Pro-social quiet: Understanding roles in parenting in terms of speech control and entitlement

Many parents believe that children must be quiet in relation to adults, and when they talk to much, or else cry, scream, or pout, they are punished by parents. Pro-social quiet is part of the attachment parenting lexicon. I am to shut up in relation to children, and know my place as the lowly, entitled adult, who is totally depraved down to the bone in relation to children and to God.

It says in Hebrews 12:5-11 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation that speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth He chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom He receiveth. If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as sons; for what is the son whom the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards and not sons.

The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μαστιγόω (Latin: mastigóo) and refers literally from scourging from the rod of correction, which was a symbol of both legal authority and discipline that comes from heeding legal authority. The Greek root word "chasteneth" and "chastening" are παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to the chastening of the Lord, meaning self-discipline and self-control, due to self-imposed behaviorism. One can start on the speech level, in the form of self-punishment for improper or aggressive speech towards children.

The idea is to control one's speech by way of moderating one's interaction towards children. We usually speak when we want something, whereas children aren't there to give adults what they want. It is the reverse, in fact. We are there to submit to the child's every benign request, such as food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachments. It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, as this is right. Honor thy father and mother, which is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to convicted self-control and self-discipline, marked by the level of silence in the parent. It is a form of discipline in a parent that involves the parent being shut up in relation to children, quietened unless they have something kind, nice, or otherwise relevant to say to the child, and only when the child is willing to hear it. You can lecture a child, but you can't make them do anything, as they just will keep doing what behavior they are into behind your back. It is being shut up in a way that allows children to be a close confidant and friend to parents, sharing however they feel to parents at any intensity, with parents being the safe person who takes the child's feelings seriously. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the admonition of the Lord, namely setting limits and boundaries in the form of God's Loving Reproof. It is a brief, and rare limit, and should be rare as most childhood behaviors should be let go until a later age, due to childhood immaturity. This is weighed by the Greek root word παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to the offenses under the Law, meaning the torts and damages under Jewish law, including the assault and battery laws that the scope of the law protects children from abuse. Striking a child was considered an offense, just like striking a parent, and was often prosecuted under kidnapping statutes, as the phrase "hold in one's hand" refers to any hostage taking or false imprisonment, meaning the very motive for punishing a child. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest and trust in the care and safety of parents, being able to be oneself in relation to parents, thus being able to say to or tell parents anything, including venting frustration, owing absolutely nothing in return towards parents, yet nonetheless listening to parents out of gratitude for the warm, loving respect parents show towards children. This involves Christian love, which is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) meaning being convicted of the fact that you do not deserve to exist as the entitled parent/adult that you are, leading to gratitude at earning one's existence by way of treating children with respect. The setup is parents and adults being silent and shut up in a warm, supervisory, and reassuring way, and children playing freely, screaming and running around until their hearts content. A child cries and tantrums, and the parent is calm and centered in listening to the child's tears, saying "I'm here". Other than that, parents are not to speak to children unless spoken to, and only to the degree that the child wants to speak.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in everlasting torment, which is the lake of fire that will be Satan's final resting place! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

 

 

Why religious entitlement towards children is sin

 Many parents abuse their children, namely through corporal punishment, with 94% of parents physically battering their children within the law. Most parents get their parenting advice through religious sources, not secular sources, as America is a Christian nation. However, this does not make it okay to force religion on a child.

Religious entitlement is denoted by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to wanting a child to believe in a faith or ideology, to the point of seeking to impose said want, leading to abuse by way of offenses. It says in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to the offenses in the Bible, namely the torts and damages in the Law stemming from the Eighth Commandment, including the assault and battery laws that extended to children in term of scope of protection. Basically, any method of religious instruction that the child deems offensive is religious abuse. Religious child abuse does exist, but usually as a mesh category that is secondary to something else, usually corporal punishment within the law, but also many times sexual abuse or unlawful physical abuse.

