strict with themselves. Children, contrary to popular belief, can find strictness on their own. But, it is guided by the self-strictness of parents. When you catch your child being strict with themselves, be sure to encourage that behavior with "I see you" statements.

Children can be strict with themselves, but they need a little motivation to be strict with themselves. That comes from a secure attachment between mother and child, in a way that translates onto the father. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Whenever children cried, mothers were right there to diagnose and meet the need of the child, cooing in the process in order to validate their child's cries and upsets. When out and about, young children under age 6 were swaddled to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets.

When children are allowed to be strict with themselves, they almost never, if not never, commit crimes of any kind when they are an adult. They find their own structure, instead of relying on outside input. A criminal, by definition, is someone with a mental defect where they are reliant on punishment from others in order to behave in a peaceable and orderly manner. If you don't need punishment to be good, maybe that is because nobody punished you for anything as a child. When structure isn't imposed on your child, they simply find their own structure. If you have your own structure apart from someone punishing you, you are officially not a criminal. Most people in America are criminals, as due to their punitive parenting habits, they commit crimes when they think they can get away with it. This is why we need police, and need to stop defunding the police and keeping them from doing their jobs.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why God wants you to pamper children instead of punish them

Many parents think pampering children is the irresponsible way of being a parent. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents punish their children even for little things such as crying or bad moods. The fact of the matter is that God wants parents to pamper their children, and for children to be pampered by parents in a certain specific way.

Righteous pampering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: as this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in is original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords on their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians shunned the scourge of cords.

Righteous pampering means pampering your child a certain way. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were in the nude in the family home, in skin-on-skin closeness and sustenance. When children cried, mothers cooed before picking up the child, and then holding the child in skin-on-skin mammary closeness. When out and about, young children were swaddled to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin warmth and sustenance. Co-sleeping lasted until the child reached the onset of puberty, when they wanted their own place to sleep.

Respect for parents was a thing in biblical times. However, children only paid their parents reverent respect once they left the house. At their baptism as an adult, young adults bowed down to their parents, giving thanks for all of the times they were pampered and coddled by their parents. The amount of reverence that a parent received was dependent on how often parents pampered their children, and to what degree parents pampered their children. Some children were punished or otherwise abused by their parents, and they, in most cases, shunned their parents, or in more rare cases, brought their parents before the council of 3 elders, thus getting their parents excommunicated from the church.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why to catch children being good (and not being bad)

Many parents believe discipline involves catching children committing an infraction or offense, and then punish them for it. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents see discipline as punishing children for things that they did wrong. The fact of the matter, however, is that proper Christian discipline of children involves catching children being good, and rewarding them with lavish praise and encouragement. 

Catching children being good is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Indeed, the scourge of cords was used by Greco-Roman fathers on their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians shunned the scourge of cords.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling Christian discipline to children through example. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in their footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, instead of caught being bad. Whenever children were caught following the disciplined example of parents, they were lavishly praised and encouraged by fathers with "I see you" sportscasting. Boys were given manly praise when caught being good, and girls were given snuggled when caught being good. Sometimes, children needed direct parental instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the advice and counsel of parents, meaning parents could only give advice, or else counsel a crying or upset child. Otherwise, children called the shots, holding divine authority over their parents.

Promoting good behavior in children starts with YOU promoting a good Christian example to children. This means declaring yourself a depraved and decadent sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing. Knowing that you are deserving of absolutely nothing forces you to focus on what you already have, and be grateful for it. You can ask for more, but do so politely, as the answer might be "no". When a child shows that kind of discipline and chastisement, reward them with lavish praise and encouragement. 

For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and children were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Whenever children cried, mothers responded by cooing before tending to the vulnerable needs of the child, perhaps holding the child close to her bosom in mammary closeness. Children under age 6 did not have much of any contact with their father, and stayed ranged beside mothers. For the last 7 years of childhood, children were handed over to their father for religious education, where children studied the Bible on their own, with fathers praising the child for getting religion. 

The chastening of the Lord is different when practiced by earthly parents. The idea is to promote a disciplined example, and when you catch your children following your example, reward them with praise in the form of sportscasting. An example of sportscasting is "I see you having self-control!". Children will only absorb the disciplined example of parents gradually, at their pace, but when children do emulate your example, it is good to praise them lavishly using sportscasting "I see you" statements. Children should emulate your disciplined example by the teenage years. Mothers nurture up close, and fathers nurture from afar. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the biblical way of doing time-in

Many parents today are not authoritarian parents. Most American parents today are punitive authoritative parenting. Most children who behave in a certain way get time-out as a form of false imprisonment, and then maybe a disciplinary spanking. However, children don't need time-outs or any punishment for that matter. They need time-in. There is a proper, biblical way of doing time-in, and that is mammary closeness.

