Why children don't have to "love parents"

 Parents in America want their children to obey and heed command, at various levels, depending on whether the abuser is authoritative or authoritarian. A common theme is "love parents" as the widespread, false interpretation of the Fifth Commandment. Children don't have to "love parents". Only rest next to them.

The Bible teaches mutual submission between parents and children, starting with parents. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the care, support, and protection, feeling safe talking to parents about even isolating, misunderstood issues, owing nothing back to parents, yet being convicted to respect them anyway, because they respected and loved you first. The way to respect children is avoid offending your child, as denoted by the Greek root word ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to the damages and torts system under the Mosaic Law, summed up in the New Testament at a low, contextual level as the slightest of personal slight imposed upon the child. Anything that the child finds offensive, alarming, or otherwise unsafe or uncomfortable is sin. 

Parenting in that culture was attachment-based in nature, which meant constant closeness to parents, especially the mother. Co-sleeping was the norm in that culture, especially for the first 3 years of a child's life, when the child was seen by that culture as an infant, namely in the sense that toddler tantrums were treated the same way as infant cries. 

Parents are to love children, not the other way around, sacrificing themselves by turning themselves into their children, like Christ gave Himself up to the Roman guard, despite being perfect, with no parent being perfect, and all parents born with a depraved sin nature. It is submitting to your child as their enemy, seeking to reconcile, due to your mere existence as an entitled adult, which is offensive to your child in its natural state. Christian love for a child is a verb, and is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao)

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and brimstone, suffering the second death! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

ANNOUNCEMENT: Happy Father's Day!

 Happy Father's Day to all dads out there, particularly the good kind that don't boast or brag about their good will and works towards their children, loving their children unconditionally. My father learned to be that way, and not the identified parent that he presented growing up.

There is no need to love an identified father, or any parent that never loved you first, and never apologized for it. I am grateful that my father did turn himself around. A lot of parents do not. 

This holiday is a church holiday marking the Fifth Commandment, which in practice is written to fathers themselves in this context, meaning treat your child with respect. An accompanying commandment written literally, literally, to fathers is Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to offenses imposed on children, namely the slightest of personal slights perceived by the child. This refers to any punishment or control of a child.

Fathers, like mothers, do deserve recognition, but only when not abusive towards children, meaning that's how the flow goes in homes anyway...So, fathers, respect and love your child, and then you will be rewarded with the same from your children.

Pro-social mirror - Why children are a mirror for a parent's behavior

Many parents believe in punishment and control as ways of dealing with their child. Most all parents believe in abuse in this manner in the United States. However, it not wise, to say the very least, to punish a child, and provoke them to anger. However you treat them is what you get back.

Divine Codified Ordinance states in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, lest they become discourage. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the care, support, and protection of parents, being able to say anything to parents, owing nothing to parents, with parents loving children in a sacrificial way, just as Christ gave Himself up for His children, turning himself in for a crime against them that He didn't commit. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethzo) and literally translates to "stir up" and is one of the Greek words that lift up the offenses, or the damages and torts system imposed upon the nation of Israel by God through the Eighth, and summed up the New Testament as the slightest of personal slights perceived by a child from an adult, as a form of entitlement. Entitlement was denoted by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to not only wanting things from children, but wanting them to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child, leading to theft/abuse as determined in vs. 21, meaning whatever the child perceive viscerally as abuse objectively is.

Usually, children express provocation to anger not through lashing out at parents, but by rebelling against parents as a cry for help. This is known as pro-social mirror. The moment you see your child rebelling against you, look to see into their behaviors. Are they similar to how you lash out at them? Children mirror the anger to their parents, and either shine that light right back to the parents, shine it in the face of other adults, or other children that they would bully.

The Apostle Paul was actually pro-attachment parenting (he was single and never married), as was the ordinance of the Christian Churches of God in the 1st Century. What he was warning to fathers is that when you punish and control your child, you end up with a child that wants to punish and control back, meaning the counterwill. The teaching then was that whatever you put into your child is what you receive, meaning if you put punishment into the child, you get punished by your child.

