Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the biblical way of doing time-in

Many parents today are not authoritarian parents. Most American parents today are punitive authoritative parenting. Most children who behave in a certain way get time-out as a form of false imprisonment, and then maybe a disciplinary spanking. However, children don't need time-outs or any punishment for that matter. They need time-in. There is a proper, biblical way of doing time-in, and that is mammary closeness.

Mammary closeness is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with children surrendering to the loving arms of mothers, and mothers providing nourishment and sustenance from beneath yet from above. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Indeed, the scourge of cords was used by Greco-Roman fathers on their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians shunned the scourge of cords as a punishment.

Time-in has a valid purpose in helping children calm down. But, there is a right way and a wrong way of doing time-in, based on Christian tradition. The proper way of doing time-in is through mammary closeness. Whenever children cried, mothers rushed in and cooed, all the while picking up the child in skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance. Then, she held the child to her bosom in mammary closeness, possibly breastfeeding the child to sleep if milk-hungry.

Mammary closeness is the proper strategy for helping children with their emotions. The bosom area of the mother was not entirely intended for men to sexualize. It is there primarily to nurture children. Mammary closeness involves holding the crying or upset child close to the bosom area, with the child then reverting to silent cries. If the child needs to be breastfed, mothers can offer the child to breastfeed.

The modern application of mammary closeness is different than the contextual application of mammary closeness, as women were technically allowed to be naked in public, even if they covered up to honor their husband most of the time. The idea today is to, when in public, take the child to the ladies' room and, when in a stall, tuck the child underneath your shirt in mammary closeness. When at home, it is recommended that you wear no more than a bra and panties, or preferably, be completely naked, ready to soothe the child with skin-on-skin mammary closeness. The man of the house is likely to come out with his true feelings about attachment parenting, and perhaps you might need to get him out of the picture if the nudity in the household uncorks a predator.

The context of all this is one of birth nudity. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, meaning both mother and child were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Children went completely naked wherever they went, and were afforded their clothing once they were baptized into the church as adults. The modern way to practice birth nudity is to allow your child to choose, on their own, when they want to wear clothing, and otherwise, the mother should be quartered in the house with them until the child chooses to wear clothing, providing nourishment and sustenance in the mean time.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!