I myself do not fear God in the traumatic sense, but the traditional reverent sense, meaning I am not afraid of Him punishing me, I simply fear Him punishing me in a way that I obey His Divine Jurisprudence. This is because my parents never punished me for anything related to religion. Most children are shamed using religion in this country, whereas my father and mother simply encouraged religious growth. This was how children were taught Scripture in the Early Church - encouragement was the main teacher.

Religious instruction in the biblical context started out with the connotations of crayons and drawings, and ended with a "see for yourself" lesson in terms of reading the Holy Writings concerning finding the passages that say bad adults are going to Hell, then reassurance later that "you were a kid. You may have done some stupid things as a kid, but since you were a child, God forgives you. But, now you are officially an adult" Theological texts such as the Book of Revelation are very difficult to navigate, hence why you save them for the last few days of religious instruction. There is no need for any sexual gaslighting in the form of sodomy. The text simply stood out to the Bible student, in a convicting way that wasn't traumatic in nature, since it wasn't coupled with punishment. A 6-year-old boy had no concept of Hell either, meaning young children were shielded from that imagery. 

Punishment of any kind was illegal under the canon law of the Early Church, as such was seen as assault and battery against a child under kidnapping statutes, meaning a capital punishment that God spared for the offender, as the Early Church also banned capital punishment, meaning parishioners participating in Roman executions. Punishing a child in the name of religious was blasphemy. Many churches then had a large influx of Greco-Roman fathers especially who physically punished children, which was seen by Jewish parishioners in the Church as an abuse problem that was to be ashamed of, regardless of the acceptance of corporal punishment in the outside Hellenistic world for children. That was one of the things shunned by the Early Church. The prevailing understanding of parents in the Early Church, and especially church leadership, was that punishing a child misrepresented God and was thus blasphemous in nature when conflated with religious instruction...The only punishment that could exist under Jewish law was judicial in nature, and only after extensive due process.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! Punishing children in the name of God blasphemes the Lord in the name of controlling a subject, thus rendering them a victim of abuse. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why not to antisocial "hover": Avoiding being pushy with children

 What is antisocial "hover"? Many parents abuse their children this way. I myself am a victim of child abuse of this kind. My father would hover over me, trying to stop me from doing things that, in retrospect, were dangerous, but dealt with the danger in a punitive, controlling way. Authoritative parenting can be visualized by the survivor of such parenting as warmth next to a stop sign, with "NO" replacing the normal peacekeeper "STOP", meaning explanation refused by parenting, usually referring to antisocial "hovering" from the parent. You have good times, for sure, but tend to only remember the bad times as a survivor of abuse within the law. It is a policing impression in the home, and the false impression of warmth and caring for a child when the parent appears as a hothead and a sociopath to the child.

"Hover" refers to a visceral feeling that a child gets from their parents, where parents are trying to control their child's movements and overly prompt them, while not letting them prompt themselves to do the right thing. This sort of action comes from parental entitlement, as denoted by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to wanting to direct and prompt a child, to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child, leading to offense from the child, usually in terms of discomfort or protest. It says in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to the offenses, meaning whatever the child finds offensive, and ultimately to the torts and damages system under the Mosaic Law linked to the Eighth Commandment. This can also include the overbearing emotion of parents hovering over children. It is a feeling of a tower over you, but one that gives instructions "for your own good", justifying it by either punishment or a "positive behavior plan", meaning rewards and stickers leading to punishment by way of removal.

Children in ancient Israel were only monitored closely due to the dangers involved, namely snakes, scorpions, and hot sand that would burn their feet. The modern climate in Israel is temperate, much like here in Pennsylvania, but was very arid, in the form of a desert (showing that the climate is always changing). Even then, children were often allowed to range next to parents, playing within the line of sight of mothers especially. freely and without adult intervention except in the case of natural hazards, where the mother would simply pick up the child. Punishing a child was illegal under Jewish law, and punishment in the adult world was only acceptable as a sentence for crime, and in the Early Church did not include any corporal or capital punishment in church ordinances and laws, as the early Christians saw a man who had to strike another person to be "in control" as out of control. A parent is to be in control of themselves, not their child. They should simply lead their child by example.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God, and will be cast into the lake of burning sulfur meaning the fire of Hell on their last day, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

How to deal with sexual thoughts about children

Pedophilia is the sexual attraction to children under age 14, with sexual attractions older than that age being considered moral in a flawed manner by sex researchers. Many pedophiles have sexual thoughts about children, perhaps their children or friends of their children. Many pedophiles struggle with these thoughts, beating themselves up about such thoughts.