Ancient Jewish culture was an attachment parenting society, meaning closeness was near constant with mothers and sometimes fathers to varying distances, with co-sleeping being the norm among families. Whippings as documented in Proverbs and Hebrews were poetic references to judicial corporal punishment under the Mosaic Law, which only was administered to adults on death row, not young children who "talk back". Minor children, meaning under the age of majority, were exempt from all prosecution in any case, thus punishing a child at all was completely illegal then. God lifted up those child abuse standards today, which all ancient societies had, to today's context using the New Testament as a vehicle of religious change.

Churches like the parish in Colossae served many Greek converts. Greco-Roman society condoned the physical punishment of children, as part of the Roman legal doctrine of patrias potestas meaning a man has the right to control his family, whereas, in the Hebraic context, fathers/husbands provided for their families. In this verse and one written to the parish at Ephesus (Eph. 6:1-4) had problems with Greek converts abusing their children. Such churches based their ordinances on Jewish law, with Jews having to keep all three 613 statements of the Law, whereas Christians only had to go by the spirit of the Law, meaning loving God and your neighbor, and loving God through loving your neighbor, with the rest detailed by the New Testaments. Children were the neighbor of adults then, and punishing your neighbor was an offense against your neighbor without valid proof of guilt in court - which children could not provide, due to defense of infancy - therefore punishing a child is immoral and illegal, as the New Testament applies word for word today, whereas the Old Testament is for reference, as the Early Church was seen then as keeping the Law, but with gentiles only having to adhere to every one of the Ten Commandments but the Third. Apart from that, the same offenses did exist from the Old Testament in the Early Church, including fits of anger towards a child and fornication. 

The entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through child abuse will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn! Let them suffer! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Christian family values - and why they actually prohibit the punishment of children

Many parents spank and/or punish their children, and cite the Bible as an excuse for their acts of abuse against their child. 94% of parents physically batter their children as punishment, in a manner lawful under the secular law. However, God's Law prohibits corporal punishment and punishment of any kind imposed on or perceived by children.

America is a Christian country, founded on Christian family values, with these values including non-entitlement and non-violence, meaning controlling anyone other than yourself is not a family value. God chose Israel and sent His Son, Jesus Christ, to spread His Word and proselytize His word to the whole world. Israel prohibited spanking and corporal punishment in the Law, and prohibited it in modern times in 2000. 

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the care, support, and protection of parents, being able to tell parents anything and be one's true self in relation to them, owing nothing in return, but trusting and caring about parents nonetheless. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stir up" or "exasperate", and is one of the Greek words referring to the offenses attached to the Eighth Commandment, meaning damages and torts instated under the Mosaic Law, summed up implicitly under Jewish law as the slightest of personal slights perceived by the child. This included corporal punishment. The Apostle Paul was convicting Greco-Roman fathers in the Colossian church concerning their habit to spank their daughters to enforce to chastity and whip sons who simply disobeyed parents, under the doctrine of patrias potestas. No such doctrine existed under Jewish law, as only judicial corporal punishment of adults existed in the Old Testament, and only as a last warning when an adult son was convicted of a capital offense. Some offenses were enforced rarely, and others not at all. The most enforced capital offense was false prophesy, as the Israelites then put to death more false prophets than they did concerning any other criminal offense. A child was never punished for anything, in both the Old and New Testaments, due to the age of infancy defense. 

Parenting in ancient Hebrew culture was attachment-based, meaning children were very close to mothers in particular, either being held and cuddled next to her, or ranging beside her, until puberty, when they simply shook off the closeness of their parents, not needing it anymore. Punishment was not the norm then, with parents instead imposing the admonition of the Lord through God's Loving Reproof, meaning gentle but firm warning and reproof that certain behavior is not acceptable or appropriate, but leaving a lot go due to immaturity and cognitive inability based on that to follow adult expectations.

