The "naughty list": Why this is child abuse

Many parents support Santa's naughty list, meaning they threaten children with a naughty list from Sants Claus. This is a common attempt to motivate a child to "behave". This is a form of child abuse under biblical law.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure trust in parents. Replace "obey" with "trust" and you come to a roughly better translation. However, this trust is borne out of maternal warmth and sustenance. This refers to secure, warm trust in parents, meaning children don't even need a Santa Claus as an intercessor between parents and children, as the concept of Santa Claus is a resurrection of the Norse god Odin designed to act as a Christ-like intercessor, assuming all parents had a God complex in the course of their work. This sort of trust, in biblical times, came in the form of attachment parenting, with children being wrapped up next to mothers in swaddling clothing, being held close to their mother's bosom, reassured and having their every upset validated.

Making threats, even in vain, is a violation of a child's right not to be disturbed or provoked by their neighbor, meaning their parents. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to provocations to anger in children, namely any and all offenses against children, as denoted by the slightest of offense perceived by the child. This was intended by the Apostle Paul as a prohibition on all punitive parenting, including even threats such as the modern-day "naughty list". The Early Christians did not celebrate Santa Claus, and under the Law that Jesus Christ upheld, punishment was considered kidnapping, and that was the context Paul was writing to, with Paul rebuking Greek Christians who brought their punitive parenting habits, a part of their idolatrous pagan custom, into the church.

The "naughty list" offends children, and provokes them to anger. I don't even celebrate Santa Claus, but sometimes the children insist otherwise, but few children like the Christmas red tape that is the naughty list. Most American parents do celebrate Santa Claus, and many of my Mennonite Anabaptist theology believe in a similar gift-giver "Weichnachtmann", in which case I would say that he shouldn't wield a whip that cracks, and neither should Santa in general. 

Parents are giving extensions of Christ, meaning parents should focus on being grateful for their children, bestowing gifts and toys to their children, lighting up the faces of their children, expecting absolutely nothing in return, just as Christ never asked for any gifts for His Sacrifice on the cross. Gratitude, in giving form, is giving to your neighbor - meaning your child - and expecting absolutely nothing in return for your act of kindness and charity. Punishing children at all this season reeks of ingratitude and hardness of heart in parenting. Christ was a gentle parent, meaning He spared several people of being punished by execution, which included corporal punishment. Parents are to emulate the giving example of Christ, and not punish or control children, instead warning them gently when they go astray, nudging them on the right path.

The naughty list won't stop children from behaving erratically and irrationally, as is the irrational nature of children. Children need to go through these phases themselves, and that's exactly what the vast majority of behaviors are - phases a child is going though, that will end in due time, and if they don't, they have a disability of some kind that needs treatment. Parents need to stop resenting their child, and get down on their knees and thank the Lord for the child He blessed them with. Mary was grateful for her child, as was any decent Israelite mother then. The naughty list does not accommodate the behavioral needs of children, as most children misbehave automatically due to developmental immaturity, and automatic actions are not sins due to the defense of ignorance, which the defense of infancy is in assumed form - a child cannot be prosecuted before hearing out Christ's message from parents, and that is because children can't keep the Law perfectly, so they need their parents to be their savior on earth, just as Christ is the savior of parents and other adult believers.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's final resting place! Let them descend into the abyss which is Hell and torment, suffering God's Wrath for all eternity! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Temper tantrums: Why they aren't bad behavior

Many parents believe that temper tantrums are to be punished. This is a common misconception among parents. Tomorrow is Christmas Eve, and last minute shopping might be a bit of a hassle if you have children in tow. Temper tantrums are not bad behavior.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure trust in parents. Replace "obey" and "trust" and you come to a somewhat better translation. However, this refers to a special kind of trust, borne out of maternal warmth and sustenance. This is an open, honest type of trust where children can tell parents everything, and cry to them, and only expect comfort and condolences, not expecting any punishment or control. Parents in biblical times used attachment parenting as a norm, with children being swaddled next to mothers in swaddling bands, with children wrapped up until adulthood next to mothers most of the time, otherwise playing freely, but never leaving her line of sight. Children up until age 3 were treated as infants and breastfed by their mothers as such. Parents in the Early Christian church communities were extensions of Christ in the family home, providing a charitable and sacrificial example of Christian love, submitting totally to their children, accepting children totally as well. Children were seen as extensions of God to convict parents of what children need. This context is applicable to the degree the individual parent can apply it, but both parents should be on the same page.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to provocation to anger, meaning any and all offenses against children, as defined as the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, stemming from entitlement. Reassurance and validation of a child's upset, in the moral legal sense, show your benevolent intent in relation to children, by apologizing for making them upset with a denial of requests. The Apostle Paul intended this verse as a prohibition on spanking, and other forms of punishment and control in parenting. Paul here was rebuking Greek Christian who supported and defended the Hellenistic pagan custom of spanking and whipping children. Punishment was seen in ancient Hebrew and Christian cultures as something for adults who knew better, yet did wrong anyway. If you didn't know that it was wrong, you never were punished, and minor children were expected not to know right from wrong, and thus were unable to be punished at all, with any punishment of a child being seen as kidnapping. Corporal punishment was only allowed in the Old Testament as a sentence for crime. The Early Christian churches did not practice corporal punishment in law enforcement.

