How to raise your child not to become a criminal (without punishment or force)

Many parents are convinced to even abandon gentle parenting they were involved in, by false teachers on the parental rights side of child advocacy. The common excuse for punishing children is that it keeps them from committing a crime. Many police officers in the juvenile justice section of policing support keeping all forms of child punishment legal. The fact of the matter is that punitive parenting sure gives children structure, but that structure does not prepare them for the real world, and that's how crime happens.

Anyone is capable of committing a crime under the right/wrong conditions, as most criminal offenses are crimes of opportunity. This doesn't mean everyone will commit a crime. Punitive parenting provides a sort of structure that is akin to a prison. This is why, many times, criminal offenders commit crimes just to go back to prison - they were raised in a form of structure that cannot be replicated in the adult world. Most criminals want to be in prison, because they get the structure that they are used to in prison, that they otherwise could only get with their parents.

Raising your child not to be a criminal involves, instead of being strict on children, encouraging your child to be strict with themselves. This is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul to lift up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, iucluding, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral stature prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus of their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords on their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians shunned the scourge of cords.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to here, in this context, modeling Christian discipline to children. The Christian standard of discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, coming from a sinful nature, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Christian parents in the Early Church centered their entitlement in view of their children, with their children then following in their footsteps. Children in biblical times were caught being good, as opposed to being caught being bad. Whenever a child was caught emulating the Christian example of their parents, fathers lavishly praised and encouraged their children with "I see you" sportscasting statements. Boys were given manly praise from their fathers when caught being good, and girls were given snuggles when caught being good. Children sometimes needed direct instruction from parents. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: paideia) and refers to the advice and counsel of parents, meaning parents could only give advice, or else counsel children when upset. Otherwise, parents were held under the divine authority of their children, with children being the salt and light of the world.

Strictness is a must in Christian parenting. But, most parents believe that children need parents to be strict with them. This is false. A child needs to be strict with themselves in order to center their emotions. Self-strictness needs to be modeled by a trusted parent who is strict with themselves. Children, contrary to popular belief, can find strictness on their own. But, it is guided by the self-strictness of parents. When you catch your child being strict with themselves, be sure to encourage that behavior with "I see you" statements.

Children can be strict with themselves, but they need a little motivation to be strict with themselves. That comes from a secure attachment between mother and child, in a way that translates onto the father. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were in the nude next to each other, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Whenever children cried, mothers were right there to diagnose and meet the need of the child, cooing in the process in order to validate their child's cries and upsets. When out and about, young children under age 6 were swaddled to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets.

When children are allowed to be strict with themselves, they almost never, if not never, commit crimes of any kind when they are an adult. They find their own structure, instead of relying on outside input. A criminal, by definition, is someone with a mental defect where they are reliant on punishment from others in order to behave in a peaceable and orderly manner. If you don't need punishment to be good, maybe that is because nobody punished you for anything as a child. When structure isn't imposed on your child, they simply find their own structure. If you have your own structure apart from someone punishing you, you are officially not a criminal. Most people in America are criminals, as due to their punitive parenting habits, they commit crimes when they think they can get away with it. This is why we need police, and need to stop defunding the police and keeping them from doing their jobs.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!