Punishment of children is legal in all 50 states, with some states having stronger laws than others. Here in Pennsylvania, physically punishing a child under age 1 is illegal under the civil laws. However, spanking is already banned under divine law, as America is a Christian nation. We don't have a state church, but we recognize certain Christian norms, and others we haven't awoken to yet, still forming our identity as a country. Gentle parenting is a Christian norm that is commanded by God in the Bible, with refusal to be a gentle parent being a mortal sin. We need some norm in parenting. Parenting isn't a free for all. Parents aren't above the law, and the law, for most people in most professions, prohibits striking those who you serve. Why not in parenting?

Let the pro-spanking parents burn! Let them suffer in the lake of fire and brimstone! Let them burn and rot! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Religious entitlement in parents - Understanding the divine statutes on passing down the faith

Most children in the United States are raised in some religion. I wasn't one of them, meaning I was once a toxic agnostic. I was instead punished in the name of "power to the parent" secular political theodicies, meaning I hate parental rights, and hate emphasizing their rights, shutting those entitlement programs such as "reasonable chastisement" down. Some parents don't force religion on children, but invite their children to their Church, and that is how you do things, but without punishment.

Religious entitlement isn't having any religious need, contrary to some anti-Christian atheist SJWs say. It is forcing your religious reality onto others in an entitled manner. It says in Exodus 20:17 KJV:

Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house. Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour's.

The Hebrew word translated "covet" is למחוד (Latin: lachmod) and refers, in the course of religious instruction, meaning antisocial application thereof, wanting a child to hold the same beliefs as you to the point of seeking to impose said belief or belief system onto them, leading to theft/abuse. Abuse is further defined in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye father, provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to the chastening of the Lord, meaning the parent controlling and disciplining themselves in an exemplary way, punishing themselves for trespasses against their child, and rewarding themselves for progress, centering themselves in relation to their child in a way that a child comes to listen and heed religious instruction willingly and eagerly, with such instruction based on the Socratic method. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the admonition of the Lord, which refers to setting limits and boundaries, perhaps with the word "no" or else its various variants. This is all weighed out by the Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath", which is παροργιζο (Latin: parorgizo) and is one of the Greek words in the New Testament that refer to the offenses, meaning damages and torts under the Law, which were summed up in the New Testament as the slightest of personal slights perceived by a child, stemming from any kind of entitlement, including religious entitlement. This means that if a child is punished in any way in the name of religion, or else the religion is imposed on them in any way, it is the moral crime of entitlement leading to theft, colored as blasphemy. Whatever religious teaching the child perceives as offensive objectively is, in which case parents should hold off on the religious instruction. By the letter of the law, stubborn and rebellious sons could be executed or punished (by excommunication under Early Christian church ordinance), but parenting custom in that culture expected parents not to press charges, and offenses against parents were the most stigmatized of cases, meaning each and every one of them recanted. Most parents simply saw their son as a prodigal son who they just said prayers for, and hoped he'd come back, knowing he probably never would and accepted reality.

The idea is to teach children religion in the form of pro-social invite, meaning invite them to your church, while practicing your denominational beliefs around them, within eyesight and earshot, occasionally "nudging" them in the right way when they misbehave, leaving other behaviors go due to immaturity. Simply stating "no" and setting limits is what is understood, in context, as the admonition of the Lord. Under God's Loving Reproof is when you give them a choice to obey God or deny His Word and Law, knowing that if you are a good, loving parent like you might like to think you are, they will follow you because they trust and care about you, seeing you as a friend and ally, thus winning them over from being their enemy by default as a convicted adult. His Loving Reproof should be rare, as either children should be centered in relation to parents by the listening and validation of parents, or else the behavior is deemed developmentally appropriate, and thus the child won't understand why it is wrong due to cognitive immaturity. Thus, God's Loving Supervision can keep them safe.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them suffer in the lake of fire and burning sulfur prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Avoiding expectations: Why parents should say "please" and "thank you" when asking children to do things

 Many parents expect things from children, in a top-down fashion, enforcing such expectations with punishment and control. Expectations imposed upon a child are sin, as imposition is the root understanding of entitlement.