Adult sexual entitlement is denoted by the Greek root word for general entitlement in the New Testament, πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés), and refers to wanting sexual activity or a sexual relationship with a child to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child under the age of majority in the relevant jurisdiction of said child target/victim, leading to parent/adult fornication (GRK: πορνεία). This anti-entitlement model is widely respected even by pedophiles who are atheist/agnostic, who make up the majority. 

We all, as adults, have unfair thoughts about children. Most adults have physically violent thoughts in relation to children when that child keeps screaming in the store. A pedophile may want to run away on some honeymoon with such an assertive child. Actual pedophiles like assertiveness in a child, namely one where she just won't shed their identity, no matter what, and that child identity includes immaturity, which is to be expected of a child that young. Normal adults punish such behavior, whereas pedophiles "reward" or seek to. They usually seek to.

The idea is to not to suppress or push out sexual thoughts about children, but take them head on. Acknowledge their existence, know they are there, but shed their moral significance, meaning thoughts alone are no moral problem. Sexually entitled intent towards children is what is the moral problem, but allowing yourself to have sexual thoughts about your children, as well as indulging now and then, makes the thoughts a non-issue. The problem is when you dwell on what they mean to the outside world. The outside world isn't looking in your thoughts.

Intent is when you want to have sex with a child to the point of plotting or taking the first steps to seek it out, or, more likely, putting yourself in a position where you'd easily "get away with" sex with children. Most sexual abuse is situational in nature, meaning one rape or sexual assault, usually with a repressed offender whose final straw was choosing to be in the same room as a child, alone without supervision, and then catastrophe happens. Why were they even there in the first place? Just make up a lie as to why you can't watch the child, or why you can't allow sleepovers. Why do you even have to be in the same room, in the same bed, with the child? Recklessness counts as entitlement in terms of guilty intent (mens rea) leading to guilty action and offense taken by the child (actus reus).

Pedophilic attractions are easy to deal with once entirely on the surface, meaning the high-low level where I am at as having the condition. You become a "predict" narcissist for yourself, predicting when you might encounter children, and planning ways around abusing them sexually like a fire-escape plan. It is like seeing a cone of choices around the child, and you just move the variables around to make sure nothing happens between you and her that would even offend her in the moment, out of entitlement. This means keeping self-interests in check, so that none are imposed out of the child in a way that might offend her. It is okay to have self-interest in relation to children, and even to ask children to do favors such as clean up their room and put their plate in the sink (not that they'll do them, by any guarantee), but asking a child to do anything sexual with you is entitlement, or else asking them to endure your sexual feelings. Locational and verbal self-interest is what I watch, meaning where I am, and when an attractive child is around, knowing to shut up except on her cue.

Adult power and control also has a reverse expression, meaning one that appoints children as caregiver beyond her years, in a way that is burdensome to the child victim. Sometimes, control is from beneath, and involves a mooch and shapeshifter which most autistic child molesters are. Most abuse their own children, seeing them as heroic parent figures, clinging to them, burdening her with his every trauma and fear. Think a grown man hiding behind a little girl, shaking like a dog, saying "I'm scared! Please, save me from those cops" and she says "Nope" calmly, and then he screams like the gods have come down on him. Justice well done. That could have been me if I didn't stop myself. I am referring to a "paws" abuser, meaning they literally beg with paws motions *at the beginning* of the interrogation, usually when the police and CPS first arrive. They have a form of autism where they can use valid trauma in a way that is manipulative in the form of antisocial "emphatic", and are usually entitled traumatics. Love is bondservice to children, and thus children should not love their parents - parents are charged with that burden...Usually, it is a rickety home that smells like rotten eggs and cat feces. Usually, it comes alongside behavioral and other forms of neglect. The little guys are the ones you have to worry about, not the big guys, with clinical pedophiles these days. In the past, autism was repressed. Now it is way out in the open, too much in the form of political correctness. 