Mammary closeness is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with children surrendering to the loving arms of mothers, and mothers providing nourishment and sustenance from beneath yet from above. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Indeed, the scourge of cords was used by Greco-Roman fathers on their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians shunned the scourge of cords as a punishment.

Time-in has a valid purpose in helping children calm down. But, there is a right way and a wrong way of doing time-in, based on Christian tradition. The proper way of doing time-in is through mammary closeness. Whenever children cried, mothers rushed in and cooed, all the while picking up the child in skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance. Then, she held the child to her bosom in mammary closeness, possibly breastfeeding the child to sleep if milk-hungry.

Mammary closeness is the proper strategy for helping children with their emotions. The bosom area of the mother was not entirely intended for men to sexualize. It is there primarily to nurture children. Mammary closeness involves holding the crying or upset child close to the bosom area, with the child then reverting to silent cries. If the child needs to be breastfed, mothers can offer the child to breastfeed.

The modern application of mammary closeness is different than the contextual application of mammary closeness, as women were technically allowed to be naked in public, even if they covered up to honor their husband most of the time. The idea today is to, when in public, take the child to the ladies' room and, when in a stall, tuck the child underneath your shirt in mammary closeness. When at home, it is recommended that you wear no more than a bra and panties, or preferably, be completely naked, ready to soothe the child with skin-on-skin mammary closeness. The man of the house is likely to come out with his true feelings about attachment parenting, and perhaps you might need to get him out of the picture if the nudity in the household uncorks a predator.

The context of all this is one of birth nudity. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, meaning both mother and child were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Children went completely naked wherever they went, and were afforded their clothing once they were baptized into the church as adults. The modern way to practice birth nudity is to allow your child to choose, on their own, when they want to wear clothing, and otherwise, the mother should be quartered in the house with them until the child chooses to wear clothing, providing nourishment and sustenance in the mean time.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!  

Independence: How to teach your child to be as independent as possible

Many parents think that obedience is the goal of parenting. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents think that the goal of parenting is to raise an obedient child. However, when confronted with independence being a goal, few parents will dispute that they want their children to become independent. However, in order to have healthy independence, you first need to foster a healthy dependence on you as a parent.

The concept of healthy dependence is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Indeed, the scourge of cords was used by Greco-Roman fathers on their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians shunned the scourge of cords, and were gentle with their families.

Part of healthy independence is healthy dependence. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Whenever a child cried or was upset, mothers cooed as they picked up the child in skin-on-skin closeness, then holding the child close to their bosom in mammary closeness, breastfeeding the child to sleep if milk-hungry. When out and about in public, mothers swaddled their young children next to their bosom in swaddling blankets. When children cried in public, it was usually a silent cry, and then mothers held the child swaddled in swaddling blankets closer, perhaps breastfeeding the child in public if the child was milk-hungry.

When children attained the age of 6, they usually started shaking off the comfort of their parents. Children, after checking in with mom, played outside freely, venturing farther and farther from home. Then, come nightfall, after a long day of activity, children retreated to the sustaining warmth of mothers in the form of co-sleeping. Children slept next to mothers, in most cases, until the child reached the onset of puberty. Once children reached the onset of puberty, they, in most cases, wanted their own place to sleep.

Independence is something that happens naturally in most children, at some point in their lives. If they aren't independent by the teen years, they must be struggling with some sort of mental health disorder. Autism, for one, involves arrested or delayed emotional or cognitive development. If your child has not been diagnosed, then perhaps you are being punitive on your child or were in the past - that stunts their growth as well.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Be grateful": Why to model gratitude instead of demanding it

Many parents have said these two words before - "be grateful". Gratitude is something many American parents insist upon. However, few of these parents are actually grateful themselves for their child. Most American parents don't show gratitude for their child until their child is abducted and/or killed. The fact of the matter is that the chastening of the Lord, in and of itself, leads to gratitude, and this form of chastisement can be modeled to children.