The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers not merely to wanting things from children, but wanting things to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child. This refers to wanting your child to do anything for you, or be anything for you, without their informed consent. When the entitlement impacts the child, it becomes abuse. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stir up" and is one of the words referencing the offenses in the Bible, which are summed up in the New Testament the slightest of personal slights perceived by a child through entitlement. Entitlement is imposed want onto the child, and once the child finds the imposed want to be alarming, threatening, or annoying, it becomes abuse, and every step and intent before that is tarred as abuse and sin. The Apostle Paul here was referring to the fact that when you disrespect your child, they mirror that disrespect to you. The Apostle Paul was anti-spanking, as was the tradition of his Jewish faith. Parenting then was attachment-based, where parents did not have expectations towards their child, meaning expecting a child to do something "or else". Children did have limitations then, meaning the occasional word "no", but any punishment then was only legal in a judicial setting, and only towards legal adults, and corporal punishment only existed as judicial corporal punishment, and only in the Old Testament context. Parenting was about secure attachment, with the Greek root word translated "obey" being υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and is the secure rest of children in the care, support, and protection of parents, owing absolutely nothing in return to parents.

How does a parent even set limits without entitlement towards children? Ask nicely and politely for your child to do something for you, saying "please" first, then "thank you" later. This is called using your manners, and it's just polite to do for your child. Don't scream orders towards your child, and then throw an anger fit when they don't listen. Be polite, keep your hands to yourself. The word "please" signifies that you are stooping to a level below the child in terms of non-entitlement, and your physical stance with a young child should reflect this. Scolding a child while above them alone is frightening to small children.

The depraved and entitled parents and adults will not inherit the Kingdom of God! They will suffer the second death for all eternity in the lake of fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices. You don't go to Hell unless you work for the devil. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

My trauma from lawful corporal punishment

The word lawful. Whenever attaching it to a form of abuse, you get a lot of misunderstanding reactions. Even in a community like this, you have many people who claim to have "more trauma than you". Lawful trauma is a real trauma. I was punished in a way that was explicitly excused by the Crimes Code of the Commonwealth of Pennsylvania. It is parental rights trauma, meaning I hate that they even have special rights in this country, which children have no rights whatsoever. I tend to take the side of a child when witnessing abuse in a store or other public venue.

Many peacekeepers in children's rights movements like ours, and abroad in parental rights movements, blame a gentle parenting mother for pro-social assaults, blaming a remorseful, otherwise well-meaning parent. Many of them feign a trauma for attention, just to shock others, and it's a joke to them. True lawful trauma, as it's nomenclature implies, is a legal trauma, by omission of law and not commission of law...That was the worst part of the abuse - the law was on my the side of my collective abuser, meaning all parents, meaning all parents, meaning all parents, meaning all who identify by entitlement or abuse by a glorified title.

It all started when I was around 2 or 3, and involved a spanking "out of love", as the pro-spanking doctors recommended. My father would take a deep breath while I was in my room, and then he'd come up to my room and spank me, usually on a clothed bottom. It felt wrong, like I had some legal recourse or something. I loved laws and rules from the very beginning. My mother (who opposed my father's choice to spank) would take me to the Exeter Community Park, and I would read the rules and enforce them on my mother. Based on that and my early ability to read (hyperlexia), I thought something was wrong with my abuse, and I wanted justice, and I wanted vengeance. I knew enough about the law by elementary school that hitting was against the law, so why would the law excuse my parents? 

