Righteous ordering: Why children call the shots in a proper Christian home

Many parents think that they call the shots in the family home, and take this attitude because they are the parents. Most American homes are set up in a way where the parent gives the orders, and children follow. This is not how God intended the family home to be set up. Righteous ordering is where parents take orders from children, as to what children need.

Righteous ordering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating them as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposing any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

Righteous ordering means parents take orders from children. Think of when you go to a restaurant. You may look at the menu, and order whatever you want, as long as it is on the menu. That's how Christian parenting worked in the 1st Century. Parents were seen in the Early Christian context as bondservants to their children, working for a lump sum which is the independence of their children. Children issued the lawful and binding orders to parents, and most all of the time, parents obeyed those orders, giving children everything that they need, and most everything that they want.

Usually, children issued lawful and binding orders by way of crying to get the need they want met. Every time a child cried, the mother instinctively responded to the cry, asking children with words what they wanted, and then finding a way to give them what they want. Mothers in particular were sent all over the place to get their child what he/she needed/wanted. With older children, the children just barked orders to parents, without using their manners, and mothers obeyed the orders of their children, finding the brashness and boldness of their child in self-advocating their needs cute. 

Younger children may need to be given choices as to what to order from their parents, like a menu at a restaurant. But, if they choose something plausible that isn't on the list of choices, go with that one. Older children, in most cases, can be given leeway as to ordering parents as to what they want. If an older child cannot get what they want, because the item is forbidden or inaccessable, righteous compromise can be invoked. Sometimes, with certain children with special needs such as autism, ADHD, and ODD, you may need to endure the wrath of your child. Aggression can be mitigated by the parent feign crying in a dramatic way to teach the child to cry instead of hit.

Righteous cave is a related acronym to righteous ordering. Righteous ordering is the child's role in parenting, and righteous cave is the parent's role. Children issue orders to parents as to what they need from them, and parents cave to the orders of children, in full and dutiful submission to children. With some children, that is all you can do - some children with special needs don't give up until you cave to their demands in some way. 

Children have lawful authority over their parents until the day that they leave the home. Children can issue orders to their parents, and parents must obey unless the circumstances don't allow them to. Children are vulnerable extensions of God, meaning the "least of these", called to strike adult-kind into dutiful and fearful submission to child-kind. Parents have no authority to issue orders to their children, and can only ask things of them from the bottom of their heart. This is how the family was set up in biblical times. If you have a secure attachment with your children, like parents did with children in biblical times, they will listen anyway, because they trust you.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Anti-Parent: Why parents are to blame for the child abuse epidemic

April is Child Abuse Awareness and Prevention Month. Most people associate pedophiles with child abuse. It has been proven by case study that pedophilia, by the clinical understanding, has very little to do with child abuse, with pedophiles being among the safest adults to leave your child with. 80% of child sexual abuse offenses were committed by a parent. Therefore, we as a Children's Rights movement is going after parents next. Anti-Parent is a system of righteous judgment that polices the parents.

Why do we need to profile parents instead of pedophiles? Most of the time, pedophiles are the victim of crime and abuse, not abusers or criminals at all, much like any other mental illness. Most of the time, pedophiles are being abused by parents, and most all of the time, they never forget their abuse. A pedophile never forgets enduring abuse from a parent. Pedophiles are barometers of trauma in broader society, and so we can learn a lot about trauma from pedophiles. I myself am a pedophile, and have "adult" trauma - the deepest level of awareness of trauma in our society.

I myself am a pedophile survivor of law-abiding parents. My parents surely abused me, yet they followed the law. I was put in time-out by both of my parents, meaning both my parents falsely imprisoned me. My father used disciplinary spankings "out of love" on me. Both parents have turned away from their abusive habits. I forgive them, but I don't forget, and I only forgive my parents because they apologized, and are now open to attachment parenting. My father passed away a few years ago, and he died with an open mind for attachment parenting. Now, I am a law and order children's rights conservative. My parents were liberals who would vote straight Democratic and wear that choice like a badge of honor. I myself am a conservative-leaning independent, and so I vote for whomever I want come the general election. Theologically, I am fundamentalist, with Mennonite values. The way a pedophile is naturally conditioned, they never repress trauma, with trauma being something obvious and in-your-face to the pedophile. It is a myth that pedophiles are incapable of trauma. Trauma is an inherent experience for pedophiles, and an inescapable one.

How do you profile parents? A parent has parental entitlement, and the two items are inseparable. Anti-Parent is an anti-entitlement cause. Parent-figures are to be presumed innocent in all things, beyond a reasonable doubt, with doubting suspicion. Judging parents righteously is like chasing them down a flight of stairs. You suspect parents of something, yet you doubt until you have all of the evidence. You doubt the entitlement of a parent-figure, and keep doubting their entitlement, until you can no more, and then you slap on the anti-entitlement charges of parental entitlement. Parental entitlement is mentioned in 1 Corinthians 5:11 KJV:

But now I have written unto you not to keep company; if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolator, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an no not to eat.