Gratitude can be taught using the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That is may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Indeed, parents in Greco-Roman society used the scourge of cords on their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians shunned the scourge of cords as a form of child punishment.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here, in this context, to modeling Christian discipline to children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything. coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with children following in the footsteps of parents. Children in biblical times were caught being good, instead of caught being bad. Whenever a child was caught emulating the grateful example of their parents, they were lavishly praised and encouraged with "I see you" statements. Boys were given manly praise and encouragement when caught being good, and girls were given snuggles when they were caught being good. Fathers chastened up children in this encouraging way. Sometimes, children needed direct parental instruction. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the advice and counsel of parents, meaning parents could only give advice to children when they needed it, or counsel children when they were crying or upset. Otherwise, parents were under the divine authority of their children,

Gratitude is something to model to children, and that means YOU as a parent should be grateful first. The road to gratitude is coming to the conviction and knowledge that YOU are a depraved and decadent sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing, not even anything you already have. This forces the person to become grateful for everything around them. Children can pick up on that grateful attitude real fast, and then they end up copying your example. When you see them doing this, take time to reward them with praise and encouragement.

How do you motivate a child to follow in the footsteps of parents? Children need a secure attachment with a parent in order to copy their example. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Whenever children cried, mothers swooped in to reassure the child, cooing and picking up the child in skin-on-skin format, then holding the child close to the bosom of mothers in mammary closeness. Children cannot be expected to learn gratitude until they are teenagers or young adults, when they are old enough to internalize the grateful example of parents.

It is not acceptable to say "be grateful" to a child. If you want them to learn to be grateful, you ought to first learn gratitude yourself. Gratitude and fits of anger come from a deserving attitude, where you feel that you are deserving of things just for existing. YOU, dear parents, are depraved and decadent sinners who are deserving of absolutely nothing. Thus, you are to be grateful for everything coming your way, without any whim or complaint. True gratitude is not effusive or emotional in nature, but is stoic and calm in nature, at peace with the world, in the here and now. 

Gratitude for parents was expressed first in a child in a single event. When children attained the age of majority in the Early Church, they bowed down and surrendered to parents come their baptism, The idea behind honoring parents in the Bible is giving them due thanks for all the fond memories of being pampered. If you weren't pampered as a child, you could shun your parents, and even take them before the council to face excommunication from the Early Christian Churches of God. This thanksgiving came in the form of caring for parents. The idea was that while the child was still living with parents, the parents warmly took care of their children. This paved the way for children to thank their parents by caring for them.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath using punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous parent abuse: How to deal with oppositional-defiant disorder in children

Oppositional-defiant disorder (ODD) is a mental health disorder in children where children behave in an oppositional and defiant way towards adults. In almost every case of ODD, children have a primary mental health diagnosis that leads to them being diagnosed with ODD as a secondary or tertiary disorder, with the primary disorder, in most cases, being autism, ADHD, and/or bipolar disorder. 

I myself could have fit the diagnostic criteria of ODD to a T, but my developmental pediatrician did not diagnose me due to the stigma of the label. Lithium treatment for bipolar disorder is ultimately put an end to my ODD symptoms. But, before then, there was no getting through to me at all, over any behavior I exhibited. Everyone blamed the autism, when in fact the behaviors were manifestations of ODD associated with childhood bipolar disorder. 

The way to deal with ODD in children is righteous parent abuse. Sometimes, in the context of mutual submission, a parent has to take abuse from their child, and that's an order coming from the child. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Indeed, the scourge of cords was used on children by Greco-Roman parents, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians shunned the use of the scourge of cords in its entirety. 

The key to dealing with ODD in children involves giving up the fight, then giving in to the demands of children. A demand, coming from a child, is a righteous demand. Parents, in the Early Christian context, had to obey orders from their child, with few exceptions. The only time parents could righteously disobey their child was when the orders given were either unlawful and/or unworkable. 

Older children sometimes struck their parents out of anger and frustration, and sometimes even beat up their parents entirely. The only way parents were allowed to defend themselves was with tears or shrieks of vulnerability. It was feigned tears usually, with the parent saying in a shrieking voice "you hurt me, you hurt me" or a similar statement of vulnerability. This vulnerable reaction on the part of a parent deterred future striking out on the part of the child. When a child is striking out, they just want to be heard. Feigned crying helps model to children better ways of being listened to, meaning the lesson that hitting parents won't get you the reaction you want.

Young children under age 6 sometimes refused closeness with mothers. These children were referred to as stand-beside-me children. Such children rebelled from early on, starting with squirming away from the embrace of mothers, and showing aggression towards parents. The only limit of mothers was to stay beside her. Most of these children had ODD. Stand-beside-me children were seen as the most honorable of all children.