Temper tantrums are not bad behavior. Their causes usually come in layers, with common causes being tiredness and lack of attention. What should a parent do? Pay attention to their child in the store, while in tow or in a shopping cart. If the child is tired, reassure them that "we'll be home soon" and count the items you are getting off of the shelf, such as "I'm now getting a grill for dad, etc.". This level of predictability is seen currently as only a need in children with autism, but all children need a sense of predictability in their life, due to the size and development of their brains. Most young children have similar special needs as a child with autism, but children with autism are obvious when self-advocating for their needs, and have an especially convicting appearance.

Temper tantrums are a child either grieving and/or overwhelmed. We all need to say "no" to a child, but note that the child you might just be saying "no" to probably feels cornered by the word, so say it nicely and use euphemisms for the word "no", such as "that won't work' or "can't happen" and explain why, on their level. Reassure and validate their tears of upset and anguish, and know that they are brand new to this world, so rejection shocks them. DO NOT punish the child AT ALL! Tantrums are not bad behavior, but simply are an immature mode of expressing emotion in children. Only decline a request if it is completely unattainable or unsafe. If it can be met in any way, or supplemented in any way, meet the want or supplement it.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

The morality of sexual fantasy about children

Many pedophiles today are supportive of fantasy rights. I support the modern version of fantasy rights, meaning sexual fantasy about children as a daydream. Sexual fantasy is stigmatized not by children's rights advocates these days in the United States, but family values supporters like me, but unlike me on their sexual views about sexual thought.

It says in Colossians 3:5-7 KJV:

Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry: For which things' sake the wrath of God cometh on the children of disobedience: In which ye also walked some time, and lived in them.

The Greek root word translated "inordinate affection" is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers here to adult sexual entitlement, meaning wanting sex with children to the point of seeking it out, and feeling the inordinate passions of the drive to seek out sexual relations with a child. This word means lustful desire, but only to the point of imposition or seeking to impose. 

There is no age limit here in terms of fantasy, as none is stated in the text or context of the Bible. Matt. 5:27-28 also uses the same Greek word mentioned above points to the intent of an adulterer - Jesus was simply pointing out the man's responsibility in adultery cases, when society of His time only focused on the woman's fault, which Christ pardoned when He prohibited all capital punishment with His example.

In any offense in the Bible, there is entitlement leading to theft. All sin is theft, meaning all entitlement leads to theft, and all entitlement, when caught, is theft of some sort. However, a thief stealing a loaf of bread must have intent to steal it, meaning the entitlement necessary to steal it. Sexual fantasy is not even the intent necessary to prove fornication in a divine court of law. All intent in fornication involves imposition of desire onto another person. All it took then, to be clear, was one improper touch of a woman by a man, and he was deemed by others as unclean until the even. But, not a moment before the improper sexual contact outside of marriage. 

The Greek root word denoting fornication is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers to unlawful sexual contact with another person. It had to, as a burden of proof under the Law, include a neighbor as a co-defendant (in the case of consensual fornication) or plaintiff (in the case of rape or sexual assault). Fornication was a very serious charge then, and branded you as a sex offender for life in the eyes of a given church community, meaning an outcast that would only fit in to the next church over. Simple masturbation could be seen as part of the crime, but only in reverse coloration format, and only if it enticed the offender. Most sex offenders them were presumed not to have fantasized enough, as the Apostle Paul gave advice to pedophilic fathers to sexually fantasize about their children in some of his secular writings to parents. Bragging about fantasies in public was seen as fornication.