All of these enumerated offenses, including entitlement itself, can be perpetrated against a child by a parent. The Greek root word translated "covetous" is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, want, to the point of imposition. This Greek root word literally translates to "entitled existence", which was assumed of all people in the Early Church. It was one thing to defend your existence, which we all have to do when the situation calls for it. But, to defend your entitled existence means you are defending your right to exist while having entitlement. Entitlement dampens your right to exist, and so in order to earn your right to exist, parents need to avoid all entitlement, including parental entitlement. A parent, by definition, defends parental entitlement, and otherwise, they simply imply their existence as parent-figures. We can still call implied parents, parents, but only in implicit manner. Parents are to give to their children in secret. See also Matt. 6:4. 

Where does the prejuicial hatred of pedophiles come from? Pedophile hysteria comes in the form of, at the core, religious child abuse towards pedophilic children, most always by parents. Most pedophiles have a parent trauma of the religious variety, meaning they hate Christian parents especially, with most pedophiles being either atheists or agnostics. Pedophilic trauma is a specific form of trauma where a pedophile, due to enduring spiritual abuse from parents, hates themselves and loathes themselves due to internalizing mental health stigma of the religious sort about pedophilia. It is a form of predestination trauma where a pedophile feels predestined to sexually abuse a child. What they need to know is that a pedophile has personal choice. 

Pedophile hysteria is like a mesh over society. The people picking up the mesh and using it as a weapon against pedophiles are usually guilty of sex crimes themselves, meaning rape or sexual assault, usually of children. Usually, a sexually abusive parent will try to out every parent around them as "the pedophile", and this is a deflection mechanism so that people aren't paying attention to their abuse of their children. That's how the flames of hysteria spread across the country, and across the globe.

Parents are my abuser, as well as every single adult, including the adults that my parents extended into my life with their power and influence. Every time I see a parent in public, I suspect them of child abuse. I do, in fact, use doubting suspicion, but that simply means I have the right to suspect all parents of child abuse, but have to doubt my suspicion until I receive evidence proving the parent-figure as being a full-blown parent, thus guilty of parental entitlement. I presume innocence in parents, beyond a reasonable doubt, with doubting suspicion. There is no need to say "I am a parent" to me or in my vicinity. If tell me "I am a parent" as an excuse for entitlement, that's the last time you'll hear from me. I was given a similar line, "I am your parent" sometimes followed by "I am not your friend". That always stuck with me. We as adults have all the rights, and the children none, and now that I am an adult, I feel the need to atone for my existence as an adult - just so I am better than the adults that abused me.

The parent entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Toughening up children: How to toughen up your children for the real world (without spanking or punishment)

It is a common complaint amongst Christian conservatives such as me. The younger generation is a bunch of powderpuffs. Most people blame attachment parenting for this, when, in fact, attachment parenting is being used by only a small, untold percentage of the population. The fact of the matter is that children aren't internalizing essential values because they are instead made to be reliant on punishment. Toughness comes from within, not from without, even in the case of children.

Toughness was a value taught in biblical times. Toughness was taught by example, in the context of an attachment parenting setup. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV: 

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your child to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to, in this context, modeling Christian discipline to children, and encouraging discipline in children. The standard of Christian discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for absolutely everything, leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Parents in biblical times worked on their entitlement, and children followed in their footsteps. When children were caught emulating the disciplined example of parents, they were rewarded with lavish praise and encouragement. In Christian homes in the 1st Century, children were caught being good, instead of caught being bad. The positive consequence for good behavior was lavish praise and encouragement, where Christian fathers would say "keep going down the right path" warmly and with gratitude. Sometimes, children needed direct instruction from their parents. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to righteous warning from a parent. Instructions from parents were not legally binding under the Law, with instructions from parents being mere requests from the bottom of the hearts of parents. The hope would be that children would listen to parents anyway, because of the secure attachment involved.

Children will not come out of the womb toughened up. They come out of the womb vulnerable and in need of care. Most childish and immature behaviors in children that adults are inclined to call "naughty" are actually developmentally appropriate behaviors. Children grow up entirely on their own. However, children only grow into the disciplined example of parents late in childhood, then falling apart once more when they need the closeness of mothers. Attachment, mixed with a disciplined example, is what fosters discipline and non-entitlement in children.