Most children in biblical times had at least traits of ODD. In most cases, the ODD rebellion came out once the child attained the age of 6, and wanted to shake free from their parents a bit, in a way that prepared the child for adulthood. It was during this time period that children would strike out against parents, and the parent would show vulnerability to deter future violent outbursts. Children would issue righteous demands on their parents, and their parents sometimes struggled to compromise in a way that would make things work and please the child. If there was any room for compromise, parents were commanded under customary law to go on that compromise.  

Today, ODD is usually secondary to another disorder. Most of the time, the primary diagnosis is autism, bipolar disorder, and/or ADHD. In most cases, medication of the right type and dosage takes away the ODD symptoms. Some cases are medication resistant, however, and thus the child chronically cannot learn from their mistakes. ODD involves a child feeling controlled by adults, and usually, there are plenty of adults in their lives trying to control them. If you just give up the fight, and give into the demands of the child, you may find that the child isn't asking for much - you could become the safe person of a troubled child!

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Terrible twos": Why the twos don't have to be so terrible

Many parents have to deal with it. A 2-year-old kicking and screaming. Most American parents punish temper tantrums in toddlers. Most toddlers in America are punished for their temper tantrums. The fact of the matter, however, is that toddlers are still babies. The big feelings in toddlers are there because they aren't being treated as the babies that they are.

Treating toddlers as babies is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV: 

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Indeed, the scourge of cords was used by Greco-Roman parents, but NOT the Christians among them - the scourge of cords was shunned by the Early Christians.

Children under age 6 were treated as babies in the Early Christian context. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, son did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were in the nude next to each other in the family home, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. When toddlers in particular cried, they were held closer to the mother's bosom, in mammary closeness.

Mothers constantly held children under age 3, with most children being weaned by age 3, when toddlers pushed away the nipple. Thus, when children needed their mother, which was the most common reason why children cried, the mother was right there, ready to hold their children closer to their bosoms in mammary closeness. 

A 2-year-old, in the eyes of the Early Christians, was simply a baby, and was, in most cases, still breastfeeding. Breastfeeding, in some cases, lasted until the child reached the age of 6. It is a myth that a toddler should be a stationery child. A toddler should still be breastfeeding. When children are comforted with this sort of sustaining warmth as toddlers, they don't throw massive tantrums like many toddlers do today. 

If a 2-year-old were to cry in biblical times, they would cry silently, in the arms of mothers. The mother would cradle the 2-year-old lovingly, breastfeeding the 2-year-old to sleep. That is the place God wants for a 2-year-old. Breastfeeding was done everywhere that the mother was summoned to, even in public.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Honor thy parents": Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Most parents want to be honored. Most American parents feel entitled of honor from their children. This leads to parents demanding that they get respect from their children in an entitled way. The fact of the matter is that the Fifth Commandment is clarified by the subsequent parent protection laws in the Bible that protect parents from elder abuse.

It says in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee. 

This commandment only applies to young adults living away from home, with the honor for parents being thanksgiving for all of the warm memories of being pampered and coddled by parents. Some children were abused by their parents, in which case they could shun their parents. Adult children had a bare minimum in terms of respect for parents - don't gaslight them to send them places (see Lev 20:9), don't beat them up (see Exod. 21:15), and don't commit crimes in their name (see Deut. 21:18-21). "Don't commit crimes in their name" refers to a crime spree that reflects on parents. As long as you didn't exact vengeance on parents in these three ways, you were not dishonoring your parents just by disagreeing with them on how they raised you. 

The Fifth Commandment is repeated in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV: 

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking or punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child. Indeed, Greco-Roman parents used the scourge of cords on their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians shunned the scourge of cords.

Respect for parents was a concept in parenting. However, parents had to earn everything except the most basic types of respect. Children respected their parents by way of closeness with parents. For the first 6 years of a child's life, the child was in constant closeness with mothers, meaning wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. When children cried, mothers cooed and picked up their children, then holding the child close to her bosom in mammary closeness. This closeness with mothers in children's formative years prepared children, in later years, to respect both their father and their mother.