What I would like to see in terms of an accepting world for pedophiles is everyone seeking to be a safe person for a pedophile to talk to. Instead of wanting to appear as a hater, appear as a safe person for a pedophile to confide in. Let them tell you about a crush they can't tell anyone else about, and listen to them and validate their feelings and struggles. The idea is to mow down the depraved and defiled child predators who hate pedophiles on the side, and allow for the true pedophiles who simply have a mental disorder to show, and then allow all attraction to children to show so that we can better police it, and so they can get help.

Those with sexual fantasies about children should be aware of their thoughts, in a comfortable way, in a way that it can be controlled by the adult with such thoughts, meaning reigning in extra desire and turning it into a fantasy that gets the child out of one's system. The more you feel comfortable in your own skin, the thinner the desires are in your brain, meaning it is like sun tan oil to look at a young girl. Most of the child, at that point, is attractive, in terms of bodily anatomy, but at a level that simply colors their person in an attractive light. They are fun to look at and check out.

Let the depraved and defiled adult fornicators towards children BURN in torrents of Hell-fire! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

The age of consent: Why sex with children will never be okay (even if is today - to some degree)

Many people think the age of consent is 18 throughout the country, and perhaps that there is federal legislation ensuring that. That is actually not the case, meaning the age of consent here in Pennsylvania is 16, and even younger when allowed by the court within a marriage.

Sex with children is already normalized in some segments of society, and the result isn't pretty. Child marriage is currently legal in all 50 states, and was legalized in Delaware recently by popular demand. Who does it? Conservative Christians in what is called a shotgun wedding. I have never known a pedophile in my circles at the Virtuous Pedophiles forums to support child marriage, with all opposing it on moral grounds, with articles about such being intended to spark outrage among pedophiles.

The age of consent does exist in the Bible. The sex crime laws under Jewish law are repeated by one word, πορνεία (Latin: porneia), and refers to all sex crime statutes under the Law of Moses, including the age of consent/marriage. Children then could not marry, as the age of majority went then, as the age of consent/marriage was at the age of majority, which is 18 today. The ancient Hebrews saw sex as an adult action, and something very special that was to be saved for marriage, meaning the act itself finalized the marriage contract. Children under the age of majority could not sign a contract, thus they could not get married.

Will sex with children be okay? I do believe most forms of abuse have more iatrogenic factors than inherent factors, but objective morality can create moral laws that have no meaning except the law itself, meaning propriety standards that existed then mandating same-age marriage. Young men then married young women their same age or slightly older. We might get to the point, given our founding values, where children would age as adults younger and thus be able to perhaps marry their high school sweetheart. But, that is as far as we will let that go in this country, as we are a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian values, and we will never allow sex with children by adults to be legal anywhere.

We need to raise the age of consent in Pennsylvania to 18, alongside the statute against corrupting the morals of a minor. Sex with a child today in Pennsylvania could violate the law without breaking it, meaning any adult that comes into contact with a child acts in place of the parent, meaning the legal doctrine of parent in loco parentis. Thus, sex with a child as an adult in Pennsylvania is like a parent having sex with their own child, and that isn't right.

The depraved and defiled adult fornicators towards children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them BURN and suffer the second death, prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven!

Caught by the mental health system: What pedophilia in the raw feels like

Many people think that pedophilia is an unending drive to prey on children. Most people who think of non-offending pedophiles think of "impressionable" adults with autism who are attracted to children on their developmental level, which is accurate, but then we wear whiskers when depicted to the public, meaning like a lion or a tiger. The feeling is not that big of a deal.

In most cases, pedophilia exists in the raw, but is marred by depression and/or anxiety. I never feared people knowing, perhaps to my peril. I did fear for children, though, as if every single child is my own, and thus I need to protect them from their parents. It took every inch of me, before taking anti-anxiety medications, not to make a bogus child abuse report. I knew, or thought I knew, that it would go nowhere, so I restrained myself from calling PA ChildLine. Believe me, if I allowed myself to make all the welfare calls I wanted to, I'd be on the phone every single day, pretty much, about a child I saw in the store or the restaurant, and I can't do anything about the sort of lawful case I grew up in, so just leave it to God to set right in another place, at another time, when the Lord is ready to judge them.

I myself do use pro-social self-loathing, but that is because I didn't feel it naturally. I actually was a sex offender, under the Law, meaning divine but not quite secular. I just embraced the feeling, and embraced the crushes, in the form of a tone-deaf disclosure. The main abuse I committed was antisocial "flirt". Think an older teenager or young adult catcalling a young girl. It is the most invisible, everyday form of child sexual abuse that I think happens a lot, particularly in home settings with a parent that has poor boundaries with their child.