Children cannot control themselves before the age of 6, no matter what. The way to provide structure for a young child is to constantly hold them in skin-on-skin format. This starts with mothers holding babies constantly instead of isolating them in strollers and cribs. The mother was naked when in the home, and so was the baby, and the baby suckled the teat of mothers while milk-hungry. This breastfeeding ended, on average, at age 3, but could last until age 6 or older. When children are in the loving arms of mothers, they don't cry, scream, or protest as much, because they feel safe and at peace with the world in mother's arms. 

Toughness is a virtue. It is the ability to take a joke or an insult, and just brush it off like it was nothing. The way to pass it down to children is to be tough yourself, meaning don't be so easily offended by their behaviors, and don't be easily offended, period. YOU, dear parents, are depraved and decadent sinners, who are deserving of absolutely nothing. Be grateful that you even have a child, and be grateful for everything, and once you are convicted of your sin nature in relation to your child, you will be grateful, because God could take that child away from you at any time, and then you will be grateful for that child for once. Your child owes you nothing, and the world owes you nothing for having a child. Toughen up, and get a grip, dear parents. Then, once you are made tough, your child will follow suit - unless you are tough on your child, in which case he/she will just go the opposite way. The conviction that one as a parent is deserving of absolutely nothing, makes the parent grateful for absolutely everything, over time centering the entitlement of the parent in order to percolate - and this includes parental entitlement.

When your children see you take the attitude that you are a depraved and decadent sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing, they will, in return, emulate those values. Children will automatically do the work necessary to avoid entitlement and know that they, too, are a depraved and decadent sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing. Children do have a sinful nature, but that's for them to work on. The role in parents in children's self-improvement is to encourage such personal responsibility in children. But, it only works if YOU, dear parent, have personal responsibility of your own as a parent. That means YOU take ownership of your parenting mistakes, instead of defending your so-called "right" to be imperfect. No parent is perfect, but parents should strive for perfection, knowing they will never get there.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous infantilization: Why the Bible says to infantilize children

Many parents think that infantilizing children is a bad idea. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents rush the development of their children. The righteous infantilization of children is treating all children with the sustaining warmth that most mothers today treat infants. Righteous infantilization is related to the Christian acronym righteous pampering, but refers to the effects of pampering children.

Righteous infantilization refers to the effects of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission on children. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

Young children in biblical times, in particular, were infantilized in the sustaining closeness of mothers. During the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers. Children never left the side of mothers, constantly wanting to be held by their mothers. When out and about, mothers wrapped up their young children in swaddling blankets next to their bosom, or wore the child on their back in a papoose bag. Babies were held constantly by mothers, instead of isolated in cribs or strollers like we have today - those accessories weren't invented yet.

Children were infantilized by the sustaining warmth of mothers. Children in biblical times frequently cried, and cried for every need they had. Parents in biblical times, namely mothers, saw crying as a form of communication that the child needed something, and thus children learned that it was okay to cry to get what they needed. Children even cried for attention, and when they did, they were sure to receive loving attention from their parents. Even older children - who were more mobile - retreated to the sustaining warmth of mothers, where it was okay to cry for what you needed as a child. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Original sin: Why all adults were born in sin

The Christian doctrine of original sin is the most misused and misunderstood teaching in the Christian faith. Yet, original sin is the backbone of Christianity. Without original sin, there would be no need for a Christ. Many parents like to scapegoat their children with the teaching of original sin, instead of focusing on their own sins.

The Greek root word denoting all entitlement, including parental entitlement, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. This Greek root word implies that we all were born in sin, as it literally means entitled existence in Ancient Greek, which was assumed of all adults in the Early Church. The core of our sinful nature as adults is deservances. Entitlement of all kinds, including parental entitlement, comes from the attitude that one deserves things in life just for existing, usually with the attitude that they "are a good person/parent" just for existing. YOU, as a parent, are a depraved and decadent sinner, who is deserving of absolutely nothing. When you lose the attitude that you are deserving of things in life, you become much more grateful, and much happier. Entitlement is original sin, and original sin is entitlement, and the two are synonymous. Adults exist as entitled in relation to children, and need to atone for their sinful nature.

What washes away sin? Christian love, of course! The Greek root word denoting Christian love in the New Testament is αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to, in the context of parenting, prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to children as you would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return. True Love comes not from pride or desire, but from fearful conviction, where parents are convicted of the fact that they are depraved and decadent sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing. This creates a sense of urgency, where parents are prompted to earn their goodness by performing good works for their children. In return, children rested safely and securely in the love and submission of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children as they would God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

Children are in the providing custody of their parents, primarily that of their mothers, and secondarily that of their fathers. Mothers formed a secure attachment to their children, by way of providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comfort. During the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, never leaving her side, being wrapped up in swaddling blankets next to the mother's bosom, perhaps allowing the child to suckle her teat if the child was milk-hungry. Around age 6, children started to shake off the closeness of their mothers, venturing farther and farther from home, exploring the terrain, playing outside with neighborhood friend, and then retreating once more to the sustaining warmth of mothers, most of the time through co-sleeping, with mothers and children being naked when in the family home, and with children being naked everywhere they went until adulthood.