Honoring parents is a place a child comes to once they live away from parents as a young adult. When children were baptized in the Early Church as adults, they bowed down to their parents, giving them reverence and thanks for all the fond memories of being pampered. Some young adults who were abused instead shunned their parents, and even sought to have them excommunicated for their abusive acts, and that was okay as well, as long as they didn't gaslight their parents to send them places, beat their parents, or commit crimes in their name. Most children in the Early Church grew up to revere and honor their parents. However, dependent children did not have to honor their parents at all, but they often related to their parents in a state of sustaining closeness. This sustaining closeness with mothers is how children came to honor and revere their parents. 

I do honor my parents, but with strings attached. I forgive my parents for abusing me, but I never will forget how I was harmed by their entitled outbursts towards me. I am ANGRY at parents due to the fact that I was abused by parents. I honor my own parents who are the implied type. My parents had a change of heart around my 16th birthday. I was abused by way of forced time-out, with an occasional disciplinary spanking of a few swats to a clothed bottom. That was enough to make me ANGRY at parents for life.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Separation anxiety: Why children cry out of nowhere (and what to do about it)

Many parents punish children when they cry out of nowhere. This is a common action parents take when their children cry out of nowhere. The argument is that children are "manipulating" or "undermining" parents. The fact of the matter is that there is always a need behind a child crying, and usually, that need is attachment-based in nature. Most children under age 6 suffer from separation anxiety.

Separation anxiety can be dealt with using the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, where children surrender into the loving arms of mothers, and mothers provide nourishment and sustenance to children. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to. any punishments, reprimands, or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Indeed, many Greco-Roman parents used the scourge of cords to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians collectively shunned the use of the scourge of cords.

For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. This birth nudity setup brought out raw separation anxiety in children, with children morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Mothers accommodated this fear in children by cooing while picking them up, reassuring and validating their cries with skin-on-skin mammary closeness. This all was meant to reassure the child that mom isn't going anywhere.

Children cry out of nowhere for a reason - they are deathly afraid of your demise. They need YOU to comfort and reassure them in their separation anxiety. Separation anxiety is a normal developmental stage for children under age 6. When infants cry to be held, they are expressing separation anxiety. Never ignore a crying child, of any age. Whenever a child cries, coo before picking them up, then placing the child on your bosom in mammary closeness, perhaps breastfeeding the child to sleep if the child was milk-hungry.

When children cry on their own accord, out of separation anxiety, their cry is high-pitch and deathly in nature, in a way no good mother can ignore. The idea is to reassure the child that you are going nowhere, and then keep that promise. Cooing plays a special role in helping your child feel heard and reassured. The moment you coo in front of your child, the more likely they are to fall into silent tears, where they can easily be scooped up and held in mammary closeness. This is how Early Christian mothers dealt with the cries of their children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous ordering: Why children call the shots in Christian homes

Many parents think that they call the shots, and give orders to children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents believe they are authority figures over their children, even their young children. However, the Bible teaches otherwise, when understood in context, that children call the shots in the family home. Whatever they want/need from YOU as a parent is a lawfully binding summonses. 

The acronym of righteous ordering is the child's role in the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV: 

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all form of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the scourge of cords was shunned by the Early Church.

Parents, in the biblical context, were under the divine and lawful authority of children. Children could issue lawfully binding orders on their parents, and parents, in most cases, had to comply with those orders. The only reasons that a parent could disobey righteously the orders of their children was if the orders were unworkable and/or unlawful. Otherwise, even uttering the word "no" could lead to the parent being excommunicated. When children were righteously disobeyed, it was required that the parent reassure and comfort the child, preferably with skin-on-skin mammary closeness. If parents took their children to court, they were forced to apologize in court to their child, as children could do no wrong in the eyes of the Law. 

Whenever children cried, mothers were there to respond to the every cry of their child, understanding the every cry and upset of their child as lawfully binding summonses. Mothers reassured the cries of their child by cooing while picking up the child, then treating them to skin-on-skin mammary closeness, perhaps breastfeeding the child to sleep if milk-hungry. Older children cried too, and they were picked up and cradled next to the bosom of their mothers. However, most of the time, older children issued lawfully binding summonses to their parents of the verbal type, barking orders in the face of parents, with parents, in most cases, having no choice but to make the child's orders work somehow.

Child abuse, in the Bible, was seen as a provocation to anger. Children were taught in Sunday school on what to do if their parents abused them, meaning children were encouraged in Sunday school to automatically become offended if a parent as much as imposed their entitlement on them. Children were taught to show their anger or upset as soon as an adult punished or reprimanded them, thus discouraging abusive conduct from happening in the first place.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!