My case of pedophilia is situational in terms of offending nature. Otherwise, it is merely an afterthought, meaning a daydream, or else a connotation attached to a child. It is a parental attachment that is sexualized in nature, in terms of connotation, meaning I see every child as like my child, but girls of a certain age also bring out sexual connotations, like spray tan oil.

I have been caught by the mental health system, meaning I actually confided into a therapist and other mental health professionals, and it was like the topic just came up out of nowhere. I have since learned that my pedophilic disorder is caused by my immaturity, meaning I am immature at the level of a 12-year-old, so why not be attracted to 12-year-old girls? I myself mask my immaturity with Christian non-entitlement, and save it for my mother, or else indoors. My immaturity, otherwise, would lead to me wanting to take a young girl out on a date, and maybe ask her out. I needed to grow up, and have no entitlement in relation to children, which translates, in terms of non-entitlement, to perhaps zero entitlement. Sex is a self-interest in relation to children, but not an entitlement.

I am actually grateful for the assertiveness of children. I am a preverbal pedophile, and so the survivors that are afraid of me tend to be the male type, such as those who are first responders or workbench types. There is a reason most police hate pedophiles - that was their trauma, which blew them up with anger. I actually don't lust after adult survivors, because they are grown up and not children anymore, so they'd lived past their half life, and now simply are people - people with a burden that weighs on me, and convicts me. Sometimes, I see survivor women as like a child, but only if they are willing to pose in that way for me, meaning autopedophilia. Most children, throughout modern and medieval history, were too passive towards adults, and thus were easy prey for a preverbal abuser. Today, a child is more inclined to simply fight off a preverbal abuser, which is progress.

Pedophilia is sexualized parental attachment towards children under age 14, regardless of parent status, meaning a pedophile generally wants simply a friendship with a child, but with those connotations, for the pedophile only and never the child. However, in such friendships, the child automatically senses the sexual connotations attached to them, and is assertive in response to their senses about the individual, making for a perfect parent/caregiver relationship with a child. The Bible reads in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to offenses perceived by the child, meaning anything offensive as perceived by the child. Whenever a child has a stomach upset from an adult's behavior towards them, that is abuse, and when that abuse is sexual in motivation, sexual abuse. In cases of child sexual abuse, this verse implicitly references the Greek root word πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers to any sexual contact with another person outside of marriage, physical, verbal, or symbolic, which defiles the abuser as unclean until the even - meaning until they turn themselves in.

Let the adult fornicators of children BURN! Let the depraved and defiled sexually entitled adults/fornicators be cast into eternal fire and torrent! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Gratitude: Why to be grateful for your child (teaching children gratitude)

It is Christmas-time once more. The main theme of the Christmas season is gratitude, meaning gratitude for what you have, and what you are given. How do you teach this to a child? You treat them with gratitude, and be a grateful person yourself.

It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey you parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor thy father and mother, for this is the first commandment with promise; That is may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of parents.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to a standard of Christian discipline, based on the attitude of being entitled to nothing, and being grateful for everything, leading to a chastened up, grateful attitude to model to children, backed up by rare verbal warnings not linked to any punishment whatsoever, as denoted by the Greek root word νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) which is translated "admonition". Gratitude is a product of discipline and self-control, meaning a denying attitude that gives to children and expects absolutely nothing in return from children. Gratitude is a special attitude where you notice what you don't deserve in a child, yet have, leading to you loving the child you already have, and then them loving the parent they already have.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure trust in parents. Replace "obey" with "trust" and you come to a roughly better translation. However, this commandment refers to a special type of trust, borne out of maternal trust and warmth. Attachment parenting was the tradition in ancient Israel and adjoining churches, with children up until adulthood swaddled next to mothers in swaddling bands, with children being snuggled in the nude, in skin-to-skin closeness. Children up until age 3 were breastfed then and were seen as infants. Child surrender is rest in the unconditional Christian love of parents, with children not having to work one bit for a parent's love. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to provocations to anger, meaning any and all offenses against children, as defined as the slightest of offense perceived by a child. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul as a prohibition against all punitive parenting, including any punishment or control in a family home, including spanking and corporal punishment. Paul here was admonishing Greek Christian parents for their pagan custom of spanking children. Corporal punishment only existed as a sentence for crime for ADULT children, and only in the Old Testament. Christ abolished both corporal punishment and capital punishment by experiencing it on the cross.