As I immersed myself in legal study, I was trying to find ways to entrap and/or get my parents arrested. It was a traumatic daydream, where I would see my father, or some other pro-spanking parent roughed up by the cops, slammed on sidewalks and patrol car hoods. Then I explored courtroom settings. We are talking about posttraumatic play at this point, meaning I was acting out a "just world" version of my trauma, being in a professional bystander position, usually caseworkers or cops. "Just world" means a fantasy world to dissociate from my abuse, and punish parents. From the outside, it looked much like cops and robbers, except it was solitary play with imaginary friends, and I was in my mid teens.

My trauma is exposed and was always exposed pretty much for one reason - I am a pedophile, and the traumatic type. I think trauma is fun in relation to my abuser, meaning I actually take sadistic pleasure in chomping into my abuser, getting them to spill their guts, perhaps humbling them down to the trauma level. I f*cking hate parents at every level, except those that imply their goodness instead of insist it while their spit lands in your face. Ban them all! Destroy them all! Kill them all! What about the children? We haven't thought that far, but that's why God no longer endorses a death penalty for parents. My trauma these days is an angry, suppressed trauma. In the past, it was anxious in an addictive way, were I was actually attracted to thoughts that wondered "what to those parents do to their children behind closed doors". My attitude was emphasized as "every home has its secrets", and I still believe that, but in a more calm manner.

I am calm only because of a maximum dosage of anti-anxiety medication, but still, the anger exists. I stopped getting sad and anxious about it, and got mad about it. That's what a blog is for - to document trauma, directly and indirectly, with my trauma being the backbone of this blog. Pedophilia is an integral aspect of my trauma, as it shaped how my trauma formed. Most trauma from child abuse is repressed, and involves "reclaiming your inner child". A pedophile has been there, done that, and it was perceived as a war-zone, not a mere "power struggle". Children like I was were foaming at the mouth victims, or so it felt. Was I crazy for feeling trauma? Was I going insane for naming my trauma? I wanted to believe I had to trauma, so I knew something was wrong, because I just knew I was being abused, like a sixth sense. Coming here around 2016 taught me a lot about my trauma, and experiencing police/children's rights gaslighting gave me medical facts inserted from CAMH to help me better understand my pedophilia. I have matured into having a medical/legal personality, meaning I listen like a therapist first, but if you don't want help, goodbye, I can't help you. That's how I treat law as a Christian conservative.

Today, religion grounds my otherwise rebellious trauma. I'm not always a crusader-type about children's rights, and am usually quiet and reticent as a person. The problem with being the crusader type all the time is that when you start demanding change, you end up yearning for it. Why not accept Jesus Christ, and that He already banned your abuse? He did, in fact. Assault and battery were torts under the Mosaic Law, as repeated in the New Testament context throughout, including the Early Church. Col. 3:21 is perhaps my favorite verse, that tells me that corporal punishment is banned already, as the Bible is America's book, and such objective morality supersedes the law of the land. Thus, there is justice for me - and in my case I am fortunate enough that it happened on earth, by the conversion of my abusive father to gentle parenting...I am still a crusader for children at the core, but it is suppressed, meaning in a pocket where I sling it onto my opponent, terrorizing them or perhaps convicting them if lucky.

Lawful trauma is just as harmful as child sexual abuse. Parental rights trauma is the deepest of all traumas. It is the most common, but least identified trauma marker. The core of a parental rights trauma is the word "parental rights", meaning you can always say something else. Custody rights? Call it "custody rights", "mother's rights", or "father's rights". Disciplinary rights? Doesn't exist apart from non-existent criminal defenses for abusive parents. But, just leave up that jargon word, and I'll be judge and jury as to your motive, you fucken spoog and speck (in the case that you spank or punish children like I was, or abuse them otherwise). I am a survivor of parental rights abuse, meaning my parents and other adults in my childhood life used their glorified titles against me to keep me down, and oppressed at the jackboot of parent and adult hegemony and tyranny. Parents think they rule the world. They don't. Parents these days are so entitled, being the snowflakes that they are, being all butthurt and offended by a child telling them things they don't want to hear...I am not insane for believing children should be treated with respect, so respect my parenting values and religious liberty to espouse them to others.