The nature of mankind is inherently depraved. This is because adult-kind has been incurring on child-kind since the beginning of human history. God hates our entitled existence, so much that He wants nothing of us but DEATH and PUNISHMENT. Only a few of us - the elect - will inherit the Kingdom of God. The rest will be tormented forever and ever in the everlasting lake of fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices. See Rom. 3:9-18.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the lake of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Christian attachment parenting: Understanding Christian attachment parenting

Many parents support authoritative parenting as a way of dealing with children. The most common punishment in the United States is time-out, sometimes accompanied by a disciplinary spanking. Most American parents punish their children in some way, in some form. Most parents use the Bible as parenting guidance. The Bible is an excellent source for parenting wisdom, but one must take into account the Hebraic context of the Bible.

Christian attachment parenting is based on the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to, in the Hebraic context here, to modeling Christian discipline to children. The standard of Christian discipline is deserving of absolutely nothing, therefore grateful for everything, with this leading to a chastened up example for children to follow. Parents worked on their entitlement in biblical times, and children followed suit. When children were caught emulating the disciplined example of their parents, they were lavishly praised and encouraged to "continue down the right path". Christian parents in the 1st Century caught children being good, not being bad. Usually, ordinary childhood misdeeds were let go because parents in the Early Church knew intuitively that most childish and immature behaviors in children were developmentally appropriate. Every once and a while, a child received a righteous warning from their parents, denoted by the Greek root word for "admonition", which is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia). Parents could not issue lawful and binding orders to minor children, and so they, on occasion, made requests to their children from the bottom of their heart, hoping the child would trust them enough to follow their instructions, forming the bond necessary for children to follow those instructions. 

Children are in the providing custody of their parents, primarily that of their mothers, and secondarily that of their fathers. Mothers formed a secure attachment with their children, and did so by way of providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding or skin-on-skin comfort. During the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness with mothers, never leaving her side, being wrapped up in swaddling blankets next to her bosom when out and about, perhaps offering the child a chance to suckle her teat if milk-hungry. Around age 6, children started to shake off the closeness of their mothers, exploring the terrain, venturing farther and farther away from home, playing outside with neighborhood friends, then retreating to the sustaining warmth of mothers once more come nighttime, through skin-on-skin co-sleeping. Both mothers and children were naked in the family home, and children were naked everywhere they went until adulthood.

Christian attachment parenting is attachment parenting based off of the Early Christian context of the Bible, and how Christian parents in the 1st Century raised their children. You may find that most Christians in the 1st Centuty were attachment parents. The Apostle Paul himself was a vociferous child advocate of his time, writing on children's issues more than any other biblical writer, including in his secular writings. The Ancient Jews were all attachment parents, but the Early Christians took attachment parenting further, following the loving and forgiving example and teachings of Christ in their parenting.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why it is okay to pamper your children

Many parents are afraid to do it. Most parents are afraid of being seen as pampering their children. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents are afraid that pampering their children will lead to spoiling them. The fact of the matter is that the Bible, when understood in its Hebraic context, says to pamper your child. 

Pampering children is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers are to rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with kidnapping being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating them as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

In the Early Christian church communities, parents pampered their children, and wanted to be seen among their fellow parishioners as pampering their children. Mothers, from day one, held their babies all the time, no matter what they were doing. This led to children wanting to be held frequently by mothers, and mothers holding children frequently. 

Children, for the first 6 years of life, were in constant closeness to their children, with the child never leaving her side, and the mother wrapping up the child in swaddling blankets next to her bosom when out and about, perhaps offering the child to suckle her teat if the child was milk-hungry. Around the age of 6, children started to shake off the closeness of mothers, venturing farther and farther from home, exploring the terrain, playing with same-age peers out in the open, then retreating to the sustaining warmth of mothers once more, usually through skin-on-skin co-sleeping, with both children and mothers being naked in the family home. Mothers served as home base as children came home from a day playing outside...This context is applicable today much as it was in the days of old. 

In Ancient Israel also, it was seen as perfectly acceptable and encouraged to pamper your children. Children were frequently held and coddled in the arms of mothers. Israelite homes were warm and loving. This precedent is lifted up in the New Testament with the commandment to not provoke children to anger and the commandment for children to be resting in the loving arms of parents. The Early Christians also strived to pamper children within their own community. This was called righteous pampering, and most Jewish parents during the time of Christ and His Apostle Paul took this tenet of Jewish parenting seriously. The Early Christians were seen then as part of the Jewish faith, and practiced the same parenting as their Hellenistic Jewish neighbors, only they took the righteous pampering further.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!