Gratitude is borne out of discipline and chastisement in an in an individual, with parents being the first role models of gratitude in this regard. Parents are their children's first role models, and thus parents should have the level of chastening and discipline they need to model to their children. Discipline and chastened up attitudes will get you far in life, and when children are allowed rest in their parents, they too will grow up, at some point, to be chastened up and disciplined, once they are allowed to go through the stages of child development naturally, resting in the submission and Christian love of parents, with parents expecting nothing in return from children. 

This Christmas season, be grateful for your child. It will teach them gratitude as well. Be chastened up and disciplined in the Lord, entitled to nothing, but grateful for your child even being there with you. Then, you remember who really counts - your child. You remember who your child is now, and love and accept that child right now. Mutual submission. Mutual gratitude. With parent and child going hand and hand, and not to battle.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into Hell and torment for all eternity, suffering God's Wrath! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Temper tantrums: What to do about them

Many parents think of temper tantrums as bad behavior. Tantrums are a common excuse for punishing children. Temper tantrums are the most common reason why children are punished, by parents and other similarly charged adults. This Christmas season is full of triggers for children to tantrum, meaning they might just be tired, or they might want things that adults aren't willing to give them, for good reasons or not.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure trust in parents. Replace "obey" and "trust" and you come to a roughly better translation. This refers to a special form of trust, borne out of maternal warmth and sustenance. Attachment parenting was the norm in biblical times, with children being swaddled next to parents up until adulthood, being wrapped up next to mothers in her swaddling clothes, being held close to parents, respecting and honoring parents later. It is surrender into the loving arms of parents. Attachment parenting was the Judeo-Christian tradition in actual biblical parenting.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to provocations to anger, meaning any and all offenses against children, as defined as the slightest of personal slights perceived by the child, stemming from entitlement. Entitlement here is unlawful intent, meaning wanting things for children or of children to the point of seeking to impose said want onto children, leading to them taking offense. However, sometimes, you have to say "no", which may hurt the child's feelings and cause a temper tantrum. This is where reassurance and validation of upset comes in - you reassure a child to affirm your good intent around them, and thus disprove entitlement by not being entitled towards their feelings. The Apostle Paul intended this verse to prohibit any punitive parenting, including any punishment or control such as spanking or corporal punishment, rebuking Greek Christian parents for their pagan custom of spanking children. Corporal punishment only existed in the Old Testament, and only as a sentence for crime for ADULT children, with the rod verses referring to the dated 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction. Think department of corrections, and then you truly understand what corporal punishment was then for the Israelites. Christ was put to death and experienced corporal punishment so that we don't have to, with this including children.

Tantrums are not bad behavior. They are a form of grieving in children, meaning they wanted something, and they can't have it, and so they are going to cry to bargain with parents about what they want. So, bargain with them if you can, and instead of saying "no" to the bicycle, say "next pay period" when you can afford to get a bicycle. Do not say "no" as an absolute statement unless you really cannot compromise, usually for unsafe behaviors. Do not decline children's demands and requests unless you really have to, meaning if they are completely unattainable or unsafe. With monetary issues, there are usually ways for parents to budget to give their children what they want, but usually, parents are too lazy to budget for their child's wants/needs. 

A want is seen as coming from the parent by the child, and therefore, the parent must give in most times and find a way to make things work for the child, and you usually can, if you care about your child and accept them that much. Any time they want stuff from the store, they really want YOU, and some reminder that YOU care about them, enough to buy them all that stuff, because "you're worth it" is what they hear from you. The idea is to let them buy the candy in the checkout line, because it comes from YOU.

Sometimes, very young children grieve the lack of comfort and predictability when at home, while isolated in a shopping cart. They want to sleep, so reassure them that "we'll be home soon" in a soft, caring voice, maybe listing the items you need to get, uttering each item out loud as purchased. They need to be able to predict when they will leave an overwhelming environment when they are tired, and announcing bought items will help them track time on the way out of the supermarket, mall, or department store. God wants parents to not show entitlement towards a child's tiredness. Sometimes, they just want attention, so give them such, perhaps by making an innocent joke such as peek-a-boo or having a conversation (with an older child or teenager).

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death! Let them be tormented in everlasting Hell and fire, suffering God's Wrath for all eternity! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!