Sexual activity with children will never be okay. Opposing Parental Entitlement advocates a nationwide age of consent of 18. An age of consent did exist in ancient Israel, and the Greek root words πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and ύπερακμνός (Latin: huperakmos) See 1 Cor. 6:18, 7:36 respectively. The Greek root word πορνεία (Latin: porneia) "lifts up" all of the sex crime statutes under the Mosaic Law, summed up as any sexual activity within a legally recognized marriage. Not all pedophiles have these values as put in this paragraph, but most pedophiles, particularly the less vocal ones, agree with me on the contact issue. If you believe sex with children should ever be legalized, you will be shunned from my midst, and condemned to eternal Hell-fire! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand, you fornicators and false pedophiles!

Heel: A biblical parenting ideal

 Many parents in this country abuse their children, meaning most. 94% of parents punish their children using corporal punishment, with 70% of parents approving of such treatment of children. This is all due to making biblical excuses for abuse. However, the true model of biblical parenting is "heel". Parents heel to their children's demands as to needs.

It says in Hebrews 12:5-11 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh to you as unto children, My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of Him. For whomever the Lord loveth He chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom He receiveth. If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as sons; for which son is he whom the father chasteneth not? But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons. Furthermore we have fathers of our flesh which corrected us, and we gave them reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection to the Father of spirits and live? For they verily chastened us for a few days chastened us after their own pleasure; but He for our profit, that we might be partakers. Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.

The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μαστιγόω (Latin: mastigoó) and literally refers to corporal punishment in the Old Testament under the Law, as a form of punitive nostalgia, in symbolic format. Corporal punishment was not a form of church discipline in the Christian Churches of God, and striking or punishing a child for anything was a violation of church ordinance, and was kidnapping due to the hostage nature of punishing children. The rod of correction was seen as symbolic of discipline in relation to the Law. The Greek root word translated "chastisement" and "chasteneth" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to the chastening of the Lord, meaning here referring to being led by example by a father to a conclusion, namely the existence of Hell, with that image being a form of aversion imagery self-applied by the young adult child (meaning not beaten into them). The Greek root word translated "grievous" is λυπε (Latin: lupé) which refers to the mentally painful parts of the chastening of the Lord. This passage has broad application, which excludes any punishment of children, but allows for self-punishments of parents, meaning tarring themselves with images of Hell. Heeling to children's needs is being in lock step with children in this reverent way, meaning a way that allows them to put you in your place when you are having a bad day. 

Such reverence is how Christian parents in the 1st Century, meaning parents and adults were afraid of their children in ancient Hebrew culture, but for the right reasons. It is a complying form of Christian love where you just have to comply with a child's wishes, unless it is way out of the ballpark. The Greek root word denoting Christian love is αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and comes from the Greek root word translated ψοβός (Latin: phobos) and refers to reverent fear, meaning a low level, stern fear that convicts a parent to serve the need of their child. When one says "I better" about their child's wishes, they love them. They usually say it in a playful way, and then their child leads them to the car, wanting to go back home for some reason. This is called heel attachment. It says in Ephesians 6:1-3 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor thy father and mother, for this is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live upon the earth.

The Greek root word "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest and trust in the love and grace of parents, in the form of heeling next to parents, meaning the reverse. Heeling is what this passage is referring to. Children only heel next to parents when parents choose to heel next to them, through eliminating all punishments to the greatest degree possible. It is parents supplying your every need, sacrificing just as Christ sacrificed for His children, expecting absolutely nothing in return. 

It says in Matthew 25:45-46 KJV:

Then shall he answer them, saying, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it not unto the least of these, ye did it not to me. And these shall go away into everlasting punishment: but the righteous into life eternal.

Children were included in the "least of these" by Christ, based on His Jewish culture and the Law He promoted, which considered any punishment of a child kidnapping. If you hold a child hostage with punishment, that is the same as holding God hostage in His eyes, meaning whatever you do to children, good or bad, you do to God.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them suffer and burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death created by God as Satan's final resting place! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! 

The admonition of the Lord: Setting limits with children (the biblical, non-violent way)

 Many parents abuse their children, meaning most. 94% of parents punish their children using domestic violence at a physical level. 1/3 of physical attacks against children might be illegal under the secular law. One problem is that there is little good information on how to set limits with a child. The admonition of the Lord involves fathers especially setting boundaries with children.

It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor thy father and mother, for this is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to the chastening of the Lord, meaning for the parent to model to the child, in terms of charring oneself in the Lord as a parent in relation to children, being struck with reverent terror for the every need, leading to a centeredness where children feel safe confiding in about anything, showing self-control in not punishing children for their feelings, and instead punishing oneself for your entitlement to physically punish a child, listening to the child itself. Pro-social behaviorism, in self-applied format. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the admonition of the Lord, meaning setting boundaries towards children, meaning the word "no" and its various variants. This is weighed by the Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to the offenses in the Bible, meaning the torts and damages system imposed on the Jewish people by the Mosaic Law, including assault and battery laws that protected children. The spirit of the Law is summed up in the New Testament as the slightest offense against your neighbor, meaning children here, and/or the slightest offense against God.

The Greek root word denoting compliance in children is "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable trust and rest in the care and safety of parents. This means that all limits are backed up by trust in parents, with parents being safe people for children to cling to when the world feels harsh and gloomy, and a shoulder to cry into. A child that trusts parents in the form of a secure bond will listen to parents later, when it is necessary to save their life. The goal of parenting is mutual submission, meaning mutual trust, with demands on one side - the child, meaning the child's every need, including attachment needs. Parental limits were non-binding and rare in the biblical context, as children were immature and could not heed every limit, or else would heed instruction more due to trusting their source. 

Parents are to heel to their children's needs and rights, meaning hearken to their every command as to their needs with a righteous fear and tremble, if they can expect compliance from children. It is paying due penance for your existence as an parent/adult in relation to children, with your only reward being the good works done to children. This was the biblical mindset in parent - parents heel to children, meaning children are side by side with parents, being pals with their children, with children ranging next to parents, or else children playing freely, with parents being the safe people being just a phone call away, there to set straight a misunderstanding. Calling parents would not be feared, but anticipated, with parents being the child's primary advocate beside themselves.

In the biblical context, children as old as 3 were swaddled next to their mother, especially when out and about running errands, perhaps going to the city market. This is simply a pictorial example as to parent a child today using the Bible as a guide.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive or permissive treatment will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Corporal punishment and other forms of abuse shall not exist within the borders of the several United States, and if you identify by such treatment of children, you shall not exist on this earth, or else outside of this world outside of torment! They will be tormented in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Policy statement on struggling abusive parents

 Should we support struggling parents. We all struggle as parents, if you are here and not there, meaning gentle instead of punitive. My view of this issue is very Calvinistic. Many will be called to be parents, yet few meet the criteria of we few gentle parents who will one day rule the world.

We support, nonetheless, in-home monitoring and general protective services in the case of a ban on spanking before getting the criminal justice system involved. We simply do not widely advertise this stance, as this is an anti-parent page, run by survivor of abusive parents. We do feel bad about struggling parents and adults who are truly trying. We just assume we are talking about the entitled ones most of the time, because corporal punishment and any other form of child abuse should not exist anywhere.

"Abuse" in posts refers to the literal definition under biblical law, which is an offense perceived by an stemming from entitlement to control, manipulate, or harass. We also support struggling parents of both sexes who sexually abuse their children getting the assistance they need in ceasing the abuse against their child.